What a Man Really Needs
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- čas přidán 14. 05. 2017
- Jimmy Evans discusses the important needs of every man. More than anything men need honor and respect. Men want to spend their time wherever they receive the most honor whether it's at home or work.
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Jimmy Evans is one of America’s leading experts on family and marriage relationships. He is Founder and CEO of MarriageToday™ and co-host of MarriageToday with Jimmy and Karen, the marriage ministry and national award-winning broadcast that airs to millions of homes each week. A popular church and conference speaker, he has also authored a number of books, including Marriage on the Rock, Our Secret Paradise and The Right One.
Everytime I get frustrated in my marriage this is where I come thank you
Am glad to finally get good advice on marriage from a pastor who has a passion in this. May God help me restore my marriage, am only married for 3 years and I feel like giving up but thanks to listening to you I think that we might have a chance. Let me take the advice and pray that God helps me out. Keep up the good work Pastor Jimmy, am a Kenyan btw so you making an impact everywhere.
Sarah Mbugua pls don’t give up, God has got you xx
Sarah Mbugua from another Kenyan sister, hang in there with prayer and see if God can work His thing. As long as you are safe emotionally and physically hang in there with prayer first and listen to Him. Barikiwa. Ndoa sio rahisi but na mungu inaweza kuwa rahisi. Encouraging you from Canada. Ps: just said a prayer for you and I believe that between you and I He will hear us.
I love learning new ways of how to love my boyfriend/ future husband better! I pray for wisdom to meet his needs in the relationship
I have been reading books on relationships since I was about 21.. I've always had a desire to learn how to have a healthy relationship 👌 I want to be happy!
@@christysmith7558 Dont forget that your mate probably hasn't read, you may have major disappointment if you have high expectations, you won't know what he should or shouldn't know because you learned things that you found more important.. Give it to God!
I wonder if this bloke's God's perfect, specific and all loving will for you in the first place... and if not, I pray you don't force it. Trust me, I speak from experience
Me too~
A word from the LORD...
IF MY PEOPLE , WHO ARE CALLED BY MY NAME, WILL HUMBLE THEMSELVES AND PRAY , AND TURN FROM THIER WICKED WAY'S ; THEN I WILL HEAR FROM HEAVEN, AND HEAL THIER LAND .
PLEASE PASS IT ON AMEN..
I love my husband and pray for him daily ❤ One day we were sitting in our room just talking about our 3 beautiful daughters then he starts saying like he wants another baby, I looked at him and 'Nooo nomore babies!!' Lol mind you that our baby was 6 at the time no more changing diapers or potty training! Then! He starts praying to God to bless us with another child!! And I ofcourse starting praying too 'No Please Lord! 🙏 i'm done' so as I was praying I heard him saying in my spirit 'Submit to your husband' i yelled Nooo lol forgive me Lord 😄 I was so amazed that He spoke to me in my spirit! And He does listen when you pray! Glory to God 💗 😊
Heavenly Father,
I pray that ALL marriages in the Body of Christ GLOBALLY would GROW, FLOURISH and be FULL of God's love, His POWER, GLORY, GOODNESS & TRUTH!!! Let them last until we go home to be with the LORD!!! Let us ALL be FAITHFUL to one another FOREVER!!! GLORY TO GOD!!! 💓💝💕💞💖💗🌸🐇
"1. Allow him to fail."
2. Confront your husband but let God be the enforcer. (1 Peter 3)
3. Honor him where you want him to be, not where he is. (Proverbs 31)
4. Cover his faults and focus on his strengths. (God wants us to think about the best qualities about our spouse, the devil wants us to think about the worst.
5. Be more sexual than you feel.
6. Friendship, not mother. Don't lose your identity in being a mom and forget that you are a wife.
7. Support at home. Women can turn a house into a home."
Thanks alot.☺
This is beautiful and biblical! Can’t go wrong doing these!🙌🏻🔥
May God bless this couple and keep them in his ways.... all these preaching are teaching me so much.... my heart is changing with the Grace of God.
Find someone you never nees to lie to. If thats not who you are already with, your relationship will always be near its end and you will always be rebuilding.
Thank you Holy Spirit for giving Pastor Evans to honor his calling with such wisdom God Bless him and his wife. We are so blessed with all his presentations. I am praying my husband gets fully saved, seek first the kingdom of God. Jesus has restored my marriage. Thank you my Lord and Saviour.
