Maaaaannn.. I don't wanna talk stereotype, But as a half n**** 😂, I was married to a chinese woman for eight years, we had two kids, and towards the end of our relationship we really didn't like eachother, but we still had sex everyday.. Every day.. I really can't understand sexless marriages or having sex every week or two weeks.. how can you be sleeping next to someone naked who basically won't say no, and not have sex?! I would expect cheating before believing that two people sleeping almost naked together, won't do it for more than.. two days.. That's just too much.. Come on! I really think a sexless marriage means you married the wrong person..
I married a wonderful Japanese woman 10 years my junior when I was 43 years old. We have been married 15 years now. We live in the US and she did not turn into the typical Japanese wife even though her mother was. I had a good paying IT job and she stayed home to cook and clean. She never wanted to take care of the finances. About 8 years ago she started working full time so we shared the chores and I still took care of the finances. 6 years ago I had a bout with throat cancer and ended up in the hospital for a week because the 2nd round of chemo almost took out my kidneys. During that week she stayed by my side the whole time except for going to eat. I completed my treatment and have been cancer free since but I had to retire early and became a house husband. She still works full time but I still take care of the finances. She only makes sure I save up for trips back to Japan. I'd say I lucked out for sure!
In the USA we have a saying: "when a woman marries a man, she believes he will change and when a man marries a woman, he believes that she will never change - both find out that they were wrong." I used to be married - now I'm happy.
When I got married 20 years ago my husband asked me not to change I asked him the same. After these long years we have changed ... for better, I think. We still like, love and adore each other and we do not avoid sex. The lockdown was like a long honeymoon for us. Aaa ... we are from Europe.
@@rozaogrodowa8686 You and your husband are very lucky people. I have known other people who were happily married and I envy them in the way I envy in the way I envy people who can sing - alas, it's not for me.
@@justinahole336 marriage is a hard work, both sides need to work every day on their relationship, and the most important thing is : they both want , want and want to work on that.
My friend Henri, married a Japanese exchange student 10 years his junior. I saw him at the tennis courts 2 weeks after the ceremony and asked him how things were going. He told me he never dreamed the kind of life he was currently experiencing. I asked how so? He told me his wife woke him each morning with behavior that put a smile on his face. She then got up, cooked breakfast (French style) then laid out his clothes before she went to class. In the evening, when she got home, they'd adjourn to the bedroom for an hour of physical romance. She'd cook dinner, then study until eleven at which time, she'd join him in bed for a good night quickie. Another two weeks went by before I saw Henri again. He looked tired. I chided him for trying to keep up with a younger woman. He just laughed and responded with some macho talk about manhood, blah, blah, blah. Six weeks later he had a heart attack. So much for the perfect Japanese wife...
I knew a guy who married, and he got an allowance. One day he got more money, so he spent it. He didn't keep track of the date and didn't realize it was their anniversary and he was supposed to get her a gift instead of spending it on herself. He got divorced soon after.
Thanks, that was hilarious guys! I love the fact that my man Hyatt proposed to the girl within two weeks. Fast mover! I myself am from Southern Africa and I've been married to my Japanese wife for about 12 years now. We live in England.We have two kids.I'm lucky because she does not give me allowance. I manage all the bills in the house and we have a joint bank account. It's very true that sex goes out of the window once you get married. In fact, after you get married sex becomes something you do just to get pregnant. After the kids arrive, forget about it. I used to be upset about it in the beginning but I soon realised that if I did not sort myself out I was heading for a divorce. So nowadays I just casually remind my wife that on Saturday or Sunday we need to cuddle up :) She needs about 24hrs notice, so I need to make my appointment in plenty of time😁. It's working for me so far. If she is tired I'm Ok with it if she can't keep the appointment. I also understand that I can live without sex, so we are happy.
A lot of these things apply to many Asian women, regardless of the country. Asian women are stronger than western women and do not tolerate weakness, especially in men. Being "a sensitive guy" to women in Asia is a mistake. You must take the masculine role seriously or they will walk all over you.
So... do you give her your salary to manage as she sees fit or you're supposed to prove her you're stronk by telling her to make you a sandwich with the manliest voice you can muster when she bosses you around? :o
@@yuukimasamura5143 What he means is that Asian women don't tolerate the man showing his emotions of weakness, frustration, or confusion and anxiety. Western women accept that you are human and will have these emotions, but Asian women will hold you in contempt for it. I'm speaking from experience.
Everything he said was spot on. I tell you tho, I'm constantly on the edge of divorce with my Japanese wife. I refuse to live a Japanese husband style lifestyle. This is not a brag, it is more grief than it's worth probably. I can't bring myself to do it though. I'd be disgusted with myself.
Your power is in your ability to walk away. You don't need to do it but she has to know that you could. Communicate your boundaries and respect her also.
Yo, you got kids already? If not, then it's way easier. I have kids already, although my wife is Chinese not Japanese. I go through the similar strong wife life though.
