5 Behaviours That Will Attract People Like a Magnet
Vložit
- čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
- Valentine's Day is around the corner, and you might be wondering if you have what it takes to attract a partner. According to research, there are some strategies that you could try, like making intense eye contact, or casually touching someone. Hopefully, this video can give some tips to help you find your date (only if you're looking though)!
We also made a video on the signs you're actually attractive: • 6 Signs You're Actuall...
Writer: Michal Mitchell
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Tris Canimo
CZcams Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Guéguen, N. (2007). Courtship compliance: The effect of touch on women's behavior. Social Influence, 2(2), 81-97. doi.org/10.1080/1553451070131...
McGinley, H., McGinley, P. & Nicholas, K. Smiling, body position, and interpersonal attraction. Bull. Psychon. Soc. 12, 21-24 (1978). doi.org/10.3758/BF03329613
Hess, E. (1975). The Role of Pupil Size in Communication. Scientific American, 233(5), 110-119. Retrieved March 18, 2021, from www.jstor.org/stable/24949943
Millward, J. (0AD). Phenylethylamine. A Chocolate Composition. www.chm.bris.ac.uk/webprojects....
Kniffin, K. M., Wansink, B., Griskevicius, V., & Wilson, D. S. (2014, October 11). Beauty is in the in-group of the beholded: Intergroup differences in the perceived attractiveness of leaders. The Leadership Quarterly. www.sciencedirect.com/science....
Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. doi.org/10.1177/0146167297234003
Moore, M. M. (2002). Courtship Communication and Perception. Perceptual and Motor Skills, 94(1), 97-105. doi.org/10.2466/pms.2002.94.1.97
Curious to know where everyone is from. Comment below which country you are from! :)
E
Canada🇨🇦
Florida, US
massachusetts
USA
"You attract people by the qualities you display. You keep them by the qualities you possess." - Velma Dinkley
A legend once said
Omigosh, I just realized who that is lol
This says a lot about Biden's IQ
"Jinkies!" - also, Velma
@@PunkIsDead...LikeMe "My glasses, I can't see with out them" -Ms. Dinkley
Timestamps
0:21 Casually touch them.
1:28 Availability + open body language.
2:29 Be a leader.
3:08 Smile when you can.
3:37 Maintain good eye contact.
4:57 Crack a joke or two.
Thanks for putting this together!
That was quick!
@@Psych2go Haha no problem, I love your videos
I love these type of comments ❤
Thanks so much!!!
I think the touching thing only works if they already find you somewhat attractive. If someone talked to me on the road and touched me and I didnt know them I would be annoyed.
Yes, definitely be cautious with that tip. Thanks for bringing it up!
same!!
Yes!🥴
Yes but I feel like even if you don't know them too much but a conversation is going great a little touch can help a lot.
As a female, if a random man walked up to me on the street and touched me, I would be scared and he might end up injured.
I love how the animation constantly changes as time goes by...it's all so beautiful
Thank you! Which animation style do you like the most? - Cindy
@@Psych2go I like them all!! But the style in the video "5 body language signs someone likes you" has to be my favorite. So cute!! And love your videos, they're awesome. Keep up the great work!
@@Psych2go ur animations are all so cute . uWu
@@bangtangirl5548 hellooo armyyy I purple youuu ARMY hereee💜💜💜
@@georginaantonatou1990 Borahae!!! i purple you armyyyy
1. Casually touch them
2. Availability + open body language
3. Be a Leader
4. Smile when you can
5. Maintain good eye contact
6. Crack a joke or two
I was updating this every time I watched the video so that’s why it’s edited, and your welcome! 🤗
Thanks for typing it out!
1. Casually touch them
2. Show you’re available and have open body language
3. Be a leader
4. Smile when you can
5. Maintain good eye contact
6. Crack a joke or two
There is a good feeling when you finally make a girl who rarely smiles genuinely smile
Relatable, really the ones who don't get treated like others.
Extraordinary person reading this, you are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life! You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you) and gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever! Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly ✨❤️ - Nat
Please stop copying this because you know nothing about me.
Thankyou I actually needed to hear this I have a bad habit of letting my past define me today, I have to be reminded of that every now and then 💕
Thanks Natalie
Thank you for your encouragement
@@vka60 yeah
My mental health has been bad recently, and watching these videos are helping me create new friendships, which had been hard for my with anxiety. Thank you!
