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Hey, TikTok fam! Get ready to dive into the jaw-dropping world of wedding drama that's been brewing on the app! It's your girl, Charlotte Dobre, and I'm here to spill all the tea on the most scandalous moments that have taken the wedding TikTok community by storm. Buckle up, because this is going to be a wild ride!
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Brit here! For the Scottish one, that’s weird. If you’re invited to the ceremony, you’re part of the wedding breakfast. If you’re only evening, you’re given a time after the dinner is done for dancing and evening food. And inviting people overseas? You invite to the whole thing or not at all
Yeah I'm from the UK and find that weird. People are either invited to the whole thing or just the evening not the ceremony and reception but not the dinner! I'm thinking it's more likely that the security has either made a mistake or they were left off the list as an oversight, he should have checked with the bride/groom.
thank you Bowbooks5659 for clearing up the tradition thing... my jet lag would be creating an ugly scene...lol
It's definitely crazy to invite people to a destination wedding somewhere around the world, not be invited to the dinner i definitely don't understand that
@@acs6785nah. I’m betting it was deliberate.
Exactly - in the UK, you either get invited to the whole thing (ceremony, wedding meal and evening do) or just the evening do ( which will normally be dancing, drinks and buffet type food ) If you get invited to the ceremony, it means you are there for the meal as well. Never heard of being invited to the ceremony and not the meal.
Hi, former front desk clerk here, you can have one person call and put a block on a group of rooms, and then you have the bridal party call in separately to claim their room and to give their credit card info.
This is how we book rooms for bowling tournaments. 😊
That is good information!
This is how we booked for a gathering of Erasmus friends in Rome, what we did was to confirm we were going, one of us would book the whole thing by giving a big deposit for all of us and give our information; the one reserving would give us confirmation of the reservations and room numbers, and when we got there the receptionist would give us our room numbers and we'd pay the rest of our respective reservation and give the responsible person their money back too.
Yup working as a receptionist at a party hotel, this is how we do it. We give a code for the booking and people claim their own rooms using that code
I will never understand the “pay to one person” situation
Right idk why they think you HAVE to have one person put their card down they each can do it and it’s more feasible that way. Then no fights about money or things being in good condition or whatever! Also I’ve seen my friends fight about towels and if they charge you for them and the girl was just being bossy bc we used her card. Like they don’t give a shit about towels you can take one with you if you want they won’t care. Or charge you. Now a blow dryer…I’ve seen somebody take that and they did get charged lmao they had to pay $60 plus tax and the money they charge to put one in ..and the blow dryer cost like $12 lmfao so basically she payed extra fees and shit. Not worth it!! Use your own shit.
For my friend's bachelorette, we got a local Airbnb and had a sleepover. We had snacks, we played games, we watched rom-coms, we talked, we did face masks, and we did breakfast the next day, and it was SO much fun! It was so chill, so fun (and it was cheap!), and there was no drama! If I get married, I'm definitely doing something like that for my bachelorette party.
That was exactly what I did for mine. I'd never expect people to spend crazy money, take time off of work, etc. just for my own ego. Some of these "bachelorette parties" I hear about lately are insane exotic vacations with packed itineraries, expensive hotels and dinners, crazy gifts for the bride, it's ridiculous! I loved the idea of having a sleepover at a local Airbnb and I'm so glad I went that route. It was fun for everyone and low key, but it still was special. My maid of honor planned a really nice dinner at a beautiful restaurant as a surprise which was super nice, but honestly, what I remember the most was chilling at the Airbnb dying laughing while we binge watched season 1 of Jersey Shore and then going on a midnight Wendy's run 😂. There was no stress, no itinerary, no rushing around or drama, just having fun with the girls at our own pace. It was awesome.
That’s a great idea. I think what would’ve made it even cooler was getting someone to come give you guys personal massages or something. But that actually sounds really cool and fun.
I went out for ice cream with my sisters, mom, and my now-sister-in-law, who brought her baby 😂 good times
@@LORITOTH29 That would've be amazing!
Yeah when I was getting married, we all just went to our friend who had a house's place and had a small party with drinks and a few games and just generally hanging out for the night. It was fun.
Man that wedding photographer seems gutsy. The nerve of making a video solely to make fun of potential clients who sent her their 'measly' 2K budget. That's not the flex she thought that was. It makes her look snooty, not even taking into account the mediocre photography.
Bachelorette trips are nuts. Forever it was just a fun night out with your girls. Then social media normalized spending thousands of dollars and numerous vacation days to go on a ridiculous trip. I’ve never heard a story of girls having fun on one of these things. Just horror stories.
Way back in the ‘90s when I got married I just had a night out with friends. I wasn’t even planning on having a bachelorette do, but a friend asked if she could put something together. We had a low key night with dinner, went to play some pool and have some drinks and it was really fun! We ran into some other people we knew and the party grew. My designated driver got too drunk to drive me home (!) so one of the guys who had joined us (turned out to be a coworker of one of the ladies) drove us home. Drunk friend and new designated driver ended up getting married a few years later.
My daughter did a low key in-state bachelorette that included visiting a winery and a pizzeria. It didn’t cost a mint and all the girls had a great time.
@@jaybee2337wow your story is so cute happy ending for all.
@@jaybee2337 Back in the 80s/90s it was traditional for the best man and maid-of-honour to plan those events. It was seen as kind of tacky if the groom or bride inserted themselves into the event planning. Maybe a suggestion here or there was fine but they were expected to just show up on the designated day and have fun. I'm glad yours worked out well.
Let me tell you of my sisters "bachelorette" (we don't really do them where I live).
We went to a restaurant that's 1-2 minutes away from me.
We had a nice time, ate and had some drinks (I think nobody had more than 2 for alcoholic ones). Then we all left, looking forward to the wedding the next day.
Nice, simple, and happy, as it should be
In UK it's pretty common to have separate lists of day and evening guests. Evening guests are only invited for the reception party after the meal - you wouldn't be invited to the ceremony. If you're invited to the ceremony you are a day guest and you're invited to the whole thing. Guests travelling to a wedding, especially from another country, would absolutely be invited for the whole thing.
My husband and I always hated this idea so all our guests were invited for everything, but we had a fairly intimate wedding.
That is a very dtrange practice. You guys suck.
Yeah thats weird and the uk sucks
Regardless of how common it is, it’s beyond tacky and rude. Invite people to everything or not at all, end of story.
And...the wedding couple still expect gifts, I suppose? It better be an open bar, because I'm driiiiiinkiiiiiiing 😂
Yes, I feel the same about guests traveling to a wedding from another country. Absolutely should be invited for the whole thing. Spend 9 hours to fly there and only for the evening ceremony and not have dinner? I would be appalled - and mad.
I got married at a BBQ and most people had no clue that we were getting married. We just asked them to bring a dish to pass. It all cost around $100 and everyone had a blast! My husband's uncles kept coming up and telling us how jealous they were lol
That $8500 wedding photographer has NO eye for photography 😂
I can take better photos with my phone.
Hell, my younger sister took some photos of a cousin's wedding, and they looked better than those. And she was 15 at the time.
Those pictures were SOOOO AVERAGE! And some were even bad! That blurry jewelry photo 😖 NOT IT!
Brit here, I was asked to sing at the ceremony. Then told, not invited to the wedding breakfast but could travel back for the evening reception. I’m no monster so I sang for the ceremony but went about my day afterwards and never spoke to them again. I also found out they had made some derogatory and patronising comments about my disabled brother and sister in law which was a huge NO! Couldn’t help but smile when I heard they got divorced 😂
You dodged their drama bullets👍 yes, at weddings, there’s much to indicate the durability and (often relatively short) marriage duration for tacky, rude couples.
A similar thing to the Scottish wedding happened to some of my dearest friends, they attended the ceremony, and then about 80% of the guests discovered that they weren’t invited to the lunch. It was a very snowy day and almost everything was closed, so they and another couple ended up sitting shivering in their car for four hours, eating sandwiches and drinking terrible coffee they bought from a garage. The friendship never recovered from this.
@@26Sundropsas a uk resident I’ve never known someone to go to the ceremony and not the dinner. It’s bizarre and it would need to be fully communicated in the invite as that is not normal.
