Can You Know You Want To Marry Someone After Only Six Months Of Dating?
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- This one sparked a big debate between Straight Talk panelists Diann Valentine, Jenni Pulos, Ta'Rhonda Jones and Steve Harvey.
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My parents dated for 2 months before getting married......they have been married for almost 40 years........I knew my boyfriend for 7 years , got married and divorced a year later.........
hahahaha...sorry. i'm not mocking, but it's funny...
i mean it's sound funny, the way u put it. excuse me
Yes it was comical how she said it.
Thank you Sandra.. i knew my ex for 9 years, got married & guess what... divorced after one & a half year
Wow!!!
I agree with Steve. The day I met my husband, he told people he was going to marry me. They thought he was silly. We married 8 months later. We have been married for 19 years now since February.
uniqaabi I'm a teenager, but that's cute. Lol. Happiness is key. Congratulations on your marriage journey. What advice would you give a youngster like me?
Yes u just know
He did not want is good woman to get away. He let his intentions be known, that's a man who knows what he likes.
My now boyfriend said that on our first date. 1.5 years later we're still together. But honestly we both knew that night that we would one day be married
kimani not trying to be rude but happiness is not the key. Thats where everything goes wrong. Start thinking about ur spouses happines and believe me life will be much easier..be selfless in marriage instead of selfish..sounds simple but its hard to do.. sometimes you wont be happy..does that mean u have to seperate because your not happy? No it means you have to be patient and undersrand that someitmes marriage isnt always happy and roses..sometimes it sucks but that will pass too
No disrespect but y’all notice that the single people said no and the married ones said yes.
Yeh but the married people also been divorced and couldnt stay in the same marriage so....
Just because they’re married doesn’t mean it’s gonna last
@@jiminsmix3403
See that's the point though...there is NO MAGIC WAND either way.
Long engagements, quickie marriages, 6 months/6 years courting....doesn't matter Divorce has touched EVERY category.
There are NO ABSOLUTES everybody is talking from ignorance.
jacquelynn douglas
Telling 😂. Some real commitment phobes in the single crowd 😁
Eric Stewart
Exactly! There are no absolutes, some people just feel better about their decisions the longer it takes for them to make the decision. Sometimes time does help but extremes doesn’t usually work either. # balance
if you are dating to get married then yes you will know in 6 months or less. but if you are dating to just date then maybe not.
Amen!
You marry someone in 6 months or less if you have 6 brain cells or less. You can't possibly know someone unless you observe them in various emotional states; boredom, insecurity, anger etc.
Exactly !!!!!
That's an interesting concept. Makes since.
@@mountainswitchback9380 you don't need to know cos marriage is a committed way of getting to know someone not a taste and buy.
Yes, 6months is enough time. My husband told me I was the one within the first 4 months. We were engaged within the year and married 7months after. We’ve been married 9 years in July😊
There is always an exception to the rule, but that doesn't mean it's a wise decision. You got lucky.
Crystin Gilmore did you know he was the one ?
Congrats I’m glad it worked out with you and your husband but not everyone needs to do that. I think people that are very responsible and think about things logically it’s ok but not everyone.
@@mountainswitchback9380 So for you how much time was need? Who decided first?
@@mountainswitchback9380 it’s not luck , it’s love. My parents got engaged within 1 years of dating and they have been married for over 20 years still happily in love.
To be honest, you can be with a person for 10years and you will still not know *everything* about them, so if you are waiting for that moment to know everything then you will not be getting married anytime soon.... so I think it is a matter of connection rather than the number years you know each ither
African Child .....and desperation. There aren’t always good motives for rushing into marriage.
#FACTS!
Agreed, if you form a couple and you decide that the paperwork is not your thing ok but when she stays 3-5-10 years with a guy because he still needs to decide. Let's be real, he stays with you just because is comfortable to have someone tending to his needs with no significative expenses. If he treats you this way, he can't be the partner that you are looking for.
Not just connection but are you compatible
6 months was enough time for us, my husband and I have been married 25 years.
You're old. Obviously this is a different time.
@@ineedhoez 😂 Perhaps I'm old to you if not in your 40s, but young to a senior citizen in their 80s!
@Nathaly Acevedo No secret. We both genuinely have respect, attraction, and enjoy each others company still today!
This is nice
Congratulations that's awesome
Steve is completely right. You do not have to get married but we know.
