8 Skill Sets Every Man Needs to Master
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8 Skill Sets Every Man Needs to Master
- Physical Strength
- Assertive Communication
- Self-Defense
- Emotional Resiliency
- Financial Acumen
- Effective Networking
- Physical Presence
- Continual Education
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“A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control.” -Jordan Peterson
Top five quotes of all time.
One should be polite, professional and courteous in all situations. And have a plan to kill everyone in the room.
@@papasteve215 Jason Bourne approves that comment 😃👌🏽
Jordan Peterson is a moron ...he is the depak chopra of intellectualism
@@dmsawyer no he is not dude.. learn to listen
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1. Physical Strength
2. Assertive communicator
3. Self defense (martial arts, etc.)
4. Emotional resilience (control your emotions)
5. Financial acumen
6. Effective Networking (surround yourself with good people)
7. Physical presence (how you present yourself)
8. Continued education
Bonus:
1.survival skills (hunting, shelter bldg, etc,)
2. Self control/self awareness
3. Spiritual growth (Discipline = freedom)
4. Leadership
5. Handiness
Rogelio Arreguin-Mancera thanks!
MVP !
Achieve 11-Bravo qualification or similar at the minimum.
The dude needs to shave, show that jawline man!
Not sure about that man. As a guy who stays clean shaven (can't grow much anyways) I'm loving the beard on him
One of the best advices my dad gave me ... he who angers me defeats me
That one is so good, I copied it into notes on my phone!!!
My Dad told me the same! He said, " If you let someone anger you, you give them control over you". All Facts!!!!
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Sounds like your father was a wise man.
The hardest thing for men is to know his own heart. And rule his emotions. Every mistake I have made can be tracked back to uncontrolled emotions.
So many boys grow up without being taught how to be a man, even boys with fathers. Awesome video!
Being organized..Maybe not a skill set but an attribute. Your garage space, your tools, your desk, your files and documents, your house, your kitchen, your basement, your car ect... Avoid sloppiness and clutter. Constantly refining the space around you to make better sense and flow.
Agreed!
Now you done quit preaching and gone to meddling. Lol
Being organized included in all the points.
@@andersnielsen6044 I try to paint a picture for the unimaginative lol
For some reason I can't seem to organize, even tho I'm an artist. My space is always a mess. I get some creative energy from a mess.
You don't rise to your expectations,
you fall to the level of your training!
Been reading Atomic Habits by chance? The same thing is said in that only difference is he states that you fall to the level of your systems. Both are true, however.
@@justinstrange5945 I haven't, but I'll look
it up.
It sounds interesting.
I disagree. If you dont go around looking for fights, and keep yourself in shape things work out usually. I've found that not only do I handle my own, I do very well when things get rowdy.
"Atomic Habits" FTW!
@@joec1212 But you have too train because the fight can come without you doing anything threatening to the other guy.
Mental toughness always prevails over physical strength. Life’s hardest lessons are the ones that test your willpower and resilience.
Mental toughness will lead to physical strength/toughness. If you aren't there yet, there is more work to be done.
👏🏾
Mental toughness does not always prevail.
@@sethwarren8334 you left the other part of the sentence out .. “over physical strength”
Sverð Skjöld wise words my friend
Another thing I would add to that list is the ability to work with your hands. To be able to fix the things that you possess when they inevitably break is a sign of intelligence and competence. It also saves so much money when you're able to fix the car and the house yourself. And I would say that passing down those skills to your children is a great blessing.
Technically that can fall under 8.👍
Ryan Holidays book, “the obstacle is the way” got me through one of the hardest moments in my life. I would listen to it over and over on Audible for days. I recommend it. Hearing the quotes from stoic philosophers makes me feel strong and limitless. And it got me to realize that the secret to making a million is making better investment.
I started out with a financial advisor called *" Rochelle Dungca Schreiber ".* Her honest approach gives me complete ownership and control of my positions, and her rates are incredibly affordable given my ROI. However, do your due diligence before contacting a financial advisor.