My wife and I are separated. We have 3 children. The last thing I want is divorce. Truth is I don't think I even know how to be a good husband in fact I know I don't. We had a fight which resulted in me losing my temper and yelling at her. I drove my wife away. I need to change. I just don't know how. I'm glad I found this channel.
Read the book “love and respect” by Dr eggrich
Owning what you did and truly apologizing and not repeating the behavior will show you mean it,then ask for forgiveness then sit and talk and really listen to what she says she needs without interrupting so she feels what she has to say means something to you, I am temporarily separated myself 38 years of marriage this month so I’m truly speaking from experience,when you allow her to speak without berating her you will see her heart softening and the intimacy will come back,we are also going to separate counseling to heal ourselves then we will do marriage counseling,idk your whole circumstances but mine is many years of pain and I pray daily,my Bible study group prays and so does my ARMS class ,I believe in power in prayer, you can turn this around by walking in the lord not just talking in the lord 🙏🏼
Just u being is a open door for God, 1 Peter 5:6 read that and just think on it. Anytime u follow God's word, he will give u strength and support
A great start would be to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Read your Bible everyday start in the Book of John. Ask God to guide you to a true Holy Ghost filled Church of holiness, pray on your knees, ask Jesus to forgive your sins and tell him you want to be a loving husband and would love to win your wife’s heart back.
God listens to prayers like this because he’s the best healer I have ever known.
Do what you did when you courted her! Return to the first love! May God help you!
A relationship is like a beautiful flower. If you tend to it with love and care it can bloom so wonderfully. But if you neglect it and forget to water it, it can also wither and die.
God is the author of marriage. Marriage works, dont let the media and the norm tells us what to do when they are not the one who made it.
"Ask God to get him" 😅
3:08 Need #1: Honor & Respect
6:18 Support him (Let him make a mistake)
9:05 Honor him when you want him to be, no where he's
I love you guys! Thanks for always being the confirmation God ordered.
Great message. So needed for people my age and younger with all the confusing messaging coming out
God bless your for your tv ministry!
Thanks Pastor Jimmy!!
Amen Pastor. Good job revealing truths straight from the bible
Thank you I have recently gotten married at an older age what a blessing
I wish you and your husband a BEAUTIFUL, Loving, True marriage where there's mutual respect (even during conflict), appreciation and that you care for each other as much as you care or yourselves. May you be a blessing to each other. Cheers!
Hi there. Is it still a blessing?
This is helping me thank you!
I love this ministry. I am senior (75 yrs) long-time single after divorce Christian (50 yrs). I am communicating with a wonderful Christian man online & we are growing closer. He is temporarily working out of the country so it will be a few months before we can actually meet. He’s watched your shorts & commented liking them a lot. He is a widower after a very long loving marriage (his wife passed in 2022) & Im wondering if there are resources for us & how to navigate our unique situation?
I needed to hear this. I will do better with my husband ❤
The sexual energy part is easy. It's the trying new things they like and you don't that is harder.
wHAT A mAN REALLY NEEDS? GOD.PERIOD......THEN HE KNOWS HOW TO LIVE HIS LIFE AND DO EVERYTHING RIGHT!!! MY YOKE IS EASY!!!
Thank you
nice tips
All the way from Jamaica I want to say I came on CZcams typed how to make marriage work cuz right now we at a bad place I'm 30 my wife is 27 we been married five years now but really we been going thru a lot financially and we both r dealing with it in siffernet ways so its been affecting us need help anyone comment plz
Really turn to God, read the Bible, be gentle with your wife, make a budget both of you do that together and don't give up. Jamaican here too. Stay strong, keep the faith.
Blaize Vevo God Almighty will retire your marriage. Don’t give up and try and watch these sermons with her if you can. It will help a lot if your both listening and reading the word of God together.
Have sex, connect and you'll start communicating more and start to listen to each other of how you view your finances and ideas will come together of how it can be remedied.
Start praying silently for your wife, every day, the Lord only can give you wisedom to act the right way. Pray for your wife, for her to see your needs. And start acting the way you are supposed to act even though your wife is still the same. Bring her flowers and love her even if you feel like she dont deserve it with her behaviour.
This really really works. It worked for me, the Lord really listens to people when they desperately need Him. It also is very important to trust the Lord and give everything in His hands. It brought such wonders in our relationship I can't even describe.
Pray for her, pray for your marriage, get other men to pray for you. Admit your mistakes and listen till you hear her heart. Seek wisdom from older loving Christians that can lead you closer to God... He will not drop you... It's not in his nature
God bless you for this godly advice on marriage. You will be eternally blessed by our Jesus. My husband has had lots of problems with lust. And homosexual acts. He promises to change. I’m so hesitant to separate because of finances and starting all over again. My god is good
I'm in that 20% and I think my husband is asexual, or it could be the alcohol that he has put first in his life. Pray for us.