Edward Greene Okay, you know and do nothing about it or string the woman along
+Vee Oby No not string her along but do you show your and before the game is done. You may be everything we want but I believe that Steve mentioned it in an earlier show, '... that a man will get engaged when He feels he can take care of his woman and his family.' Men not boys...Men fear failure especially failing their family. Men getting married in their early 20's is a terrible idea, they gotta have their HOE phase, some women need to have their's too. Get it out your system.
Amen
Exactly
I met my husband on a blind date and called my sister and told her I met my future husband. Two months later we were married and now 18 years later we still happily married. If you know, you know.
In 6 months I believe you know the fundamentals! You don’t know a person fully, but 6 months is enough time to know if the person you have feelings for and talk to everyday possesses the qualities you desire in a spouse. People out here playing and wasting time 🙄
I agree with Steve
My sister married her husband after 6 months of knowing him. They have been married for 19 years today. I'm with Steve, I believe men know after 6 months whether they want to marry a woman. And women know, too.
Inspiration Station: So true! Men know but they’re so scared to take the next step because of the criticism society puts out and stereotypes that people should wait after several years to get married. Listen to your heart.. not what others have to say! God is the key to a happy successful marriage. He’ll make it work if people will just trust in him completely!
Period.
Amen
Agreed! I MARRIED my husband 6 months after our first date. We both knew almost immediately we are meant for each other.
Amen nothing wrong with that
Absolutely. My husband and I were together 8 months when we married. 6 months of that was him being deployed. We’ve been married 14 years!
Tieia Middleton me too! We dated 14 months before marriage and 7 of those he was deployed. And we lived in different states. 10 years of marriage we are still going strong.
Good to hear! I wish you two an eternity of love and friendship.
i need your contact info or at least write a book. that is awesome.
Shanny D AKA Lil Michonne i need to take notes. i just dont know where to start. thank you both for sharing such wonderful stories
Absolutely me and my husband met in September got engaged in December and was married in June we’ve been married 28 yrs when you know you just know it don’t take a long time to figure out who you want to spend the rest of your life with
My husband asked me to marry him at 6 months. 9 years married and still going strong.
Beautiful it's the men's that's don't really be in serious relationship don't know but want play house
People always change and grow. I knew pretty much right away that my husband was the one and he said the same about me. We married after 10 months of dating and we've been married for 12 years. It hasn't been a perfect marriage, but I've never once doubted that he's my soulmate.
good for you! keep the love alive! it's rare nowadays!
Exactly
That's beautiful
You can know in 6 months. It depends on intentionality. First of all, don’t even agree to date someone who doesn’t even show slight potential. From there, prioritize emotional/Spiritual intimacy over physical. I usually know in 3 months or less if someone is not the one. Use that discernment.
Yes. If at 29 she doesn't know herself then why are you dating? 6 months should be ok to talk marriage because if your values don't match up abort the mission and don't waste 12 months. You don't have to be planning it to discuss goals and values to see if you are on the same page.
#FACTS! Why date? Idk why I thought she was older but ok! Get to know yourself for starters...rise in love with yourself :)
She dated because she was afraid to be alone so they stand with that person until a better option appears. No kidding, I have met people like that.
Facts I’ve been dating my women for 6 months and she’s pregnant and we are married 😌
@@LadyCharity I thought she was older too. She's not ready to be married. The relationship coach wasn't married at that time but she's married now
I 200% agree. We know within 6 months if you have what we are looking for.
Amen because man knows but if not the one he knows also everyone not wifey
My hubby and I knew within the first month that we were going to get married. We got engaged after 6 mos and got married when we were together for a year. We have been married for 12 years.
what were yr ages back then?
I was 30 when we met and he was 27. We were 31 and 28 when we got married.
When you know yourself and know what you want there’s no doubt. Know yourself and have discernment.
