McCafferty - The Rise and Fall (Part 1)

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  • McCafferty - The Rise and Fall (Part 1)
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    Musical projects from McCafferty's former members:
    Sister Sandy (Chris, Wes, Evan) - sistersandyband.bandcamp.com/...
    Ola Mesa (Chris, Wes) - olamesa.bandcamp.com/
    STIF (Chris, Wes) - stifmusic.bandcamp.com/releases
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    Hello everyone, today we will be talking about an emo/indie/punk band called McCafferty from Medina, OH. The band suffered many breakups throughout their career due to their frontman, Nick Hartkop.
    That's what this video is about.
    Thank you.
    Best,
    Nate
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    I deeply appreciate your support.
    Best,
    Nate

Komentáře • 957

  • @NateTheMateForever
    @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +711

    How do you explain McCafferty to someone?
    Edit: Thank you Daisy for putting so much work into the Google doc. If you're reading this, I hope you have a great week.

    • @bgl1335
      @bgl1335 Před 4 lety +172

      Nate The Mate homophobic front bottoms

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +60

      Helpthony Metano BRO 😂😅

    • @alexzemaitis1207
      @alexzemaitis1207 Před 4 lety +105

      Helpthony Metano No, more like The Front Bottoms’ drunk uncle who’s also a trump supporter

    • @crashgeekdicoot
      @crashgeekdicoot Před 4 lety +15

      a pity party that sounds like tfb

    • @starylize
      @starylize Před 4 lety +63

      a band i used to listen to before realizing the lead was a dick. :/

  • @niconico4962
    @niconico4962 Před 4 lety +3960

    I'm kind of getting tired of discovering bands at random only to one or two months later find out stuff like this and feeling bad when I listen to their songs, it happened way too many times

    • @bryanmorfin9769
      @bryanmorfin9769 Před 4 lety +158

      Same here!!! I rarely do research first so about a week ago I discovered brand new and then I found out what they did and now this band! Oh well 😔 there’s better bands anyways

    • @muchfunnysuchcomedy
      @muchfunnysuchcomedy Před 4 lety +21

      @@bryanmorfin9769 read into the brand new thing further. It's bullshit.

    • @emilovesyou3005
      @emilovesyou3005 Před 4 lety +108

      It’s fucked up but I’m honestly still gonna listen to their music the same

    • @ppgang1694
      @ppgang1694 Před 4 lety +36

      Well I mean if you get bored I got a punk/grunge album out it's not a band it's just me playing guitar and screaming in my room but you won't ever have to worry about my music stopping over a feud czcams.com/play/PL2zPjBBLgGCUwgV9gGPbllvWSAS6IBN65.html

    • @doghat1619
      @doghat1619 Před 4 lety +135

      You can separate the art from the artist, good music is still good music regardless of who made it.

  • @gobelindecoom3063
    @gobelindecoom3063 Před 4 lety +2568

    I highly recommend trying to give "the front bottoms" a listen, they sound similar to McCafferty to me, plus my boy Brian (lead singer) isn't a complete and total asshole

  • @Thex57
    @Thex57 Před 4 lety +944

    Why is it that all the bands in this genre are either broken up or fucked up

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +231

      this hurt because it's factual information

    • @cozycowboy
      @cozycowboy Před 4 lety +141

      I mean, the genre is all about putting your feelings right out there and it attracts a lot of very troubled people. With troubled (and usually people struggling with mental illness) people, comes troubled relationships

    • @basedsouljah
      @basedsouljah Před 3 lety +71

      WHO. THE. HELL. EXPECTS "EMO" ADJACENT BANDS TO HAVE THEIR SHIT TOGETHER? LOOOOL

    • @wilson1889
      @wilson1889 Před 3 lety +29

      I recommend the front bottoms.

    • @HermsWorldWide
      @HermsWorldWide Před 3 lety +23

      damn wouldnt have expected emo bands to have issues behind them. crazy i guess xD

  • @andrewgallagher3596
    @andrewgallagher3596 Před 4 lety +826

    Really brings new meaning to the intro of beachboy...

    • @abiislip746
      @abiislip746 Před 4 lety +90

      Yeah and the part thats like "Lindsey let me kiss your forehead" =/

    • @hankfleming0560
      @hankfleming0560 Před 4 lety +34

      And trailer trash for that matter

    • @MothDotSwag
      @MothDotSwag Před 3 lety +72

      People also ignore how at the end of one of his songs he says "stfu or ill end it, i fucking will"

    • @crazedhen7363
      @crazedhen7363 Před 3 lety +3

      @@MothDotSwag which song was it?

  • @silasguzman7119
    @silasguzman7119 Před 4 lety +723

    This was probably one of the worst band exposures for me. Never in my life have I connected to a band more than Mccafferty, and to find out that Nick is the same abuser he screamed in his music against, it's heartbreaking and it sucks. I met him in 2019 at one of their last shows, it's insane what I would find out later.

    • @dahgurr4833
      @dahgurr4833 Před 3 lety +25

      Grlwood. thats all im gonna say.

