Straight Talk: How Connected Should Couples Be?
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- čas přidán 5. 11. 2018
- Should couples always be in communication? Should they have joint bank accounts? Today’s Straight Talk panel tackles the topics!
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Being in love doesn’t mean you need to spend every minute together.
Trust my guy.
Yea shes talking like she has to be co dependet on her man. Like duh BOTH of yall are allowed to maintain your indivindual identotes as Human beings. You not siamese twins. Conjoined at the hip.
Testify.
Definitely, it is suffocating. I need my time
exactly!!
I’m not doing that joint account thing. I tried, he failed! Never ever again! I’m not letting anyone mess up my good credit or good standing with the banks. I don’t play with my finances. I don’t even do joint loans. Not even on my house but my name is definitely on the deed. I will never ever allow anyone to lead me into a ditch, especially not financially. I’m not putting anyone’s name on my car neither, especially since I’m paying on it by myself.
You just need to know the person you’re with and their thought patterns on finances. I know better with my husband and he’s not willing to learn. Yet he gets angry when I am able to do things. I have a very strong financial background through the Army and college. If he doesn’t want to take any of my advice, he will suffer financially alone. I believe in generational wealth.
Steve nailed it “if you’re happy for someone else’s happiness, that’s a toxic relationship” absolute facts!
Steve is so smitten with his wife...love it!
That is not a good thing.
Steve hit the nail on the head at 2:25!
I am not responsible for any human beings happiness - you are responsible for your own!
I like the 4 accounts . It makes sense
Steve always have the best advice every situation given to discuss with his guest panel and its base on his life experience that make it count.
"you are going to miss you.... if the other person is making you responsible for their happiness.... amen amen"
always have separate bank accounts because you NEVER know what a person is gonna do.
That is 💯 true.I agree with you and truely is like that myself.
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Is this not similar to boarding an airplane and expecting it to crash? Is either you trust the person or you don't. I don't see any advantage in being in a relationship and expecting it to fail.
My grandparents have had a successful marriage for 58 years. Their financial situation has always been they have their own bank accounts and they also have a joint account for bills. That’s what I plan on doing with my husband when I get married
Your answer is so wise. Makes total sense. Best of both worlds.
Yes you have to have some time alone and have your own hobbies but I think people tend to have a problem if their significant other is trying to live like they're single. If your significant other is trying to go to the club's or bars without you then of course that's going to be an issue in most relationships. You can't be going out all hours of the night and expect the other person to not be upset.
Zariaeda 007 Agreed 💯
Nefessa, that outfit is evvvvvvvverything.
WE MUST HAVE TIME FOR OUR SELF AND STILL BE IN LOVE IT CAN BE OVERLOAD
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Be happy in love, but don't lose yourself in it
The hair style distracts me...but love her advice.
Gurlllll lol!!! Yea that hair is very ummm different but I love her confidence tho.when u have confidence you can do anything so good for her lol🤷♀️ people like that give me confidence to be my best self even if its different than what other people like or do
I'll look past that Thomas Halbert do up only because of her good advice!
Tm Media 😂
123CREATIONS I agree, but can’t help but to notice the hair. Take the women in the middle her outfit is distracting too but in a good way. Love them all on the panel thou.
@@sincerelysha1404 Yea those sleeves were HUGGEEE LOL!!!
With my ex-husband I was completely financially dependent on him. when he ended our marriage I had babies and I had nothing of my own money or assets. it took a very long time to get on my feet and be fully independent. Never again will I be totally financially dependent on a man. not even a man that's my world.
Congratulations!
@@75Cee ?
Well done
That purple- Yes Nefessa!
spoildchik1 Nah
The part about couples needing space I have to disagree with this one. I've seen and met couples that spend and talk almost everyday all day and those are some of the happiest couples i have ever met. Some couples just enjoy each other's company. And when you get married it isn't about you anymore. Some of ya need to read those vows.
The photo of the burrito is fake
rocco mendez
Right
rocco mendez frrrrrr she thought she really had something going
a youtube channel faked it LOL
I was a single mom for 5 years. I've been in a relationship for over a year now. I love him, he's wonderful. But I had so much time to think, to process, to do my own thing. But now we have a blended family with 5 children. I am never alone, I never had free time. it's just not a thing now. sometimes I miss having a couple of hours now and then.
What happened to "Press it.Preesssss It"?
I love the money advise Steve gave. Looking forward to it! 😍
Who is these beautiful girl ..in the middle ... wow where can I get that purple ...outfit ..girl ....
