Why Couples Really Fight | MarriageToday | Jimmy Evans, Karen Evans
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- When people marry they bring fears into the relationship. Fear causes us to hurt and react to our spouse. Whether it's a fear of rejection or failure, fear keeps us from intimacy in marriage.
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Jimmy Evans is one of America’s leading experts on family and marriage relationships. He is Founder and CEO of MarriageToday™ and co-host of MarriageToday with Jimmy and Karen, the marriage ministry and national award-winning broadcast that airs to millions of homes each week. A popular church and conference speaker, he has also authored a number of books, including Marriage on the Rock, Our Secret Paradise and The Right One.
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“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
1 John 4:18 NIV
I just want to say thank you to you Mr. Evan's and to Mrs. Evan's for sharing your own struggles within your marriage out in the public for us all to learn from. And I think what you do is amazing and I hope that you achieve your goal of saving one marriage at a time till the world is rid of Divorce.
He's right. Fear is the reason why couples fight.
@ Terrie Smith
WOMEN are the reason why couples fight.
Because they are not submissive.
What if your husband if you have one wanted to do polygamy , would you submit
@@framboise595 You are partially right but we fight because of our fallen nature. The sin nature that can only be redeemed and transformed thru Christ.
@@danilaroche1156
Yes it's because of our fallen nature , however , putting wives on an equal foot with their husbands can only make marriage more and more conflictual because it is a disruption of God's order.
FEAR ... is in everything ... it's not just marriage. Ask teenagers .. even children ... This message is for everyone ...
I love this teaching.
Great video!
This is very true. Thank you.
If married 59 years and wish I had divorced my husband 35 years ago. If watching him be involved with another woman for a long time I should have left. I tried Gary Smally. Marriage encounter I couldn’t get it straight. To late for me I just want what life have left to live in peace and it will not be with him.
This teaching is life changing, marriage changing!!!
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I needed to hear this talk. It surely hit home for me!
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Amen.
Amen!
Powerful message, Pastor! The truth shall make you free.
Amen. Good stuff
I enjoy your video.
Needed this. ❤️⚓🙏
When I contact westhack000 on Instagram i had the feelings my problem was gone, was with a cheating wife And couldn’t bear it this was bad and I never move on, I needed proof to divorce her but no proof because I don’t have access to her phone my mind needed peace and all I could think was her cheating on me with her ex I needed a miracle and westhack000 on Instagram help me hack into her mobile phone remotely and she didn't suspect or know she was hacked.
Thank you. It was so direct! The arrow hit right on my heart. Thank you pastor Evans and sis.Karen. Keep us in prayers.
Amen I think fare is what we are going through my husband always mad at me for no reason. He don’t handle money very well.
Luke 10:19! We have power!
Women have been duped to seek power instead of submission.
No wonder why couples are so conflictual now.
Can you come to western Michigan?
she reacts to secret courts sentencing, which is HIS fear
with predetermined secret punishment
Thank you so much for the clear explanations! God bless you! I have a question yet. What should I do, to understand and believe, that whatever was done by my wife is unintentional. Being disrespected is my fear, but I already FEEL, that my wife is disrespecting me. I have experienced her disrespect, in front of our children she occused me number of times of earning not enough, being unable to save money for future, she compared me to other people in our neighbourhood, and I have a dillemma... is it just unintentional behaviour and she doesnt know what she does, because she doesnt know she hurts, or she does that on purpose?
Just curious have you spoken to her about your feelings?
@ ChessMatica
Do you realise that the Bible does not say that a wife should respect her husband but FEAR him ?
In Ephesians 5:25 , the word translated by respect is phobos which gives an idea of FEAR.
You fear the ones who are in authority. You just don't respect them.
You can respect someone without fearing them at all.
The problem is , the fear of husband has gone away with the fear of Christ in most "churches".
The real church does not just respect Christ. She fears him because he rules over her and he can rebuke and punish her if he judges it right.
Evans is a feminist in Christian guise . A dangerous wolf in sheep clothing who silences the duty of submission.
life and marriage aren't rocket science, shouldn't BE this hard. You do what you are SUPPOSED to do, BAM !!! Perfection
Have you read the Bible? Even Jesus said life would be hard.