I managed to avoid having to go through the giving all your salary and getting an allowance system by setting expectations early. I will give her the same amount that I give myself, but she also gets extra for 生活費(groceries, food), and some more for the baby's expenses (food, toys, education, etc). Incidentally, my baby gets the same amount Hayatt does lol. Yes, Japanese women are crazy strong. I'm typically scared of my wife, so I spend a good amount of my time to help out with housework and with the baby. Lord knows if I don't she will one day crush my 金玉. I will however try the technique of sneaking on my wife for some happy time. But if my 金玉 gets crushed, I blame you guys.
Well, it wasn't like that with my Japanese ex-wife. She started out not liking sex very much, and then got more and more into it, including after we were married. And this went on right up until we split up and moved apart. However, we were together for four years, and we never had kids. Everybody knows that time and children decrease the amount of sex across cultures.
As for the sex thing and "oppressed by wife" things: I think both have to do with being oppressed by the boss. Think about it. Japanese husband is away so much, working long hours. Wife is at home, alone, husband has no energy left. Or is hanging out with the boys God knows where. Her libido tanks for both reasons, esp if she is run ragged taking care of the house and kids. Most salaryman jobs can be literally done from home via the Internet in this day and age; and men working in more blue collar work should strike for shorter hours, esp. if they can get solidarity from overseas unions. But for the former, there is no reason to commute to work anymore. No reason to be in the office, no reason to be out drinking. The goddamn dinosaurs running Japanese companies are the only ones standing in the way of happier marriages. If husband works from home, he is also available to help out around the house and kids. This means wife is no longer lonely and exhausted, and kids get to have their father around more. Productivity increases because not having the boss literally breathing down your neck means more focus on the tasks at hand. Semi-related, the house-husband (in both the US and Japan) must cease to be a punchline; it's perfectly fine for a man to be a homemaker and a woman to be the breadwinner. Some men may even be better suited for such a role, as are some women more suited for the workplace. The former is no less a man, and the latter no less a woman. But again, the goddamn dinosaurs running these companies...
Really good points. I think some semblence of house husbands might be required to better support women in stressful and time poor industries such as nursing, aged care etc. After all if no one is caring for the carers, why are people surprised about the high rates of burnout and turnover (in Australia at least)?
ALL is TRUE! Married for 16 years… Before marriage… we where doing it anytime/everywhere/any style… 1 year and a half in the marriage… Cruela Devil! Now I have 11 years old twins boys and I am waiting for them to be 15 so they can choose to live with me after the divorce… 4 more years to my nightmare…
@@yuukimasamura5143 I remember this road... It will be though on you. But, if you are a Japanese woman, the Government should be in your favor to keep your child/children if you divorce. The mother is the main person to take care of the kids, especially in early infancy. The "man" is just a wallet.😂 Let's fight together! 😉
I wouldn't stereotype japanese women and pigeon-holed them this way. When I first met my wife, she was young, beautiful and attractive and we had a lot of romance when we were dating. But life catches up to you if you are the responsible type. Steady job, marriage and kids. I find myself spending a lot more time with my parents knowing they have but a few good years left. People grow up and then they grow old and that's just life.
Hey bro. Like they say 2D>3D. It's true. 2D are no stress, no drama, no chaos, no nagging & never hits the wall. 3D are stress, drama, chaos, loads of nagging & will eventually hits the wall.
One thing about Japanese women or Japanese natives in general is they are 細かい (komakai) which means being too detail oriented to the point of nitpicking.
In my family, my Dad always handled the finances. I was surprised when a lot of people said the wife handles the finances. I don't know if women ever get formal training in finance. Maybe in home ec, but there's very few home ec or personal finance classes in high school anymore.
This is not something unique about Japanese wive? It is just a dark side of East Asian cultures in general( China, Korea, Japanese). The bullying starts from the time you came in contact with a person to the rest of the time you spend with him or her. If you don't want that, make sure you don't even maintain eye contact with a person, whoever it is. Unlike individualist cultures, there is no clear line between fairness and bullying. Which making every bullying legal as long as you can't repel. So people just bullying each other to compensate for their suffering. It is so often becomes a norm in society can't even change it.
I have always had strong women in my life, the secret of happiness is being a stronger man and tame girls like you would tame a wild horse and reward them for expressing their femininity like you would train your dog. Very simple treats, keep the cake for yourself and don't give her all yourself until she has earnt it 😁
I think serious things like this should be discuss carefully before you enter marriage. For guys, are you really willing to be the one to work and let your wife be a full housewife. You get the money and she raise kids and manage the house. I just noticed (this is based on my parents and what I have observed from other husbands and wives) most guys aren't good with budgeting. Now for women, are you really willing to stay at home and be a full time wife raising kids and managing the house, waiting for your husband's income? Both are making a lot of sacrifices here. In my opinion, both should be working, raise their kids and manage the house. Or course at some point, when the wife gets pregnant and had to breast feed, she really needs to stop from working. But only temporarily. If you sacrifice too much of yourself, in the end you will get bitter and unsatisfied with life and that will affect the people around you. Both should be very honest with theirselves before entering marriage.
