Taryne I am going to be completely honest in this comment but just know this is also only my experience. I recently lost about 70 lbs over the span of the past 2 years. The significant weight loss was brought on my mental health struggles that impacted my ability to eat due to the world going to shit in 2020 lol. People did make and still make comments about how I look so much “better” now. It is astounding how out of pocket some people can be when commenting on people’s weight. I have started responding to people by looking confused and asking them “how did you expect me to respond to that?” my weight and my body regardless of its size is the least interesting thing about me. I also try to focus on the things that have improved in my life since loosing the weight, it’s much easier to shop for clothes, i don’t think about my body as much honestly which is what my new goal has become. Body neutrality. Your body doesn’t matter. It’s simply your vessel. Keep being amazing. I have balled watching some of your videos since I relate so much. I love you queen!
Remi talked about a similar topic when she was going through her weight loss journey. I remember her doing a IG social experiment and had a video talking about how she was treated differently once she lost weight. Maybe she’d be a really good person to talk with. 💜💜💜
You are not alone! I went through this exact thing. I lost a bunch of weight and everyone was saying how good I looked. And it made me TERRIFIED of ever gaining it back, so I became so rigid in my routine and obsessed with it. I’ve been working so hard on being flexible and being ok with being flexible with my workout routine and diet. It’s so hard and you’re so strong.
You are not alone, at all. You are 100% correct with all of this. Just keep doing what makes you feel good and happy. Thank you for sharing your journey. Even if you said something today that only changed the phrases that 100 people typically say about losing weight. That’s 100 times you’ve helped someone in the same position as you right now. You’ve got this! You are inspirational and I hope you keep documenting your journey for all of us who may feel very very similar
5 years ago I lost 100 pounds and I saw people change. I got treated “better”. I ended up gaining weight back with my children and I have had the hardest time trying to loose it. Not because of not being able to but because I saw the goal weight girl who wanted what society said she needed and when I look back all I see is a mentally I’ll skinny girl. Going about change in a I just want to be healthy manner is all you can do. If people change the way they treat you consider confronting it, in hopes that they won’t do it to someone else❤️ so brave for sharing!!
such a good conversation that I needed an example of since I'm always overthinking how to compliment people if that makes sense? Just that although I don't struggle with weight I want to be so aware of what people go through and how to be the most supportive friend. Thank you sis xx
I FEEEEEEEL you so hard on the “backhanded compliment” with the omg you look so good now. i’ve gotten that allllllll the time. ESPECIALLY from family. they don’t realize they’re basically just saying you were ugly before and better now. every single time i see my grandparents since i’ve lost weight it’s always within 20 seconds of me walking in the door- hey how ya doing you look fantastic, what have you been doing what have you been eating. (the worst is when my weight loss is due to my ED, lemme tell you what i’ve been eating- NOTHING)
Thank you for sharing. Cuz honestly I feel the exact same way you are. It feels good that I am not alone. Sending love! You are beautiful. And worthy of love!
Thank you for this ❤ I have had that mentality too when I try to “workout” or “eat healthier”. I get too invested and obsess over it that I stop. It is such a struggle mentally. You are beautiful ❤️ love and appreciate your realness!
You are not alone or stupid for having these worries! A few years ago I lost a significant amount of weight in a short period of time and the way people treated me changed. People had good intentions, but it really hurt me. It hurt even more when I gained some weight during the pandemic and I noticed the way I was treated change back. Thank you so much for making this video because I have often felt alone with similar feelings!
Thank you so much for sharing! Please know that you're worth is not defined by this and you are incredible. Im so glad to see you in this new place and getting back to doing things you love and I love seeing even small things like your nails painted! I can't wait to see you go through these changes and share for others who need support too
Oh honey, I completely understand what you are talking about! I have a similar experience with losing weight whilst having a past with not loving myself or with knowing that it used to affect me negatively. I get mortifed when I start to lose weight because I am scared that I will lose myself and get wrapped up in unhealthy cycles. Also as you said the societies norms of beauty and the way people act when you lose weight makes a lot harder. But I love that you are willing to keep on fighting for yourself to be you and to love you! You talking about these topics helps so many people including me to feel less alone. I hope we can do the same for you. You are a beautiful human being with a beautiful soul! Thank you for being there for us! Love you Taryne!
I’m on a similar journey as you. Keep pushing toward your goal and always remember that you are loved and so deserving of feeling so confident and at-home in your body! ❤️
Thank you so so much for sharing this. I’m actually going through a very similar phase in my life right now. I’ve been telling myself that I don’t want to start working out again because I’m afraid of what will come with potential weight loss…but I’m also tired of feeling sore/tired/unhappy in my body. I went through a large weight loss a few years ago and had all of those comments from family members. When I gained back all of the weight (and more) but was happier and was more mentally stable, they didn’t say anything. I have to remind myself that this is for me and my overall health, and not because society wants my body to be a certain shape/size. Proud of you for sharing this, and good luck on your journey!
Thank you for posting this relatable video! I am a size 16 and I had a stranger tell me on a dating site that the only long-term relationship I have been in looks like cheeseburgers, imagine that! And yes every size deserves respect and love ❤❤
Wow it’s amazing how what your saying is so deep & true. But also the only person who should feel sad or ashamed are those who want to spend time with other people for how they look instead of for who they are as a whole heart person ❤️ I’m so happy you uploaded and are sincere in this conversation.