As far as finances, “The Richest Man in Babylon” is a great book. Short and sweet.
You can listen to it for free on youtube
I have a personal library of books that included this masterpiece
Best in class by far
This is the finest book on money ever written and possibly that can ever be written. The rules are far simpler than people believe. There are other good books, including Rich Dad Poor Dad, but this is the one to start with. Easy read, practically no math, and practical.
Tom Binnz A very overlooked book
With regard to evolving, as I mentioned in my other post I’m 61. I’m not the same man as I was in my 20s and 40s. Experience and wisdom does come with age. Now in my 60s I have many life lessons to share. But don’t stagnate as you get older. In today’s society we shuffle our older folks off out of the way. No that I’m officially in that category, I’ll be damned if I will be put on the self. Neither should you as you get older.
Right on.
Do what you wanna do. Why would you go on the "shelf" because you age. I still do everything at 56, that I did at 25. But at 56, it's a little different. But I'm still doing it. Just keep moving!
Us younger guys need you older guys around for your wisdom and coaching.
Selim Sultan Akbar, inside every young person, there’s a senior waiting to come out. Keep living and that guy will come out!
you will never find conclusion with wisdom ,the longer you search , the stronger you will become.
I love this!
I’m a woman, and I strive for the same goals.
It’s good to be well rounded in self improvement.
Haven't watched the video yet but I reckon;
1. A great sense of humor
2. Mental fortitude
3. Physical strength and mobility
4. The ability to defend yourself (hand to hand combat and maybe weapon use)
5. Resourcefulness
6. The ability to fix and build things
7. Sacrifice
8. To always respond and never react
9. The ability to take responsibility for himself and his family
10. To guide your children with tough love whilst still maintaining the image of what your children respect.
Close but he actually only recomended 8 skills
Your list is good too.
The sense of humor first is great.
Cool, now watch the video.
We appreciate 🤝
"More powerful than all the armies of the world,, is an idea, whose time has come." - Victor Hugo
where this is from?
@@oldschool6463 Victor Hugo
@@oldschool6463 Les Miserabes???
This would've been excellent advice to my younger self. I remember in my early 20's I taught my niece how to change a tyre and change the spark plugs on my car. Years later a boyfriend of hers got a flat tyre and he was all 'deer-in-headlights' about it and had no clue what to do. My niece rolled up her sleeves and changed it like a boss 💪. I was so proud of her 😌👍
A bit sad on the bfs part… if he’s a good man & worthwhile, you ought to teach him some things.
My daughter has a story like this. She and some friends were going out to eat when the dude got a flat. He goes to call AAA and she looked at him and said “got a jack?”. I’m not worried about her being broken down on the side of the road waiting for help.
Super badass advice! I’m a 44yr old Marine and have been bringing my kids up with these views for 18+ years. It’s so refreshing to hear someone else say it on an open platform. Thank you-thank you, thank you my brother and please keep creating content of this caliber. Til then, keep on rolling! 😎👍
how many innocent iraqis or afghanis did you kill?
Amen!
Thanks for your service sir.
@@bitupanbhuyan5183 It's my pleasure to serve good people. Thank you for your support and trust we're all doing our part to keep everyone safe around the world 😎👍
So true
“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
Damn, this quote is 🥵🥵🥵🤯💯💥
Thanks garth, thats the best quote I've ever heard! (And I'm an old f#*k)!
Well said. Love the quote.
@@kevincraig6407 thank you.
@@kevincraig6407 party on, Garth
Best way to develop emotional control: be in stressful situations where you are expected to stay calm.
I think it’s even better if you are forced to be emotionally powerful and go back to being calm
Good point. I hadn’t thought about that.
the past two days ive been slipping into what i'd call boy psychology and this has given me a bit of a wake up call.
