14:00 this point, right here. I worked for my dad as a teenager, fixing emergency generators in hospitals, data centers, etc. He was always yelling at me to, "move with a purpose!" Fast-forward about 6 years and I had joined the Army, was stationed in Mosul, Iraq. Middle of the night (I worked the nightshift), one of my buddies had walked from the ER, across the road in front of the building and was sitting on the other side of a barrier smoking. I went out to talk to him and for some reason, there in the back of my mind was my dad...."move with a purpose!" I chuckle to myself and pick up the pace a bit......**SNAP** On the back of my head, I felt the shockwave of a sniper's bullet as it JUST missed my head. He was to my right and if I was not "moving with a purpose" as my dad told me to, I wouldn't be here today. Take in all the wisdom you can from other men. You never know what piece of advice or seemingly asinine requirement might save your life someday.
Medic 83 that’s some 5th or 6th dimensional type psychic shit that communicated to you to MOVE in that second Though I’m surprised the sniper didn’t just take another shot lol
Medic 83 now what if someone reading this comment instills that wisdom in themselves and it ends up saving them or others and so it continues... meaning in part the reason you were saved that day was to save countless others...
Here you go :) 1. Eye contact 2. Shake hands firmly 3. Speak clearly 4. Walk Briskly 5. Posture ( head up, chest out and shoulders back ) 6. Be intrestd in other individuals ( more curious ) 7. Be intresting ( have something to talk about ) 8. Dress well ( based on the occasion ) 9. Be healthy, lose weight 10. Telling stories ( cool things you've done ) 11. Smile :)
Conor M time and place. Have you seen him look at his wife? His children? In an environment surrounded by equals? I have not, but that’s when you would see my smile.
8) Some things to supplement our beloved jeans & plaid shirts: a) A dark suit a') A light suit, if they look good on you b) A couple of conservative ties, and a few colorful ones c) Dress shirts. White matches everything. d) Some slacks e) Dress shoes f) A couple of sport coats g) Consider a couple of hats: cowboy, fedora, etc.
You got this! Speak strongly, clearly and deliberate. Don't use the same large verbs or adjectives. It causes you to appear to have a limited vocabulary. Walk with a purpose. Make things happen. Let your aura tell your true story. Be humbly confident. Dress appropriately for the moment. People attract to natural leaders like a magnet. They follow you and when a choice of direction is necessary, they look to you. Especially during emergency or crisis. Measure yourself by how people respond to you. And how they describe you. You know you are there when women call you "distinguished" or other quality descriptions. You have to earn it every day. You are doing great.
Be the first to own your faults/mistakes and talk about them with others. Use your negative experiences and personal growth to positively impact and inspire others. When you own your mistakes first, it’s much more difficult for others to judge you. And, when you do this, their judgement doesn’t matter to you anymore.
Outlines on 12 tips to become a more compelling man 1. Making Eye Contact 2. Firm Handshake 3. Speak Clearly - don't mumble or use sophisticated jargon that people don't understand. 4. Walk Briskly - move quickly 5. Keep your shoulders back, head up, chest out 6. Be interested in other people 7. Be interesting - don't be boring, or anything to share / stories / experience. Don't be monotonous 8. Dress well - right clothing based on the event, dress accordingly 9. Lose weight / Be a healthy individual 11. Tell compelling stories 12. SMILE :)
These are very 'ol skool teachings and at 63 years old I tell you that they have been long forgotten so thank you for the refresher course. I have a 3 old grandson who tries his best to do and say whatever it is that he sees me do and say. These things that can add to his manhood training. Malcolm from Oakland
I will read people’s name tags at the local grocery store or gas station or just some fast food restaurants and then ask them by name how their day is going. It does nothing for me to make conversation with some random person except for the fact that for us right moment with some people you’ll notice that the smile in that smile that they have become contagious on to me or on to others. Bc of this they may pay more attention my order or whatever they are doing.
Regarding Point 9- I can personnally attest to this. I was 465lbs, I knew my job and all was fine from what I could tell. I was being pushed and coralled into situations- not followed. People avoided me when I walked down the hall and avoided eye contact. So I lost 265 lbs. Now (basically same skills and mind set but 190lbs) Women approach me. Men consider me a leader and ask me to mentor them and my income (not just due to weight- though that was definitely a part of it) has more than tripled- really. I get so many more opportunities now.
I think moving slowly and deliberately portrays more dominance than moving quickly. A Lion, or a grizzly bear, or a silverback gorilla dont move quickly for anything if they dont want to or its absolutely necessary.
Most people in this day and age just bury their faces in their phones and avoid eye contact. This is the kind of stuff that needs to be taught by parents to their kids today.