    • @gremlinwithstickyhands3704
      @gremlinwithstickyhands3704 Před 3 lety +17

      yeah same exactly this comment for me.
      I find this happens often to me like even in real life?? Like I’m an abuse survivor and ppl in real life will try to get close to me and then once they think they’ve earned my trust they try to just DEAD SPRINT over my boundaries?? Like, dude. Of course they hit a wall immediately bc i have a million fucking walls for that exactly reason but bruh you really just tried that

    • @gremlinwithstickyhands3704
      @gremlinwithstickyhands3704 Před 3 lety +3

      dah gurr: wait is there something wrong with grlwood I read other comments oh god oh shit

    • @gremlinwithstickyhands3704
      @gremlinwithstickyhands3704 Před 3 lety +4

      dah gurr I GOOGLED IT ARGUHHK

    • @zackargyle7967
      @zackargyle7967 Před 3 lety +5

      Got a mccafferty tattoo then found out

  • @beansfebreeze
    @beansfebreeze Před 4 lety +658

    I'm so upset because I just heard their hits last month and immediately learned all this. Why is this scene so damn cursed 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +137

      feels that way, huh? I want bands that suck to be filled with garbage people, not all the good ones!!! For real though, all this is tragic, and I feel for anyone tangled up in the drama

    • @abby4266
      @abby4266 Před 4 lety +29

      The same thing happened to me. I look up a band after listening to their songs and the first things that show up are bad. Happened with GRLwood too :(

    • @OK-rx3xl
      @OK-rx3xl Před 4 lety +6

      It's not just this scene, it's in every musical genre and in everyday life.

    • @garrettcarrigan2354
      @garrettcarrigan2354 Před 4 lety +4

      Literally what happened to me, I found bottom by McCafferty on Spotify after listening to a bunch of The Front Bottoms songs. Then I found out what a pos Nick is.

    • @skato7291
      @skato7291 Před 4 lety +6

      Same thing happened with panuccis pizza. Mccafferty and panuccis were my favorite bands in like 2016 and got me through my rock bottom. It hurt to drop these bands that I was so in love with but I'm not supporting abusers no matter how much I love their art.

  • @doom_shr00m54
    @doom_shr00m54 Před 4 lety +704

    I personally love McCaffertys music, It’s so unique and just speaks with you. For those who feel the same way, the best thing you can do is listen to his music on non-Official videos. Lyric videos, fan animations, etc. and not be supporting him but you can still enjoy the music. It’s tragic that all these singers are getting cancelled, but sadly I won’t stop listening to the music because it really sticks with me. As I said though, support the lyric vids, the fan animations, and all that shit and you won’t be supporting him in any way.

    • @katherina6843
      @katherina6843 Před 3 lety +19

      listen to tfb

    • @doom_shr00m54
      @doom_shr00m54 Před 3 lety +1

      katie I love them ❤️❤️❤️

    • @katherina6843
      @katherina6843 Před 3 lety

      @@doom_shr00m54 same! wats ur fav song>?

    • @follows_the_rain1160
      @follows_the_rain1160 Před 3 lety +8

      Thank you well watching this video I learned a lot about what actually happened behind the band and I still want to listen to the music but not support them but I didn’t know how to. you give me ideas and ways how to listen to the music without supporting the band so thank you for that

    • @spoonuwu3195
      @spoonuwu3195 Před 3 lety +2

      @@follows_the_rain1160 hey, there's a Google drive out there with their entire discography for free it should come up in a couple Google searches but I can lin you if not. It's a good way nit to support him as a lot of lyric videos and such can be claimed and still give money through ad revenue. Hope this helped!

  • @donniecady
    @donniecady Před 4 lety +687

    I played McCafferty for my mom and told her it was a new front bottoms song and she believed me

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +140

      don't tell Nick

    • @BXD84
      @BXD84 Před 4 lety +9

      How does your mom know who Front Bottoms are?

    • @rabihbourji2069
      @rabihbourji2069 Před 4 lety +36

      @@BXD84 Because she's cool

    • @donniecady
      @donniecady Před 3 lety +7

      @@BXD84 she’s a huge fan lol

    • @daddylonglegs3420
      @daddylonglegs3420 Před 3 lety +5

      my mom doesnt like the front bottoms, which sucks because i love them. she does listen to mom jeans with me though haha
      edit: not anymore obviously, we were both disappointed to hear about bart and eric

  • @Nugget-bw9oy
    @Nugget-bw9oy Před 4 lety +411

    I hate discovering really good bands, two months in they’re shitty in person. Just let me find a gooooood band

    • @bowiieh5187
      @bowiieh5187 Před 3 lety +12

      Pigeon pit, the front bottoms, ajj

    • @vicemonroe8540
      @vicemonroe8540 Před 3 lety +14

      Modern baseball, Slaughter beach dog, tiny moving parts, harley poe, pat the bunny

    • @justabodyofyears6765
      @justabodyofyears6765 Před 3 lety +9

      Mother Mother is a good band! They make awesome music and they’re also super nice!

    • @gabeniklas470
      @gabeniklas470 Před 3 lety

      @@vicemonroe8540 lol tiny moving parts

    • @Gibusnipu
      @Gibusnipu Před 3 lety

      @@vicemonroe8540 hell yeah Harley Poe and Pat the Bunny

  • @planet13_
    @planet13_ Před 4 lety +762

    mccafferty was genuinely one of my favourite bands that really spoke to me, that i felt connection with in the lyrics and the sound. when i first heard read evans statement i was devastated. hearing it all again hurts but im glad someone with a decent platform is bringing awareness to this. thanks for making this video series

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +55

      thank you so much. this stuff is always hard, but I enjoy trying to document it so others can look into it in an easy, quick way if they do so wish.
      my biggest goal is to get the info out there to empower people to make their own informed decision on what they think happened.
      have a great night my friend mate