Being good at being a man and being a good man takes constant work.
Tomorrow i will work harder.
Tomorrow i will be better.
"it's not about comparison to other individuals, it's about comparison to yourself"
I have given that advice to my son SO many times. I am glad to hear someone else say that. There is nothing wrong with competition, of course, but there are those circumstances under which a man must simply judge himself against his own personal potential and worry less about the capabilities of others
Learn to sew. At least how to reattach a button. It takes like an hour to learn and you'll never ever run around with a shirt missing a button. Learn how to cook. If you only eat what you prepare yourself it's so hard to become fat it's mind-boggling.
The act of cooking, makes me not as hungry from when I started. It's weird.
Fasting too, learning to go without food for one day, or two days, three days is very beneficial.
@@notaprogrammer7970 That sounds terrible for your body. Eventually there won't be enough fat for your body to take energy from and it will start eating at your muscles.
@@Chabadou you should look into it. It’s called intermittently fasting I’ve been doing it for years and you don’t always constantly do it
@@mike.p.1400 There is no such thing as woman's stuff or mans stuff, there's stuff that needs done, get it done. That's one of the most important and beneficial things people learn in the military.
As a young firefighter, I’m put into situations that I wasn’t exactly trained for. One skill any man should be able to do; “figure it out, and make it happen.” No matter what situation you’re put in you should be able to find your point of egress, and then a second point of egress. I mean that figuratively and literally.
The best book I read about manliness was Wild at heart.
These comments are filled with men trying to become more manly and suggesting great avenues to do that. Brings a manly tear to the eye.
here on flat earth!!
"that's one small step for man, and one giant leap for Manny Klein" 😜
What’s wrong with that? U hv the right to be the way u r, don’t sit and judge others for how they are.....it’s called being a ridiculous hypocrite
@@bkntruth6197 What dude? I think you're responding to the wrong comment.
@Nasa Official - I hear you brotha. I’m 48 years young; and I’m just trying to make up for all the mistakes I’ve done in my youth and it’s tough. Being a father and a husband just adds to the challenge and it has definitely defined my character. I’m learning sooo much from these forums, it’s sometimes exhausting but I love how much I’m learning... so yes; I do agree that it brings a manly tear to my eye too.
The ability to focus without interruption in the front site post in any environment and under any condition is the one skill that has pulled me thru the three toughest spots I've ever been in. All else were temporary phases.
I love watching this channel. Sometimes I stray from the path I need to be on and start doing bad habits. Start thinking negatively about society. People in general and it really puts me in a bad headspace full of hatred so watching and listening to these videos remind me that I need to be better and it’s a constant ongoing process
Biggest muscle for self defense is your brain. Nothing wrong with avoiding fights. Cooler heads prevail. Avoid bad situations if you can. Strength plays into most hobbies. It’s been a long time since I’ve been physical altercation. Think that’s what some hands on basic training will make you more comfortable and build muscle memory
I would highly recommend "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman.
I feel that the "real men don't care about how they look" mentality is grounded in misconceptions of what style is. There's the boy who buys $500 Jordan's because he believes that will buy him friends then there's the man who invests $150 in a pair of formal dress shows that will last and communicate maturity. The latter is the real man and real style.
MeMyselfAndI Correct, there is a difference between buying what is on trend and popular, and buying versatile pieces to add to your wardrobe that are high quality and will last and look good for years.
on trend/popular has its times and places; tho yeah, buying a $70 pair of gazelles or DCs or sambas, one will get far more value mileage than say the stereotypical $500 pair of jordans.
as for formal dress: every man should own a suit. whether for an interview/court/wedding.
tho 99.99% of the time, i greatly prefer to be dressed to be able to easily act in any sort of emergency or protect scenario. suits literally hamper that.
tho yeah, every man, and really every adult (that's to say, every woman also) has their uniform, which along with looking good, is functional, and likely conveys a measure of authority & competence.
oh yeah. fits them right too.