Thank you thank you thank you for putting everything that I have been feeling into words. Im gaining it back and dysmorphia has fucked me up so bad but I am doing everything in my power to love my body in every form. thank you for your honesty. It helped me feel less alone if that make sense ♥
I've dealt with body dysmorphia for quite awhile and I just want to say that your fears and frustrations are ENTIRELY valid!! And I will definitely take note of how I compliment moving forward 🤎
Thank you for sharing! I have the same feeling about losing weight. I am terrified of people saying “you look so good!” Wondering what hideous beast they thought I looked before. I also feel you on the dating aspect. I feel that I have used my weight gain as a protective layer after getting out of a toxic relationship. I’m not sure I’m ready to give up that security blanket
As a girlie who been curvy/big girl and I lose weight in past year plus my body dismorphia I really felt the video ❤️ I just found your platform today and I really love it subscribe 🎉 love your platform and I understand these feelings and emotions 😊
You are definitely NOT stupid! I 100% understand EXACTLY how you feel. As someone who has experienced major body fluctuations and struggled with ED in the past, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I reflect got married and it caused that experience to be hard in some ways. I lost a bunch of weight in 2020. I got SO many compliments on my body over and over and over and it honestly made me feel terrible because when I started to gain the weight back, I felt like if everyone noticed my body got smaller, they will definitely notice when it gets bigger again. I have also done a lot of work to embrace my body as it is and focus on taking care of it and getting stronger rather than aesthetics. You are gorgeous no matter where you are in your body size and wonderful and not alone!
Taryne😭 thank you for talking about this topic!! i have had very similar thoughts/patterns/struggles with the way i view my body and how to heal those things while also trying to be healthy. you are such an inspiration to me in every way & i appreciate your vulnerability on topics like this!🥲🫶🏼
I'm on a very similar journey. I love watching you go through the same things I feel, you are not alone, we are not alone. We are beautiful no matter what! And I FUCKING LOVE my squishy belly, my big ass and thighs.
I love you! Hearing this, was like hearing my thoughts out loud. Keep loving yourself and remember you are not alone. I hope one day I am were you are at right now. I am proud of you and all the girls going through the same process out there!
Girl, this resonated with me. I've lost over 50 lbs since March and was told recently "your husband must really love your new body". Like yes, of course he does, but he also loved me when I was creeping up on 300 lbs, he loves me regardless of my size. Losing or gaining can be mentally and physically exhausting. I'm so proud of myself for taking action to get healthy and I'm proud of you too. 👏 Love these deep talks ❤️ Here's to a healthier us! 🥂
Thank you for sharing this with us Taryne. I’ve been struggling with the same things about my weight.. I’m scared about losing weight and become obsessed about what people think of me and how people look at me.❤ sending you all the hugs and prayers to you! Love you!
Wow that is such an insightful thing to talk about! I've always been a big girl and a piece of advice/insight coming from you who I see as a friend felt soo good. And NO you're not alone in thinking like thiss... When we've worked so hard to love a version of ourself it is but natural to feel sad when it is changing.. But as they say change is the only constant💗 I'm so proud of you for talking about such brave topics🙌🏻 You are amazing💖
i have been there, and it is such a process to work through. i would say the thing that helped the the most was to focus on how my body feels rather than the way it looks or what other people say. and i know that’s way easier said than done because i got the comments and had the thought spirals and felt so many ways. but reminding myself that i like the way i feel rather than a certain way i look helped me to stop being obsessive while still being proud of the hard work i put in to lose the weight and feel better. (less joint pain/back pain was my biggest one that i noticed but it could be anything you are working so hard to become the best, healthiest version of yourself possible, and that is so admirable. i know you’re trying to focus on that, but that lifeline was what truly saved me from spiraling super hard against everything from society and the people around me. know that i and so many other people are so proud of you for all your hard work and we see ourselves so deeply in you and your story. no matter what size you end up, you are working for your health, and that is something to be proud of. love you so much
Taryne, I hella feel you. I’m also on a health journey, and I think I’ve also identified it as fearing change. But I know it’ll be better for me health-wise too. It’s okay to embrace the journey and the gradual steps it’ll take! Thank you so much for sharing & naming how you feel! You don’t sound stupid at all! Love ya ❤️❤️❤️
I dont normally comment but you seem like such a beautiful person inside and out and I really want you to remember that the weight loss is for your health and wellness and not because current you is not good enough. You are incredible and the fact that you are scared of getting obsessive/ people changing the way they treat you shows how healthy your relationship is with your body as it is so clear that you know you are beautiful no matter the size and for this reason I have full trust that you will be ok. True friends dont care of your size/ what you look like and wouldnt give those backhanded complements and if they do I am sure it wouldnt be intentional so if you tell them this isnt helpful I am certain they will respect that. Anyone elses opinion shouldnt matter/ can be ignored. You are beautiful inside and out.
I had weightloss surgery a few years ago and lost about 100 lbs but most of it was from the preop diet. PEOPLE TREATED ME COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. It blew my mind how much nicer people were. Luckily my husband loved me through each phase of my body but I was SHOCKED at the difference. People held doors open for me and helped me when I was out shopping instead of ignoring me. I've gained back 70lbs because of my mental health and pcos and people are right back to ignoring me as if I am less than just because I'm bigger. PEOPLE SUCK. But now I'm trying to be healthy and fix my head and quit caring about what other people think.
I love you Taryne! ❤ You are beautiful in every stage of your life. You’re human and we all go through phases. Its amazing that you have positive self talk even now and that cannot he diminished. Even when you physically change, you won’t change the way you view yourself. You’re amazing and you are my hero. Thank you for sharing this, I know its not easy. You’re inspiring.
I def understand how you feel and i want you to know that you are not alone . I too think about this all the time . Im always like will people like me more if im this and that and i think i will get compliments or attention if i only look a certain way . And honestly its hard getting out of that mindset and accepting that those things will probably happen . But its inportant that you do love your body and you are taking good care of it now and i hope you will contunue doing it no metter what ❤
this hit so close to home, i've lost and gained weight a couple of times over the times and every time people comment on the way I look but this time every time I get 'compliments' on my weight loss or appearance correlated to weight loss I feel that it hits me like it hasn't before. This video helped me make sense of what i've been feeling when getting comments like this. Thank you for sharing and reinforcing the idea that i'm worth so much more than my appaerance!