    • @xxtianxx11
      @xxtianxx11 Před 4 lety +7

      Yeah i had the same, really hurted me when i saw post made by evan back in January. They really had great songs. But let say they weren’t written and sang by Nick 😌 ✨he dose not exist✨

  • @andydrawsthings6409
    @andydrawsthings6409 Před 4 lety +226

    I discovered McCafferty about two years ago and I found so much of myself in his lyrics. I immediately fell in love with his work. I didn't even know who he was or what he did, I just knew that I loved his music, and when his album came out late last year I was beyond excited for it. Then when I started seeing him trending everywhere and realized how horrible of a person he is... I felt kinda guilty for liking his music- for still liking his music, bc its music that I've identified with and cried over dozens of times. I'm so disappointed to hear how fucked up Nick is...
    As ARJ once said: "Can you really love the art, if you kinda hate the artist?"

    • @chewuntilitbleeds
      @chewuntilitbleeds Před 4 lety +21

      I'm in the same boat, I just try to separate the art from the artist. I suggest you listen to the front bottoms (if you don't already) they sound very similar and their lyrics are good. not to mention the members are nice and nothing like the lead singer of McCafferty

    • @Aurora_Woods
      @Aurora_Woods Před 4 lety +11

      Of course you can still love the art! Liking the art doesn't mean you support the actions of the artist. Listen to whatever you want.

    • @andydrawsthings6409
      @andydrawsthings6409 Před 4 lety +2

      Front Bottoms is really good in every aspect! I discovered them around the same time i discovered McCafferty! I agree, 10/10 would recommend!

  • @mindthedisturbance
    @mindthedisturbance Před 4 lety +361

    Everybody gansta until Nate The Mate makes a video about McCafferty

  • @seanholmes6623
    @seanholmes6623 Před 4 lety +171

    I started listening to McCafferty in the Fall and fell in love then as soon as I got into them "the post" happened *sigh*

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +11

      Sean Holmes ooof

    • @kalviskalnins830
      @kalviskalnins830 Před 4 lety +11

      I don't care too much about who the person is irl. It is fucked up, but if I like their songs I will listen to them anyways.

    • @melonratt
      @melonratt Před 4 lety +6

      Give a listen to The Front Bottoms if you haven't already yet. Similar feel, better singer :)

  • @leftinthedust3900
    @leftinthedust3900 Před 4 lety +156

    It's always a head game with you, Nick.
    You never had a shot at any of it.
    So smash a guitar, smash your dreams.
    Grow up now is just what I mean.

    • @YesSir-vo6bv
      @YesSir-vo6bv Před 3 lety +11

      😔That line hits different now...

  • @weirdobrotato3149
    @weirdobrotato3149 Před 4 lety +106

    Beachboy and Trees are two songs that got me sobbing. I related to every lyric. And now, after this, knowing the man I thought might be me one day (in a band, freely open about those things), I just feel gross listening to them now. I can't believe this is happening again. Thanks for shining light

  • @dylandominguez6754
    @dylandominguez6754 Před 4 lety +145

    Mccafferty used to be my favorite band in existence I bought all their merch, I would constantly try to see them live, I would always try to get nick to notice me online because at that time he was my hero. After their second breakup (after yarn came out) I began to notice that Mccafferty was becoming less of a band and more of nicks circle jerk. He would constantly make posts about people calling him out telling people to go harass them. It made me a little weary about continuing to support them. And then eventually all of this came out and I honestly wasn’t surprised.

    • @dylandominguez6754
      @dylandominguez6754 Před 4 lety +6

      I would also like to apologize for my poor grammar.

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +12

      I feel you mate. Sadly, I wasn't surprised either

    • @HighlyRegardted
      @HighlyRegardted Před 4 lety +1

      Jettdog 12 lol my bro says “weary” instead of wary and I’m always like which one were you bro??? We’re you extremely tired or were you hyperaware/ displaying extra caution? 😝

    • @dylandominguez6754
      @dylandominguez6754 Před 4 lety +1

      Noah Goldman Yes.

  • @Lonnie
    @Lonnie Před 4 lety +504

    Was just thinking u should make this yesterday lol

  • @TylerJohnson_red
    @TylerJohnson_red Před 4 lety +118

    Thanks for making this, I’m the Tyler brought up toward the end of the video, I want to mention I warned Daisy about the things I heard about Nick over 2 years ago. It just goes to show how good nick was at brainwashing people that even when I warned Daisy, my friend for years, they couldn’t believe it because Nick is able to make people believe HIS reality.

  • @XX-ep5xt
    @XX-ep5xt Před 4 lety +138

    Nate should talk about the new mom jeans. allegations. Because I feel so confused about everything that happened with Bart.

    • @robitherat8182
      @robitherat8182 Před 4 lety +12

      What allegations? I haven't been keeping up with things, what did they do now?

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +53

      That one’s gnarly. All I can say for now.

    • @XX-ep5xt
      @XX-ep5xt Před 4 lety +37

      @@robitherat8182 look it up Bart has been accused of coasting a girl into commiting suicide, being Racist to people, being Transphobic to his ex girlfriend, and now I've heard that the lead singer Eric was accused of having a Butt Plug store on Etsy where he harassed women who he sees to be attractive that leave reviews.

    • @becketclark9942
      @becketclark9942 Před 4 lety +2

      Yes please this

    • @robitherat8182
      @robitherat8182 Před 4 lety +16

      @@XX-ep5xt oh damn, I hadn't heard about any of that. I remember reading once that they ripped off MoBo earlier on but that was it. I might look into it some more. I really liked their music too, thought they might have been one of the only safe bands left.