@@26SundropsIs this something new, or was it always like this? I was at a wedding in the UK and it was not like this, people even gave money for the food, so as long as people confirmed their presence and they had the invitation, they participated at the entire wedding. Each paying their food.
This is not a British thing at all. You either get a wedding invitation for all of it, or an evening reception invitation. ... never a ceremony and evening only invitation .... its not a thing 🤷♀️
came here to say exactly this. @@susiebell6716
I’m from Croatia, and here you have a wedding lunch BEFORE the ceremony. Usually it’s just close friends and family invited to that. After that is the ceremony and dinner/reception. If you’re invited to the wedding, you’re invited to the dinner. There’s obviously also food at the reception.
It’s so weird hearing this story in the video and reading some comments here. I can’t imagine this happening, people would shame you SO HARD if you attempted that here.
Hi there, ex hotel front desk receptionist here. Every wedding, sports team, just excess of 5 rooms really, we would give them a special rate. Those part of the group would call us at the front desk, and we'd book them a room. Typically, we had a set block of rooms for the group, too. So everyone could be near each other
We travelled thousands of miles attend a wedding , it was a child free wedding, but an exception was made for us, we weren’t local and didn’t have anyone to leave our kids with back home.
Our attendance was acknowledged and appreciated.
They even had a little kids menu for them.
The only people I have ever heard who were invited to a wedding ceremony but not to the reception was when my fifth grade teacher got married. She invited all her students to the church ceremony only. We, her students, were delighted.
That seems totally valid.
That’s so sweet to invite her students
And she informed everybody beforehand. :-)
💯
It is normal to have two sets of guests in many places.
In Switzerland you have ceremony/cocktail hour guests (work friends, people you know from clubs and sometimes distant relatives) and you have dinner/party guests that are invited for everything.
But people that aren‘t invited to dinner aren‘t invited to dance and party after either.
India is known for the “big fat weddings”. BUT there’s an unspoken rule. If you can’t afford to feed all your vendors and any surprise guests (guests bring their own guests without prior permission) you need to dial your wedding down a notch!
My sister’s wedding was at a luxury hotel and we had 40-50 extra plates even after accounting for all the extra guests, vendors and staff. Everyone was well fed because that is BASIC ETIQUETTE.
I can’t imagine flying someone out to a new place and not giving them food. Wedding guest “tiers” are INSANE.
Yes here in Pakistan ,when counting for guests we add extra 50 or whatever in case of surprise guests and even they are welcomed warmly and we dont let them feel they are uninvited ... if someone is flying across the country ,regardless of how close they are there is a special protocol , I beleive Pakistani and Indian weddings are all about hosting a great party for guests not like having to create a show where bride and groom can be star for a day and everyone is a supporting character or spectator
Exactly👍 and is there any better weddings than Indian weddings?😊👏💗
I always plan to eat before or after weddings because I've been to several where there was no food or only like a few appetizers.
@@ASnarkyCatLady All Indian weddings have a buffet with several appetisers, drinks, main courses & desserts. It may be super extravagant or very simple but there is always a spread of unlimited food for the guests & vendors.
It's nice you feed the vendors, too. I live that . We should learn from Indian style.
The person talking about "that's how we do it in Europe, small family dinner" is ignoring entirely the fact that they had this person travel internationally. Not inviting them to the dinner is all the reason I need to blow the friendship such as it is sky-high.
In Austria (countryside) it is also common to have separate wedding parties:
- ceremony in church: the whole village can come
- dinner: intimate family & friends
- party: more friends
Of course you can change it up, but this is a traditional way.
Romanian here and former wedding photographer who has attended a hell lot of weddings - there's no such thing as "I'll invite you to my ceremony but not to the party" 😅 If anything, it's common to invite close family to the ceremony and EVERYONE else to the party
That was my experience when I went to an in-laws wedding in Romania as well. Especially since there were so many courses.
@peachkitten40 omg yes, you have 3 courses + desert which is the cake 😅
In Denmark it's actually common to invite more people for the ceremony/church, and then cut down for the party. That way you don't have to pay for 100s of people if you don't have the budget, but they can still celebrate you 😊
@@glitterypieceofmindsame in Germany (at least from my experience). And somehow the ceremony has a higher priority, too. I would find it very weird going to a wedding celebration if I didn’t attend the actual ceremony before that
Polish here. Yes you do sometimes invite ppl only to church, and the wedding partry is smaller. Church guests do not bring gifts.
I live in England, UK. If you invite guests internationally , you invite them to everything. You also double check that they have accommodation and transport for each part of the wedding event.
I have never heard of being invited to ceremony& dance but not food in between.
More common is to invite family & friends to the ceremony and reception. And if finances are limited, invite acquainted to the evening dance, drinks & snacks.
I'm English but married in Ireland and loads of our guests and family were international - coming from the US, Jamaica, Barbados as well as the UK. All were sorted out with accommodation, flights and were invited to EVERYTHING. Well - this was an Irish/Barbadian wedding. Of course we covered the costs - We'd be cussed forever otherwise!!🤣🤣🤣
Weird one that wasn’t it 😮 you’re either at the ceremony, dinner and evening or just the evening after everything else 🤔 strange! I’d have left too!
Well, of course. We do that here in the States, too. If you have someone who loves you enough to travel from another country, of course, they are going to be invited to the whole thing. Just common sense and courtesy. Someone suggested the security guard may have made a mistake. I would have wanted to verify everything before I left.
Agreed. Especially like writing it in small font somewhere at the bottom, like excuse you??
Absolutely. Never heard of guests to ceremony and not for the full thing. Although certainly some to just evening reception. If invited to destination wedding...its the whole thing. If you can't afford it ,don't bloody do it. So rude to exclude.!!
In France, for a church wedding, everyone is invited. There is a mini-reception for everyone who comes to the ceremony. Then, about 3 hours later, the people invited to the sit-down dinner go to the venue (if it’s in a different place).
I did my Bach trip research by watching Charlotte and God am I glad I did! I had mine in January and I had a chill 2 days in a cabin in the snow. It was so nice, we played pool, darts, animal crossing, card games and just connected while making good food and drinks. And it was cheap bc my bridesmaid's husband owned the cabin. My husband went to Vegas and while he had fun it was way more stressful and expensive haha
As a teatotaler, who has spent a fair few nights’ ends herding my friends to safety and making sure we’re all together, I decided that I wanted a slumber party for my hen night. I think there were 9 of us, we stayed free of charge, in my sister’s in-laws holiday home. My sister made strawberry daiquiris, the others brought whatever drink they wanted, we watched films and sang karaoke, and just chilled and chatted. In pyjamas with no make up. I ate so much rubbish I had heartburn for a week, but it was lovely.
That sounds like fun.
Yeah. I think I would want either that or a spa day with massages. Just a nice, relaxing day with lots of chatter and fun.
Sounds perfect!
I would love that!
Perfect 😊❤
The “no dinner” thing-
So in my catholic family wedding traditions and whatnot, my mom taught me that when you get married at a church, you get married there and have a reception later. You send invites to people who are invited to your reception. They would publish the marriage announcement in the paper. Anyone who wanted to attend to support you could go to the church (second cousins, past friends, your elementary school teacher, whoever), but the reception was for guests.
This is SO DIFFERENT. Because in that scenario people choose to attend the wedding ceremony of their own volition and know they are not invited to anything else!!
On top of that, to say you can COME BACK and dance no food for you is just a huge slap in the face!
Exactly. When my friend from uni was getting married in Wałbrzych (about six hours ride)she also paid for bed a d breakfast for us. For two days, she had two days wedding. Of course it's good to consider the cost in the gift if you can afford (usually money since you can buy whatever you want and it's a pity to stay with three tosters)
And this is why I love the traditional Catholic vibe. Get married in a church and have a reception in a loved ones backyard!
That's not just for Catholics. That's how weddings have been done in Britain. Now you don't have to be married in a church, the evening reception still applies
When planning my own wedding I called several florists for quotes on corsages. Received a steep price. So the next day I called them all back asking for quotes on the exact same corsages but for a family reunion. The price dropped by 50 percent! Lesson learned, I didn't use the word "wedding" for anything else I needed for my wedding.
