Social anxiety is constantly worrying about how you walk, how you sit, how you eat, how you look and how you talk when you're around people. It's mentally draining.
it's even worse when I wasn't thinking that but then everyone in class actually comments on my sitting -_- making me self aware and making my sitting a problem
I constantly feel like I’m annoying people, that’s why I constantly distance myself away from others. My whole life has been changed because of my anxiety. I’m even afraid of joining a sport because I feel like everyone around is judging me because of how I perform said sport. It’s very hard living life with anxiety.
Something that might be worth considering to do(if you haven't tried it yet)in some aspect, would be to put a positive spin towards other's perspectives, my case being that the people that are around me are also most likely dealing with their own problems, and while not exactly the same, it gives an interesting life just as complex as anyone, giving them something that would make considering another on a small scale less important than doing it on a larger scale such as one's lifestyle
I can relate ALOT with the sport thing. My parents always ask me if i want to join a sport and I always would say no, and then they would ask why and then I would make up an excuse but yea im worried the attention will all be on me or ill make myself look like an idiot shooting a hoop.. My parents are thinking of forcing me to join track and you can probably imagine how I felt when they said that.
Worst part is if I sent this to my mom she’d say: “You don’t even have any of these! Social anxiety is a sickness, you’re not sick. You’re just shy that’s all.”
I had confessed with mom and guess what she said "is that your age to have anxiety" It hurts me and now I feel like there is no one to listen to my prblm 😰
Yeah I just don't know how to open up and when i do it's really fast and embarrassing or I'll say it like I'm joking so I don't cry and so they won't be like, omg that happened or omg really. I just it makes me feel weird when people say that
Can anyone relate to crying during arguments or when being scolded as a kid, not because you were frustrated but because it was embarrassing. My entire childhood I never understood why I’d cry, but then I realized that it was so embarrassing to me that I was in trouble.
Same! Also because of anger. Oh and whenever I cried in public (obviously out of my control) I was so embarrassed that it made me cry more and for longer which was more embarrassing which made me cry and it's just a nightmare
I understand cause I am a teenager and sometimes arguing with my mother is so painful that I just cry cause if I'm talking back with logic she will say I'm disrespecting her
no because for real, this and the fact that my parents have done some uh.. calling cps worthy things when i was younger so now im terrified of them and what theyll do if i get into a fight with them
Hey let me tell ya something when you graduate. you will chose where to go. so you won't see 500 kids in school just strangers in supermarket or any place. your anxiety might get a bit better dealing with fewer people. I feel much better if i walk around public spaces with people I know.
Do you know what i did, i had to go to driving class and i had to sit in a class full of strangers… I purposely changed my possession on the seat to face my fear.. but it helped i got used to it after a time
I have social anxiety, my mom says I'm just shy. It has gotten to the point where she forces me to talk to people and I end up getting super anxious and I end up backing out of it. My mom says I'm just shy but I know it is more
This happens to me as well something as simple as ordering a pizza or asking where the bathroom is, is horrifying, then she forces me to do it and tells me to grow up... I love my mom and she probably thinks I'm just being shy or something so I don't really blame her, BUT I'm moving to a new school and I'll have no friends :/
once I wanted to ask the cashier at mcdonald's how to get the multicolored cola glass but I didn't wanna feel like shit blocking the queue of actually hungry people who just wanna eat
me: literally breaths social anxiety: *your breathing too loud people are staring at you* it's like every little mistake that I do makes me feel like I just let the world down...
@@miss.random2235 this used to happen to me excessively as a kid, and I ended up picking a spot away from my school campus (I used to go to a private school which was elementary, middle, and high combined, with a college somewhere there too) and I used to sit far away in a quite shady place and eat ._. But it was especially hard when I had to eat at a birthday party
anskey family actually SAD is the medical acronym for Seasonal Affective Disorder- a type of seasonal depression that typically only occurs during the winter months but feel better in the summer(some people are affected by the reverse of this) :) I do wonder if it was intentional to call it SAD though.
with social anxiety, you feel like youre constantly being watched when you go out in public... what sucks about this is i also have scopophobia (fear of being stared at) qwq
since im in a wheelchair, im used to it. its only when ppl start pointing/wispering. Im also seen as a threat to parents' children. parents constantly tell their toddlerd to "be careful" around me. i hate it.
@@winterwithawhyknudsen5166 no no, they don’t consider you as a threat, they just say that to their kids so they don’t accidentally bump into your wheelchair and make you uncomfortable.
Do anyone ever feel judged even when they are alone? Like that feeling of constantly being watched and judged by someone or something. I feel like I make up reactions of people and it's just like I'm being judged, even when I'm alone.
Yep. I don’t sing in private, always keep completely covered up, I don’t think about certain things, etc. It’s just an overwhelming feel of embarrassment no matter what.
YES. i always go under a blanket when im on my bed even if im not sleeping and my light is always off so the invisible people on the invisible cameras cant judge me or see me
@@hsanchezisidora im sorry for what happened to you :( i also feel like im gonna drop out from college just because i can't do this basic human function. Havr you ever meet a therapist or psychiatrist?
@@zead9481 when I dropped out I went to both, then they discharged me because they thought I was good enough. But later I noticed that nothing really changed until I dropped out again from university on the first semester, and decided to go to therapy again. With the new therapist I came to know that the first one did a horrible job and was totally superficial, so was the psychiatrist. Now I know that healing is a lot more work but totally worth it, im taking it one day at a time, because I came to the realization that this anxiety disorder came from other unresolved traumas. So I do recommend seeking proffesional help and to start understanding yourself more deeply this way and be forgiving with yourself :)
My mum always asks me what clothes I want online and I always say “I’ll find them myself” cuz I want my friends approval on the items before I actually buy them
I don't think I have social anxiety but I always was kind of reluctant to ask my mom for new clothes I wanted because she might not like my style/think it's inappropriate/think I'm still too young for that/whatever
same, once I had to put books away in the school library with this guy and then he said "why are you breathing so heavily" and I was like "I dont know". that made me not want to breathe even more. what does normal breathing sound like?
i cried all the time in the school cafeteria, I was scared of people watching me eat, the people in front of me making fun of me, I missed my mom and was scared of everything in general, I was surrounded by people, but why is it that I just felt lonelier than when I'm alone at home? i hated everything about school, and lunch wasn't any different.
Lunch was probably the worst part of school because it always seems like people are judging you but you just can't see them... Me personally I don't eat at school and I wait till I get home. I also don't eat breakfast so I'm usually rly hungry when I get home but it feels like I can't eat much
THIS RIGHT HERE OMGG. I want to go talk to a therapist because I feel like I do have social anxiety but I don’t want to self diagnose but I also don’t want to go talk to a stranger 😅
EXACTLY. HOW I'M NOT FREAK OUT WHEN I'M SUPOSSED TO TELL STRANGER ABOUT MY PROBLEM. I'M SORRY FOR THIS CAPSLOCK I'M SO MAD AT MYSELF RN BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE ANY COURAGE TO SEE A THERAPIST
I had a therapist that did home visits when i was little. Honestly it didn't help me. I'm not saying anyone shouldn't accept help but in my case it didn't help.
I also start tearing up and sometimes even cry whenever I tell someone about my social anxiety. I don’t even know why but when I talked about it to my mother for the first time I couldn’t bring out the words and started tearing up. Thinking about having anxiety makes me feel bad and more anxious. Idk if I’m the only one
I do the same thing, because I feel like I’ll be judged for being so vulnerable and then added onto it, doing it in front of your loved ones who don’t understand this, they then down play it and make it not as important of a problem that you know it is. It’s so annoying and I hate it.
ill never get over the constant uncomforting feeling sitting in a room filled with people. (Mostly talking about classrooms) I’ll sit there and talk to people, but on the inside I’m like having an anxiety attack right then and there.
@@cinnamon.9809 I don't understand ur last sentence, and nobody said the world isn't hard for extroverts, but it's definitely more favoured to be extroverted in this world than introverted
That must be pretty bad. Well I'm a guy so I don't really know what it feels like but I'm sure its bad. For me I try to control my anger whenever I become socially embarrassed cause my anxiety makes me angry and I usually feel like going physical on someone. ;-;
My social anxiety has really gone bad. It started when I was in elementary school or maybe even in Kindergarten. I was always bullied in Kindergarten and in every School. They always made fun of me, but I think one of the breaking point, was when a teachers critizied my drawing because I Drew a the ocean first with straight lines and then with Bevel lines. She said that makes in look ugly and no one else should do that because it was dumb and that I should start over (I was nearly finished and six) but in a way that everyone heard and then they started to make even more fun of me. The second breaking point that I went into puberty with seven and got my periods with eight. All the girl were Jealous, because I'm already and puberty and the boys were disgusting. And my Teachers wanted me to act like an adult. Because of that the bullying got worse and my friends started acting like I was their parent. The third point are my Family. My Parents don't love each other and often fight. My father is an narcissistic alcoholic that acts like a victim and commits Domestic violence. But my mother can't break up with him because of money. My brother act like we are all monsters and doesn't understand why my mother is broken and is angry because he didt know that I'm going through things and now he doesn't even contacts us any more and only talk with the rich side of the family (all of these people are monsters and he does not care because they have Money). My sister also is crazy and wants me to die and always said that I am the devil because I nearly killed her mother (first of all is our mother and second of all she was sick when she was pregnant with me and nearly died but didn't) And my grandmother is a narcissistic psycho. The fourth point is my old school. I got bullied from the teaches and my classmates. The Teachers always gave me a bad Testimony even tho I had straight As. All the years I started going less and less out with friends and started talking to them less and less. And stopped going to school. And now Im at a point were I don't go out anymore, were I don't have friends, were I can't hold a conversation. Were I can't do anything even know I anxious to get hated on. Even my therapist said he won't treat me if I don't go to school. I have to go into a clinic but I have to wait until next year. But next year is to late. Cause I will graduate next year. I'm just so lost
@@devil-chan2466 thank you very very much. Im trying to figure out if I have a bit of social anxiety or it's just my dumb stupide brain wanting attention.
It's crazy because I knew something was wrong from a young age, anytime I was out with my mom I would always ask her to do social interactions for me, especially when ordering food or talking to doctors. I sadly didn't know I had the disorder till I was an adult, while I'm glad to know what I'm dealing with is common and others go through it as well, it's still difficult to work and keep a job and go out at all
This is me. I ask my mom to do these things too. It’s like I’m living in 3rd person sometimes but I don’t have a problem with it unless I’m expected to do it on my own.
I don't know why but when I am walking alone mostly in school I feel like people are going to pity me because they think I am alone or because I am just walking in circles..
that's me everyday. When i'm alone and surrounded by lot's of people I touch my phone like im doing something really important just to don't make eye contact with anyone
that’s me... i only have one person in my class who hangs around me bc she’s an introvert so we only have eachother so we’re don’t seem awkward, but i feel like she doesn’t like me but when my class goes outside and she isn’t outside with me i have no one to be with so i walk around looking alone and all the popular kids are near me so i feel like they’re judging
*me and my classmates eating at the same table* me, thirsty: huh i should drink my classmate: *drinks before I even go for the glass* me: K. NOPE. no drinking for at least 5 minutes or else ill come off as a copycat and everyone will hate me.