  • @quentinbringthenumetalchil5125

    This band was so promising! “Cut Out the Pieces” and “Sellouts” are bangers. These guys would’ve been up there with the likes of Joyce Manor or Pup if they kept striving. They were getting to that status as well, thanks to a song that they had that got moderate popularity on TikTok.

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +35

      definitely. you wanna know something funny though? McCaff has bigger streaming numbers than JM and PUP.
      Not that spotify streams mean everything, but it's crazy that McCaff has almost 500k monthly listeners..

    • @quentinbringthenumetalchil5125
      @quentinbringthenumetalchil5125 Před 4 lety +2

      Nate The Mate That’s amazing, especially for a Midwestern emo act.

    • @quentinbringthenumetalchil5125
      @quentinbringthenumetalchil5125 Před 4 lety +6

      Nate The Mate But dang, Nick is cruel. All that stuff he did is just downright toxic.

    • @Quakkauq
      @Quakkauq Před 2 lety

      @@NateTheMateForever they got 2 a million

  • @papakost.8137
    @papakost.8137 Před 4 lety +32

    I'm really sad because McCafferty's songs really helped my throughout my mental breakdown session i had for a long time, and just knowing that the band fell apart makes it all come back.

  • @wendeltheruffian
    @wendeltheruffian Před 4 lety +64

    McCafferty was like a warm cozy blanket for me for about 3-4 years. I was lucky enough to see them live and meet the band. I had a few conversations with Nick through Reddit and Xbox. I saw his increasingly cheesy and eye rolling Instagram posts with the preppy pictures and corny lines about how happy he was and how much he loves his wife. Then I learned it was all fucking bullshit. Everything I thought I knew was fake, even the corny bullshit. I've been able to listen to the occasional Brand New song s since the allegations came to light, probably because they were just a band to me. I have not been able to play a single McCafferty song since this shit went down. And that's a fucking bummer because I loved that band and thought it could have helped a lot of people if Nick were genuine.

  • @garbagedayy2705
    @garbagedayy2705 Před 4 lety +39

    McCafferty was one of my favorite bands but learning this it's genuinely insane...

  • @edsheeran9394
    @edsheeran9394 Před 3 lety +33

    McCafferty's "Beachboy" album is one of my main sources of comfort, and to hear that Nick is actually a shit person is awful. why can't good bands have good people too :(
    **edit** (I wanted to include some bands for people who didn't want to listen to McCafferty anymore)
    Some bands who have a similar feel to McCafferty:
    • AJJ Band
    • The Front Bottoms
    • Harley Poe
    • The Taxpayers
    • Together Pangea
    • Destroy Boys

  • @doncheadlespalms2541
    @doncheadlespalms2541 Před 4 lety +78

    I commented on one of their posts on Facebook and said that they were just a rip off of the front bottoms and they blocked me

    • @wheatstack5018
      @wheatstack5018 Před 4 lety +15

      *_achievement unlocked_*

    • @JensKafe
      @JensKafe Před 4 lety +7

      They just can’t accept the truth 💀😿

    • @TheSukotu
      @TheSukotu Před 3 lety

      thats about the same response i’d expect from remo drive, or at least some flame

    • @dennisdebro5444
      @dennisdebro5444 Před 3 lety

      Okay but you were right and you should say it

    • @biggaylol5438
      @biggaylol5438 Před 3 lety +1

      why did i think you meant tfb blocked you 😭😭😭😭

  • @2gifts
    @2gifts Před 4 lety +61

    Wow, there were two times that nick reached out to my best friend about working with our band and both times he flaked out, I remember at the time it hurt so bad since it felt like we'd finally gotten a huge opportunity and had it ripped away from us. I guess looking back now its probably a good thing. My heart really goes out to everyone who was hurt or taken advantage of, and I hope you all can find healing.

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +11

      dang i'm sorry mate. that's crummy.

    • @tonybryk3312
      @tonybryk3312 Před 4 lety +2

      That's super interesting, because i have talked to nick a few times before and he told me the front bottoms did basically the exact same thing to them. He was really pissed about it and told me he wrote an entire song making fun of the front bottoms and everyone who says they copy them.

  • @spiddy9046
    @spiddy9046 Před 4 lety +26

    McCafferty helped me so much and it just HURTS, it just feels like I'll never find anything that will make me feel like McCafferty did. It's just... a tragedy? Lyrics ring around my head at hard times and then I remember that those are words that came out of the mouth of Nick, and those lyrics no longer feel reassuring.
    I loved McCafferty so dearly, it was part of my identity, and then when I found out that McCafferty is a fake representation of what it really is I couldn't really cope. For a while nothing felt real and I tried to disconnect myself from reality and kept listening to them for reassurance due to my mental health, I tried to ignore everything said about it.
    I still haven't found music that fills a void of where McCafferty once was in my heart, but I have stopped listening to it (until CZcams decides to put it in my recommended, which, like a drug addict, I reply with clicking on the video and listening to a ghost-town of a band in a form of nostalgia, yet remembering that I can't stay ignorant forever.)
    Just.. I don't think people know the implications of starting a band or music career on their fans.

  • @camz25
    @camz25 Před 4 lety +40

    It may be a shame that I didn't know McCafferty, but I am just here to watch your video, mate. Your storytelling, your researches and other materials, the way you present it as well as your voiceover are kind of therapeutic. I think it's just a bonus when you feature my favorite bands. Kudos to you and your always great content. Cheers, mate!