I know how you feel,alcohol has nearly destroyed our marriage,that is why we are temporarily separated,until he quits I’m not going back and my church supports my decision of setting boundaries so we can have a healthy marriage by putting each other 1st over anything else but god.
Thanku for the info. I am guilty of some things . He is sick and i treat him like a child
powerfulllll, Respect and honor him as if he was Jesus
I am highly dubious about that description of hell.
My husband likes to gamble. I used to nag ....then I had a fabulous idea. Look up some nice lingerie or accessories and tell him there are much better things to spend that money on 😉
@bravoman praying for you man. I hope you continue to watch these videos.
@bravoman My husband is on the same path you are. He’ll be there eventually if we don’t change. My husband and I are temporarily separated and whenever we’ve separated, even for two days, it’s changed things for the better. I’d definitely pray, pray alone and see where God moves you. He honors and loves marriage.
@bravoman Do you have a church you belong to?
@bravoman It’s not good for you to be alone. Call a church, find a church man. You can’t be alone right now.
@bravoman I’m sorry to hear that you are experiencing pain in your marriage . And I’m even more sad that u r blaming God for the wife you choose to marry... I don’t think that God had a gun at ur head, asking you to marry her on ur wedding day at the altar .
He gave all of us free choice and wisdom ( if we allow the Holy Spirit to reside in us and we have “ the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom”). Last year, I had a church guy coming to me and telling me that God told him that I’m his wife. I was naive, I thought it could be ... even if I felt strange because I did not feel any spiritual connection, attraction zero ... but I said : “ if God said so, let me give him the chance and know him better”. I realized that he was trying to manipulate me big time and he was not a truly christian and also I was praying and fasting , asking God also for a confirmation ... without realizing that the lack of peace , the red flags I kept on seeing, the fact that there was no attraction at all and we had different views even spiritually - were the confirmation that he was a counterfeit . If I’d have listened to the man’s pressure to marry and give into the thinking that it’s ok not to feel anything for the man , no attraction - as long as he is from God- I’d have been fooled and honestly I would not have blamed God for that .... because He showed me red flags when I searched His will in prayer and fasting , I had no peace about that and I’d have to live with the consequences. Nevertheless , God can restore any relationship. Read the book “ Every man’s battle” and hopefully u’ll understand some of the reasons u might not feel attracted to her ( perhaps feeding the eyes with the images of other women online, on the street, magazines ,addicted to pornography, comparing her to other women, not respecting the covenant u made with her in front of God etc .... all these are stealing from ur marriage, from the attraction u would feel towards ur wife because God would honor ur decision to respect and have eyes for the woman u married). God bless you ! Pray for community , pray that God will restore ur marriage and do not give up to what Jesus did for u, do not give up to ur salvation ! No one in this world will ever be more by your side than Jesus .... no one. Don’t give up bro! Take ur broken pieces to Him . Jesus loves you☺️
A man needs an appropriate woman. One who is his equal spiritually and physically compatible.. too many "caring" people kept trying to get me together with these 79 year old medical basket cases ( in wheel chairs , on meds , tubes coming out every where ECT.) I'm in good shape and healthy and I refuse to "wife-up" an elderly woman who can't match my vibrance and provide me with sex , love , companionship and joining me in an active life.
I understand what you mean.I lost my husband 2 years ago.All the men at my church that are my age are married.The few that aren't are really settled into being old. I don't go to bars or club as a christian and have no idea how to meet young in heart men my age.It's discouraging
I’m in my second marriage we both lost our spouse due to complications from an illness.
We hear a lot about being dedicated to your marriage but nothing about the 2nd marriage.
We are in our mid- late 50’s and still struggle with the idea of what a marriage should be.
We’re both Christians and were married for 32&18 years to one person.
I never hear messages for our type of marriage.
What would you say to us?
I think your marriage could be amazingx youve has a lot of experience and you've grown and maturedx I'm quite young but would it not be the same as before❤️ the basics are still the samex
Yes, Paul often wrote, and the first 70+% of the Bible gives examples, that the marriage, in earth, is to be above all. Your kids will learn about love and themselves by watching you. Men and women tend to fight more when they compete each other with their relationships with their kids. It's awful. The Lord brings the best of the beauty of Creation through marriage, 2 becoming one. The completion of what separated from the fall.
