Crime expert slams Netflix & comic Richard Gadd over Baby Reindeer

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  • čas přidán 8. 05. 2024
  • Baby Reindeer creator Richard Gadd is the 'real psychopath' and is making money out of lies, claims the 'real stalker'.
    Fiona Harvey has told Piers Morgan Uncensored the comedian and actor behind the Netflix show is “making money out of untrue facts”.
    She went on to describe Gadd, 34, as "a complete psychopath" who has “done bloody well out of defaming me", on being told he's likely made millions from the series.
    The 58-year-old claims to be the inspiration for the character Martha, who is seen bombarding protagonist Donnie Dunn with thousands of emails and showing up at the pub where he works every day.
    Harvey was 'outed' within hours of the show premiering on Netflix last month by internet sleuths.
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Komentáře • 588

  • @interestingvideos4me
    @interestingvideos4me Před 13 dny +896

    I wonder when we will stop talking about the stalker and talk about the rapist in the movie. Why is everyone more concerned about trying to find out about the real Martha than finding out who is the real rapist? Where is the rapist who seemed to get away and probably is going on normally about his life...?

    • @libragirl4471
      @libragirl4471 Před 13 dny +97

      And potentially grooming others

    • @Andy-di1zd
      @Andy-di1zd Před 13 dny +33

      Very good point.

    • @traceymitchell6619
      @traceymitchell6619 Před 13 dny

      Fiona is a lonely, mentally unstable woman that he led on. He enabled her behaviour, he brought that on himself but the predator, nobody seems to care that there is a rapist on the loose praying on young men. How many other victims are there or will be? I don't understand it.

    • @Sweet_Dia965
      @Sweet_Dia965 Před 13 dny +89

      People are actually trying to figure that out as well. It's just harder to figure that out when the rapist is not outing themselves so easily as Fiona is. She is literally going on an interview and such.

    • @ariesgirlkara2603
      @ariesgirlkara2603 Před 13 dny +40

      When Pierce’s “Martha” interview came up in my recommended videos, my first thought was “ok that’s nice, but who tf is the grooming pusher rapist?”. Hopefully all the eyes on this miniseries keeps him in constant fear and paranoia.

  • @smch6416
    @smch6416 Před 13 dny +113

    He's right. My 68 year old neighbour harrassed me for 2 years before i called the police. I would scream at him to leave me alone, and the next day he'd be back as if nothing had happened the day before. This is while he had a tag on his ankle for stalking a 21 year old girl, but he had no concept that he'd done anything wrong to either of us. The judge actually said to him 'i cant dismiss you as an old fool because still here today in court, you dont think you've done anything wrong'. These people are completely deluded and do not recognise how they behave. They genuinely think the other person was into them.

  • @adventuresofanathan
    @adventuresofanathan Před 13 dny +125

    The r****st is definitely a lot worse then the stalker ... definatley needs addressing.

    • @user-hm3bq9it6n
      @user-hm3bq9it6n Před 11 dny +12

      Exactly my thoughts! I cant believe this hasnt been THE main witchhunt!!!

    • @PMCFrontLines
      @PMCFrontLines Před 10 dny +6

      ​@user-hm3bq9it6n no she groped him and did so much worse overall. She's a horrible person.

    • @mimid6354
      @mimid6354 Před 9 dny +3

      They haven’t outed that person because he is well known. Disappointing

    • @orangemoon9634
      @orangemoon9634 Před 8 dny +2

      ​@@PMCFrontLinesEven the victim would disagree with you

    • @PMCFrontLines
      @PMCFrontLines Před 8 dny

      @@orangemoon9634 Women are wonderful effect. I don't care.

  • @kevinjoyce7840
    @kevinjoyce7840 Před 13 dny +443

    He gave a reasonably full account of his role in it. He encouraged behavior, he tried to set her up, he sought sexual encounters that I'm sure many viewers, like myself, found abhorrent.
    His story was of trauma, why trauma encourages and cycles trauma, and how traumatized people seek out, encourage, and don't understand their own repeated traumas.
    I think, with his story, he did his best to document what happened to him, as well as the reflections of his own behaviors that contributed to the story. Great piece of storytelling, and reflects how real life is never black and white.

    • @divatalk9011
      @divatalk9011 Před 13 dny +41

      I agree so much!! He helped expose a long misunderstood reality, trauma generates disorderd life choices because of how badly your brain gets re-wired

    • @yanited1892
      @yanited1892 Před 13 dny +7

      That's a lot of trauma from reading your comment about trauma.

    • @vph7
      @vph7 Před 13 dny +6

      What abhorrent sexual counters did he seek?

    • @hugo-ig7kl
      @hugo-ig7kl Před 13 dny

      ​@@vph7he admitted to masturbating over her image which admits some amount of reciprocation in her obsession.

    • @englishbreakfast56
      @englishbreakfast56 Před 13 dny +1

      Are you Martha??

  • @BellyRenee
    @BellyRenee Před 13 dny +272

    The casting for the stalker was dead on a great casting choice

    • @jillroyson4589
      @jillroyson4589 Před 13 dny +25

      Totally agree, even though they said they'd disguised her so much that she "wouldn't recognise herself ". They could be sisters! Lol

    • @CheriB1208
      @CheriB1208 Před 13 dny +6

      Yes and I read that she studied so hard for the part. She viewed hours and days and weeks of footage and sound of the real psycho Martha. She did an excellent job!! Award worthy IMO 🏆

    • @fiora5643
      @fiora5643 Před 12 dny +1

      I disagree because she and Gadd are both in their 30s and look the same age so him calling her older made no sense. The actual stalker was so much older and I would’ve preferred an actress who was older. Know he was in 20s when it occurred but then the actress should’ve been maybe mid 40s. To me Gadd wasn’t believable as in his twenties. So it made sense when the twist of his identity was revealed!

    • @bees.857
      @bees.857 Před 11 dny +1

      ​@@fiora5643The actress that would do the best job is who got the part. They were both styled to look older/younger. You weren't supposed to focus on the actual age of the actors.

    • @kennethelchert7305
      @kennethelchert7305 Před 10 dny +3

      That actress is extraordinary

  • @carmelhill1462
    @carmelhill1462 Před 12 dny +63

    This movie is not intended to be educational. It is called Baby Reindeer, not Strategies for Dealing with a Stalker. It's a warts and all account of one man's complex, emotional life experiences, including stalking.

    • @AdamVHS
      @AdamVHS Před 8 hodinami

      It's not even intended to be a true story it's mostly exaggerated.