Sadly relatable I wanted bangs for so long but then a girl had bangs in the class so I haven’t got them but now I moved school so I got bangs now but yes I hate that I feel like everyone is going to say that I’m an copycat
Honestly so sad how people assume "social anxiety doesnt exist" but it does, and thousands of people are suffering from it. To the Dads and Mums out there: Please treat your children better.
Oh my gosh yes! Exactly! How! I! Feel! I always worry that I have food around my mouth. I constantly check the mirror to be sure. Heck, I even had a dream about it once.
Social anxiety has really drained me. It literally cost me my vision. It has cost me many opportunities in life. It crippled my social health, as well as my academic performance in school.
Got diagnosed recently with social anxiety, I relate to a lot of the points in the video. Every social interaction with strangers literally stresses me out - I hate shopping, riding public transport, talking to a waitress, dislike phone calls. It's so stressful and so draining, I'm constantly tired because of this. Due to my anxiety I've developed another condition where if I'm super stressed I can't even eat properly and I can be in a lot of physical pain due to the amount of stress I'm under. I'm trying my best to improve and just become a normal person. It's not easy when family isn't really understanding either and they criticize you for being so stressed. It's not like I can stop stressing when someone tells me to stop stressing. I wish people wouldn't see us as lesser people, we're doing our best in life.
People need to stop speaking for everyone, just because it's not hard for them doesn't mean it's the same for us. Some people have serious struggle with it and then someone acts like it's nothing
Same even if they say its fine my social anxiety: they way their looking at you they probably hate you and think your taking too long they think your stupid
*me going to hollister the other day for jeans for school* my anxiety: “I bet everyone here is judging you and doesn’t think you’ll fit into anything here. I bet that worker that my mom screamed my size to thinks your fat. i bet those three girls that are around my age that just walked in think your ugly.”
I’ve had social anxiety probably for as long as I can remember. And I feel as though all of these points are really accurate, and I can relate to basically all of them. I once had a panic attack because of my social anxiety because I wasn’t around anyone I knew and I was hours away from home. It had felt like my throat was slowly closing up and as if I couldn’t breathe, but luckily I was still able to breathe. It felt as though my heart gonna beat so fast and just combust. It was horrible, but once I got to my mom she was able to help me calm down. I felt very embarrassed afterwards for seeming like I was freaking out for no reason. I haven’t been officially diagnosed with social anxiety, but I don’t think I need to be told that I have it, because I just know that I do.
social anxiety literally affects my everyday life. I’m 22, it’s hard to talk to people, i get anxiety going to work, going to do errands, but as an adult it makes it really hard... anyone else in this same boat?
ME ME!! I’m 19 and it’s literally a problem in everything that I do. When I go to work and a lot of people are just talking and chatting I get anxious. When I go to the gym and ppl are having fun I get anxious. I just get anxious around big groups of people and it’s sad bc I have a personality but for some reason I get choked up and it’s so fucking annoying being in a constant battle with who I am and the person I want to be. Idk if that makes sense but I really relate to what you’re saying
Yea... it got so bad to the point I had to take a sick leave for more than a month. I go back to work in a week and I already feel sick to my stomach knowing I have to deal with toxic coworkers.
Me going to enter in my class after going to the toilet: My mind: No,you can't! All the attention will be on you. Just stay there and watch the door while trembling. (My social anxiety got that worse when i was 12,that i couldn't look my classmates in the eyes and everytime my teachers ask me to read something,i use to tremble and be scared about the fact that everyone will be looking at me and that they will be judging my voice,the way i look,only if i can't read well. Sometimes i just hated to be there,because they use to relate my name to 'the silence girl' and that was very frustrating because i know that they was thinking this and even worste about me.)
my parents think that the internet has corrupted my brain, that my friends are stupid for telling me i should seek help, and that its wrong to be un confident. im 14. in conclusion, im not getting help anythime soon lol. also when something happens in which i cant really speak due to the anxiety or people cant hear me cause i subconsciously mumble, im told that everything in my head is stupid and i should get over it cause im a girl and girls shouldnt be like that. it took me 2 years to tell my parents about my anxiety and these are the results
summary: 1. Repeatedly checking the location and time 1:16 2. Rehearsing conversations in your head 1:42 3. Avoiding phone calls 2:21 4. Faking phone calls 3:04 5. Constantly worrying about how everyone sees you 3:32 6. Feeling lonely even when you’re surrounded by people 4:08 7. Clenching your teeth and other physical discomforts 4:44 8. Obsessing over how you look 5:14 9. You feel more like yourself around the people you’re comfortable with 5:49 Recommend watching to learn more. 💖
Omg- at every parent-teacher conference the teachers always tells my mom that “Oh she’s a smart girl, but she should really participate more!” LIKE HELL NO- I feel like everyone would secretly laugh and make fun of me if I say an answer wrong-
@@nightmare3691 Same- I participated like 3 or 4 years ago and I got qualified into like 3 competitions but my anxiety made me mess up and I barely got into the semi-finals-
Same I think I'm pretty smart but my social anxiety be like: what if that question is wrong, and the teacher thinks your stupid,I think you should change it or else they will laugh at you
I think my social anxiety started in primary school with that b*tch math teacher and and my dad.. since then everything I need to do socially Im afraid I'll just mess up .
The problem with me is that I feel watched and judged even when I’m alone doing or thinking normal things. Like, I’m thinking something and then I suddenly feel like I’m being judged by someone
Me: minding my own business Social anxiety: aren't you worried? Me: about what? Social anxiety: idk Me: OH SHIZ UR RIGHT- This was a joke I know what having sa is like and I know it's horrible... Stay strong ❤️
Anyone else ever type out a comment, rewrote it multiple times, and then kept over thinking so much you just didn't comment anything? Or you do, and then worry about it excessively until you just end up deleting it?
Social anxiety is not just the fear and paranoia of being judge by others. It's also the fear of everyone assuming things on you, assuming your actions and thinking, the fear of everyone putting you in a box. It is very aweful overthinking that a lot. You make irrational things when social anxiety hits you. And everything you say and act is always planned in your head so you don't get to embarass your self. And after interracting to people you get depressed thinking it was not the right response. You them think they'll gonna hate you, dislike you, look down on you, disrespect you, judge you, weirded on you, laugh at you, get away from you. Social anxiety is not as easy as you think it is humiliating and physically mentally draining. If you think you knew someone who have social anxiety please dont give them a hard time. ❤️
Your legs are shaking, try deep muscle relaxation starting from your toes to your face. If you get lightheaded that’s because you are breathing too fast. Breathe in and out calmly. Lightheadedness makes anxiety worse.
Me too. I remember vividly giving a presentation in 3rd grade by myself and just crying my eyes out in front of the entire class because I was so scared.
before presetation even got tome I had sweaty palms was so shaky I eventried to escape doing I went up presented the class laughed I thought oh there laughin at me my heart beating fast I HATE IT🥲
The worst thing is having social anxiety since you were a child and your family didn't care because they thought you were just ""too shy"" and now they judge you for not "being like every one else"..... Take care of your kids!! Mental health is important!
Exactly! Wow that really hit me. I'm 22 and just today realized I'm pretty sure I've had social anxiety since around 4 yo I think? It was really REALLY bad when I was a kid too. Thinking back, it was so obvious. I thought I was just oversensitive and not good enough. Of course, I was just called shy a lot too lol and not much else. I'm better with people now at least in certain contexts, I'm a lot more comfortable with asking shopkeepers for stuff, being friendly and joking around, asking for directions, trying to get involved in conversations (and often being ignored but not always!) etc and I now have friends who value me and care about me. However, I'm really scared of authority or certain types of people (think super outgoing+manipulative combo) or situations. Talking to any authority figures (even online!) can get me to the point where I'm obviously extremely tense and even trembling. The worst is that I usually even procrastinate or avoid talking to authority terribly, out of fear. I do wonder now, if my parents had considered that I was sick and could be helped, if maybe I wouldn't be like this now. Therapy has a bad reputation here particularly because of the therapists being really bad so that's not an option, but this really is hard.
@@Marina_7 I'm 22 too omg!! I'm so glad that you are so much better with people and I hope you keep getting better and better... For me, it's getting worse... Since the covid hit and all the quarantine stuff came, I tend to avoid speaking to others so much more to the point I can't even go to answer the door to the mail guy... I feel you... I'm always so scared of authority and I always procrastinate too :// Mine don't even know what I have now and always thinks it's my fault for being like the way I am.... In there head, they were perfect but I have soooo much inexplicable traumas and fears because of them... I really want to try therapy but I'm so afraid... I can't trust someone like that to expose my whole life and fears, you know?? Anyways, sorry for my English and I hope you keep getting better and better!! I hope, one day, you can go to therapy because I really think it's important! Stay safe
@@jayyjaee Wow, high five, my symmetrical age number friend! You're so sweet, I'm so sorry you have gone/are going through all those things. I may not have lived your life, but I feel you. (Also I'm not a native speaker either but your English is great!!!) In a sense I kinda liked quarantine at first but it really affects you before you know it! Also with the parents, it's too true, I think they gave me pretty strong trust issues with certain things. My parents don't get what's wrong with me either, it's stressful. Although I might overshare here haha, I really do feel you with not trusting some random person with your fears and life. It's really scary! I know it's not much, but maybe I can try to give you some tips that helped me get more comfortable with talking to people! 1. _No talk, just exist among people_ I sometimes go to a mall or park or something alone, where I don't know anyone and nobody knows me so whatever I do no one cares. You can just walk and look around. I usually like listening to yt videos (like reactions or movie reviews or funny stuff) or music while I do that, or ofc you can call someone or just walk silently. You can even go further and buy yourself some water or ice cream or something in the park, and you'll have completed a "talk to someone" achievement by saying "hello" and "thank you, goodbye" to the cashier! 2. _Doing it to help someone who is struggling_ For example if I ate pizza with a friend that disliked ordering (you know how it is lol), after a few times I became driven to order our food myself and pretty confident with it! I would rehearse the order a few times, then when the waiter came I spoke up and said every item on my mental list confidently and it kept getting better. (Ofc there are some occasional mishaps like not hearing a word well and stuff but don't sweat it, it's all good and nobody actually minds). 3. Text friends or group chats You don't even need a reason, you can send a meme or funny video and bam, conversation starter! Or the good old "what's up" of course. It's like talking, but without the talking, eye contact and showing up to stuff. It can be short too! And if you want to feel better about yourself, maybe watch the video "This is a KAREN epidemic" by courtreezy. At least you're not one of those people lol Sorry for the novel, I hope it helped somewhat. Thank you so much for the well wishes! Stay safe and always remember to enjoy little things! 💝
@@jayyjaee pls consult psychiatrist. They will listen to you carefully and it is there professional ethics to keep secret client details. Always seek help with best mental expert or counselor. I bet you they will not share with that with anyone.
Today I had another panic attack when I was away from home and started feeling like I was going to be sick so I went to the bathroom and sat on the toilet with the toilet seat on and breathed and watched some of your videos they really soothe me and your voice is so relaxing thank you
“Don’t be shy, just talk to people more.” This is just like saying: “Are you blind? Just see more.” “Are you deaf? Just listen more.” “Are you dead? Just live a little.”
My parents would be “are you blind? Get glasses” this means that they won’t tell me to just do the thing that seems impossible. Find something to help you do it instead.