It really depends if you are dating to date or dating to marry. If you are dating to marry you can figure out if they're the one pretty quickly
Exactly
Fact: we have to learn to listen to the voice within. I always knew my ex wasn't the one but we loved each other and eventually after almost a decade of being together we got married. Needless to say it din't last. When I met my current love it was instantaneous. I knew early on some would say too early that this was the person I wanted to love, marry and raise children with. It is true. When you know you just do. If you don't then perhaps that's a sign too. I have found that people try to talk themselves into things despite clearly knowing when someone is wrong for them. Don't forget we all deserve a chance at the kind of love that is once in a lifetime. Don't sell yourself short. It isn't fair to yourself or your partner.
i'm ashamed of myself how i sold myself so so short
I agree. My inner voice is telling me my gf is the one. I can't imagine my life with anyone else
That inner voice is the Holy Spirit. It’s God
When God's in the mist... there's no time period. The couple's that I know, that's been married longer than 20 year's, put God first, and were married less than a year of meeting one another. God is the ONLY one that is all knowing, even after a year you still can't say you know someone.
God....??? thanks for reminder
GodGoodGrandeur GreatGlory 😊♥️
FACTS! My grandparents married 3 months AFTER meeting lol...my parents married less than a year of meeting (like 9 months) still married 36 yrs come January...so I'm with the lady in the middle :)
The girl I'm dating seems brought to me divinely. I just know in my heart of hearts this girl is from God to me.
There are many women who put God first and prostitutes marry before them.
My husband knew that we would get married the 1st month we dated. But it took me 2 years to know that he was the right one but we were also very young.. He's my high school sweetheart and we are still together after 19 years
Because men know within immediacy that you're the one.. once a man is ready to take in his wife... he is ready for the long-haul.. but, honestly a woman on the other hand still need that time to not only be courted but to figure out and get to know her soon to be husband even if she feels safe, secure, and comfortable around him and she knows within her hearts of hearts he's the one... it's just we as women are the ones that need that reassurance and confirmation meanwhile men are willingly able to learn and please her in the process of her catching up. Men know more than a woman when they're ready to be married. Because timing is everything to a man. #truthbetold
Yup, if we're mature and healthy most of us know in 6months or less!!!
My husband knew I was the one for him in three months, we moved in at 7 months
9 years later we are still crazy about each other and married with kids.
You can never know someone fully. Every situation that a person faces introduces a new characteristic of theirs. You can date someone for 10 years but still get shocked at how they deal with loss ect.
Phindile Mgobozi
If you date for 10 years then that's all your intentions were.
We're all discussing the same thing. Is 6 months enough time to know when that is your plan.
met my wife in June got married in November of 89 and Still married today
how young were u both back then?
31 years wow beautiful
@@grandeurglory5030 I was 20 she was 19
My parents got engaged a week of knowing each other and married three months later. It just depends on your judgement of a person and my parents are still happily married.
Same for my grandparents...
AMEN!!!
I knew immediately, my husband and I only "dated" 2 months then got married. And we've been married 11 years...This taking a lifetime business, trying to figure out who's the better option will only set you up to constantly keep searching I think.
My husband told me he knew I was the one after the first date. True Love has no limits nor does it have a certain time stamped on it. I agree with the lady in the middle "When you know you just know"
My grandparents got married in 3 months from meeting, my parents 9 months and will be married 36 yrs come January so I'm with the lady in the middle too!
What did you feel or experience when you knew he was the one?
Yes 6 months is enough to time to get to know someone. I know who I am and man I want in life. I am 26 years old and God has a way of sending you the right person in right time. Marriage and being courtship should be based on God not just feelings. God is love.
#IMPERFECTWOMENOFGOD
#GODISLOVE
IMPERFECT WOMEN OF GOD well, the problem is, most people date not court but I completely agree and he will give you everything you need and more in a husband. I think the other problem is people not knowing what they want in a husband . You're beautiful and seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, so I'm sure you'll be blessed with your future husband soon, just keep your faith m
Cheyenne Michelle-Rena Your words are beautiful! I wish the same thing for IMPERFECT WOMAN OF GOD & you also! God bless you both!
Frances Kittrell thank you and I hope you are blessed as well. :)
Am African man, but real want to marry black American woman, when i watched them on here Steve shows, I real like black American woman, they so pretty, compare to African woman here...
Can you help...... And will you relocate?
IMPERFECT WOMEN OF GOD I get it. It’s good to play it safe. However, I imagine God will come from heaven to tell you he’s the one as well, huh since everythin is depended upon what God thinks
The lady in red annoys me 🙄🙄🙄 she talks like she knows everything smh
SOglam101 and she's prolly single and miserable af lol
Nina Marshall yes that's why she kept saying...Hell NO...it's too early. The lady in the black sitting in the middle said she just knew and she was so upset. Like girl hush. You sound bitter.
