Panic Attacks
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- Psychotherapy throws important light on what causes panic attacks. Often there’s a desire to sabotage one’s performance in order to remain loyal to something or someone in one’s past.
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this makes it seem like panic attacks are always caused by something avoidable, but the fact of the matter is that they can be 100% random.
+Peni S. You have a weird name.
+Peni S. There could be some untapped things you haven't really acknowledged. You dont know what you dont know.
+David John You have two first names.
Nothing is truly random. There is always a source. Either internal, external, or both
That may be. But there is always a source, even if it seems random or is impossible to trace
No disrespect to this story or anybody else who has overcome panic disorders and depression through therapy alone, but I look at the comments and see so many people bashing on medication as if taking medication means you aren't strong enough to function on your own. No, medication is not for everybody, a lot of people can function happily without it, and therapy should be used to coincide with medication, not in place of it. However, taking medication does not make you any weaker of a person. If it works for you, then it works for you.
As somebody who suffered from 2-3 severe level panic attacks a day, including one that ended in a 911 call, and depression, self harm, and general anxiety, I've been on medication for about 8 months now and can happily say that it has changed my life so much. I rarely ever have panic attacks and my thoughts of extreme anxiety, self harm, and depression are incredible rare. Medication does not make you weak guys (:
i agree. medications work for people who are more severely depressed or chemically imbalanced. they dont explain as much about the use of medication as they should and it causes people to discontinue treatment or refuse it all together. depression can have many different causes and i feel that doctors should take the time to properly evaluate the causes of depression before determining whether or not medication is the way to go. you cant control everything about how your brain works so medication doesnt make you weak. often times people just need some good cognitive behavioral therapy for their anxiety and depression and doctors tend to use medication along side that to help balance out the chemicals in the brain to make it easier on the whole process, but even then its all about that individuals needs, some people can overcome depression and anxiety on their own or through cognitive behavioral therapy but that does not work for everyone and seeing as these are conditions that are caused by many different things, you shouldnt ever think of someone as weak for needing assistance because you dont know what they are suffering through
Marissa Santiago I’d rather medicate than go into a state of total hysteria
This is just superb, I have been researching "extreme panic attack" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Wanatthew Janlizabeth Eradicator - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my buddy got excellent results with it.
To me what's worse than a panic attack, is someone that denies it's existence.
I used to get panic attacks in my early 20s for some unknown reason. I thought I was dying of a heart attack and just sat there in class accepting it with fear I might embarrass myself. The bouts only lasted about a year. Every year since, my anxiety has gone down and the older I get the less I care about what anyone around me thinks.
Really happy for you. How is it going now?
You are the most amazing channel, presenting the fallacies of every person's life in such a beautiful manner that it makes me realize what I am missing out in life, what is making me suffer, feel pain and utter depression.
I really appreciate the fact that you are trying to help people out by reaching them directly. I hope you quickly hit a million and then a ten million subscribers. the world needs to know this channel, maybe everyone will undergo a good realization about what is killing their lives. I never knew that CZcams could ever be so nice. Thanks!
+Aayush Shah A beautiful comment! (confirmation bias alarm: I agree too ;)
+ Ayeesh Shah -- lovely comment! The way this is designed is just so good -- I make a point of spreading the word by Tweeting at least one video every day🙏
Someone doesn't know what Fallacies are..
+The School of Life Appreciate video content! Sorry for the intrusion, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard about - Patlarny Priceless minutes Principle (just google it)? It is a good one off guide for curing panic attacks minus the normal expense. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my buddy at very last got excellent success with it.
Excellent Video clip! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you researched - Patlarny Priceless minutes Principle (probably on Google)? It is an awesome exclusive product for curing panic attacks without the hard work. Ive heard some decent things about it and my cooworker after a lifetime of fighting got amazing success with it.
Sometimes, I believe that the modern world has lost everything spiritual and intellectual, only to replace them with shallow thoughts. People mock philosophy. They don't understand the beauty of art, or that of an Ancient language. They only care about money and meaningless sex. But when I lose almost all my faith in the world, and I slowly begin to become one of them, I come here and watch your videos, and you School of Life, and your subscribers always make me think that no, all is not lost just yet. Thank you.
***** Wow. You guys do respond fast!
People have always been interested in base things. Philosophers have always been mocked. It's no modern invention.
+gijijijijijijijijijijji You are very right in your words, I feel the same way! Thats why I love my volunteer job at TSOL Amsterdam. Great people, with open and loving minds. :-)
+Maarten van Heugten you volunteer? That sounds interesting. Didn't know they needed those. I'm going to look and see what volunteer jobs are open.
thats nice! I thought of volunteering with the Amsterdam team as well actually. didn't know if they needed it. perhaps I will ask when they make another tour to Groningen :)
this sounds so easy to get rid of your attacs, but it isn't for everyone..