I am in my 60's and my wife is Japanese and been married over 37 years. We make love on average at least once a week without any aid from pharmaceuticals. I had assumed that the younger guys with Japanese wives would be making love at least twice as much as me. That young man Hayatt must be understating the quantity of love sessions he is having with his wife otherwise his situation is rather sad.
I think its because of these men are not real men to be honest, many in the comments says the same thing but all of these guys are literally almost scared of their wife. I dont thiink these men understand what attracts a women, You cant be a yes man and expect sex often. As a man you have to take charge, you are supposed to be the steady rock not the women. Being a housewife plus the man in the house of course its gonna be too much for them and make them salty, These men are not doing their job as a man. You cant just go to another country and suddenly become a Chad/Alpha male, They should have worked on their manhood and themselves before getting married
I was trying to see how similar my wife would be to the description you all mentioned but I think my wife (from Okinawa) doesn't really match. Then again Oki and mainland are different in my opinion.I agree on the dating it's always magical in the beginning. The monthly allowance thing doesn't really exist for us. I manage the finances so I pay the bills, savings, all that "cool" financial stuff. Yeah.. after kids, the sex goes down but we try.... As far as Japanese women being strong? I think that will come down to the individual woman and her experiences? Well thanks again for another interesting video Meshida, take care!
It’s more accurate in the Russian women tbh. They don’t say babushka over bogatir meaning babushka > strongman. At least Asian women don’t age as badly lol. It’s like after hitting 60 they instantly become babushka over in Russia.
The Singaporean guy says he doesn't like anime at beginning but all his references in the video were based on anime....Disney, spirited away, kiki ..etc....so I'll take his views on japanese wives with a grain of salt.
Hey Meshida. Excellent videos you make.. How about one on top 10 things (unspoken rules) that Japanese folks would like visiting foreigners follow so we can stop goofing off in public. This would help me avoid more people telling at me over there next time..
こんにちわ，めしだ。私はブラジル人です。日本語の野学生です。Love your enthusiasm and the way you present your content and read all the comments. Marriage is a bad deal for men, in my opinion. 日本の大好きです! 😊
Well, my opinion that if you have nothing to respect you for, you won't be respected. By your Japanese or any other wife. If you let yourself to be just a tool for family income, what can you expect else?
As an American wife who worked outside the home part-time while also raising our daughter and running the household, my advice on how husbands can get more sex is to unload the dishwasher and help with laundry once in awhile. I promise, it works!
Well it could be worse. Apparently there was a joke about Brezhnev in the Soviet union. One person asked Brezhnev once, what do you enjoy more? New Year’s or having sex. Brezhnev replied, of course New Year’s Day because it happens more often.
Your totaly right, when you get love at first sight they like sleeping beauty and perfection, but it's a trap, after a while they became a furious dragon ninja, my ex Japanese girlfriend, was the queen of troubles and make my life impossible for more than 2 years, hopefuly i was not married with her, she have so much high expectation and was a drama queen, so beware, you can probably found a real good person, but most of them are what as you describe .
Hayatt san is certainly one of those healthily masochist men that love and do very well with their oniyome 鬼嫁 (demon wives). Otherwise, he would be too scared to publish the videos like this one.
You know I find this interesting. You say Japanese wives and women are pretty tough independent and run things. The thing is many American men complain about these traits all the time and think asian ladies are more submissive and can be controlled. You say otherwise. 🤔 now, I believe you are right as all of my asian girlfriends are very strong 💪. It is just a shame american women get dragged for doing the same things when women are women the world over.
How did Japanese men let it all get backwards... the words I’m hearing in this video boggle the mind... what are you guys thinking?... if Japanese men don’t “man up” there will be no Japan.
European women are independant. They don't need a man and his salary. They just go to work, earn money by themselves and raise the kids. That's the definition of being strong.
Oh man, i just discovered you but i can't stop watching for a few hours already, this was absolutely delicious! Lived in Japan for 1 month, but wife didn't want to move there. Stolen by a western wife before having the chance to get a jp one haha (p.s. western wives are sometimes strong too, mine is a Valkyrie). Btw 38 here too, sex life is the same hahaha
Damn. Is it the same situation with a Korean woman? Because I'm dating one now with a mind for marriage, and I want to know what I'm getting into potentially.
Japanese wives are very caring, tender and love making love... Experienced it first hand during a stint of 8 months in Osaka and Kyoto... 😉😊 Was loved by a few of them....
Seriously though having sex with someone while they are asleep/unconscious is rape, it's a serious crime and horrible form of abuse. It's not something to joke about, make light of or encourage. It is a serious crime and devastating to the victim. I hope he's just ignorantly joking, and doesn't actually do this to his wife. Should edit that part out or take the video down. Domestic violence isn't entertainment. I seriously hope Hyatt gets some therapy and learns about healthy boundaries/behaviors and stops raping his wife, maybe if he stops abusing her she'll actually start consenting to have sex with him again.
