I'm 26, almost 27, and this hits home for me as a virgin. For me, I just haven't met the right guy yet. It is hard not to compare yourself to your friends and family, as I am currently the only one I know personally who is single and a virgin. I only dated one guy in high school, really really liked a guy who didn't like me back during university, and I have been on multiple first dates where nothing stuck for me. My dad even asked "what's going on" when it came to the topic of boyfriends, as if to say "what's wrong"...it is hard to be the black sheep of the family and my friend circle. Usually, being in a relationship means you are lovable...so if you aren't in one(especially for a long time like me ~10 years) it REALLY starts hitting your confidence, prompting the question of "whats wrong with me"...but I have learnt that comparing leads to unhappiness. No, I'm not waiting for marriage to do it. I just want a man who I like and likes me back, and who I can trust. And in this day and age it is VERY hard to find the right fit. Just remember - you don't NEED a man to feel complete. :)
I feel you so much.. I've had similar story of having only 1 boyfriend in high school and being single afterwards until I was 25 (7 years hehe). And unfortunately I was asked a lot of that "what's wrong" questions vibe and I never knew what to answer since nothing was wrong there was just not any right man for me. But I always wanted to share love with someone.. I found the man when I started living my fullest, the best live I could have ever imagined. Taking risks, being courage, following my dreams, making my dreams come true, finding the bestes of the bestes friends I was only dreaming about. And here he came) We are happily together for a year now. Truly believe that the one comes (in older years), when you learn how to create the best for yourself and find true happiness. Oh, and BTW, he was absolutely in love with the idea that I was a virgin. He was absolutely amazed and respectful, never pushed me to do anything. So, just for the record, right guy will never think you are weird, on contrary will think you are special 💖
I'm in exactly the same situation so I totally understand what you're saying 😊 It's not that it's a choice, I just haven't met anyone I trust that much to take that step with.
Well for me its a matter of religion so its a choice that i made but being almost 27 people still ask me what’s wrong and when am gettin married? As for men who i date or talk to bout this subject , they think im old school or they just never reply back.considered going to a therapist once but then im like whatever, i dont need no man (i sometimes wish i have one😂)
"I hope this was something to someone" Girl this was a lot to me. It feels great to hear someone give power to something that's usually so hidden by embarrassment. Thank you❤
You have no idea how much this means to me! As a gen z (21 yo) I feel like it’s so pressured for me to have $ex and that I’m old for a virgin. People pressure me A LOT to have $ex because they had $ex at age 15, 16, and 17. But the thing is, I’m not going to do it if I’m not comfortable AND/OR if I’m not ready!! Seeing this video has made me feel so much better about myself and that I’m still me, virgin or not. Thank you💜
I'm 22 feel that pressure...I also think I feel the hormones too because I am interested in...having one day...so the hormones kick in during that time of the month HARD 😅
Girl! I’m 35 and I’m a virgin! I’ve had guys from online dating, as soon as they start hinting at sex, which they usually try to do within a week… I immediately tell them I’m not sleeping with you. They usually ghost me a day later.
I'm 28 and still a virgin and waiting for marriage. I feel like a lot of people don't talk about it because there are certain people who shame you for it. Especially guys, and alot of girls hide that. That's also why I'm single cause I feel like I won't find a guy who shares the same choice as me. Unfortunately we currently live in the hookup culture and I hate it.
I lost my V card to my now husband when we were engaged. The females in my family always says "you poor thing" because I've only been with one guy. MY. FAMILY. Not even my friends. My friends think it's romantic. I don't care what anyone thinks, I love that he's the only man I have been with. And I only did it because he was the only man who truly made me feel comfortable and I knew I was going to be with him forever. 13 years and we are still going strong!
it is so comforting to have an influencer that you admire have the same mindset as you on this topic. i love that i am waiting for marriage but it is something that i always think other people will look at as a negative thing. i appreciate how open you are about your faith and your life decisions ❤️❤️
It’s so so refreshing. I’m waiting for marriage and going into college In the fall. Both my boyfriend and I (we have been together for 4 years) are waiting for marriage and we get asked about it ALL THE TIME. He has even been called “not a real man” because he is a virgin.
Thank you for sharing! Seriously. I’m 24 and chose to wait till marriage and I have ZERO regrets. It was SUCH a struggle and I definitely know how it feels to become interested in a guy, then share that I was saving that for marriage and then they seem to lose interest. It was so hard and challenging to navigate through that and those feelings of disappointment but also the feeling of feeling that you are alone forever and never going to find anyone that respects that or maybe even also chooses that. After a terrible season of awful guys and terrible dates…. I stopped dating and then I met my husband… who was also choosing that but also respected boundaries I set in all different forms. It. Was. So. So. So. Worth. It. Was it hard? Absolutely. But 10000000% worth it and I have zero regrets. Be PROUD of who you are and make choices that make YOU proud and happy to be you. Don’t ever let someone peer pressure you into anything no matter what it is! Taryne, THANK YOU for helping those of us that are also choosing that and bringing awareness to it because it shouldn’t be something we feel bad about or feel “less than” just because we choose something. You’re amazing!!!!
Yes! I’m a Christian too and I’ve been raised with that same idea too, where waiting for marriage you are giving yourself fully to that person forever. There’s a true value in waiting because you’re being United into one in Christ, therefore waiting until marriage. So I’d rather wait and find that person God made for me that is also a Christian and we can raise our kids to love Jesus.
As someone who has never been in a relationship before thank you for speaking about this. When the time is right and I do find someone I will definitely voice my opinion and won't be scared or ashamed of it! THANK YOU QUEEN TARYNE ❤️🔥❤️🔥🥰🥰
My husband and I wanted to wait until marriage. We just so happened to both be virgins, we didn’t decide to not do it because of each other but for ourselves. I was always open about it. But now as a younger wife people look at my husband and I different. The fact that they think we’ve only been like that with one person it’s “you haven’t explored your options”. It’s tabu to be a virgin and wait but it’s a beautiful thing for the reason you said. You are giving yourself away to one person and one person only.