I have another 10: Not being able to control the tears that come out because of the frustration of having to speak in front of others and the more you try the less you get the words and although everyone thinks it's normal and you're just nervous inside you are angry, hating yourself and wanting to just run away because you know that when the tears come out everyone will say "okay, it's not that bad" when for you it's that bad and to be told otherwise makes you feel STUPID for being so dramatic. No one else cries for something like this! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?! WHY CAN'T I PLAY IT DOWN?! WHY am i crying?! Because... Nobody wants to see... That I care ...
Alright, reading your comment made me cry, I hope you'll get better soon, I'm in the same spot too and it hurts when people say "you need to be more confident" while you feel like you can't do anything about it... I'm with you, take care ;^;
Same.. I cry so much, like when we go to the Doctor, a teacher for the end of my year, when i have talk with my parents, everthing that stress me, but i hate me for that it's since i was in elementary school, it's so hard to not cry for me. That how i express when i'm not confortable, like i was heading home alone at 7 in the morning (it was soon school and i was "driving" my brother to school) i had no bag, and i saw people from school in their car, i was so stressed that people in their cars will juge me, that i ended up crying in a road with my glasses and my mask, i was suffocating , worst day of my life, it happened so many time, it's so infuriating ! (sorry if some word are wrong english is not my first language)
I have been diagnosed with this disorder and it’s really difficult to do basic every day tasks. I can’t order food at restaurants, or ask people for directions if I’m lost. Some people think it’s something that’s not that serious but it can really hinder someone’s lifestyle
Im so social awkward that i cant even walk properly outside cause i think everyone is watching my every step so im thinking if i messed up everyone will judge me and make fun of me and when i thinking not to messed up i started messing up..... So thats why i walk really silly outside...
i have the same thing but related to my hands, i don’t know what to do with them when im walking in a crowded place. its so weird, i feel like im doing something wrong and that everyone can see it
I relate to this down pack. I get mini panic attacks when I walk pass parked cars with people in it too. Or when someone's walking my direction from a distance and they get closer and closer. Why are we like this lmfao
When your teacher says “If you don’t start raising hands, I’m going to have to call on random people” 😊 Fight back because worthiness is your birth right 🖖
I always feel anxious just walking around in public, thinking other people think that I walk weird. Sometimes I avoid getting up at work even if I need the restroom really bad because Ill end up feeling like they think im annoying for walking back and forth.
I think picked up toxic traits trying to combat social anxiety, i became obsessed with looking perfect, how people i was with made me look, not being able to walk outside alone without trembling, never eating out much, eating from the car or my room often, Social awkwardness, becoming angry at myself, hating my true self, blaming everyone who teased me, laughed or took advantage of me, hating and hurting anyone who hurt me, saying i hate being around people, not liking people, terrible communication skills, isolation, terrible romantic relationships, suicidal thoughts, failing at school, not dealing with stress well, not being close to family, hurting someone i cared about, feeling like a narc, constant self hate... A change of heart, watching psych2Go videos, understanding oneself, forgiving myself, forgiving others, learning, looking at the glass half full instead of empty, relearning and more learning. Realising i'm not alone, so many people are healing and learning to cope with struggles. We learn to cope.
The worst part of when you imagine a conversation, is when the answer is different than what you imagined. My brain just "well, luck with this I'm leaving :D"
😂 honestly that’s why I don’t even bother preparing because then I panic. I figured I just need to practising improvising and thinking on the spot. Over preparing can be anxiety inducing too.
Social anxiety is like a never ending maze, i cant do anything just because i feel like people are staring. Its draining, and just such awful feeling to have because all this agony and stress is on you non stop unless im alone isolated from the world...
@@blendyboi5023 well it happens with me I feel very nervous when someone is sitting or standing beside me and I think they will judge me if I breathe too loudly and if I breathe very low then they might get uncomfortable (sorry for English it’s not my first language )
@@miss.random2235 FR. whenever i have my headphones in and i'm just vibing, my brain goes: "what if you're like breathing really loud rn, that person looks really pissed off and is probably looking at you because of it" and then i hold my breath in case
Physical signs and symptoms can sometimes accompany social anxiety disorder and may include: 👍 Blushing. Fast heartbeat. Trembling. Sweating. Upset stomach or nausea. Trouble catching your breath. Dizziness or lightheadedness. Feeling that your mind has gone blank.
This is me when im at school and the teacher ask me anything, even stuff that i actually know the answer for it.. Like, most of people kinda hate me because of these.. Sometimes.. They felt like im very annoying.. Im trying my best but it never turns out good... I hope i could cope up with it soon...
I literally try to wear all black with either a hood or a mask to try and cover up my body more to hide the flaws and try not to stand out an don't get noticed as much...I get panic attacks all the time cause I have to be near a bunch of people and have to ask to go to the bathroom cause of it. I know I have social anxiety and this makes it even more clear. But no one believes me but my big sis...the rest of my family just think I'm shy...
I was raised thinking I was just shy, weird, or overreacting whenever I was encountered with social situations. It's so comforting to find other people who experience things the same as me :)
Ikr I thought I was just shy but I really relate to people with social anxiety like having a constant intense fear of people judging me and being ashamed of how I eat and walk and I overthink every sentence I say or At night I would start thinking and crying about something I should’ve said in a conversation that happened years ago
The same thing happens to me it's so annoying☹️ when we show most the symptoms of anxiety or something they just ignore it and think that it's just being "shy" and "you'll get over it". I hate it here 🥺 And they wonder why we don't tell them anything anymore 🙄
One of the worst things is developing (possible) social anxiety after you've been a really extroverted and crazy child and now you can't tell your parents because they're going to ridicule you and compare you to your past self that you're actually utterly ashamed of.
Social anxiety makes me feel like I am a weirdo. I feel out of place and often feel imposter syndrome when In social situations. I often think “this person doesn’t actually want to be my friend, they are just a pity friend.” Or “this isn’t going to last, you will mess this friendship up somehow.” I’m often friends with people that are very outgoing (because the outgoing ones seek me) so it makes me feel worthless when other extroverted friends of theirs get together and talk. And it doesn’t help that they have known that person much longer, so of course they have a stronger relationship. I feel like I can never truly connect with others because of these feelings and thoughts. It makes me feel helpless and I just try to survive everyday until one day, I might fix it.
Even worse my crush seems to have that disorder. Yet I let fall cutlerry onto table as I saw her coming into room. Well it got better but still no hugging that just barrely were able to touch elbow to elbow on passing by.
@Wavey Davey me: has a slight desire to get help, but doesn’t know where to go, doesn’t want to cause a burden on my parents, and doesn’t think it’s bad enough and that I’d just be a bother...
I’d speak to a mental health professional. I’ve already tried talking to my mom about me possibly having social anxiety and how it messes with me so much especially in school. I tell her as much details as I’m comfortable with (such as me having a hard time making friends, having possible panic attacks, and feeling anxious about my every move) but since we’re Christian, she says pray and have trust in God which I do as a Christian myself, but this is a mental illness. It’s kinda out of my control, but she doesn’t understand that. I just want to be able to hang out with my new friends without them thinking my voice is odd or that my hair looks weird or that my arms are too hairy. It’s exhausting.
it sucks how many people don't take social anxiety seriously. it's a pretty serious mental illness and it is not within anyones control, in my experience i feel like its kind of part of me. i hope everything goes well for you, i know this is hard. although your mom thinks this way, there will be others that understand you in the future, you'll overcome this :)
I always over think in the most basic things, when I talk to people i feel like there looking at me like I’m saying something wrong then makes me think like, “ why am I talking” or “your embarrassing yourself” and then I space out. 👍
I do all of these things. My dad, a natural leader, blames me for being “meek” and “shy”. He says I’ll come off as “stuck-up” which only ADDS to my social anxiety. I haven’t actually talked to anyone about this, so people reading this... congrats, you now know a random stranger on the internet has social anxiety and is even scared to talk about it unless she’s hiding behind a screen. Doesn’t help that I recently joined a soccer team who has been together for 3 years, I don’t know anyone, and they try to include me but I’m too shy to interact with anyone, 5 months later edit: so Things have gotten a lot better and I’ve become more comfortable with my teammates :) thank you being so nice in replies :,)
I thought I was the only one. I have been friends with them for 12 years. Still I can't open up to them and I feel like it's too late to open up now. My personality has changed over the years and I don't show them my this side. What if this weirds them out like they could think why have I changed my personality all of sudden? I only open up to my sisters sometimes
Wow as lonely in social anxiety this video was nice to see that I’m not alone! But Am I the only person who sometimes feels like they physically can’t move there mouth when they are scared to say something
I have social anxiety.For it i can't make friends.i have to think a lot before asking for help,i feel tensed when teacher is calling our name,i feel fear asking for extra sheet in exam,i would rather not write than asking for paper,i cant talk to peaople easily.i always think about how i am looking,is my mouth smelling bad,if i talk will they see my bad shaped teeth,is my dressing sense bad,am i frowning,is something wrong with my dress,in a full class i look around and i see i am the only one not talking with anyone,i always feel frozen in my bench,feeling guilty, worthless,i cant make eye contact with people.i feel the fear of being judged.i feel lonely,i feel left out,i dont consider myself as a human,i wanna be a normal person,wanna have a normal life.being in a full room of people and not feeling weird because i am not talking to anyone... Is like a dream in my life. for real,i was a really fun girl all along my life till 5-6 grade..then in 6 grade i was in a really competitive exam.i couldn’t pass it.from then i was in depression.then i got adhd which was worse in lockdown.i dont what is it called but i had really bad overthing problem in grade 8.. even now i am a headache to me.when will it stop.my mother is a big roleplay in this.she always told me black and made fun of me, made my self confidence down. Now i am in grade 11-12.i have grown up.i will be 18 years old in this month.still i feel a lost a lot in my childhood.my childhood was shit.i dont know what is ahead of me in the future. I want know anything about me, what i will do in life,how i will manage everything later. will i be able feed me in the future. but i will do something.but i am really hating this time.i know people have their problems too.but at least they have friends, they laugh,they meet each other, move around,take pictures,eat,shop,make memories,what i am doing,nothing.why am i so left out.what i have done god.why are you punishing me like that.i know god has kept me very well.give me food,shelter,education everything, i should be grateful.but sorry god,i have done nothing to be punished liked that.i dont deserve this social anxiety.you have already gave me a lot of physical problems,i have endured that,but now enough with my mental health.give me a normal mental life or kill me.forgive me god.and give me a normal life.thank you.
I constantly worry the way I talk, walk, sit, look, EVERYTHING that I am, I feel like all eyes are starring into me and judging me. I hate being in groups or even with two other people because I always feel alone and left out. You can always hear my voice shake and it sounds like I'm about to cry whenever I speak up in front of people. Constantly.
I ruined a relation ship and I ruined multiple friendships. This is pretty much the reason why I only have 1 friend. I know that friend for 6 years and they understand my problems which is why I'm comfortable & open around them. The friends I lost most likely ditched me because of my shyness & because I would never be the first one to text them. Social anxiety has ruined my whole life and made me have a horrible childhood. I'm now going to college knowing I'll probably drop out because of my social anxiety, but I'm not giving up. I hope you guys aren't either, stay strong guys. ❤
My therapist said that it is very likely that i have social anxiety, and to he honest, i kinda saw it coming…. They said i should try to find out a bit more about it, which is why i love this channel so much, it helps people with all kinds of mental health struggles
This is scary how much this applies to me I check my phone time at school so mug just to avoid talking to people and I am constantly thinking of how I appear to others and things I would tell them in case of certain conversations.
