What a Woman Really Needs

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  • čas přidán 15. 05. 2017
  • Jimmy and Karen Evans discuss the important needs of every woman. Most importantly, women need security and love. Women feel most secure when they are married to a sacrificial, caring man.
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Komentáře • 114

  • @kennedymuiruri1221
    @kennedymuiruri1221 Před 3 lety +13

    I love this message....kept writing notes on my phone. I'll refer to them again and again. I want to meet the needs of my wife and make her feel loved, understood and cared for. This is a gem of a message and a timeless one. Wives, don't be afraid to share this message with your husband. Also check the message that addresses the needs of your man again by Jimmy Evans. God bless this ministry.

  • @JULALAINE
    @JULALAINE Před 3 lety +12

    Do not compete with your partner, accept differences and grow together.

  • @wyldflower9964
    @wyldflower9964 Před 4 lety +9

    Sent this to my husband, I really hope he "Get's It"

  • @carmenpagan5419
    @carmenpagan5419 Před 4 lety +5

    Thank you so much pastor Evans... because of your personal testimony on your marriage, I thank God for your preachings/teachings. Love you and your wife!!!! God bless your ministry.

  • @04ingoditrust04
    @04ingoditrust04 Před 6 lety +46

    When you reject my needs, you reject me. Yes. That's how it feels!

    • @hozzydaemon2021
      @hozzydaemon2021 Před 5 lety

      04inGoditrust04 then you need to focus on your own self esteem and overcome your own insecurities rather than overpersonalize other peoples behavior- if the other is not trying to be abusive or trying to hurt your feelings and they just simply have a different personality.

    • @carolynfischer2809
      @carolynfischer2809 Před 4 lety +8

      Jimmy addressed "they just simply have a different personality" when he said "that doesn't matter, you are to fulfill her needs".

    • @chossenone9508
      @chossenone9508 Před 3 lety

      I read ur comment and heard it at the same time 😮

    • @04ingoditrust04
      @04ingoditrust04 Před 3 lety +1

      @@hozzydaemon2021 Am I supposed fulfill his needs? We're talking about marriage here.

    • @karinteeples6517
      @karinteeples6517 Před 2 lety

      @@hozzydaemon2021 That is not biblical. It is also very dismissive and rude. 🙄

  • @donnabloom9826
    @donnabloom9826 Před 3 lety +6

    This ministry is powerful! Praying for my future as God makes provision.

  • @wesv8743
    @wesv8743 Před rokem +2

    I agree 100% with all this.. but I have a wife that just had a week off of work from her computer and as soon as soon as I walk in the bedroom she puts on her eye massager and then when I try to touch her she pushes me away. I'm trying so hard to love her how I'm supposed to but the constant rejection is getting overwhelming. If anybody cares to pray for my family please do. I'm afraid to know what's really going on but her loving me is not part of it.

  • @lilypowell1123
    @lilypowell1123 Před 5 lety +11

    A word from the LORD...
    IF MY PEOPLE , WHO ARE CALLED BY MY NAME , WILL HUMBLE THEMSELVES AND PRAY, AND TURN FROM THIER WICKED WAY'S ; THEN I WILL HEAR FROM HEAVEN, AND HEAL THIER LAND .
    PLEASE PASS IT ON ,AMEN.

  • @elloimandrea
    @elloimandrea Před 7 lety +44

    I love watching these types of videos because it's so important to know and be knowledgeable about healthy relationships

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 Před 5 lety

      I totally agree with you!

  • @TheYogi92
    @TheYogi92 Před 6 lety +21

    Such powerful messages and so glad I found Jimmy Evans and Marriagetoday

  • @SimplyFitwithJay
    @SimplyFitwithJay Před 3 lety +4

    This is very true. I can especially relate to the husband being rough. My husband like to wrestle, jump on me, play fight, etc and I can’t stand it. Even when I tell him to stop he doesn’t listen. It’s gotten to the point where it actually makes me cringe when he touches me or tries to touch me because I know what’s coming and he is much stronger than me so I have a hard time getting him to stop. He gets mad and takes it as me rejecting him when I don’t want him to touch me, but really I don’t like the way he touches me.