I am so so so proud of where you're going and where you are in your journey. Just remember that the goal for your weightloss should be "to feel better" "to enjoy a longer life" "to breathe easier" etc. You are awesome and just remember that you got to where you are now by pushing some personal boundaries. You are still you
Thank you so much Taryne! I feel the same way and I hope I can be on the same journey as you one day but being the youngest of 8 children I am my moms therapist and I know that if I told her that I want to go to therapist she would be there asking me why and ask me what’s wrong with me and why I don’t just talk to her and I don’t want that so thank you and I can’t wait for next video!!
Is silver such a good video… I’ve had to unlearn a lot of things about my body and how it works send what the definition of health even is! So proud of you for talking about it and being vulnerable and honest! I have started to work out more because I am able to use it as a form of self-care versus a form of punishment for eating the things that I like. And it’s going really well. Weight loss isn’t my goal per se because I would become so obsessive about it in the past. Now I go to the gym to get stronger and that’s how I see it. Not to fix but to heal.
Thank you for talking about this!! I have gained weight significantly in the last yea. I have been following your journey and you have helped me so much!! I have recently been left out by my “friends” and it has been since I’ve been trying to better myself. It just doesn’t make sense… I appreciate you so much!!
All of your feelings are so valid and relatable! Unfortunately the attention and “compliments” that comes with losing weight can really mess with your mind! It will open your eyes to real friends and fake friends. Keep those who truly care about you close!
Thank you so much for sharing this video and others that are similar. You are DEFINITELY not alone and your vulnerability is inspiring because it makes people who are struggling with the same thing feel seen. I have struggled a lot with confidence in my appearance and you continuing to be real and opening up makes me feel less alone so thank you so much! ❤
For me you are beautiful just the way you are & I hope you focus continues to go on activities that make you happy. Wether it’s art and crafts or quality time with nephews and children. Or your Lego creation or if you take on painting. So right now you might make notice of who’s is not there. But instead concentrate on family and friends who are always there for you. And also start building your schedule up, make sure your day is filled with things to do that are important for you. So that when “people randomly start wanting to give you a chance that didn’t before” you can say “Sorry I’m busy” ❤️ Most of all keep enjoy yourself and your loved ones and keep enjoying you You are such a lovely human being.
This is amazing tartness you are beautiful no matter what size you are , just you be healthy and happy is what matters! I to am trying to lose weight before I get married, and I do find it also hurtful when people say things like have you lost weight or you look great tonight! Thanks for sharing this it really helped!
You just said what I’ve been trying to put into words my entire life and wow… I don’t feel so alone anymore. Thank you for sharing this. This fear is real and it’s held me down for so long… I think I just want to be loved for me and not for how I look. Our size doesn’t determine who we are! You are right on that!!! I just wish people want to love us for us and not what we look like. Ur not alone. I’m here and so many others feel the way you do. I’m crying with u rn bc I’m so alone in this hut apparently I’m not because of your video! Thank you thank you thank you! I’m praying for u!
Miss Taryne Renee, please believe me when I say you are not alone in this. You are such a positive light for sharing these struggles even if they may terrify you. I have struggled with weight my whole life and hearing that someone relates to me is so powerful❤
I couldn't relate more and had a hard time not tearing up..... I was the largest I've ever been in May. Starting doing 30 min on the Trammell everyday since then and lost 12 lbs. I am so numb to seeing that. I don't know what I'm doing and don't want to get too excited... 😕 ugh so relatable
Thank you so much! I myself is struggling to loose weight. And I am struggling with mental health aswell and I also feel so alone with this. It’s so hard but thank you so much!
As a follower of your CZcams channel and unsolicited advice, I am so happy to say that your face, your voice, and your advice are what I remember you by. As someone who also struggles with comments, or complements, what do you think is the best way to give a complement without making it seem as though they were never good enough in their past or that they were once different?
Girl, I am on the same track as you trying to lose weight and be healthy. I’m also, built bigger and that’s one of my fears as well, thank you for opening up. I hope you continue just to be healthy whether you lose more weight or not we love you 🥰❤️
Thank you for being such a good role model and inspiration! You don’t know how much your videos impact people, you have helped me feel heard and seen and not alone. You are loved and so beautiful!!
this is THE HARDEST part of losing weight! i’ve never realized other people think like this. you said so many of the things i’ve always said too. “guys like me now” “friends like me more” “people want to be in pictures with me now”. i too get obsessed with the weight loss. i lost 5 pounds why can’t i lose 5 more? and 5 more? how do i lose 5 more? if i lost this much just by doing this, what if i were to stop eating- will i lose more? turns very toxic for me too. i def need help with it. you’re not alone. thank you for making me realize i’m not alone.
Thank you for putting a serious topic out there that is often left unspoken! I have dealt with the same emotions my whole life and have struggled with not building my self worth on the way I look. Comments about weight loss can be so triggering and can make you doubt yourself and your body.. I love and support you! You’re definetly not alone with these thoughts and emotions. You are so brave for sharing and amazing when you help so many others with your videos! ❤❤❤
I myself am recovery from my ED and this is 100% how I feel. I really appreciate how vulnerable and open you are about your body and beauty. I really think this is important for everyone to see and hear. I am struggling everyday. But I am so happy and proud of you for sharing with the world this. You are not alone, and I really appreciate you identifying body neutrality/appreciation. ❤️
I could not feel more similarly. my community of friends do not understand what it feels like to fear becoming smaller and then receive attention that reinforces all the little voices in your head that said you didnt deserve that attention before. this is so real and Ive never heard someone else say it outloud so thank you!