@@danilaroche1156 it's hard because people don't do what they SHOULD do, it ain't rocket science
@@tooge47 I'm sorry but you sound very naive. I take it your not a follower of Christ.
@@danilaroche1156 quite the contrary. I take it you refuse to learn from others
@@tooge47 Always learning. Take care.
What happens though when you tell your spouse that you are afraid or have certain fears, maybe based on her actions, and or also things that happened in the past done to you by another person, but she doesn’t seem to care either way? She brushes you off, criticizes you, or says your fears are irrational? She offers no apology, for the most part, or attempts to comfort, make adjustments, or empathize…Sometimes the anxiety and disappointment is so debilitating when that happens, Fears just become magnified and even further validated. What do I do and how do I respond to her in that in the most understanding clear way? And how do I respond to myself, who is often then dealing with it alone afterwards when she dismisses it? What is the most Godly and wise way to navigate these situations?
Nothing is much better than having someone you trust and you believe, Have had a lot of friends whom relationships were broken due to unfaithfulness in their relationship. It’s better you really know who your spouse is before he/she turns to the monster in your nightmare. All you have to do is DM this dude on WhatsApp +1 (201) 614-5419. He can track locations and can hack into cellphone number to get informations like text-messages, phone calls,iMessages, WhatsApp chats, instagram, Twitter, Gmail,Facebook, Snapchat and phone gallery e.t.c. Try he out now to get my point he’s 100% legit no regret.
First, pray and be nice. Do not let her get you in a bad state. Find someone to talk to. Talk to her a bit at a time. Listen too.
I'd get good Godly counsel. Maybe she has hidden resentment towards you. She doesn't sound like she knows the Lord. If the Godly counsel doesn't help..I'd pray maybe about a TRIAL separation. She sounds abusive.
@ Preston
Never get involved with the field of feelings with women because you will always lose.
Men are superior to women in many many ways but when it comes to feelings , they lose.
That's why feminist hucksters like Evans and so many modern wolves have turned marriage into a feelings stuff (fear , love , emotions , feelings previal over the hierarchy and marriage structure ) in order to let wives be in control.
Expose your own fears to the Lord because the Lord loves his sons and he can do something for them.
But when it comes to your marriage , be strong and rule .
@@framboise595 Are you serious?
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This is good. This is the first time I've heard him "preach" a little bit referencing the word.
This spiritual huckster who makes tons of money on modern marriage crisis references more secualr psychology than the Word.
If he really referencered the Word , he would say that couples fight because the wife struggles for power instead of submitting.
Submission ends the fight very quickly.
But you know , it would not SELL , it would heal all marriages so his bloody ministry would have no reason to exist anymore.
I am really looking for someone to help my marriage.. even now I am falling my eyes out and he thinks you don't need any help and I'm all the problem and I'm he has a bad thing with God right now but I don't force that on him he's bipolar I've been there for him and I know that I've done wrong in our relationship and I'm not talking about cheating.. but over a year ago I almost died from hardest shoes that I still have and this man who I've tried so hard to make happy it's never going to be that way. I don't understand he says he wants better communication and he fought with me just now over me trying to say something about a new puppy we have and her going to the restroom see he spanked her the day before because she peed on the floor and she's a little tiny thing and I thought she did it again and I just said something about you know when we take her out sometimes she comes back in but if you walk around the backyard with her she'll stop and go and he just goes off on me about talking and that's the only thing I said to him this morning. he messages me and starts to big fight again and then won't even let me say anything except for yes or no are you friends to leave me if I say anything other than that. How can you make it work with somebody who chooses to see only what he perceives is bad.. how do you make it work with somebody where you have sex often four or five times a week and it's great but there's nothing anywhere else any other time he seems to hate you. He gives everything good everyone else and then comes home and give the rest of me. And this is the first time since we've been together I haven't worked and there was a 7-year period that he didn't work and I said care of everything and I had no problem with it he had a back surgery and had a bunch of problems and now he seems to put me below him since he's paying for stuff and I don't know what to do I'm already uncomfortable asking him for money or anything and then this on top of it all I want to do is make this man happy along with my marriage I don't know what to do anymore
Can your wife or you inbox me I have problem with hubby putting me down and hurts me I try not to show.otherwise I'll cry.
Daniella Moreno I'll be praying for you sis. God bless you in Jesus name ❤
Praying for you.