This is why I have a doll. I follow the sage advice of TFM, which is "shut up, fuck off, and I don't care". My operating principles now. Just get a doll.
The problem is that you let your wife follow the Japanese customs related to the allowance, etc. Not a single one of these things is true in my marriage. You just need to be an alpha and take the lead.
It's not that easy. It's common in a few Asian countries but if you were to not follow the allowance... you'd get divorced. I tried to talk men out of giving money to their wives as they mismanaged them and was told they'd get divorced if he stopped.
You guys are Hilarious!!!...I'm curious what the divorce rate is in Japan?...It must be high. No wonder guys around the world don't want to get married!!!...What's in it for men? (Sounds like a nightmare).
Okay just not to be racist towards japanese women, but my asian wife is more or less the same except the allowance part. She tried to do the allowance crap on me - but I firmly said nope. Same power - basically there's a curfew unless work related events. Sexual frequency also the same - not much difference - after children also same happening.
I honestly prefer the reality. It's more interesting than the 2D fantasy, which is both impossible and ultimately undesirable. There's more to Japan than animation and comics, and I love those things.
As i said before Mr meshida If i were to marry a Japanese woman and she uses her full potential strength 💪 and charisma she might cause me a bit of trouble 😅 Meshida: but would you lose though AKA she's your boss now? I would win 🤞
Sadako is a funny one,thanks for great video.Allowance is also interesting one,if you are poor and you dont have allowance,literally you might end up on the street,it is joke hahah.
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Meshida-san, time for some konkatsu, don't you think?
I want one more wife a Japanese ..one
Maaaaannn..
I don't wanna talk stereotype,
But as a half n**** 😂,
I was married to a chinese woman for eight years, we had two kids, and towards the end of our relationship we really didn't like eachother, but we still had sex everyday..
Every day..
I really can't understand sexless marriages or having sex every week or two weeks.. how can you be sleeping next to someone naked who basically won't say no, and not have sex?!
I would expect cheating before believing that two people sleeping almost naked together, won't do it for more than.. two days..
That's just too much..
Come on!
I really think a sexless marriage means you married the wrong person..
I love them but the ones I like Are thick or the sexy ones but idk if they brown men😢
Do they☹️?
I married a wonderful Japanese woman 10 years my junior when I was 43 years old. We have been married 15 years now. We live in the US and she did not turn into the typical Japanese wife even though her mother was. I had a good paying IT job and she stayed home to cook and clean. She never wanted to take care of the finances. About 8 years ago she started working full time so we shared the chores and I still took care of the finances. 6 years ago I had a bout with throat cancer and ended up in the hospital for a week because the 2nd round of chemo almost took out my kidneys. During that week she stayed by my side the whole time except for going to eat. I completed my treatment and have been cancer free since but I had to retire early and became a house husband. She still works full time but I still take care of the finances. She only makes sure I save up for trips back to Japan. I'd say I lucked out for sure!
In the USA we have a saying: "when a woman marries a man, she believes he will change and when a man marries a woman, he believes that she will never change - both find out that they were wrong." I used to be married - now I'm happy.
Here, here🍻
When I got married 20 years ago my husband asked me not to change I asked him the same. After these long years we have changed ... for better, I think. We still like, love and adore each other and we do not avoid sex. The lockdown was like a long honeymoon for us. Aaa ... we are from Europe.
@@rozaogrodowa8686 You and your husband are very lucky people. I have known other people who were happily married and I envy them in the way I envy in the way I envy people who can sing - alas, it's not for me.
@@justinahole336 marriage is a hard work, both sides need to work every day on their relationship, and the most important thing is : they both want , want and want to work on that.
Bottoms up brother 🍻
My friend Henri, married a Japanese exchange student 10 years his junior. I saw him at the tennis courts 2 weeks after the ceremony and asked him how things were going. He told me he never dreamed the kind of life he was currently experiencing. I asked how so? He told me his wife woke him each morning with behavior that put a smile on his face. She then got up, cooked breakfast (French style) then laid out his clothes before she went to class. In the evening, when she got home, they'd adjourn to the bedroom for an hour of physical romance. She'd cook dinner, then study until eleven at which time, she'd join him in bed for a good night quickie. Another two weeks went by before I saw Henri again. He looked tired. I chided him for trying to keep up with a younger woman. He just laughed and responded with some macho talk about manhood, blah, blah, blah. Six weeks later he had a heart attack. So much for the perfect Japanese wife...
Is this for real?
WHAT? Heart attack after 6 weeks? Poor guy.
That was a huge twist.
So did he survive or……?
Oh...
Hyatt was never seen again after his wife saw this video
😂 😂 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀
Rest in peace 😂
@@kaisarnero666 keep it low guys maybe she went full sadako and will appear on our screens
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I knew a guy who married, and he got an allowance. One day he got more money, so he spent it. He didn't keep track of the date and didn't realize it was their anniversary and he was supposed to get her a gift instead of spending it on herself. He got divorced soon after.