When all eyes on me I feel really uncomfortable and those physical effects are what I'm afraid of like literally my heart starts racing, my hands sweat alot like really alot and I start shivering but I try to control it plus I try to breathe more cz I feel like I'll die in any minute. I wish that our society would pay more attention for these points cz really some people out there with social anxiety need to be understood and without getting bothered by others because it's not a thing that we can control that much
@@seymaae When you have social anxiety disorder it's very difficult to be "surrounded by people", it's difficult to have friends and even talk to your family sometimes.
I think the reason I have social anxiety is because of my friends, classmates ect. I remembered peacefully eating food then being judged by one of my male classmates. After that I never eat in front if people without covering up my mouth with my hand or now just wearing on my mouth very quickly. I remembered being judged on how my mouth/lips looked once I removed my mask after a long time, and I never in a million years will remove my mask now. They've judged me so much that I almost head an anxiety attack while trying to pick clothes for a school event. Many people enjoy these events as in my school we wear uniforms so when days like this come, and we get to wear any clothes of or choice, everyone seems to be so happy but now because of my classmates and other people, Im just anxious and sad. My mother kept complementing the dress and saying it looks amazing on me while I kept n getting mad and saying "everyone will judge me, like last time". It's crazy how people don't notice how bad social anxiety can be until they get it. It has serious affects on a humans life and it's really not a fun game to play with. On of the new things I've gotten is being afraid that people will judge me as I walk alone because I use to be one of the very popular kids in my class when I was happy and people knew me for being very social but things seem to change quite fast. I'm also insecure in the way I walk, talk, laugh, my looks and mainly on how people see me. Like do I have a boring personality or what? 'Cause I really can't express my personality/emotions infront of anyone
I’m 15 and an extrovert but i am so self-conscious (I don’t want to self-diagnose but can’t go to professional places since I don’t want my parents to know - they’re gonna think it’s either a joke or I’m just being a “teenager”). Although the stereotypical extroverts are open and gets along with everyone, I find it hard to do that especially with people i don’t know and crowds. Every time I go to a mall or shop, I feel like everyone else is staring at me and I keep correcting the way I walk (sometimes I get so caught up that I legit forget how to walk and feel even more awkward) or the way I do things. Even if it’s just sitting down to eat/drink something outside, I avoid eye contact with everyone and anyone because it makes me panic, as I always assume they’re only looking at me because 1) I’m doing something wrong 2) I’m doing something weird 3) I have something on my hair, face... etc 4) I’m unattractive. I normally don’t act like this in school since I know everyone but outside is an absolute nightmare. I wouldn’t be able to make 1 single friend even if my life depended on it. Another trouble I face is ordering/buying. Even if I’m just simply in a line to get something, I check my wallet to see if I have enough money for the item (I normally already sum up the total before going to pay), rehearse what I’m going to say to the cashier (sometimes it’s not in my first language), make sure that I’m standing correcting and walking normally. I know that this might sound dramatic but I genuinely want to stop this. I hate talking to strangers even if it’s someone friendly. If anyone knows how to help me, please do: because every time I’m out with friends or my parents, I have to embarrassingly ask them to take my money and pay for the item since I don’t have the courage to go. However, sometimes with closer friends that I feel more comfortable with, I find it easier to get comfortable in crowded places because I know that I have someone to go to if I panic or feel intimidated. Again, I would appreciate any amount of help!
Social anxiety is constantly worrying about how you walk, how you sit, how you eat, how you look and how you talk when you're around people. It's mentally draining.
True. especially the walking part, People constantly do make fun of the way I walk😭😭
@@Cloudyrain21 They're idiots
It really is
@@daisysaxby4238 they definitely are.
bro so true
Me: Literally just sitting in class
Social anxiety: I bet everyone is judging you for sitting like that
Mhm
OMG ARE WE THE SAME PERSON?!
Lmao same
it's even worse when I wasn't thinking that but then everyone in class actually comments on my sitting -_- making me self aware and making my sitting a problem
@@katofrie girl sit how u want to!! ur a queen, act like it sistaaa 😌
I constantly feel like I’m annoying people, that’s why I constantly distance myself away from others. My whole life has been changed because of my anxiety. I’m even afraid of joining a sport because I feel like everyone around is judging me because of how I perform said sport. It’s very hard living life with anxiety.
Something that might be worth considering to do(if you haven't tried it yet)in some aspect, would be to put a positive spin towards other's perspectives, my case being that the people that are around me are also most likely dealing with their own problems, and while not exactly the same, it gives an interesting life just as complex as anyone, giving them something that would make considering another on a small scale less important than doing it on a larger scale such as one's lifestyle
Damn, same
I can relate ALOT with the sport thing. My parents always ask me if i want to join a sport and I always would say no, and then they would ask why and then I would make up an excuse but yea im worried the attention will all be on me or ill make myself look like an idiot shooting a hoop.. My parents are thinking of forcing me to join track and you can probably imagine how I felt when they said that.
Imma cry! That's exactly how i feel.
just be brave and hang in there! you just need to change your mindset!
Worst part is if I sent this to my mom she’d say:
“You don’t even have any of these! Social anxiety is a sickness, you’re not sick. You’re just shy that’s all.”
or my stepmom would give me her classic line "your not special, everybody has this and that."
i never said i was special 🙄
yeah and when i see someone i met years ago my parents are like "say hi" and when i say no they get mad at me
I had confessed with mom and guess what she said "is that your age to have anxiety" It hurts me and now I feel like there is no one to listen to my prblm 😰
Yeah I just don't know how to open up and when i do it's really fast and embarrassing or I'll say it like I'm joking so I don't cry and so they won't be like, omg that happened or omg really. I just it makes me feel weird when people say that
@@nagito2788 SAME OMG
“Stand up and tell the class a little bit about yourself”
Social anxiety: allow me to introduce myself
About myself is enormously uncomfortable, but talking about science or something isn't that much of a deal despite feeling constantly awkward
After social anxiety introduces itself.
Me: (ŎдŎ；) oh boy...
This is nightmare
idk why but tomorrow at first day of school i ll probably use sing language instead of words,i ll look like a freak
@@Mara-lk9ct no you won't look like a freak 😤
Anxiety is not being able to sleep because you said something wrong two years ago and can't stop thinking about it
Aha try 4 years ago
@@ollycoleman7418 or just all the things that you did in your life and were silly, just before you wanted to sleep🙂
This!
You just described perfectly my situation
Or thinking about something harmful someone said to you years ago
Can anyone relate to crying during arguments or when being scolded as a kid, not because you were frustrated but because it was embarrassing. My entire childhood I never understood why I’d cry, but then I realized that it was so embarrassing to me that I was in trouble.
Same! Also because of anger. Oh and whenever I cried in public (obviously out of my control) I was so embarrassed that it made me cry more and for longer which was more embarrassing which made me cry and it's just a nightmare
I understand cause I am a teenager and sometimes arguing with my mother is so painful that I just cry cause if I'm talking back with logic she will say I'm disrespecting her
yeah, i get teary eyed/ cry whenever i rant or when somebody takes a photo of me
no because for real, this and the fact that my parents have done some uh.. calling cps worthy things when i was younger so now im terrified of them and what theyll do if i get into a fight with them
I can’t even get into arguments without crying I hate it so much
I would literally sit uncomfortable for hours in class bec adjusting the chair would make a noise and everyone’s attention would be on me.
Same with for example if Im near a person I don't get on with I have sit still like a robot but when they leave I act normal and comfortable
I do that every day I'm so fucking sick of it :(
Hey let me tell ya something when you graduate. you will chose where to go. so you won't see 500 kids in school just strangers in supermarket or any place. your anxiety might get a bit better dealing with fewer people. I feel much better if i walk around public spaces with people I know.
Do you know what i did, i had to go to driving class and i had to sit in a class full of strangers… I purposely changed my possession on the seat to face my fear.. but it helped i got used to it after a time
Same!
It started with shyness-….. it ended with social anxiety-
Very true!
So true
lmao same wtf happened to turn me into this blob of mental disorders
Same...
it started with my brother making fun of my weight and looks infront his friends to social anxiety
Me: Just sitting in class
*someone talking and laughing somewhere in class*
My anxiety: I bet they're laughing at you
PLEAASEEE me asf
That’s so true
Doesn't help when you also hear them say your name, and idk if my mind is just making it up or no
I hate that so much I start feeling overwhelmed judging myself, like I need to run and get on like I want to run and cry hide forever
Yeah..
When everyone else wanted quarantine to end, here I am, wishing it would be longer :/
Exactly. The thought of walking in public places makes me feel a little sick.
@@crimson3539 same! Whenever I go to public places it feels like my heart is about to explode and I wanna throw up
Same
I hate going to public places
Ik this is out of context.. but what's ur pfp
I have social anxiety, my mom says I'm just shy. It has gotten to the point where she forces me to talk to people and I end up getting super anxious and I end up backing out of it. My mom says I'm just shy but I know it is more
This happens to me as well something as simple as ordering a pizza or asking where the bathroom is,
is horrifying, then she forces me to do it and tells me to grow up... I love my mom and she probably thinks I'm just being shy or something so I don't really blame her, BUT I'm moving to a new school and I'll have no friends :/
once I wanted to ask the cashier at mcdonald's how to get the multicolored cola glass but I didn't wanna feel like shit blocking the queue of actually hungry people who just wanna eat
Yeah i have the same problem with my dad
I messed my friendship cause of this
@@montee3766 best description fr
me: literally breaths
social anxiety: *your breathing too loud people are staring at you*
it's like every little mistake that I do makes me feel like I just let the world down...
Same my social anxiety be attacking me for sitting or even breathing or walking
Yeah and when someone is looking at me while eating I won’t eat at all
@@miss.random2235 this used to happen to me excessively as a kid, and I ended up picking a spot away from my school campus (I used to go to a private school which was elementary, middle, and high combined, with a college somewhere there too) and I used to sit far away in a quite shady place and eat ._. But it was especially hard when I had to eat at a birthday party
@@HSdirectioner5 I know right and then everyone says why don’t you come with us
@@miss.random2235 ikr, like no thanks 😀 I’m way good by myself where I can hide from any potential embarrassment or cringe
I find it slightly ironic that the acronym for Social Anxiety Disorder is SAD...
Same
How is it ironic but🤔
Lol
SAD is at my language also USA
Ikr
anskey family actually SAD is the medical acronym for Seasonal Affective Disorder- a type of seasonal depression that typically only occurs during the winter months but feel better in the summer(some people are affected by the reverse of this) :) I do wonder if it was intentional to call it SAD though.
with social anxiety, you feel like youre constantly being watched when you go out in public... what sucks about this is i also have scopophobia (fear of being stared at) qwq
aghajsmkj i feel this TwT
since im in a wheelchair, im used to it. its only when ppl start pointing/wispering. Im also seen as a threat to parents' children. parents constantly tell their toddlerd to "be careful" around me. i hate it.
oh damn I stare at other people in public all the time
@@winterwithawhyknudsen5166 no no, they don’t consider you as a threat, they just say that to their kids so they don’t accidentally bump into your wheelchair and make you uncomfortable.
