What It's Like to Have a Japanese Wife | Foreign Husband's Perspective
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- I interviewed my foreign friends, a Singaporean comedian, and an American worker in Japan. They both have Japanese wives. I asked many questions and they answered honestly. So after watching this video, you'll know a lot about Japanese wives.
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Our great Philosophy Master Socrates said this ; “ If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.!”
Ηey you and Master Sok nailed it
Lmaoo
Bro
Omg... That ACTUALLY seems true more than a joke.
He said ugly wife not bad wife.
Q: What type of food causes a woman to lose her sex drive?
A: Wedding cake.
One of my favorite jokes.
😂😂😂
IN this case, 'loose' and 'lose' can both be correct but it makes a world of difference.
big mom : WEDDING KHEKI
Wedding cake is the fat grenade pin in any relationship.
Honest question,
If you don't need a visa, are financially secure, you children would still go to the wife in case of a divorce,
Is there any actual reason to get married??
I'm lucky enough to have been married to a Japanese woman for sixteen years (Yes, I mean that.). I'm just going to throw this out there, based on my own experiences and observations: As a foreigner, you might have an idea of what a traditional Japanese wife is like. You've watched the dramas. You've read the books. Maybe, you've even been to the home of a married Japanese coworker. The fact is, if your wife is Japanese, and is willing to be married to a foreigner...she is not going to act like a traditional Japanese wife. The fact that she is willing to marry you means that she wants something different than the traditional Japanese wife. Get that image of your beautiful wife waiting at the door for you with your slippers and a beer out of your head. Avoid those expectations, and your life will be bliss.
Knowing both sides, I find it utterly hilarious. Foreign guys want Japanese wives thinking they are traditional and subservient, all the while Japanese women that want to marry foreigners want the "lady first" experience and think that the husband will treat them like princesses, unlike their Japanese counterparts. Both sides going in expecting to be served on is funny af.
@@sunahamanagai9039 Clearly neither side is ready to get married! Oops.
Are you one of those guys whose Japanese wife only puts out once every year?
Very true! The reason they marry a foreigner is because they do not want to be like a Japanese woman kow- towing to their men!On your part,do not expect the Japanese wife to behave like a Western woman!They keep their own friends and you keep yours!Do not expect her to be at every party you go to!They may not be so conversant in your language and find it boring when you speak in a language she does not understand! I have been married 50 years and know what it is like!
Really? This is not the case for Thai and chinese, ofc they want to work but they are still super feminime and take good care of you. I wont date Japanese then, I refuse to have a bad bitch in my house ever again. The whole point of going abroad is gone if she aint traditional, Might as well do it in US then. Most japanese wife`s looks to lose attraction when they get married, its the same shit here. I aint busting my balls off if I wont even be pleased. Thats a bad deal
I say, “I have no problem staying alone in a room with a woman for an extended period of time and nothing happening because I have twelve years of experience sleeping in the same room as my wife and nothing happening.’
That’s kind of a joke.
The "kind of" hits hard XD
"Don't get married" that's actually a pretty intelligent advice considering today's scenario (alimony, child support, child custody, lesser effort from the OP after marriage).
Pre Nup
@@saltymonke3682 Pre nuptials don't work.
To me there seems to be a malicious undertone to the way men are viewed by women in general terms?
I don't think it is particularly subtle either.
Or perhaps it is that it has become less subtle?
To be fair though I think the way men view each other is also somewhat malicious?
is there alimony in J?!?
That's very stupid advice
you know marriage is tough when a guy says: "because i make stupid decisions, i proposed to her after 2 weeks" hahaha
her girl says: don't be sad dear...you are not alone, it takes two tango...
I only knew my wife for 2 weeks before I asked her to Merry me, but we were in the Navy together
And I've been married to her for almost 30 years
it's been 25 years for us. Basically a friend hooked us up (here in Canada), it clicked. I proposed to her right away but she told me to cool off a bit, we did end up marrying after 2 years dating.