Me and my old man got married at a registrar office ( UK) then we had our reception at home.I cooked all the food the night before and decorated the flat while 8 months pregnant .the old man would come home from night security and helped the best he could before he went round he's brother's house and got ready for the wedding.20 years we have been together with a daughter and I haven't divorced him yet 😂
As a former wedding planner, that is obscene that they tried to charge the bride, one to find the vendor (that’s a huge chunk of their job as a wedding planner!), two to charge 20% when the bride is already paying $10K!!!! WTAF 🤯
Stylist here! I am a hairstylist and licensed makeup artist and I refuse to work with planners now because of this -
Most of my brides are actually the ones who told their wedding planner that they wanted my services and then the planners reached out and stated they wanted me for the wedding and that there would be a finders fee for giving me business when it was the BRIDE who requested me to begin with. So shady.
I went to wedding in Scotland and I didn’t even know the bride and groom! I just went to support my friend who didn’t want to go alone and knew how much I love Scotland. The wedding was fire!!! The bride, beautiful, gracious and kind. Best wedding I have EVER been to! So this blows my mind!
And wasn't it kinda awkward because you didn't know the bride and the groom?
I love when hearing your opinions when photographers are talked about in these videos!!! I always feel you are very fair in your assessment of anything you react to, but extra thanks coming from a photographer here - Adding to what you said - A lot of other factors play into a photographer's fee too. I think it's fair to say no photographer starts out charging that much - She likely has been raising her prices as her business grows. If she can say her starting price is 8000 - good for her! That probably means she's had enough business that she has been able to raise her prices as her business has progressed.
Look at Ben Hartley who charges 10,000+ He even has blurry photos! His aesthetic is all about capturing the moment - which includes movement, weird DJ lighting, photographing the couple from far away to capture drama/space of the venue, authentic and unposed facial expressions, etc. Perfectly posed Instagram photos are not everyone's jam - constantly pulling people away from the moment they are in to set up a perfect picture is also not the jam for a lot of photographers. Its also pretty unrealistic to expect your entire album to only have your idea of "perfect" images. A wedding photography is capturing an EVENT which is very different from a posed portrait session.
I commend this $8000+ photographer for showing the less "wowing" photos because that is more realistic. Its just impossible to base the photographers worth off of the 4/5 not-as-great pictures she shared.
A group of high school classmates and I were invited to the ceremony only for our former HS theater teacher. He made it clear that they loved us, wanted us to be part of the ceremony but could only afford reception dinner costs for family. It was a local wedding so it's not like any of us had major travel and I don't even think we were expected to give a gift because this was when we were still kids in college - honestly don't remember if I gave a gift of any kind. But it was a wonderful ceremony.
But going all the way to Scotland and then not being invited to the whole thing, that is F-ed up!
Albertan here. When I was in grade 2, my teacher got married and she invited her students to the church to watch her get married. She couldn't afford to have us come to the reception but, that was made very clear to us. So there are times that people can be invited to the ceremony and not the dinner but that fact should be made clear and an explanation must be given. What they did to those women was vile.
I couldn't invite many to my middle of the week wedding. We wanted a certain date. But we had everyone come to the potat luck reception 2 weeks later
My parents provided the meats and my aunts and uncles brought side dishes.
I made many dishes myself.
But we had our little honeymoon and we got to stay arlt the reception all night. We had a ball.
Best party ever. Lol.
My daughter also got married in Las Vegas and it was a group of 10 of us.
Then a week later we had her reception at the local church who had an event hall with commercial kitchen. I rented for 2 days and made all the food. We had home made lasagna-mac and cheese-salad bar and garlic bread. And dessert s and the cake.
It was really nice not worrying about having a wedding and also coordinating the cooking
Same, when I was in sixth grade, our teacher did invite his students to the wedding. We told beforehand that we would not be attending the reception. Everything should be made clear in the beginning, so that no one gets surprised. I really feel for that bride that got scammed out, and the two girls who didn't get invited to the dinner
I think that’s a bit different one because you were kids and secondly you’re told in the beginning.
NOPE... Kindly see my comments above. 😅
My teacher also did this!
In the UK the dinner is only for close family and friends, I went to my best friend’s wedding breakfast because I had no plus 1 and they had one space and he wanted me there. It’s very common that only family and close friends are there for the breakfast/brunch/dinner. Also we don’t pay the bride and groom for our plates. It’s customary to bring a money gift or registry gift though.
For Catholic weddings, anyone who wants to attend is invited to the ceremony/wedding Mass (technically, it's open to the public since weddings are considered to be a celebration meant to be shared in the community.)
So, those who receive a card stock invitation are those invited to both the wedding Mass and dinner reception. Invites for the wedding Mass only are usually made via Facebook, text, email, or electronic invitation.
Our two friends in the UK had their local hendo and bucks nights on canal boats in the Norfolk Broads. All day was spent on the boats (one for groom, one for bride) and visiting different pubs and then we all met at the final pub and stayed the night. Honestly the best!
I'd love that!
This couple sounds absolutely lovely.
Sounds fun!
Sounds delightful
Maman Charlotte je suis très malade je dois subir une opération chirurgicale bientôt pour mon cœur une opération à cœur ouvert mais j'ai très peur 😢
I won't say no to a whole video of bachelorette party planning 101 with Charlotte Dobre.
We need this
Lol. I was thinking the same thing! @charottedobre we need this! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
She could write a book at this point if she wanted
Yes PLEASE
I would seriously love this XD ❤
European here (German-Polish) : I feel like it depends a lot on your culture and how your wedding is organized: Traditionally there is the official part at the city hall, then the part at church, then a party. Often times couples might split up the whole thing into several dates. I did witness weddings where different guests showed up to different parts of the wedding: the official part at city hall sometimes is family and closest friends only. At church, everyone from the community is welcome to attend without any extra invitation. The party though will be for invited guests only. Usually dinner and dancing is at the same location, I didn't experience anything else tbh...
At the end of the day it is very much depending on your culture. My ex husband is Kurdish-Arabic and we ended up having guests we didn't know before which were accompanied by our invited guests. I was about to have an anxiety attack because I was afraid food and seating wouldnt be enough, but it actually was a really good party and we had lots of fun the day.
England here. All weddings I’ve been to have been more open invite for the church, then a smaller intimate selection for the dinner with speeches, then you have the evening guests who have food and drinks for the party bit. So we had about 80 for sit down meal after the church and then around 200+ that came in the evening and have buffet style food, drinks and dancing. Sometimes people come to the church then the evening do, usually the ones who go to the church go all day. That’s always been how weddings we attend go. Smaller closer circle sit down, then far more in the evening.
However, this was a destination wedding so all bets off, you invite someone to travel they’re there all day!!
Married twice... neither one had a bachelor or Bachelorette party. First husband did not want one and my second husband said it was a waste of time and money. I never wanted one as I never saw the point.
Totally get your vibe. It just seems like a mess waiting to happen. I don't like gatherings or parties or drinking so I would be miserable. I'd maybe spend time with my best friend or husband instead
Yeah, same with me.
I prefer how things were "back in the day". Someone threw a shower for the bride at a fire hall or church hall. The bride received pretty much everything she needed for her new life. The bachelor didn't get anything. LOL! The church weddings were usually in the morning. The wedding vehicles were covered with tissue paper carnations. The reception wasn't until dinner. In between, guests could rest, go out to lunch, or visit with friends. The bridal party took their pictures in a park or whatever. They could then relax until the reception. The bride and groom entered the reception in grand style. The reception was a big deal with a nice meal, wedding cake, a local band, dancing, drinks, and maybe some little favors for your guests. After dinner, the bride and groom cut the cake and then left the reception to go on their honeymoon. In the meantime, their car had been decorated with old shoes, tin cans, and a "Just Married" sign in the rear window. The guests partied along with the family until the bar closed down. LOL! Oh, the memories.
Never been married but totally agree!
Why isn't this just a regular night out? Why does it have to include so much unnecessary stuff?