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +6

      this seriously made my night. my smile is so wide. thank you Camz

    • @camz25
      @camz25 Před 4 lety

      @@NateTheMateForever ❤

  • @andrewg9955
    @andrewg9955 Před 4 lety +149

    Nick did not pass the vibe check... Or the have some level of human decency check

    • @daddylonglegs3420
      @daddylonglegs3420 Před 3 lety

      i mean, he does have a few levels, its not fair to say hes the absolute worst, he sucks, and his actions reflect that, but hes no chris rock. hes at least a level above him

  • @Narzick
    @Narzick Před 4 lety +19

    I've been following them and a massive fan since dance beats, and I already knew about all of this drama, but this video still feels like watching an old friend who chose the wrong paths in life. It's just kinda sad man

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +2

      this comment is sad haha. have a good night mate

    • @Narzick
      @Narzick Před 4 lety +1

      @@NateTheMateForever great video tho! Can't wait to see your coverage on the rest of it because boy does it get fucking insane lmao have a good night man!

  • @thenickster_fr
    @thenickster_fr Před 3 lety +13

    Me: *finds out about Blue Eyes Like The Devils Water and loves it*
    Also me: *gets this in my recommended 1 week later*

  • @spookysantaboxsantabox1282
    @spookysantaboxsantabox1282 Před 4 lety +34

    Gonna be honest I found this band a year ago maybe a year and a half and I never knew how to pronounce the band name

  • @oddballreviews
    @oddballreviews Před 4 lety +12

    I love how there’s an Midwest emo and punk centric CZcams channel. I love this channel so much. Love the bands discussed too.

  • @literallypickled
    @literallypickled Před 4 lety +7

    i went through a lot when i listened to mccafferty. i begged and pleaded my dad to take me to one of their concerts (never happened, my dad did his fair share of research thankfully). i learned about some of this stuff by myself, but watching this video has fully opened up my eyes. this stuff hurts, and it’s hard to talk about. rip to my favorite band from 2015-2018.

  • @lizab1003
    @lizab1003 Před 4 lety +26

    I saw them live when they were touring with Remo Drive in 2017. I noticed that Remo Drive didn't really like them & it was confusing because they were touring together & it was RD's tour to begin with. idk something about it felt off to me

    • @vintagegamer889
      @vintagegamer889 Před 4 lety +1

      Tbf apparently the Remo Drive guys are kind of arrogant assholes, but Nick has always been a problematic figure in the scene.

    • @nasaii_8924
      @nasaii_8924 Před 4 lety

      @@vintagegamer889 what did remo drive do? I haven't heard anything about them but that might be because i only found out about them 3 months ago

    • @freezingjazzy
      @freezingjazzy Před 4 lety

      @@nasaii_8924 They've just been arrogant and anytime you criticize them they like to "Fight Back" in a way. On twitter they said "Someone needs a lyric sheet" after criticizing the drumming which was basic.

  • @ambiexrose7465
    @ambiexrose7465 Před 4 lety +5

    I had been a huge Mccafferty fan since I was 14 in 2015, I remember stumbling on their music on CZcams when they had barely just 300 views. I spent my entire high school adolescence listening to this band, crying to their music, and relating to their lyrics. As someone with depression, among other mental illnesses, their music really touched me, and I’m sure most of the fans can relate to this. I met McCafferty at warped tour 2017, they were at their record label’s tent. I’m from Ohio, so I think they only went to that specific warped tour since it was very close to their hometown. I remember crying and having a heart to heart conversation with Nick, it felt so unreal that I was able to meet the person I looked up to as my hero. Although I personally never had any negative personal experiences with him, it breaks my heart that a person who seemed so true and genuine could turn into someone so evil. My heart hurts for everyone who was involved with him. It’s still hard for me to even listen to McCafferty to this day.

  • @jennacxruso
    @jennacxruso Před 4 lety +23

    hold on lemme grab some popcorn for this

  • @blackcatshadow2969
    @blackcatshadow2969 Před 4 lety +14

    I recently found McCaffrey last fall and only started really listening to them this spring. I wanted to see them in concert and looked up to see if they were still together only to find the post from nick saying how they split up and that he needed time for his mental health and that he felt sorry for all his wrong doings. I felt sad about never seeing them in concert. I also looked into some of the stuff nick had said but not too much. I had no idea how severe the issues with nick were. Listening to their music wont be the same for me after hearing how terrible of a person he was. I hope that all the former band members are able to move on from all the terrible things he put them through and live happier lives. I also hope nick gets help if that's even possible. Hes really talented and it's sad that hes uses his talents to justify his terrible behavior.

  • @spritebee881
    @spritebee881 Před 3 lety +102

    When every single artist you listen to gets cancelled, let's just hope girl in red stays bdhhddj

    • @crocodile1053
      @crocodile1053 Před 3 lety +4

      She was apparently invalidating some members of the lgbtqia+ community, but I didn't look into it further bc I don't really listen to her music

    • @daddylonglegs3420
      @daddylonglegs3420 Před 3 lety +6

      @@crocodile1053 WHAT OML I HATE EVERYTHING. all i have is the front bottoms, prince daddy, sorority noise and mom jeans now
      edit: wait no i dont have mom jeans

    • @user-ws9ko1pu1y
      @user-ws9ko1pu1y Před 3 lety +3

      she called lesbian a “dirty word”. so yup, she’s gone too.