It was never a goal to have a Japanese wife, it just happened, but I've really come to appreciate Japanese culture and way of thinking. Definitely a bit of a cultural difference over displays of affection, the love is there, 25 years is proof of that, but not always in a way that is fulfilling to a Canadian who might be used to more physical affection. Not a big deal though. I can't say there are any huge differences culturally for the most part. We are just 2 people with similar values at the end of the day who care for each other and our kids very much. She's my best friend. We've been through a lot but she's always been there for me. Not for cuddles mind you, but there :P
I'm stupid, I married already three times in my life. First marriage with an English woman (lasted less than a year), second with a Brazilian (23 years, but wanted to run away from her after 5 years) and now with a Thai wife (we are 10 years together), the best years so far. Before I met my Thai wife I dreamed about a Japanese wife and nearly dated a Japanese collegue... but even though I love to be in Japan, I didn't see me living there... I'm retired living in Thailand now and enjoy it very much. Hope to bring my wife to Japan soon for a holiday.
You're still lucky bro, at least you did something.
I don't think I'd ever get to have sex.. lmao
@@makisekurisu4674 you will. Just be relax and go to partys
can you explain what the thai wife is like
You sound like ross on friends bro, marriage guy xD
Glad that you finally found your comfort place
The brazilian girls thinks they are the most beautiful creatures of nature.
I have been married to a Japanese woman for 14 years now. My observations run in both directions:
- Spend time together before getting married doing something that's out of the comfort zone for both of you. Going camping in cold, wet weather would be ideal, because such a situation brings up all sorts of things that tend to stay hidden for a while, such as:
* how does your partner cope with discomfort?
* are they proactive in fixing problems, or do they expect you to take the lead?
* do they complain or sulk about hardship, or do they make the best of it?
* what do you both find to talk about if you are stuck in a tent for hours?
* can you spend time together alone peacefully, or does one of you always need attention?
- Check carefully for class clues, because they are going to crop up as issues no matter which culture either of you marries into.
* Does your partner know how to cope in social situations beyond the one they have grown up with?
* Can they make conversation and build relationships with your family/friends/colleagues/strangers, or do they hide in a corner?
* Do they understand which clothes are appropriate for which occasion (i.e. do they take high heels when camping, or only buy clothes from Uniqlo because they have never been anywhere more expensive?
* Do they understand your culture's version of hospitality may differ; that non-Japanese people may enjoy having friends over to visit? Do they make an effort to welcome your friends, or disappear?
- How independent do you expect your partner to be?
* Check what they do with their spare time, because whatever it is, that's what you can expect them to do once you are married. If they have hobbies, that can be a good thing, because it will give them something familiar to do while they are still adjusting to a different culture.
* You may find that your levels of independence are vastly different; in some cultures, everything is done in groups where the elders teach the newcomers, while in others, the expectation is that you will find ways to work things out on your own, and will ask for help when required.
*How adventurous they are in other things may well reflect how they are in the bedroom, too.
- Are they curious, and proactive at learning new things?
* This aspect will impact your relationship more heavily than almost anything else. Curious people grow, learn, and improve over time. People who aren't will stagnate.
* If your partner expects you to lead the way all the time, it can be exhausting, especially if it's just an attitude thing that doing so is "your role" in their head.
* Having a proactive partner will help the relationship, because after a while, you will have each other's backs. Not having that will lead to resentment as one partner carries a heavy load.
* A mentally lazy partner will hold you back financially and socially. Working at a minimum wage job when you first meet is nothing to be ashamed of. Working at the same job a decade later because your partner refuses to study, or to try something else, is a waste of everyone's time.
- Can your partner reflect upon their behaviour, and improve as a person over time?
* You need to learn to argue/fight well with each other. Retreating into sulking, or pretending that last night's issue is over, if you haven't talked it through properly, is corrosive, as the underlying issues are still there.
* How does your partner view age - is it a positive thing, or do they try to defy gravity, and pretend it's not happening? What is their self-esteem based upon when their looks inevitably fade?
thanks!
having a japanese wife means a sexless marriage. You are basically her ATM machine. Better to be single and bang chicks all over the world without being attached
You are a wise man sir
Too much work.
That's a lot to keep in mind! Thanks Ant-man!
Don't get married, stay single and play with your own bannana
@T: agreed. Practice safe sex.
Marriage is what you both make out of it. You must talk about everything before you get married, money, sex, kids, etc. or she will own you. And that's basically most cultures, you cannot blame just the Japanese women, because i know there are many, many good Japanese ladies.
Damn right...