@@montee3766 bro you are the reason I feel like I am constantly being embarrassing lmao
Do anyone ever feel judged even when they are alone? Like that feeling of constantly being watched and judged by someone or something. I feel like I make up reactions of people and it's just like I'm being judged, even when I'm alone.
Yeah I imagine that someone I know watches what I’m doing and judges me even when nobody is around, especially my gf
@@wallflowerboy5088 Wow. You couldn't have explained it more clearly. I hope you get therapy friend, that's what I'm doing.
Yeah me too
Yep. I don’t sing in private, always keep completely covered up, I don’t think about certain things, etc. It’s just an overwhelming feel of embarrassment no matter what.
YES. i always go under a blanket when im on my bed even if im not sleeping and my light is always off so the invisible people on the invisible cameras cant judge me or see me
Having social anxiety can ruin so many opportunities but it’s SO HARD WHEN YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY 😭😭
I agree
been avoiding jobs and events, sucks man
@@zead9481 same, had to drop out from school and later university :(
@@hsanchezisidora im sorry for what happened to you :( i also feel like im gonna drop out from college just because i can't do this basic human function. Havr you ever meet a therapist or psychiatrist?
@@zead9481 when I dropped out I went to both, then they discharged me because they thought I was good enough. But later I noticed that nothing really changed until I dropped out again from university on the first semester, and decided to go to therapy again. With the new therapist I came to know that the first one did a horrible job and was totally superficial, so was the psychiatrist. Now I know that healing is a lot more work but totally worth it, im taking it one day at a time, because I came to the realization that this anxiety disorder came from other unresolved traumas. So I do recommend seeking proffesional help and to start understanding yourself more deeply this way and be forgiving with yourself :)
Me: going shopping for new clothes
Social anxiety: I bet everyone is judging the clothes you pick out rn
My mum always asks me what clothes I want online and I always say “I’ll find them myself” cuz I want my friends approval on the items before I actually buy them
AAAAHHH I FEEL YOU
I even have bad anxiety even when i pick books
I don't think I have social anxiety but I always was kind of reluctant to ask my mom for new clothes I wanted because she might not like my style/think it's inappropriate/think I'm still too young for that/whatever
@@sophiesleeps12 yees I agreee
My social anxiety while shopping: I bet you people think the clothes your picking are too small
I literally cannot breathe without thinking “am I breathing right?” Im not even joking whenever im at school that thought comes up
same, once I had to put books away in the school library with this guy and then he said "why are you breathing so heavily" and I was like "I dont know". that made me not want to breathe even more. what does normal breathing sound like?
@@noidontneedsleep idk lol
i cried all the time in the school cafeteria, I was scared of people watching me eat, the people in front of me making fun of me, I missed my mom and was scared of everything in general, I was surrounded by people, but why is it that I just felt lonelier than when I'm alone at home? i hated everything about school, and lunch wasn't any different.
Lunch was probably the worst part of school because it always seems like people are judging you but you just can't see them... Me personally I don't eat at school and I wait till I get home. I also don't eat breakfast so I'm usually rly hungry when I get home but it feels like I can't eat much
Me too I wish I would get in trouble at lunch just so I can sit and eat alone at a table
That sounds pretty serious.
me: i'm sick of being afraid all of the time
friend: you should talk to a therapist
social anxiety: TALK?! to a stranger?! LOL
THIS RIGHT HERE OMGG. I want to go talk to a therapist because I feel like I do have social anxiety but I don’t want to self diagnose but I also don’t want to go talk to a stranger 😅
SAME like a therapist is the only thing I can think of that would help me but how tf am I supposed to go see one with social anxiety?
@@jazgarcia4556 same! I mean I wanna know if I actually have social anxiety but I can’t even ASK to go to a therapist much less TALK to one.
EXACTLY. HOW I'M NOT FREAK OUT WHEN I'M SUPOSSED TO TELL STRANGER ABOUT MY PROBLEM. I'M SORRY FOR THIS CAPSLOCK I'M SO MAD AT MYSELF RN BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE ANY COURAGE TO SEE A THERAPIST
I had a therapist that did home visits when i was little. Honestly it didn't help me. I'm not saying anyone shouldn't accept help but in my case it didn't help.
Heart be like- "I AM SPEED."
Damn my heart turns to flash 😂
Ikr, and I'm like HEART I JUST SAID HI TO A PERSON. No need to act like I'm about to be chased by a lion.
speeeeeed is keeeeyyy
Gods speed!
*WHEEZE*
I also start tearing up and sometimes even cry whenever I tell someone about my social anxiety. I don’t even know why but when I talked about it to my mother for the first time I couldn’t bring out the words and started tearing up. Thinking about having anxiety makes me feel bad and more anxious. Idk if I’m the only one
same
I do the same thing, because I feel like I’ll be judged for being so vulnerable and then added onto it, doing it in front of your loved ones who don’t understand this, they then down play it and make it not as important of a problem that you know it is. It’s so annoying and I hate it.
ill never get over the constant uncomforting feeling sitting in a room filled with people. (Mostly talking about classrooms) I’ll sit there and talk to people, but on the inside I’m like having an anxiety attack right then and there.
This world is too cruel for someone like me who's introvert, shy and got social anxiety easily!
Ikr same 😢
yes, but it must be horrible for extroverts ppl too, it will change even more who they are
@@cinnamon.9809 I don't understand ur last sentence, and nobody said the world isn't hard for extroverts, but it's definitely more favoured to be extroverted in this world than introverted
Same 😭
I’m in high school I definitely don’t feel that there’s a safe environment for people with mental illnesses
For me
Period + school + social anxiety = THE WORST THING EVER
Ikr
Omg yes, if I get my period on a school day, I ALWAYS stay home that day, the paranoia of leaking is just too much and I cant concentrate anyway.
Jokes on you, I don’t have periods. But that must suck in sorry
That must be pretty bad. Well I'm a guy so I don't really know what it feels like but I'm sure its bad. For me I try to control my anger whenever I become socially embarrassed cause my anxiety makes me angry and I usually feel like going physical on someone. ;-;
I'm trans and lemme just tell you that is the worst combination to have ever existed. Especially when you aren't even supposed to have a period
My social anxiety has really gone bad. It started when I was in elementary school or maybe even in Kindergarten. I was always bullied in Kindergarten and in every School. They always made fun of me, but I think one of the breaking point, was when a teachers critizied my drawing because I Drew a the ocean first with straight lines and then with Bevel lines. She said that makes in look ugly and no one else should do that because it was dumb and that I should start over (I was nearly finished and six) but in a way that everyone heard and then they started to make even more fun of me. The second breaking point that I went into puberty with seven and got my periods with eight. All the girl were Jealous, because I'm already and puberty and the boys were disgusting. And my Teachers wanted me to act like an adult. Because of that the bullying got worse and my friends started acting like I was their parent. The third point are my Family. My Parents don't love each other and often fight. My father is an narcissistic alcoholic that acts like a victim and commits Domestic violence. But my mother can't break up with him because of money. My brother act like we are all monsters and doesn't understand why my mother is broken and is angry because he didt know that I'm going through things and now he doesn't even contacts us any more and only talk with the rich side of the family (all of these people are monsters and he does not care because they have Money). My sister also is crazy and wants me to die and always said that I am the devil because I nearly killed her mother (first of all is our mother and second of all she was sick when she was pregnant with me and nearly died but didn't) And my grandmother is a narcissistic psycho. The fourth point is my old school. I got bullied from the teaches and my classmates. The Teachers always gave me a bad Testimony even tho I had straight As. All the years I started going less and less out with friends and started talking to them less and less. And stopped going to school. And now Im at a point were I don't go out anymore, were I don't have friends, were I can't hold a conversation. Were I can't do anything even know I anxious to get hated on. Even my therapist said he won't treat me if I don't go to school. I have to go into a clinic but I have to wait until next year. But next year is to late. Cause I will graduate next year. I'm just so lost
I am really sorry for all the things that happened to you, I wish you all the luck of this entire world❤️❤️❤️
@@paipai3796 Thank you so much. I also wish you all the luck of the world
@@devil-chan2466 thank you very very much.
Im trying to figure out if I have a bit of social anxiety or it's just my dumb stupide brain wanting attention.
Bless you
Dam,thats ruff I hope you can find A Caring person that will treat you well. Like a actual family member
Sincerely 😄💙❤
It's crazy because I knew something was wrong from a young age, anytime I was out with my mom I would always ask her to do social interactions for me, especially when ordering food or talking to doctors. I sadly didn't know I had the disorder till I was an adult, while I'm glad to know what I'm dealing with is common and others go through it as well, it's still difficult to work and keep a job and go out at all
This is me. I ask my mom to do these things too. It’s like I’m living in 3rd person sometimes but I don’t have a problem with it unless I’m expected to do it on my own.
i thought that kinda stuff was normal! i also do it still.
I don't know why but when I am walking alone mostly in school I feel like people are going to pity me because they think I am alone or because I am just walking in circles..
that's me everyday. When i'm alone and surrounded by lot's of people I touch my phone like im doing something really important just to don't make eye contact with anyone
that's why i prefer staying in empty places like the classroom when everyone goes out, the bathroom or library.
that’s me... i only have one person in my class who hangs around me bc she’s an introvert so we only have eachother so we’re don’t seem awkward, but i feel like she doesn’t like me but when my class goes outside and she isn’t outside with me i have no one to be with so i walk around looking alone and all the popular kids are near me so i feel like they’re judging
das peak u got no mates
That's exactly what I feel...
*me and my classmates eating at the same table*
me, thirsty: huh i should drink
my classmate: *drinks before I even go for the glass*
me: K. NOPE. no drinking for at least 5 minutes or else ill come off as a copycat and everyone will hate me.
Yeah.. this is me and I hate it.
Sadly relatable I wanted bangs for so long but then a girl had bangs in the class so I haven’t got them but now I moved school so I got bangs now but yes I hate that I feel like everyone is going to say that I’m an copycat
This is incredible how I relate to this even if it’s so stupid 💀
are we twins?
@@michellemartinez6295 had the same thing, but with shoes.
Honestly so sad how people assume "social anxiety doesnt exist" but it does, and thousands of people are suffering from it. To the Dads and Mums out there: Please treat your children better.
I mean sort of pushing people with anxiety to social interractions is healthy
@@montee3766 Yeah, it may be difficult but if you keep doing that some time you will overcome the anxiety.
Teacher: Please introduce yourself to the class
Anxiety: i'll do that too lol
*Me, eating food*
*Social anxiety:* *”I bet you have food all over your face.”*
SO TRUE!!! I wipe my face every 5 seconds
or "You're eating that wrong"
Oh my gosh yes! Exactly! How! I! Feel! I always worry that I have food around my mouth. I constantly check the mirror to be sure. Heck, I even had a dream about it once.
Me: *eats food in public*
Social anxiety: *ur eating like a cow, take smaller bites*
but the truth is that i have,idk how but the food gets everywhere no matter how i eat🤷🏻♀️
*someone holds a door open for me*
what i’m trying to say: thank you!
what i actually say: ᵗʰˣ
So me!
yess
And then you keep overthinking about it and the way you said it
me trying to say hi to a teacher that said hi to me and in a shaky voice i go *hhhIi..*
same
Social anxiety has really drained me. It literally cost me my vision. It has cost me many opportunities in life. It crippled my social health, as well as my academic performance in school.