    • @joelmcmahon8431
      @joelmcmahon8431 Před 3 lety +1

      Wow you really need to communicate that you don’t want him doing that. Lovingly of course

    • @crazyleaf257
      @crazyleaf257 Před 3 lety +1

      😥

  • @SteveandShayTv
    @SteveandShayTv Před 6 lety +26

    I could watch all day! Now I just need a supportive husband.

    • @thatamychic3517
      @thatamychic3517 Před 4 lety +1

      Where do you fine one of those?

    • @purplehaze4201
      @purplehaze4201 Před 3 lety +1

      Riiight. Mine is getting out of jail in 2 days. I'm hoping to apologize for my wrong doings and hope he will listen to jerry evens toom

  • @wesv8743
    @wesv8743 Před rokem +2

    I'm the biggest hopeless romantic there is but my wife sees it as a weakness and treat it as such. I don't even know what to do anymore and I feel like a broken portion of myself because of how much she is push me away. I'm not perfect by any means I love my wife I think she is the sexiest woman alive and anytime I tell her that she acts like I'm just blowing smoke. Thank God for my relationship with Jesus Christ because without that I would want to end it now

  • @Jeremiah-yu8he
    @Jeremiah-yu8he Před 6 lety +7

    I am always blessed when I watch these series. I had the opportunity to see them at my church- such practical good help for marriages but you have to continue to listen, learn and put it into action. Never stop doing this stuff in your marriage.

  • @rjmacready8830
    @rjmacready8830 Před 2 lety +3

    SALT: security, affection, leadership, talk.

  • @emmajr8812
    @emmajr8812 Před 6 lety +20

    Wow, this just really blessed me on so many levels. It's opened my eyes to many things that I've been trying to figure out. God bless you pastor

  • @jackofalltrades1091
    @jackofalltrades1091 Před 6 lety +13

    Its so much for me. For what I am going through in my Marriage. Only God can heel my wife from all that I have done to her. I love her and want her back

    • @wellwateredwoman897
      @wellwateredwoman897 Před 6 lety

      David Arun Hubert I feel your pain

    • @delasjourney9104
      @delasjourney9104 Před 6 lety +2

      Jack of All trades .. maybe she's HAPPY .. want that first , maybe then you will get her back . Love God and yourself first . Maybe you miss what she did for you more ..just a thought.

    • @aprilleak4356
      @aprilleak4356 Před 6 lety +6

      Counseling with a true Christian counselor and a true bible-based church and God’s Holy Spirit can heal your marriage and give you a fresh start.

  • @j_newtsLIVE
    @j_newtsLIVE Před 4 lety +9

    This video came to me at the most needed moment in my marriage. Love the wisdom and humor!!!!!

    • @dedios03
      @dedios03 Před 4 lety +2

      Mines to he changed the way I felt after one day of listening. I got the "when you meet each others needs you meet yours" and I was instantly free to love my wife

  • @hlub1111
    @hlub1111 Před 6 lety +4

    Soooo on point!!!!!

  • @genalewis6124
    @genalewis6124 Před 4 lety +3

    Just excellent!

  • @david.b4186
    @david.b4186 Před 6 lety +2

    GREAT insight.

  • @froylanfarias3008
    @froylanfarias3008 Před 5 lety

    Great message!

  • @butterbemine
    @butterbemine Před rokem

    Great message! So important to a healthy marriage.

  • @jasmineholmes5573
    @jasmineholmes5573 Před rokem +1

    Thank you

  • @blakemarshall1996
    @blakemarshall1996 Před 4 lety

    Amen!

  • @wildcountrykat
    @wildcountrykat Před rokem

    Wow !! His Uncle Wrote 14,600 "Poems" ( Love Letters 💌) - That's An Amazing & True Love !!! ❤️