MeMyselfAndI that 500$ pair of Jordan’s could be sold for double/triple the price in a few months after the release. Don’t dismiss sneakers because they seem immature. They’re good investments with the right intentions
@@AnonymousAnonymous-tu7jd I agree. I was only referring to the intent of buying friends, sneakers were just an example.
Thank you for inspiring many of us and calling us higher. Blessings from Mexico
The original video of the skills is actually what got me into the order of man. I'm 24 and hope I can pursue these skills.
As someone who studies behavioral psychology, I find it to be a common misconception ego is the enemy. Ego is the part of the self which moderates the self between social pressures and your own desires (the super ego and the id). The ego is what responds with logic and reasoning, arguable the individual part of The LOGOS (Truth). The ego is "you" within the self - gross body. Ego is the "breath of life", that separates you from unconscious life and machines. The ego, when regarded and respected, is the Hero.
Wasnt trying to find this, but glad I did! Really enjoyed it!
Having listened to this and reflecting on my life thus far I've realized two things. How much I've utilized these strategies to my success and how much more I have yet to learn. Thank you for the wisdom.
I have so far to evolve. And I thought I was at a pretty high level until seeing this.
Excellent reply sir.
As a man with an unstable knee (can barey walk up the stairs without planning my steps) I still agree: Being injured doesn't absolve you from the duty of being strong/fit.
I just found this channel today, im 5 mins into my first video & after looking at the other titles, discussions & podcasts that you have im SOOOO IMPRESSED & EXCITED to listen to the rest, especially ALL your podcasts & the 5 minute video of tips to be a better Dad. So refreshing & informative material. KEEP IT UP BROTHER
Great video Ryan! I’d been a journey of self discovery for several years now. Had I found this video when starting that journey, I would have had an incredible blueprint. Completely spot on and consistent with my learnings and self realizations. Keep up the good work and you now have a new dedicated follower.
Thank you.🙏🏾
So Beautiful!! I have four Sons.
Good stuff. This was a random find yet in Divine Time.🙏🏾❤️
A Good Man Is Someone Who Truly Love An Respect Himself 💪🏾
Excellent presentation! I am a stroke survivor, an investor, and my 'Mantra' is, "Stay Strong!" I needed to see your video this morning. Thanks' Bro!
Another way I learned to call emotional resilience is emotional intelligence. Listening to this affirms I'm on the right path. Thank You for this.
Master money and relationships. Master these two things and you on top of the 1% list
Money? 😂
I’ve had a vague list in my mind of what a man must be, but no longer, now it is a real list. Thank you for this video!
Just stumbled upon this. Everything you mentioned are things I’ve been actively dedicating my time to and I can 100% agree with this segment. And to say my life has improved by doing these things is an understatement.
Great list. I would say "walk with God" ought to be #1, and right behind it is "educate yourself". Continual education can fill all those other gaps.
I enjoyed listening to this! A lot of what you listed is actually what I looked for in my spouse when I dated without realizing it and I'm so glad I did. This also gives me an understanding of how I should challenge my boys to be their very best.
I agree with you. Thank you for the video.
The biggest one is the ability to get the heck back up. There will be a time in a man's life when he's knocked flat. Some get hit harder than others. But when it's easier to lay there or quit, having that ability to stand back up and move forward is the greatest attribute a man can have. It's hard to master that, but you find out who you are when your armor fails
Thank you sir, hearing messages and men discussing Manhood, earnestly, makes my heart grow. Manhood is a journey, and I'm glad I am not alone.
Love the article, would be great if you list out the books in the description.
Thank you for taking the time to producing this video. Finding this video was definitely a blessing. Keep up the amazing work! Cheers!
I’m 49 and I appreciate how you have given men back our power! I ordered “Manhood in The Making”, it will be here tomorrow. Now I need to subscribe to your podcast and IG.