You know many good Japanese ladies? Who dont you introduced me one.... having a Japanese ladies as GF souns kinda great😂
Shell just smile and agree then do what she wants
@@nikitaw1982 This is true more often than not. Agreement gets her foot in the door. After marrying, she then follows the way she was raised. In addition, Japanese women, in general, are not eager to talk about sex.
Can't do that with Japanese women.
these dudes got balls to do this on youtube lol..... imagine the wives seeing this xD
Now they dont have balls snip snip
This was so funny but true! The experience of having lived together in both countries really has helped our marriage. I can say my life living in Japan has its ups and downs, but my wife and kids make being here pretty chill and relaxed. Now having kids....wow. Having kids in Japan has been eye opening. My wife puts in the work and then some. Mothers here have to grind like it's a full time j-o-b. The amount of paper that comes into my home every week from school is astounding. And the crazy part is: each piece is important enough that you've got to read it all. Thanks for the videos and do keep them coming!
"All women are the daughters of the same mother."
This says a lot haha
I don't get it
"I have a mental illness. It was not because of over work, it was because my wife banned me from going drinking after work."
It is not a joke friend. 🤣 All wives want their husband to stay home.
Hahaha! Yes! It's true story!!
A wolf that never leaves the den will chew its own leg off due insatiable desire. Stay at home is path to living alone
i drink beer with my wife at home my drinking buddy...happy wife happy life!
For me as an introvert that's perfect👌
Unless the husbands actually have to stay at home. And then you get covid-divorces...........
When I was single I had a Japanese girlfriend, Junko. She was amazing and the best woman in bed that I ever had known. He husband had died from lung cancer and she came to the US with her daughter for more education. I never met her daughter as she was in the dorm of BU. But this woman was amazing in bed. It was like her whole life was to take care of her man. She always had a wonderful meal for me then the fun began and it went on for hours. We dated for three years and she was always loving and a great bed partner. Sometimes I really miss Junco.
You didn't even keep the spelling of her name consistent... = sounds like a fake story.
Why didn't you marry her?
Good bed partner doesn't always means good life partner.
I'd like to find a good Japanese wife like that except I would marry her. Rural Japanese preferable. Thanks to white American and European racism.
why wouldn't you miss junko? every man dreams of a partner like junko.
The singaporean guy seems like a cool dude to hang out with!
That’s what I said! Lol
If you ever in Saitama let me know, I'd grab a tall one with you. Somewhere cheap though cause my allowance won't allow for anything fancy.
@@hayattshahsg hahaha sure thing!!
Sure he's a very cool dude, but the wife doesn't want you to hangout bro
@@cliffelliott9331 Well, we can always use Zoom. 😂 😂 😂
“Inclusion of toys help a lot”… so I can use my toy cars when riding HEHEHEHE
Hahaha!!
Doge style!
Saddle up!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Married to Vietnamese wife here. We had kids right away. So for 10 of the 11 years were married she slept in another room with the kids. There guys appear joyful compared to me.
Damnnn!!! So, would it help if i tell my gf that i expect a certain amount of action even after having kids?
@@zzzzzzz7029 or at least ask the question I never did. So, after we have kids they're going to sleep in separate rooms and you're still going to sleep with me?
Good luck and I hope for the best.
Wherever she sleeps, after a child it's finished.
@Luan Phan Thank you. Being over 50 and with kids 8 and 10, I'm kinda in no man's land. You know what will happen if I get divorced. I will pay child support for the next ten years. I went into this marriage with my eyes open. I'm left with very unpleasant choices. I will stay for the kids, and slowly aquire camping supplies, rifle, ect. Then one day if things aren't better disappear and live in the mountains by a river. Probably die by some uncureable plant rash or killed by a bear. Sorry for the long reply.
"Tips for sex" - Be desirable to as many women as you can be. A man who is desired by many will always be desired by his wife/gf as well.
truth!
yes
👍👍
Not always true. I used to be surrounded by women. My wife and I would go out and we'd often run into some young woman that I knew. Sometimes it was obvious they were interested in me. I was faithful to my wife, but the relationship deteriorated and eventually she asked for divorce.
@@alukuhito she probably thought eventually you would cheat on her, and she divorced you out of insecurity.