I was diagnosed with endometriosis a few months ago, so yesterday I went to an endocrinologist to try to figure out a way to treat my periods at a hormone level. Turns out I have an enlarged thyroid and I likely have hashimotos’s. Honestly your videos have helped me over the past few months while I started this journey. Having hormone imbalances has cause me to have many issues with my weight. Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🤍🤍🤍
i can’t wait to watch this video taryne. you’re such an inspiration person and i absolutely love all of the content you make. you seem like such a lovely person. i hope you have the best day
I appreciate you for opening up about this! I have been feeling these same things for the last few years and it is good to know we are not alone in this!
You are such an inspiration to someone like me you have no idea!!!! Im so grateful for you and I'm so happy how massively you have improved your yourself and began to look after yourself and how happy you have become ❤️
I absolutely love your honesty. You are such an inspiration to so many. Love this safe space. Let me give you some advice babe. You have to do everything for YOU. You are beautiful inside and out, weight loss or weight gain. Create your own definition of beautiful. Know your worth and then add tax. As long as you are proud of YOU, that's what matters. Please also remember that slip ups do not mean failure. You are amazing either way. Glow and grow in your own light. Proud of you ❤️
Taryne, I totally understand your thoughts because that's what I've been thinking too and I wanted to share some tools that I use to help myself. 1. The future seems scarier because it has a time gap afar. So don't let yourself over worried about the future stuff, stay right in this moment, enjoy it! 2. We can't change other people's thoughts about us, but we could change how we think about ourselves. Try accept how your body changed everyday with love, see it as a healthy self without comparing it to your past. 3. Be you and be the better version of yourself for yourself. Others really don't matter. Their words and thoughts doesn't matter as long as you are happy with where you are at. Lastly, I want to congratulate YOU! Thank you for being you, wonderful person you are. Thank you for taking care of yourself and sharing your experience with us 🧡 Sending you lots and lots of LOVE! ✨ You are so loved!! You have no idea how much you've helped me!
I'm really excited you're thriving living on your own. It can be really hard to be surrounded by people who are fixated on every bite they take and workout. The world is so obsessed with looks & there's so many other ways to compliment someone that aren't about looks.
I’ve never related to a video so much in my life. I went on a weight loss “journey” 2 years ago where I lost a lot of weight fast in a very unhealthy way. People started to instantly treat me different and I was completely obsessed with my body. Since then I gained the weight back and the one thing holding me back on trying to loose weight now is becoming that person again. This was a very refreshing video to watch I can’t thank you enough for posting ❤️
I'm so proud of you ❤ because you can I know what those fears are , fears I struggle with as well you mean so much to me and have helped me except my self and love myself love you ❤😊
I’m so glad I’m not alone! Taryne, you are never alone, you have us, and you give me the motivation I need to keep going! Lately I’ve been trying to take my health serious, so I’m right here with ya! Thank you so much for being honest with us, and showing us that we are not alone! You are the safe place that I run too! Never stop being the most wonderful, gorgeous, and kind woman that you are! ❤️🥰
Sobbing. I totally understand everything you said. This was/is my mindset. When I would be the one friend not really having boyfriends and stuff and knowing that if I lost weight then the attention would come…and that’s not cool. I am more than my body. Luckily I found my husband who loved me where I was and still now. Hoping to get on this journey to get healthy for my kids. Currently pregnant with our 3rd. And I want to be around for them. You deserve it all tarynne. Thank you for sharing your story
It was absolutely so sweet and inspiring to hear you talk about yourself from a place of such love. I wish you the best of luck in your journey to finding the happiest version of yourself 🥰
GIRL you are definitely not alone in how you are feeling! We are all right here with you. Highly recommend the book “Anti-Diet” By Christine Harrison as you continue this journey.
Hey Tarynnn thank you for this video, once again, such a powerful flipping message and so so unsaid. Three things. 1. You have really pretty eyes 😂 idk i just noticed and wanted to say 2. I relate to this fear in a slightly different way. As someone that has been in traumatic relationships, I'm so scared to let myself like a guy or talk to someone despite wanting to find love. In the same way you want to look after your body, but not necessarily repeat those unhealthy thoughts that come with potentially loosing weight if that is what this journey looks like. 3. I also love what you said about loving and wanting to protect the body you have come to love now. I think we all need to find that acceptance of our own bodies because I think that's truly beautiful and tales real fricking strength in thus day and age. I really look up to you for your ever challenging mindset of wanting to love yourself more.
Your feelings are so valid! Thank you so much for sharing, Taryne. We need more real conversations like this, and you’ve created a safe space for so many people ♥️
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Taryne I am going to be completely honest in this comment but just know this is also only my experience. I recently lost about 70 lbs over the span of the past 2 years. The significant weight loss was brought on my mental health struggles that impacted my ability to eat due to the world going to shit in 2020 lol. People did make and still make comments about how I look so much “better” now. It is astounding how out of pocket some people can be when commenting on people’s weight. I have started responding to people by looking confused and asking them “how did you expect me to respond to that?” my weight and my body regardless of its size is the least interesting thing about me. I also try to focus on the things that have improved in my life since loosing the weight, it’s much easier to shop for clothes, i don’t think about my body as much honestly which is what my new goal has become. Body neutrality. Your body doesn’t matter. It’s simply your vessel. Keep being amazing. I have balled watching some of your videos since I relate so much. I love you queen!
Remi talked about a similar topic when she was going through her weight loss journey. I remember her doing a IG social experiment and had a video talking about how she was treated differently once she lost weight. Maybe she’d be a really good person to talk with. 💜💜💜
You are not alone! I went through this exact thing. I lost a bunch of weight and everyone was saying how good I looked. And it made me TERRIFIED of ever gaining it back, so I became so rigid in my routine and obsessed with it. I’ve been working so hard on being flexible and being ok with being flexible with my workout routine and diet. It’s so hard and you’re so strong.