    • @user-ws9ko1pu1y
      @user-ws9ko1pu1y Před 3 lety +3

      @@crocodile1053 she apologized for that iirc and said that she supports all lesbians, even if they aren’t women.

    • @spoonuwu3195
      @spoonuwu3195 Před 3 lety +1

      @@daddylonglegs3420 pretty sure sorority noise had some alleged shit go down, i didn't really read into it so i could be wrong. P daddy fucking slap tho

  • @bradydiezel8499
    @bradydiezel8499 Před 4 lety +34

    I love you for doing this. It upsets me so much the tragedy of McCafferty

  • @Dharmaville
    @Dharmaville Před 4 lety +14

    I stopped listening to McCafferty in 2016/17 after getting to know Nick. This was my perspective: Nick treated his friends like it was their job to help him do whatever he wanted and then he would directly blame them for all of his failures and mistakes. He used to constantly change his mind over whether or not to start making music again (which is fine, musicians owe us nothing, but it got really old after the 5th or 6th time) but every time he'd decide not to he'd blame it on someone else in the band, much to their confusion. He would say fucked up shit that we assumed was a joke because there was no context for it. I've never let the actions of any musician stop me from enjoying their music but Nick is a such detestable person that I haven't been able to listen to or enjoy what was such a great band for years. I'm glad everyone knows what he's like now, he doesn't deserve any respect or attention whatsoever. I was friends with Noah (now Daisy) before and during when they managed McCafferty, until I left that circle in 2017. Daisy put so much effort and passion into trying to help Nick and his music, I hope they are doing well. Chris, Wes, Evan are great people, fuck Paul Blart Hartkop.

  • @beatrizgaspar6697
    @beatrizgaspar6697 Před 4 lety +39

    SEVENTY PAGES

  • @AS-pb7hq
    @AS-pb7hq Před 2 lety +5

    It's so obvious nick has BPD which he is currently being treated for. I wish more people knew this and then educated themselves on BPD

  • @litaraduodox5799
    @litaraduodox5799 Před 3 lety +6

    To everyone who liked McCafferty and want something similar (punkish, heavyish lyrics) I recommend Pup. The band is still p small and as far as i know, unproblematic. They're genuinely rlly good.

  • @jamesphillips3135
    @jamesphillips3135 Před 4 lety +24

    I’m an avid punk rocker and I live in Ohio. I never heard of them until now. Gotta say. I didn’t miss anything. You guys should listen to PUP. Or throw it back to jaw breaker.

    • @hascommented6888
      @hascommented6888 Před 3 lety +2

      Got anything like McCafferty that fellow queer kids can listen to? I don't like anything intensely heavy but I loved his music when it talked about being a gay teen dealing with.. you know, society.

    • @216Numbskull
      @216Numbskull Před 2 lety +1

      @James Phillips, WTF does PUP or Jawbreaker have anything to do with any Ohio punk bands, they're from Cali & Canada? Go listen to real Ohio punk bands & throw it back to the Dead Boys-Sonic Reducer, The Pagans-What's This Sh*t Called Love, or DEVO-Mongoloid, etc...

  • @Soariewhispeds
    @Soariewhispeds Před 3 lety +7

    i was friends with nick. i told him about some of my personal problems because i didn’t have anybody else who would listen, only for this to happen a few weeks after. i’m heartbroken a part of me is still fucked up. i’m glad you’re talking about this.

  • @maxine.8326
    @maxine.8326 Před 4 lety +20

    mane we cannot have shit in the emo indie/ punk scene no more or even just in the indie scene😔 I HATE IT HERE

  • @311truther
    @311truther Před 4 lety +13

    daisy also runs a label called Arbitrary Phrase Records, everyone should support!

  • @Narzick
    @Narzick Před 4 lety +26

    I've talked to Daisy one on one and she's a sweetheart and did alot of work on this document, she deserves massive props ❤️

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +6

      agreed. I need to give her more attention and praise in part 2 and 3. I can only imagine how much went into that document

  • @an1tobe
    @an1tobe Před 3 lety +19

    why do bad people make good music

  • @17kimberlyhayden9
    @17kimberlyhayden9 Před 3 lety +6

    Fun fact the comments on bottom and beach boy have been turn off due to the fact that everybody keep saying "i like this band i sure hope the lead singer isn't a psychopath"

  • @brooklynmundy9052
    @brooklynmundy9052 Před 4 lety +5

    I've been seeing you listen to McCafferty on spotify a lot and knew a vid was doing on them but didn't expect this. Looking forward to the next part

  • @cuef2884
    @cuef2884 Před 3 lety +10

    He really doesn't deserve that k.k slider shirt.

  • @honeycroissants3563
    @honeycroissants3563 Před 4 lety

    I wanted so badly to ignore this so I could continue supporting McCaf, but I'm glad I sat through it. Thank you for sharing this!

  • @maer1209
    @maer1209 Před 3 lety +1

    i never knew all of this happened until a few weeks ago when i saw the official McCafferty facebook group and the google doc Daisy posted. McCafferty’s music gave me a second chance at life, his words gave me hope that i wasn’t alone and my experiences could be coped with. It’s A helped me cope with the loss of my unborn child, and learning that the song was based off of Lindsay’s experiences completely shook me to my core. i looked up to Nick, and his songs got me through too many tough times. i can’t believe i ever thought he was my idol. my heart goes out to all of the people who have been hurt by Nick, especially to Lindsay and Emily. i pray one day Emily will see that Nick isn’t someone she should be around.