  • @1Nanalo
    @1Nanalo Před 13 dny +211

    I hope she gets Piers' number and he gets messages sent by iphon

  • @michael-4k4000
    @michael-4k4000 Před 12 dny +65

    So with all these reporters working, none of them can confirm if she went to prison for 9 months?

    • @nekosquealer3423
      @nekosquealer3423 Před 9 dny +15

      she didnt. Netflix says directly that this is a fictionalized version of the true story. Richard himself said that she didnt go to jail

    • @Annsunshine30
      @Annsunshine30 Před 9 dny +3

      @@nekosquealer3423 She did for four months, but under a different name. Her nephew just said.

    • @michellecook7360
      @michellecook7360 Před 8 dny +1

      @@Annsunshine30 Then show us the evidence, until we see the evidence it simply is not true!

    • @KatJ3st
      @KatJ3st Před 7 dny +1

      Right? It's bizarre. I am not so sure Gadd wasn't really playing this up for, well, sensationalism.

    • @nekosquealer3423
      @nekosquealer3423 Před 7 dny +4

      @@KatJ3st againnn.. it doesnt matter if she went or not Netflix mentions after every single episode this is a fictionalized version of true events so some things could likely be false. point of this show is not to incriminate her or to find the culprit; its to show human experiences and ENTERTAIN

  • @RJAmos
    @RJAmos Před 13 dny +253

    This is second season material 😂

    • @ThePitchblue
      @ThePitchblue Před 13 dny +5

      lmao

    • @franeh13
      @franeh13 Před 13 dny +5

      History on the making, perhaps?

    • @dlmsarge8329
      @dlmsarge8329 Před 13 dny

      Yassssssss!!!

    • @Skaterbun
      @Skaterbun Před 12 dny +2

      Fiona has already been hired by Netflix - she’s writing as we speak 😂

    • @renatajd7758
      @renatajd7758 Před 12 dny +4

      She goes on Pierce Morgan and proceeds to stalk him. Morgan finally quits the show.

  • @LizBlair
    @LizBlair Před 13 dny +118

    Fiona is responding the way would expect the real Martha to act.

    • @mariedhking6847
      @mariedhking6847 Před 13 dny +8

      This is so accurate

    • @emmaphilo4049
      @emmaphilo4049 Před 13 dny

      Exactly! She is clever. She calls him a misogynisy....
      Let's not forget she is mentally ill

    • @Annsunshine30
      @Annsunshine30 Před 12 dny +1

      100%

    • @AdamVHS
      @AdamVHS Před 8 hodinami

      On what do you basis your opinion, a TV show made for entertainment? No factual evidence just a TV show, good job. Well done, Do better

  • @LuZRepliCant
    @LuZRepliCant Před 13 dny +19

    She is doing the same thing she did in the show, trying to smeer his name in public and trying to say its all his fault not hers.

  • @Mew4U
    @Mew4U Před 12 dny +51

    She could've just stayed quiet and no one would have known. No one believes you, Martha!

  • @user-wz2zw8wq2p
    @user-wz2zw8wq2p Před 13 dny +71

    Piers should not be doing this interview. This woman is not well & this could make her offend again. Completely unnecessary to give her a platform.

    • @intothezombieapocalypse
      @intothezombieapocalypse Před 13 dny +13

      the guy who wrote the show, sold the show to netflix, is now the lead in the show, made stuff up and told netflix it happened, instigated and encouraged her behavior has also said he isnt right in the head... but yet he gets money and plays the victim lol. theres lies from both sides and the truth is more in the middle of both sides of the story.

    • @preciousdevere288
      @preciousdevere288 Před 10 dny +3

      I dont think she should have come forward and done the Piers interview either.

    • @intothezombieapocalypse
      @intothezombieapocalypse Před 10 dny +3

      @@preciousdevere288 its good she has. we now see that there is some truth to what he has said, but at the same time, we know that Gadd did indeed embelish stuff, also most likely led this woman on and encouraged/enabled her behavior. he has made two stage plays which led to this netflix show. all of which has given Gadd the opportunity to embelish more and more stuff and is now claiming its a true story, not based on or inspired by, but in fact a true story. the truth seems more and more likely its in the middle of both of their stories.

    • @Huehuecoyote
      @Huehuecoyote Před 10 dny +1

      ​@@intothezombieapocalypse you are so wrong..m

    • @intothezombieapocalypse
      @intothezombieapocalypse Před 9 dny +2

      @@Huehuecoyote how?? explain or dont comment lol

  • @CarolineThomas76
    @CarolineThomas76 Před 13 dny +13

    Does noone else think that the focus sbouldnt be on Martha but actually on the rapist? It seems to me that Richard Gadd used the stalking part of the story to kind of be a safe way to tell the real story?

  • @Kymmoi
    @Kymmoi Před 13 dny +217

    That criminologist takes A LOT of time/words to say VERY little

    • @dorothymcguire737
      @dorothymcguire737 Před 13 dny +20

      Rambles as much as Fiona herself 😂

    • @bees.857
      @bees.857 Před 13 dny +12

      Thank you for this comment so I don't waste my time. Appreciate ya.

    • @ragetobe
      @ragetobe Před 13 dny +9

      He actually said nothing.

    • @julieoluna8887
      @julieoluna8887 Před 13 dny +6

      David Wilson is an awful psychologist, but for some reason he is considered an "expert" 🤯

    • @ragetobe
      @ragetobe Před 12 dny +1

      @@julieoluna8887 And yet you expect us to take your word based on nothing but you saying it is so.

  • @DS-mh5hb
    @DS-mh5hb Před 13 dny +50

    Whatever the real life drama etc... or how much was art imitating life ... Baby Reindeer is one heck of a great piece of work and the actors are brilliant ❤️

  • @steviebailey9357
    @steviebailey9357 Před 13 dny +73

    The actress playing her must have learnt her accent from somewhere maybe the voicemails she left??

    • @dannysstart2218
      @dannysstart2218 Před 13 dny +6

      scotish accent lol

    • @Dmanz67
      @Dmanz67 Před 13 dny +3

      ​@@dannysstart2218There's many different Scottish accents.

    • @MultiLlewis
      @MultiLlewis Před 13 dny +3

      It's called acting school

    • @RobertBoyle11
      @RobertBoyle11 Před 6 dny

      It was a generic Scottish accent, plus Gadd is Scottish so she didn't have to go that far, he could have helped her with how particular lines should be said. But, Jessica Gunning most probably was allowed to listen to the voicemails.

  • @MissMelissaMeredith
    @MissMelissaMeredith Před 11 dny +7

    If it is an accurate portrayal, more people will come forward and claim she is a stalker.

  • @djmattblack
    @djmattblack Před 13 dny +42

    That criminologist could send a glass eye to sleep!