Thank you so much for voicing things that some of us internalize bit never say out loud! You are such a blessing!
You are not alone, at all. You are 100% correct with all of this. Just keep doing what makes you feel good and happy. Thank you for sharing your journey. Even if you said something today that only changed the phrases that 100 people typically say about losing weight. That’s 100 times you’ve helped someone in the same position as you right now. You’ve got this! You are inspirational and I hope you keep documenting your journey for all of us who may feel very very similar
5 years ago I lost 100 pounds and I saw people change. I got treated “better”. I ended up gaining weight back with my children and I have had the hardest time trying to loose it. Not because of not being able to but because I saw the goal weight girl who wanted what society said she needed and when I look back all I see is a mentally I’ll skinny girl. Going about change in a I just want to be healthy manner is all you can do. If people change the way they treat you consider confronting it, in hopes that they won’t do it to someone else❤️ so brave for sharing!!
such a good conversation that I needed an example of since I'm always overthinking how to compliment people if that makes sense? Just that although I don't struggle with weight I want to be so aware of what people go through and how to be the most supportive friend. Thank you sis xx
I FEEEEEEEL you so hard on the “backhanded compliment” with the omg you look so good now. i’ve gotten that allllllll the time. ESPECIALLY from family. they don’t realize they’re basically just saying you were ugly before and better now. every single time i see my grandparents since i’ve lost weight it’s always within 20 seconds of me walking in the door- hey how ya doing you look fantastic, what have you been doing what have you been eating. (the worst is when my weight loss is due to my ED, lemme tell you what i’ve been eating- NOTHING)
Thank you for sharing. Cuz honestly I feel the exact same way you are. It feels good that I am not alone. Sending love! You are beautiful. And worthy of love!
Thank you for this ❤ I have had that mentality too when I try to “workout” or “eat healthier”. I get too invested and obsess over it that I stop. It is such a struggle mentally. You are beautiful ❤️ love and appreciate your realness!
You are not alone or stupid for having these worries! A few years ago I lost a significant amount of weight in a short period of time and the way people treated me changed. People had good intentions, but it really hurt me. It hurt even more when I gained some weight during the pandemic and I noticed the way I was treated change back. Thank you so much for making this video because I have often felt alone with similar feelings!
Thank you for being vulnerable with us Taryne. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing! Please know that you're worth is not defined by this and you are incredible. Im so glad to see you in this new place and getting back to doing things you love and I love seeing even small things like your nails painted! I can't wait to see you go through these changes and share for others who need support too
You go girl, whatever makes you feel confident because losing weight or not you are beautiful, and that’s a journey you take for yourself.
Thank you for sharing, I am currently working through these feelings and thoughts as well. It’s nice to know I’m not alone 💕
Oh honey, I completely understand what you are talking about! I have a similar experience with losing weight whilst having a past with not loving myself or with knowing that it used to affect me negatively. I get mortifed when I start to lose weight because I am scared that I will lose myself and get wrapped up in unhealthy cycles. Also as you said the societies norms of beauty and the way people act when you lose weight makes a lot harder. But I love that you are willing to keep on fighting for yourself to be you and to love you! You talking about these topics helps so many people including me to feel less alone. I hope we can do the same for you. You are a beautiful human being with a beautiful soul! Thank you for being there for us! Love you Taryne!
I’m on a similar journey as you. Keep pushing toward your goal and always remember that you are loved and so deserving of feeling so confident and at-home in your body! ❤️
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Thank you so so much for sharing this. I’m actually going through a very similar phase in my life right now. I’ve been telling myself that I don’t want to start working out again because I’m afraid of what will come with potential weight loss…but I’m also tired of feeling sore/tired/unhappy in my body. I went through a large weight loss a few years ago and had all of those comments from family members. When I gained back all of the weight (and more) but was happier and was more mentally stable, they didn’t say anything. I have to remind myself that this is for me and my overall health, and not because society wants my body to be a certain shape/size. Proud of you for sharing this, and good luck on your journey!
Thank you for posting this relatable video! I am a size 16 and I had a stranger tell me on a dating site that the only long-term relationship I have been in looks like cheeseburgers, imagine that! And yes every size deserves respect and love ❤❤
Wow it’s amazing how what your saying is so deep & true. But also the only person who should feel sad or ashamed are those who want to spend time with other people for how they look instead of for who they are as a whole heart person ❤️ I’m so happy you uploaded and are sincere in this conversation.
Thank you for sharing this❤️We are not defined by our weight and I loved hearing you affirm this.
Thank you thank you thank you for putting everything that I have been feeling into words. Im gaining it back and dysmorphia has fucked me up so bad but I am doing everything in my power to love my body in every form. thank you for your honesty. It helped me feel less alone if that make sense ♥
I've dealt with body dysmorphia for quite awhile and I just want to say that your fears and frustrations are ENTIRELY valid!! And I will definitely take note of how I compliment moving forward 🤎
This truly is what I needed today, body dysmorphiais so real. Thank you Taryne, I LOVE YOU ❤️
Thank you for sharing! I have the same feeling about losing weight. I am terrified of people saying “you look so good!” Wondering what hideous beast they thought I looked before. I also feel you on the dating aspect. I feel that I have used my weight gain as a protective layer after getting out of a toxic relationship. I’m not sure I’m ready to give up that security blanket
As a girlie who been curvy/big girl and I lose weight in past year plus my body dismorphia I really felt the video ❤️ I just found your platform today and I really love it subscribe 🎉 love your platform and I understand these feelings and emotions 😊
You are definitely NOT stupid! I 100% understand EXACTLY how you feel. As someone who has experienced major body fluctuations and struggled with ED in the past, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I reflect got married and it caused that experience to be hard in some ways. I lost a bunch of weight in 2020. I got SO many compliments on my body over and over and over and it honestly made me feel terrible because when I started to gain the weight back, I felt like if everyone noticed my body got smaller, they will definitely notice when it gets bigger again. I have also done a lot of work to embrace my body as it is and focus on taking care of it and getting stronger rather than aesthetics. You are gorgeous no matter where you are in your body size and wonderful and not alone!