We’re here for you! Are there other topics you’d like us to cover more on to help you? - Cindy
@@Psych2goNot currently, just keep up the great work and helping others ( like me ) to become happier people again!
@@Psych2go yes. How to handle someone you do not want to be friends or interact with?
Can I ask how have you made friends? I'm also trying hard to make new friends with anxiety. I talk to people on discord and spent time with 2 friends I have. But I have trouble making new ones.
@@Psych2go how to make new friends. How to maintain friendships
Honestly watching these videos helped me realize that my old relationship was a toxic one, I’m taking steps like trying to be more available for others and I’m generally a person that gives hugs to the people I like but it’s hard since I have anxiety 😅
@@destroyer2509 I would say be honest & direct. But psych 2 go may have a much better way to handle it
@@destroyer2509 The self-perception theory suggests that we actually SHOULDN'T ghost people because it makes us feel worse knowing it's the wrong thing to do. Ghosting also tends to be a bad shortcut to understanding you're not interested in someone, without giving them the benefit of the doubt or viewing the future of improvement.
What signs did you notice that helped you realize your previous relationship was toxic?
@@destroyer2509 I think it's really case by case scenario. If they are someone who can understand when you talk to them, communication may be a good option to go. To see if there's a middle ground to let them know where you stand and why. But if they are toxic, it's best to just draw your boundaries very clear and let it be.
im sorry ab ur old relationship :/
I don't know if people fall in love because of behaviors. That helps, but it also helps to have a lot in common that one can relate to the other.
Maybe you can try one of these to find out. If you get a date, you can thank us later ;)
Look at these tips as gadgets, not the main focus
Idk why but I don't get attracted by the common things , the uncommon ones attract me the most
These behaviors create hormonal attachments that cause bonding not love per se. Touch and eye contact are primitive and so our brains regard them as good social cues nothing more.
Love is built more consciously and sexual chemistry is more spontaneous.
FASCINATING HOW the use of eye 👁 contact 🤝 varies greatly from country to country!! 🇯🇵 🇺🇸 🇩🇪 🇰🇷 🇧🇷 I LIVE IN JAPAN right now and it is almost rude/intimidating to look at someone's eyes 👀 too long ...
In that aspect I should of lived there vs here in the U.S. for I find quite rude and creepy when I do maintain eye contact, but get I got numerous issues.
@@donaldfrederick501 yes it is really an interesting transition from life in the 🇺🇸 to here in 🇯🇵 for sure!!
And almost no physical contact or touch in Japan. I am living here quite long and it is very hard.
@@porandogo yes!!! that is very true
I cannot think of many things more attractive than a beautiful person whose beauty is not actually what attracts you. Intelligence can make us really attractive 🖖
Who else thinks it's extremely awkward to make eye contact with someone, regardless if you like them or not
I can be awkward with the eye contact if I really like someone but it's getting better 😅
I love eye contact . I do it with everyone 😄
I think this highlights the need for a Psych2Go video on neurodivergency
I thought so but when *insert something sad* happened I just totally stopped caring about that and people have completely changed their way of interacting with me it's very weird.
We'll if you're Chris Evans or Henry Cavill women would not mind at all!! Know if you're the average 5'8 guy who works at Walmart, McDonald's or department store we'll good luck with that!! Cause your hopes are going to garbage 🗑️ disposals.
“What will you use on your next date?”
me: *what date?*
The life 🤣
Fr
I love the stare. Two people loving each other without the other knowing staring at each other is so beautiful.
Dear Psych2go, I would be interested in watching a video on the science behind why we are/become shy about/around things, people, situations, etc. Thank you.
I really appreciate your mission for mental health and psychology.
Theme idea: what to do when someone has an emotional breakdown?
I give you a example, I'm in a group (3 in total) doing a work for college and the stress of we are using a new software and the teacher is learning with us and the dead line of 2 weeks, the 2 weeks already with other tests (exams) of other subjects, make one of the members (a girl) start crying because of all that I wrote above.
The question is what is the best behavior in a situation like that?
BTW
I give her space, other colleges start saying to keep calm because everything gonna be OK.
it really depends on the person. i guess u can just ask her (when shes not having a breakdown) what would make her the most calm and how u can help her when shes sad. i think she'll appreciate it
You've uploaded these videos at the perfect time, as I'm just starting to put myself out there and go on dates. I feel a bit less useless given I was following a lot of these steps anyway, so thank you!