I'm really glad you included self-defence, since i think that's something which is often overlooked. Personally, I've had military self-defence training that went a little past the basic training the average soldier gets in the Swiss Armed Forces (I'm a sergeant).
However, there are two more skill sets which I find very important that you didn't include:
1) Cooking. One should at the very least be able to prepare a meal for one's self, but I think it's better to have a certain repertoire of dishes and cooking techniques, giving one more flexibility. Ideally, one should even be able to prepare a dish to impress guests or a date.
2) First Aid: That should be obvious, but I've seen too many people who aren't capable of putting on a simple bandage. Every man (actually, every person in general) should be able to stop a bleeding, bring someone unconscious to safety and perform CPR.
God bless you men , very helpful video .
Thanks man !!! Great content ! Very glad you were recommended on my feed!
Phenomenal video, and I totally agree with this list.
I also think the mark of a man is legacy.
I think it’s important for a man to pass on his experience. IE: Finding someone to mentor. Not abdicating the responsibility of guiding others to manhood.
Order of man Thank you for these videos. I also encourage for other men to look into Exodus 90. It's a spiritual program that gives you freedom. It's just a suggestion but has many rewards. Hope all men out there are doing well and bettering themselves everyday.
Been a while since I did a workout as I've been mostly focussing on distance running lately. You convinced me to pick it up again.
Watching this 3 years later and man we really need guys like this now a days.
Great content the tips you give are so valuable. Sending positive vibes.
Thank you.
Thank you for these eight skills. I agree with them all. I also agree that everything is circumstantial. In addition to these 8 skills we must also know, and remember, that the number of skills needed as a man is infinite. There is no set limit.
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Dude, you are rocking that beard. 100% agreed with your well thought elements of a man.
23:02 Very True. From the first moment of presenting ourselves or introduced. We train people how to treat us.
Thanks man! I think you are exactly right! I was actually taught to pursue all those things from a child up. My Dad was a very good teacher, he knew what would motivate me. For instance, we used to get 100 lb sacks of feed for our cows. When I was about 8 years old, I figured I would carry one of those sacks from the van to the barn. My Dad watched me, not saying anything, let me do it, and I was able to do it because, I am naturally stronger than average, and I kept that mindset, never fearing a challenge whether mental or physical .
Bottom line: if you are a Father, Foster in your children some of these attitudinal implants, let them take pride in taking difficult chsllenges.
I needed this! Watching from Nigeria!
Those are random things youtube suggests, though I did enjoy the podcast. One very important aspect to leadership that I feel like people are not going to understand based on what you said today is knowing when not to be the leader. While you shouldn't shrink away from leadership you should also know when someone else is better suited to be a leader at that time. This is hugely important and yet men and women often fight over it, and normally because of their ego.
This is awesome advice! A lot of guys I know say stuff like that, “a real man doesn’t need to worry about…” and it’s always been frustrating to me bc it’s always felt like a limiting belief. Thanks for the video 👍🏼
7:00 most people dont like my assertive communication no matter how much I try to soften it up. Seems I just have too strong of a personality and confidence. Been hard my entire life.
Interesting point. I can relate. How do you relate to passive/agressiveness? I realized some nuance in above description often sneaks into my style of communication. Often derailing my long term ambitions.
This was truly enlightening, I'm a young man who is embarking on his hero's journey and I'm still figuring alot of stuff out along the way. What you shared here, definitely helps point me in the right direction. Thanks
AmaZing Explorer right on.
So true
This video helped me a lot, as far as perspective from someone else looking to better themselves. Thank you.
Nailed it! This is the first video that I’ve seen from you, and now I’m interested in your other videos as well. Very well done.
Great list and all true. I would add and put at the top of the list bumping everything else down.
1. Spiritual health
2. Moral code
Spiritual Health being your relationship with God. The better relationship with God you have then the better your Moral Code will be.