This was so inspiring ,thank you😍 As a Christian girl is so amazing to see people like you that don't care and are not afraid to stand in what they believe 💖🙏👏
I already have so much respect for you but after watching this video I grew to appreciate you even more , I'm a Muslim and not waiting tell marriage is a sin for the exact reasons you mentioned , it takes so much discipline to not do things that are within your reach . Thanks for sharing
after watching: the unspoken feeling that you should “keep up” with your friends and peers who are sleeping around and doing certain things is SOOO real. and it’s so not worth it! thank you Taryne for inspiring me to make decisions that reflect what I want and not what I feel like I “should” be doing❤️❤️❤️
When my fiancé and I first started dating I was nervous he would judge me for being a virgin at 23. Little did I know he was also waiting for marriage and was nervous what my reaction would be too lol I’ve second guessed why I waited and thought I should just get it over with with someone but now I’m so thankful I didn’t. We still decided to waiting till we’re married, but religious reasons aside, its just so meaningful knowing we get explore that part of our relationship together on our own time.
Thank you for continuing to be so open, honest and authentic with us all!! Your devotion to how you've decided to live your life is inspiring!! Blessings and light! 👏🏼💛
Taryne thank you for making this video. Like you said it’s a narrative that’s not talked about enough. I so often see that to glow up means wearing less clothes and hooking up with people or needing to have a “hoe phase”. Which love that for them and they’re feeling confident to be themselves, but I was feeling bad about myself because that doesn’t fit with who I am and I was trying to change myself. I love how you show there’s different ways to feel confident and that we should feel confident if we’re waiting, it’s not something to be ashamed of.
wow thank you for this. as a 35yro virgin who still feels ashamed from time to time, at the point where most people in my life don't know that I am one, this gives me so much perspective. I've never thought about WHY I never had sex really, and I'm finding so much of my truth in what you're saying (I have attachment issues as well 😅) I guess I just got to the point where I'm like I must be afraid of it 🤷🏻♀️ or i find it's somehow too much for me. but anyway who knows what the future will hold ❤️
love you talking about this! definitely not as an easy conversation but i know so many of us are so grateful to hear your story and experience with this 💗
U just summed up my life in a video, u don’t even know how much that video will help so many other people including me! And girl i can relate! Hard to b in a relationship but i dont care, im happy with myself till that moment comes 😋
I never comment on videos but oh my goodness Taryn this is so beautiful! I’ve struggled with this too in the past and it’s taken me so long to get to this point of not being ashamed of what other people think and being confident with this decision. It is so encouraging to have someone like you being so vulnerable on this topic and I’m sure that so many girls will benefit from your honesty ❤️ God bless you
I love this. Thank you for this, Taryne. I've had two serious relationships in my life. I've slept with both of the guys. I ended up getting my heart broken badly but both of them. From now on, I want to make a promise to myself to wait until marriage.
I started watching because I loved how you were so authentically yourself in vlogs with Ashley and Alisha. You are now one of my favorite CZcamsrs because you are so incredibly relatable and make me feel seen in so many ways. This video was no different. Though I may not have made the same choice for myself, I respect you and everyone else who chooses this path💕
This honestly hit home and i thank you for making this video. I’m 28 and i have had one bf back in high school and havent really met anybody thats liked me back, and honestly I’ve always felt left out because of it. I know its not a big deal but when youre the only one in your friend group it kind of sucks. My love language is also touch so all the time im with somebody i always have to hold myself back. I’m so glad i clicked on this video it makes me feel good knowing im not the only one that felt this way. I’m waiting for the right guy to come along and make it all worth it mainly so im not just another notch under somebody’s belt. This video makes me feel so much better so thank you
I love this video because I relate to it so much. I’m 25 and still a virgin, like sex was something that has never been not a top priority for me like I remember through High school and university I would be surrounded by so many friends and other people who would be getting into relationships and even sometimes in university my roommates would almost be trying to pressure me into finding like a hookup but for me I never was about the hookup culture because I have a similar view of wanting to wait for the right person like the thought of just losing my virginity to a random person never sat right with me. I’m now currently in a relationship and coming up on 2 and a half years and my bf is very supportive of my decision especially cause he’s in the same boat as me where even being in past relationships he never fully committed to someone and that not rushing into sex is something we can agree on and just let it happen naturally whether that is before marriage or not. I definitely always struggled with this topic around so many cause it’s something i felt others would put me down for which shouldn’t be the case but I’m glad that you made this video cause it’s definitely something I wish more would talk about more and that it all is personal preference😊
I have so much respect for virgin's being one myself 😅❤. We have a superpower no one else has and that's abstaining instant pleasure or societal expectations . Being patient is the skill we've mastered that most cannot.
At the 6 min mark I'm like yesssss girl preach!!!! I lost my virginity at 25 and felt so weird and felt alone and now at 36 i am glad I waited and am not with the person I lost it to but I was trusting of him. It's all different for people and you should never judge why someone is waiting. Now I'm with someone and set the boundary that it won't happen until I am very deeply emotionally open and bonded with him. Boundaries are huge. Thank you for sharing 💕💕
Taryne you are an absolute angel for sharing this video! I sobbed and smiled for the wonderful message you blessed us with! I feel heard and I can’t Thankyou enough for that! ❤️❤️
Absolutely love this! It’s something that always felt embarrassing for honestly no reason!! Everyone in highschool and college made it such a causal thing that honestly confused me and made me embarrassed about being a virgin.. i was in a relationship for years and something always gave me an off feeling that i always shook off as nerves and feeling guilty due to religious reasons but after leaving that relationship and being with my now husband i realized that i wasn’t really comfortable with that person.. my husband made me feel safe and truly beautiful and loved and it just felt natural… i was scared to tell him frankly but he was so supportive and it makes me so happy to be married to the person i really gave myself and heart too ❤️
Taryne, you just continuously impress me as a human ♥️ You are an incredibly special spirit. Thank you for sharing this for so many young women out there.