I used to be a silversmith, it took me days to create one piece of jewelry & people only wanted to pay $25-$50 for a unique ring, or come to me with a whole design and not want to pay the 50% down payment so I could buy the special materials needed. They said they’d only pay for it if they liked it, even though I’d take pictures along the way to ensure things were going the way they wanted. On the other side, if you’re going to charge a high price, the reputation/work has to match, but the expectation has to be realistic on both sides.
I'm trained as a photographer, jewelry artist, and lapidary (stone cutter). The rise of cheap, and ultimately disposable as it breaks, jewelry from overseas where the pieces are made from base metals and plated, or are priced by only material cost, are ruining the careers of true jewelry artists; silversmiths, goldsmiths, stone cutters, etc. Don't even get me started on craft fair assemblage "jewelry" and their price on a whim model.
High resolution phone cameras are ruining photography in the same way. Anyone can snap a photo, but an artist has the eye to make it great.
WE ARE ARTISTS! Also, working in the field or not, you never stop being a silversmith or an artist. 😉
Not everyone is an artist, and that's okay! I'm garbage at math and that's okay too, but I don't sell myself as a financial planner, accountant, or tax preparer. Calculators are in our pockets, but a calculator does not a mathematician make. People have forgotten that artists design and hand make art. We need to calculate so much into our prices! It's not just the cost of materials and time, but wear and tear on machinery, shipping on materials, disposables like flux, pickle, buffing compound, torch fuels, etc. We can't price the same as a huge company that casts a hundred pieces in a batch and then machine finishes multiple batches together. By the piece of course theirs is cheaper, but our handmade pieces have skill, care, and quality that theirs don't. Plus, if a piece made by an artist breaks (not through carelessness of the owner), then most of us will repair it for free, or at least at a discount. If it's a material failure then yeah, I'm going to feel responsible. Now, if the owner goes against care instructions and dunks their pearls, fluorite, or other soft cab in cheap, harsh ammonia based jewelry cleaner and ruins it? Yeah, I'm not paying for that. That's your fault. 😂 I'd give them a discount on a replacement stone of their choice though.
I understand wanting something cheap and fast for what I'll politely call fashion or costume jewelry, but that's not what artists make. Also, people seem to think that our time isn't even worth minimum wage much less the cost of skill you obtained from schooling/education, years of practice, or from being an artist and designer. I've heard of people wanting to pay $5-$10/hr! You wouldn't even pay a babysitter that little!
I do like that one made-up story I've seen across the internet where a customer comes to a jewelery artist and says they want a certain piece, but says it's too expensive and they found materials for X price and that's what they want. They leave and the materials and tools are purchased and boxed up. When the customer returns, the artist hands them the box and says, "Here it is!" The customer opens it to see only materials and gets angry because it's not a finished piece like they wanted. The artist says, "I'm just giving you what you paid for. You didn't want to pay me for my time and skill, so make it yourself." (I'm paraphrasing obv)
It's like getting your car fixed. The parts are for the most part inexpensive, but the labor isn't. My old truck needs a new fuel filler hose which is a hard shaped rubber tube that connects to the gas tank for filling, as the name implies. It's $40-$50 for the part, and I can buy one online myself, but to access the system you either have to drop/remove the fuel tank, or unbolt and lift the bed. It's hard work! I'm a real hands-on diy person, but it's a 30 yr old truck that has sat with wet leaves and water in the bed for multiple years and the bolts are rusted in place. I can't remove those rusted on bolts myself as I'm disabled w/ chronic pain. So yeah, I'm going to find a small mechanic, not a big corporation, and I'm going to pay for it. I'll pay AAA to tow it there, but more of the money goes back to the mechanic of a small shop if they repair it.
There was zero skill or eye to those photos and that one of the rings was motion blur from a shaky hand, not intentionally out of focus or gaussean blur added later in editing. There are so many different ways things could have been staged, lit, or shot that would've improved those shots immensely, and they're simple things!
They wanted to pay you $50???? God people are such cheap asses
For the Scottish ceremony that to me actually wasn't really weird.....where i grew up almost everyone is invited to the church ceremony but for the reception/dinner only a selected few are chosen. And yes it is normally specified on the invitation. However, that whole part of flying overseas is honestly just crazy.
I hope the bride and groom aren't expecting gifts from the guests who are invited to just the ceremony.
As some who is Scottish and is currently planning a wedding… I can confirm this isn’t normal.
There are guests that are invited to the reception only but if you are invited to the ceremony then of course we’re gonna feed you.
All the weddings I’ve been to here follow the same pattern:
Typically a small ceremony (dependant on the bride and grooms preference) with close friends and family followed by photos etc.
Then a dinner for all the ceremony guests.
Only then does the reception start and the extended family, friends etc. attend for drinks, dancing & a buffet.
I’ve never heard of someone being invited to the ceremony and reception but not the dinner.
If the bride is Scottish…. We do not claim her 😂
I thought they were only invited to the reception, not ceremony or dinner. Eather way it’s rude to ask someone to fly out and not feed them or invite them to the ceremony. I understand cost limitations but if you aren’t financially ready for a wedding you shouldn’t be getting married yet. 🤷♀️ just my thoughts as a Brit
I never knew that. Thanks for the heads up if I’m ever invited to a Scottish wedding.
My first wedding I remember watching the video back and seeing a whole group of coworkers at my ceremony who were evening guests. Found it hilarious and sweet they wanted to see me get married knowing it was an evening invite
Also: Belgian here and yes, the separate guest thing is very much a thing in Europe.
It's actually quite common to invite e.g. colleagues, professional contacts, clients, etc to the ceremony and the reception and then there is a break, during which the non-intimate circle guests leave (usually this is when the photoshoots are scheduled and the bridal party gets time to change if they wish to) and then about 2 to 3 hours later the dinner + party event happens with the intimate circle guests. This is really common practice in the middle to northern European region. The South is different, because they have traditionally a more family-oriented mentality which is why a wedding there is a much bigger deal than it is in the rest of Europe.
It's also not customary in many parts of Europe to 'pay for your plate'. There is no such thing (as you seem to have on the American continent) as an obligation to give.
Guests to the reception usually don't give big gifts or money gifts. They will give a card or a small token gift but definitely not a big gift. This is considered perfectly ok as is them not being invited to the inner-circle dinner and party element of the wedding. It is usually made clear but not always, as it is quite often considered common knowledge (and quite frankly sense) and people generally know what their personal relationship is to the bride/groom.
However... all of this is nul and void for guests making the effort to travel long distance. In those circumstances, good host practice dictates that you take care of your guest. That's just basic manners and has nothing to do with wedding traditions.
Are you flemish? Cause the things you mention doesn’t concern the whole belgian population
As a German living in Flanders and planning a wedding, this exactly! I was actually surprised about both inviting people to only a part of the event, and the concept of inviting colleagues, clients etc. But I can understand it based on tradition where weddings were also big community events, a place to meet people (a lot of matchmaking happening at weddings) and generally also involved both families at large. The equivalent of inviting all other farmers in the village is inviting colleagues and clients.
Wait, you do that in Western Europe? This is so wild to me. Here in Poland, you can invite people from work, usually 2-3 people, but they stay for the entire thing. Actually, if you're invited, you're part of all celebrations, no exceptions. Only the second day of partying can be a small circle thing. Also, I'd say "paying for your plate" exists but it's not an obligation. If you're invited but not super close to the couple, you take into consideration how much "your plate" costs out of courtesy, when thinking about the gift for the couple.
@@memecha No I m belgian living in Brussels and the only times I saw a wedding divided in two groups happened in the flemish regions of the country. I wasn't asked to pay for my food though.
I don't believe this type of wedding organisation happens in France, Spain or other latin Western Europe countries.