You're doing great with every progress! Wish you the best of luck! :) Keep us updated too!
As someone who's in the spectrum of autism, I mostly avoid eye contact when talking to people XD.
How about the other 4 tips? :)
@@Psych2go I'm more related to the 'be a leader' tip 💙.
@@Psych2go never works
What a great, truly inspiring stories you have ❤️🙌 I wish there were more CZcamsrs like you. All the best 😇
I love these videos! They are bite sized but give alot or information! and you guys make it fun by adding little references to games, shows, etc! Please keep up this awsome content.
~Bite sized 💖
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed this bit sized informative video! What kind of game references do you want to see more of? - Cindy
@@Psych2goTwisted Wonderland and Bungo Stary Dogs and Bungo To Alchemist and Honkai Impact and Identity V and- I'll stop but here are my recommendations.
These videos have really been a good impact on my life thank you so much god bless
Glad to hear! Is there a video you would like us to create that you haven't watched yet?
love this comment!!
@@Psych2go recently I’ve been dealing with stress and anxiety I feel like I’m depressed as well because I don’t like my body the way it is and I don’t like my appearance but I feel like your the only person I can talk to 😔
@@Spaccc heyy! u can talk to me too if u want
@@userm180 oh ok well I’m kinda fighting depression rn 😞
So my friends tend to like see me as a comfort person or a safe place. They said that they feel that way because I have a like sorta soft voice and they said that I’m a really calm and chill person but when others start to like get energetic I do to. One of them said “your just nice to talk to and be around”. Knowing this honestly made me have more of a reason to live as long as I can
I am just in love wid your voice... 🤗 It's so calming and soothing & the way u deliver your words are amazing 😍..i love your videos ❤️
Thank you for this reading ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love these!
me too fam
It’s so helpful
Her voice is so soothing aswell 🥰
YOU FIRST
Woo! Are there other behaviours you know that aren’t listed in this video? - Cindy
Earlyyy! I love your videos and they have helped me become a better and more aware person, thank you!
Happy to hear Ella!
Thank you for the helpful videos!
Thanks Drina!! Glad you liked this video - Cindy
these videos always have such a great vibe and they help me a lot! thank you, Psych2go !
Thank you for making these sorts of videos❤️
So these are good for making people like you. It's interesting when we consider why you want them to like you.
Hope these tips help you! Let us know if there are other kind of videos you would like to see more of! - Cindy
The fact that I’ve done 4 of the 6 naturally gives me hope that my current love interest, likes me. Whenever we talk we look into each other’s eyes about 85% to 90% of the time 🥰
thanks for making videos for us !
I really love your videos, they are soo helpful💜💜 Also, I will go for a walk with my 💜crush💜 next week and I was soo nervous because it's the first time, but now I am full of confidence !!!!! Eye contact,compliments,and I and my readyyy. Also , I need to say that your voice is So 💜SATISFYING💜 , It calms me a lot!!!
Im literally using this to sleep, her voice is really calming
When a male looks into
A Females Eye's and he
Sees her Beautiful Soul.
It is like seeing the Array of
Starlights in the midst of nite
For the first time.
It will leaves us in
Awe from such beauty...
what
@@monk3brain632 star nite
Star light
This art style is so stinking cute! I love it so much!
I LOVE YOUR VOICE😩❤❤
This such a good video! I really want to gain even more of his love nowe💕💙
I wouldn't be okay with a random stranger touching me🙄
Yeah, same
I think they meant only if you know them personally and if you are comfortable
You have a relaxing voice, will add this vid to my asmr playlist. ❤️😂
I love the cartoons and the content. Thank you so much. It helps!
frankly until i watched this video i hadn't noticed that i was doing any of this (tho i do almost all of this to everyone) and it is cool to realized why i do some of the things that just come naturally. The 5th one about looking into the eyes of the person you are attracted to does indeed work so when you are trying to attract someone think about nervousness as something that is a tool and a chain that holds you back and just look directly into their eyes, ask them to look into yours, and say the dumbest thing you humanly can XD it works for me and it is hilarious!
I have horrid social anxiety... and thus making and keeping eye contact is extremely hard for me, even when I am deeply, madly, insanely in love with the man. Maybe especially then.