  • @tiredasf7317
    @tiredasf7317 Před 3 lety +3

    I never got more emotionally attached to a band. Their songs such as dead bird, trailer trash, and trees connected to my own emotions at the time I first found them. I just find it incredibly ironic the person who introduced me to them was so similar to Nick.

  • @anicka5795
    @anicka5795 Před 4 lety +2

    fuck sakes, this band made me feel not so alone kind of like a “yeah i’m suffering but so are they” type of way, idk that band just made an impact on me, i’m so shattered rn.

  • @malcolmalexander3352
    @malcolmalexander3352 Před 4 lety +2

    Dude I’m not very into this general music scene but these videos are consistently super interesting and fascinating. As someone who never was into McCafferty or Jank, these videos are truly enthralling. Keep it up man much love

  • @davidr1122
    @davidr1122 Před 4 lety +2

    Finally, I was too lazy to go though the documents and figure it all out myself. Thanks for putting this into this format. I actually discovered the band about 3 months ago, and bought his latest record on vinyl, one day someone saw it and said omg he sucks and tried explaining everything to me, I feel bad about buying it straight from his webstore, but damnit, the album is still good.

  • @KyranoSaurFlex
    @KyranoSaurFlex Před 11 měsíci +4

    I wish i had never come across this video
    Im really late to the party just found out about McCafferty i am obsessed with this band but unfortunately i feel like i cant listen to them anymore without this hanging over it.
    I wish i could seperate the art from the artist but unfortunately thats not the case

    • @alveloss7880
      @alveloss7880 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Take this with a big, big grain of salt
      But he does seem to be doing better nowadays

  • @rudiebulb757
    @rudiebulb757 Před 4 lety +17

    I had a feeling it was gonna be about McCafferty. I read that whole google doc testimony in one sitting and it made me sick. It’s even weirder listening to someone read it. I’m excited for part two dude, keep up the good work.

  • @abeflatline2749
    @abeflatline2749 Před 2 lety +2

    i just found mccafferty on spotify and genuinely enjoyed all of his songs and so i searched it on youtube and this is what i got😭😭

  • @goldwaiteannie7781
    @goldwaiteannie7781 Před 4 lety

    This was so well done I appreciate every detail and effort put in! You truly go far and beyond with each video you make. I also really miss your chill and chatty vlogs in the car tho

  • @erikmolnar6585
    @erikmolnar6585 Před rokem +3

    I've been listening to this group a lot since they are a great band. I think Nick's lyrics are very clearly explaining that he needs help and that he has issues with relationships?

  • @bluejune2470
    @bluejune2470 Před 3 lety +3

    I’ve been in love with this band for years and this absolutely breaks my heart

  • @tinyak7205
    @tinyak7205 Před rokem +1

    I don’t know why I keep coming back to these videos it’s not a sense of comfort I think it’s more of a sensitive me seeing if my ideals have changed but also great video still holds up

  • @navypancake2.0
    @navypancake2.0 Před 4 lety +1

    i’ve listened to their music since i was in 7th grade and this honestly hurts my heart to see, their music helped me through so much in my life and even built one of the best friendships of my freshman year and it’s really disappointing to see the fall of mcafferty

  • @lucasryan7401
    @lucasryan7401 Před 8 měsíci +4

    NEW MUSIC JUST DROPPED! WE NEED AN UPDATE VIDEO

  • @marissaperciado
    @marissaperciado Před 4 lety +65

    I’m sorry but when he said “akeron” the Ohioan In me cringed 😬

    • @wyattkinney5721
      @wyattkinney5721 Před 4 lety +5

      And Mahdeena. Dreadful.

    • @vampjam
      @vampjam Před 4 lety +3

      i dont think theres been a time where a non-ohioan has actually pronounced akron right on the first try. its especially painful when you live in akron yourself LOL

    • @izaries
      @izaries Před 4 lety +2

      I always try to ignore it but it makes my brain h u r t

    • @HighlyRegardted
      @HighlyRegardted Před 4 lety +3

      I feel the Ohioans I know never stop cringing...

    • @HighlyRegardted
      @HighlyRegardted Před 4 lety +3

      Wyatt Kinney also Ohio’s Medina is named after the one in Saudi Arabia... just like Memphis is named after the city in Egypt... that’s why people “mispronounce” it... they ate just stuck on the original pronunciation in English...

  • @RamanN00B
    @RamanN00B Před 2 lety

    thanks for breaking all of this down. i just discovered their music earlier this year and saw in the comments there's issues to say the least.

  • @izaries
    @izaries Před 4 lety

    why are people sleeping on this??? 9k veiws and only 700 likes- anyway this is made so well!! I love the wording and editing :)

  • @Dan-wn3mo
    @Dan-wn3mo Před 4 lety +10

    Ugh. I loved McCafferty so much and when I heard that Nick was a shit person I was genuinely so upset bc his music was a huge comfort to me. After that, I tried to find similar bands that I could relate to and turned to GRLwood. And we all know how that turned out...

  • @tommytomthms5
    @tommytomthms5 Před 4 lety +40

    wow what a hot mess. I love it. But only because I love a good dumpster fire. Because this is one.

    • @NateTheMateForever
      @NateTheMateForever  Před 4 lety +3

      Buddog18 Personal good way to put it

    • @HighlyRegardted
      @HighlyRegardted Před 4 lety

      I dint know this band at all I think CZcams algo just knows I like dumpster fire level drama...