Got diagnosed recently with social anxiety, I relate to a lot of the points in the video. Every social interaction with strangers literally stresses me out - I hate shopping, riding public transport, talking to a waitress, dislike phone calls. It's so stressful and so draining, I'm constantly tired because of this. Due to my anxiety I've developed another condition where if I'm super stressed I can't even eat properly and I can be in a lot of physical pain due to the amount of stress I'm under. I'm trying my best to improve and just become a normal person. It's not easy when family isn't really understanding either and they criticize you for being so stressed. It's not like I can stop stressing when someone tells me to stop stressing. I wish people wouldn't see us as lesser people, we're doing our best in life.
“why don’t you make eye contact, it’s not that hard?!”
me: 🙂
People need to stop speaking for everyone, just because it's not hard for them doesn't mean it's the same for us. Some people have serious struggle with it and then someone acts like it's nothing
"Oh wow that helped so much bro lol" 😂
When I tell you I try SO HARD not to make eye contact...💀
Omg I thought I was the only one who was scared of eye contact
Making eye contact just makes it so much harder for me to speak
Also I’m not the only one who can’t eat when someone’s staring right?
Therapist: it’s okay, take your time.
My anxiety after three seconds: *you’re taking to long.*
Wow relatable
@@saarinenj1 hello
Same even if they say its fine my social anxiety: they way their looking at you they probably hate you and think your taking too long they think your stupid
@@saarinenj1 n then I am not able to say anything my mind just goes blank
Too
*me going to hollister the other day for jeans for school*
my anxiety: “I bet everyone here is judging you and doesn’t think you’ll fit into anything here. I bet that worker that my mom screamed my size to thinks your fat. i bet those three girls that are around my age that just walked in think your ugly.”
I’ve had social anxiety probably for as long as I can remember. And I feel as though all of these points are really accurate, and I can relate to basically all of them. I once had a panic attack because of my social anxiety because I wasn’t around anyone I knew and I was hours away from home. It had felt like my throat was slowly closing up and as if I couldn’t breathe, but luckily I was still able to breathe. It felt as though my heart gonna beat so fast and just combust. It was horrible, but once I got to my mom she was able to help me calm down. I felt very embarrassed afterwards for seeming like I was freaking out for no reason. I haven’t been officially diagnosed with social anxiety, but I don’t think I need to be told that I have it, because I just know that I do.
Social anxiety: exist
Mom: it's because of that damn phone
X2
all moms are the same :'/
Hm- Moms just don’t understand the pain..🥱
My mom is like: Is because you read all those things from the internet!!
Yes:/ 😢😢😢😢😢
social anxiety literally affects my everyday life. I’m 22, it’s hard to talk to people, i get anxiety going to work, going to do errands, but as an adult it makes it really hard... anyone else in this same boat?
ME ME!! I’m 19 and it’s literally a problem in everything that I do. When I go to work and a lot of people are just talking and chatting I get anxious. When I go to the gym and ppl are having fun I get anxious. I just get anxious around big groups of people and it’s sad bc I have a personality but for some reason I get choked up and it’s so fucking annoying being in a constant battle with who I am and the person I want to be. Idk if that makes sense but I really relate to what you’re saying
MEEEE
Yea... it got so bad to the point I had to take a sick leave for more than a month. I go back to work in a week and I already feel sick to my stomach knowing I have to deal with toxic coworkers.
@@lizg4698 sheesh .. I pray you get a different & better job 💙
@@jadascott6401 thank you🥺 I will definitely start looking again soon! Nobody deserves to be treated inhumanely😔
Me going to enter in my class after going to the toilet:
My mind: No,you can't! All the attention will be on you. Just stay there and watch the door while trembling.
(My social anxiety got that worse when i was 12,that i couldn't look my classmates in the eyes and everytime my teachers ask me to read something,i use to tremble and be scared about the fact that everyone will be looking at me and that they will be judging my voice,the way i look,only if i can't read well.
Sometimes i just hated to be there,because they use to relate my name to 'the silence girl' and that was very frustrating because i know that they was thinking this and even worste about me.)
my parents think that the internet has corrupted my brain, that my friends are stupid for telling me i should seek help, and that its wrong to be un confident. im 14. in conclusion, im not getting help anythime soon lol.
also when something happens in which i cant really speak due to the anxiety or people cant hear me cause i subconsciously mumble, im told that everything in my head is stupid and i should get over it cause im a girl and girls shouldnt be like that.
it took me 2 years to tell my parents about my anxiety and these are the results
Let's be friends?
summary:
1. Repeatedly checking the location and time 1:16
2. Rehearsing conversations in your head 1:42
3. Avoiding phone calls 2:21
4. Faking phone calls 3:04
5. Constantly worrying about how everyone sees you 3:32
6. Feeling lonely even when you’re surrounded by people 4:08
7. Clenching your teeth and other physical discomforts 4:44
8. Obsessing over how you look 5:14
9. You feel more like yourself around the people you’re comfortable with 5:49
Recommend watching to learn more. 💖
thank youu ♡
DJ RE you’re welcome love
Ah , what a hero . Thanks !
Nice. (: I relate to a lot of these but since I'm still quite young I don't do phone calls much.
@@iexist1300 samee
Math teacher: "You're really smart! You should participate more in class to match your grades!"
My social anxiety: *no ❤*
Omg- at every parent-teacher conference the teachers always tells my mom that “Oh she’s a smart girl, but she should really participate more!” LIKE HELL NO- I feel like everyone would secretly laugh and make fun of me if I say an answer wrong-
@@nightmare3691 EXACTLY!!!
@@nightmare3691 Same- I participated like 3 or 4 years ago and I got qualified into like 3 competitions but my anxiety made me mess up and I barely got into the semi-finals-
Same I think I'm pretty smart but my social anxiety be like: what if that question is wrong, and the teacher thinks your stupid,I think you should change it or else they will laugh at you
I think my social anxiety started in primary school with that b*tch math teacher and and my dad.. since then everything I need to do socially Im afraid I'll just mess up .
The problem with me is that I feel watched and judged even when I’m alone doing or thinking normal things. Like, I’m thinking something and then I suddenly feel like I’m being judged by someone
Me: minding my own business
Social anxiety: aren't you worried?
Me: about what?
Social anxiety: idk
Me: OH SHIZ UR RIGHT-
This was a joke I know what having sa is like and I know it's horrible... Stay strong ❤️
Ikr
"If u suspect u have social anxiety we highly advice to seek professionell help" that includes telling someone about my problems haha no.
İkr like how do i tell someone how i feel, it's reallly hard. I'd get so nervous thinking that they'll judge me
I was seeing a professional and i was so nervous and afraid of being judged that i faked so i could quit it
@@smiley9020 same
@@naaimanadeem9507 Good :] now both of us are suffering in silence :)
@@smiley9020 same.
Anyone else ever type out a comment, rewrote it multiple times, and then kept over thinking so much you just didn't comment anything? Or you do, and then worry about it excessively until you just end up deleting it?
Same there's so much comments I didn't type cause I over thought it
I legit did it for this one
This is validating to a massive degree
many times
Mee!!
@@alisonjoseph450 same
Social anxiety is not just the fear and paranoia of being judge by others. It's also the fear of everyone assuming things on you, assuming your actions and thinking, the fear of everyone putting you in a box. It is very aweful overthinking that a lot. You make irrational things when social anxiety hits you. And everything you say and act is always planned in your head so you don't get to embarass your self. And after interracting to people you get depressed thinking it was not the right response. You them think they'll gonna hate you, dislike you, look down on you, disrespect you, judge you, weirded on you, laugh at you, get away from you. Social anxiety is not as easy as you think it is humiliating and physically mentally draining. If you think you knew someone who have social anxiety please dont give them a hard time. ❤️
Always felt that I'm person who just passes by other people's lives but never even remembered🙁
giving a presentation is such a nightmare because i can barely even stand my legs shake so much and i get light headed
Your legs are shaking, try deep muscle relaxation starting from your toes to your face. If you get lightheaded that’s because you are breathing too fast. Breathe in and out calmly. Lightheadedness makes anxiety worse.
Me too. I remember vividly giving a presentation in 3rd grade by myself and just crying my eyes out in front of the entire class because I was so scared.
Same. The last presentation i did i was shaking so bad i could Barely breath. It was so bad. I was barely speaking.
OMG my legs start trembling too! i thought that was just me, i literally cannot control it either no matter how hard i try and it’s so embarrassing
before presetation even got tome I had sweaty palms was so shaky I eventried to escape doing I went up presented the class laughed I thought oh there laughin at me my heart beating fast I HATE IT🥲
The worst thing is having social anxiety since you were a child and your family didn't care because they thought you were just ""too shy"" and now they judge you for not "being like every one else"..... Take care of your kids!! Mental health is important!
this is so true..
Exactly! Wow that really hit me. I'm 22 and just today realized I'm pretty sure I've had social anxiety since around 4 yo I think? It was really REALLY bad when I was a kid too. Thinking back, it was so obvious. I thought I was just oversensitive and not good enough. Of course, I was just called shy a lot too lol and not much else.
I'm better with people now at least in certain contexts, I'm a lot more comfortable with asking shopkeepers for stuff, being friendly and joking around, asking for directions, trying to get involved in conversations (and often being ignored but not always!) etc and I now have friends who value me and care about me.
However, I'm really scared of authority or certain types of people (think super outgoing+manipulative combo) or situations. Talking to any authority figures (even online!) can get me to the point where I'm obviously extremely tense and even trembling. The worst is that I usually even procrastinate or avoid talking to authority terribly, out of fear.
I do wonder now, if my parents had considered that I was sick and could be helped, if maybe I wouldn't be like this now. Therapy has a bad reputation here particularly because of the therapists being really bad so that's not an option, but this really is hard.
@@Marina_7 I'm 22 too omg!! I'm so glad that you are so much better with people and I hope you keep getting better and better... For me, it's getting worse... Since the covid hit and all the quarantine stuff came, I tend to avoid speaking to others so much more to the point I can't even go to answer the door to the mail guy...
I feel you... I'm always so scared of authority and I always procrastinate too ://
Mine don't even know what I have now and always thinks it's my fault for being like the way I am.... In there head, they were perfect but I have soooo much inexplicable traumas and fears because of them...
I really want to try therapy but I'm so afraid... I can't trust someone like that to expose my whole life and fears, you know??
Anyways, sorry for my English and I hope you keep getting better and better!! I hope, one day, you can go to therapy because I really think it's important!
Stay safe
@@jayyjaee Wow, high five, my symmetrical age number friend!
You're so sweet, I'm so sorry you have gone/are going through all those things. I may not have lived your life, but I feel you.
(Also I'm not a native speaker either but your English is great!!!)
In a sense I kinda liked quarantine at first but it really affects you before you know it!
Also with the parents, it's too true, I think they gave me pretty strong trust issues with certain things.
My parents don't get what's wrong with me either, it's stressful.
Although I might overshare here haha, I really do feel you with not trusting some random person with your fears and life. It's really scary!
I know it's not much, but maybe I can try to give you some tips that helped me get more comfortable with talking to people!
1. _No talk, just exist among people_
I sometimes go to a mall or park or something alone, where I don't know anyone and nobody knows me so whatever I do no one cares.