Thanks, that was hilarious guys! I love the fact that my man Hyatt proposed to the girl within two weeks. Fast mover!
I myself am from Southern Africa and I've been married to my Japanese wife for about 12 years now. We live in England.We have two kids.I'm lucky because she does not give me allowance. I manage all the bills in the house and we have a joint bank account.
It's very true that sex goes out of the window once you get married. In fact, after you get married sex becomes something you do just to get pregnant. After the kids arrive, forget about it.
I used to be upset about it in the beginning but I soon realised that if I did not sort myself out I was heading for a divorce. So nowadays I just casually remind my wife that on Saturday or Sunday we need to cuddle up :) She needs about 24hrs notice, so I need to make my appointment in plenty of time😁. It's working for me so far. If she is tired I'm Ok with it if she can't keep the appointment. I also understand that I can live without sex, so we are happy.
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A lot of these things apply to many Asian women, regardless of the country. Asian women are stronger than western women and do not tolerate weakness, especially in men. Being "a sensitive guy" to women in Asia is a mistake. You must take the masculine role seriously or they will walk all over you.
So... do you give her your salary to manage as she sees fit or you're supposed to prove her you're stronk by telling her to make you a sandwich with the manliest voice you can muster when she bosses you around? :o
Lol this is false. Western women are way stronger. But they’re also annoying AF too.
@@yuukimasamura5143 its depends on individually.
@@yuukimasamura5143 What he means is that Asian women don't tolerate the man showing his emotions of weakness, frustration, or confusion and anxiety. Western women accept that you are human and will have these emotions, but Asian women will hold you in contempt for it. I'm speaking from experience.
@@selohcin Very true. So you are basically living a life of lies and you cannot be your true self. Bad match. Same experience.
Everything he said was spot on. I tell you tho, I'm constantly on the edge of divorce with my Japanese wife. I refuse to live a Japanese husband style lifestyle. This is not a brag, it is more grief than it's worth probably. I can't bring myself to do it though. I'd be disgusted with myself.
what are they expectations you can't swallow?
Your power is in your ability to walk away. You don't need to do it but she has to know that you could. Communicate your boundaries and respect her also.
Yo, you got kids already? If not, then it's way easier. I have kids already, although my wife is Chinese not Japanese. I go through the similar strong wife life though.
I managed to avoid having to go through the giving all your salary and getting an allowance system by setting expectations early. I will give her the same amount that I give myself, but she also gets extra for 生活費(groceries, food), and some more for the baby's expenses (food, toys, education, etc). Incidentally, my baby gets the same amount Hayatt does lol.
Yes, Japanese women are crazy strong. I'm typically scared of my wife, so I spend a good amount of my time to help out with housework and with the baby. Lord knows if I don't she will one day crush my 金玉. I will however try the technique of sneaking on my wife for some happy time. But if my 金玉 gets crushed, I blame you guys.
What's the meaning of that "jin yu (golden jade)"? 😗 Is it has something to do with your bank savings? Or not? 🤔
@@mirarami1055 "Golden balls" - you can guess which balls it is, right?))
@@fox__fox That's something that the Tanuki being well known to own the big ones itself? 😗🎱🎱🐺
@@mirarami1055 That is ;) But why Alexander calls it 'golden' I have no idea, maybe cos of it's precious for him like a gold :D
@@fox__fox kin tama
Well, it wasn't like that with my Japanese ex-wife. She started out not liking sex very much, and then got more and more into it, including after we were married. And this went on right up until we split up and moved apart. However, we were together for four years, and we never had kids. Everybody knows that time and children decrease the amount of sex across cultures.
As for the sex thing and "oppressed by wife" things: I think both have to do with being oppressed by the boss. Think about it. Japanese husband is away so much, working long hours. Wife is at home, alone, husband has no energy left. Or is hanging out with the boys God knows where. Her libido tanks for both reasons, esp if she is run ragged taking care of the house and kids. Most salaryman jobs can be literally done from home via the Internet in this day and age; and men working in more blue collar work should strike for shorter hours, esp. if they can get solidarity from overseas unions. But for the former, there is no reason to commute to work anymore. No reason to be in the office, no reason to be out drinking.
The goddamn dinosaurs running Japanese companies are the only ones standing in the way of happier marriages. If husband works from home, he is also available to help out around the house and kids. This means wife is no longer lonely and exhausted, and kids get to have their father around more. Productivity increases because not having the boss literally breathing down your neck means more focus on the tasks at hand.
Semi-related, the house-husband (in both the US and Japan) must cease to be a punchline; it's perfectly fine for a man to be a homemaker and a woman to be the breadwinner. Some men may even be better suited for such a role, as are some women more suited for the workplace. The former is no less a man, and the latter no less a woman. But again, the goddamn dinosaurs running these companies...
Well said man. There are so many societal problems that are truly to blame.