I just came across your channel. As a single mom of a teenaged boy who's never had a strong male role model in his life, I appreciate the insight & will be listening to your videos within earshot of him. Thank you!
Never been a man to look away, myself. If there's a conversation going on, I want to show that I'm interested and genuinely want to learn what they have to say and think.
Great episode, straight forward and to the point 👍. One point I'd like to add is maintaining composure. The ability to be tact when conflict arisies and not to crack under pressure is definitely a admirable trait. Learned the hard way through jiu jitsu and is just one of the many takeaways from the art.
Isolation and the lone Wolf is good at times to work on your inner strength. You have your perspective and I have my perspective and both of us are right
Amazing quote at the end, “masculinity doesn’t need to be refined, it’s needs to be reestablished”! I’m truly enjoying your content, it can be a bit of a gut check on what I’m doing right or wrong in my life but it’s always spot on
Excellent podcast and list Ryan! This is another lesson that I will be sharing and watching with my boys. Even though these could potentially be blended in with a couple of your points, I would include Read Good Books and Learn Public Speaking Skills. Reading Good Books gives depth to a man and definitely helps in being more interesting and contributing to conversations and the lives around one’s self. Learning Public Speaking Skills could definitely bleed over into telling stories, but, for many men, learning to speak in public can go a long way to boost confidence and help a man communicate more comfortably in any environment. Blessings brother!
1 When you talk the talk walk the walk . 2 Be honest and truthful. However do not be hurtful. If your wife asks .. Do I look fat in this dress you do not respond . No your just fat in that dress . 3 Everything you do has purpose. Whether you are working or relaxing it needs to be purpose driven . If you are working you work toward those goals . When you are relaxing your purpose is to prepare and re energize . Do not drag work into that time .
This is a amazing video and tremendous video a real game changer. I feel i definitely needed to see this video and trying to get back on track with my authentic self/man.
I think I speak for every man when I say we all need a reminder such as this video to keep us on the right path from time to time. I’m right there with you, I need to really work on my posture.
Excellent content Ryan, I just found your vids. Subbed. One mistake I used to make in conversation quite often - Projecting. Some weird way of turning someones story or conversation into a story about myself...... VERY uncompelling. Its the reverse of your point #6 - Be interested in other individuals.
Great video. One suggestion for you would be to include the point in text form on the screen when you make it. This will help sink it is and appeals to both visual learners and auditory learners.
You can tell allot about a person by how they walk in the rain . It’s been said .. “ You will receive the same soaking with your head bowed or standing straight .”
Great episode Ryan! I think as men and as fathers we are called upon to lead. Being "compelling" isn't something of considered before, but that makes sense!
eye contact... I work in a man camp half my life. walking down the hall passing by another worker... 5% will give eye contact and say good morning or good day. very weird
Ryan. Awesome video and I love the rules. One thing to consider is that people of the autism spectrum have difficulty making eye contact. Making eye contact for my son (who is on the spectrum) is painful for him. Something to be aware of.
Going back to what you said about the "lone wolf mentality." I think the lone wolf is simply depicted as being at the top of the hierarchy scale. In many ways, the lone wolves we admire are all compelling men.
You said “articulate your words” but you meant “enunciate.” Articulation refers to thought coherency, the clarity of the point, not the clarity of how the word was said.
One time a fellow security officer tried to dominate me by getting aggresive with the hand shake, I just pulled his thumb back with force and this much bigger guy than I, thought I was gonna break his thumb, he was humbled by this martial artist who he was being disrespectful to! He was about 6'5" & I am only 5'8". Your presentation was Great, by the way!
3) Speak slowly, especially when presenting complicated subjects: Physics, Engineering, Automatic Transmissions, etc. 7) Have good answers for "So, tell me about yourself."
I own a barber shop, I enjoy having young boys come into the shop. These boys are not taught how to give a good hand shake, look in the eye. I make these boys shake hands and look into the eyes. It's funny when they give a wet noodle hand shake, I say to them to put some ass into the hand shake and then give the proper hand shake and the parents laugh. Fathers do not do not teach hand shaking to their boys. Great video.
Agreed! Keep doing what you’re doing. As a father of a 31yr old severely autistic non-verbal son, I can’t understand how fathers don’t make the time to teach their “healthy” sons. My son can’t even speak but he knows how to give a firm handshake. God bless!
Coice of words is important too for men... Some will often misuse a word because they dont actually know its meaning. That comprimises a person's credibility
The secret to success in life is sincerity; once you can fake that you have it made! Seriously, being genuinely interested in other people without faking it doesnt come easily to me. Any advice on that?