I love this new narrative. You’re right, society has so many opinions on the opposition. It’s so nice for your younger followers can see that, this is also normal. ♥️ I respect your choice and I respect you for how hard this video must have been. ♥️♥️♥️
My husband and I waited until marriage. I was 30 and he was 24. We talk all the time about how right it was for us individually and for us as a couple. While it was not a popular choice in culture and it was a difficult discipline, it was right for us. If this is what you want for your relationship and for your future marriage, do you! Thank you for your genuine honesty! Love your videos Taryne!
Good for you on your deciding what you wanted and sticking to it!! Its your body and your decision and it should be respected. It shows that you KNOW your worth! I am so happy you made this video because there are so many young girls out there who are feeling the pressures. With this video you are letting them know what they decide is okay as well as letting them know that they are worth it. I have a friend who is 48 and a virgin. She even has a daughter (invetro) and regrets nothing. Every person has the right to know its THEIR choice and not to let anyone push you into something you arent ready for...
I’m 30 and I’m a virgin, grew up in a very religious family, so till like 26 I was waiting for marriage. Now I just don’t want to have any shitty random fuck experience. Also, I’m done waiting for Prince Charming and going to do a procedure to have kids just for myself next month. It will be so surreal to be a virgin mom 😅 but whatever, I don’t feel like fucking a random dude in a club. I just physically can’t imagine stranger getting so intimately with me so quickly. Thanks for your video! It was so brave to share! I honestly thought I’m the last virgin person at my age group. And it’s so fulfilling to find out I’m not alone ❤
Thank you sooo much for this video! I was contemplating writing in to your podcast about this topic, but I didn't think this is a topic that a lot of people need advice on. I am 24, have been single my whole life and I am a virgin. I am not saving myself for marriage but the opportunity was just not there yet. I have been on dates, but I just haven't met a guy that I clicked with. Generally, I am okay with that and I really enjoy traveling, hanging out with friends, killing it at university and I just love creating a happy life for myself. I am mostly starting to doubt myself and feel down about it when other people bring it up, they start telling me that they feel sorry for me or when I start comparing myself to others. So it feels so good to see that others are on the same path as me. I know my - and our - time will come. Everything happens for a reason and is just leading us to our person! Thank you again for making this video, I think it is so necessary to start talking about this topic!
taryn I appreciate this so much. Thank you for being yourself. Imagine a world where people can share their experiences without shedding judgment on others. My experiences don't discount yours, just as yours don't discount mine. I love you!
I’m 28 and waiting for marriage best decision I ever made. I’m getting married in august and I’m so glad I made that promise to myself and to God to wait 💕so glad you shared your stoyr
My husband and I waited for marriage and got made fun of so much for it. We just wanted to honor Christ in our relationship and give ourselves fully to our future spouse whether that would be each other or not. It’s so worth the wait and don’t ever let anybody pressure you into something you don’t wanna do!
I thought I was the only one that felt the way you do. I thought I was alone. Thank you so much for expressing yourself and being unapologetically you Taryne!!! 💚
I am watching this for the first time and I love that you were able to make this video. Congratulations for overcoming the feeling of societal shame! I agree with everything you say is this video!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU so much for this video. I am so happy you have spoken on this as I feel the same and almost wrong for doing so with societies pressures. This video helped me so much and got me questioning my values and what I want. You are truly amazing xxxx
This is refreshing!! I have a kid so obviously I am not a virgin. BUT there are so many women that are and I love that you're open about this and allowing a safe space.
Yooo I am so glad you put this out there Taryne! ♥️ I had my first kiss last year at 28, and now that I have a serious relationship (with my first kiss ☺️) I have made it clear I am waiting for marriage. I am religious, but it also comes from me asking myself the question, "what do I want to save for my husband only, as a way to honor the commitment of marriage and honor myself?" The answer was "no business below the waist." So we're hanging in there and I think we're on track to be married eventually, but our intimacy exists in so many other forms! Emotional, mental, physical via kissing and cuddling. It's the best!
I felt this way too, I was waiting for marriage until that choice was taken away from me. I felt like my virginity was taken, but the more years that pass I realized it’s not something to be taken or given. There was so much pressure of waiting until marriage that when I wasn’t a virgin anymore there was a lot of shame. It’s a double edge sword to wait for marriage
This has made me admire and respect you even more! I also share the sentiment that intimacy is sacred, and it truly is such a beautiful thing to save that for the right person! Never let anyone shame you into feeling otherwise! ❤️
Ohhhh Taryne!!! Can we be best friends? I wish this was talked about more. I am going to be 24 soon and I have been struggling with this invisible timeline that society has put and just knowing that one of my favorite CZcamsrs understands the struggle and “contradicts” the norms, make me feel like I’m not alone. It’s a hard journey, waiting until marriage and this is something most people don’t talk about. I’m so happy you opened up to us!! Thanks T🥹💙
This video felt so raw and real! Thank you Taryne. Gotta admit the title really got me to watch. Kinda converted me and I’m about to binge all your content 🥰 as someone who lost their virginity to my first boyfriend, it was a special moment and a thing that I cherish til this day. We aren’t together anymore but I am going to be forever bound to them through the intimacy we shared. I applaud you for just being you and not giving a fuck what other people think! 🙌🏾 you inspired me to possibly make my own take on this video.
