Getting Your Life Back After Narcissistic Abuse

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  • čas přidán 15. 12. 2023
  • Reclaiming one's life after narcissistic abuse is a courageous journey of self-discovery and healing. Breaking free from the emotional shackles of manipulation requires introspection and resilience. Initially, it involves acknowledging the impact of abuse and embracing the reality of the situation. Rebuilding self-esteem becomes a focal point, as individuals learn to trust their instincts and regain a sense of autonomy. Establishing healthy boundaries is pivotal, allowing for the cultivation of genuine connections. Seeking therapy and support networks aids in the healing process, fostering empowerment and resilience. Ultimately, the path to recovery involves rediscovering joy, embracing personal growth, and creating a life defined by authenticity and self-love.
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Komentáře • 26

  • @greghayes7933
    @greghayes7933 Před 7 měsíci +14

    20 plus years for me and stripped me of everything and threw me away …was 5-6 years ago and I’m still healing …this stuff is no joke

  • @gloriahornby2457
    @gloriahornby2457 Před 7 měsíci +18

    I am doing everything I can to move on without the narc. After 40 years together I know it's going to take time.

    • @QueenBbetterthanb4
      @QueenBbetterthanb4 Před 7 měsíci +5

      I did 28 yrs.....don't give up friend! We were who we were before them.....find that person again!🎉

    • @sleepydoppy8516
      @sleepydoppy8516 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Darn Gloria, and I thought 23 years was hard. I’m sorry.

    • @bryguy-2fly
      @bryguy-2fly Před 7 měsíci +2

      Gloria it’s not easy AT ALL. I got 17 years in and 2 kids. It’s easy to spiral in negativity. We worked ourselves into this and we have to work ourselves out. I count my blessings when I wake and I can get to like 20 before even brushing my teeth! We survived and are alive. You are winning! You are irreplaceable and divinely protected. That’s why they were removed. You belong to you now. Pour into yourself now and watch as abundance and love flows into you. Much love and peace! ❤️ ✌🏾

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 Před 7 měsíci +7

    My , by far, greatest challenge ever! Even though I still experience, the trauma and ramifications of years of abuse, there are moments, now, more consistent, where I feel alive and free without constant reminders of this horrible person who nearly ruined my life. 🌟

  • @One-Goth
    @One-Goth Před 7 měsíci +2

    I have started studying psychology. Best decision I have made. Studying takes my mind way from the ex and what he did. I now have a clean and tidy home and something to focus on. It takes time to heal. I journal daily, see a therapist once a week, I am dieting and have lost 10kg. I feel more confident. Don't give up 🎄

  • @anngardner5607
    @anngardner5607 Před 7 měsíci +6

    Didn't miss a day of work, but it was really difficult holding it together. It was a good distraction, so in a way it helped. Was glad of my days off to think, process and cry it out. It felt devastating at the time. Now I just feel like I've rid myself of yrs of hurt, head games and subtle devaluations. My stomach was in a constant knot and ached profusly for at least 3 months. Keeping busy and doing things I love helped to build myself back. These days I'm happy and peaceful. It all just takes time. Good luck all you got this xx

    • @QueenBbetterthanb4
      @QueenBbetterthanb4 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Love to hear how others get thru it and survive. I'm sure we all feel hopeless for a bit but it does get better and we realize it happened FOR us not TO us!

    • @djnquire
      @djnquire Před 28 dny

      Hopefully you're still doing well

  • @Theuntalentedmrpitman
    @Theuntalentedmrpitman Před 7 měsíci +4

    Was married to my narc 12 years. I took 2 months off work. I had to go back due to lack of human contact. I did take time to reflect etc.
    But I’m not gonna lie. I went on a journey to find my self etc.
    But I really rebuilt well. 4 months after I was discarded I was starting to get happy. But now I see to have fallen back into the black whole. I have bad trust issues now. I see the worst in everyone I know. N I’m tired.

  • @ericjackson-nq4hp
    @ericjackson-nq4hp Před 7 měsíci +5

    Don't drink in excess. My gawd. Mercy. That's my advice.
    You needn't even be an alcoholic for that drinking
    to become a depressant and being depressed sucks.