  • @zazzlepreneurs
    @zazzlepreneurs Před 13 dny +18

    If the FB page I saw is hers, she admits texting, receiving free drinks and him peeping in her windows etc. I really want her to be telling the truth. But if that FB is indeed her.. then she’s already admitted to much of what she is simultaneously denying. Meanwhile Gadd could have blocked the emails and the calls. He didn’t and he admits he encouraged her and here the problem lies… she may have reasonably and genuinely believed they had at the very least a genuine friendship. I meanwhile wish the attention would be directed to the rapist who is allegedly known and being protected like Jimmy Saville was by everyone around him. What a farce!

  • @margopaton3240
    @margopaton3240 Před 13 dny +150

    He admitted that he played a part in encouraging her. That was part of the angle he was coming in at. What caused he to stalk him is a whole different show. What is he on about

    • @Disinfo321
      @Disinfo321 Před 13 dny +6

      Except he verifiably lied and half of the show about sexual assault by a writer and Martha are completely absent of evidence. There’s not a shred of evidence for the majority of the story, and there’s verifiable lies.
      She could make the same story tomorrow and you’d be saying she’s a hero and he’s a stalker by making a series of unsubstantiated claims and verifiable lies, because you’re a simpleton.

    • @intothezombieapocalypse
      @intothezombieapocalypse Před 13 dny +9

      yeah... and now look at him. cashing in on it while painting her in a horrible light.

    • @pendantairplane
      @pendantairplane Před 13 dny +18

      @@Disinfo321 Why would he need evidence when he was never even accusing anyone? This show was just him sharing his personal story, and everyone in the show is kept anonymous and they even changed a bunch of details to prevent people from being exposed. If you don’t believe his story, that’s fine, but don’t act like he’s falsely accusing anyone of something
      Also do we even know if this woman is Martha? She could very well just be a random person trying to get clout. If you are so concerned about evidence, maybe show some proof that this lady is the same person?

    • @Jackssw
      @Jackssw Před 13 dny +3

      @@pendantairplane he used the story of her stalking MP. That’s not his personal story.

    • @justforlaughs1832
      @justforlaughs1832 Před 12 dny +7

      Also notice how that whole interview was an attempt to defame gadd call him all different types of names etc where did he do that about her? It's clear that she is Martha weather everything that was in the show actually happ3ned or not I don't know but without a doubt she's a serial stalker

  • @jennifercr.777
    @jennifercr.777 Před 13 dny +21

    He's saying a lot of nothing . Richard Gadd was recognizing his part in it all and felt remorse, went to the police , had a conscience and this is in fact his story , so i feel this mans judgement to be quite unfair . Lets not forget his family was stalked as well .

  • @outsidersongs2682
    @outsidersongs2682 Před 12 dny +40

    Richard Gadd has every right to tell his truth and he did so powerfully and with great dignity.
    The stalker has convictions for stalking. Gadd has all the messages saved.
    If Gadd needed to talk about her crimes against him and she has convictions she brought it on herself and only has herself to blame. These are crimes.
    However, the media needs to stop exploiting Gadd's trauma and the stalker.
    My concern (after suffering severe stalking twice - one is now in prison for murder) was that the drama might trigger the stalker into offending against him again because it is an obsession. But that is NOT Gadd's fault or responsibility. He needed to talk about it and I 100% support his dignified, honest and powerful exposure of what he endured.

    • @Monicablackbelt24
      @Monicablackbelt24 Před 11 dny +9

      When I first watched this I felt sorry for this guy.. however when I discovered he was playing himself I began to change my mind about Richard Gadd! As a rape survivor I can’t imagine ANYTHING worse than having to relive that by acting it! Writing it can be cathartic sure.. but I don’t know one person who has been through that who would put themselves through that trauma again by re enacting it .. and it makes me question him and his motives .. I also think if “Martha” Is as bad as he says .. to then exploit her to gain fame and money is sick! He’s not the victim he likes to play and he cynically managed to get a whole host of woke agendas in there to boot! The Martha woman is clearly not the full ticket .. she needs help and instead he set her up for the lynch mob! I think he’s a despicable ruthless fame hungry fraud!

    • @outsidersongs2682
      @outsidersongs2682 Před 10 dny +9

      @@Monicablackbelt24 people need to process their trauma in their own way. I wrote an 800,000 word series of novels about mine and I am diagnosed with PTSD. It just couldn't stay silenced in me anymore. It was like screaming it out.

    • @leighstephens6116
      @leighstephens6116 Před 9 dny +6

      @@Monicablackbelt24 because he didn’t act how you would of acted or took his trauma the way you would of took yours makes you question his truth?

    • @mysticjen379
      @mysticjen379 Před 9 dny +2

      @@Monicablackbelt24I suspect the same.

  • @ScotchMist-lx1gk
    @ScotchMist-lx1gk Před 13 dny +26

    Gadd put himself front and centre in this drama . No need for that . He could have written this under a false name and an actor cast in the part .

    • @AhlSunnah111
      @AhlSunnah111 Před 11 dny

      🎯🎯🎯🎯 He's's as much unhinged and an attention seeker just like her.

    • @juliettelynne5861
      @juliettelynne5861 Před 11 dny +9

      But how incredibly brave of him in his vulnerability.

    • @emmajanewatts4388
      @emmajanewatts4388 Před 10 dny +1

      Who better to play him and of course he was the centre of the story it was his story.

    • @Garh146
      @Garh146 Před 9 dny +2

      This is what I find facinating that he starred in it himself under another name but why no focus on the rapist ? That was the most brutal part of this show

    • @anneominous7172
      @anneominous7172 Před 7 dny +3

      @@juliettelynne5861 Indeed. How incredibly brave to use it as a vehicle to fame and allow a serial rapist to walk free so as not to interrupt said fame. What a guy.

  • @THEJAM-EATERS
    @THEJAM-EATERS Před 13 dny +17

    Think the truth is somewhere in between.
    Sent from Ipphone.

    • @TheMoxin
      @TheMoxin Před 9 dny

      unDErraTeDd commEnt xx

  • @kirk09100
    @kirk09100 Před 10 dny +5

    Not many people realize that the stalker plot in the series was used as a device to enter the mind and thinking of Richard. Script-wise, The series is not about Martha but about him. Many other things occured in the series making him react to those awful situations to show us a kind of introspection about part of his life in the past. It seems people prefer focusing solely on Martha which is kind of a psychological freak show and very first degree.