I wish I could learn how to just get myself to KEEP the eye contact and relive that intoxicating experience (I know it feels good because I managed it a few times, when ridiculously drunk.)
make small steps i'd say. try to improve your eye contact time day by day
Had the same problem bro but what I learned is that you have to learn to not care if that makes sense 😂people tend to assume that everyone cares about how they look or so forth when in reality people don’t care as much as you think they do
@Valoelify I had the same problem. Will is more powerful than feelings. If you want to make and keep eye contact, you have to go all-in. You will see in time that there is nothing to be afraid of. Having eye contact is really beautiful, you can tell how they feel without asking them. Also longer eye contacts make the other person trust you more.
@@twistedmagic1627 I'm a woman! But we can still be bros haha!😂 Thank you so much for the kind advices and encouragement. I will try harder.. but I instinctively look away, and so will just have to force myself a lot I guess.
You're right that most people don't care as much as we think they do, but I'm soon meeting the love of my life in person for the first time, and he's crazy about me, so he definitely cares! I want to be able to keep eye contact.. Ohh God...
@@vszabo595 Thank you so much for the advice and for everything you said! It is greatly appreciated.
The one channel that inspires me
Brilliant video.
These videos are so helpful
Glad to know you found it helpful
Much love ❤️
Likewise!
Really love the flowery scene and gentle music. Thanks for the knowledge, Psych2Go team!
Love the vids keep helping ☺️
Keep up the great work
Thanks!
I love you guys you give me more hope than my mom
Happy to hear!
Thanks for this video😊
Very smart video, thanx
Be the Energy you want tp attract ...⚡⚡⚡
yess! i was just thinking about how to attract people or in this case someone when this just popped up. Tysm Psych2Go!!!♥️♥️
Let us know if this works for you! *cross fingers* - Cindy
Nice vid, thank you
This will help me get more confidence in finding someone who likes me, these tips will help my nervous as I get a bit anxious a bit
not me taking notes for when i finally meet someone attractive 😅
6 MOST ATTRACTIVE BEHAVIORS
1. Casually touch them
2.Availability + open body language
3. Be a leader
4. Smile while you can
5. Maintain good eye contact
6. Crack a joke
I love your videos
Thank you! Glad to see you loved the little references. Would you like to see more of them in our future videos? :p - Cindy
"look at this GRRRAAAAAPPPPHHH"
I was once so deeply in love that normally I would avoid others eye contact as much as I can, but when I meet the one I was in love, I kept look into his eyes. I would say I was pretty crazy at that time.
Since I am anxious with people I'll make sure I never do any of these :D
While I do think these tips are helpful, I need to know how to maintain eye contact. Part of my autism is I can’t keep good eye contact for long, if at all. 😔
That’s true! Maintain eye contact is the hardest. One tip to do that is look at the person’s nose
yess i did fell in love , with your voice. I dont know why it sounds so romantic
Your channel is soo cool. :)
I do this thing a lot where , to make it seem like I’m not obviously staring directly at you, I look somewhere beyond your shoulder or something and then start looking back like you just HAPPENED to be right near where I was looking, I do it more often with ppl I have a crush on :/
This is actually genius. I'll steal your idea 🙈
I've just escaped from abusive / toxic relationships, and these kinds of behavior seem like something from the other planet to me.. 🙄😿
im so sorry :// u ok?
I'm glad you escaped that's extremely hard to do you are so strong
Thank fo the advice❤
You're amazing!
You are amazing!
I just finished watching this video and I guess no one will ever see me as attractive since I have too much anxiety in conversation to talk to anyone new. And I can’t even do most of these things with people I know well because of how terribly they always go
u dont need to do the things in the video to be attractive. this works for certain types of ppl :)
@@userm180 But I need to actually be able to talk to someone in order to be in a relationship and I can’t have a functioning conversation with anyone.
@@labradont4522 i get u. i think we should just put ourselves in social situations to train for talking to ppl. i dont see any other way
@@userm180 I try but I just overthink the hell out of any conversation because I don’t want to say the wrong thing and I don’t know if I said the wrong thing. I’ll frequently take back what I say just to realize I didn’t need to take it back causing me to panic and freak out. I like dogs and animals a whole lot better than humans, they’re easier to understand and I know they won’t judge me.
@@labradont4522 hmm then try to train ur talking skills w people u dont really care ab. cause they wont really care either if u mess up
“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
― Dale Carnegie
Love the animation style 😍
Thank you so much :) Would you like to see more of this animation?