Антон РУС - Not everyone believes in a god tho
tkam54 We all believe in god whether we admit it or not. When you believe there is no god then you are making yourself the god of your life.
Mike Wilson - I can agree with that
Everyone has their own god and in my personal opinion that god is real to them and i respect that as long as they aren't harming others.nobody has proof of any god being real so maybe we are crazy.
9. Beard Growth-ability (So people listen without question)
Found Order of Man two days ago. Totally signed up to the concepts and the applications. Always thought I was born a thousand years too late. Reading the comments and listening to OoM pods etc , I realise I have a brotherhood.
All great advice brother. Thank you for this.
I thoroughly enjoyed A More Complete Beast. Definately recommend all of Jack Donovan's books if anyone hasn't read them.
Carlos casadonte on his book he said what is the difference between a man and a warrior. A warrior take everything as a challenge. Ordinary man eater take things as a curse or a blessing.
Outstanding... i would add being a mentor to others. Not always a leader, but willing to teach those coming up, sons, brothers and friends. The definition for Sensei, a teacher is one who came before.
Ok this is the second video from this channel that I’ve watched and can I just say I love what you talk about. I’m a woman, I was a single mother for 8 years and I wish I had come across this channel sooner. I know I can only teach my son so much about being a man, and I was blessed that my dad was my son’s male role model and “dad” during those 8 years. But I think this channel would have helped me so much back then. I’m glad I found the channel now that he’s a teen though, my husband already nurtures and instills the things you talk about, but I like listen and understand and learn so I can help, if I can. Thanks for sharing and God bless!
This is great, you give me the knowledge my father should have pass on me but he was too busy drinking.
Thank you
I heard “discipline equals freedom” mentioned without giving Jocko a shout out
Or the Buddha
I love how you give resources as well instead of vaguely telling us what we should learn, thanks!
This is good stuff!! I've listened multiple times.
You nailed it. Unfortunately many of us who have had privileged upbringings have a difficult time mastering these. Myself included. My father who was born into poverty mastered all of them.
Sometimes I think about where I would be mentally and spiritually now had these disciplines been instilled in me growing up instead of trying to develop them now in my mid twenties. Not despairing over it but something I want to keep in mind as I raise my own children.
Amazing informativo! Thank you very much. Best regards from Perú 🇵🇪 💪
Dude this channel is golden for all young men and men in general bro. God bless you! Definitely will be sharing. 👏🏾
I’m loving your channel. Just found it this month! This channel is necessary.
You should write a book about these 8 skills, and cover every single aspect of each skill.
I'm sure it would sell
Jordan Peterson bud. 12 rules for life.
As a girl, I would agree that your list sounds like the makings of good men. Several of these I think can apply to girls as well. We are all works in progress. Keep up the good work!
Your early videos and podcast kinda paved the way for me to take the step and start my own buisness, and also put more effort into my own CZcams channel.
Looks like a good list to me. I wholeheartedly agree, especially the physical aspects.
Every man needs to be able to go into the woods and make nunchucks with just two sticks and a shoe string
Or go into Koza City and buy one. Koza City now known as Okinawa City.
After Years in the Blue Ridge Mountains I have made everything except a pair
of Tonfas.
Watching it for the second time. Great content. But this time I just am wondering how does he eat and 😘?
Really great information I'm building a hell of a playlist for my son who's eight right now! I'm just a little behind the eight ball and I was raised by a step dad who showed and taught me to provide. But alot of information was learn as I go!
This was really good, I appreciate the authenticity in your delivery... great information
"The No Asshole Rule" is a great read for any man stuck in a toxic office environment.
@Inebriatd rigghhhttt....so you're one of those guys. 👍
@Inebriatd casting stones are we? Cute.
Assertive communication - do you mean "The Assertiveness Workbook" by Randy J. Paterson or Alison Straw and Dena Michelli ??
Thank you for including the 8 things you're talking about in the description.
You are opening my eyes. Thank you!