You’re right! I almost shut this video off because of the beard and the hat. Glad I didn’t, but I did find it hard to take you serious because of your attire.
I would add for the younger men out there: Stop adopting word and speech patterns of women and teens, which means: 1) NO UPTALK. That is a marker of someone without confidence, who speaks as though they are not actually sure about what they are saying. 2) Stop starting sentences with "So.." Unless you are sitting around a campfire and about to tell a story, don't start your sentences off as though you are already in the middle of a cogent narrative that the listener is already in on..it sounds stupid. 3) Monitor how many times you say "Like" in a sentence. Speak straight forward, not like a teenage girl (in that case, "like" was used correctly, as a matter of actual comparison). 4) And FFS, STOP saying "No worries" when the correct, polite response is, depending on the circumstances, "you're welcome" or "my pleasure"...same with "You're fine" or "It's ok". When someone is making a passing comment about something that you need to address (or your company or where you work), you don't act like you are giving them a "pass" by throwing it back on them with a "oh...no worries...you're fine". It's annoying as hell and gives the impression you completely misunderstood that they are pointing something OUT TO YOU, not asking for your permission to complain, or a "pass" from you. Example: You are in customer service and someone advises you that your company has the wrong phone number on a flyer, and they want your service but had to go thru hoops to get the right number...you dont' say "oh no worries, you're fine". It's "oh, I'm sorry...let me make a note of that to have so and so check it out" . This used to be common sense, but apparently all these 15-30 year olds are so self-centered they feel like everyone is apologizing to them constantly and that they need to give them a "pass" or excuse them, by saying "oh, you're fine...no worries...it's not a problem".
You need to think of your clothes/hair/beard/etc as a Halloween costume rather than a fashion statement. Whatever character you dress up as, is what people are going to believe you are.
The only thing I don't do on this listen is dress well... I am so sexy though so I'm good. I'm still on Amazon looking at dress clothes. Making a career move and I'm grateful for 2020...
I'm also a beardsman but in your experience from shorter to longer beard as yours is now, how differently are you perceived or treated if any? A big natural beard is epic but has a negative stigma that is hard to overcome with the majority of society. You talk alot about appearance and I'm just curious how this affects you personally.
I've worked at three companies since the beard was faux paux in corporate circles. I can tell you that people are coming around. Ironically most of the guys wearing beards are former military, myself included.
You killed with Your beard is being judged lol 😂 but so true people do judge you! But I didn’t take advantage of that now I will A lot the things you talked about in this video I have acted sometimes and now I realize why I remember those days as my best ! I was being a man lol
14:00 this point, right here.
I worked for my dad as a teenager, fixing emergency generators in hospitals, data centers, etc. He was always yelling at me to, "move with a purpose!"
Fast-forward about 6 years and I had joined the Army, was stationed in Mosul, Iraq. Middle of the night (I worked the nightshift), one of my buddies had walked from the ER, across the road in front of the building and was sitting on the other side of a barrier smoking. I went out to talk to him and for some reason, there in the back of my mind was my dad...."move with a purpose!" I chuckle to myself and pick up the pace a bit......**SNAP** On the back of my head, I felt the shockwave of a sniper's bullet as it JUST missed my head. He was to my right and if I was not "moving with a purpose" as my dad told me to, I wouldn't be here today.
Take in all the wisdom you can from other men. You never know what piece of advice or seemingly asinine requirement might save your life someday.
Medic 83 that’s some 5th or 6th dimensional type psychic shit that communicated to you to MOVE in that second
Though I’m surprised the sniper didn’t just take another shot lol
Gave me chiils.
Thank you for your service and your comment!
That's a crazy story, glad you made it back home safely.
Medic 83 now what if someone reading this comment instills that wisdom in themselves and it ends up saving them or others and so it continues... meaning in part the reason you were saved that day was to save countless others...
My father always said, "Walk with a purpose". Meaning, don't ramble like you're lost and don't hurry like you're late."
Excellent advice!
Also drive with purpose😎👍🏾
Here you go :)
1. Eye contact
2. Shake hands firmly
3. Speak clearly
4. Walk Briskly
5. Posture ( head up, chest out and shoulders back )
6. Be intrestd in other individuals ( more curious )
7. Be intresting ( have something to talk about )
8. Dress well ( based on the occasion )
9. Be healthy, lose weight
10. Telling stories ( cool things you've done )
11. Smile :)
Thx
SoNq thanks for the effort
Appreciate it
Does Ryan smile? He seems very serious.
Conor M time and place. Have you seen him look at his wife? His children?