Great way to talk about boundaries. Personally, my thick line in the sand is common sense, I am 30 and so far every human I have tried to date lacks it. So instant out. Can’t fix stupid haha
I am 35 and i am so happy and feel so understood with your video. Being a virgin and trying o find a man to spend your life with in this day and age feels like a huge ordeal, and i love how you opened up speaking what i have experienced.
I really love your honesty and creating a safe place for people to talk about this topic. The embarrassment I felt when I would tell people I abstain from sex was so strong. But also so unnecessary. I would avoid that conversation with friends and boyfriends for as long as possible. Friends would be pushy, boyfriends would be pushy, and it was hard. So grateful to have waited until I met my now-husband. I chose to abstain for several reasons. But I agree that no one should have to justify their decision one way or another.
YES! don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. My love language is touch and sex is one big way i feel connected with someone im dating but that is my choice and I would never say anything negative to a guy who wanted to wait. You are awesome Taryne!
Thank you so much for sharing this, I wish everyone could hear this. I love the reasons you explained because as a Muslim, i completely relate but I never get a chance to explain myself from a logical perspective and they just zone me out after I mention religion.
As someone who is sexually active & both enjoys sex and has experienced sexual trauma - I completely adore & admire you for sharing your story. Sex Education is always necessary and lacking, a big big part of it being about empowering your boundaries! So thank you for telling the world , it’s very cool to be confident in your choices when the world is such a shitty place
Literally Taryne, I love you As someone else waiting for marriage, it’s so beautiful & encouraging to see someone with a platform talking about it. I stan you so hard and love you so much ❤️
I made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex when I was a kid not because of religion (I am a non-denominational Christian) but because I was surrounded by people who constantly told me they should've waited, regretted their first time, etc. I didn't want to regret my first time so I chose to wait. I am a 24 year old women who is still a virgin and proud of it, at the end of the day it's my body my choice and if my partner has a problem with that then they're not the one for me 🤷♀️
So thankful for this. I took human sexuality psychology course this past year and was so worried that I would feel called out as a virgin but honestly learned so much and really made me know for sure I want to wait to be with someone I truly feel comfortable with.
In my country it’s normal to be virgin until you got married , but they think if you turn 30 it’s mean your chance to married is rare , I’m 26 and I don’t care if I got married before or after 30 because it’s my life we should change our thoughts instead for trying to change the society cause they will never change and they will just give us negative feelings for nothing
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I feel so much mre validated and have needed to watch a video like this for so long now. Speaking directly to my soul Taryne!! You rock
Sometimes, I can't believe that there are beautiful people like you and still a virgin. Let's be honest I am not ugly, I am looking good, so I have two reasons to be a virgin in my age (for religion and because I am anti-social) , My adolescence wasn't a good period. I was subjected to a lot of bullying and many family problems, which led me to stay away from people for a long time. And now I am 27 years old. I feel like I missed a lot of things in my adolescence, not only sex. My whole life wasn't good, I decided to end my life many times. But now I am trying to live in this hell. BTW, thanks for your video
I was 25 when I lost my virginity to my first official boyfriend and now we’re engaged! As cliche as it sounds, it felt right and he felt like the right person! No shame in waiting! I honestly thought I’d never lose my virginity. I’m so glad I waited for the right guy to come along.
I never comment on videos, but this was beautiful, loved everything you said, these days this topic it’s very difficult, because of how society is nowadays, ohhh wow wish we could be friends..haha
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Although I’m not a virgin, I’ve been abstinent for 13 1/2 years. I just decided to take God’s word seriously and stop fornicating because he knows better than us and when we follow his word we really save ourselves a lot of trouble and heart ache. I only have regrets from my experiences. I wouldn’t want any of those guys in my life today. None of them were worthy. When you’re intimate with someone, it really changes the dynamic of the relationship, that person now has a part of you and you of them. It’s not this Hollywood idea of no big deal, it’s like it never happened, it’s light and fun and liberating and empowering. It’s none of those things. It’s much deeper than that.
I'm 26, almost 27, and this hits home for me as a virgin. For me, I just haven't met the right guy yet. It is hard not to compare yourself to your friends and family, as I am currently the only one I know personally who is single and a virgin. I only dated one guy in high school, really really liked a guy who didn't like me back during university, and I have been on multiple first dates where nothing stuck for me. My dad even asked "what's going on" when it came to the topic of boyfriends, as if to say "what's wrong"...it is hard to be the black sheep of the family and my friend circle. Usually, being in a relationship means you are lovable...so if you aren't in one(especially for a long time like me ~10 years) it REALLY starts hitting your confidence, prompting the question of "whats wrong with me"...but I have learnt that comparing leads to unhappiness. No, I'm not waiting for marriage to do it. I just want a man who I like and likes me back, and who I can trust. And in this day and age it is VERY hard to find the right fit. Just remember - you don't NEED a man to feel complete. :)
I feel you so much.. I've had similar story of having only 1 boyfriend in high school and being single afterwards until I was 25 (7 years hehe). And unfortunately I was asked a lot of that "what's wrong" questions vibe and I never knew what to answer since nothing was wrong there was just not any right man for me. But I always wanted to share love with someone.. I found the man when I started living my fullest, the best live I could have ever imagined. Taking risks, being courage, following my dreams, making my dreams come true, finding the bestes of the bestes friends I was only dreaming about. And here he came) We are happily together for a year now. Truly believe that the one comes (in older years), when you learn how to create the best for yourself and find true happiness.
Oh, and BTW, he was absolutely in love with the idea that I was a virgin. He was absolutely amazed and respectful, never pushed me to do anything. So, just for the record, right guy will never think you are weird, on contrary will think you are special 💖
I'm in exactly the same situation so I totally understand what you're saying 😊
It's not that it's a choice, I just haven't met anyone I trust that much to take that step with.