Peris Ndirangu she is Nafessa Williams from a show called Black lightning,check her Instagram I’m sure she would have tagged the outfit
I hope females understand it works both ways
Nah that's what they don't comprehend. Just like they talk reckless like their ready to fight and then call police if you act the same. You really want to be in a grown up relationship not like your in school
No it is obvious that females cause most relationship problems (sarcasm)
Very true and the moment a guy says he needs his space she's going to go crazy
Good I'm glad it works both ways. I've been with my husband for 13 years and if he didn't get gone sometimes and give me some space to be at home and look how I want to look and take up however much of the bed I want to take up and eat my munchies without having to share I'd have to kill him. He's not out cheating and neither am I so I don't need to be calling him every fifteen minutes to find out what he's doing and neither does he. What's the issue? Sounds like you been dealing with some little kids.
Samantha Sowell you just could not resist being petty eh?
100% I think it is healthy to have one's own space. I would want my man to miss me, just like I want o miss him. Steve nailes it, it is toxic to rely on your partner for your happiness. As for money, I am 200% positive I will never be married, but Steve explained how I view finances.
Belinda Joy 😎
SWEETIE...AGREE SPACE/FINANCES...I HAVE BEEN ON BOTH SIDES MARRIED/ SINGLE FOR YEARS... MAY I ASK ANY PARTICULAR REASON WHY 200% YOU WILL NEVER GET MARRIED??
@@phillipswatson3452 I've never wanted to get married and now that I am over 50, that opinion has solidified. For me, marriage isn't a necessity for two people in love.
Belinda Joy 😎
SWEETIE....AGREE
THANKS FOR THE REPLY...
Half these women who talk about relationships are single AF
Yes but they’re right about this one.
Not all of them. Most women who talk about relationships. Have trouble in their relationships in some way? Complete emotions and feelings have alot to do with how y'all progress in your relationships? And keep your space to not feel smothered as well?
@Keyonna Crum But discussing how you weren't happy. It helps you succeed in your current relationship?
Experience, they have experience
@@aminawilliamson2694 if you got to argue about your own relationship you don't have very much experience you dealt with it but that's still not enough experience
It's okay having your time is healthy. You need to love yourself in order to be a better partner. I say a toxic relationship where a girl made a guy her sole reason for living and when they broke up she became super obssed with him.
Love you Steve your so inspirational, I watch always for advice.
❤️I like that they explains stuff on the show🤘🏽
What was the name of the rooster on looney tunes?😂 That's all I see w that hairstyle
Foghorn Leghorn. I say, I say Boy!😂
The lady in purple is a beautiful women and I love her outfit.
That’s not even Justin in the burrito photo . It’s a guy name brad Souza 😂💀
Yea I was confused when they said that
she outdated, she doesnt check the internet to know it was a yestheory prank lol
That hair...😒
It's ghetto fabulous
briantoswaggy
Lol...u already know.
Msjawanda A hot mess
Absolutely i agree with everything !
This is such an eye opener. Thank you Steve
When a guy needs space this conversation goes in a different direction
True!
So true! Finding my way back, to me! 😍
This blonde Mohawk is quite disturbing🤔🤔🤔🤔
lady inred True
What's up I can't believe somebody involved with a female that wears her hair like that and suppose to be a grown lady she's weird.
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Love Steve's closing word is really good
Men need it just as much too
Withrow Stockton amen to that
I’ll say it like I said to a friend the other day. I never got why interest in someone meant you have to go see them everyday and your whole routine changes now cause EVERYTHING revolves around this person. That to me is a recipe for disaster. It’s been proven to me time and time again. Why can’t we just take our time and organically fit into each other’s lives? No need to go from 0 to 100 with the togetherness. And then even after you’ve organically fit, still maintain who you are and what you have going on. As Steve said, you risk losing “you”. That’s not what a relationship is designed to do. It’s an enhancement not a substitute.
Steve’s advice 🙌
Wow! I've learned so much from watching your videos.
these women are absolutely gorgeous!! lovee this panel
Mr Harvey never looked better! Those shoes? Damn 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Nope nope nope my account is separate from my husband. My own father made sure of that he said that my generation of men are not looking to take responsibility and are looking for someone to lean on. Whatever bills need to be paid we pay it respectfully, no arguing about who touched who’s money.
Loving the look Steve. Was just saying the other day that you should wear prints.
I agree with that Steve, with the 4 account system .
Very true...100%
Great advice 💕💕💕 personal space and AT LEAST 4 accounts.
I'll keep that bank account tip for life!
Steve who is your stylist ....coz he needs a promotion .. coz your outfit especially your shoes without socks is fly ...#nosocksday ..steve
Peris Ndirangu right Steve looks bombbb
Hahahahahaha
he actually dresses himself and also fly is right!
Peris Ndirangu Marjorie Harvey
My parents had joint accounts. Married for going on 37 years and I've NEVER heard them argue about money.