The Singaporian hit the nail on the head at the end. More then just saying don't get married, live in each others country to learn the cultural differences is the best advice. I was married for 15 years and have been hapily divorced for about 12 years. I've had one relationship that lasted about two years but even then I knew it was not going to last.
ya im a half japanese guy, not married but just from an observation or also just an opinion, but it seems after marriage, a lot of women and men just stop “trying”. might sound sexist, but thats one thing im afraid to experience, i think even if you are married, have kids, i think having that intimacy is important. i think it doesnt happen like that in japan because its the cycle. if their parents arent as intimate, so it happens to you as well once you settle down, that seems to be what happens in japan. im not saying this is exactly what happens but seems to every couple are intimate before marriage but once they have kids, the husband hardly comes home due to over work or also not being paid attention to by the wife, so if he is lucky enough they have an affair, women do the same too if the husbands are hardly home. in western culture, i see married couples, touching, holding hands, but with a lot of eastern couples, it stops or doesn’t happen much. they act like its only for when you are young to be lovey dovey when it honestly shouldnt matter. every once in awhile i see older husband and wives holding hands, and i think its cute seeing that
Thanks for the great comment.
Yes, For east people it's difficult to stay in couple after having kids, usually we become family. (so sex)
WEsterns? Believe me western womens has no a little essense of loving. For example on your story if western women has problem with wife about the sex, tahat western women will divorce him immediatelly without thinking about their marriage. Western womens takes husband to judment because her husband didnt use condom during the sex. Can you imagine what kind of mentality they have in their marriage. Still japanese girls thousand time better than western girls.(I am a western guy and I have a japanese wife)
@@blabla-kk8bl congratulations on having a japanese wife. you win. have a cookie.
@@blabla-kk8bl Exactly, western women are done for. I`ve dated quite a few asians these last years and I am never going back ever maybe Ukraine or Russia but the rest of the west hell no, never been with Japanese but thai and chinese are like dating angels compared to the west, its not even close. It takes me months to really feel a women and if i want her but with Thais and chinese it barely took some days, You get attracted instantly because of the good values they have. They really have figured out exactly what men want
" I thinks it's the visa, bro" lmao
Thanks!
I died on this one
Just got extended for 3 more years playa! No questions asked too. Ah boom!
When he said "some times you feel bad for wanting to ask", i felt that
A lot of this is down to Japanese work culture. If the man has time to help out, sex is more plentiful
Another funny video 😂
I was dating a half japanese girl when I was living in Venezuela, and she told me how her Japanese father became more open and outgoing. Her mom is tough, but also very caring.
I saw a comment from a guy who moved with his Japanese wife to the US, and told how she changed some of her dynamics.
The guy is totally right about the intercultural contact.
You made me like a crazy guy laughing in front of a computer with your "draining joke"! NIce one!
Thanks!
I'm smiling thru the whole video! I used to spend a lot of time in Japan and had a Japanese girlfriend so, this brought back a lot of memories. Already, when we started getting serious, I could see a change so, that's when I wised up and said "no" to having a Japanese wife. Thanks for this fun reminiscence.
Providing for a family is great but at the expense of having any of your own needs fulfilled? Becomine a servile drone? I can't think of anything worse. Humility is fine but accepting a life where you just give and get nothing back - even appreciation - isn't worth living. This video has honestly changed my outlook on Japanese married men using prostitutes. Ability to provide for a family is biologically attractive, obviously, but surely so is self-respect. It sounds like I'm joking but this video has been the biggest perspective shift I've ever had from watching any presentation on any culture.
arigato!
Strongly agree with this comment. If you can't atleast get appreciation getting married is not worth it.
Good one, not only jokes but also insightful advice. Just live your life
Thanks!
Please write your comment!!!
Great job. I wish to learn more about Japan and Japanese
Thanks!
My Japanese ex-girlfriend broke up with me saying that I have no future, also. I was a scientist gainfully employed, then. Now, I am a multi-millionare. So much for futune telling.
Once a week after 9 years is pretty good
I don't agree but i suppose its better then once a year
@@shakkkk100 : you won that round. I considered myself lucky if I got it once a month.
@@deepsleep7822 Dam dude with my past FWB we had sex 4times a week
minimum
I’m envious!
They are very honest on this interviews, I give them two thumbs👍
If you live in a Materialistic environment you will get a wife that represent the Environment...best thing to do go to the Country side...try to find a woman that is Humble that will take care of you and you in return..more about living...than money.
True
So don’t get married in the West?