Well for me its a matter of religion so its a choice that i made but being almost 27 people still ask me what’s wrong and when am gettin married? As for men who i date or talk to bout this subject , they think im old school or they just never reply back.considered going to a therapist once but then im like whatever, i dont need no man (i sometimes wish i have one😂)
Omg yes. I understand that.
Omg! You have just summarized my experience with this topic and how it feels being in this position. Thank you!
"I hope this was something to someone"
Girl this was a lot to me. It feels great to hear someone give power to something that's usually so hidden by embarrassment. Thank you❤
You have no idea how much this means to me! As a gen z (21 yo) I feel like it’s so pressured for me to have $ex and that I’m old for a virgin. People pressure me A LOT to have $ex because they had $ex at age 15, 16, and 17. But the thing is, I’m not going to do it if I’m not comfortable AND/OR if I’m not ready!! Seeing this video has made me feel so much better about myself and that I’m still me, virgin or not. Thank you💜
I'm 28 and still a v*rgin so don't feel pressured, 21 is young!!!!!
Yes! Agreed.
I'm also a 21 yo genz virgin. I'm trying hard to ignore the pressure.
I'm 22 feel that pressure...I also think I feel the hormones too because I am interested in...having one day...so the hormones kick in during that time of the month HARD 😅
I'm also not gonna give it up to some random so... this video is a good convo.
Your raw honesty is refreshing. Keep being you thats why we all come back and watch. Please....more videos. Lol 💗
Agree. We need MORE VIDEOS!!!
Girl! I’m 35 and I’m a virgin!
I’ve had guys from online dating, as soon as they start hinting at sex, which they usually try to do within a week… I immediately tell them I’m not sleeping with you. They usually ghost me a day later.
im 32! and I’m a virgin!
I waited until I was 37!
I was 21 when I lost it and it was with a random woman at a party
@@Curly_Mermaid90 I hope u found someone are u still a virgin
I hope u found someone
I waited for marriage and was 26 years old. I would not change a thing about my decision to wait. What ever works for you is the right thing.
I'm 28 and still a virgin and waiting for marriage. I feel like a lot of people don't talk about it because there are certain people who shame you for it. Especially guys, and alot of girls hide that. That's also why I'm single cause I feel like I won't find a guy who shares the same choice as me. Unfortunately we currently live in the hookup culture and I hate it.
I lost my V card to my now husband when we were engaged. The females in my family always says "you poor thing" because I've only been with one guy. MY. FAMILY. Not even my friends. My friends think it's romantic. I don't care what anyone thinks, I love that he's the only man I have been with. And I only did it because he was the only man who truly made me feel comfortable and I knew I was going to be with him forever. 13 years and we are still going strong!
It's a great thing. My best friend has only been with her husband and they've been married nine years. I don't think either one of them regrets it.
it is so comforting to have an influencer that you admire have the same mindset as you on this topic. i love that i am waiting for marriage but it is something that i always think other people will look at as a negative thing. i appreciate how open you are about your faith and your life decisions ❤️❤️
It’s so so refreshing. I’m waiting for marriage and going into college In the fall. Both my boyfriend and I (we have been together for 4 years) are waiting for marriage and we get asked about it ALL THE TIME. He has even been called “not a real man” because he is a virgin.
Thank you for sharing! Seriously. I’m 24 and chose to wait till marriage and I have ZERO regrets. It was SUCH a struggle and I definitely know how it feels to become interested in a guy, then share that I was saving that for marriage and then they seem to lose interest. It was so hard and challenging to navigate through that and those feelings of disappointment but also the feeling of feeling that you are alone forever and never going to find anyone that respects that or maybe even also chooses that.
After a terrible season of awful guys and terrible dates…. I stopped dating and then I met my husband… who was also choosing that but also respected boundaries I set in all different forms.
It. Was. So. So. So. Worth. It.
Was it hard? Absolutely. But 10000000% worth it and I have zero regrets.
Be PROUD of who you are and make choices that make YOU proud and happy to be you. Don’t ever let someone peer pressure you into anything no matter what it is!
Taryne, THANK YOU for helping those of us that are also choosing that and bringing awareness to it because it shouldn’t be something we feel bad about or feel “less than” just because we choose something.
You’re amazing!!!!
Yes! I’m a Christian too and I’ve been raised with that same idea too, where waiting for marriage you are giving yourself fully to that person forever. There’s a true value in waiting because you’re being United into one in Christ, therefore waiting until marriage.
So I’d rather wait and find that person God made for me that is also a Christian and we can raise our kids to love Jesus.
As someone who has never been in a relationship before thank you for speaking about this. When the time is right and I do find someone I will definitely voice my opinion and won't be scared or ashamed of it! THANK YOU QUEEN TARYNE ❤️🔥❤️🔥🥰🥰
Thank you for talking about this. You don't know how much I needed to hear this! 💗
My husband and I wanted to wait until marriage. We just so happened to both be virgins, we didn’t decide to not do it because of each other but for ourselves. I was always open about it. But now as a younger wife people look at my husband and I different. The fact that they think we’ve only been like that with one person it’s “you haven’t explored your options”. It’s tabu to be a virgin and wait but it’s a beautiful thing for the reason you said. You are giving yourself away to one person and one person only.
@Texas Toothpick ??
Leanna Martin You made a very different and correct decision to wait until marriage. I wish you happiness👍🏻
This was so inspiring ,thank you😍
As a Christian girl is so amazing to see people like you that don't care and are not afraid to stand in what they believe 💖🙏👏
Yes ☺️☺️☺️🤍🪽
Thankful for you being open and honest. As a virgin till I got married I feel alot of what your saying❤️
I already have so much respect for you but after watching this video I grew to appreciate you even more , I'm a Muslim and not waiting tell marriage is a sin for the exact reasons you mentioned , it takes so much discipline to not do things that are within your reach .