She is actually wearing burgundy. She is very opinionated and guess what some opinions are stronger than others ✌️
She a love expert that's why
@@charlottekatakuri1414 lmao a single love expert
5 days... I knew he was the one and we hadn't even met in person... he had a ring and proposed day after we met in person, after 2 months of knowing each other, 5 months after that we got married, 3 children and 10yrs later still head over hills in love.
wow...had both of u been prayed to God?
GodGoodGrandeur GreatGlory yes, we were both each other's first and only. Not common now a days to save yourself for your spouse.
If you are truly connected to your true/higher self, you will know almost instantly when you meet the person. There are couples that have been together for over a decade and still don't know each other so....
yes, my parents are so bitterly together, n children is her excuse not to separate
I agree.
💯💯💯💯
Several men i dated for over a year i thought i wanted to continue but they were terrible, awful people... my husband and I knew the first date. We told each other we loved each other and knew that was it. If you’ve been dating 3-6 months and think you don’t know someone at all... you’re lost. Husband and I have been together going on 11 years and its just gotten stronger. 3 kids, never a boring moment. More peace and stability than i have ever known with anyone else. No guesswork, no questions, no confusion (yes i want to strangle him sometimes like any other couple out there), talk about it communicate. We’ve learned things we didnt know at the start, but we committed early and stuck with it. It’s worth it. When you find the right one. We moved in a couple months after we start dating. Got married 10 months after we met. Had our oldest 9 months later. Still no doubt about it he is my best friend and we are still crazy about each other. He’s the one i lean on and I’m the one he leans on. It hasnt been perfect. We have had several crossroads at times and what we felt like was the final straw, but when it’s meant to be, you keep getting through it somehow someway cause it’s both people in it to win it. It has to be.
I still will never forget meeting his cousin the day after our first date and he told him in front of me “this is it, we are going to be together and long long time” ☺️. The next day i was in the truck with him and he was on the phone with his mom telling her all about me and how much he liked me (even though we’d already said i love you 🤣). Feels like yesterday. And I can’t believe it’s been as long as it has. It flew by in a blink.
My husband and I met, dated, married in 7 months! 23 years later he is still my love, my best friend, my rock! When you know, “you know”!
Amen that's wonderful
my uncle and aunt married in 5 months in 1974 and still TOGETHER.. my bro waited 4 yrs and divorced in 1... I think it depends on the couple.. PERIOD
Loyalty 77 exactly and dang after 1 year ?
Loyalty 77
Sometimes people get married because they feel they should after SO many years together. This is the point where they should be breaking up . The marriage is often the bandage so that's why it often fails to last.
If you are both dating with the intention of serious relationship that will lead to marriage then YES men know within weeks/ months!
yes, he thought he knew, but i wasn't into it. i was out of his ledge! broke up twice a month in 9 months
Yes. Everyone is different. It depends on what your dating style is. In this date and age, men and women don't have deep insightful conversation, but some people do. I agree with Steve.
Belinda Joy I just don't see how a couple could get married after 6 months....because at the end of the day, y'all don't know each other.
+MrGodismypower I know plenty of couples that married within 6 months (one was three weeks) of dating and still married after 10+ years. Most of them are Christian couples who say they courted (dating with intention) instead of modern dating and "talking". At the end of the day, it depends on the person' character and honesty. u can know one person within 6 months while u may never truly know another one even after 6 years of dating
Rosa exactly, my sons father and I were married for 19 years and he to this day couldn't tell a server how I like a burger prepared. My husband now after 1 date knew exactly how I like my burger. So it's not always about the length of time, it's about the quality of the time and a person's willingness to actually listen to your thoughts because they want to know you from the simplest things about you to the most complicated.
+jen bradley woww men be nonchalant sometimes. glad u found sb who cares about little things as u like it
I met with my husband only for two months. We got married after two and a half months..this December 2019 will celebrate our 25 years anniversary. it has been the happiest years of my life with our 4 children.
God decides the time. Period.
are u african-amarican? how long u been believe in God in this instead of personal effort?
1st of all does it matter what color this person is? 2nd faith without works is meaningless. So you wait this whole time and when God presents your husband you just gonna make him wait...i am confident that you will know just like other people know.