    • @michellecook7360
      @michellecook7360 Před 8 dny

      @@LucyStormbringerLastic The public exposed her! And calling her a "Silly C" is shocking! She told her side of this story affter receiving abuse and death threats, and she has a right to tell her side, she is a victim too. The film appears to be extremely problematic - Not a true story as we are meant to believe!

  • @michellemcgowan5657
    @michellemcgowan5657 Před 13 dny +32

    In the interview Piers asks her has she been to his show and she says “no” while nodding her head not shaking it ! Body language doesn’t lie

    • @aussiejubes
      @aussiejubes Před 13 dny +5

      If you knew anything about body language you'd know this is one of the biggest myths & you can't make an assessment based on one thing.

    • @michellemcgowan5657
      @michellemcgowan5657 Před 13 dny +2

      @@aussiejubes Hi , I’m not claiming to know about it , it was just something I saw and thought it was weird, but it is something your body does unconsciously

    • @aussiejubes
      @aussiejubes Před 13 dny +5

      @michellemcgowan5657 you confidently claimed body language doesn't lie lol. This doesn't mean a thing though & can happen for a lot of reasons, none of which mean anything without a whole bunch of other body language cues to assess too. You'll notice you say yes & shake your head a lot (& vice versa) & you're not lying.
      Now ya know.

    • @michellemcgowan5657
      @michellemcgowan5657 Před 12 dny +3

      @@aussiejubes thanks for sharing your take

    • @michellemcgowan5657
      @michellemcgowan5657 Před 12 dny +2

      @@aussiejubes thank you for sharing your veiw

  • @KellyReiki
    @KellyReiki Před 13 dny +80

    Let’s remember first that Richard Gasd is a victim of crime and a victim of abuse. He also happens to be a comedian. The heading to this piece should be remember that.

    • @Lonely_Goat
      @Lonely_Goat Před 13 dny +4

      comedian is a strong word.

    • @y2ksurvivor
      @y2ksurvivor Před 12 dny +5

      Let's remember being victimized doesn't make one a saint.

    • @solarralos7102
      @solarralos7102 Před 12 dny +3

      According to him. So far, no evidence has been produced.

    • @Greedst
      @Greedst Před 12 dny +4

      Or he was victim of none of that and actually just hungry for fame...

    • @Lonely_Goat
      @Lonely_Goat Před 12 dny

      @@solarralos7102 he will if needed to. Netflix don't bankroll a true story without receipts

  • @peterhepple3348
    @peterhepple3348 Před 12 dny +8

    Won’t the police be able to put this to bed,they’ll have the facts

    • @Skaterbun
      @Skaterbun Před 12 dny

      Don’t think they did anything about it in real life?

  • @matthewcreasey5541
    @matthewcreasey5541 Před 13 dny +66

    I believe she did stalk him but I think he had dramatised it for TV.

    • @burlhorse61
      @burlhorse61 Před 13 dny +7

      that is a very common thing for these sorts of programs

    • @medwayhospitalprotest
      @medwayhospitalprotest Před 13 dny +3

      Well, we'll see, won't we, since convictions are public record. We will know if she ever really did go to prison for it, and we will know the truth of the matter. I agree with you that likely something did happen, which was not quite so dramatic, and he exaggerated it, possibly A LOT.

    • @catherinedth92
      @catherinedth92 Před 13 dny +5

      He did say that parts of the show had been dramatised for effect. But I still believe she inundated him with emails and calls, it just might not be 41k emails. But if he has kept all 41k if those emails, they'll be very easy to trace, as Piers mentioned in the interview.

    • @lulubelle24
      @lulubelle24 Před 12 dny +1

      I think he led her on and dumped her and her irrational mind, could understand why or accept it.

    • @sarahh8596
      @sarahh8596 Před 11 dny +3

      ​@@burlhorse61she is already stalking one of the guys that wrote an article now!

  • @njbleon
    @njbleon Před 12 dny +4

    Do people realise when shows like this are produced, Netflix investigate on the back story. It’s not some TikTok where anyone just uploads their movies.

  • @charenzo95
    @charenzo95 Před 11 dny +5

    Based on a true story doesn't mean it will all be actual factual from beginning to end. All Netflix was required to do was change the characters names which is what they did. If the internet investigators still found her, that's not their fault. And if she actually did go to prison for stalking Gadd, what exactly is she suing him for?

    • @rickm3779
      @rickm3779 Před 9 dny +3

      Not defending her, but no one has been able to prove she went to jail for 9 months like the show is claiming (at least not yet). It should be easy to prove if it is true, but so far no such evidence has been shown that it is.

  • @agrippinea3869
    @agrippinea3869 Před 13 dny +118

    He is out of line this guy! I beleive that Gadd did not lie and he himself recognize he had a problem too! There are witnesses to all of that!

    • @MichaelHandyman-bv1od
      @MichaelHandyman-bv1od Před 13 dny +8

      the guy lied about her going to jail . I wouldn’t trust anything he said

    • @Ilielotsssssdemonmrsp
      @Ilielotsssssdemonmrsp Před 13 dny

      @@MichaelHandyman-bv1odshe DID GO TO JAIL!!!

    • @declanalexander2100
      @declanalexander2100 Před 13 dny +1

      @@MichaelHandyman-bv1odokay? So it was a bit of dramatisation in an otherwise true story
      Most tv shows & films make stuff up for a more cohesive plot

    • @Beth1300
      @Beth1300 Před 13 dny +3

      ​@@Ilielotsssssdemonmrspnot in real life, just in the drama

    • @Disinfo321
      @Disinfo321 Před 13 dny +10

      He did lie, and any claim are absent of any evidence. But it’s a verifiable lie that she was not convicted of assault or stalking, so you’re also a liar.
      Just like how there was no evidence of any sexual assault from her or a writer, the entire show is slanderous and defamatory. You are naive to take anything you see on the show as gospel.

  • @tealhearts5455
    @tealhearts5455 Před 13 dny +18

    I feel bad for her. This is wild, why's the rapest isn't being made public

    • @cynthia3532
      @cynthia3532 Před 13 dny +3

      I suspect because unless he has clear, documented proof of the sexual abuse, it would open Gadd and Netflix to a hell of a lot of liability. People attempted to find the guy in question and actually misidentified him.

    • @Monicablackbelt24
      @Monicablackbelt24 Před 11 dny

      I do too.. he’s exploited a mentally unstable woman for his own gain! Richard Gadd likes playing victim but I think nothing could be further from the truth! I’m extremely dubious about his motives behind all of this

    • @ElanaVital83
      @ElanaVital83 Před 10 dny +2

      But if the genders were switched you wouldn't

    • @lesliefortie8347
      @lesliefortie8347 Před 9 dny +1

      Why are people so hung up on this point? It is his situation to deal with however and whenever he chooses. And if he doesn't, that is his choice as well. The stalking shouldn't be brushed aside because he hasn't outed his rapist. It is funny that if the genders were reversed, people would say the woman is traumatized and didn't feel comfortable reporting her rapist and it is her decision. It goes both ways. You can feel sorry for her but that doesn't excuse the stalking. A lot of stalkers use pity to continue the connection to the victim.