Thanks for sharing
REALLY appreciate you sharing this
haven’t even watched the video yet and I love you for this, know it’s gonna be so good
after watching: the unspoken feeling that you should “keep up” with your friends and peers who are sleeping around and doing certain things is SOOO real. and it’s so not worth it! thank you Taryne for inspiring me to make decisions that reflect what I want and not what I feel like I “should” be doing❤️❤️❤️
When my fiancé and I first started dating I was nervous he would judge me for being a virgin at 23. Little did I know he was also waiting for marriage and was nervous what my reaction would be too lol I’ve second guessed why I waited and thought I should just get it over with with someone but now I’m so thankful I didn’t. We still decided to waiting till we’re married, but religious reasons aside, its just so meaningful knowing we get explore that part of our relationship together on our own time.
Thank you for continuing to be so open, honest and authentic with us all!! Your devotion to how you've decided to live your life is inspiring!! Blessings and light! 👏🏼💛
Taryne thank you for making this video. Like you said it’s a narrative that’s not talked about enough. I so often see that to glow up means wearing less clothes and hooking up with people or needing to have a “hoe phase”. Which love that for them and they’re feeling confident to be themselves, but I was feeling bad about myself because that doesn’t fit with who I am and I was trying to change myself. I love how you show there’s different ways to feel confident and that we should feel confident if we’re waiting, it’s not something to be ashamed of.
wow thank you for this. as a 35yro virgin who still feels ashamed from time to time, at the point where most people in my life don't know that I am one, this gives me so much perspective. I've never thought about WHY I never had sex really, and I'm finding so much of my truth in what you're saying (I have attachment issues as well 😅) I guess I just got to the point where I'm like I must be afraid of it 🤷🏻♀️ or i find it's somehow too much for me. but anyway who knows what the future will hold ❤️
love you talking about this! definitely not as an easy conversation but i know so many of us are so grateful to hear your story and experience with this 💗
Yes!!
Thank you, just thank you for this ❤ I felt like someone finally understands me and that is one of your amazing qualities 💫
U just summed up my life in a video, u don’t even know how much that video will help so many other people including me! And girl i can relate! Hard to b in a relationship but i dont care, im happy with myself till that moment comes 😋
watching this is genuinely comforting, it has given me a more positive outlook on future decisions. thank you Taryne
You are a rare gem. Thank you for existing! ✨🤍
I never comment on videos but oh my goodness Taryn this is so beautiful! I’ve struggled with this too in the past and it’s taken me so long to get to this point of not being ashamed of what other people think and being confident with this decision. It is so encouraging to have someone like you being so vulnerable on this topic and I’m sure that so many girls will benefit from your honesty ❤️ God bless you
Taryne*
I love this. Thank you for this, Taryne. I've had two serious relationships in my life. I've slept with both of the guys. I ended up getting my heart broken badly but both of them. From now on, I want to make a promise to myself to wait until marriage.
❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
I started watching because I loved how you were so authentically yourself in vlogs with Ashley and Alisha. You are now one of my favorite CZcamsrs because you are so incredibly relatable and make me feel seen in so many ways. This video was no different. Though I may not have made the same choice for myself, I respect you and everyone else who chooses this path💕
This honestly hit home and i thank you for making this video. I’m 28 and i have had one bf back in high school and havent really met anybody thats liked me back, and honestly I’ve always felt left out because of it. I know its not a big deal but when youre the only one in your friend group it kind of sucks. My love language is also touch so all the time im with somebody i always have to hold myself back. I’m so glad i clicked on this video it makes me feel good knowing im not the only one that felt this way. I’m waiting for the right guy to come along and make it all worth it mainly so im not just another notch under somebody’s belt. This video makes me feel so much better so thank you
I love this video because I relate to it so much. I’m 25 and still a virgin, like sex was something that has never been not a top priority for me like I remember through High school and university I would be surrounded by so many friends and other people who would be getting into relationships and even sometimes in university my roommates would almost be trying to pressure me into finding like a hookup but for me I never was about the hookup culture because I have a similar view of wanting to wait for the right person like the thought of just losing my virginity to a random person never sat right with me. I’m now currently in a relationship and coming up on 2 and a half years and my bf is very supportive of my decision especially cause he’s in the same boat as me where even being in past relationships he never fully committed to someone and that not rushing into sex is something we can agree on and just let it happen naturally whether that is before marriage or not. I definitely always struggled with this topic around so many cause it’s something i felt others would put me down for which shouldn’t be the case but I’m glad that you made this video cause it’s definitely something I wish more would talk about more and that it all is personal preference😊
I have so much respect for virgin's being one myself 😅❤. We have a superpower no one else has and that's abstaining instant pleasure or societal expectations . Being patient is the skill we've mastered that most cannot.
At the 6 min mark I'm like yesssss girl preach!!!! I lost my virginity at 25 and felt so weird and felt alone and now at 36 i am glad I waited and am not with the person I lost it to but I was trusting of him. It's all different for people and you should never judge why someone is waiting. Now I'm with someone and set the boundary that it won't happen until I am very deeply emotionally open and bonded with him. Boundaries are huge. Thank you for sharing 💕💕
Taryne you are an absolute angel for sharing this video! I sobbed and smiled for the wonderful message you blessed us with! I feel heard and I can’t Thankyou enough for that! ❤️❤️
I felt like such a loser before watching this video because I am 25 years old and I have never had sex. Thank you so much for making this video!