  • @TheRootybai1
    @TheRootybai1 Před 6 lety +1

    Beautiful love it

  • @moyaking8961
    @moyaking8961 Před 4 lety +5

    Can you answer me this:- My husband has had an on off affair with the same woman. I still love him and I have battled over the years to try and make it work for us. He is 77 and I'm 62. We have 4 children and have been married for 43 years. The trouble is he absolutely does not believe in God so his marriage vows are meaningless to him. He says he doesn't have any passion for me only affection. He's not sure what love is and he doesn't think he's ever been in love. He definitely doesn't do deep and meaningful stuff. He just says that he is a simple soul and that he's quite happy with how things are. He's not thick and knows that we can't make it work all the while this other woman (she's 10 years older than me) is in his life. He is by and large a good man and to a certain extent will do anything for me apart from marital stuff. We have been living apart for the last 2 years and he now says he loves his place and he doesn't want to give it up but he doesn't want me to move in with him either! At the moment his mistress and him are just meeting for coffees once a week. This was her idea as she's been hurt by him in the past so she said she wanted to take things slowly. I've told him that this can't continue, either we make a fresh start or if he wants to be with her then I'm at that stage were I won't stand in his way. After his meeting with her I went to his place to see what we needed to do and he floored my by saying that he wanted us to try again (4th time of trying). So why do I feel disappointed? Is this just a repeat of the previous times? I'm actually getting very tired of putting such a lot of effort into my marriage only to have him go back to her! I am seriously at that stage were I have no idea what to do!

    • @denfolo5224
      @denfolo5224 Před 2 lety

      Any update? I hope you are in a better place now. Big hugs.

    • @moyaking8961
      @moyaking8961 Před 2 lety +2

      @@denfolo5224 Thank you for your thoughts. I'm happy to say that I'm in a house of my own and I bought a travel trailer that is on the coast. I go between my house and the trailer and love it. My husband's affair ended with this horrible woman and he's happy in his apartment. We still see each other and are just good friends now.

    • @denfolo5224
      @denfolo5224 Před 2 lety +1

      @@moyaking8961 I'm sorry that your marriage ended. But I am truly happy that you are in a good place now :) I hope God sends someone that will hold your hand in the future and be compassionate towards you.

    • @tomigray7855
      @tomigray7855 Před 2 lety

      I’m so sorry about all that you had to experience!
      I’m happy your good now. After my second divorce I decided to be married to Christ! He’s been the best husband ever! I wish I would have chose this long ago! I’ve never been happier!
      Christ says “I will be a husband to the the husband less “ He always keeps His word! May you be blessed!!!!

  • @manudogcarer559
    @manudogcarer559 Před 6 lety +22

    4:40 lack of romance means i dont care.

  • @monicaswavel6074
    @monicaswavel6074 Před 6 lety +5

    Wonderful

  • @dmee4438
    @dmee4438 Před rokem

    This sounds like Robert Morris's book The Blessed Marriage that I read last night. Looks like Jimmy is giving this at Morris's Gateway church.

  • @mizannebillions5703
    @mizannebillions5703 Před 6 lety +1

    @ airplane800, sometimes I wonder if when we do TELL people the truth, are they truly listening to the wisdom spoken? I am guilty of that error before I REALLY submitted MY will to HIM. People would share wisdom and I would dismiss it because I felt they did not really know. What was being said wasn't what I wanted to hear. I was immature and felt I would SHOW them, I was right they were wrong!

  • @natgosau10
    @natgosau10 Před 5 lety +6

    I think there was a glitch in the system when I was made. I’m a girl, and almost none of this applies to me.

    • @Rancid-Jane
      @Rancid-Jane Před 4 lety +1

      I had the same reaction.

    • @xxy25
      @xxy25 Před 4 lety +1

      Perhaps you could write to these guys and share your perspective/what you would like in a marriage :)

    • @xxy25
      @xxy25 Před 4 lety

      Perhaps you could write to these guys and share your perspective/what you would like in a marriage :)
      This would help them to cater to the needs of more people !

    • @grandmagrows4207
      @grandmagrows4207 Před 3 lety

      Listen to Joyce Meyer ❤

    • @crazyleaf257
      @crazyleaf257 Před 3 lety

      I hear you ♥️ search out yourself and God's will for you

  • @wshelby83
    @wshelby83 Před 5 lety +3

    This was a great message!