  • @bpdoka
    @bpdoka Před 4 lety +1

    they were my favorite band way back in 2017...cant listen to them anymore knowing what nick has done. a truly reprehensible person.

  • @BlehhhhZOMBIES
    @BlehhhhZOMBIES Před rokem +1

    This is so upsetting because i have been listening to mccafferty for so long and just falling in love with their music, only to find out stuff like this.... I wanted to get to know more about the band i love so much and this is what i find 💔

  • @dahgurr4833
    @dahgurr4833 Před 3 lety +7

    Anyways, stan AJJ, TFB and PUP!!

    • @woodlanddove
      @woodlanddove Před 3 lety

      You can still listen to his music- but it's possible to separate the artist from the art

  • @somethinorother9207
    @somethinorother9207 Před 4 lety +4

    Man I remember the day Evan called Nick out, I cried so hard :(

  • @devinh8948
    @devinh8948 Před 4 lety

    So stoked on this Nate!! Saw it was coming out in 15 minutes and I was ON IT!

  • @straightXjessedge
    @straightXjessedge Před 4 lety +2

    One time McCafferty played at a house show at my house in Eastern PA. They weren't on tour or anything they just drove to my house and then drove back home. I offered them gas money but they didn't want to take any (the show was a benefit show for my local food pantry). I thought that was pretty cool of them. They ended up getting ticketed on their way home. It's weird, I never would have thought they would get the attention they did, and I didn't expect any of the drama that came with the band.

  • @marlboromenthols
    @marlboromenthols Před 4 lety +4

    the mom jeans allegations would be a very good video, this is also a very good video. can’t wait for part 2

  • @LaurieSuppleOfficial
    @LaurieSuppleOfficial Před 4 lety +38

    These guys make a career out of being emotionally damaged and you wonder why they’re like this lol

  • @sharpiesareawesome96
    @sharpiesareawesome96 Před 11 měsíci +1

    12:10 i freaked out when it sounded like JustNick was mentioned. that’s my cousin and almost disappointed he was involved. thank you for clarifying in text!

  • @mrdad-zl9zl
    @mrdad-zl9zl Před 10 měsíci +2

    I'm still in the beginning but omg the way too many EPs got me

  • @alexzemaitis1207
    @alexzemaitis1207 Před 4 lety +14

    YES, NEW VIDEO, YOU ARE THE MATE, NATE!!!

  • @d3vilr0ckspolos
    @d3vilr0ckspolos Před 4 lety +5

    He's a variant of Onision

  • @jakeciasulli654
    @jakeciasulli654 Před 4 lety

    I’m hooked where’s at p 2 Nate lol!?!?
    Honestly great work, I’ll watch your videos even if I don’t know the band. You put together some of the best content on pop punk and I find myself enjoying it because of the way your present these bands or situations. Thank you sir

  • @Dave_YL
    @Dave_YL Před 2 lety

    You need to make more of these dude. They're fascinating and you do your homework. Good shit!

  • @lilsnowman8780
    @lilsnowman8780 Před 3 lety +3

    Bruh now im sad. I had no idea this was going on, and i really enjoy their music

    • @weasell
      @weasell Před 3 lety +2

      same :(

    • @itsokaysdude7404
      @itsokaysdude7404 Před 3 lety +2

      u guys can listen to it still! no one can stop you just dont listen to it on there channel, lots of people did that, i did it for sia, she might be abelist but i 100% dont suport her i just like her music

  • @stinkerton947
    @stinkerton947 Před 4 lety +6

    They broke up the day before their show in detroit which i booked 2 months in advanced :(

  • @raspberry_wiskey6999
    @raspberry_wiskey6999 Před 4 lety

    I really loved McCafferty, Yarn was my favourite album, ever. Their music just resonated with me. To me, there will never me another McCafferty, there will never be another band that resonates with me that much, and that sucks.

  • @scoutscoodles
    @scoutscoodles Před 2 měsíci

    I discovered the band a few months ago and only read up on this stuff now.
    I'm weirdly not surprised.

  • @user-lv7fz8nm6u
    @user-lv7fz8nm6u Před rokem +3

    Honestly all of my respect goes out to all of nicks Victims

  • @Deenwith4es
    @Deenwith4es Před 4 lety +10

    man i loved mccafferty, it’s such a shame this happened

  • @Winchester1000
    @Winchester1000 Před 4 lety +1

    I remember discovering McCafferty back in 2013. Fell in love instantly, I couldn't get enough but after the multiple break ups/retirements. It was just tiring but all the accusations broke the camels back.

  • @zenkai6045
    @zenkai6045 Před 4 lety

    sheesh, I never really listened to McCafferty but wow this is interesting and can't wait for the next part! definitely worth the wait on this video, Thanks, Nate

  • @karma901
    @karma901 Před 4 lety +5

    My heart skipped a beat and my mind spiked when i read that title wtf hes my favorite artist I haven't watched the video but oml

  • @jerrypzs
    @jerrypzs Před 4 lety +4

    Jank and now McCafferty?! I still miss Jank.

  • @user-lv7fz8nm6u
    @user-lv7fz8nm6u Před rokem +1

    As a McCafferty Former supporter, most of his actual Devoted Fans Like him due to the fact that we are VERY unstable and find comfort in his music

  • @reesem6298
    @reesem6298 Před 4 lety

    thank you so much for posting this video. you’re a great channel!