Oh yes, my husband and I knew in 2 months and 5 months later we were married. Going on 🥳 10 years now! “Won’t HE do it! 🙏🏾”
Amen why wait if the person the one
I meet my soulmate and dated him for 1 year and then moved to another state to be with him. We have been together 5 years. Almost 6 years in November. ❤
crystal Berry not yet. :)
Yamato Shinijuku are you married?
Yeah. My hubby proposed at 6 months. We waited another year to get married. We have been married for 16 years...and we love each other even more now. Single ladies....dont waste time on men who are not worth your time! After two years if he hasn't mentioned marriage....move on!
My Daddy knew when he met my Mommy. They were married until he took his last breath...over three decades of a healthy marriage. My Mommy also told me that my Daddy was still discovering things about her decades into the marriage and that was something all wives should do...maintain some mystery...keep surprising him. You can find out somebody’s core in 6 months, the rest is icing.
I am sorry for the loss
I've been very happily married for over 10 years and my husband and I were engaged six months after dating each other. I remember being told you don't know him well enough. Funny thing is were still together 12 years later and I've watch the same ppl who tried to give me advice in and out of multiple horrible relationships.
karma....
Same here...I had so many family members telling me I was too young. We are still happily married after 16 years and they are divorced!
Yes, I could marry someone after six months of us knowing each other. if I truly felt the person was the one and everything important was lined up between the two of us. At this point in my life, I'm dating to be married. I'm not dating to have flings. I say to each it's own.
If you don't know yourself after 29 years, how are you going to know someone else? You don't. People change daily. Now if you're williing to change along with them, then that's a beauty. I knew my husband for a month before we got married. Best decision of my life! These women saying no are single, whatever stage they are in their life. 29 is more than enough to know what you want out of a man/woman and going for it.
My man proposed in 5 and a half months. He was dead serious! We will be together for 2 years before we get married. Next year future Mrs!!
Did you get married?
@@sigcinondlela8385 We sure did a year after he proposed. Been married 3yrs together 4yrs and working on baby #2 🤭😉
My grandparents had only known each other for a little under two weeks, and got married.. they now have been married for a little under 50 years!❤️
I have one question to ask....why is Steve asking unmarried women for relationship advice, how can she teach you how to get a husband when she can't get one. Steve was right for once.
The lady in the middle IS married.
Met, engaged and married in 10 months💕 my husband told me REALLY early I was his WIFE💍 almost three years later ! He’s STILL the love of my LIFE and always will be!
so happy for you!!
A man knows his wife off back. It doesn't or shouldn't take years and years and years to still figure out. When you are right before God, He will lead and guide you. It's possible.
God.....
I dated my wife for almost 6 months, we are married now.
My thought is: this dating too long it sucks the fun out of it, there’s nothing else to find out.
Like Steve said: if you have what we want,
People are different, relationships are different
I completely agree with steve. My husband and I got married after 10 months of dating. We both knew maybe the second/third time we spent time together that this was different and after 6 months we knew for sure we wanted to spend our lives together. Prior to me, he was in a relationship for 4 years and he never felt the want/need to further the relationship and never felt certainty to commit his life to this person. Marriage never even came to his mind. Length of time in a relationship is not everything ladies. you can be with someone for years and have it go nowhere.
how long have you been married now?
Before dating my husband I didn'tlike him he kept asking me out. I told him how I really was "crazy" among other things he still kept asking. When I said yes to dating 6 months later he asked "when do u want to get married"
So... ....you settled? Nice
Six months is enough time to pick up on someone' patterns in life! Because there could be words...there could be actions but the most important is pattern...you would not STOP learning about someone even after you've been married for years and years...matter of fact, you've got to keep paying attention to your spouse even after youve been married for a while... however the true main values and patterns from someone's life, I think you can pick up in 6 months....have to be really attentive...
After 3 months I proposed, engagement was for 1 year. Been married for 20 years now. Why so fast? Dam hard to find a women with good character. Dam, dam hard.
damn, damn, damer hard to find a good pure honest guy!
GodGoodGrandeur GreatGlory, I don’t know what you mean by pure. I don’t think anyone has ever used that term with me, ever. But I’ll say that you might have to prioritize differently. You will never find a good man that’s a “bad boy” or an “alpha want-to-be.” If you have unrealistic standards like income over X, or hight over B, or a ring that’s X times monthly income (insert laughter) you are prioritizing wrong. Note that I’m not saying jobless, or cannot take care of himself with what he makes.