In an environment surrounded by equals?
I have not, but that’s when you would see my smile.
8) Some things to supplement our beloved jeans & plaid shirts:
a) A dark suit
a') A light suit, if they look good on you
b) A couple of conservative ties, and a few colorful ones
c) Dress shirts. White matches everything.
d) Some slacks
e) Dress shoes
f) A couple of sport coats
g) Consider a couple of hats: cowboy, fedora, etc.
These feel like old school values for any man, simple, straight forward and a foundation for your personality to truly shine through.
👊🏻👊🏻
You got this! Speak strongly, clearly and deliberate. Don't use the same large verbs or adjectives. It causes you to appear to have a limited vocabulary.
Walk with a purpose. Make things happen. Let your aura tell your true story. Be humbly confident.
Dress appropriately for the moment.
People attract to natural leaders like a magnet. They follow you and when a choice of direction is necessary, they look to you. Especially during emergency or crisis.
Measure yourself by how people respond to you. And how they describe you. You know you are there when women call you "distinguished" or other quality descriptions.
You have to earn it every day.
You are doing great.
Be the first to own your faults/mistakes and talk about them with others. Use your negative experiences and personal growth to positively impact and inspire others. When you own your mistakes first, it’s much more difficult for others to judge you. And, when you do this, their judgement doesn’t matter to you anymore.
Doug Boyd I do this often and has done wonders for me in relationships
Outlines on 12 tips to become a more compelling man
1. Making Eye Contact
2. Firm Handshake
3. Speak Clearly - don't mumble or use sophisticated jargon that people don't understand.
4. Walk Briskly - move quickly
5. Keep your shoulders back, head up, chest out
6. Be interested in other people
7. Be interesting - don't be boring, or anything to share / stories / experience. Don't be monotonous
8. Dress well - right clothing based on the event, dress accordingly
9. Lose weight / Be a healthy individual
11. Tell compelling stories
12. SMILE :)
These are very 'ol skool teachings and at 63 years old I tell you that they have been long forgotten so thank you for the refresher course. I have a 3 old grandson who tries his best to do and say whatever it is that he sees me do and say.
These things that can add to his manhood training.
Malcolm from Oakland
Malcolm your a boss, sir
greetings from germany :)
Be transparent, bold honesty is pretty compelling.
Agreed.
Number 4 got me a raise once.
Walk with purpose, talk with purpose, work with purpose.
I will read people’s name tags at the local grocery store or gas station or just some fast food restaurants and then ask them by name how their day is going. It does nothing for me to make conversation with some random person except for the fact that for us right moment with some people you’ll notice that the smile in that smile that they have become contagious on to me or on to others. Bc of this they may pay more attention my order or whatever they are doing.
"Fair has nothing to do with it." TRUTH. If only more people could grasp that concept.
Regarding Point 9- I can personnally attest to this. I was 465lbs, I knew my job and all was fine from what I could tell. I was being pushed and coralled into situations- not followed. People avoided me when I walked down the hall and avoided eye contact.
So I lost 265 lbs.
Now (basically same skills and mind set but 190lbs)
Women approach me. Men consider me a leader and ask me to mentor them and my income (not just due to weight- though that was definitely a part of it) has more than tripled- really. I get so many more opportunities now.
By far, my favorite youtube channel
I think moving slowly and deliberately portrays more dominance than moving quickly. A Lion, or a grizzly bear, or a silverback gorilla dont move quickly for anything if they dont want to or its absolutely necessary.
I'm autistic. The hardest thing on Earth for me is to look somebody straight in the eyes.
This was on point. The way a man walks tells a story. Eye contact and firm handshake is another.
You’re never to old to learn. You are awesome brother
Most people in this day and age just bury their faces in their phones and avoid eye contact. This is the kind of stuff that needs to be taught by parents to their kids today.
thats why I like my germany, almost everyone looks everyone straight in the eye and most give firm handshakes
Wenn du deutsche Zuschauer in US Videos triffst.....
Keine Schwäche zeigen!
What about standing up for your country invasion ?
@@alexanderditonio2670 nah
@@ichiel1898 surrendered?
That's a great habit for any culture to have. It's something more people should embrace, thanks for sharing.
Active listening skills go a long ways in creating respectful dynamics with others as well. It's also the best way to truly learn.
#12 Laugh fully- especially at yourself.
I just came across your channel. As a single mom of a teenaged boy who's never had a strong male role model in his life, I appreciate the insight & will be listening to your videos within earshot of him. Thank you!
Never been a man to look away, myself. If there's a conversation going on, I want to show that I'm interested and genuinely want to learn what they have to say and think.