I agree in Jesus name 🙏🙏
Husband needs to be involved with his children and wife so that his children are not consuming wife that she is exhausted and can’t be available for her husband 🤔
I knew some rebuttal would come🙄
Please listen to all the teachings before responding! He covers all of that 🙄
Listen again beginning at 16:28 minutes/seconds. Also, parenting doesn't only apply to the mother. It applies to both parents and parenting is 24/7.
Great idea but be a husband that works and fully takes care of the kids and still have a wife that's not available. You become a doormat
Start taking notes, AL Bundy
What about when you were the Christian wife who did her absolute best to lift him up even when he was being cruel and abusive? It became unbearable the things he said and did to me so after much prayer I divorced him after 25 years. He remarried 7 months later. They were having an affair. So what happens to people like me who still believe in marriage? I'm in my early 60s and am very healthy and in good shape. Will God bring me the right husband? I am not going on any dating sites.
LVNCSR
I am glad that you divorced him.
Ask God for his will and make a choice depending on you having peace in your heart or not.
LVNCSR~You did the right thing by divorcing him. You have to release men like him, they can't and won't change.
60s is still young, especially if you have a young mind and young spirit. These qualities add vitality to your life.
As far as wishing God will find you a man, God will lead the way but you also have to start moving, interacting, and socializing, for only than God can send you a man.
Lastly, take your time before investing too much time and attention in a man. In any man. By taking our time to get to know a man, we can avoid men who are not good or kind. Taking our time will reveal any red flags that will be presented in early courtship.
Wishing you all the best in dating and mingling! 👍
Hello dear sister, your story touched my heart. He did not deserve you and in the case of adultery you had the choice to divorce. The Lord wants to give you the desires of your heart and you pray for a good God fearing husband just like I did and he can bless you with one. He did it for me. Maybe you did get remarried now, but if not go on Christian Mingle that is where I met my husband and two other friends I know. God bless you!!
Am so sorry dear, but according to the Bible. God hates divorce, however one can chose to give a certificate of divorce in the issue of adultery. And He goes on to say, if any of you remarry, you are committing adultery and that is a sin against God
So, be thankful and rejoice in the Lord your God, who would you rather please yourself or God? Who would you obey, your feelings and desires or God's instructions?
Your answer would determine the state of your heart with God.
You did the right thing. I'm in the same boat except I'm 65. I have to start over, getting a job, supporting myself again. I know why God hated divorce. It's because He had to divorce Israel and He knows the pain of it. But I'm on the same page with you and trust that God will being me a love who will not abuse me. I learned to love myself and respect myself through all the abuse. God is a wonderful, forgiving, and faithful Father. I am not giving up on love.
Let us be our husbands BEST FRIENDS GOD in JESUS' NAME, AMEN!!! AND MEET EACHOTHER'S NEEDS COMPLETELY IN JESUS' NAME, AMEN!!! 💓🐇🌸💗💖💞💕💝
God made the Fork first "Man" then saw something was missing and then He made the SPOON "WOMAN" A SPOON IS MORE COMPLETE......
Gehenna has no banquet, there is no quenching no relief
I. MISS. MY. HUSBAND. SO. MUCH. AT. WHY. IM. SO. MAD
Sex and a lot of loving,and why not,when your married,even defacto
My husband says he wants a divorce every single year. He goes through a depression, he starts to feel unhappy and blames everything on me. We have been married for 7 years. We have an 8 month old daughter and I'm so tired of always giving him grace and always lifting him out of that negative space while he breaks my heart n mistreats me. He decided not to come home today. His extended family encourages him to divorce me and they always make excuses for him. Out of 13 people not 1 have ever told him to work on himself and protect his wife and daughter as he works through things. His parents are pastors, they have told him they didn't want him to marry me because I'm not black n other hateful things. I'm so hurt and angry. I want to give up but my little daughter n God encourage me to keep fighting but I just don't know that I can anymore. I am hurting staying in this marriage.
When someone abandons you, do not block the doorway they are walking out of. I pray that Jesus covers you and your baby to protect your heart and mind.
Praying for God to intervene in your husband’s life and bring revival to your marriage 🙏
What do I do when my sexual drive (as a man) has totally left me because I have been shamed into the corner with a technically correct wife all day every day for 6-7 years now. Just cant find a way to even want to be sexual and as a man thats tough !!!!
He's kinda downplaying the biblical principal of men being the servant leaders in marriage by saying husbands and wives are co-leaders so that he's less offensive to the feminist women in his audience.