+verta erta don't give up, homie. Keep trying to figure yourself out.
It is simply one person's story through his struggles and triumph. But can be used as an example, inspirational, for others in saying that all is not lost, and we need no be afraid all the time, that there are solutions - we simply need to find one for us, so we can lead a happier more balanced life.
Ive had people telling me that anxiety is all in your head and bla bla. But omg it is so real. It has physical effects and physical triggers
Is anyone else thinking that communities such as "The School of Life", are (somewhat) replacing religious institutions for the irreligious? Places where people can gather, listen & discuss topics in a sober, rational & progressive manner. This is the future. Every time I watch one of their videos I feel a deeper sense of connectedness and community.
That's actually one of their big ideas, watch Alain De Botton's (the narrator) Ted Talk on religion for atheists
+James Gardner they are of cause, this is one of the most wonderful organizations dealing with those Nietzschean ideas.
Never thought of that before... But it sure sounds good
+The School of Life just watched Alain's talk, couldn't agree more, brilliant talk :)
+James Gardner I got a friend who is in a seminary, studying to be a priest. He loves it. For him, religion works. For me, there's the School of Life.
I've gotten (what I think are panic attacks) at work a few times and every time I've had the same thoughts running through my head "this is my life? This is it?" I only think about that at work. And one time I felt like I was having a panic attack on my way home from work bc I realized my family would be home and I wanted time alone. The thought of them being there overwhelmed me. When they are home I feel obligated to spend time with them and also unable to do my own thing.
Beautiful animation,i believe everything should be thought in this way
you mean taught right?
+HARSHAL PATIL and thought.
+zLeeeO wut?
There are several suggestions worth trying
Don't take stimulants like alcohol and coffee
Try to relax
Exercise regularly
Join a self-help group
(I discovered these and more ideas on Trevs panic fixer site )
When the he described the space of that therapist - that place where he would be heard and not be interrupted - I started crying; it felt so safe and warm.
I had my first panic attack when I was 14 years old, stress at school and bullying led to me having panic attacks in my sleep, at the time of course I had no idea what was happening but they went away, I started in therapy recently and it helps an awful lot to have someone you can just talk to and not have to hide away from! - Medication helps as well but so does just ACCEPTING failure, go and see your friends and just say you can only stay 10 minutes, this relieves the pressure of "what happens if I have an attack!!!?!" - if you feel good after 10 minutes then stay a little longer, build up gradually!
Holy shit, you're doing something for free?
You are offering therapy to people who need it? It is often those individuals in desperate circumstances who might need therapy the most. The problem is that you need to be fairly well off with the ability to take the time away from work or family obligations for therapy. The fact that you are offering it free of charge to those who seek it out is something I want to truly congratulate you about. I am probably one of the world's biggest cynics and usually I snicker at the idea that first world art and philosophy will cure the rest of the world's ills. In this case, however, the fact that you are doing something practical and actually reaching out to those who need it is very commendable. Don't go getting a big head "The School of Life" , but seriously and with great sincerity.......Nice Job!
+HitMeQuick Well... nothing is really free. Even therapy on the NHS is paid for through the original form of crowd funding... taxation!
+HitMeQuick Well... nothing is really free. Even therapy on the NHS is paid for through the original form of crowd funding... taxation!
+HitMeQuick
Hi there! I hope you don't get me wrong, but we must understand that from somewhere they have to get the money to make the whole thing going. Consider this: They have opened The School of Life in several countries, in one year they have already offered us 266 video lessons of life changing quality, made by filmmakers from all around the world. All of Alain's documentaries are on youtube for free. The Book of Life, where they post amazing articles, the websites Books as Therapy, Art as Therapy, Food as Therapy, Porn as Therapy, News as Therapy....They work and pay for all these things and offer them to all of us for free. They also take every single subscriber very seriously and write back to comments, for which I am sure nobody is getting paid...I don't mean to offend you, but I just wanted to mention all this for the sake of fairness. I wish you a happy 2016!