Good timeing 😁👍🏾
I never touch people. I'm not sure how available I look. I can be a leader, but usually wait until others have started the conversation or given their opinion. I rarely smile a true smile. I can make decent eye contact. I can crack jokes, but I have to get to know the person first to find out what they think is 'funny'. Overall, 1/6 (maybe 2/6). Things are looking lonely this year.
u dont need to have all of these to be attractive
If people are the magnets, then Iʼm the object.
Nice video as always.I want to add that you can dress nice to attract someone as well.
I love your voice !
Just some questions for the "Maintain good eye contact." What if you are really nervous and couldn't make proper eye contact? Is there tips on how to maintain good eye contact for someone you like ?
i guess u can just train over time for it.
@@userm180 I see, thanks for answering my question
@@AntiLose
1. Casually touch them
2. Show availability and have open body language
3. Be a leader
4. Smile when you can
5. Maintain good eye contact
very nice video thankd for sharing...
Im in Love with your Voice, definitely
"Casually touch them."
No. Absolutely not. DO NOT fucking touch me unless I know you super well. That shit skeeves me out so BAD.
"Availability/Open body language."
Nope. I'm a very "closed" person, and I only allow those in who I feel have earned and deserve it. Been burnt far, FAR too many times to be freely open like that again.
"Be a leader."
No. I don't like leading. It's uncomfortable and it's not "me." It's just not the kind of thing I'm made for.
"Smile."
I mean... I try? Depression's a bitch though, and I can only push through so hard with the mask before the cracks show through.
"Maintain good eye contact."
Nope. Also mega uncomfortable for me. Legitimately physically painful to do, and it's something I can only do in very short bursts.
"Crack a joke."
That's literally all I do for the most part. Humor's basically the only thing I have to cope and get people to stay around me.
Ok I can really understand the eye contact one, so basically I hate eye contact unless it's with someone i have known for years or so it's fine but if your just like a random person who has decided to talk to me and make eye contact across the room, don't it just makes me uncomfortable. Like if you accidentally end up starting at someone what do you do. You can't look away because it's eye contact, meaning there looking at you too so they will notice you immediately look away and think "huh that's weird." And you can't just keep holding the eye contact because that makes it weird and just turns into a staring contest. And then what about the times you're lost into the depths of your thoughts and end up starting at someone. Do you go and say "hey I wasn't starting at you, I was lost in the depths of my mind until time and space didn't exist." Or just say nothing wondering the whole day if they think your crazy.
Anyways thanks for reading this far, this was a very long comment to make so thanks.
(I wonder if I'm the only one who thinks like this?)
Are you by any chance doing alright, buddy?
JUST CASUALLY TOUCH THEM 👇🏻😀👍🏻
🙇🏻♀️
XD
😂 hahahaha
Only if you know them personally 😌
thank you so much. i like a guy and i think he likes me back. I will treasure these ideas and things to notice when we are hanging out!
I fell in love with her voice!
I do that open body language thing. I also do this thing where I walk about a meter per second slower than the average pedestrian speed, as though I'm walking through molasses.
I respond to people slowly, not because I'm processing the world slower, but to convey the impression of significance: turning from "you just caught my attention. Make it count" to "you just caught my attention. You matter." The opposite of a small woodland creature, twitching and chittering like a lightweight.
U know 👁
This is an instruction video of what not to do, for me. I want nobody to be attracted to me. I want nobody to like me. I want nobody to hate me. I simply want humans to not acknowledge me at all. One is far safer alone than with someone else around.
hey, are u ok?
@@userm180 No
@@indridcold8433 wanna talk ab it?
In that comedy club part, was that SOKKA on the couch??? That's so cool man! Another atla fan!!!!!
I think I fell in love....with your voice😍
Isn't it kind of schizophrenic? On one side a slight touch seems to make us more attractive and is kind of a social skill, on the other side we get accused of harassment if we do so....
You don't get accuse of anything if you touch the shoulder of someone for one second, don't exaggerate. Just don't make the other uncomfortable by touching part who are more intimate (hips, legs,...) And not over do it (can feel intrusive) and it will be alright
It’s not a mistake ✨it’s a masterpiece ✨
Omg ur voice 🛐🛐🛐
The vids are great.. Really good
Thanks for your support
Her voice is so good
The art is so cute 🥰
Just a lovely and romantic voice!
Thanks! Dinner will be easier than ever before now :)