  • @sagasvll8323
    @sagasvll8323 Před 7 lety +1

    16.08-16.46 importent ❤

  • @darlawalsh6237
    @darlawalsh6237 Před 4 lety +1

    It started out like this kind of then to many outside interfence with friends didnt help i stayed in church i have found one thing about myself i hate when adults who are family dont communicate like talk who have spiritually taken advantage of me also not just my earthly father and mother i love people i loved my spouse i still do its different now we still dont talk neither one i just hope for the best for them my prayer is jesus to bless me how he sees fit to bless me i have let a few different men one or 2 know its ok if they would like to get to know me about ideal date something we can agree on it doesnt have to be expensive extravagant id be happy with a date at mc donalds the idea is quality time with that person in hopes of ltr i am a one woman man someday on this earth i will hopefully get to live with my spouse in a house with a car and be with family with out outside interefence people outside of relationship coming between us spiritually be careful is my best advice i am a simple woman not complicated to love a servant heart not to be taken advantage of my dad has propertys in his name still to this day from when he passed away and my stepmom passed away i need someone whom can be trusted to help me with lawyer to get these houses sold or rented out and money from into special needs account so i can have a little like say a hundred each month or every so often when needed anyways to just be a blessing if someone will kindly pray and knows someone willing to help i need transportation also so that i can work prttime as i have several jobs available that i can do even with physical disabilitys to help thank you for any prayers and support i also need help to get a few of my teeth replaced insurance wont pay for that it would be of help to me to be able to eat

  • @professionalsourcingsoluti2386

    How can someone not like this????

    • @lilypowell1123
      @lilypowell1123 Před 5 lety +1

      Because it's soooo fake !!
      It doesn't address real marriage today !! That man grew up in a church life !! He has no idea what most men are like today !!!

  • @manudogcarer559
    @manudogcarer559 Před 6 lety +14

    4:00 wife doesnt need to beg for ver needs.

  • @user-to8xe1kv3s
    @user-to8xe1kv3s Před 9 měsíci

    Knowing what you do not in know is life

  • @manudogcarer559
    @manudogcarer559 Před 6 lety

    2:00

  • @amen670
    @amen670 Před 5 lety

    Heleluah wonderful Thanksgiving dinner with you Timothy sneha Abraham heleluah thanks Lord relation between us Amen

  • @denfolo5224
    @denfolo5224 Před 2 lety

    Please ask this question to your significant other: "What do you really need". Everything he said here is nice but not everyone's top need. I, for one, need to feel that you are fair. I respect fairness. If I deem you unfair, I will not follow you, respect you, or put my eggs in the same basket as you. If per him, "security" includes fairness, then that is fine. Again, I am putting out there that straight personal questions and straight talks is what YOUR relationship needs, not the generic advices.

  • @ladiesofiron
    @ladiesofiron Před 6 lety

    Amen

  • @kimsanchez7211
    @kimsanchez7211 Před 2 lety

    BINGO!

  • @crazyleaf257
    @crazyleaf257 Před 3 lety

    👍🏼♥️♥️

  • @BSNRN1677
    @BSNRN1677 Před 2 lety +1

    Wow made me realize he isn’t fulfilling all four 😱

  • @aprilleak4356
    @aprilleak4356 Před 6 lety +5

    Give it to the world for FREE because the world needs it! Jesus never sold salvation- it’s a free gift.

  • @ChisMercury
    @ChisMercury Před 3 lety +1

    Equal partner... I like that

  • @wesv8743
    @wesv8743 Před rokem

    I'm going to give to this organization not because it helped my marriage because I hope and pray it will help somebody else's. My wife doesn't want anything to do with me and she has made that very clear and it would be a miracle if she would actually listen to one of these that I sent her.

  • @bryantotten7315
    @bryantotten7315 Před 6 lety +1

    Listenibg and saying "oh yeah" is ok but it is the doing that seems to not work.Put excuses to rest and man up

  • @manudogcarer559
    @manudogcarer559 Před 6 lety +6

    3:10 sacrifice for wife

  • @Rancid-Jane
    @Rancid-Jane Před 4 lety +1

    What if all ever you receive is non sexual touching?

  • @jaco7675
    @jaco7675 Před 6 lety +4

    Believe me, my wife does NOT want me to lead. She wants to dominate and subdue. She wants to be the final word, and will not accept anything less.

    • @MariaFernandez-wt7pj
      @MariaFernandez-wt7pj Před 5 lety +2

      Secretely she does believe me. She will follow if you put your foot down aslong as you are listening to God. All women are wired that way.

  • @airplane800
    @airplane800 Před 6 lety +5

    I've been observing youth groups, college groups, and single's groups in churches for many years, There is no difference with non Christian groups. It is all about the popular, the handsome and the rich. The values inside churches are the same values preached by Hollywood. Many people in churches marry incompatible people and than they need lots of lecture and sermons to try to fix something that was done wrong from the beginning. Jimmy are not honest to tell people that they married for the wrong reasons with incompatible people.

