School tips for non binary people/transguys
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- čas přidán 21. 10. 2017
- COMMENT DOWN BELOW WHAT HELPED YOU BEING TRANS IN SCHOOL. (That's an order)
So everyone is back in school, uni, college whatever (or not, maybe you're retired. I want do be you rn). So yeah tips for being transgender ftm/trans dude/non binary/trans masculine what have you IN SCHOOL. So if you need some tips then here is my story and some tips that might help ya. Stay safe kids!
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Just wanted to let you know that I don’t identify with non-binary anymore. Just trans guy (he/him) ✌🏼
Oh thank God, because I keep saying "Bro" when I comment and if you were still identifying as Non-binary I'd feel like a jerk
@@supanachuru9896 True, thanks 😊
Kk
So it's just a thing you can decide to be when ever it suits. Ha. I used to be non-binary but now I'm not. I was a girl but now I'm a boy. Bs
@StrictlySnape there's no such thing as agab, genatalia assign gender. If you're self harming and neglecting studies maybe you need psychological advice
I watched part of this video, paused, came out to my dad and came back to watch it 😂
What?!xD I mean how did it go?? How did he react?
Sky not the best
Well, that's kinda shitty, I'm sorry.
I hope you are still good?
Sky I'm ok now, thanks 👍🏻
This is iconic, hope things are okay for you
Thank you so much.
I am non-binary and bi.
My parents know I’m bi so do my friends
But not that I’m non-binary
edgy same!
Same
Same lol
Same my parents know I'm lesbian but not non binary
rash
OMG SAME WITH ME TWINSSSS
I came out last friday to my class as agender :)
YES! How did it go? how are you feeling?
Noah Hella It went pretty good. My class was very nice about it. No one said anything mean and it was all good. But the moment I came out felt kind of unrealistic. I don't know if that's normal.
that's amazing! Happy for you! Yeah feels weird right? To say the words and it becoming more real. Anyways hope you're doing well and people are nice to you :)
This "agender" has to be the gayest shut lol
Denimso so your personality is based solely on your gender? That's pretty sad
2017 me: oh this seems interesting I'll watch it for R E S E A R C H purposes
2019 me: yah non-Binary boi gonna get tipssss
I've seen a few people with stickers that say their pronouns in university, and that seems to help. Some people don't always read them, but it's a good idea. Also, if there's a wheelchair accessible or single stall washroom, often times they are not gendered and will be your best friend (especially at a certain time of the month)! Great to change in as well.
that's awesome, such a great idea!
Single stall bathrooms are okay, but please don't use Disabled washrooms unless you're 100% sure someone won't need it :)
I tried to get into this one school (I didn't get in), and when I shadowed a student there, in every class people would say their name FOLLOWED BY THEIR PRONOUNS and it just seemed like an instinct! Like even cisgender people said their pronouns and I'm in shock. We need to make this a thing everywhere.
Something that helped me in high school was copying the manner of other guys. In university I just simply do what I enjoy since gender isn't as forced. Also if your binder feels too tight go a size up. If you're stealth and talking about childhood just mention "when I was little or a kid"
You said girls football team and I got so hype until I realized you weren’t talking about American football haha
@@SurfingBOceanNesto22 this is a trans only event go home
Just a little positive message for anyone reading through the comments:
If you don’t know if people around you will be excepting, just wait until the topic of gender comes up (like bring up a trans/nb friend that you have, or someone in the media) and see how they feel talking about that one
Tbh now I feel a lot more confident about coming out as non-binary because of my little cousin. She was confused about what gender I was and I said that I didn’t really care, but she could call me a girl (b/c I’m not out yet and that’s how my family sees me) and she was cool with it but many times I heard her use he/him instead and mostly no one heard but no one really cared. Like, as long as I wasn’t bothered it didn’t bother them.
I have a similar experience with my 5yo cousin, he has two older sisters, so he always treats me like I'm his big brother, because I'm the only one who likes superheroes like he does. And the sweetest part is that sometimes he calls me with male pronouns without realizing (we speak Spanish, and pronouns go attached with adjectives). I love him so much because of that, he's the only one in the family who actually sees me as the boy i am.
I’ve been wanting to come out as non binary to my friend, but I don’t know if they will understand. I lost all of my old friends a few years ago when I came out as bi, and I don’t want to go through that again. Another issue is that I’m pretty “girly” for a non binary person. I wear makeup occasionally and leggings everyday. Where I live is very conservative and I have already been told that “all gays should stay in the closet” and “vegans should be dead” so I don’t really want to be any more different then I already am.
good luck buddy.
ugh that sucks.. be careful kid!