Daniella Moreno ... I think you should cry, let him see how it hurts you. Pray for him, pray for God to change him, turn the other but after that stop doing what ever he puts you down for, if its dinner stop cooking, if its driving get an uber, be gentle but brave. When he asks what the heck is going on let him know you’ve heard his words and are changing for him.... he’ll say, what words, pull out a list of all the hurtful put downs and let him read it along with a written down prayer asking God to watch over your husband.
My Mom did this and it worked, my Dad still put her down from time to time and she would stop doing that thing, pray first for God to change him he is insecure thats why he’s doing it.
@ Daniella Moreno
Men who do that often have an issue with their own male identity .
Do you challenge his authority ?
@@nicolealdridge9472
Well , the best biblical counsel I could give you is to follow 1 Peter 3 and submit not IF (as Evans and so many modern charlatans say ) but EVEN IF.
He is the one in authority. Christ is the head of man. Not the woman.
So , Christ will judge his actions , it's not your business . Just submit to him , do him good ,bearing in mind that your feminine conduct matters a lot.
Put everything in God's hands and don't be afraid.
God bless you .
I HEAR YOU, HOWEVER IN MY CASE , IN MY RELATIONSHIP , ITS THE OPISIT WITH MY WIFE. WHOM IS A PESIMIS !! SHE THINKS IAM THE CRAZY ONE , BECAUSE I CHOOSE TO LIVE MY LIFE , IN WHICH I AM AND ALWAYS BEEN AN OPTIMISTIC PERSON , STEPPING OUTSIDE THE BOX. NOT NEGLECTING MY RESPONSIBILITES RAISING OUR DAUGHTER . MY WIFE'S MINDSET IS STUMPPED, COMPARE TO MINE, MY MIND IS FLEXABILE , HECNE MY SPOUSE DOSE NOT GET IT .CORRECTION MY SPOUSE CHOOES NOT TO GET IT !!!
Thank you for your ministry. Karen do you realize that you are constantly making acknowledgment noises while Jimmy is speaking. Personally it’s a bit annoying and distracting to the listener. Just my observation.
Fear is not the reason married couples fight...it's money and who in the relationship controls it.. whomever makes the most in the marriage usually seeks control.
Nothing is much better than having someone you trust and you believe, Have had a lot of friends whom relationships were broken due to unfaithfulness in their relationship. It’s better you really know who your spouse is before he/she turns to the monster in your nightmare. All you have to do is DM this dude on WhatsApp +1 (201) 614-5419. He can track locations and can hack into cellphone number to get informations like text-messages, phone calls,iMessages, WhatsApp chats, instagram, Twitter, Gmail,Facebook, Snapchat and phone gallery e.t.c. Try he out now to get my point he’s 100% legit no regret.
@ Ted Malley
Evans the FEMINIST is all for women runnig the show since he has put the duty of submission on the back burner.
Married couples fight because of WOMEN struggling for power instead of submitting.
As simple as that.
Why do all stories talk about husband coming home from the office at 5? Most people that I know don't work in an office.
FEAR???? tHIS SOUNDS LIKE SUNDAY SCHOOL FOR KIDS...LOL..Tell that fear talk to our Forefathers and theyd laugh at you.😉Yes Americans have gotten very weak!
nonsense, fear is not the reason couples fight, a lack of understanding on the WIFE'S part as to what the role of a WIFE is.
Why "Marriage today" ? Why " today " ? Has marriage changed in God's eyes or is it so called preachers who have turned it into what is not in order to please the feminist spirit of the end time ?
Adding" today" to marriage speaks volumes.
You read a lot into nothing. That speaks volumes, too.
@@stalstonestacy4316
Evans is a feminist liar who just panders to female rebellion , encouraging all wives to be like queen Vasti.
How can couples fight when women are in submission ? It is impossible.
But all those so called preachers just silence the truth of the Bible that teaches wives to be submissive in everything , thus bringing peace and harmony instead of war and chaos.
@@framboise595 Isabelle strikes again! Lol I like what you have to say in the marriage videos, and agree.
Such a black ans white statement: men and women are both sinful, men need to examine their words and actions and not assume that their leadership is always perfect or loving..
@@stalstonestacy4316
Discernment is something that emotional churchians hate above all .
Amen!