  • @mullcrumthesage6303
    @mullcrumthesage6303 Před 11 dny +2

    She's a stalker..you can tell. She's seeing $$$$$$$ signs.

  • @Aerie925
    @Aerie925 Před 11 dny +3

    Making money from defaming her? No one had to know it was her had she not came forward 😂

  • @proudkiwiandaussie2616
    @proudkiwiandaussie2616 Před 13 dny +37

    Richard Gadd takes alot of accountability in his role in how his stalking got to the level it did. He openly states he suffers from his own mental health demons too. He never just blamed her but after enabling her for so long it was then hard for him to get her to stop when it got scarily out of hand and then became dangerous & frightening. He had every right to tell his story as it raises awareness to different types of people out there who also put themselves in these dangerous positions. He didn't provoke her but he definitely enabled it, but she should have stopped when he wanted to cut ties yet she kept going and going. Fionas interview shows an incredible resemblance to the character of Martha. She contradicts herself continuously, has grandiosity, takes no accountability or ownership for any of her actions that can be proven, she's a hypocrite and a pathological liar who seems to believe her own lies. She demonstrated that she lies multiple times in this interview by changing her story.
    She's an unhinged and dangerous woman. Lock your doors Richard Gadd....and Piers, she will be on your tail now too.

    • @patriciamckenna3464
      @patriciamckenna3464 Před 13 dny +4

      I take it Richard Gadd didn’t know how to block her from his emails, Facebook and phone 🙄. What’s worse, sending 41,000 emails, or receiving them without blocking her after the first one 🥴🤥🤣. He didn’t block her because it either didn’t happen, or he wanted it to continue. He’s nothing but a fame hungry attention seeker

    • @rubybonsparkletits2323
      @rubybonsparkletits2323 Před 13 dny +2

      ​@@patriciamckenna3464 so glad to see someone else with this take. I watched the show and didn't even care about Martha. I was absolutely repulsed by the main character. Such a cowardly man who is now being praised and receiving financial gain for his horrific cowardice.

    • @zelgadisgreywolf8313
      @zelgadisgreywolf8313 Před 12 dny +3

      @@rubybonsparkletits2323 But that's the point - he takes responsibility for it. Admits that he encourage it for attention. He is not portrayed as positive character here. The story is focusing on how trauma can cause more trauma, how someone who went through trauma might be lost, lack any self confidence and self-worth, which can lead to making bad decision, engaging in bad relationship like f.ex. with a stalker. It's not a show with a hero and a villian, and he fully admits that so idk why you are making comments like that. It clearly shows you didn't watch or didn't understand what it is about.

    • @patriciamckenna3464
      @patriciamckenna3464 Před 12 dny +1

      @@zelgadisgreywolf8313 I watched the Netflix drama and I agree he didn’t portray himself in a very good light, but then don’t accuse someone of ‘stalking’ you when you actually encouraged it and led her on. According to the drama he was aware of her ‘allegedly’ stalking someone else, but yet he didn’t make any attempt to stop her. Why did he let her send him 41,000 emails? why did he not just block her?
      It was obvious he craved attention and fame, and he’s still craving it 🤔

    • @patriciamckenna3464
      @patriciamckenna3464 Před 12 dny

      @@rubybonsparkletits2323 Yeh I think the public are more focused on ‘Martha’ sending 41,000 emails and not asking why he allowed it and never blocked her 🤔Also they seem to think that someone who was sent ‘mixed signals’ and maybe thought he liked her, is in some way worse than someone drugging you and raping you 🤷‍♀️
      I just think Richard is caught up in his own self importance and is relishing all the attention and fame which is what he craved.

  • @loveinthrair1058
    @loveinthrair1058 Před 11 dny +2

    Blame shifting, gastlighting, demeaning comments, lies, manipulation, lack of accountability, lack of boundaries, lack of empty. This woman is clearly a dangerous narcissist.

  • @harryhill8543
    @harryhill8543 Před 13 dny +30

    There are different kinds of stalkers and not all of them are actually delusional, this guy had the opportunity to point that out. Even if he did act towards her in a friendly or even sexual way it doesnt warrant her actions. As per usual because its a female she has a get out of jail "its not really her fault" card, from some people.

    • @georgemioch8981
      @georgemioch8981 Před 13 dny +2

      This guy is a cop, and he has his angle: we need to teach people to go to police when they are stalked. However, this story is about so much more than only stalking... I agree, from the first contact with police, "Donny" is told that female stalkers are less dangerous because of less physical aggression. As if someone cannot make your life miserable without ever becoming physically aggressive...

    • @harryhill8543
      @harryhill8543 Před 13 dny +1

      @@georgemioch8981 hes not a cop he is a sociologist who used to work in a prison so he does a lot of these opinion peices for tv

  • @gretareinarsson7461
    @gretareinarsson7461 Před 13 dny +16

    BR is about stalking and mental illness. Nah, I believe him more then her. But the mini series is fantastic.

  • @bunmeng007
    @bunmeng007 Před 9 dny +3

    The stalking may be overly dramatized. The real Martha never went to jail for 9 months. The thousands of email and harassing the family are also questionable. I think it's important to listen to both sides. We would believe everything in the movie if she didn't appear on Pier Morgan.

  • @mogwha
    @mogwha Před 13 dny +18

    This seemed like an additional episode of the series

  • @FallenAngelBrass
    @FallenAngelBrass Před 13 dny +32

    This man badly needs a verbal editor.

  • @agrippinea3869
    @agrippinea3869 Před 13 dny +42

    And Morgan should not have agreed to that! She wants attention and she got it!

    • @foxylady9110
      @foxylady9110 Před 13 dny +8

      She’ll probably start stalking him….😮😬

    • @SydneyBristow0788
      @SydneyBristow0788 Před 13 dny +1

      ​@@foxylady9110 Yeah I wonder.

    • @Victor-oz3zo
      @Victor-oz3zo Před 13 dny +4

      Morgan hast lost his ethics a long long time.

    • @Ghelfaba
      @Ghelfaba Před 13 dny +1

      Yes! Thank you for pointing this out.