@@intermilan9731 find a wife from a socialist country bam! jackpot.
When you marry your GF never stop dating her. The same amount of effort you made when she was your GF should be same when you marry her.
Where do you live, Fantasyland?
That has to come from 2 sides. If one side stops reciprocating, call it quits.
@@bretwein3793 lol, that's not fantasy effort is everything.
My father is still the same how he treat my mother when we were small up to now he put efforts still to my mom while doing what is a responsible head of the family.
Effort and consistency is a must if you want a relationship or marriage that will last for a lifetime.
@@firstLast-jw7bm then, why would you marry a girl if you want to give her less?.
Don't get a girl/woman if you're only good at the start and will treat her less as time goes by.
@@firstLast-jw7bm She's not putting out because he's not putting in the effort
my biggest issue with my japanes gf is that some discussions are always ambiguous and not as straightforward as with women where i live. There's too much of a guessing game going on and it complicates things unneccessarily.
I can see their international marriages through this video! This video is amazing!!
Thanks!
Nice video. But what I felt from my experience on seeing friends here is that the Japanese partner doesn't like to confront an issue and talk it out to find a solution. They just wait it out or just don't mind it. It's deep rooted from their culture to avoid unpleasant situation. I feel that any problem between a couple should be solved with a one on one unpleasant talk. But one can never expect this from a Japanese partner. However, there might be outliers to this broad generalization.
Thanks! I like your analysis!!
This not only Japan, dated quite a few thai and chinese and they are exactly the same. Its quite frustrating for me since i`m a problem solver so it infuriates me to no end, The same if you ask them what they want, You literally have to ask her 10times before you get an answer
Would have asked them about the fear of their wives leaving them and running to Japan at a moment's notice and the Japanese government siding with the wives always and preventing you from seeing your child.
I find Asian women to be gorgeous. I have been with mine for 24 years. We still laugh together and spend all our time together.
"R Kelly" ? Ahaha
"Once you go asian...you cannot go back with caucasian" 🤣
@@absurdnerd7624 absurd you are hilarious but it's true.
@@absurdnerd7624 l know l won't be lol.
@@absurdnerd7624 definitely
I started drinking more cause nobody paid attention to me good to see that happens all over the world lol
Question-1
9 years
Question -2
JapanCupid while in Japan, didn’t care for the Club/Bar life.
Question-3
Japanese women felt more feminine to me than Americans. Obviously that’s not a universal standard, but from my experiences they are very girly and genuinely appreciate and admire gentlemen acts. Like holding doors for example. The dynamics of male/female interactions have changed radically in America and those acts are becoming more a sign of weakness and un attractiveness.
Question - 4
Initially, 2-3 times a day. 2 children later, it needs to be scheduled and planned. I’d say if I was adamant about it I could manage once a week maybe twice if I’m lucky. I generally save the suggestion till safe day for unrestrained activities lol.
Bonus Question-
Use your imagination, don’t feel so ashamed of what excites you. If you wanna pretend your pregnant wife is your concubine and your the king of a Shiro tasked with pleasing her as part of your king duties, go for it.
Question -5
Many times, but as mentioned it would always blow over. Weather the storms cause they are unavoidable even in what you think is a perfect relationships there’s always a maelstrom behind those smiles. Everyone’s a package in this world, they will always have things about them that you love and things you’ll hate. It’s up to you to decide what bad you’re willing to tolerate for the good they bring.
Question -6
I would say research the culture from a variety of sources first. And understand that if something they get angry about or frustrated with you about comes from totally different views of the world. Always try to show empathy and pay attention to if she can do the same. With the culture difference there’s bound to be misunderstandings. I recommend establishing a open communication agreement. Blunt true feelings as the issues arise.
There is always an element of truth to jokes.
Nono
The best jokes are made out of 100% truth material
“Inclusion of toys help a lot”
I can now play my pokemon figures on her back
My wife used to squeeze my toy now she just lays on the floor and sleeps. No more toy squeezing!!
Funny story! Thanks!
You don't have to stop trying. I'm 42, been with my wife for 12 years and we still do it 4-5 times a week.
Nice
Ahhh the jealousy, senpai!! Wish a quick tip could fix that .
She is goddess. Great women
The important question… do you have kids? And the follow up… does your wife work full-time?
@@jmbickham 2 kids and yes, she works full time.