@@jamescarson668 it literally doesn't disprove anything.
@@jamescarson668 spare me
Really good points. I think some semblence of house husbands might be required to better support women in stressful and time poor industries such as nursing, aged care etc. After all if no one is caring for the carers, why are people surprised about the high rates of burnout and turnover (in Australia at least)?
This is true . Im married with my japanese wife for 23 years . I can totally relate to this .
This is so entertaining. Meshida, you're gonna be big man!
Was married to a Japanese woman for 17 years...this is all true.
ALL is TRUE!
Married for 16 years…
Before marriage… we where doing it anytime/everywhere/any style…
1 year and a half in the marriage… Cruela Devil!
Now I have 11 years old twins boys and I am waiting for them to be 15 so they can choose to live with me after the divorce…
4 more years to my nightmare…
I’m in the same boat! But I have to wait another 13 years 😂
@@yuukimasamura5143 I remember this road... It will be though on you.
But, if you are a Japanese woman, the Government should be in your favor to keep your child/children if you divorce.
The mother is the main person to take care of the kids, especially in early infancy. The "man" is just a wallet.😂
Let's fight together! 😉
@@metalsiren that’s true but I don’t want to ruin their childhood or do that to my husband. So I’ll wait until they’re older
Oh no! Man i wish you the best
Lesson learned in reality all Japanese waifus is not the same as anime waifus.
its to lure you in
It's called bait and switch.
I wouldn't stereotype japanese women and pigeon-holed them this way. When I first met my wife, she was young, beautiful and attractive and we had a lot of romance when we were dating. But life catches up to you if you are the responsible type. Steady job, marriage and kids. I find myself spending a lot more time with my parents knowing they have but a few good years left. People grow up and then they grow old and that's just life.
My Japanese waifu is 2D, so I don't have this problem ❤️❤️❤️
welcome to the club
Hey bro. Like they say 2D>3D. It's true.
2D are no stress, no drama, no chaos, no nagging & never hits the wall.
3D are stress, drama, chaos, loads of nagging & will eventually hits the wall.
One thing about Japanese women or Japanese natives in general is they are 細かい (komakai) which means being too detail oriented to the point of nitpicking.
That's true and working with people like that is really difficult sometimes.
Komakai
Wife: Im your f**king wife
Hayatt: My wife yes, f**king not much
In my family, my Dad always handled the finances. I was surprised when a lot of people said the wife handles the finances. I don't know if women ever get formal training in finance. Maybe in home ec, but there's very few home ec or personal finance classes in high school anymore.
For someone who is "not into anime," he references it often. Anime is ubiquitous...
Chi Chi and Bulma are perfect examples of Strong Women.
You guys are funny af! What a dark but true jokes! LOL. Hyatt, you are very brave talking about this :D
Japanese Comedian Meshida.
This was really good.
Great job to both of you.
Thank you!
This is not something unique about Japanese wive? It is just a dark side of East Asian cultures in general( China, Korea, Japanese). The bullying starts from the time you came in contact with a person to the rest of the time you spend with him or her. If you don't want that, make sure you don't even maintain eye contact with a person, whoever it is. Unlike individualist cultures, there is no clear line between fairness and bullying. Which making every bullying legal as long as you can't repel. So people just bullying each other to compensate for their suffering. It is so often becomes a norm in society can't even change it.
are you saying expect to be bullied by your asian wife? jesus,, NO
I have always had strong women in my life, the secret of happiness is being a stronger man and tame girls like you would tame a wild horse and reward them for expressing their femininity like you would train your dog. Very simple treats, keep the cake for yourself and don't give her all yourself until she has earnt it 😁
I think serious things like this should be discuss carefully before you enter marriage. For guys, are you really willing to be the one to work and let your wife be a full housewife. You get the money and she raise kids and manage the house. I just noticed (this is based on my parents and what I have observed from other husbands and wives) most guys aren't good with budgeting.
Now for women, are you really willing to stay at home and be a full time wife raising kids and managing the house, waiting for your husband's income?
Both are making a lot of sacrifices here. In my opinion, both should be working, raise their kids and manage the house. Or course at some point, when the wife gets pregnant and had to breast feed, she really needs to stop from working. But only temporarily.
If you sacrifice too much of yourself, in the end you will get bitter and unsatisfied with life and that will affect the people around you.
Both should be very honest with theirselves before entering marriage.
Thanks!
I am in my 60's and my wife is Japanese and been married over 37 years. We make love on average at least once a week without any aid from pharmaceuticals. I had assumed that the younger guys with Japanese wives would be making love at least twice as much as me. That young man Hayatt must be understating the quantity of love sessions he is having with his wife otherwise his situation is rather sad.