+HitMeQuick I should really have known better than to think someone might help someone else without being compensated. Eighty pounds is definitely out of my price range when it comes to spending money on frivolous nonsense. "Life is tough, I worry about death, my friend's iPhone is cooler than mine." I suppose it was too much to assume that there could be help provided without compensation. Money is really the answer to most problems. If you have money, you can pay for therapy, move to different surroundings, go on vacation, help family and friends, purchase health insurance, start a business, buy things for a creative project, help the less fortunate and buy yourself a fun toy that will at least for a short time help you forget that YES, you are going to die. I understand that someone who has a degree in therapy (the ability to listen and then give common sense solutions) is not going to do this for free, but it would have been nice. Sadly we live in a world where very few control a whole lot and unhappiness is rampant. Life promises nothing and usually gives you nothing. Alcohol, drugs and depression all stem from the feeling that you cannot get out of the current situation you are in at the moment. You watch tv, see ads in magazines and online only to have the notion that you are wasting your life and have so little compared to everyone else basically drilled into your brain. I like these videos, but to anyone who watches them and thinks "Wow, how inspiring" there is someone else counting their cash and living very comfortably somewhere in London town. Self-help certainly does sell because we all know there is someone out there who has ALL the answers, but sadly we are too stupid to know what they are and need them pointed out to us the inferior creatures that we are.
I’ve only ever had one panic attack. But that one panic attack made me feel the lowest ever.
I was in my room when I started having my first panic attack.i started having trouble taking normal breaths. I crawled into my chair and curled up. This was at like 11:00 pm btw. I started seeing my walls getting bigger and me getting smaller. I just closed my eyes and started crying and quietly calling for my mom.
Have a job interview tomorrow and The School of Life is one of the best things to have been referred to me by a friend. Upbeat art, soothing narrations, and content like this specific video always put me in the right head space before something big or after a bad day.
*This stuff is great. I have suffered rom panic attacks and general anxiety for most of my life. I have been prescribe many antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds. I am very health conscious and do not like taking prescription medication of any kind. I have quit antidepressants all together (long before trying this product). I now take this anxiety formula at the first sign of stress. So far, it has prevented the anxiety from getting worse. This product is an absolute blessing. I received it in exchange for my fair and honest review.*
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RACHELLE your link doesn't seem to work here (in the Netherlands). I clicked on it, but got re-directed to some dodgy search-engine... Is the product you try to promote only to be found outside Europe? Why not mention that?
This is the most sincere comment I've written.
My parents are strongly religious and I am an agnostic. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and can clearly recognize the similarities with your example. I have moved on to another world view, left their religion and social circle, and carry the guilt of crushing that which my parents desperatly try to preach. I try to go easy on them and respect their faith (they're fragile), but can not take part of it. I've been seeing a therapist since getting a B on a test had me going a tiny bit bonkers. Now, I'm back on track. There is hope.
I realized that my value as an individual doesn't spring from the opinions of others. I can be less eager to please, without hurting anybody. And I can even maintain my grades thanks to the added peace of mind. If I can do it, believe me, you can too.
(Bonus Protip and Controversy; Don't start taking pills just because the doctors tell you. Do research. I learnt the hard way.
Don't talk to one doctor - talk to two. If one is "sponsored", the other will notice.)
My friend know JESUS CHRIST BEFORE ITS TOO LATE
When he said it revolves around the world 'expectations' I was so shocked because that's exactly what I feel. I find it so difficult to talk to people because I feel like no one will understand me and they will think I'm faking it
Happens to me every time time I hear "subscribe". Thanks for stopping that.
Guys, it´s incredible how you care about people, just stunned every time you come up with something new. Would you like to expand ? (like just translating the videos, i would totally do that for you)
i always thought that, portuguese here!
And Arabic too... If okay I totally would Help
So you are telling me I need therapy?
What's wrong with that? Your bone gets broken, you try to fix that yes? The brain any less of a serviceable organ?
Yes it will help you.
This is exactly how my panic attacks started at 22. Thank you for making this video. It opened my eyes to what my eyes to what my problem has been. I can't wait to bring this to my therapist ! Thank you again :')
Just what I needed
These videos have me on the verge of tears. They all hit right at home and are helping me thinks of ways of improving myself and life. Seriously thank you The School of Life
This video is basically my eight-month long experience with depression. Talked to a counsellor, no drugs, fine before I knew it.
That's because you were experiencing a spell of being depressed, not authentic clinical depression. I have authentic clinical depression and trust me, if I wasn't on the medications I'm on for it, I would have killed myself by now. Just talk therapy alone doesn't fix depression as an illness, only the temporary phase of feeling depressed.
Panic attacks are hell, good to listen the story of someone who succesfully overcame this horrible condition. Sadly, each individual story hides a different origin for one's panic attacks, so it's only partially helpful to watch other people's cases.
*0:50** I'm crying at such a beautiful sentence*,
Can you do a video about sleep paralysis?
+z8_GND_5296 I've heard of one person who had sleep paralisys all his life. The episiodes stopped when he used bruxism plates.
+z8_GND_5296 Happens to me once or twice a month. Some folks are very scared of the effect, and some have horrible nightmares with it. Me, I'm more just bored and annoyed. The first thing I like to do is a full body-stretch in bed and take a deep breath. It just irks me that I can't do that and just have to wait it out.