I think this has nothing to do with nationality and culture. Things are not always the same, from girlfriend and boyfriend to tying the knot and having children. Stress, age, underlying medical issues, priorities, work, problems, and reduced hormone levels are factors that affect libido. Meaning, this is true to most of the couples regardless of race and ethnicity.
My heart goes out to that singaporean bro getting that cookie only once every 2 or so months.
I can’t live with that.
Love the videos, subscribing right now
thanks!
I'd rather be sexless and single than sexless and married. That's just adding salt to the wound.
@@alukuhito yep literally getting blue balled everyday.
Atleast when you're single you have the option to bang a random girl or go on some degenerate porn binge.
it s a sexless life, sexless country, sexless genetics, it s genetics after all , all Asian share this , not a case they invented all those porn stuff and strange tools and costumes, I know many young who are virgin at 30 and wealthy fathers who have sex like only for kids / super drunk .
When I was a little boy, I told my friends that I was going to marry a Japanese woman(it was because I was watching the kaiju eiga on television that got me interested in Japanese culture). My friends laughed at me and told me that I have to travel to Japan and Japan is a long way away from where I live.
I remember watching NHK news on public television to learn more about Japan.
I have read about some Japanese husbands going to prostitutes to have their fun. The article concluded that the prostitute may have a husband’s body for the moment, but the husband’s heart belongs to the wife.
I am 56. I will turn 57 next month. I have never married. Nor have I had a serious girlfriend (I have always had mostly platonic relationships). It had been lonely at times but my life of solitude was by both circumstance and choice. I have this mantra that I live by you can share it with others.
“Drama-free is the way to be.”
How does that read in Japanese?
Peace
Marrying for the wrong reasons will just spill disaster for both parties. The obsession and fantasizing of marrying of a Japanese lady by foreigners usually stems from Japanese media being aired oversees; manga, animes, films, j-pop, foreigners see the Japanese females as larger than life based on the way they were exposed to Japan via limited ways. So when they end up marrying a Japanese woman, their illusions gets dispelled, reality kicks in and they end up with having life regrets.
Marrying for the male reasons of unlimited sex, turning a tourist visa into an indefinite stay visa, getting a permanent residency, dual citizenship; these are real life practical reasons. But as selfish as they are, but if you are simply driven by these reasons alone then your marriage will eventually will work
one of the best channels that dare to open a topic like this especially Japanese channel
thanks!
All I can say in any culture is; 'Happy wife, happy life!!!!'
Fuck that
I had four girlfriends and the fourth became my wife, we have lived in a few countries, and now in my home country UK. She wanted to leave Japan and she is a much more open person for it. Japanese culture has many downsides for women, my wife couldn't be happier now, I am the one that misses living in Japan!
Great vid Meshida San been married for 9 years and I can agree with a lot of what these gentleman have experienced 😉
Oh! Eric san
Thank you so much!!!!!!
As with many other things reality is nothing like fantasy. Very funny!!! Thanks for posting!!! 🤣😂
thanks!
@@Meshida You're welcome!!! 😊👍
I just spent my day at a mall on the upper side of my county. As I walked around the mall and watched the children's play area in the shopping mall, I see parents....mom is observing but exhausted.....hubby is looking at the kids but looks very drained..... My thoughts on this is you wanted a family.....you GOT IT! now take the responsibility of raising your kid!!!
since I now dont have a reason to go Vegas to attend the auto show, i can go play slots.........and if I win the mega $$$$$$$$$$......Im NOT getting married!!!! I rather go to Vegas brothel to "relax and releif" with safe sex.....at least dont worry about getting a woman pregnant or dating. At least i am not dragging a ball n chain.
What is the difference between a lucky man and an unlucky man?
- The lucky man has an American salary, a Chinese cook, an English house and a japanese wife
- The unlucky man has a Chinese salary, an English cook, a Japanese house and an ......
chinese food is full of oil, I can't stand it at all
@@ywami It depends. I know many chinese dishes without fat/oil.
@Long Le, what you eat on U.S Chinese restaurants are not even Chinese food.
Ramsay says NOOOOOO
And an?? What wife?
Meshida san ~ you are funny man. Your Singaporean friend, he's funny too. I lived in Singapore for a year, great food!
Thanks!