I am Dutch (from Amsterdam) and I heard of people doing this here aswell. And found it super odd. So I do think it might have Western European roots... reading the comments. But I think most people don't do it
In France sometime there is a "vin d'honneur" in between the ceremony and the dinner/party. It's a buffet for every gest of the ceremony (~1/2 hours) and then there is the dinner/party. It allows the bride and groom to invite people that aren't that close (neighbours, parent's friends...) to eat something and thank them for coming without them being at the party. However the invitation says it clearly! And guests that come from very far are usually invite to the all thing
I’m so glad my good friend organised the stag trip we were going on and even though you say it’s best to book own room, my friend booked everything and we paid her. She however is very responsible and an accountant but I would be highly anxious if I’d saw your video before the trip xx
Just came back from a bachelorette party in Barcelona. One girl booked the airbnb and sent us the proof of payment, another took care of the bride's flight for which we all later shared the costs. The rest was paid individually and we had a great time. We took turns picking up the tab at cafes and restaurants and split the costs later through an app. Very civilised and fun
Italian here: yes some guests are invited only to the ceremony, they receive a “partecipazione” which is NOT an Invite but a “participating” invite of sorts. Real guests receive a proper invite that includes the lunch/dinner. However, if someone is travelling to reach the wedding, they are OF COURSE invited to the full wedding (food included). Partecipazione is, for example, for very distant relatives that one never meets and these people are not really requested to come, nor to bring any gifts (and one wouldn’t feel bad if they didn’t come to the ceremony).
It's the same in Poland
I always thought that in a pre smartphones and socials era the “partecipazione” was a way of letting know people not so close to you - like distant relatives - that you were getting married and that they can come to see the bride and groom, if they liked so, and on the letter there is the location of the church and the date, while on the “invito” there is the location and the hour of the banquet after the ceremony
Wow... this video brings back some memories of my own wedding back in '09. We had a much lighter version of the MOH issues you brought up (no big bachelorette trips... just personal issues seeming to get in the way of taking care of Team Bride responsibilities). On a positive note, our photographer story is the exact opposite of the one you showed. He was AWESOME, reasonably priced, and got tons of great engagement and wedding material. My wife even allowed me to use the engagement session to get some publicity photos done (I'm a pro orchestra musician), one of which is my avatar pic here on YT! (FYI to any P'Colians who need a great photographer, his name is Don Duke) Fun fact: Our wedding festivities were among the last (and possibly the very last) ones held at the (at the time) uber-famous local color restaurant we chose. Perfect sunny day for the occasion and everyone had lots of fun! Anyway, thanks for inadvertently taking me down my own memory lane! :)
Dutchy here, I've stereotypically enough heard of some form of the no dinner invite. Broke couple and the groom from a LARGE family. So they arranged with a restaurant and paid for the wedding party dinner only, but invited everyone who attended to join them at the restaurant while paying their own way. The restaurant allowed early booking for the people attending the wedding to accomodate.
Currently my photographer has a starting package price of just under $2k, and when we booked 7 1/2 years ago I think she had just raised her prices to like $1.5k, but because we had just done our engagement shoot with her she honored her old price (without us asking, just as a kind gesture) of $1.3k and she is PHENOMENAL, we love her and will absolutely use her when we have kids for family pics also.
FYI - I am not engaged yet but my boyfriend and I talk about getting married.
I talked about bachelorette party/trip with my friends.
I told them I don't want a party/ night out.
When it is time I want a night or a weekend at the wellness/spa/ indoor waterpark resort which is only a 20 min drive from where I live. In the Wellness part of it, it has pools with bars so you can drink cocktails and other drinks while in the water.
Nothing better than relaxing and drinking cocktails with your girls.
That's how it should be. POOL BAR!!!!
Me Bachelorette "party" was just me and my best friend, also my maid of honor. We walked around downtown. I was showing her things bc she'd never been to my town before. We stopped by a couple of bars and shops, and then she stayed the night at my house. It was the best time and I wouldn't change it for anything!
In the UK weddings are often done this way... Ceremony and a sit down dinner for MoH, bridesmaids, groomsmen, family and a number close friends. Then in the evening there's party (larger group which might include work colleagues etc) with buffet later.
There's a big protest in Mexico going on against tourists and Airbnb cause the cost of living is getting to high for locals who actually live there, there are some beautiful places and people used to be really kind and accommodating but that has made rent and food incredibly expensive in local currency so, I wouldn't advice to go there, first, cause they're right and they deserve to afford living in their own communities and secondly cause most people won't take your presence there kindly. If you choose a destination wedding, bachelorette or even just vacations, really, choose something closer home and save yourself a bad experience.
The sewage runoff is ruining the environment too!
I can’t even imagine. I live in fairly touristy area, and we’re having similar problems. By we, I mean me, because I’m poor 😂 In a really tourism heavy area, it’s got to be terrible.
It's the same story that happened to Hawaii, sadly.
This whole influencer and consumerist culture is ruining countless lives just for a moment of pleasure for us.
I live in British Columbia, and we’ve had a similar issue here. We have a new law limiting short term rentals. Hopefully it will work.
I have taken to using AirBnB ONLY for resorts where people own their unit but no one lives there full time. Short term rentals are what these places were created to be. I tend to travel south for a couple of months in the winter so I like having a kitchen and the extra space but I can’t support the overall housing increases due to the short term housing market.
When my cousin got married they had invited everyone to the ceremony and reception. However, they made it very clear that the reception was just cake and drinks and was about 2-3 hours after the ceremony. The time in-between was for pictures and to have a late lunch/early dinner with JUST family and bridal party. But they had made this clear in both the invitations and made an announcement after the ceremony about when/where the reception was.
charlotte, the red in your hair is really popping in this video!!! i am obsessed!!!
My first bachelorette party was awesome. We rented a room right on 6th Street in Austin TX, since it's a great place to start your night out partying, and since we lived there. We had all been friends since grade school and had all gone to the mall to buy sexy, going- out in clothes. We played scavenger hunts and goofy games at different bars, and acted like goofy kids, running around, talking to complete strangers, asking for the ultimate prize, a pair of boxers!
I had a super low key, fresh out of undergrad wedding. So instead of a bachelorette party we had the night before the (destination-ish) wedding having sips of champagne, watching Bridesmaids, braiding each others hair and painting toenails. It felt like all the girls slumber parties of my youth and it was awesome. No drama, no money issues, just girl time and friend support. I was even carted off to bed super early for “beauty sleep”
Basically this is so similar to the bachelorette events I have been to the past couple years. All family weddings too so extra fun. We did outings to do shopping and lunch etc. with a wind down of a spa day. For mine we went pottery painting (I’m artsy so right up my alley), shopping, and a tea party at this lovely local tea shop and at the end a little party at home. Very calm very nice very fun. 😊😄
I think it's pretty common in Scotland (or least where im from) that it's only family and friends for the dinner and it's all the guest and everyone else for the party....especially if it's on the invitation...but they did travel that far, they could have made an exception
Yes, evening invitations are for work colleagues, neighbours etc not people you’ve asked to come from another continent!
I've never heard of Scottish people inviting guests only to the wedding ceremony, and not the main reception.
I think it's weird to be invited to the ceremony but not the dinner.
I understand the night time only guests
@@Ater_Draco Ancient 🏴 person here. I concur. I have never heard of this.
might of been an american version of a scots wedding, but long distance guests are usually invited for the whole thing, evening invites are for cousins distant family and workmates. occasionally evening guests will come see them getting married, as people know that not all can be invited BUT its very clear on the invite if tis for the whole thing or evening only
All of this makes me happy I declined to have a bachelorette trip, and we had a low-key event. And I also opted to attend only 1 bachelorette trip I was invited to which was 1 hour away from where I lived at an indoor water park. We ordered pizza, had some drinks and shared 1 room.
I’ve heard of family only dinners the night before the wedding and then food at the wedding the next day. The family dinner will only be advertised to those invited (usually parents/siblings, maid of honor, best man) and is for a private time-together experience before the wedding, but I’ve never been to a destination wedding that was out of state, let alone abroad, so idk about the one in Scotland
I feel Charlotte is like a wedding planner at this point. At least she knows everything that you should not do at a wedding😂❤
Congrats to Vanessa too, she has the same fabulous sense of humor than Charlotte. I Love this Channel so much.
And before for that matter.
@@jbzhummerh2gamer yes, true.
Wasn’t she a wedding planner at some point? Just a photographer? I’ll see myself out… 🍃
@@lashadi1445 i think she was a photographer.
@@lashadi1445just?!!
Canadian here, who has lived in multiple countries (currently south Korea) and attended weddings all over the world.