  • @NathaliewayneHerbuHerde

    Just subscribe to this channel today.

  • @Vikingshop
    @Vikingshop Před 6 lety +1

    VERY IMPORTANT VIDEOS! But PLEASE stop asking for money! IF you stop asking for money ... we will send you some!

  • @kaumbendor4654
    @kaumbendor4654 Před 4 lety +1

    A woman only needs her phone

  • @hozzydaemon2021
    @hozzydaemon2021 Před 5 lety +1

    This is why religion is dying. Women are not a stereotype and neither are men. Women like me are far more cerebral, less emotional and not very reactionary at all. I am my own leader-personal responsibility. I married a man who is also his own leader-personally responsible. This is why we can come together to solve problems and we treat eachother as equal people, though I acknowledge where he is wiser or more skilled than me at certain things. It’s two whole complete people coming together. Codependent relationships are not relationships. Religion brainwashed humanity to limit itself and assign predetermined roles based on sex alone and not based on skill, wisdom or any real qualifications I am a woman who embraces human advancement rather than old barbaric concepts. Religion seeks to hold us back and it does this not just to women but to men as well. We need true progress, not the phony progress the political left speaks of or that the millennial sjw screams at the sky about.

    • @mchristr
      @mchristr Před 4 lety +4

      If there are no objective, transcendent standards, how can we possibly measure progress or wisdom? The best we can do is put our fingers in the air to see which way the cultural winds are blowing or default to our emotions. Furthermore, if our worth is grounded on skills or qualifications, where does that leave us if we lose those things?

  • @alexdoe5121
    @alexdoe5121 Před 4 lety +1

    What a woman really needs?.....hmm, who the hell cares? lol

  • @romeyrome9993
    @romeyrome9993 Před 6 lety +2

    How can a woman submit to a man as unto Christ if marriage is an equal partnership? Yes we are both heirs of Gods grace but the man is the head and the ruler. Is the Church equal to Christ? No! How can a woman submit to a man as unto the Lord if she is an equal partner? She will never learn to submit.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 Před 5 lety +2

      Sexist. You think women are lower. We are not! BOTH ARE HEADS!

    • @karinteeples6517
      @karinteeples6517 Před 2 lety

      Really try to focus on your wife in this message. You going off on submission during this message on tools to heal your wife, shows you’re still not ready to serve her as Christ loves the Church. It’s not just about you. This is her video. 🙄😡

  • @crowviking
    @crowviking Před 2 lety

    I was fine with this teaching ... all up until 17:00 This is why Christian marriages suffer. Pastors have sold out to the feminism that has crept into the church (and most don't even realize it).
    Jimmy used the relationship between Christ and the church (his bride) correctly to say he loves her insomuch that sacrifices himself for her. But come his last point, he can no longer use that illustration to say wives are to be treated as equals. Just as Christ is superior to the church, so is the husband superior to the wife. This is why scripture says that wives are to obey their husbands in ALL THINGS (Eph. 5:22-24). Peter emphasizes this order when he points out how Sarah called Abraham 'my lord' (1 Peter 3:6). Jimmy seemed to be careful to avoid this painful truth in our gynocentric society to keep those sales rolling in.
    And btw, the wife helps the husband work- not the husband helps the wife work pff!

    • @karinteeples6517
      @karinteeples6517 Před 2 lety +1

      Are you a Christian? If you are, and this is your 1st response to what wives need in marriage~ I’m really not surprised if your relationship is a big 0. You can deal with egalitarianism another time, the fact you can’t focus in on what might help heal your wife in the marriage, shows your character and lack of integrity. Sensitivity. Work on it🙄😱

    • @crowviking
      @crowviking Před 2 lety

      @@karinteeples6517 Healing takes place in obedience. What did I say that is wrong?

  • @coryjacobs4229
    @coryjacobs4229 Před 5 lety +1

    Good message but hope you have learned to stop calling your brother “Lucifer”. When you do this you are giving demonic spirits the authority to enter into his body. Even speaking that name opens doors to you and your listeners for him to come in and cause destruction.