  • @irenenelson6994
    @irenenelson6994 Před 7 měsíci +7

    Great video. Please cut the background music behind your speaking sooner. It's so distracting, but I followed along using the video transcript to get the meaning of what you were saying while the music was still going.

    • @lindsay3793
      @lindsay3793 Před 7 měsíci +3

      I always have to skip to about three minutes in.

  • @jimbojones2457
    @jimbojones2457 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Reading some of the comments on here about how people lived with a narcissist for 40 years etc.....i can't imagine the trauma. I was with a covert narcissist for 1 month!! Then on and off for another 5 months. Before i saw right through her and called her out. Haven't heard from her in over 2 months now. I still feel so much pain. She did the hamburger with the lot. Love bombing, discard, more love bombing and another discard, gaslighting etc. I cannot imagine going through that for 40 years! I just hope that i can get through this soon. I had to take 3 days off work when she discarded me as i was in total shock. Nasty human beings they are. And sad and hollow on the inside. Thank you so much Anoushka for your awesome content, it really helps.

    • @ericjackson-nq4hp
      @ericjackson-nq4hp Před 7 měsíci

      nice rig, really nice.
      Hang in there yourself -
      bumpy af, don't tear through it.
      slow and steady. Anoushka is an
      excellent spotter and navigator.
      Stay safe.

    • @missunsinkable89
      @missunsinkable89 Před 7 měsíci +3

      I’ve been through similar. 3 months from intense love bombing to suddenly turning ice-cold. It was the craziest ride of my entire life. Cheating, lying... all in such a short time. It completely messed with my brain. The contact continued until it finally ended after 6 months (I went no contact). I have never felt so much pain in my life. In my case, I realised that it triggered very old trauma and that this was not the first abusive situation in my life. So I am trying to somehow protect myself better in the future, hoping that I will get through this first as well. Anoushka’s content has really been a light in the dark.

    • @QueenBbetterthanb4
      @QueenBbetterthanb4 Před 7 měsíci +2

      They really are just empty shells full of self loathing and insecurities. We are the stronger species, the survivors, and they knew it all along. Good luck to you. There is no time limit on the damage they do. 1 week to, well 28 yrs. Peace and Blessings

    • @jimbojones2457
      @jimbojones2457 Před 7 měsíci

      I totally understand what you're saying! It was the same for me. It's just not something you expect people to be capable of. Until you're in the line of fire. It's a hard road to healing from narcissistic abuse. I still think about her a lot. I need more time. I cannot see other women because i'm just not ready. I will you well in your healing journey. Be kind to yourself. And you will be just fine!@@missunsinkable89

    • @jimbojones2457
      @jimbojones2457 Před 7 měsíci

      that's exactly right. They are empty shells alright. Great description. Makes me sad really. But you can't change them. Take care of yourself and God bless.@@QueenBbetterthanb4

  • @704BDAMUSIC
    @704BDAMUSIC Před 7 měsíci

    This is so true ‼️

  • @michaelvarcoe8310
    @michaelvarcoe8310 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Hey....she asked me to have 5 days by herself for her head to have her self in her marriage. She booked a cruise for herself. But it was with and boyfriend. I was ordering her champagne and chocolates to support her. Then I found out she was with the boyfriend. I asked her, and she told me I was crazy and psycho. I was nice and told her to atop lying. And she said we have 2 things divorce or counseling.

    • @TheVaultwest
      @TheVaultwest Před 7 měsíci +2

      We can’t comprehend doing to someone what they do to us. Sorry for what you’re going through.

  • @jamesmoeller3254
    @jamesmoeller3254 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you😊

  • @djnquire
    @djnquire Před 28 dny

    I've def noticed my patience is much less. I coach 12u baseball and i found it hard to enjoy games and practices like i had every time previously

  • @shazanalall4997
    @shazanalall4997 Před 7 měsíci

    I am going Tru this with a narcissistic for 15 years now have 4 kids for him but I don't know how to get out of this relationship please help me