It isn't abnormal to invite people to different parts of the wedding day to save costs (ie, ceremony plus dance vs ceremony plus dinner/dance), however it is always made very clear which parts you're invited to, and typically if a person is from out of town they get the full invitation for all the day's activities. That seems to be standard in every country I've gone to weddings in. If you want people to travel to be a part of your big day, the least you can do is feed them! My family had a fight with a cousin who wanted to just have barbecue for the reception because most of her guests had to travel to the wedding and it was tacky and inconsiderate to not feed them a decent catered meal for their extra expenses and time traveling. In countries like South Korea, instead of a standard wedding gift you give money, and the minimum amount of money you gift (about $30 for an acquaintance or coworker's wedding) covers the cost of the buffet you are expected to attend after - even if you barely know the couple. It's simply not normal to not make expectations clear or to leave out of town guests behind during the meal.
I'm Australian. To save money on our wedding we got married on a Wednesday in a courthouse next to a beautiful beach. We only had 11 guests at the wedding that was my immediate family, my husband's Mother and his best friends (his father isn't in the picture and he doesn't have siblings) Then we had our reception on the following weekend with all our family and friends.
Wow, only $30 for a coworker’s wedding in South Korea? That’s so cheap! Here in Japan $200 seems to be the minimum amount given when attending a coworker’s wedding.
edited to add: I’m not being critical! I wish we could pay that little for a wedding here. My husband once had to attend several weddings in just a few months, and it really put a damper on his personal spending.
14:20 I was once invited to the ‘wedding’ when I arrived the wedding was over and I CRIED thinking I misread the invite and missed this massive family occasion only to find out later I was only invited to the dinner and the reception. Only of the very few. The invite didn’t even say this mind you. I was so upset, yes free dinner and dancing, that’s great but being invited to a wedding without witnessing the actual wedding was wild.
English person here… it’s common in the UK to be invited to either all of the wedding or just the party after… (so you would skip the ceremony and sit down meal, they usually have buffet style food for the Evening guests) but I have never heard of someone being invited to the ceremony then being asked not to attend the formal meal and welcomed back for the party part. =S
Maybe the person thought they could use it as an excuse and save some money?
Yes that sounds rather strange. I have been to weddings where there wasn't a reception/party afterwards, but I have never heard of having a reception and then some sort of buffet style party with dancing too. There was a big sit down reception with dancing afterwards though. At my wedding, I had a small buffet style reception going for the wedding guests while my photos were taken but I couldn't afford a D.J. or anything like that. And there wasn't a place to hold something like that in my small town anyway. it would have been nice though.
@@katrinakee726 Oh really, Yeah I've been to weddings where its just the ceremony and then nothing after or just off to the local community hall or pub where people pay for their own drinks. However, It’s rather common (at least the weddings I’ve been too), Usually, the wedding ceremony starts anywhere between 11 and 1pm, depending on the type of wedding. The Wedding party (and immediate family usually go off and take some pictures) at this point the guests are either travelling to the reception venue (if not held all in one place) or this is where some weddings offer finger foods/Canapés while guest have a drink or two (but I’ve also been to wedding where it’s just drinks). Then you are called to have the sit-down meal (“wedding breakfast”). Later in the evening you have the reception (party bit) and that’s where (most) people might provide a buffet style finger food situation or sometimes just a hog roast/ burgers etc, sometimes just a sweets/ desserts table, to keep the guests going throughout the evening… mainly to soak up the booze lol (and to provide some food for the guest who were only invited to the evening part)….This isn’t always the way but it’s the most common experience I’ve have. I’ve been invited as both types of guests - invited to the whole thing and only being invited to the evening part…. Again, splitting the guest list in my experience is common… NOT for a destination wedding and NEVER have I heard or experienced someone being invited to the ceremony and the reception but not the wedding breakfast that’s just odd. It’s either the whole day or just the evening do. I don’t think there is a one size fits all type to weddings I’ve been to a wide range of styles, venues, set ups, etc. I’ve been to open bar, wine on the table, buy your own, voucher drink system, sit down meal, buffet, a combination. I’ve been to wedding with and without professional photographers It’s whatever your version as the bridal couple is and IMO what your budget is (and I don’t think any type should be shamed… within reason LOL).
Maybe I didn’t explain it clearly in my original comment =S
@@AmethystEyes Maybe but that's pretty silly IMO
Yup its normal here in the UK to send just evening reception invitations to some people. However , if invited to the church / ceremony then those people are also invited to the afternoon reception dinner.
Here in Germany, it is quite common to have a lot of people at the reception and at the after dinner party, but have a dinner in between what th just family. It's like giving the bride and groom a moment to relax in between being the center of attention.
But that's also always clearly communicated. And if I involved friends from overseas, yeah, they're invited to everything, since they don't really have their home tomgo back to and relax and probably don't know where to get a good dinner etc.
Austrian here, for us it's very common to invite a lot of people to the ceremony and then a little less to the reception. But it's VERY CLEAR if you are a dinner guest or not by the card that you receive. The cards for guests usually come way earlier than the small invitation, which says that you are invited to the ceremony and some snacks after.
But not in a tiny fond, what the hell. 😭
I am Austrian and we don't do that. The only thing what can happen is that family and close friends are free to eat etc and the other pay for themselfs. If you pay for yourself you gift a little present.
Yes, in Poland it's the same.
@@KayrudaI’m also from Austria and sorry that’s not true. I’m actually invited to a wedding this summer where there are like 200 guest invited for the wedding and the agape (snacks and alcohol afterwards) and only 100 are invited for the dinner afterwards. I don’t actually like the practice and I think it is more happening in the countryside where it’s expected to invite neighbours or coworkers and such you’re not that close with.
@@Scarlett1243 I had a wedding, "farmers" wedding and it was just like I wrote and at many other weddings the same.
I wonder if this is supposed to say Australian because we do that in Australia
Speaking as a Belgian, we do have different tiers of wedding guests: some guests are invited to what we call "Vin d'honneur" which usually takes place after the church ceremony at the wedding venue where guests come to congratulate the wedded couple, they share some champagne and finger food, mingle for a while and then leave. The full on guests who take part to the whole day long celebrations and then guests who are invited for the cake cutting ceremony, coffee and assorted desserts and the evening celebrations! But having people travel thousand of miles and then not inviting them to the dinner, nope! But the invitations clearly state what part of the celebrations you are invited to.
This is a format I'm familiar with in the UK too
@@beccasalt8960 💜
This happens in the Netherlands as well. To be invited to the ceremony, not to dinner, but again at the party: that happens. You check your invite to see what you are invited to. I can see how that is confusing, if you don't know that it works that way.
@@annepapillon i'm from the Netherlands and i've never heard of that. What part are you from? North, South, West, East?
I got married before the bachelorette parties became big events. We chose to hit all the bars where we went as singles. My 3 friend groups got to visit the other bars, each group had different favoritess. It was so fun! We ran into old dates, old boyfriends. Then we had time to laugh and goof about the old dates, one girl connected with one of my old dates. 😍. Had breakfast at our fav diner at 4am. We returned one in time for make up and hair. Yes we did it the night before the wedding. My fav bachelorette party.
To the wedding planner fee; even if that planner did charge for a finders fee, she didn’t find them, the bride had been planning to work with that makeup artist! That is an agreement between a planner and a vender prior to the client IF the client agrees to go with said suggested vender.
In Shetland, our church weddings are at about 11 or 12 o'clock, the meal, at about 2pm for close family and friends, then everyone else comes to the evening dance with soup and scones at 11pm, dancing continues for as long as people can manage 😂
In Poland, weddings have become so expensive that people here are dividing the guests. Everyone attends the ceremony, but only the closest family joins for the reception. However, the couple talks about this right away, so everyone knows about it.
Fewer people can afford weddings now.😢
You can choose not to have that type of wedding. I'm in America. I got married on the beach. On the fourth of July so I get fireworks every anniversary. Got married for 300$ (1,206.33 PLN) It waz very nice and only had a few people.