+z8_GND_5296
i'm not sure this may be the right place. sleep paralysis is a more biological/medical thing, while this channel focuses on more philosophical, economical, psychological, and sociological stuff. despite this, there's still a small possibility of this happening, so keep your hopes up.
+z8_GND_5296 I can tell you about sleep paralysis. The dude you see when it happens with the hat that is freddy kreuger/willy wonka/the trickster archetype/V for vendetta/the ghost of christmass past/death/Osiris/the chechire cat/ the burnt dude from mohalland drive. In psychoanalysis he is refered to as 'the real father,' but he is also the 'imaginary father' or your imaginary friend when you were little or fantasize, so he might be Indiana jones or barney depending on your age. His latest incarnation in film is Bing bong from inside out. He is also the wizard in the wizard of Oz.
+z8_GND_5296 just wanna add... the funniest movie about the hat man is 'Death to Smoochie.' It is kind of a play on words from the real father to the imaginary father, but also the shift from him being a sort of dark character like in willy wonka to becoming Barney. I think that says something about a cultural shift in the west in the role of the father. He was a dinosaur in the 80's as the trex in land before time and in the 90s be became freaking barney.
years ago I had those panic episodes, and looking back.. it was the guilt also in my case. I remember in that time a friend of mine telling me that these conditions, or symptoms are far more common than we believe they are. To hear this was such a relief for me. I think this video is of great value for first time panickers. Thanks
Thank you alain...just by posting this short video you have cured me from my panic attacks...I will be forever in your debt.thank you, thank you, thank yoou.
I think some people miss the point. Anxiety and depression can in fac become disordered for any person at any time. You don't need a chemical imbalance, or to be born a certain way. The way our minds are can become too chaotic and loud. We are our own worst enemies, some people have a tougher time recognizing their behaviors until its too late. What works for some doesn't work for all, but doesn't mean this person had it worse or less than others. Sometimes it takes self love and to be kind to oneself through self care and acceptance, sometimes it takes other methods. I'm honestly happy this person dealt with his anxiety issues.
I recently subscribed to your page and I have to say that you're videos are awesome! Thank you for sparking that small flame in someone who may be interested in a certain subject. I've seen a therapist before but they were not really helpful. Thanks to your video I will give it another go.
+Carlos Yanes Not all therapists are the same! :)
This video encouraged me to finally get a therapist to help me with my stuttering problem, i hope my therapy experience will be as succesful as Zach's up there.
Meds can be a good thing people. I have been on both ends of the spectrum on this issue and found the best approach for me was somewhere in the middle. Some meds and some therapy have helped tremendously. It took a while to find the right meds and the right therapist, but I persisted and found my solution and my peace. Don't be an extremist, be open minded, do your own research, listen to professionals, ask questions and be honest with yourself and your doctors. Good luck.
I had my last panic attack about six months ago. Before I have had about a year of constatnt panic attacks experience. Panic attacks manifested themselves in different ways - high blood pressure, tachycardia, general weakness, pain in the heart area, and lack of air as physical manifestations. Also anxiety, fear of death, clouding of consciousness and perception, faint, and several times I even lost consciousness - as mental manifestations. I was almost desperate, but accidentally I discovered one book. After reading the first chapters, I was surprised how much the author’s case is similar to my case. The author himself survived all this on himself and managed to overcome his illness and, most importantly, to understand the true cause of the panic attacks. I really liked that the book does not have idle advice that you only need to pull yourself together and calm down. The book presents a specific diagnosis and specific actions and recommendations on how to completely get rid of panic attacks in about three days, a maximum of a week. This book is available on the Amazon Kindle. I understand that now paying for books is reluctant, especially with a large amount of free information on the Internet, but I think this book is completely worth its money, especially after all that I had to go through. It is completely worth the quality of life without panic attacks and the opportunity to breathe a sigh of relief with the feeling that this whole nightmare is over. I do not force anyone to buy it, but I highly recommend it. It is your decision, but why not to try, what if this is also your case, like mine. There is a link www.amazon.com/dp/B07FZH9PDS
Wish I had found such a good therapist. Have been in therapy fifteen years and still have anxiety ! encouraging !
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Interesting. I get Panic Attacks sometimes when I'm somewhere that having a panic attack would be embarrassing. I use to just get them when I thought I was going to die for some reason, but now it's also when I'm in public (sometimes) or when I can't leave on my own free will (Like in a car or stuck at work). A combination of the two always results in an overload of panic/anxiety. I guess I should seek therapy.
I feel your pain.
+Jeremy Orr That makes perfect sense. Panic attacks are very closely tied up with agoraphobia (and claustrophobia). Agoraphobia and claustrophobia are kind of “special” among the different irrational fears in that way.