Stay safe! Come out when you can be sure your safety can be prioritized.
Honestly, saaaaaaaaaame I live in Texas and both my parents are against lgbtq, and every adult in Texas pretty much brings up the bible, you're also right about the vegan thing. I'm vegetarian and honestly no one is accepting :/ it fuckin sucks, but a majority of my friends are supportive, so you should try too. Friends and kids our age seem to understand how we feel better than adults, they may even be trying to come out as well. Whatever happened/happens (I see your comment was posted 8 months ago) you got this, good luck
I came out as non-binary to my friends last October! Although my friends were hella accepting and many helped me out with everything like dysphoria and honestly just getting through everything
I'm so happy and grateful that like all the toilets in my college are unisex tbh
I'm trying to decide at the moment if I want to go by different pronouns and put Non-Binary on my 3rd year uni applications for next year, it's so stressful but this video has been good to help me figure out how I would navigate it, thank you
you're welcome! I hope it works out for you
Thank you, so do I haha :)
AmberandCo. What do you mean "decide" you're clearly just trying to be trans because it's "cool"
Ah my bad sorry, wrong choice of words, what I meant my "decide" was that I'm only just starting to realise things about myself and figuring out how I can feel comfortable in my own skin. I am working through whether I am comfortable enough within myself to show these new discoveries about myself to the world. I, the same as everyone else can not decide their gender (or anything else about your identity for that matter) however you can decide if, when and how you portray and share that with the people around you. What I should have said is "I am working out at the moment whether I am ready within myself to go by different pronouns etc.." I assure you the last think I want to is go on along with societal "trends", I'm trying to be my most authentic self, not "cool". Thank you for picking me up on my misuse of wording :)
My friend Cameron is trans
He moved to my school in the 9th grade
So we had gym together so because he was born female he had to use the girls locker room he did not mind cause the boys did not like him
We had a girl in our gym class who could not understand that even though he used the girls locker room he identified a male
So she always used she/her pronouns this pissed me off but Cameron was cool anyway
How's Cameron nowadays?
so...my whole life i knew i was non binary but today only came to terms with it and wasn’t ashamed IM A PROUD NON BIANRY! sorry it just felt good to do that 😊😂❤️❤️
I use he/him and they/them, or used to. I had to drop he/him because even if I introduced myself with they/them first, everyone would choose to use he/him. I'm non-binary/transmasc and it feels like people were constantly ignoring that I was non-binary and I was bejbg called male etc... It was kinda shit.
For anyone questioning, just remember to be firm about who you are. No one else can decide that for you.
Hey ik it's been awhile but thanks 4 the tip!
From some1 questioning being agender !
In so glad you get the whole backpack thing! I've never heard anyone else talk about it and I thought it was just me
:)
I'm so glad you linked the backpack in the description.
The backpack thing was one of the reasons I knew I was trans, I had one of those and I strap it just under my chest area, so it really highlighted everything. I used to hate so much that, and then I realized that was dysphoria. Now I don't use it, but I'm thinking about using it like you do, maybe it will help me.
Thanks for the vid Noah you're always helping and cheering me up
what's rly helping me as an agender (they/them) in college is having other trans/nonbinary friends. they're always there to correct others when im feeling awkward about it. I think having lgbt+ friends in generally helps, like my bi friend once referred to me as they/them infront of the teachers (which i didnt mind since ive already told her i dont mind being outed in school). just surround yourself with people u know u can trust and they'll make you feel at home with your new identity
DragonWatch there are only 2 genders boy
Gappster what do you think is going to happen when you post stuff like that? 😂
Gappster, that's dumb.
Camille Iacono no it's a fact
Gappster No, they were right, it's dumb.