I think its because of these men are not real men to be honest, many in the comments says the same thing but all of these guys are literally almost scared of their wife. I dont thiink these men understand what attracts a women, You cant be a yes man and expect sex often. As a man you have to take charge, you are supposed to be the steady rock not the women. Being a housewife plus the man in the house of course its gonna be too much for them and make them salty, These men are not doing their job as a man. You cant just go to another country and suddenly become a Chad/Alpha male, They should have worked on their manhood and themselves before getting married
I was trying to see how similar my wife would be to the description you all mentioned but I think my wife (from Okinawa) doesn't really match. Then again Oki and mainland are different in my opinion.I agree on the dating it's always magical in the beginning. The monthly allowance thing doesn't really exist for us. I manage the finances so I pay the bills, savings, all that "cool" financial stuff. Yeah.. after kids, the sex goes down but we try.... As far as Japanese women being strong? I think that will come down to the individual woman and her experiences? Well thanks again for another interesting video Meshida, take care!
It’s more accurate in the Russian women tbh. They don’t say babushka over bogatir meaning babushka > strongman. At least Asian women don’t age as badly lol. It’s like after hitting 60 they instantly become babushka over in Russia.
Man's reading every comment props to you, great videos man!
I thought all japanese wives are like anime ...man why you broke my dreams Meshida 😨😁😁🤯 good bye my anime wife 😢now I'm scared of japanese wives 😂😂😂
The Singaporean guy says he doesn't like anime at beginning but all his references in the video were based on anime....Disney, spirited away, kiki ..etc....so I'll take his views on japanese wives with a grain of salt.
well, he DOES have 2 kids. A lot of modern parents know a lot of kids songs tha tthey hate----ehem Baby Shark.
@@ChristopherCricketWallace Thank you Wallace shark doo doo doo doo doo doo.
Those are pretty famous ones. He didn't reference any other anime
He doesnt like anime doesnt mean he dont watch anime.. took his content literally not deeply
Hey Meshida. Excellent videos you make..
How about one on top 10 things (unspoken rules) that Japanese folks would like visiting foreigners follow so we can stop goofing off in public. This would help me avoid more people telling at me over there next time..
In my country being happily married means that a man is married and a woman is happy.
This is funnier than most stand-up comedies.
こんにちわ，めしだ。私はブラジル人です。日本語の野学生です。Love your enthusiasm and the way you present your content and read all the comments. Marriage is a bad deal for men, in my opinion. 日本の大好きです! 😊
ありがとう😊
..no Wonder, computerized manequins are selling like Hot cakes in Japan 🤣
Well, my opinion that if you have nothing to respect you for, you won't be respected. By your Japanese or any other wife. If you let yourself to be just a tool for family income, what can you expect else?
Hyatt never got permission to go outside the house no wonder has having a blast in this video.
I hope Hyatt got a raise at home after this video.
A man can dream brother!
As an American wife who worked outside the home part-time while also raising our daughter and running the household, my advice on how husbands can get more sex is to unload the dishwasher and help with laundry once in awhile. I promise, it works!
Not for a Japanese wife! All she will do is then expect you to do it everyday but still no sex
The husband works until 8-9 then goes drinking until 11pm reaching home close to midnight. I doubt he has time or energy to do the dishes.
@@kitsura That's because Japan has a work culture that's even more broken than the one here in the U.S. And that's saying something.
Meh!
That doesn’t work in Japan. Once you get married sex is only for making kids. You have to have a side girl for sex.
Cicero would have been pleased with this channel: informative, entertaining, educative.
Yooo 😂😂 this shit ain't happenin to me. My house, my rules. 😂😂 (talking about the allowance part)
word.
Well said brother. You have to be Alpha!
Well it could be worse. Apparently there was a joke about Brezhnev in the Soviet union. One person asked Brezhnev once, what do you enjoy more? New Year’s or having sex. Brezhnev replied, of course New Year’s Day because it happens more often.
I am prepared for this, im Singaporean also and will be moving to Japan from Australia mid of next year or start of 2023.
Black widow soul eating spider. Lmao
Crying with laughter as you kill the dream lol
I think I'm already married to a Japonese wife since I can relate to 60 percent of everything here.
Your totaly right, when you get love at first sight they like sleeping beauty and perfection, but it's a trap, after a while they became a furious dragon ninja, my ex Japanese girlfriend, was the queen of troubles and make my life impossible for more than 2 years, hopefuly i was not married with her, she have so much high expectation and was a drama queen, so beware, you can probably found a real good person, but most of them are what as you describe .
Hayatt san is certainly one of those healthily masochist men that love and do very well with their oniyome 鬼嫁 (demon wives). Otherwise, he would be too scared to publish the videos like this one.
Japanese women aren’t necessarily stronger, they just have much lower expectations. 😛
You know I find this interesting. You say Japanese wives and women are pretty tough independent and run things. The thing is many American men complain about these traits all the time and think asian ladies are more submissive and can be controlled. You say otherwise. 🤔 now, I believe you are right as all of my asian girlfriends are very strong 💪. It is just a shame american women get dragged for doing the same things when women are women the world over.