As far as I know, none of my friends have cheated on their wife’s. I don’t think that men cheating is as common as TV would want you to think. But I could be wrong.
i meant it is harder to get a good man than to get a good woman nowadays, especially in my environment. i didnt said u r pure bcz i dont know u personally. thank you for yr sharing.
I was ready to marry ma girl the first day we spoke. Very first day. Iknew that I knew
yes my dad knew he wanted to marry my mom and went to her mom and asked for permission 5months after meeting. then they got married 3 months later. they are married 36 years now. mom said she had a dream of meeting the man she's going to marry and it happened like that, she only saw the back of his head in the dream, but she saw the setting and scenario, height, hair. i think that's lucky they have a pretty solid marriage. but dad likes to be controlled and all the things he owns it's under my mom's name, he doesn't buy things for himself, but pays the bills and a real good provider for all 3 of his kids.likes the simple things in life.. lol i know a couple like that today though.
Molar Bear Any woman will be blessed to have a man like your dad
yeh i know but it's so hard to find, it's almost rare these days
sounds like tradisional chinese man, my dad too.
Not only is there No Time Limit, on when you KNOW, he/she is the one, or how long you Love them. I just completed my second book, dedicated to my husband, Edward w. Purvis, jr., Love Has No Expiration Date.
Yes I had a ring on my finger within the first 5 months of been with my now husband and our wedding day was the day we had our first date.so exactly 12 months after we had our date and still very happy nearly 16 years together and nearly 15 years been married with 3 kids
Steve get an Indian on this. Cause we have arranged marriages all the time! And those marriages are there for a looooonnnnnggggg time. It's not about how long you get to know a person for, it's about being able to love their good and bad. There is a strict difference between love and passion. Passion is short-term and love is long term and requires humility. If passion is what ones looking for, that person is not ready for marriage.
love this
How are arranged marriages about love at all. Y'all get married and have to learn to love or tolerate the other.
@@amberpryor22 and people who have been dating for 200 years before they get married somehow forget how to love and tolerate each other after they tie the knot and divorce after a couple of years at times. Where was the love in their "love marriage" then?
He didn’t say get engaged and married in 6 months. He just said you know. I think you do know within that time
I knew my girlfriend was the right person after the second phone call. Now we are happily married. Its not rocket science folks.
Amen but some people just want to play house no real comment
I married my husband 6 months after meeting him! Going on 5 years now. Love him to pieces.
Amen God bless you both
did you have people tell u it's to early or was everyone supportive?
I knew I wanted to marry my husband two months into our relationship and so did he! We married 2 years into our dating and engagement and we’ve been married almost 13 years now and have 8 kids 😊. I love him more than I did then and so does he!
AMEN
8 kids girl...you sure don't sleep😀😀😀😀
Yes. My fiancé and stared dating in September 2020 and we got engaged in April of 2021. I knew from around Christmas of 2020 that she was who I wanted for the rest of my life and she told me the day after Christmas that I was who she wanted for the rest of her life and I started planning how I was going to propose to her right then and there
How did you know she was the one?
Take the advice from those two is the way to be a baby mama. 6 months is more than enough time
Most men know almost right away, but it doesn't mean we gonna push things in and rush into the marriage
most experiened men, not young dudes i guess
A man may know in six months but a woman needs to see him in all kinds of situations over time in order figure out if she wants him.
Insecure woman be that
When you're over 30, you know lol
I agree with Steve, 6 months is enough time to get to know someone and decide if he/she is the right one for you. Also you can feel it the love and the happiness they bring for your life the time you been dating.
When you know you know. Yes!!
As soon as I met my husband, I knew it was different. After 2 months of being friends, he asked me to be his GF. 2 weeks later he told me he loved me, and a month after that he said he knew I was the woman he wanted to marry....Of course, it took him a freaking year after that to finally propose haha but the point is that we moved fairly quickly in our relationship. Fast forward to present. Were still happily married and expecting our first child together. It just depends on the type of relationship.
so fast...my previous nightmares make me set up a time-frame format for the procedures
One thing no one mentioned: it depends on how much quality time you spend in six months. If your only seeing them a couple times a week, then maybe not. But if your with each other all the time then absolutely yes that’s enough time. Also, these women did not understand the question. Just because you start to think about marriage at six months does not mean your getting engaged and married right away. Plenty of people know and still wait a while before asking
Andrew Fincher
You are contradicting yourself.