Nope. Sorry. I lived with a mouse for almost two years because it just wouldn't go away. I named it Jerry and we bonded hahaha. It was freaky at first and yeah, they probably aren't clean but I couldn't get rid of it so when it popped up, I would just let it rummage through whatever it was doing hahaa
hahaha that's awesome
I had a pet spider named Greg for a few days. It was one of those little ones that live for like 3 weeks, so it's probably dead now. My mom won't let me keep the big scary spider she found outside :[
Also, another tip I would give that I'm sure you all know is that if you feel more neutral or masculine some days and more feminine some days, bind your chest in some safe way to be more neutral or masculine and other days, you can not bind. Also, I found that having short hair long enough to where I can wear pretty bows allows me to be feminine while other days I can choose to not wear bows and feel more neutral or masculine. I like that about me - giving myself freedom to present myself confidently and feel cute. :)
I usually come to school by bicycle so change my binder before first lesson starts. If I change binder to basic sports bra during a school day, I've noticed that it's very uncomfortable to wear sweaty sports bra, so I've tried to keep also a dry one with me.
that's very smart!
Mice be like...
IM COMING OUT
I was female but I’m non-binary (mainly masculine). Any tips for the beach/pool? I always feel so uncomfortable when I get in my swim gear. I wear a tan binder and swim trunks. I don’t really wanna wear a t-shirt when I swim cuz it sticks to you when wet. Any advice?
that's what I did as well. I also used sports tape but swimming is always an issue. I know that Radimo sells some non binary swimwear. www.radimo.la/?category=SWIM maybe that's something you want to try out
This just popped up in my recommended, thank you so much for all the tips! The backpack one is going to help me so much in the coming weeks!
*[non-binary happiness noises]*
How to deal with mice
Just walk up to it say hi shake its hand and ask it politely to leave
Thank you so much for this. The binder for sports tip will save me.
Hey dude. I am new here, but I wanted to say that I already love this channel!! It is amazing and I feel really welcome here ❤
Welcome
Noah Hella 😁
Thanks for your tips, your video called me down as I came here because J was worrying about doing gym as a non binary person in school and it really stressed me out. Your story about your queer football team made me optimistic, I hope maybe my gym class will be accepting :) as well as my teachers. Thanks again
Yes this is what needed for so long-
I'm gonna go back to school in a few months, all of us are, and well as someone who is exploring my gender, I needed this. :) it was really helpful, only my online friends know that I'm enby but, then again, only a few them know-
So I feel as if something is wrong with me because as a non binary person I don't get dysphoric with my "assigned" Gender/pronouns. I have come out to at the most 4 of my friends.
There aint nothing wrong with that :)
Noah you’re so fricken helpful and an amazing human being. Never change for the world. We need you Noahhhhh ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
aww omg you people
Noah Hella we love you!!!!!
Wish i found this when u were still online , this vid rlly helped (:
I don't go to school 😂😂
But I go quickly into the right loos and wear button down shirts (flannel & denim) to hide da chest as well as straight cut jeans and a lil bit contour XD
Noah thank you for these videos they help so much keep doing what you're doing you are helping so many people
aww you serious? thank you, this means a lot!
Noah Hella yeah I'm waiting on T and these videos help a lot thank you
Great vid homie dont worry bout voice crack i didnt realize it only cuz u ssid it. I love that ppl are coming out as no binary and gender fluid sooo much sooner i came out on FB at 19 as bi then at 24 i came out as genderflyid and PAN not buy....it sooooo goox to see teens and even grade school kids are not only self aware woke and corageous enough to come out as trans, enby and GF if i ever have kids i secretly hope they are at least non hetero BUT ID SOOOOO LOVE NON CIS KIDS...they will be raised nonbinary/genderfluid im sure of that. Anywsy cool vid thx cutie stay strong 🖤
noah i’m sososososo proud of you & you’re such an inspiration to me to be more confident & know that my gender identity is okay. i do online homebound schooling due to illnesses and this year before school started i emailed all my online teachers and told them about my name change. but i use they/them pronouns and it’s confusing to people so i didn’t tell my teachers about my pronouns bc it was just like too much and my teachers only call me by my preferred name and don’t really call me she/her so it’s okay:))
thank you cutie
Noah Hella ahh thank you !! yeah,, i might tell them about my pronouns, but i only have school for 2 more months anyways. i’m such a procrastinator 😅. it’s probably bad but i kinda just don’t feel like dealing with it? idk i probably should though haha
Remi Young Hey I see you ;) yeah do whatever mate, I kinda did the same with some spaces that I was in. Coming out is such a hassle and all the talking and sometimes defending your identity sucks.
I just found your channel and you seemed like a very nice guy. By the way, I love your voice. I hope mine can be like yours when I start in T.