Not because you did not hear them argue means they never did. Ask your parents and find out
@@seygra20 actually I did and they still didn't (or if they did it was very rare). My husband and I do the same and no problems. To be frank, it does help when u and ur spouse have similar spending styles.
Love Uncle Steve
Agree with Steve's financial organization.
My husband and I have separate accounts, we each have bills that we pay and then we have our own money to get what we need/want. We've never had fights over money. Not because we had plenty (because we did NOT and still have months where it's tight) but we made a point to agree BEFORE we combined households.
We keep funds separate and pay half and half on bills. But if he needs money or I need money our funds are readily available to each other
Did she not see that wasn’t actually Justin Bieber eating the burrito sideways 😂😂
Steve those ankles my guy lol
Yo her hair is awesome af
Women with all this bragging about being independent 🙄. Everyone should be independent as adults. That's basic
Quick sidebar: Nafessa looks gorgeous. Makes me want to start watching Black Lightning again.
Wow really want to know where that grey suit outfit is from!!!
Yessssssssss........ 😎
Did Steve just say Majorie gets more money in her allowance than he does? What? Steve, you’re a good man.
Because she buys everything for the kids and grandkids and when it comes to Hailoday she buys everything like for Halloween they had a carnival she spent the money to have it.
+Billy Mitchell She spent her money.
Oh no clingy person in a relationship does not work that is a sign of a unhealthy relationships. I love my freedom and space. Growing togather in a relationship does not mean clingy to each other everyday all day nor wanting to every move a person make.Give Space to breath
“And she put both our names on it” 😅
The sideways burrito picture was a set up with someone who looks like him haha can’t believe that prank made it big
That pink suit tho❤❤❤
Hey, it's Jillian Michaels. I thought it was her during Harvey's Hundreds lol.
Nope!
Me: Personal checking and savings
Him: personal check and savings
House will have an account for bills, with both of our names on it.
Better yet, which bill you wanna pay? And just go pay it.
It’s definitely necessary to have time to yourself, but if it’s because you don’t want to be around your parter is where you have an issue!
I prefer to call it me time, because it's not you trying to be away from your partner it's you trying to be at your best before spending time again with your partner
My wife and I got 4 accounts as well between us. I got mine where my paycheck goes. She got hers were her paycheck goes. We got a joint account for paying bills and whatnot. And we got a joint saving account for vacations, special events, the kids, etc.
Married 6 years in a relationship for 11 i am at this point right now: i miss me.
Lord Baby you are still a newly wed. I am at 50 years of marriage and I love him dearly but I have my woman den and he has his man cave out in the garage where he spends more than 50% of his time. Thank goodness for SPACE
so why do women generally push and pressure for marriage?
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I agree all the way, these ladies no their stuff
I would say check their relationship status before taking their advice. "Parallel lives "...What??? Why get married? Nothing wrong with a little space but people who are to independent end up breaking up.
I believe in space. Honey? You can stay, I'll be back in about 90min
Also, when your spouse/mate agrees with the space, they don't want to smother you
This is interesting because it's always smothering when it's the Male calling, looking for & asking where are you but when it's the fenale calling, looking for & asking where are you
I can’t imagine not having a joint account with my spouse. If we share a name, a bed, a life…why would we not share a bank account?
What steve said at end i thought all people did that
Tell me something that start with Pork? CUPINE 🤣
yes thank you for bringing up dysfunctional
As long as Bill's are paid: household expenses ect, then what's left - your money is your money ... so I think household expenses should come 50/50 out of both parties which is probably best in a joint account. But then what's left is what you have earned so you can keep it
*this is my opinion and experience of a household with no children
Need space but not too much!!!!!!
That hair is a WTH moment.
Yeah what the hell was steve thinkin
I like this lady in red ...BUT i am sorry but her heir style is horrible :-(
I love my own company ,I prefer being on my own that way I don't have to conform,or try to be something that I'm not?
Shid I have 4 accounts and I’m single lol
Lydia Renee hahahahahahha that was good
Everyone needs space.
Marjorie is Steve's queen ❤
Yes u need space
Second topic I agree with steve on having multiple accounts joint, savings, hers & mine don't ask me about what's in mine an in want ask you about yours I don't however agree with big hair
How do you get on this show
Nafessa😍❤
If you need space? from what?
At 4:40 some women would say “thats not a husband thats a roommate”
The burrito picture wasn't even Justin that was a guy dressed up as Justin doing a prank...
In 30 years of marriage Paul and Linda McCartney stayed ONLY ONE day apart 💏.
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Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter bought neighbouring houses because they needed their "space". However, they lasted 10yrs.
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Each couple needs to define their own way of living with each other.
Join both accounts together once you have kids for the kids sake