Fear runs your life.
I can respect that, but can you own it?
My parents dated for 3 months and got married. Now their 28 years strong... it’s definitely possible
my man proposed after 3 months that was five years ago
My parents knew each other- from introduction to "I do"- little less than a year before getting married; their time time dating within that year was only 3 months. And my father tells me, to this day, that he married the love of his life. My mother tells me she didn't want nothing to do with him at first, but he was persistent and so she went with the flow. My father never proposed- they just agreed they were to get married. 30 years later- still in love no matter what life throws at them!
I think it depends on the person because you can date someone for 10 years and don’t know them too. I know people that married in less than six months and have successful marriages, they’ve been married for over 30 years they just knew it was right. Sometimes you can’t put a time limit on love, I believe you will know what’s right for you.
sound like karma is the main factor, not time
STEVEEEEE, YOU SAID THAT! Yes! in 6 month WE DO KNOW!
My husband asked me to marry him after 5 months of dating. We will celebrate our 1yr anniversary in a couple of weeks 🥰 i feel maturity and age played major factors in our decision to marry quickly plus the stars were aligned ✨
I knew the first day I will marry my husband. We ended up dating for 5months and that was it...we were married. When you know, you know
Just to add to my earlier comment, some people have knowm each other for years and still dont know each other, so its not really about the timelength. Forever is not always a long time, forever can be the next two months, one week. Life can be short. We dont know how much time we have left, so if you know then go for it!!
Depends on the couple though. I was with my husband a year and got married after 10 months of engagement. I think he knew early I was for him but it took a little longer for me.
That is actually the timeline most people marry though within 2 yrs or so. At least you did not date 10 yrs get married then divorced after only 1 year like some of these comments stated.
diamonte, it's like Steve said we/men usually know. The reason your husband hung in there even when you were unsure is because he knew. He wasn't going anywhere.😂
I knew my husband was the love of my life with our first meeting! We moved in together three weeks of knowing each other, engaged by month 4. Married at 6 months. It is bliss! There is no timeline. 😊
I agree with the lady in the middle. You should have a general idea if you could see yourself longterm with this person. Not to say you're not still finding out things. But you should be able to say, yeah I can see this happening at some point.
“It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy;-it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others.”
- Jane Austen, “Sense and Sensibility”
People throw away long marriages for misguided affairs or exciting loves. Some newer friends are far closer to you than your own family. If you spend every moment together speaking honestly, deeply, and vulnerably often with another person, you probably have a better chance of making it than a lot of other people.
SeanDaNerd So very true
Preach it Steve. When two people are whole in their souls and meant to be, doesn’t matter how long they’ve been together. Time doesn’t define the relationship necessarily.
Facts. Personally I can tell within 24H. Doesn’t take that long to know!
Dave Z. Dejean lmaoo
Dave Z. Dejean You're a LIAR.. and why aren't you married
Vee Oby Lol right!?
McDonalds 24 hr. I feel like that's why people divorce so much
Yes, if as a woman you know yourself and you are dating a mature man then Yes.
I'm sorry, I can't receive relationship advice from women that haven't been married. I don't care how many times Steve's been married. He's a man. I date men. So I'll take his advice any day than from failed match makers.
The woman in the middle is married...double standard much?
I think its important to talk about it early on to make sure its something you both want. You don't wanna be with someone for a couple years and then find out they arent interested in marriage and you are. But I think talking about it is only the first step, you dont have to propose the next day!
If youre a grown ass woman and somebody's "girl" for years, he's gon leave or settle.
I only knew my husband for 4 months before I married him and we couldn't be happier, when you meet the right person you just know!
Amen! especially when you're on the more mature side of things.
My parent knew each other 3 months and they are now 27 years married, i personally couldn't but each person is different
My husband asked me to be his wife before our third month of dating, we got married in our fifth month. We will be celebrating 20 years in September. He said he knew within two weeks I was his wife.
My husband and I were married in 6 weeks😳😍!
When my husband saw me we fell in love . It was love at first sight and we have been married 37 years
I bet if you did a CZcams video on that everyone would watch! I certainly would. I’m subscribing to you right now just in case! 😉