Taryne😭 thank you for talking about this topic!! i have had very similar thoughts/patterns/struggles with the way i view my body and how to heal those things while also trying to be healthy. you are such an inspiration to me in every way & i appreciate your vulnerability on topics like this!🥲🫶🏼
I'm on a very similar journey. I love watching you go through the same things I feel, you are not alone, we are not alone. We are beautiful no matter what! And I FUCKING LOVE my squishy belly, my big ass and thighs.
I love you! Hearing this, was like hearing my thoughts out loud. Keep loving yourself and remember you are not alone. I hope one day I am were you are at right now. I am proud of you and all the girls going through the same process out there!
Girl, this resonated with me. I've lost over 50 lbs since March and was told recently "your husband must really love your new body". Like yes, of course he does, but he also loved me when I was creeping up on 300 lbs, he loves me regardless of my size. Losing or gaining can be mentally and physically exhausting. I'm so proud of myself for taking action to get healthy and I'm proud of you too. 👏 Love these deep talks ❤️ Here's to a healthier us! 🥂
queen!! thank you so much for making this video! i really needed to hear this! you are so wise and i’m obsessed with the pod and your channel
Thank you for sharing this with us Taryne. I’ve been struggling with the same things about my weight.. I’m scared about losing weight and become obsessed about what people think of me and how people look at me.❤ sending you all the hugs and prayers to you! Love you!
Wow that is such an insightful thing to talk about! I've always been a big girl and a piece of advice/insight coming from you who I see as a friend felt soo good. And NO you're not alone in thinking like thiss... When we've worked so hard to love a version of ourself it is but natural to feel sad when it is changing.. But as they say change is the only constant💗
I'm so proud of you for talking about such brave topics🙌🏻
You are amazing💖
i have been there, and it is such a process to work through. i would say the thing that helped the the most was to focus on how my body feels rather than the way it looks or what other people say. and i know that’s way easier said than done because i got the comments and had the thought spirals and felt so many ways. but reminding myself that i like the way i feel rather than a certain way i look helped me to stop being obsessive while still being proud of the hard work i put in to lose the weight and feel better. (less joint pain/back pain was my biggest one that i noticed but it could be anything
you are working so hard to become the best, healthiest version of yourself possible, and that is so admirable. i know you’re trying to focus on that, but that lifeline was what truly saved me from spiraling super hard against everything from society and the people around me. know that i and so many other people are so proud of you for all your hard work and we see ourselves so deeply in you and your story. no matter what size you end up, you are working for your health, and that is something to be proud of. love you so much
Taryne can we talk about how pretty you are lookingg... literally glowing✨🥰
Taryne, I hella feel you. I’m also on a health journey, and I think I’ve also identified it as fearing change. But I know it’ll be better for me health-wise too. It’s okay to embrace the journey and the gradual steps it’ll take! Thank you so much for sharing & naming how you feel! You don’t sound stupid at all! Love ya ❤️❤️❤️
I dont normally comment but you seem like such a beautiful person inside and out and I really want you to remember that the weight loss is for your health and wellness and not because current you is not good enough. You are incredible and the fact that you are scared of getting obsessive/ people changing the way they treat you shows how healthy your relationship is with your body as it is so clear that you know you are beautiful no matter the size and for this reason I have full trust that you will be ok. True friends dont care of your size/ what you look like and wouldnt give those backhanded complements and if they do I am sure it wouldnt be intentional so if you tell them this isnt helpful I am certain they will respect that. Anyone elses opinion shouldnt matter/ can be ignored. You are beautiful inside and out.
I had weightloss surgery a few years ago and lost about 100 lbs but most of it was from the preop diet. PEOPLE TREATED ME COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. It blew my mind how much nicer people were. Luckily my husband loved me through each phase of my body but I was SHOCKED at the difference. People held doors open for me and helped me when I was out shopping instead of ignoring me. I've gained back 70lbs because of my mental health and pcos and people are right back to ignoring me as if I am less than just because I'm bigger. PEOPLE SUCK. But now I'm trying to be healthy and fix my head and quit caring about what other people think.
I love you Taryne! ❤ You are beautiful in every stage of your life. You’re human and we all go through phases. Its amazing that you have positive self talk even now and that cannot he diminished. Even when you physically change, you won’t change the way you view yourself. You’re amazing and you are my hero. Thank you for sharing this, I know its not easy. You’re inspiring.
I def understand how you feel and i want you to know that you are not alone . I too think about this all the time . Im always like will people like me more if im this and that and i think i will get compliments or attention if i only look a certain way . And honestly its hard getting out of that mindset and accepting that those things will probably happen . But its inportant that you do love your body and you are taking good care of it now and i hope you will contunue doing it no metter what ❤
you put into perfect words exactly what i struggle with. thank you for creating a safe space.
You are AMAZING. I can relate sooooo much.
Thank you for talking about this. I hope you enjoy your journey. You’re beautiful ❤
Thank you for bringing great insight to this. From the heart with vulnerability. Moved by your courage.
You are beautiful the way you are gurl!! Beautiful inside and outside!! Love u my love!!! Best of the best ♥️♥️
this hit so close to home, i've lost and gained weight a couple of times over the times and every time people comment on the way I look but this time every time I get 'compliments' on my weight loss or appearance correlated to weight loss I feel that it hits me like it hasn't before. This video helped me make sense of what i've been feeling when getting comments like this. Thank you for sharing and reinforcing the idea that i'm worth so much more than my appaerance!