Just because other women do it doesn't mean you should too. Just be a nice person
My dream come to end after watching this vedio thnx bro to save me 😂😂
How did Japanese men let it all get backwards... the words I’m hearing in this video boggle the mind... what are you guys thinking?... if Japanese men don’t “man up” there will be no Japan.
This video made my day 😂
Arigato !!!
European women are independant. They don't need a man and his salary. They just go to work, earn money by themselves and raise the kids. That's the definition of being strong.
Men is still strong physically.
No its not thats definition of amazonian
Sounds like a man 🤣
Oh man, i just discovered you but i can't stop watching for a few hours already, this was absolutely delicious! Lived in Japan for 1 month, but wife didn't want to move there. Stolen by a western wife before having the chance to get a jp one haha (p.s. western wives are sometimes strong too, mine is a Valkyrie). Btw 38 here too, sex life is the same hahaha
Haruno Sakura is the perfect representation. Her name means cherry blossoms of spring. Completely different from her personality when she was 13.
These edits are brilliant
really cool interview
Damn. Is it the same situation with a Korean woman? Because I'm dating one now with a mind for marriage, and I want to know what I'm getting into potentially.
same but with more divorce rape
Great video
My wife is Burmese. This video fits her description ! Imteresting.
Japanese wives are very caring, tender and love making love... Experienced it first hand during a stint of 8 months in Osaka and Kyoto... 😉😊 Was loved by a few of them....
Were they wives or just girlfriends? That context seems to matter a lot there.
I was waiting for you thank you
Arigato!
😂😂😂 Great double act ⭐️👍⭐️
I forwarded this video to all my Asian friend….😂😂😂👍👍👍👍
Seriously though having sex with someone while they are asleep/unconscious is rape, it's a serious crime and horrible form of abuse. It's not something to joke about, make light of or encourage. It is a serious crime and devastating to the victim. I hope he's just ignorantly joking, and doesn't actually do this to his wife. Should edit that part out or take the video down. Domestic violence isn't entertainment. I seriously hope Hyatt gets some therapy and learns about healthy boundaries/behaviors and stops raping his wife, maybe if he stops abusing her she'll actually start consenting to have sex with him again.
This is why I have a doll. I follow the sage advice of TFM, which is "shut up, fuck off, and I don't care". My operating principles now. Just get a doll.
So funny you guys.
arigato!
The problem is that you let your wife follow the Japanese customs related to the allowance, etc. Not a single one of these things is true in my marriage. You just need to be an alpha and take the lead.
It's not that easy. It's common in a few Asian countries but if you were to not follow the allowance... you'd get divorced. I tried to talk men out of giving money to their wives as they mismanaged them and was told they'd get divorced if he stopped.
"fuck off. Shit" lmao love it
Disney Princess to Yubaba XD
¥50,000 !!!! So lucky. I don’t know what I’d do with that much. I just got upped to ¥10,000 from ¥5000.
Hahaha it's fun watching your blog.i like the contents.
Thanks!
I am watching with my to-be Japanese wife and she is also enjoying...
hahaha😁
You guys are Hilarious!!!...I'm curious what the divorce rate is in Japan?...It must be high. No wonder guys around the world don't want to get married!!!...What's in it for men? (Sounds like a nightmare).
If you ever get to Texas (Dallas-Fort Worth) you can be our guest! Free BnB!
What a good content! I like Hayyat! 😂
Thank you!
Wow interesting
What... Allowance... ? once i thought of having a japanese wife... after knowing this... won't think of a japanese wife anymore...
gosh, iam adicted in your videos hahahahaha
You guys are really funny 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you!
Morgiana from magi is prefect and fits for describe thats 🤣
Okay just not to be racist towards japanese women, but my asian wife is more or less the same except the allowance part. She tried to do the allowance crap on me - but I firmly said nope.
Same power - basically there's a curfew unless work related events.
Sexual frequency also the same - not much difference - after children also same happening.
This was very funny, more shows like this please 👍. I have an imaginary Japanese wife, she is very good to me. 🙂 ❤ 🇬🇧
Thank you!
@@hayattshahsg your welcome.
Imaginary being the key word there.
@@stevenw7623
🤣🤣🤣 Definitely 👍
Always date, never marry. Issue solved
Japanese women. They can do no wrong in my book!🥰☮️❤️🇺🇲🇯🇵
I honestly prefer the reality. It's more interesting than the 2D fantasy, which is both impossible and ultimately undesirable.
There's more to Japan than animation and comics, and I love those things.
Thank you for making glad I am still single
Very interested
JAPAN! So beautiful!🥰☮️💘🇺🇸
As i said before Mr meshida
If i were to marry a Japanese woman and she uses her full potential strength 💪 and charisma she might cause me a bit of trouble 😅
Meshida: but would you lose though AKA she's your boss now?
I would win 🤞
Do takashi tezuka and Shigeru Miyamoto feel that way since they're married?
Sadako is a funny one,thanks for great video.Allowance is also interesting one,if you are poor and you dont have allowance,literally you might end up on the street,it is joke hahah.