The feeling of being in the open with no where to hide is a major stimulus for panic attacks. It’s the fear of a panic attack itself that drives panic attacks, and so when you have no where to hide when they happen, the fear is worse - which of course just helps create an attack. This relationship between feeling trapped or exposed and getting a panic attack is a fundamental part of our understanding of panic attacks, and it works this way for most people.
A pretty good book about them is Monsters in the Closet by Mellinger and Lynn. Panic attacks usually start with one episode that starts the whole thing - and then the fear of panic attacks causes a vicious cycle. You get hyper-alert to your bodies fight or flight response. Because they are terrifying. Scared of the physical feeling of fear, which can very quickly amplify itself. The great thing about panic attacks is that they respond to treatment very well compared to many other psychological problems. So you should seek therapy, it may take trying out more than one person, but there are methods for treatment that are proven to help.
Best of luck, it seems like you’ve already figured out a lot of how panic attacks work on your own. So I treatment would work very well for you. Panic attacks are illusory, once you poke the fear, there is nothing there. But of course, doing that on your own is very hard to do. The ideas I stated above are based on the work of psychologists who specialize in scientific, evidence-based treatment of panic attacks.
very sorry. I had panic attacks half year ago. it was very annoying.
I'm sure this works for a lot of people in which anxiety is a temporary situation related to a major life event, but not all people's brains are wired the same way. I've been having panic attacks since I was a young child regularly, and I've been through years and years of therapy, medications, and self guided emotional discovery, and I still haven't been able to get rid of them. For many people anxiety is a lifelong struggle that can't, as much as they try, be thought away. I really wish it could be like that for me, but it's not. I like this video a lot, but people watching please don't make assumptions that everyone's anxiety is solved like this.
I like this style and format of delivery. Easier to comprehend
A close family member has bad panic attacks. This was really helpful to understand. THANK YOU VERY MUCH!
I imagine this approach may work for some, maybe even the majority of people that suffer from panic attacks, but trust me- there are some of us for which there *must* be some sort of physiological cause, rather than an emotional one.
The fact that I can have one when I am simply relaxing (or trying to) at home, out of the blue, with no expectations on me, seems to indicate that there's more to it than emotions. Also, I do quite a bit of meditation, so I feel like I'd be aware of it if it were something simple like feelings about my parents or my job or my relationships or death or whatever.
I don't know why but that was the most inspiring thing I've seen in years
I really like the subjects you pick and the solutions you provide.
These videos are the hope for making this world a less miserable, or maybe even a good place to live in.
I am really grateful for this channel, undoubtedly one of the best channels out there.
Absolutely brilliant details in terms of analysis, especially connecting the behavioural and analytical levels. Definitely a good case study to choose as an example.
I love how this channel is bringing some aspects of therapy to the general populous
Thanks a lot for the core of my heart for this. This was so refreshing and was special because the place I come from do not remotely attempt to address these things. So thanks again.
If anyone is dealing with panic attacks and is seeking some sort of guidance, I just recently defeated my anxiety and feel so much better and happier with my life. I completely understand that some anxiety is worse than others but with the right mindset you can overcome some of your biggest fears. You will survive and everything always gets better
Jason Bravo ....u defeated ur anxiety or u manage ur anxiety?
I had panic attacks for years. In retrospect, they were mostly about social anxiety. I was so wound up tight in social situations, feeling trapped, scared of how people would react or what they'd say.
And ironically, the most difficult part of panic attacks is sometimes the social isolation. Tell people you're coming down with a cold and you get mountains of sympathy. Tell people you just had a major panic attack, ie you just had one of the most traumatic and horrible experiences life has to offer, where you stared pure terror in the face and thought "this is it," and they look at you perplexed. That really is the icing on the cake: You're dying, you're in hell, and you're ALONE.
I have a severe panic disorder along with a number of other mental disorders and I've finally admitted to myself that's it's okay to accept help. I've been seen a doctor for 6 months and made progress. My goal is to one day not to be medicated for my disorders, however I leaned to accept that I'm not a weak-minded person if I have to rely on my medication.
Zack & I were both 28 when our Panic attacks started.
Zack & I went to Therapy.
Zack had a therapist. I couldn't afford one.
Zack & I suffered Narcissistic Parents Abuse.
Zack's panic attacks took 1 year. Mine took 2 years.
Zack & I no longer experience panic attacks.
Zack & I ❤️ Philosophy!
Involuntarily teared up mid way through the video. Catching a glimpse of how i relate to the man used as an example caused this video to be for more worth my time than i had anticipated.
I think so many of us share a similar story. Incredibly eye-opening. Thank you!
I think everyone can benefit from cognitive behavioural therapy to some degree. The more self awareness and insight you have, the more control you have over your life.