(Sorry for my bad english;;;)
Thank you, Noah ❤️
you're welcome Jesse
Wow that are really good tips! Very good video, thank you!
to go along with the backpack tip, you can take out heavy things like books and just carry them so the backpack doesn't pull down
It's fundamental not to seen alone at school where there is so much predatory behavior if you can't make friends you have at least to surround yourself with witnesses 😕
Get a pet snake or borrow one for a couple of days. Keep it in it’s tank, though. The mice should smell the snake and run.
Absolutely lovely💞
Dude you remind me of Fenriz lol not entirely sure why maybe personality and mannerisms, and in your looks a bit as well, its a compliment I promise 😂😊🖤
Thanks for sharing your experience at university.
Lol, me going in men's restrooms: from ibrary to restaurant to cafe (publically): uhm.... yes. *goes in very confident for some reason, cos I actually even took a poop and thats top notch meaning: Im comfortable....
Walks out nervously again however, washes hands, tries to avoid eye contact lol I actially havent gone to any public restrooms ever since art school.... like 3 months ago or one month into T and now that my voice is dropping etc.... I am kinda nervous again.
It’s dope that your school had a football team for girls i with my school did
Wow thank you so much!! I’ve been out as non binary for over a year to my friends and out as pansexual to everyone and I just came out to my teachers as nb
Jordan P Yes it is and if your opinion is going to hurt someone or is rude/transphobic maybe you should keep it to yourself.
I have a tip for dealing with mice; Get a cat!
If you're not allowed cats, get an angler fish.
Now i know what bookbag to get
I wish i saw this a year ago
ah shit.. hope it helps now!
Bruhh idk if I’m trans or Non Binary this dysphoria fucking me uppp! But like seriously I can’t oml
Very good tips.
They/them singular pronouns have been added to the dictionary!!
what helps me the most is that my friends Hayley and serenity have never been afraid to support me and who I am , they are the best friends a guy could have
What do I do if I'm scared to tell my teachers about me being nonbinary?
My mom keeps telling me it is a phase, how do I know whether it is or not?
well, I suggest that you read up on it. See if any symptoms or how you feel apply to you. Really, only time will tell if it's a phase or not. Try experimenting with pronouns too! That's helps a lot.
honestly i think people are constantly in phases and some last longer than others (2 weeks or 60 years) and the amount of time that you feel a certain way doesnt necessarily have anything to do with how intensely you feel whatever it is. in short, you might feel differently at some point in the future, and thats okay. you still deserve love and respect and support right now.
thanks for the tips noah they help me out a lot ! :)
im nonbianery but not out yet and i hate having to use the girls bathroom like sometimes im fine and other times a wave of dysphorea just hits me like a truck and i hate it
i remember when i left school i looked super fem and closeted- but over the summer i got haircuts, a glowup, and now i look quite masc, im not even sure if my classmates will recognize me- but i was wondering if theres anything else i should do so im just searching up back to school tips for transmasc ppl-
Thank you :)
Hey, I just found you and your channel of course hehe, umm :D ...soo I noticed the Dutch language on your pillow, so do you live in the Netherlands? I'm just curious & I'm german btw. :) (Btw x2: I got exactly the same light string (Lichterkette) that is on your bedxD ) & (Btw x3: You're pretty funny, plus I like your voice, it's kinda relaxing to me)
Hope you are doing good these days:)
At the moment I have only one binder which I got from one of the trans* group hosts who have had a top surgery so he don't need it anymore, and I don't know what size is it, I think it's correct size for me (still not too big). I'm just wondering that how can u know if having too small binder?
I found my correct size by going to the GC2B website and there they have a measuring system. So you need to measure yourself and then you'll see which size is right for you!
High school was the ultimate hole of shaming for me.
I came out when I was 9 as a lesbian but no one knows that I’m non binary
(Don’t @ me saying I was too young and didn’t know because I grew up around lgbtq+ and I’m still that way today)
I’ve been looking for tips because I’m moving and going to a new school so I’m using that as my opportunity to be myself
Thank you for making this video because it is very helpful BUT...
Does anyone have any tips for coming out to family as non binary? I’m still kinda scared 😅😅
I have a question if you were customers at my store and really want to help you with ur shopping. How would you feel is I told you let me know if you need help finding something? What do you think if put a sign that say mens jewellery? I want to do it but I don't want to scare people like u away.
Thank you so so much
you are so welcome, glad it helped
backpacks suck oh man i rly need a bag like that
Thanks 😊
I am genderfluid, I guess my life was complicated enough as it was. At the same time I feel bless and cursed
Im not nonbinary or trans but i am genderfluid, i go through alot of of male and nonbinary days though so this helped!!!