I'm Polish and my dad would have a heart attack if I suggested separating guests for those going to the ceremony only and wedding reception only. I've been to a wedding like that and that is very upsetting when you find out which of the friends got the dinner invitation while you have to go back home. I'd rather invite less people and treat them like proper guests.
Edit: I realise some people just show up in the church to witness the ceremony (generally open to public).
However, separating between the dinner and the evening reception would be considered a major offense
@Mruczanna No, that's totally normal and has been done for years (not a new thing at all). Some people are just invited to the wedding (ślub) like work colleagues and family you haven't seen in years, and some are invited to the party (wesele). And than some get an invite only to the after party (poprawiny). I find that totally normal and it's been done for decades like this.
For years yes - you go with invitation for guests for ślub i wesele. But people going only for ceremony - it's like,I'm getting married in Mariacki at noon, 15.04, if you want to attend. No invitation, definitely no way to treat guests from abroad. And it's definitely not the custom to invite only for party, like girls in Scotland from the story.
Nie zaprasza się u nas "tylko na wesele", ale na ślub zaprosisz np. koleżanki z podstawówki przy okazji jakiejś rozmowy. W sumie to jak pod kościołem wosialy zapowiedzi znajomych to się kupowało vukievik szło na ślub bez zaproszenia :) Ale tylko na wesele, a jeszcze lepiej jak w tej szkocji - idź na ślub, poczekaj aż zjedzą obiad i dopiero przyjdź D: ale też raczej po obiedzie nie ma u nas bufetu tylko ciasto, kolacja jedna, druga... a bufet to ew jakieś ekstra jak słodki stół.
My wedding ceremony and reception were at different locations and we couldn't invite everyone to the reception due to capacity. We included the ceremony info. on the main invite and had a separate card for the reception details. We also had a grazing table for after the ceremony so even those that didn't come for the reception/dinner etc. were fed. Any international guests were invited to the reception.
American living in Denmark here. I've never heard of the "attend the wedding but not the dinner" thing in the US but now living in Europe, I have come to learn this is a common thing for weddings and other major events. Some are invited to the ceremony, some are invited to the reception / dinner, some are invited to both but not all. Many big events here are kind of divided up between who will be invited to which parts. But I agree, if you have family or friends coming from so far away, they should be invited to all.
It is totally unacceptable that someone invited a party from another country to their wedding and they were not allowed dinner.
You are going to cheap out on at most $100 for dinner when they made the effort to get there.
I know people who wont drive an hour to attend a wedding. If someone is traveling from out of state not only should they be served dinner at the reception but if possible dinner the night before and as I did we took all our out of town guests to breakfast the next day.
They made great effort to attend your wedding and they are YOUR guests. Treat them accordingly.
I can't imagine the couple were British. Wedding ceremony guests are always invited to the main reception in the day.
I've missed family weddings that were a few hours away but might have been willing to make the trip if it were to another country. If I were the girls, I would have blown off the rest of the day, maybe extended the trip some extra days (or already had it set up as a week long vacation, at least) and gone on to have a blast. I would also let the bride know via text so she could see it that day/night that she was no longer a friend. I wouldn't feel bad about the wedding gift because if I'm spending that kind of money to go to the wedding, the gift would be worth about $25-30.
I think the marrying couple sent the invite as a courtesy, more like..'we are getting married' which is pretty common around here and because of the cultural difference the guests didn't understand that they weren't actually invited and just showed up
Recently in Brazil, there was a dispute on TikTok between a makeup artist and a bride. The bride requested social makeup, which is a less expensive alternative to bridal makeup, for her wedding day, but said to the makeup artist she had a baby party to attend. The makeup artist later saw the bride's photo on Instagram and became infuriated, stating that the bride should not have gotten married with social makeup. 😂 it moved the country for some days
Omg that’s funny as hell 🤣
I just saw a similar situation now, in India a makeup artist allegedly locked her clients in her home. The bride had done the booking for party makeup which is cheaper, but on the day of the makeup, the MUA got to know it was her wedding reception and locked the bride and her mom inside her house until they paid her the full amount.
Maybe I don't understand something. Why did the makeup artist get mad? Because she felt tricked/cheated? Social makeup isn't forbidden for weddings lol I don't see a reason for her to get mad unless her social and bridal makeup is the same, just with a different price, which is ridiculous haha
@@memecha I think it's because wedding makeup, although it's just similar to social makeup, is more expensive. It's like having a tax because it's a special day lol
@@memechaThe makeup artist stated that she felt cheated because the bride had lied to her. However, many people expressed that if the bride had paid for a social makeup service, received a social makeup service, and was satisfied with the results, then the makeup artist's complaint was unwarranted because she wanted to receive more payment for the same amount of work.
In Ireland it’s very common to invite people to the “afters” only, and you will get an afters invite. This means you only go to the evening party after the dinner. I’ve gone to a few of these for work colleagues. My own wedding I just had anyone I wanted for the entire day, so no work colleagues or people I’ve only known a short while.
I’m European, we definitely don’t do that here in Belgium (or The Netherlands or Germany). What we do for a local wedding, is only invite closest family and friends to the ceremony at the town hall. If there is a church ceremony as well, they usually invite everyone to that, and to the reception. Not everyone is usually invited to the dinner and party. Work colleagues for example will often be invited to the reception, but not to the dinner + party.
We don’t tend to do destination weddings, unless bride or groom is from a different country. My husband and I went to a wedding in Slovakia, because his school friend got married to a Slovakian girl. That one was great, though! They arranged a bus trip from Belgium to Slovakia and an entire week of a activities/sightseeing in and around Bratislava. And then we all spent a weekend at the castle where they got married. It was sooo much fun! Everyone got the price for the all in holiday, or the option to fly in separately. We did the all in holiday and we enjoyed it so much. Their friends and family were great, and the entire trip was planned perfectly, including a boat trip on the Danube, dinner on a boat, a trip to the mountains including lunch and dinner in cute villages, a trip to stunning cave, etc.
This comment is for Mike. I've been watching these videos for awhile now. And Charlotte continues to demonstrate emotional maturity and a lot of common sense. This is the kind of person you want in a partner, Mike. And if Charlotte thinks you're the guy for her, then that's it. You've got it made, dude.
Signed,
A random married person from the internet who knows she's got a good partner, and what makes a good relationship.
And she’s been giving lots of signs for wanting to have a ring on her finger, Mike you better act quick 🤨
This is so sweet. Obviously we don't want to pressure him, but do it Mike!
15:42 - it's not a British thing. People who are invited to the wedding, also come to the main reception. Usually family and closest friends.
Then you have more guests that are invited to the evening reception only. Usually work colleagues, acquaintances and distant relations.
Never heard of wedding guests being excluded from the wedding breakfast
They probably weren’t invited to the ceremony but wouldn’t have known. It sounds like they were evening guests who just turned up in the morning and only found out they were evening guests when there was a seating plan involved
@@rachaelf5903 Why would invite someone to fly across the world just as an evening guest, doesn't make sense expecting people to go to all that expense just for a disco and bit of a buffet.
@@rachaelf5903no.
They travelled for the wedding!
As an eastern european... Wtf is a wedding breakfast?
I also have that question as a northern European.
The f is a wedding breakfast?
Like seriously, you don't need more than the wedding and reception, the rest is just a waste of money (personal opinion, and in my country, that's pretty much what a wedding is. Ceremony and reception, nothing else)
Yes to doing research for photographers! In my area there is one photographer that has monopolized the business and she charges like $450 for just a newborn shoot. Her pictures are gorgeous, but that is a lot of money. I found another photographer who had the same quality pictures and she charged $165 for maternity AND newborn package. I went with her and she was/is AMAZING!! She was a miracle worker with my twins! I still use her for my family photos each year.
That "Not invited to wedding dinner in Scotland" story is from Reddit, there's more info. They did actually go back to the reception (I wouldn't have at all) but left early.
The Reddit title is "Always read the wedding invitation small print". It's a good read.
In the UK, you normally have a ceremony around 10/11am followed by photos. Then the wedding breakfast/meal is around 1/2pm. This normally includes family and very close friends. Then, in the evening, you have a wedding reception/party with a finger food buffet around 6/7pm until late. You then invite more people if you want to like friends, colleagues etc.