I also think he's softening the concept of women having a gentle and quiet spirit by saying "Some women are just not that way and that's okay" instead of challenging them to conform more into the type of women God wants them to be like by dying to their flesh and becoming new creations in Christ. Its hard to change and the message can be offensive nowadays, but it's biblical none the less
Well.... Some people aren't that way. What you have between your legs doesn't define your personality or intelligence...
I've got $50,000 that says Jimmy Evans could NOT change the way my EX-wife thinks
He never claims to change them. God does.
Can a man love a woman he doesn't find attractive?
Can a man find a woman he loves not attractive?
@@mrs.heathergrafe4330 your question is confusing.
@@nataliasolakian6717 HA HA I kind of meant it be but what I was getting at was the idea that if we love (or decide to love) someone, then our love sort of makes them attractive to us. I think "attraction" would have to be a wholistic sort of attraction rather than merely physical. I don't really know the answers - I was just raising this idea for consideration into the discussion. My husband's looks are not what drew me to him at first... and I even know of a man (a really wise one, I'd say) who asked God to help him see a certain woman that friends/family were trying to set him up with the way that God saw her (instead of just ignoring their setup attempt) and .... and after a little while he wanted to marry her (and she accepted) and they've had a long and fruitful marriage and life together.... it was not obviously 'love or attraction at first sight' for him. I don't know. Plus I do know quite a few people who have made arranged marriages where they barely get to meet before marrying work really well and statistically arranged marriages and "love" marriages are not that different in "success" rates. So that's probably my even longer, more confusing thoughts and questions on the topic. (Smiling emoji).
If we can’t bear children for our husband does that mean our body deserves to be compared to other women’s bodies?
Absolutely not.
There's womans "argument starting logic" right there.
Is he divorced or having an affair?
CORRECTION, Sir:
UNWANTED SEX IS RAPE!
I am not a whore.
When my husband stopped doing what he did to turn me on in the beginning of our marriage, it did NOT become my obligation to be his whore.
Sex is reciprocal, not a one way street! - For the man’s pleasure and not hers!
THIS IS WRONG WRONG WRONG!!
I don't know the specifics of your marriage but in every marriage the sexual desire tends to wane after the first couple years and then it becomes effort on both of your parts to keep the romance alive. Almost EVERY woman has a lower sex drive than her man and it is very common wives to neglect the sex.
I'll bet that if I spoke to your husband he would probably say that YOU have stopped doing things that made him want to marry you also. I would not be surprised if he said that you slowed down the sex long before he stopped the romance, and then he eventually stopped the romance because he was not seeing a return on his emotional investment.
So many women pretend to be into sex more than they are, into sports more than they actually are, into politics more than they are, etc and then once they get the guy to marry them the mask comes off and the woman decides she no longer needs to pretend and stops going to games with her husband, starts getting annoyed when he talks politics, and then rejects his sexual advances WAY more often than when they were dating. And then these women act shocked that all of a sudden her man is no longer buying her flowers, opening doors for her, saying sweet words to her, giving her back rubs, etc.
I agree with you that marriage (especially the sexual relationship) is reciprocal, but sadly so many women are deluded into thinking that they contribute way more to the relationship than they actually do. A man can work overtime for three weeks straight and his wife will think that spending an extra hour to make him his favorite dinner makes them "even" in the reciprocation department. A woman has boring "obligation" sex with her man (where she does next to nothing but lay there lifeless) and all of a sudden she holds that over his head like he should be kissing her feet for a week and not ask for anything sexual for an extended period of time. If a women mops the floor her man better acknowledge it and praise her like she is superwoman, but if the man spends his entire Saturday fixing the family car then that was just his duty as man of the house and instead of praise he is likely to get an "its about time, I've been asking you to fix the noise in the car for weeks. do you even care that it could have broken down for three weeks?"
Of course I am generalizing with my examples but you get the picture.
@@tyronebiggums1047 most women or actually lesbians
Add a reply...8 Now to the unmarried Or [widowers] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
I didn't watch the sermon but I will answer the sincere answer.... Sex, sex, sex, watch sports and a beer.
Wow what a worldly point of view concerning sex! Getting the amount of sex you need? Talk about a manipulative message.so i guess ladies just give it up even if your body can’t respond cause your weak man will crumble. Yuck. How about getting educated enough to know it’s not all in a women’s head and there are reasons sometimes why this isn’t always a mind over matter mentality .
damn he looks like donald trump😁😂