    • @annafattore1273
      @annafattore1273 Před 13 dny +5

      Stalkers are known to turn it around to the victim, she sounds very delusional. 🤷‍♀️

  • @traceymitchell6619
    @traceymitchell6619 Před 13 dny +28

    He will have played down his part in all of it. She stalked him, I think that is undisputed BUT I do not believe he is telling us the whole truth. I think Fiona frequented the bar and developed a crush on Gadd and for his and his colleagues amusement, he made fun of her and pretended he liked her too. He said himself he led her on but I think he has played things down where his own behaviour is concerned. Playing with the emotions of a lonely, mentally ill woman is not just cruel, it's a disaster waiting to happen. I have no respect for Gadd whatsoever. He used people for whatever he needed at the time. Fiona for his own amusement, Teri he was ashamed of but still needed her and the predator, he went back for more, even after being seriously sexually assaulted to get him to where he needed to be in his career. How many other victims are there or will be? Martha's portrayed as a monster but there's also a rapist on the loose that he would rather cash in on than report to protect others He has made a lot of money out of his story which will be heavily dramatized to sell to Netflix. Not excusing what Fiona did by any means, she needs help but he enabled her by leading her on until he realised he had bit off more than he could chew. He's also a weird horrible man, he brought that on himself.

  • @fernandomonteiro4262
    @fernandomonteiro4262 Před 11 dny +3

    I think it’s a great piece of filmmaking. I was abused from the age of 9 and sought abusive situations like Donny, because that’s what was familiar. Baby Reindeer is about Donny and not Martha. She is much more than his antagonist, she is a walking wound like him. Richard Gadd wrote her with a lot of humanity and he never made himself as the sole victim. The real Martha can’t accept this and wants to make it about herself now. typical of narcissistic behaviour. And Piers thrives in this, because that’s the kind of exploitative journalist he does. What about Piers’s responsibility towards Fiona’s wellbeing and re-ignition of her trauma? Richard has the right to tell his side of his story, like Fiona.

    • @raviprakashvs1213
      @raviprakashvs1213 Před dnem

      This is exactly it. Thank god you get what the show was about

  • @Chrish1981
    @Chrish1981 Před 13 dny +15

    The fact people won't leave all this alone is a bad idea. Let it be a show and that's it.

    • @MultiLlewis
      @MultiLlewis Před 13 dny +2

      It was a show which was advertised as based on a true story (not a dramatisation). If what it depicts is untrue (her sexual assault on him, '000s of emails, attacking his girlfriend) then she has been defamed & could sue. Given that these things can be factually proven (documentation/eye witnesses) then either she is a delusional liar or he is

  • @carolinesavva5376
    @carolinesavva5376 Před 13 dny +61

    This whole situation is kinda sad. I can't help feeling a bit sorry for her

    • @Victor-oz3zo
      @Victor-oz3zo Před 13 dny +6

      I think the show does that perfectly. Martha is portrayed as a woman who keeps her hope up for a a relationship with Donny, but in the end actually needs help.

    • @Lynne9070
      @Lynne9070 Před 13 dny +12

      And people like you….who make excuse for bad behavior of others…..is exactly what’s wrong with this world. She needs ACCOUNTABILITY before she can ever be healed. Grow up.

    • @R_S747
      @R_S747 Před 13 dny +3

      ​@@Lynne9070where did OP say she didn't deserve accountability? Overly harsh comment. The show itself presents her in a sympathetic light.

    • @burlhorse61
      @burlhorse61 Před 13 dny

      @@Lynne9070 she obviously has mental health issues-that's not just bad behaviour

    • @traceymitchell6619
      @traceymitchell6619 Před 13 dny +3

      Me too. Being the victim of stalking is no joke but in this case I think that's what started it, a joke to amuse him and his colleagues in the bar by, making fun of a mentally ill woman with a crush letting her think he felt the same way until it got too hot to handle. He enabled her behaviour, he brought it on himself.

  • @SamPKBoo
    @SamPKBoo Před 13 dny +4

    Everyone is innocent until proven guilty. In her interview with Piers Morgan she said she didn't watch the series, but has been told about it by other people. She admitted some bits were true, like the name of the show and the hanging of the curtains. She explained she wants to sue because of all the harassment she is facing due to the show. She consistently said she didn't have his number and didn't text him. She also has a point that if Richard Gadd/Netflix didn't want people to identify her they shouldn't have used the few tweets she admits she sent. Until hard evidence of voicemails, texts, emails, convictions, etc. is shared publicly, she deserves the benefit of the doubt. Yes, she comes across as a bit quirky, but that doesn't make her culpable. We should also consider the possibility that Richard Gadd could have created a completely outrageous story based on some milder facts.

  • @quizkraftstudio
    @quizkraftstudio Před 9 dny +2

    how can see sue him if he didn't use her name?

  • @gailbrenner4913
    @gailbrenner4913 Před 13 dny +5

    If the series severely embellished the stalking to the extent that they did; 40,000 emails etc and the real truth is considerably a lot less then I think they overdramatized the actual events resulting in a very misleading account of the truthful events.

    • @mobwatch8119
      @mobwatch8119 Před 9 dny

      They also portrayed her as a convicted criminal who had gone to prison for 4 years for stalking, and had a long history of it, documented online. This isn't accurate (she has no criminal record) and immediately labels her as dangerous. The court hearing at the end of the show is also fictional. People at large don't differentiate between the character and real person, which is the real danger.

  • @iiconicswrld1908
    @iiconicswrld1908 Před 12 dny +10

    what people don’t pay attention to is when it says “based” on a true story, which means it is based around a true story and thing are gonna be exaggerated or not true. This show is not his story, it’s based on his story

    • @kimranson4775
      @kimranson4775 Před 11 dny +3

      Exactly! It is not a documentary. It is a tv show.

    • @michellecook7360
      @michellecook7360 Před 8 dny +1

      @@LucyStormbringerLastic Netflix failed in duty of care! It only took 5 mins to work out who the real Martha is! And again someone has already been wrongly accused of rape.

    • @aliceandfriendsvideos
      @aliceandfriendsvideos Před 6 dny

      You blind? It literally says, at the beginning of EVERY episode:
      "This is a true story."
      (No "based on" anywhere.)

    • @iiconicswrld1908
      @iiconicswrld1908 Před 6 dny

      @@aliceandfriendsvideos research next time plz

  • @mmanda515
    @mmanda515 Před 13 dny +4

    Skeptical UNTIL I saw her interview. SO manipulative, imho... she deflected like no one I've ever seen in nearly every question. Super grandiose, lied by omission way too many times imho & came off histrionic AF. This guy "expert" is wrong imho. Her interview sealed the deal for me. Just confirmed she absolutely did do those things.