Absolutely love this! It’s something that always felt embarrassing for honestly no reason!! Everyone in highschool and college made it such a causal thing that honestly confused me and made me embarrassed about being a virgin.. i was in a relationship for years and something always gave me an off feeling that i always shook off as nerves and feeling guilty due to religious reasons but after leaving that relationship and being with my now husband i realized that i wasn’t really comfortable with that person.. my husband made me feel safe and truly beautiful and loved and it just felt natural… i was scared to tell him frankly but he was so supportive and it makes me so happy to be married to the person i really gave myself and heart too ❤️
Taryne, you just continuously impress me as a human ♥️ You are an incredibly special spirit. Thank you for sharing this for so many young women out there.
Thanks for talking about this ❤️❤️❤️ I waited until marriage and it was beautiful but it’s definitely up to each person to make their own decisions
I love this new narrative. You’re right, society has so many opinions on the opposition. It’s so nice for your younger followers can see that, this is also normal. ♥️ I respect your choice and I respect you for how hard this video must have been. ♥️♥️♥️
I waited until marriage and it was the best decision for both on us
My husband and I waited until marriage. I was 30 and he was 24. We talk all the time about how right it was for us individually and for us as a couple. While it was not a popular choice in culture and it was a difficult discipline, it was right for us. If this is what you want for your relationship and for your future marriage, do you! Thank you for your genuine honesty! Love your videos Taryne!
i've been praying for a video like this thank you so much im 17 and christian and also made this decision
Good for you on your deciding what you wanted and sticking to it!! Its your body and your decision and it should be respected. It shows that you KNOW your worth! I am so happy you made this video because there are so many young girls out there who are feeling the pressures. With this video you are letting them know what they decide is okay as well as letting them know that they are worth it. I have a friend who is 48 and a virgin. She even has a daughter (invetro) and regrets nothing. Every person has the right to know its THEIR choice and not to let anyone push you into something you arent ready for...
YES!! thank you for making this!!
I’m 30 and I’m a virgin, grew up in a very religious family, so till like 26 I was waiting for marriage. Now I just don’t want to have any shitty random fuck experience. Also, I’m done waiting for Prince Charming and going to do a procedure to have kids just for myself next month. It will be so surreal to be a virgin mom 😅 but whatever, I don’t feel like fucking a random dude in a club. I just physically can’t imagine stranger getting so intimately with me so quickly. Thanks for your video! It was so brave to share! I honestly thought I’m the last virgin person at my age group. And it’s so fulfilling to find out I’m not alone ❤
Thank you sooo much for this video! I was contemplating writing in to your podcast about this topic, but I didn't think this is a topic that a lot of people need advice on. I am 24, have been single my whole life and I am a virgin. I am not saving myself for marriage but the opportunity was just not there yet. I have been on dates, but I just haven't met a guy that I clicked with. Generally, I am okay with that and I really enjoy traveling, hanging out with friends, killing it at university and I just love creating a happy life for myself. I am mostly starting to doubt myself and feel down about it when other people bring it up, they start telling me that they feel sorry for me or when I start comparing myself to others. So it feels so good to see that others are on the same path as me. I know my - and our - time will come. Everything happens for a reason and is just leading us to our person! Thank you again for making this video, I think it is so necessary to start talking about this topic!
taryn I appreciate this so much. Thank you for being yourself. Imagine a world where people can share their experiences without shedding judgment on others. My experiences don't discount yours, just as yours don't discount mine. I love you!
I’m 28 and waiting for marriage best decision I ever made. I’m getting married in august and I’m so glad I made that promise to myself and to God to wait 💕so glad you shared your stoyr
My husband and I waited for marriage and got made fun of so much for it. We just wanted to honor Christ in our relationship and give ourselves fully to our future spouse whether that would be each other or not. It’s so worth the wait and don’t ever let anybody pressure you into something you don’t wanna do!
I freaking love you!! ❤️
I thought I was the only one that felt the way you do. I thought I was alone. Thank you so much for expressing yourself and being unapologetically you Taryne!!! 💚
I am watching this for the first time and I love that you were able to make this video. Congratulations for overcoming the feeling of societal shame! I agree with everything you say is this video!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU so much for this video. I am so happy you have spoken on this as I feel the same and almost wrong for doing so with societies pressures. This video helped me so much and got me questioning my values and what I want. You are truly amazing xxxx
I love your thought on sometimes we make decisions we are not ready for! I stand by that 💯
On the same boat here 👆🏻 This was something, to me. So thanks. It helps knowing I’m not the only one who’s going through the same situation. Love 💕
This is refreshing!! I have a kid so obviously I am not a virgin. BUT there are so many women that are and I love that you're open about this and allowing a safe space.
THANK YOU for talking about this! It needs to be talked about more and you did a great job being honest and sincere
True Influencer! Respect! 👏
*like* just for bringing up Christianity! thank you for this
Yooo I am so glad you put this out there Taryne! ♥️ I had my first kiss last year at 28, and now that I have a serious relationship (with my first kiss ☺️) I have made it clear I am waiting for marriage. I am religious, but it also comes from me asking myself the question, "what do I want to save for my husband only, as a way to honor the commitment of marriage and honor myself?" The answer was "no business below the waist." So we're hanging in there and I think we're on track to be married eventually, but our intimacy exists in so many other forms! Emotional, mental, physical via kissing and cuddling. It's the best!
I love your message! Thank you for sharing 😊.
THANK YOU!!! I felt embarrassed for a long time. But I’m living the life I want & they are my decisions!!! Love you
SUCH A BEAUTIFUL VIDEO. I totally love that you shared this, very powerful!