But if you go to the ceremony then you go to the meal and stay the whole day. Not the ceremony, then the evening reception.
I have had 2 different wedding invites here in the uk where I was invited to the ceremony but not the meal and then the “after party” and one wedding was a cousin so it’s a thing for sure!
@sff3658 That's unusual for a UK wedding. But everyone does it differently as it is so expensive to get married.
My 1st wedding was as above, which is like every wedding I've been to in the UK.
But my second wedding we just had 25 people at a registrarary office and then went for a meal.
@@sff3658That does sound a tad unusual to me. I would imagine if you’re inviting someone from overseas, you wouldn’t do that.
@@karenneill9109 But then, the person did not state where they came from, or did I overhear something? They might not be American but from a different part of UK. Even then, I would not invite someone as an evening guest when they had to travel a certain distance (and then, it does not matter if it's 500 km or 5000; at a certain distance, it would be too far to come for just an evening).
I won't say no to a whole video of bachelorette party planning 101 with Charlotte Dobre
1:20 My Hens (/Bachelorette) was technically a destination one? In that we roadtripped 3 hours to the next City. But we only stayed somewhere cheap (a rickety old AirBnB where we were sleeping 2 to a bed + 1 on the sofa), did several relatively cheap things on current scale - 1 pre-dinner drinks round at my very fave bar, then walking to a pizzeria, then a late-night amusement Park visit, then took the train back to the accoms for cake, prosecco + a pinata, & finally, an a la carte brunch at my fave tearoom the next morning before leaving - & we made the journey itself part of the celebrations as we got dressed up prettily to stop at a halfway point to enjoy a specific tourist attraction + a picnic we'd brought along.
It was so important to me to do something _really_ memorable - but equally that no-one had to spend truly stressful amounts of money to come, bc I wanted everyone else to have just as good a time as I did + not be secretly panicking about their finances.
These airfares + expensive hotel + lavish town-painting/spa/both trend of parties wierd me out.; it seems very self-centred to expect your friends to spend literally _hundreds_ of dollars to celebrate you when there are *so many* more reasonable ways to make a fuss of someone. ❤
Every time you give advice I'm just like - *taking notes from Auntie Charlotte* 😂😂
Greek here, and yes, I have seen weddings where you could be invited only in the church ceremony and not in the following reception and dinner, but it is always stated very clearly on the invitation and it is not the usual thing. Also the guests that are coming from out of town are always invited to the dinner.
Charlotte is punctual enough to time your clock to. 😂❤
Exactly, couldn't agree more.😂
Yup! I get notifications at 11:00 on the dot every other day! Love Charlotte's punctuality ♡
@@heezypeasy8611it’s 12 for me.
Perfectly okay with this.
Haha, or she just clicks the time this video gets released in the back end of youtube. Haha!
I've heard of people not being invited to the ceremony, but to the reception (because the ceremony was going to be small). But for a destination wedding.... Everyone should be invited to both, and if not, it needs to be made abundantly clear to any guests not invited to both.
For Indian weddings, it’s customary to have different guest lists for different events. They span like 4-5 days so if everyone was invited to everything, it just wouldn’t be practical cost wise. Your blood relatives, best friends, and overseas guests are the ones who get invited to all 4-5 events. And people are actually quite understanding about this. We even had one family friend call us and politely tell us that we didn’t have to invite them if the guest list was already getting a bit tight. Of course, we thanked them for their kindness and invited them! 😊
To sound so old... in my day, hen doos were dinner and a pub crawl. Lots of shouting woo and usually waving inflatables at policemen.
Then home on bus or taxi. Sorted. 😂
As it should be😂
This comment made me laugh so hard! Thank you! 😂❤️
Sounds like pure, uncomplicated fun. Shouting woo is mandatory.
100% agree having experienced bookings w large groups of people in business school going to Hawaii, Coachella, bachelorettes, etc - maybe 30-50% of people drop out and then YOU or some poor soul has to be financially responsible for finding someone else to fill the airbnb spot - it’s a huge mess and breaks up friendships esp when you’re dealing with several grand
To circumvent any issues with this, my friend group has a 100% no refund policy and you venmo the person who books the stuff that day. It's not fair on the rest of the group who were expecting to split rooms x # of ways to suddenly have to pay more.
I get where Charlotte is coming from with "BOOK YOUR OWN ROOM!" but uhhhh yeahhhhh most people can't afford their own room for several nights without splitting costs 😅
Danish here, for the Scottish one - that is how we do it alot in Denmark. However, no one in their right mind would invite someone from that far away and not give them dinner.
In Denmark, the ceremony is typically done in a church. The church is public so basically anyone can attend the wedding or a baptism (not often strangers do) Therefore it is common to have peripherally known people (parents' friends, old colleagues ,the local baker) come just to look at the ceremony.
Some choose to give coffee and cake right after the ceremony to all that came to look, because churches have buildings for that.
The dinner is typically very private and you wouldn't invite someone you haven't met before or someone you don't expect to be in your life forever.
It is however very clear to people what part of the wedding you are attending. Dinner guests get an invitation in the mail stating the events of the day, time and location. Where "Looking guest" gest (more or les) a text saying "Hey, you can come watch me get married on Saturday if you are free"
As for being invited to only the ceremony but not the reception, that has happened to me twice with 2 different coworkers. Neither weddings were destination. They were local geographically to me & the invite made it clear it was for ceremony only, so no confusion if I were to attend. I declined both but still acknowledged their weddings with a card & very modest gift.
I introduced my husband to you. We were both laughing and he's not generally entertained by CZcams so good job. WHAT is that lipcolor? This fellow redhead needs it.
We love our red head queens and kings!!!
That's a bright coral! A friend of mine bought that once!
I know sometimes she uses Bobbi Brown 'Cherish' but it's not as vivid as this. Still you may like it. Ii got it and love the color. Maybe with a lip liner.
Babes! It’s MAC spice lip liner and MAC spill the tea lipstick! Glad you like it I’m obsessed too!
@@CharlotteDobre thank you! I'm obsessed with coral lips period but that one 😍!
Been to multiple weddings of family members and (at least in most European countries) they usually arranged something with the hotel so that when everyone booked their rooms there was a code like “WEDDING 123” for example so the hotel new who was in the wedding or bachelorette party and would book the rooms together, often with a discount. This way everyone does their own bookings and money is only exchanged between the hotel/booking site and them.
If it’s a rented place then it makes sense that one person collects money from everyone but usually it was that one person paid and everyone staying just reimbursed them for that expense (that’s mostly how I know it). Then again I personally try to avoid situations that mix money and friendships too much because I have seen too much drama from other people.
I'm planning my wedding atm and I love watching these videos because they're so wild, especially to me as a bride who's planning a wedding with 16 guests and no bachelorette party 😂
For my bachelorette we rented a cottage for a weekend, it was awesome! The girls wanted to do two nights so a cottage made sense. Nond of us live locally to eachother so the spot chosen was approximately in the middle for everyone to travel to.
Such a fun and relaxing weekend!
About the Scott wedding, i'm not sure how common is it in France, but in my family, only the closest guest are invited to the lunch/diner.
Becasue it's the most imprtant for the one close to the married couple.
Oh, i saw the first comment Charlotte read. I agree with the commenter. The bride should have explain beforehand on the invitation how the organization was intended.
We had a VERY large guest list for our wedding and did two invitations. One for the wedding and a standup reception right afterwards and then wedding, reception and dinner. Anyone who was coming from out of town was invited to the entire event! But this was purely because of costs and how many people my family wanted to invite. 😊
At first I thought you meant a comedy (standup) reception and I was like “oh how cool, haven’t heard of that one” but then I continued reading and figured it out.
I did the same thing. We were on a tighter budget and had a lot of people from my parents church who wanted to come but I didn’t know them personally. So we had cupcakes and drinks after the ceremony and then a dinner for family and close friends later in the evening. But anyone who travelled from out of town was automatically invited to the dinner
I read the Scottish wedding story on Reddit. The two girls were coworkers not friends and they only drove an hour or so. She only invited them because her boss told her she should. I love how this story has changed! It was still rude but they didn’t fly across the world! 😂😂😂