  • @vinni3c
    @vinni3c Před 13 dny +10

    Wouldn't be surprised if they're both badly damaged people who've become pathological liars and just loving all the attention they're getting now.

  • @iren123456
    @iren123456 Před 11 dny +2

    I agree he had made mistakes, making her believe they were in a relationship, but he admitted this, and he didn't realize she has this mental state, and he does too. And yes again, this is a big problem, there are many underlying mental conditions we are undermining, and the world is still not aware of them, people can be dangerous when they get into higher positions in society. And it's contagious, And we all can see it.

  • @Destinyirus278
    @Destinyirus278 Před 7 dny +1

    Why did she pled guilty then? She can’t say it’s slander or defamation if she admitted to stalking..

  • @KieronJConroy
    @KieronJConroy Před 13 dny +38

    I never believe what the Sun says, same with what this guy is jabbering on about. He clearly has gone "I got stalked... this didnt happen to me, so its all BS" Gabb clearly says he - at times - enjoyed the attention as he wasnt getting any, So walking someone home, or taking them for a coffee DOESNT mean theyre in a relationship. No idea where this idiot is getting that idea from. She was known to lie, and claimed they was in a relationship. And he even says, the only way for him to get her to listen, was to go along with her delusion.

    • @BlueyKind
      @BlueyKind Před 13 dny +5

      He meant that walking her home, taking her for coffee, etc, *in her mind* meant they were in a relationship.

    • @ElanaVital83
      @ElanaVital83 Před 10 dny +1

      Remember what The Sun did to Johnny Depp

  • @JuliettaRabens
    @JuliettaRabens Před 10 dny +2

    Pop stars get away with writing songs about their exes and internet sleuths outing and harassing them all the time. Why is this different?

  • @dannysstart2218
    @dannysstart2218 Před 13 dny +4

    richard gadd has never said it was her..... her taking credit proves he's not lying...

    • @Skaterbun
      @Skaterbun Před 12 dny

      Has he said it’s not her?

    • @dannysstart2218
      @dannysstart2218 Před 11 dny +2

      @@Skaterbun not really his job to look out for her...

  • @Destinyirus278
    @Destinyirus278 Před 7 dny +1

    Richard shouldn’t have said he instigated it. Because now she can use his own words against him.. But she pled guilty in court to stalking? Didn’t she?

  • @richardsoper777
    @richardsoper777 Před 12 dny +3

    You missed the pont that Ricard Gadd was putting across about his own behavior and lonliness

  • @heavenwasfool
    @heavenwasfool Před 6 dny +1

    Literally what tf was the old guy ranting about 😂😂

  • @enkiitu
    @enkiitu Před 13 dny +4

    This is stupid. Not only Gadd admits his wrongdoings IN the show, but also, this gentleman is saying what one SHOULD do, what the appropriate action to be taken is, but is is talking about a level headed person capable of recognizing clearly the situation. But the show depicts his action as troubled. He even says so in his characters own mouth. All this is really dumb.

  • @CatsJP
    @CatsJP Před 13 dny +4

    Work of fiction….get over it…it’s a show for people to watch and make up their own minds about……this is being blown completely out of proportion……..at its essence……it is a money making venture for Netflix.

  • @Donagh1979
    @Donagh1979 Před 13 dny +5

    The series seemed to end with him being comforted by her attention. I mean no wonder she's appearing on Piers Morgan. It's to get him back. This feels like some weird promotional material for season 2 or have we finally crossed the line between fantasy and reality. God help us all :)

    • @naosch94
      @naosch94 Před 13 dny

      It’s that like that black mirror episode where everything she does In real life gets put on Netflix

  • @raskull666
    @raskull666 Před 13 dny +12

    “Slams” is an overstatement for old guy rambling

    • @pommiebears
      @pommiebears Před 13 dny +1

      Ageist? Do older people have nothing of substance to give? Seeing as you know everything, I must presume? No, I’m not old. Before you make your own presumption.

    • @raskull666
      @raskull666 Před 12 dny +1

      @@pommiebears Rambler spotted

    • @sarahh8596
      @sarahh8596 Před 11 dny

      ​@@pommiebearsI have respect but summarize it

  • @MeanEileen916
    @MeanEileen916 Před 5 dny

    Hold stalkers accountable. Stalking is a CRIME!!! Stalkers lie because they know full well what they are doing is WRONG!! They are hoping the public is both sympathetic and gullible.

  • @americanpancakelive
    @americanpancakelive Před 12 dny +1

    In a weird, roundabout way this woman (if she is 'the' woman) is stalking once again, inserting herself once again.

  • @9winewine
    @9winewine Před 13 dny +6

    He has the messages and e-mails for sure.

  • @Chick3nSalad
    @Chick3nSalad Před 13 dny +2

    What the hell was that man on about? Jesus 🥱

  • @MeanEileen916
    @MeanEileen916 Před 5 dny

    Victims should not live in fear and not be encouraged to be kind because stalkers might get encouraged to do more harmful things. Victims should have the right to warn society of the dangerous behavior these stalkers engage in, exposing them without fear, especially once legal proceedings are completed and it is found that stalkers have committed a crime.

  • @shirleyac12
    @shirleyac12 Před 12 dny +1

    It said it was dramatised . Most true life stories are .

  • @nickymon1998
    @nickymon1998 Před 13 dny +3

    you see. in the show, the name is martha not fiona. neither richard nor netflix mentioned her name. nobody is claiming her to be martha but her lol. if she didn't do these, she can just prove it and move on xD I'd love to watch how that trial plays out like baby reindeer season 2 haha

  • @amann3161
    @amann3161 Před 13 dny +1

    If Richard Gadd is truthful then this crime expert needs to retire and apologise

  • @sharri5412
    @sharri5412 Před 11 dny +1

    If a man did this... they would call for his head...

  • @intuitivediane
    @intuitivediane Před 13 dny +4

    Gosh just get to the point

  • @bluemoon3927
    @bluemoon3927 Před 13 dny +1

    Baby Reindeer was not a documentary. It's creative story telling inspired by real events.

  • @nealsandidge3951
    @nealsandidge3951 Před 10 dny

    What is so interesting about Baby Reindeer is that most stalking situations involve celebrities (major or minor) or normal folks who somehow come into contact with the stalker. This is the first time we see a stalker fixate on a highly damaged individual.

  • @g.m.4877
    @g.m.4877 Před 13 dny +7

    Holy moly. I'm glad he's not one of my lecturers, or rather wasn't one. I stopped listening several minutes ago and was just reading the comments 🤭

  • @ginadonnoe1092
    @ginadonnoe1092 Před 13 dny +2

    Remember the Dr. Phil interview with Shelly Duvall?
    Maybe we should view this with a bit of caution and compassion.