I am so so so proud of where you're going and where you are in your journey. Just remember that the goal for your weightloss should be "to feel better" "to enjoy a longer life" "to breathe easier" etc. You are awesome and just remember that you got to where you are now by pushing some personal boundaries. You are still you
Thank you so much Taryne! I feel the same way and I hope I can be on the same journey as you one day but being the youngest of 8 children I am my moms therapist and I know that if I told her that I want to go to therapist she would be there asking me why and ask me what’s wrong with me and why I don’t just talk to her and I don’t want that so thank you and I can’t wait for next video!!
Is silver such a good video… I’ve had to unlearn a lot of things about my body and how it works send what the definition of health even is! So proud of you for talking about it and being vulnerable and honest! I have started to work out more because I am able to use it as a form of self-care versus a form of punishment for eating the things that I like. And it’s going really well. Weight loss isn’t my goal per se because I would become so obsessive about it in the past. Now I go to the gym to get stronger and that’s how I see it. Not to fix but to heal.
Thank you for talking about this!! I have gained weight significantly in the last yea. I have been following your journey and you have helped me so much!!
I have recently been left out by my “friends” and it has been since I’ve been trying to better myself. It just doesn’t make sense… I appreciate you so much!!
Thank you so much Taryne. This video helped me so much. Thank you for everything you do. Slay queen! ❤️👑
I related to this video so much! Thank you for being so real and honest❤️
thank you for this!!!! I really relate to this a lot and I totally agree that we should talk about this more. Continue loving yourself at all times ❤
You are such a beautiful person and I LOVE that you have the confidence to talk about this 💕
All valid feelings thank you so much for sharing. I know this will help society move past correlating size and health.
All of your feelings are so valid and relatable! Unfortunately the attention and “compliments” that comes with losing weight can really mess with your mind! It will open your eyes to real friends and fake friends. Keep those who truly care about you close!
Thank you so much for sharing this video and others that are similar. You are DEFINITELY not alone and your vulnerability is inspiring because it makes people who are struggling with the same thing feel seen. I have struggled a lot with confidence in my appearance and you continuing to be real and opening up makes me feel less alone so thank you so much! ❤
For me you are beautiful just the way you are & I hope you focus continues to go on activities that make you happy. Wether it’s art and crafts or quality time with nephews and children. Or your Lego creation or if you take on painting. So right now you might make notice of who’s is not there. But instead concentrate on family and friends who are always there for you. And also start building your schedule up, make sure your day is filled with things to do that are important for you. So that when “people randomly start wanting to give you a chance that didn’t before” you can say “Sorry I’m busy” ❤️ Most of all keep enjoy yourself and your loved ones and keep enjoying you You are such a lovely human being.
This is amazing tartness you are beautiful no matter what size you are , just you be healthy and happy is what matters! I to am trying to lose weight before I get married, and I do find it also hurtful when people say things like have you lost weight or you look great tonight! Thanks for sharing this it really helped!
You just said what I’ve been trying to put into words my entire life and wow… I don’t feel so alone anymore. Thank you for sharing this. This fear is real and it’s held me down for so long… I think I just want to be loved for me and not for how I look. Our size doesn’t determine who we are! You are right on that!!! I just wish people want to love us for us and not what we look like. Ur not alone. I’m here and so many others feel the way you do. I’m crying with u rn bc I’m so alone in this hut apparently I’m not because of your video! Thank you thank you thank you! I’m praying for u!
Miss Taryne Renee, please believe me when I say you are not alone in this. You are such a positive light for sharing these struggles even if they may terrify you. I have struggled with weight my whole life and hearing that someone relates to me is so powerful❤
I couldn't relate more and had a hard time not tearing up..... I was the largest I've ever been in May. Starting doing 30 min on the Trammell everyday since then and lost 12 lbs. I am so numb to seeing that. I don't know what I'm doing and don't want to get too excited... 😕 ugh so relatable
Thank you so much! I myself is struggling to loose weight. And I am struggling with mental health aswell and I also feel so alone with this. It’s so hard but thank you so much!
As a follower of your CZcams channel and unsolicited advice, I am so happy to say that your face, your voice, and your advice are what I remember you by. As someone who also struggles with comments, or complements, what do you think is the best way to give a complement without making it seem as though they were never good enough in their past or that they were once different?
Thank you for creating this safe space - I hope you know how much this resonates with so many of us
Girl, I am on the same track as you trying to lose weight and be healthy. I’m also, built bigger and that’s one of my fears as well, thank you for opening up. I hope you continue just to be healthy whether you lose more weight or not we love you 🥰❤️
Thank you for being such a good role model and inspiration! You don’t know how much your videos impact people, you have helped me feel heard and seen and not alone. You are loved and so beautiful!!
this is THE HARDEST part of losing weight! i’ve never realized other people think like this. you said so many of the things i’ve always said too. “guys like me now” “friends like me more” “people want to be in pictures with me now”. i too get obsessed with the weight loss. i lost 5 pounds why can’t i lose 5 more? and 5 more? how do i lose 5 more? if i lost this much just by doing this, what if i were to stop eating- will i lose more? turns very toxic for me too. i def need help with it. you’re not alone. thank you for making me realize i’m not alone.
Thank you for putting a serious topic out there that is often left unspoken! I have dealt with the same emotions my whole life and have struggled with not building my self worth on the way I look. Comments about weight loss can be so triggering and can make you doubt yourself and your body.. I love and support you! You’re definetly not alone with these thoughts and emotions. You are so brave for sharing and amazing when you help so many others with your videos! ❤❤❤
This is exactly how I've felt on my journey. Especially about the "complements" (they're not), and the guys talking to me and "friends"
I myself am recovery from my ED and this is 100% how I feel. I really appreciate how vulnerable and open you are about your body and beauty. I really think this is important for everyone to see and hear. I am struggling everyday. But I am so happy and proud of you for sharing with the world this. You are not alone, and I really appreciate you identifying body neutrality/appreciation. ❤️
You are amazing Taryne! Thank you for your vulnerability.