My middle school had a all-gender bathroom but I'm not sure my high school will. I hope I don't have to walk across the school just to use the bathroom :(
@@SurfingBOceanNesto22 this is a trans only event go home and stop picking on freshmen kids
We have early SATs at my school and they have you put your sex aND I DIDN'T WANT TO DO THAT SO I THREW AWAY THE APPLICATION-
Im about to go into middle school (6th grade) and im trans male idk what bathroom i should really use because im going to introduce myself as male but dont want to be caught in the female restroom but at the same time i still have feminine parts sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo like any help here?
they say schools are opening soon so im watching
The bathroom problem
I’m terrified
My school makes me use the girls locker room and the girls bathroom.
your looking nice :)
your face shape changed
i thought this was mark thomas for a minute
the teachers at my school refuse to use the correct name, pronouns, and don't let you go to the locker rooms/restrooms that you feel more comfortable with. most of the kids are like that too.
my school is lovely.
Same
Lol why do so many trans* people have the name noah? When i‘m coming put i want my name to be noah too! And i knew this long before i realized so many trans* people have this name haha
Tokyono yeah same. I just like it. And it’s a popular name in general. Who cares ;)
Noah Hella true d:
How to come out as Genderfluid to class.
And even better, how to make your teachers call you a different name / pronouns ;-;
I will finally go get a haircut. I need a binder as well but I still need to come out with words before everyone else asks themselves. Uhm- I'm just really nervous.
I plan to come as pansexual or whatever I may be when I’m thirteen and a half. Yes, I’m a little twelve year old kid, tell me I’m too young to know what I am yet.
join gsa (gay straight alliance) or make one
in my experience the kids in gsa are cool with trans people and sometimes you'll meet other trans people so you'll have a group of people who'll accept you and who you can talk to
The GSTA in my old high school SUCKED.
what do you do if people refuse to use your pronouns? (they ain't my friends but still)
HOLY CRAP YOUR VOICE
hahaha ikr
How to deal with mice in a big building: get a cat
Ayy I saw the pillow in the background so I'm assuming you're Dutch? What pronouns do you use in Dutch cuz that's a thing I'm struggling with
Joëlle Haha scherp! Je kunt hen/hun gebruiken of die/diens. Ik gebruik ze niet meer maar dit zijn de meest voorkomende neutrale voornaamwoorden.
Ah, bedankt voor de reactie (: Je maakt echt nuttige videos trouwens
In Ireland we have uniforms and if you are non binary (me) you had to wear the girl uniform ( if born girl) tor the boys ( if born boy) which I think is stupid but it the rules so I have to wear a skirt 😢😢😢
Same
What do we do if we have to change for gym and we cant use the stalls and this is before coming out to my mom and school
This is a year later, but I’d suggest wearing hoodies and changing shirts and stuff underneath. Or change during passing time in the bathroom!
So attractive...
I'm Nonbinary, and while I havent settled on a new name I have one that might be official. By the end of this year or beginning of next I'll be moving to a rather conservative small town.
Now, my family knows that I'm nonbinary, they're okay with it, and by the time I move I'm planning to have the new name in place and my family fully uses my pronouns.
HOWEVER, once again I'm moving to a small conservative town and going to High School there. I have no idea how people are going to react to me. I've been trying to stay prepared, learning self defense, hiding myself in a very androgynous way but if anyone sees this I would really appreciate some tips on what to do.
Just be yourself. I'm in London, UK .....just gay and no-one cares here much...but your "small conservative town" sounds a bit scary so take care. This is a very cool trans channel czcams.com/video/ixBHwU29npo/video.html
does anyone have tips for periods and going to the bathroom in 8th grade
i can NOT come out cause my grandma is very transphobic and i live with her so ill get my ass beat
in our school we cant bring backpacks to the bathroom, and when i start school this week is when my period will be coming.
I pass as a cis guy and everyone thinks im cis except for my name "audrianna", I want to email my teachers and say "hey can you please use the name/nickname Finn for me since I dont like my real name. thank you."
but I am scared if they will not be accepting and will call my parents and grandparents and out me, if that happens then i will be yelled at and most likely be kicked out of my grandmas house /srs
so if anyone cal help please please respond fast
Jesus you're handsome af
i'm non binary & i like girls & it's hard because everyone judges me...
I'm non binary I need help explaing the concept of being non binary