  • @bradleyruby1503
    @bradleyruby1503 Před 12 dny +1

    I see where this guy is coming from but at the same time the whole point of the show is to portray the severity of it but also portray what not to do and his own faults in dealing with the situation

  • @user-cl8be5dv7p
    @user-cl8be5dv7p Před 13 dny +1

    Another expert dragged out to state the bleeding obvious.

  • @shirleyac12
    @shirleyac12 Před 12 dny +1

    She wants some of the profit from the Netflix program. I’m not surprised she’s appeared .

  • @warpigeonofdoom
    @warpigeonofdoom Před 7 dny

    Fiona/Martha would be a dream to observe in a disposition. Under oath with an apparent quasi relationship with reality would be playing a perjury countdown.

  • @grungepixie7935
    @grungepixie7935 Před 10 dny +1

    I can’t focus on anything except how GORGEOUS your hair looks!! 10/10

  • @franciscaburnay
    @franciscaburnay Před 12 dny +2

    Do we have the proof of these emails and voicemails? Just playing devil's advocate here.

    • @Skaterbun
      @Skaterbun Před 12 dny

      Of course not it’s not, nobody pressed charges, nobody was tried in real life. So now everyone believes Netflix now cause after all they are right, right? they don’t need to know or care about facts if Richard is making them and himself money out of it.

  • @yyysaito
    @yyysaito Před 11 dny

    What was interest about the show was that Richard is now aware that his self-hatred, loneliness and low self esteem let this woman and the male abuser come close to him. He is aware that he let all this happen to him.

  • @lilmousepoo
    @lilmousepoo Před 13 dny +4

    i feel like this guy didnt watch the rest of the show besides the aspect of the stalking..

    • @thepracticalmystic8525
      @thepracticalmystic8525 Před 11 dny

      Well I did, as a mother of teenage boys, the fact that a rapist is on the loose , was more concerning than the other two , staking each other from what I could see, there was a pair of them in that mess

  • @MayaMaia311
    @MayaMaia311 Před 11 dny +3

    Tell this lady that this is a fictional series based on real events, not a documentary.

  • @One-esa
    @One-esa Před dnem

    With ask due respect, it’s Richard’s story and we don’t get to tell him what he should be doing with it. There was plenty of “If you’re experiencing this, call this number” type messages in the screen, and it’s bringing awareness to the issues that it depicts with so much rawness and vulnerability. You don’t get to demand that every piece of art, literature, film, be a platform. The show is excellent, it’s doing an incredible job of shedding light on unseen experiences, calling it “naive” is so reductive and just wrong.

  • @SamPKBoo
    @SamPKBoo Před 13 dny +4

    The Sun journalist clearly didn't pay attention to the interview. Fiona never denied messaging Richard on Twitter - she said she sent a few msgs! She always said she didn't have his number! She said she had lemonade/soft drinks! Netflix should have asked for evidence that proved the series was actually based on true facts.

  • @ToughGerms
    @ToughGerms Před 4 dny

    Bottom line, she revealed herself to the public. The lawsuit will go nowhere.

  • @lorrainem.swartzentruber3077

    Why did Piers give this woman a microphone??

  • @dndnavyproud
    @dndnavyproud Před 13 dny +2

    When does 'a muse' cross over to become 'a co-creator'?

  • @Bellab8759
    @Bellab8759 Před 11 dny

    It’s easy to call someone who’s got a problem a monster. Until you have a problem.

  • @reneelyndamartinez1362
    @reneelyndamartinez1362 Před 10 dny +1

    Was she incarcerated under a different name?

  • @RandomVideosFirst
    @RandomVideosFirst Před 12 dny +1

    'I don’t think, I sent him anything '
    SEnT fOm iPhoN

  • @milenatos
    @milenatos Před 10 dny

    Imagine for a second if the roles have been reversed? It would be nothing new and nothing shocking, there would be fuzz about it. However, I'm glad that the guy came out and people are finally speaking about stalking victims.

  • @AKinCYP
    @AKinCYP Před 3 dny

    Where I come from, you can go to the police department and they can issue for you a "clean criminal record" document. You show this paper in instances like when getting a job in the government. And I'm wondering, couldn't she get this kind of paper and show it to the public if she has never been convicted?

  • @georgemioch8981
    @georgemioch8981 Před 13 dny +1

    "He would not advise sharing certain information about what actually happened": dude, nobody is asking you, it is not a police report or a legal case, it is a TV show, writer can share whatever he wants.
    "She would find it difficult to recognize that the behavior she is engaging in is dysfunctional": well duh! If she was capable to recognize that it was an inappropriate behavior, she would probably not do it... Or like we say in mental health: stalker has no insight into their behavior.
    And no, stalkers do not blame the person they are stalking for stalking, but for giving them reason for stalking. Martha believes that her and "Donny" have a relationship, that their short meetings are "dates", that they are going to get married and have children (Eggbert, Keith and Neo 🙄🙄🙄🙄) and since they are "involved", she considers his girlfriend as someone who is a danger to her, Martha, and her relationship with "Donny" and believes she is justified to protect that relationship by any means possible.
    In terms of psychopathology of stalking: stalkers may have personality disorder, but it on its own doesn't make them stalk. They frequently suffer from erotomania: it's a belief that another person is in love with them, so by stalking, they feel they are "helping" that person express their emotions and achieve relationship they are longing for. Erotomania is a psychotic symptom, a delusion.
    Also, whether the victim encourages the stalker, even out of the best intentions, such as wanting to be friends, feeling sorry for stalker and wanting to help, that doesn't have much effect on the stalker. Stalkers are pretty good in finding "hidden" messages, meanings and signs, rationalizations, justifications, etc. Sure, had "Donny" never given Martha that cup of tea, she wouldn't have started to stalk him. However, that minimal gesture that was really a part of his job as a bartender, started a storm...
    This stalker story is specific because "Donny" was trying to be nice to Martha, make her a friend. And that is the point: he had a history of abuse, he was under stress trying to make it as a comedian, he had inferiority complex because of history of sexual abuse, so that made him even better victim for Martha. Stalkers find victims who themselves have issues and needs...
    Baby Reindeer is not only a story about a stalker, but it is also a story about bad decisions on the part of "Donny" that end him not only being stalked by Martha, but also sexually abused while trying to become a comedian and writer. Its message is not only "what to do when someone is stalking you", but why was it that "Donny" couldn't do what any reasonable person would do in that situation, and that is go to police, avoid, instead of befriend Martha, protect himself so she doesn't learn where he lives, etc.