I could not feel more similarly. my community of friends do not understand what it feels like to fear becoming smaller and then receive attention that reinforces all the little voices in your head that said you didnt deserve that attention before. this is so real and Ive never heard someone else say it outloud so thank you!
I was diagnosed with endometriosis a few months ago, so yesterday I went to an endocrinologist to try to figure out a way to treat my periods at a hormone level. Turns out I have an enlarged thyroid and I likely have hashimotos’s. Honestly your videos have helped me over the past few months while I started this journey. Having hormone imbalances has cause me to have many issues with my weight. Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🤍🤍🤍
I totally understand you @ 4:22
i can’t wait to watch this video taryne. you’re such an inspiration person and i absolutely love all of the content you make. you seem like such a lovely person. i hope you have the best day
I appreciate you for opening up about this! I have been feeling these same things for the last few years and it is good to know we are not alone in this!
You are such an inspiration to someone like me you have no idea!!!! Im so grateful for you and I'm so happy how massively you have improved your yourself and began to look after yourself and how happy you have become ❤️
You are not alone in anyway! I love your videos and I’m so happy that you show how REAL of a person you are. ❤
I absolutely love your honesty. You are such an inspiration to so many. Love this safe space. Let me give you some advice babe. You have to do everything for YOU. You are beautiful inside and out, weight loss or weight gain. Create your own definition of beautiful. Know your worth and then add tax. As long as you are proud of YOU, that's what matters. Please also remember that slip ups do not mean failure. You are amazing either way. Glow and grow in your own light. Proud of you ❤️
Taryne, I totally understand your thoughts because that's what I've been thinking too and I wanted to share some tools that I use to help myself.
1. The future seems scarier because it has a time gap afar. So don't let yourself over worried about the future stuff, stay right in this moment, enjoy it!
2. We can't change other people's thoughts about us, but we could change how we think about ourselves. Try accept how your body changed everyday with love, see it as a healthy self without comparing it to your past.
3. Be you and be the better version of yourself for yourself. Others really don't matter. Their words and thoughts doesn't matter as long as you are happy with where you are at.
Lastly, I want to congratulate YOU! Thank you for being you, wonderful person you are. Thank you for taking care of yourself and sharing your experience with us 🧡 Sending you lots and lots of LOVE! ✨ You are so loved!! You have no idea how much you've helped me!
Thanks for sharing❤️ love you
I'm really excited you're thriving living on your own. It can be really hard to be surrounded by people who are fixated on every bite they take and workout. The world is so obsessed with looks & there's so many other ways to compliment someone that aren't about looks.
I’ve never related to a video so much in my life. I went on a weight loss “journey” 2 years ago where I lost a lot of weight fast in a very unhealthy way. People started to instantly treat me different and I was completely obsessed with my body. Since then I gained the weight back and the one thing holding me back on trying to loose weight now is becoming that person again. This was a very refreshing video to watch I can’t thank you enough for posting ❤️
Keep up the fantastic work and continue inspiring others on their own fitness journeys. You're an inspiration!🥰🤗
I'm so proud of you ❤ because you can I know what those fears are , fears I struggle with as well you mean so much to me and have helped me except my self and love myself love you ❤😊
I’m so glad I’m not alone! Taryne, you are never alone, you have us, and you give me the motivation I need to keep going! Lately I’ve been trying to take my health serious, so I’m right here with ya! Thank you so much for being honest with us, and showing us that we are not alone! You are the safe place that I run too! Never stop being the most wonderful, gorgeous, and kind woman that you are! ❤️🥰
Sobbing. I totally understand everything you said. This was/is my mindset. When I would be the one friend not really having boyfriends and stuff and knowing that if I lost weight then the attention would come…and that’s not cool. I am more than my body. Luckily I found my husband who loved me where I was and still now. Hoping to get on this journey to get healthy for my kids. Currently pregnant with our 3rd. And I want to be around for them. You deserve it all tarynne. Thank you for sharing your story
It was absolutely so sweet and inspiring to hear you talk about yourself from a place of such love. I wish you the best of luck in your journey to finding the happiest version of yourself 🥰
GIRL you are definitely not alone in how you are feeling! We are all right here with you. Highly recommend the book “Anti-Diet” By Christine Harrison as you continue this journey.
Hey Tarynnn thank you for this video, once again, such a powerful flipping message and so so unsaid. Three things. 1. You have really pretty eyes 😂 idk i just noticed and wanted to say
2. I relate to this fear in a slightly different way. As someone that has been in traumatic relationships, I'm so scared to let myself like a guy or talk to someone despite wanting to find love. In the same way you want to look after your body, but not necessarily repeat those unhealthy thoughts that come with potentially loosing weight if that is what this journey looks like.
3. I also love what you said about loving and wanting to protect the body you have come to love now. I think we all need to find that acceptance of our own bodies because I think that's truly beautiful and tales real fricking strength in thus day and age. I really look up to you for your ever challenging mindset of wanting to love yourself more.
You are not alone! You are so brave. Keep inspiring other ❤️
Your feelings are so valid! Thank you so much for sharing, Taryne. We need more real conversations like this, and you’ve created a safe space for so many people ♥️
You’re amazing!!!!❤
So enjoyed and appreciated this! Keep using your voice! ❤
You’re so brave for doing this video! 🙌🏼Sending you a virtual hug…also, your eyelashes look great! 😍 What mascara is that?
Thank you, this was so helpful for me today ❤