If a Japanese girl is so old fashioned as to treat you like the man of the house after marriage, then her family is likely old fashioned enough as to not approve her marrying a non-Japanese! Seriously though, I see conflict when westerners wanting _their_ notion of a Japanese lifestyle date a Japanese girl who wants a man who fits _her_ stereotype of an American/Brit/Canadian. I live in Hawaii, and there are many Japanese women living here who are married to American men. There's also a large Asian population, moreso than other states, which I think helps the relationships last. Think of being an American in Tokyo as opposed to Aomori-- which city are you likely to find English speakers, instructions, and see familiar faces? Then again, if you _really_ like apples, Aomori-- may not be so bad...
My Japanese wife is very kind and loyal, but assertive and disappears around the house. I do the cooking and and washing, she is great at saving money and that has helped us move forward in buying property. Hey man. I live in Australia Brisbane and your welcome to come and visit one day, i come to Japan every 2 years, lets hang out.
U ARE AWESOME MATE THIS CHANNEL IS SO MUCH UNDERATED
Q: Why do married men die before their wives?
A: Because they WANT to!
If me or my wife said "you're banned from drinking" or "give me all the money to dole out" the other would go "haha fuck off"
7:42 I like the "not get married period with anybody" advice better
hey Meshida san , how are you? , i remember i went to one of your shows in 2017 it was in Asakusa smile bar , nice to see that you have a youtube channel now
thanks! i'm good!hahaha😁
I loved the jokes in the beginning. Most Asian countries are kind of like that XD
Right bro. Pretty similar to Bharat Mata!
Kartik san
Thank you so much!! Yes I agree, This is an Asian woman culture.hahaha
@@dbmdrums1105 That's funny !!
@@Meshida yep
I WAS WITH MY AMERICAN WIFE 16 YRS I NEVER HAD TO ASK IT WAS ALWAYS 4 TIMES A WEEK N WE HAD A KID TO . I LOST HER TO CANCER N ALL I SEE NOW ARE LAZY CHICKS !
100% true don't get married. You don't need the VISA. 😂
I loved your intro bro!
The message was really deeper than what it looks like...
Thanks a lot!!!!!!
Married 30 plus years to a Japanese women. Looked into to trading her in for a new sporty model. But, the used car lot wouldn't do a trade in.
are you f.king swinger.
Loll
You brought too little cash to the deal
It must have been a Corona model and these days you need to get vaccinated to drive one!
I just noticed that you reply to every comment? 😯 That is amazing
Yes! Because I have a lot of free time.
Anyway thanks!
last one was a good one. Met my Japanese girlfriend in Japan and spend some months there together, now we are living in my country, The Netherlands. We have learned alot about the culture and what the people are like in both countries.
Japanese wives don't seem to be different from other countries' hahahaha
Marry for the person, not for the ethnicity. Though the cultures of each ethnicity will play a huge part in all ALL aspects of your lives together. And it's to be expected, it is the basis of their value set.
I agree with the last advice on living in both countries. I think it can go a long way
Communication is key also
I’m married to a Japanese woman. It can come up from time to time.
Part of the deal is dialog. You gotta talk.
I don’t infer things and she often wonders why I don’t….
With the kids she is brutal teaching Japanese.
Difference between Japanese girlfriend vs Japanese wife: For my cousin, before his wife knew English she was , "He seems nice, he's a great guy." Now that she knows and understands English she is, "Fucking asshole. I hate you."
hahaha😁
While I've never had a Japanese wife I've enjoyed the company of a Japanese girlfriend much earlier in my life.
Because she was the daughter of an official at the Japanese embassy she was urbane and cosmopolitan in her ways. She could switch in a second twixt the subservient Asian girl to one that was confident speaking and interacting with white people, one on one. I used to call her my camillion girl which she though only mildly amusing. She shunned dating Asian men preferring more Anglo types instead. Where there is a smorgasbord available choosing only one dish is so stupid. Her words, but I do agree, with neither seeking anything long term with each other. Latter, her father was recalled to Japan prior to another overseas posting and so my friend was gone. No photos-nothing, only memories that show up every once in a while. She must be a granny now.
I've had 2 Japanese wives and 4 kids. Still with the second now, happy in Fukuoka. What I have noticed is the similarities between both of them before and after the kids. Luckily for me I'm older now so not so much worried about the weekly sex thing. Yes, getting the pr is important . Hahaha
Wow Super chat with your friends. Especially your Singaporean friend. Great stuff. 👍
Jesus Meshida that Low Angle shot looks psychotic.