Here is something terribly interesting I have heard in an interview with Gabriel Rolon, Argentine's most beloved and most read psychoanalyst:
When we say something to someone, we often say much more than we think. And sometimes much less! Or we say something totally different than what we think that we are saying! Isn't this unbelievable?? I mean take the example in this video where the young man only says:
"If it carries on like this, I'll have no option but to head back home and live with my parents."
Who would have thought that this one little sentence of such an understandable, ordinary complaint would be the sign of a huge trauma, the tip of an iceberg? But really good psychotherapists have the ears for that and the wisdom and the skills to use it to help you make sense of your own life story!
It is really very scary , but also fascinating to see that the story of your life is indeed something quite different than the story you are believingly telling to yourself and to others. Things that happened way back in the past will most probably determine a great deal of your future and you'll have no idea about it. ( Unless you decide to see a shrink.) That's why I love reading books of psychotherapy tales! They seem to me even more exciting than the best detective stories! Here is a list of them I would recommend:
1. " Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy" by Irvin Yalom. There are many people suffering from love pain in that book and Yalom says that dealing with patients who are "in love" is the most difficult an uncomfortable part of his work. Because you have to " wake them up" first and deprive them of all the illusions that gave them refuge and comfort till then...
2.Yalom's latest book called " Creatures of a day". Imagine that he wrote it when he was 81. I mean after 50 years of listening to people's problems and helping them! It is a treasure really. By the way in that book he recommends several patients Marcus Aurelius's " Meditations".
3. Gabriel Rolon's Historias de Divan is an excellent book too. One fascinating story after another. It is translated into Brazilian Portuguese and German. The German title is: " Auf der Couch".
4. "Historias Inconscientes" is another book of cases by Rolon. Very heavy stuff though...Don't read it now if you are depressed or something. ( It is translated into German with the title " Trauer, Panik, Leidenschaft: Geschichten aus der
Psychotherapy". )
5. " The Examined Life, How We Lose and Find Ourselves" by Stephen Grosz. ( I haven't read this one yet. But several people say it's great.)
6. " Let me tell you a story" by Jorge Bucay. It is about a teenager who goes to a psychotherapist. At every session he talks about something that troubles him , and the therapist tells him a story that can be helpful. Most of them are great stories!
7. You can watch the great " What's troubling you" series by the psychotherapist Philippa Perry on Guardian Culture channel on youtube. Every video begins with someone leaving a message on an answering machine about a horrible problem . Then you hear what Philippa says to help that person. Very wise and tender advices. The animations are great too.
+Futures Hi there! Thank you very much for your message. I probably didn't express myself properly, but I didn't mean that seeing a therapist once a week would magically change your life. The change comes through the insights you get from your work with the therapist, but most importantly through what you do with those insights after the sessions. You have to work hard on yourself and have the courage and will to get deeper in understanding what hurts you the most. That itself is a very painful process, but it will give you a relief after some time if you keep being determined.
But of course I understand what you mean with the " therapy industry". There are so many horrible psychologists out there... But still, it doesn't undermine the value of those who are very dedicated and who really do get to help many people.
You were saying that " the world doesn't change". I do believe that there are small changes we can make in our life time, but I also very much believe in what Marcus Aurelius said:
" Our life is what our thoughts make it".
Thank you for your recommendations. I 'll definitely look into them.
+Futures
Hi there! Thank you very much for your informative message. I do agree with everything you say about this system of course...You make people sick in the first place and then mainly put them on anti depressants, so that you can keep exploiting them better...I can think of many examples that support your point of view...
There is a podcast called The 7th Avenue Project, they have an episode on the unreliability of those studies, it's called " Is most scientific research wrong". The host interviews the psychologist Mike Frank and he is very critical on the subject too, like you said.
Well, but still you know, I may seem to be too naiv, but like in all professions, I think there must be some good therapists out there that help people too .... ( I know, I am repeating myself ) I never had the chance to see one, but the books I have read, and a couple of friends who had been through it, gave me the impression. But as I said, I also understand very well what you mean . I will check David Smail. Thank you.
fair play this is one of the most beautiful channels I've ever come across and I watch ALOT of stuff on yt.
legends :)
I want to note that panic attacks occur with no obvious reason. As someone suffering from PAAD i get panic attacks while I'm on my bed watching a movie. Medication helped me ALOT and therapy helped understand myself more and dissect my thinking process.
I'm having troubles attending to my course, i had only one panic attack in the past, in a event from a job i used to work for, it was a Christmas party and the amount of people there so i bolted out of the event, then cried.
I'm still not sure why i cried, everyone was so nice there.
Now days i find it difficult to attend a course i'm currently in, i know i have the knowledge and skills to graduate, however, I've been experiencing sleep problems, laziness, anxiety and low energy ever since i started this course.