I felt this way too, I was waiting for marriage until that choice was taken away from me. I felt like my virginity was taken, but the more years that pass I realized it’s not something to be taken or given. There was so much pressure of waiting until marriage that when I wasn’t a virgin anymore there was a lot of shame. It’s a double edge sword to wait for marriage
This has made me admire and respect you even more! I also share the sentiment that intimacy is sacred, and it truly is such a beautiful thing to save that for the right person! Never let anyone shame you into feeling otherwise! ❤️
You’re awesome sis! Applying this to every aspect of life💗💗💗💗
Ohhhh Taryne!!! Can we be best friends? I wish this was talked about more. I am going to be 24 soon and I have been struggling with this invisible timeline that society has put and just knowing that one of my favorite CZcamsrs understands the struggle and “contradicts” the norms, make me feel like I’m not alone. It’s a hard journey, waiting until marriage and this is something most people don’t talk about. I’m so happy you opened up to us!! Thanks T🥹💙
This video felt so raw and real! Thank you Taryne. Gotta admit the title really got me to watch. Kinda converted me and I’m about to binge all your content 🥰 as someone who lost their virginity to my first boyfriend, it was a special moment and a thing that I cherish til this day. We aren’t together anymore but I am going to be forever bound to them through the intimacy we shared. I applaud you for just being you and not giving a fuck what other people think! 🙌🏾 you inspired me to possibly make my own take on this video.
Great way to talk about boundaries. Personally, my thick line in the sand is common sense, I am 30 and so far every human I have tried to date lacks it. So instant out. Can’t fix stupid haha
I am 35 and i am so happy and feel so understood with your video. Being a virgin and trying o find a man to spend your life with in this day and age feels like a huge ordeal, and i love how you opened up speaking what i have experienced.
So glad u spoke up about this🙌🏻
this was such a beautiful video Idk why but like I just love listening to you talking and it really makes me think. love you
I really love your honesty and creating a safe place for people to talk about this topic. The embarrassment I felt when I would tell people I abstain from sex was so strong. But also so unnecessary. I would avoid that conversation with friends and boyfriends for as long as possible. Friends would be pushy, boyfriends would be pushy, and it was hard. So grateful to have waited until I met my now-husband. I chose to abstain for several reasons. But I agree that no one should have to justify their decision one way or another.
Thank you so much for speaking out about this. It helped me a lot. Love you!! 🤍
i love these types of videos... pure honesty!!! love it
This resonated with me so much! Thank you💞
YES! don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. My love language is touch and sex is one big way i feel connected with someone im dating but that is my choice and I would never say anything negative to a guy who wanted to wait. You are awesome Taryne!
THANK YOU for talking about taboo topics. Thank you thank you thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing this, I wish everyone could hear this. I love the reasons you explained because as a Muslim, i completely relate but I never get a chance to explain myself from a logical perspective and they just zone me out after I mention religion.
As someone who is sexually active & both enjoys sex and has experienced sexual trauma - I completely adore & admire you for sharing your story. Sex Education is always necessary and lacking, a big big part of it being about empowering your boundaries! So thank you for telling the world , it’s very cool to be confident in your choices when the world is such a shitty place
Literally Taryne, I love you
As someone else waiting for marriage, it’s so beautiful & encouraging to see someone with a platform talking about it. I stan you so hard and love you so much ❤️
We love you Taryne 🤍🤍🤍🥰😍
I made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex when I was a kid not because of religion (I am a non-denominational Christian) but because I was surrounded by people who constantly told me they should've waited, regretted their first time, etc. I didn't want to regret my first time so I chose to wait. I am a 24 year old women who is still a virgin and proud of it, at the end of the day it's my body my choice and if my partner has a problem with that then they're not the one for me 🤷♀️
I can’t relate, but I am happy to have watched this and glad you’re putting this out there!
So thankful for this. I took human sexuality psychology course this past year and was so worried that I would feel called out as a virgin but honestly learned so much and really made me know for sure I want to wait to be with someone I truly feel comfortable with.
In my country it’s normal to be virgin until you got married , but they think if you turn 30 it’s mean your chance to married is rare , I’m 26 and I don’t care if I got married before or after 30 because it’s my life we should change our thoughts instead for trying to change the society cause they will never change and they will just give us negative feelings for nothing
Really
It's nice being able to respect yourself. Good for you, lady
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I feel so much mre validated and have needed to watch a video like this for so long now. Speaking directly to my soul Taryne!! You rock
Sometimes, I can't believe that there are beautiful people like you and still a virgin. Let's be honest I am not ugly, I am looking good, so I have two reasons to be a virgin in my age (for religion and because I am anti-social) , My adolescence wasn't a good period. I was subjected to a lot of bullying and many family problems, which led me to stay away from people for a long time.
And now I am 27 years old. I feel like I missed a lot of things in my adolescence, not only sex. My whole life wasn't good, I decided to end my life many times.
But now I am trying to live in this hell.
BTW, thanks for your video
To be honest I'm 30 and I'm still a vergin
I was 25 when I lost my virginity to my first official boyfriend and now we’re engaged! As cliche as it sounds, it felt right and he felt like the right person! No shame in waiting! I honestly thought I’d never lose my virginity. I’m so glad I waited for the right guy to come along.
Beautiful message and testimony. ❤️
Beautifully said Taryne.
I never comment on videos, but this was beautiful, loved everything you said, these days this topic it’s very difficult, because of how society is nowadays, ohhh wow wish we could be friends..haha
Oh my goodness you speak so clearly and eloquently yes girl
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Although I’m not a virgin, I’ve been abstinent for 13 1/2 years. I just decided to take God’s word seriously and stop fornicating because he knows better than us and when we follow his word we really save ourselves a lot of trouble and heart ache. I only have regrets from my experiences. I wouldn’t want any of those guys in my life today. None of them were worthy. When you’re intimate with someone, it really changes the dynamic of the relationship, that person now has a part of you and you of them. It’s not this Hollywood idea of no big deal, it’s like it never happened, it’s light and fun and liberating and empowering. It’s none of those things. It’s much deeper than that.
Preach sister ✨🔥