You can just walk and look around.
I usually like listening to yt videos (like reactions or movie reviews or funny stuff) or music while I do that, or ofc you can call someone or just walk silently.
You can even go further and buy yourself some water or ice cream or something in the park, and you'll have completed a "talk to someone" achievement by saying "hello" and "thank you, goodbye" to the cashier!
2. _Doing it to help someone who is struggling_
For example if I ate pizza with a friend that disliked ordering (you know how it is lol), after a few times I became driven to order our food myself and pretty confident with it! I would rehearse the order a few times, then when the waiter came I spoke up and said every item on my mental list confidently and it kept getting better. (Ofc there are some occasional mishaps like not hearing a word well and stuff but don't sweat it, it's all good and nobody actually minds).
3. Text friends or group chats
You don't even need a reason, you can send a meme or funny video and bam, conversation starter!
Or the good old "what's up" of course.
It's like talking, but without the talking, eye contact and showing up to stuff. It can be short too!
And if you want to feel better about yourself, maybe watch the video "This is a KAREN epidemic" by courtreezy. At least you're not one of those people lol
Sorry for the novel, I hope it helped somewhat. Thank you so much for the well wishes! Stay safe and always remember to enjoy little things! 💝
@@jayyjaee pls consult psychiatrist. They will listen to you carefully and it is there professional ethics to keep secret client details. Always seek help with best mental expert or counselor. I bet you they will not share with that with anyone.
Today I had another panic attack when I was away from home and started feeling like I was going to be sick so I went to the bathroom and sat on the toilet with the toilet seat on and breathed and watched some of your videos they really soothe me and your voice is so relaxing thank you
i’m ready to send this to my parents and just say “when will you realize”
“Don’t be shy, just talk to people more.” This is just like saying:
“Are you blind? Just see more.”
“Are you deaf? Just listen more.”
“Are you dead? Just live a little.”
My parents would be “are you blind? Get glasses” this means that they won’t tell me to just do the thing that seems impossible. Find something to help you do it instead.
How do you have asthma when there’s all this oxygen🙃
My mom said that hours ago when I tell that I have anxiety
@@karamerulatte It’s ok my parents too
and this is why i choose to never talk to people
I have another
10: Not being able to control the tears that come out because of the frustration of having to speak in front of others and the more you try the less you get the words and although everyone thinks it's normal and you're just nervous inside you are angry, hating yourself and wanting to just run away because you know that when the tears come out everyone will say "okay, it's not that bad" when for you it's that bad and to be told otherwise makes you feel STUPID for being so dramatic. No one else cries for something like this! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?! WHY CAN'T I PLAY IT DOWN?! WHY am i crying?!
Because...
Nobody wants to see...
That I care
...
that hit harder than my grades at the end of the school year
I’m in this comment and I don’t like it-
@moon_light everyones inner voice with SAD ofc 😔
Alright, reading your comment made me cry, I hope you'll get better soon, I'm in the same spot too and it hurts when people say "you need to be more confident" while you feel like you can't do anything about it... I'm with you, take care ;^;
Same.. I cry so much, like when we go to the Doctor, a teacher for the end of my year, when i have talk with my parents, everthing that stress me, but i hate me for that it's since i was in elementary school, it's so hard to not cry for me. That how i express when i'm not confortable, like i was heading home alone at 7 in the morning (it was soon school and i was "driving" my brother to school) i had no bag, and i saw people from school in their car, i was so stressed that people in their cars will juge me, that i ended up crying in a road with my glasses and my mask, i was suffocating , worst day of my life, it happened so many time, it's so infuriating ! (sorry if some word are wrong english is not my first language)
I have been diagnosed with this disorder and it’s really difficult to do basic every day tasks. I can’t order food at restaurants, or ask people for directions if I’m lost. Some people think it’s something that’s not that serious but it can really hinder someone’s lifestyle
I just got home from my second therapy session and we talked about my fears and my social anxiety. So thank you for this video, really appreciated 🙌🏻
Im so social awkward that i cant even walk properly outside cause i think everyone is watching my every step so im thinking if i messed up everyone will judge me and make fun of me and when i thinking not to messed up i started messing up..... So thats why i walk really silly outside...
i have the same thing but related to my hands, i don’t know what to do with them when im walking in a crowded place. its so weird, i feel like im doing something wrong and that everyone can see it
Same!!
My friends laugh at how I run, cause I’m kinda self conscious. ;_;
I relate to this down pack. I get mini panic attacks when I walk pass parked cars with people in it too. Or when someone's walking my direction from a distance and they get closer and closer. Why are we like this lmfao
Same, es como si me olvidara como caminar
is anyone scared to even talk to their mom in fear of being judged?😀✨
Sadly yes.
@ᴀʟᴏɪs literally my life🌝
I dont talk to any one for that reason
Yes scared, but also more like don’t bother cuz she doesn’t understand how anxiety works
Omg I thought I was the only one-
0:41 made my heart skip a beat! >w
i love how her voice is comforting and calming
This disorder is more like a curse.
True 😔
Fuck yeah
Ikr...
Yes
School was the worst time of my life because of it.....
When your teacher says “If you don’t start raising hands, I’m going to have to call on random people” 😊 Fight back because worthiness is your birth right 🖖
👏👏👏
I always get scared when my teacher calls on me
Robot Man that’s sad when I have to show my homework I but on the glitching sound and if they say type it In chat i my reconnecting in my name
@@dontdenyme same and my heart starts beating SO FAST and my hands are literally shaking :(((
@@swagyoongi7733 school used to be about learning now its just passing like yoongi said school is a scam
I always feel anxious just walking around in public, thinking other people think that I walk weird. Sometimes I avoid getting up at work even if I need the restroom really bad because Ill end up feeling like they think im annoying for walking back and forth.
Same. When ever I walk in public malls I be thinking the people in the back of me laughing at the way I walk. So I start walking more faster 😭
I think picked up toxic traits trying to combat social anxiety, i became obsessed with looking perfect, how people i was with made me look, not being able to walk outside alone without trembling, never eating out much, eating from the car or my room often, Social awkwardness, becoming angry at myself, hating my true self, blaming everyone who teased me, laughed or took advantage of me, hating and hurting anyone who hurt me, saying i hate being around people, not liking people, terrible communication skills, isolation, terrible romantic relationships, suicidal thoughts, failing at school, not dealing with stress well, not being close to family, hurting someone i cared about, feeling like a narc, constant self hate... A change of heart, watching psych2Go videos, understanding oneself, forgiving myself, forgiving others, learning, looking at the glass half full instead of empty, relearning and more learning. Realising i'm not alone, so many people are healing and learning to cope with struggles. We learn to cope.
I think I also have s.a.d , so I can't really say much but I hope you live a long life and I hope your anxiety gets better ❤
The worst part of when you imagine a conversation, is when the answer is different than what you imagined. My brain just "well, luck with this I'm leaving :D"
oh god same
😂 honestly that’s why I don’t even bother preparing because then I panic. I figured I just need to practising improvising and thinking on the spot. Over preparing can be anxiety inducing too.
its so awkward trying to close conversations XD
Yeahhhhh, i just zone out of the rest of the conversation then (my ADHD)
Just as i’m about to have panic attack perfect timing
Hey, how are you doing? You okay? xx
I hope you are ok,my king
I hope you are okay though.
I had an anxiety attack while writing an exam today and I fricked up
I’m fine i gues idk it’s the stress of seing my therapist again. sorry for my english
I love how every video does style changes but it’s so great of you to bring more awareness to these things because a lot of people don’t understand it
Social anxiety is like a never ending maze, i cant do anything just because i feel like people are staring. Its draining, and just such awful feeling to have because all this agony and stress is on you non stop unless im alone isolated from the world...
Me: literally going on a walk or doing anything
Social anxiety: I bet everyone is judging you and you’re clothes
Why are you walking like that?
@@blendyboi5023 wHy ArE yOu bReAtHIng like that
When someone is near me I even try to hold my breath so they don’t hear me breathing
@@miss.random2235 why is this guy holding his breath?
@@blendyboi5023 well it happens with me I feel very nervous when someone is sitting or standing beside me and I think they will judge me if I breathe too loudly and if I breathe very low then they might get uncomfortable (sorry for English it’s not my first language )
@@miss.random2235 FR. whenever i have my headphones in and i'm just vibing, my brain goes: "what if you're like breathing really loud rn, that person looks really pissed off and is probably looking at you because of it"
and then i hold my breath in case
Physical signs and symptoms can sometimes accompany social anxiety disorder and may include:
👍
Blushing.
Fast heartbeat.
Trembling.
Sweating.
Upset stomach or nausea.
Trouble catching your breath.
Dizziness or lightheadedness.
Feeling that your mind has gone blank.
wait why do i get all of them nononononononono-
Me
yes 👏
The first and the last ones are so relatable 😬
This is me when im at school and the teacher ask me anything, even stuff that i actually know the answer for it.. Like, most of people kinda hate me because of these.. Sometimes.. They felt like im very annoying.. Im trying my best but it never turns out good... I hope i could cope up with it soon...
I literally try to wear all black with either a hood or a mask to try and cover up my body more to hide the flaws and try not to stand out an don't get noticed as much...I get panic attacks all the time cause I have to be near a bunch of people and have to ask to go to the bathroom cause of it. I know I have social anxiety and this makes it even more clear. But no one believes me but my big sis...the rest of my family just think I'm shy...
My gosh…I had no idea so many people struggled with this! Thank you for encapsulating so concisely!
I was raised thinking I was just shy, weird, or overreacting whenever I was encountered with social situations. It's so comforting to find other people who experience things the same as me :)
Same :D
Ikr I thought I was just shy but I really relate to people with social anxiety like having a constant intense fear of people judging me and being ashamed of how I eat and walk and I overthink every sentence I say or At night I would start thinking and crying about something I should’ve said in a conversation that happened years ago
me: i have social anxiety
my family: it's ok i was shy too when i was your age but you will get over it
me: 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃
The same thing happens to me it's so annoying☹️ when we show most the symptoms of anxiety or something they just ignore it and think that it's just being "shy" and "you'll get over it". I hate it here 🥺
And they wonder why we don't tell them anything anymore 🙄
yesterday is not today Have you told them you think you have social anxiety disorder?
yesterday is not today i have legit told my family i have social anxiety, and they honestly think it's just shyness-
@@theinternettrashcan you should try to tell them again but this time actually tell them it's rlly serious
@@ordinaryguy6654 no cause they won't believe me
One of the worst things is developing (possible) social anxiety after you've been a really extroverted and crazy child and now you can't tell your parents because they're going to ridicule you and compare you to your past self that you're actually utterly ashamed of.
Social anxiety makes me feel like I am a weirdo. I feel out of place and often feel imposter syndrome when In social situations. I often think “this person doesn’t actually want to be my friend, they are just a pity friend.” Or “this isn’t going to last, you will mess this friendship up somehow.” I’m often friends with people that are very outgoing (because the outgoing ones seek me) so it makes me feel worthless when other extroverted friends of theirs get together and talk. And it doesn’t help that they have known that person much longer, so of course they have a stronger relationship. I feel like I can never truly connect with others because of these feelings and thoughts. It makes me feel helpless and I just try to survive everyday until one day, I might fix it.
Old friend: This girl is really cool,introduce yourself!
Social anxiety: Don't. Talk.