I missed 6 months of class.
Zack sounds like a gentleman, with a strong social conscience.
Wow, very relevant to myself, dealt with anxiety for a big part of my life and therapy helped a lot. Funnily enough my name is also Zac.
I would like to see and talk to a therapist, but I'm poor.
There might be some therapies subsidized by state - free for you. I've been few times on those. It helped a lot!
Try better help it's an app that contact you to a counselor or a therapist and it's cheaper than face to face therapy usually
My therapist is free bc of something in germany
Same
Many thanks, I have been researching "panic attacks physical symptoms" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Wanatthew Janlizabeth Eradicator - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.
I've gone through a panic attack when the lowlife ex I was with dumped me in June the 8th after I start suffering from Heart Broken Syndrome, stress, anxiety and nightmare flashbacks and lack of sleep.
And he left me emotionally traumatized for life.
I will no longer get in any relationship, I wanna stay single and free.
That's a great explanation of how therapy works
more psych videos please! this channel is great for a training psychiatrist who is very interested in psychodynamics. thanks for the great content!
Deliberate, compassionate, and helpful. Great video, like always.
You had a good counselor... Mine is always changing the subject and talking about stuff that I don't need help with at the moment...
I clicked on this video with a sense of trepidation.. thinking it might trigger an attack but It turned out to be enlightening.
+Kay Brzy Used to happen for me too..
This is great. His story reminds me of similar ones found in the psychology book Fantasy Bond: Structure of Psychological Defenses by Robert W. Firestone.
Someone at The School of Life should give it a read! Great book, very insightful.
Most our problems occur due to inacceptance of our personal qualities. The more we are not given a chance to be ourself, the more we develop mental anxiety. No matter who our peers are, if we don't feel quite ourself and the need to be someone else, its a better choice to leave them and be with someone who accepts us just for the way we are. This might seem complicated but we owe it to ourselves to just be, breathe and be happy.
Once I had a panic attack in front of my teacher and my parents because I was scared of my first ever 3-day camp when I was in 3rd grade. The teacher and my parents helped me calm down and I sat in the bus with my teacher. Now I am im 5th grade and I continued going in the same camp 3 years in a row , with 3 different teachers. Now I plan going in summer camp at the same camp
Wow this has encouraged me to go to therapy next sunday i hope it will go just as smoothly 💜
I was experiencing panic attacks for the first time in my life about 8 months ago. They are frightening to say the very least. It was enough to scare me into becoming extremely active and living a healthy lifestyle. It seems to have worked so far. It could be that your body/mind is screaming out for you to listen as stated in this video.
I cried while watching this. I'm getting help tomorrow
I guess it's easy to summarise a bad problem, a life story and a happy ending in four minutes. I'm glad for those who recover through therapy. Only a couple of people have been willing to help me and not get me out of the door with a prescription, and with those who made an effort I felt just as uneasy after a couple of sessions. I suppose therapy isn't for everyone.
This almost gave me a panic attack because the story clicked.
I hated this and it literally makes me breathe harder. uggghhhh...
This channel really helps me through the day. Are there any videos on here about dealing with change? That would be something I'd like to watch.
This is all making it seem so simple. I have been discussing why I got my anxiety attacks with therapist for some while now and I'm getting nowhere. It's just repetative stuff about things I feel bad about and the realization of how cruel life can be that I can get very upset about.
You get over them guys, after a few years, but there is post traumatic stress disorder left. But attacks get 100% managable, you can get control over them and stop them at the pre-beginning phase.
The more you know the superior your decision making becomes.
Thank you for your amazing work. This channel really hits the spot like a full meal, making everything seem a bit lighter and more pleasant. Hate to type the usual "Make one about topic X"-comment, but have you considered making one about Viktor Frankl? I think he and his logothrapy would give a great addition to the other topics about existentialists.
this is a lot better than selling merch
watching while having one right now. it's been weeks, and i can't make it stop.
I get really bad panic attacks everyday. The best thing for me to do when I’m having one is for me to sit outside and take deep breaths and focus on my breathing. Being distracted away from my breathing is the worst thing personally for me. I need to focus on my breathing to calm down. Everything goes quiet when I’m having one and I can’t hear anything so I start panicking, people talking to me doesn’t make a difference because I can’t hear them. Also personally water doesn’t help either because I’m shaking to much to drink it. The best tip is to make sure they focus on their breathing cos if not they’re just panic more. That’s just my opinion from my experiences :)
I was brought up in a reclusive, fundamentalist christian sect. It took me nine years to think and feel my way out of it to a place where I could see it's rational absurdity, but now twenty years after disavowing it, I still suffer from it. I am prone to anxiety and low self esteem I think because the idea of an all powerful, all knowing and vengeful god-monster is embedded in the architecture of my mind because I actually believed it to be true as a child. Kingsley Amis was asked once if he was an atheist, he answered "Well, yes, but it's more that I hate him". I hate him too, much as you can hate a fictional character in a book or play. I happened on "The School of Life" by chance and yes, I agree, communities such as this are of great help and comfort to people damaged by religion.