Marriage is a perpetual contract without any need to meet any KPI. There is no Service Level Agreement (aka SLA) in marriage certificate. That means it is totally up to both party involved.
Means that either party can do whatever they want or don't do whatever and the contract will remain valid.
wow, I have watched 2 videos so far, this channel is great :)
Very interesting conversation Thank you Meshida
German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer on marriage :
"Marrying means, to grasp blindfolded into a sack hoping to find an eel out of an assembly of snakes"
"Marrying means to halve one's rights and double one's duties".
Man stay true to their fantasy about how and when to have sex..but majority of woman change after having kids..they tired, stress & etc..for me I will try my best to help my wife do housework to reduce her burden and ask for sex as a payment..but you kind of mentally drained too doing all the house work..In the end less and less sex happening
7:15 I agree with both statements. You should marry a foreigner because you love them and you feel like they are your match, but also, I have visited my wife's country, and will continue to do so, not just vacation for a couple days, the longest stays possible, in non westernized areas.
My word... Glad I already have two kids, one turning 18 this year.
Definitely plan on taking an extended stay in Japan to say the least just to get a feel for the land and culture and stuff more personally instead of just reading about it or learning through anime.
I find Japanese women insanely beautiful but honestly there's so many videos that make it seem like marriage to a japanese woman is super rough or they have these like... *crazy* high expectations or something.
It kinda gives me the impression if you marry a japanese women especially you can kiss any and all dreams and future plans goodbye if you want the relationship to be stable or something.
It's definitely given me a lot to think about.
tell a Japanese wife/gf she is beautiful a million times and she never notices...
call her fat once and she will never forget...because elephants never do! bah dum dah
I'd like a Japanese girlfriend but not a Japanese wife. Finances would be a big war and as I build up my finances I will not just hand them over her to her. She would get an allowance not me. So Japanese girlfriend good. Japanese wife a no go!
I'm very sad that i can only 'like' this video once. Had a fun time laughing through the video!
😂 If I was given a dime for every time I hear about a Westerner asking about Japanese women. I would be rich.
To be fair, their women have gone insane
@@krishollow I understand what you mean. I am living through it, but you don’t think it’s a bit excessive to say the least? 😂
@@krishollow I just don’t think it’s fair for Westerners to assume every Japanese girl/woman is the ideal girl/woman. I am just glad most Japanese people are making videos on the matter, explaining the cons and pros.
My wife says shes 40% American, 60% Japanese. She was raised by a music missionary. I find her to be very outspoken(in a passive agressive way, if that makes sense) her explanation is that her home area is Japanese New Jersey.
Christian Missionaries tend to be bottom of the barrel freaks of their native societies
@@giriprasadkotte9876 my mother in law? Nah she was just a musician. You must be talking about my aunt.
@@307cavalier5
Pretty much all missionaries are
I have Beautiful Chinese wife, 2 hapa teenage boys, been together 20 years. Life is Grand.
Wow great information so much to learn life is not easy lots of luck guys.
The best joke that made me laugh out loud was the finger quotes "These are...""" jokes """!"
the visa thing kills me lol, when im in japan, i often say to my friend who likes to party a lot to be carefull not to get visa "accidentaly" ok wwww
I don't care about how girly, cool, obedient bullshit or whatever a woman is. I only find woman with goals attractive, the woman that can wear the pants depending on the situation. Basically a achiever.
Cinnamontoastken did a great video about what it means to be married and have children, it is great to watch. Having a family is the best thing ever if you find the right partner.
Thank you. You have incels and MGTOW misquoting the guests. I will look up the video you recommended
Basically a narcistic 👌
Yes, very sound advice. Get to know each other as much as possible before getting married. Good advice for everyone in the world. I have not been to Japan yet, but I would like to visit. I learned some Japanese language in high school. Our class was the first Japanese language course in Australia at the time. I was top of the class A+ even though I have Autism. Actually, Japanese language structure makes more sense than English. Our Sensei was from Tokyo and he was my favorite teacher, sometimes he was just like a comedian too! haha. My sister went to Japan a few years ago with her husband and kids for a vacation and they had only great things to say about Japan and the people were very friendly.👍✌