Dilyana Chohadzhieva that’s me :/
Even worse my crush seems to have that disorder. Yet I let fall cutlerry onto table as I saw her coming into room. Well it got better but still no hugging that just barrely were able to touch elbow to elbow on passing by.
My anxiety just starts screaming when that happens
That's not social anxiety.
Social anxiety run away
"if you feel like you have this problem go and speak to a mental health professional"
*me who is too anxious to speak to a professional but wants to*
to.*
@Wavey Davey
me: has a slight desire to get help, but doesn’t know where to go, doesn’t want to cause a burden on my parents, and doesn’t think it’s bad enough and that I’d just be a bother...
@@taytaythehufflepuff8532 This is so me it hurts
me who wants to reply saying the comment is relatable but not knowing what to say other than "lmao same" so now im just 🙃
I’d speak to a mental health professional. I’ve already tried talking to my mom about me possibly having social anxiety and how it messes with me so much especially in school. I tell her as much details as I’m comfortable with (such as me having a hard time making friends, having possible panic attacks, and feeling anxious about my every move) but since we’re Christian, she says pray and have trust in God which I do as a Christian myself, but this is a mental illness. It’s kinda out of my control, but she doesn’t understand that. I just want to be able to hang out with my new friends without them thinking my voice is odd or that my hair looks weird or that my arms are too hairy. It’s exhausting.
it sucks how many people don't take social anxiety seriously. it's a pretty serious mental illness and it is not within anyones control, in my experience i feel like its kind of part of me. i hope everything goes well for you, i know this is hard. although your mom thinks this way, there will be others that understand you in the future, you'll overcome this :)
I always over think in the most basic things, when I talk to people i feel like there looking at me like I’m saying something wrong then makes me think like, “ why am I talking” or “your embarrassing yourself” and then I space out. 👍
I do all of these things.
My dad, a natural leader, blames me for being “meek” and “shy”. He says I’ll come off as “stuck-up” which only ADDS to my social anxiety. I haven’t actually talked to anyone about this, so people reading this... congrats, you now know a random stranger on the internet has social anxiety and is even scared to talk about it unless she’s hiding behind a screen. Doesn’t help that I recently joined a soccer team who has been together for 3 years, I don’t know anyone, and they try to include me but I’m too shy to interact with anyone,
5 months later edit: so Things have gotten a lot better and I’ve become more comfortable with my teammates :) thank you being so nice in replies :,)
Don't be ashamed❤
Nah, you're really brave 🙂
Playing soccer is really cool btw
I wish you good luck and hope everything works out for you ✨
I feel you. Don't worry, it'll get better.
I'm so happy for you 💗
I don't even resonate or feel comfortable around my friend and we've been friends for like 7 yrs. I can't open up to anyone.
Same here
I opened up to my internet-friend but I think she didn't understand me and my fears
omgggg yeess, i feel really bad about that but yeah, i feel like they can't uderstand me and are gonna judge me idk
I thought I was the only one. I have been friends with them for 12 years. Still I can't open up to them and I feel like it's too late to open up now. My personality has changed over the years and I don't show them my this side. What if this weirds them out like they could think why have I changed my personality all of sudden?
I only open up to my sisters sometimes
same but with my literal FAMILY. PARENTS. SIBLINGS.
Wow as lonely in social anxiety this video was nice to see that I’m not alone!
But Am I the only person who sometimes feels like they physically can’t move there mouth when they are scared to say something
I went into the video wanting to learn more about social anxiety and ended up relating to everything.
Mom was right when she said that i need a therapist
Same my mom also said I needed a a therapist
I don't even know how to properly talk to my family without struggling to not stutter or say something stupid
Well, my mum wanted too, but I didn't want to, because of social anxiety, of curse
Yeah, I’ve been thinking about getting one. But, now thinking about it I’m probably just going to freeze up.
haha my friends were all right. they were all right-
edit i have generalized anxiety, not social anxiety, but i still do a lot of these things
*Okay class please introduce yourselves*
*Social Anxiety: here I come!*
XD
I never knew any mental health issue until I become 18. I wasn't aware I've been this damaged.
*Now this looks like a job for me!*
Social anxiety:let me introduce myself.. Or not, let's just stare at them panicking and not say anything!
Omg these bots...
I have social anxiety.For it i can't make friends.i have to think a lot before asking for help,i feel tensed when teacher is calling our name,i feel fear asking for extra sheet in exam,i would rather not write than asking for paper,i cant talk to peaople easily.i always think about how i am looking,is my mouth smelling bad,if i talk will they see my bad shaped teeth,is my dressing sense bad,am i frowning,is something wrong with my dress,in a full class i look around and i see i am the only one not talking with anyone,i always feel frozen in my bench,feeling guilty, worthless,i cant make eye contact with people.i feel the fear of being judged.i feel lonely,i feel left out,i dont consider myself as a human,i wanna be a normal person,wanna have a normal life.being in a full room of people and not feeling weird because i am not talking to anyone... Is like a dream in my life.
for real,i was a really fun girl all along my life till 5-6 grade..then in 6 grade i was in a really competitive exam.i couldn’t pass it.from then i was in depression.then i got adhd which was worse in lockdown.i dont what is it called but i had really bad overthing problem in grade 8.. even now i am a headache to me.when will it stop.my mother is a big roleplay in this.she always told me black and made fun of me, made my self confidence down. Now i am in grade 11-12.i have grown up.i will be 18 years old in this month.still i feel a lost a lot in my childhood.my childhood was shit.i dont know what is ahead of me in the future. I want know anything about me, what i will do in life,how i will manage everything later. will i be able feed me in the future. but i will do something.but i am really hating this time.i know people have their problems too.but at least they have friends, they laugh,they meet each other, move around,take pictures,eat,shop,make memories,what i am doing,nothing.why am i so left out.what i have done god.why are you punishing me like that.i know god has kept me very well.give me food,shelter,education everything, i should be grateful.but sorry god,i have done nothing to be punished liked that.i dont deserve this social anxiety.you have already gave me a lot of physical problems,i have endured that,but now enough with my mental health.give me a normal mental life or kill me.forgive me god.and give me a normal life.thank you.
I constantly worry the way I talk, walk, sit, look, EVERYTHING that I am, I feel like all eyes are starring into me and judging me. I hate being in groups or even with two other people because I always feel alone and left out. You can always hear my voice shake and it sounds like I'm about to cry whenever I speak up in front of people. Constantly.
I can't tell how many times I've ruined personal relationships because of my social anxiety.
Or never got into one, or didn't even try to get one
I relate to this. I lost a lot of my friends due to my social anxiety 🙁
Hah i ruined my relationship already. SOCIAL ANXIETY IS A CURSE
I ruined a relation ship and I ruined multiple friendships. This is pretty much the reason why I only have 1 friend. I know that friend for 6 years and they understand my problems which is why I'm comfortable & open around them. The friends I lost most likely ditched me because of my shyness & because I would never be the first one to text them. Social anxiety has ruined my whole life and made me have a horrible childhood. I'm now going to college knowing I'll probably drop out because of my social anxiety, but I'm not giving up. I hope you guys aren't either, stay strong guys. ❤
My therapist said that it is very likely that i have social anxiety, and to he honest, i kinda saw it coming…. They said i should try to find out a bit more about it, which is why i love this channel so much, it helps people with all kinds of mental health struggles
This is scary how much this applies to me I check my phone time at school so mug just to avoid talking to people and I am constantly thinking of how I appear to others and things I would tell them in case of certain conversations.
When all eyes on me I feel really uncomfortable and those physical effects are what I'm afraid of like literally my heart starts racing, my hands sweat alot like really alot and I start shivering but I try to control it plus I try to breathe more cz I feel like I'll die in any minute. I wish that our society would pay more attention for these points cz really some people out there with social anxiety need to be understood and without getting bothered by others because it's not a thing that we can control that much
It scares me- that I think ima die- just any second..u never know when god just takes u- it could be- any minute or any day..
Sameee
And the limbs go stone cold, like literally cold
@@miniaturecreature yeah cold and numb
@@yara5465 and when you feel your stomach flip and a wave of nausea hits😞
"feeling lonely even when you're surrounded by people" this shit hits hard
This is not social anxiety.
@@seymaae When you have social anxiety disorder it's very difficult to be "surrounded by people", it's difficult to have friends and even talk to your family sometimes.
@@seymaae Oh jajaj sorry, English is not my first lenguage... I though you meant something else xd
I think the reason I have social anxiety is because of my friends, classmates ect. I remembered peacefully eating food then being judged by one of my male classmates. After that I never eat in front if people without covering up my mouth with my hand or now just wearing on my mouth very quickly. I remembered being judged on how my mouth/lips looked once I removed my mask after a long time, and I never in a million years will remove my mask now. They've judged me so much that I almost head an anxiety attack while trying to pick clothes for a school event. Many people enjoy these events as in my school we wear uniforms so when days like this come, and we get to wear any clothes of or choice, everyone seems to be so happy but now because of my classmates and other people, Im just anxious and sad. My mother kept complementing the dress and saying it looks amazing on me while I kept n getting mad and saying "everyone will judge me, like last time". It's crazy how people don't notice how bad social anxiety can be until they get it. It has serious affects on a humans life and it's really not a fun game to play with. On of the new things I've gotten is being afraid that people will judge me as I walk alone because I use to be one of the very popular kids in my class when I was happy and people knew me for being very social but things seem to change quite fast. I'm also insecure in the way I walk, talk, laugh, my looks and mainly on how people see me. Like do I have a boring personality or what? 'Cause I really can't express my personality/emotions infront of anyone
I’m 15 and an extrovert but i am so self-conscious (I don’t want to self-diagnose but can’t go to professional places since I don’t want my parents to know - they’re gonna think it’s either a joke or I’m just being a “teenager”). Although the stereotypical extroverts are open and gets along with everyone, I find it hard to do that especially with people i don’t know and crowds. Every time I go to a mall or shop, I feel like everyone else is staring at me and I keep correcting the way I walk (sometimes I get so caught up that I legit forget how to walk and feel even more awkward) or the way I do things. Even if it’s just sitting down to eat/drink something outside, I avoid eye contact with everyone and anyone because it makes me panic, as I always assume they’re only looking at me because 1) I’m doing something wrong 2) I’m doing something weird 3) I have something on my hair, face... etc 4) I’m unattractive. I normally don’t act like this in school since I know everyone but outside is an absolute nightmare. I wouldn’t be able to make 1 single friend even if my life depended on it. Another trouble I face is ordering/buying. Even if I’m just simply in a line to get something, I check my wallet to see if I have enough money for the item (I normally already sum up the total before going to pay), rehearse what I’m going to say to the cashier (sometimes it’s not in my first language), make sure that I’m standing correcting and walking normally. I know that this might sound dramatic but I genuinely want to stop this. I hate talking to strangers even if it’s someone friendly. If anyone knows how to help me, please do: because every time I’m out with friends or my parents, I have to embarrassingly ask them to take my money and pay for the item since I don’t have the courage to go. However, sometimes with closer friends that I feel more comfortable with, I find it easier to get comfortable in crowded places because I know that I have someone to go to if I panic or feel intimidated.
Again, I would appreciate any amount of help!
Social anxiety feels like an invisible hand covering your mouth, while the other is around your neck. Suppressing your words. Amongst other things.