Little kids shows help me keep my anxiety down for some reason
Thanks for not making this video overwhelming! Learned a lot
Now, this sounds like a nice success story. I had the same issues, coming from a working class family I felt I was not intelligent enough to survive in a "smart environment." I couldn´t deal with my anxiety attacks during presentations, which had me give up my career as a scientist. I have been in therapy for years during that time, but everytime I had to give a presentation, the symptoms already started 2 weeks earlier: I lost 10 lbs of weight, couldn´t sleep anymore and felt so depressed and miserable that I had suicidal thoughts all the time. I always stumbled through my presentations somehow, but at some point I gave up. I was only 29. Still a bit sad about it, but life´s not a jukebox.
thank you for existing mr school of life youtube channel
I'll love to see more of these videos! such beautiful animation and storytelling, narrator, and these videos are quite enlightening!
I just had a panic attack for the first time in my life, probably from ending a relationship and drug use. I hate myself. I was so afraid, it felt like that moment (almost 1 hour) was all that existed and it was never going to end, death seemed like the only escape. I was thinking of hurting myself to stop it feeling it. Man this shit is awful. I never knew someone could feel that bad with such intensity.
Your own expectations can lead on panic attack and make you cross the atlantic *true history
If you're having a panic attack, there are ways to deal with it. Exercise can work. Go out for a run, do press ups, beat the shit out of a pillow... Anything to vent that fight/flight response.
my life story..
i had the same thoughts about that i dont feel ok and comfortable when someone is expecting something from me and this video almost completed these thoughts
I have never in my life been to a therapist that was this helpful. it always boiled down to
"i am having a lot of anxiety attacks in public situations"
"well then we are going to try you on these pills for your clear antisocial personality disorder, these pills for youparent mood swings, and these pills to calm you down. come back in a month and well see if we need to adjust your medication."
after so long with anxiety, i cant watch any screen go upside down without getting dizzy and a headache, it gave me insane vertigo
Panic attacks come out of nowhere! you can be happy and relaxed one minute and completely out of control the next! sweating, feeling like your losing your mind, frantic! eratic heart beats! mine come on mostly when I am alone! and I can wake up in the middle of the night with one!, so I don't agree that there has to be a trigger for them!
i have the same panic attacks... i always feel like i have to impress and not end up like a fool when the attention is on me. i really hate it i get nausea and i start to get sweaty it just sucks. i think i would get looked at funny if people found out i was going to therapy.. making things worst!... i would be the only one that has ever gone to therapy in my town... i even bought this pricey guitar to sort of come out of my shell and play it in front of people when i was ready, but when the time came, it only got me more nervous. now i just wish to play beautiful sad piano, on my porch while it rains in solitude...
Excellent info and animations, as always!
I'm a regular at School of Life and by-and-large love the videos produced here, (get ready for it . . .) BUT I don't know why they are such staunch advocates of psychotherapy. I had the same issues with panic attacks, once it started, it would take a day for the anxiety to go away. I went to a therapist a couple of times. At the end of the sessions I realized that she needed a therapist more than I did. A couple years later, my panic attacks went away on their own, but I'm not sure why. I am sure there are success stories out there, but I've never personally met anybody who's said therapy has helped. From my experience, a couple of good friends will give much better advice than any therapist.
Wow! You're very lucky! Excuse me for commenting on an old comment, but I just want to put my two cents in. Anyway, from my recent experience, therapy can help a lot if you find the right therapist. I have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks for years and it worsened as I grew older. I spoke to 3 therapists. The first brushed off everything I told her and made it as if I was just overthinking and being sensitive. The second gave me advice that really did not help. Like taking 5 minutes to stretch every morning and writing out 10 things I like about myself. I recently started sessions with my third therapist 3 months ago, and she really helped me to understand why I behave the way I do and taking steps to change the behavior and lessen my panic attacks. It takes time, but I'm beginning to see and feel a change. I'm very thankful to have found her. And I've tried friends. They are great support, but mine are TERRIBLE for advice.
Aya Infinite Thanks for the response and story Aya. I've come to the conclusion that therapy works for some more than others. For me, I often have a distrust in authority, so if an authority figure (such as a therapist) tells me something, I take it with a dose of skepicism. However, others like and thrive a personal connection with a therapist. I hope your panic attacks are a thing of the past. All the best!