Having great story topics is not the same as telling good stories. A good story teller can make the mundane interesting.
Great episode, straight forward and to the point 👍. One point I'd like to add is maintaining composure. The ability to be tact when conflict arisies and not to crack under pressure is definitely a admirable trait. Learned the hard way through jiu jitsu and is just one of the many takeaways from the art.
Sounds like Congress
I really agree with your message on this subject. Thanks for sharing this info with us.
Isolation and the lone Wolf is good at times to work on your inner strength. You have your perspective and I have my perspective and both of us are right
Great content brother
Amazing quote at the end, “masculinity doesn’t need to be refined, it’s needs to be reestablished”!
I’m truly enjoying your content, it can be a bit of a gut check on what I’m doing right or wrong in my life but it’s always spot on
I would recommend ‘How to win friends and influence people’ to anyone who hasn’t read it
I'm extremely happy I found you on CZcams! Thank you for your work.
Awesome clear simple truths.
Thank you
Thank you Sir, this is so necessary, thank you
Great advice!!
Well said as always brother. 💯
Great show, man! 👍👍
Love the advice your sharing. It's amazing how the simplest things can have a great outcome if we just execute with persistence and determination.
Thank you sir, keep up the great work!
Thanks for what you're doing . I have learnt a lot listening to and watching you. You're the man
Thank you for this video👍
#4. Sense of urgency
Thank you Ryan for the inspiration. I'm going to watch it again now✌️💯💥🙏🔥💪
Glad you enjoyed.
Great videos man
Thank you for this
Good stuff. On point! 🤙🏼
John Elway always hurried his lineman to the ball before a play.
Excellent podcast and list Ryan! This is another lesson that I will be sharing and watching with my boys.
Even though these could potentially be blended in with a couple of your points, I would include Read Good Books and Learn Public Speaking Skills.
Reading Good Books gives depth to a man and definitely helps in being more interesting and contributing to conversations and the lives around one’s self.
Learning Public Speaking Skills could definitely bleed over into telling stories, but, for many men, learning to speak in public can go a long way to boost confidence and help a man communicate more comfortably in any environment.
Blessings brother!
Absolutely
ThaNx this felt like a conversation that was meant for me to hear 😊 keep up the good spirit..stayblessed
Thank You from Paraguay.
Good advice.
some good nuggets of info in this vid. thanks man
Thanks dude
The green really brings out your beard... great post too
Sounds like pure common sense to me. But then again, I was programed in that manner from birth. My dad was quite compelling.
1 When you talk the talk walk the walk .
2 Be honest and truthful. However do not be hurtful. If your wife asks .. Do I look fat in this dress you do not respond . No your just fat in that dress .
3 Everything you do has purpose. Whether you are working or relaxing it needs to be purpose driven . If you are working you work toward those goals . When you are relaxing your purpose is to prepare and re energize . Do not drag work into that time .
Sickass beard brotha
This is a amazing video and tremendous video a real game changer. I feel i definitely needed to see this video and trying to get back on track with my authentic self/man.
Right on.
I think I speak for every man when I say we all need a reminder such as this video to keep us on the right path from time to time. I’m right there with you, I need to really work on my posture.
I’m actually here for the beard lol. Great podcast and great content. We appreciate your work!
Excellent content Ryan, I just found your vids. Subbed.
One mistake I used to make in conversation quite often - Projecting.
Some weird way of turning someones story or conversation into a story about myself...... VERY uncompelling.
Its the reverse of your point #6 - Be interested in other individuals.
Great video. One suggestion for you would be to include the point in text form on the screen when you make it. This will help sink it is and appeals to both visual learners and auditory learners.
Excelente advice
My Dad always said walk in the rain like it's a sunny day and on a sunny day just walk!
You can tell allot about a person by how they walk in the rain . It’s been said .. “ You will receive the same soaking with your head bowed or standing straight .”
Great episode Ryan! I think as men and as fathers we are called upon to lead. Being "compelling" isn't something of considered before, but that makes sense!
Hope it helps!
@@Orderofman keep up the great work brother! You've got a great way with words. Would love to chat on the Actidad podcast some time.🙂👍
Be interestED. Interest Ed, has many interests, gets excited to share his story, excited to hear your story.
eye contact... I work in a man camp half my life. walking down the hall passing by another worker... 5% will give eye contact and say good morning or good day. very weird
When one saya No to things that are less valuable and refuse to accept trash talk and bad behavior, I feel that one becomes more compelling.
Good practical advice
thank you
I love your channel. I have three God Son's and I enjoy learning from you. GOD BLESS
Can you make a video about How to Use the Social Medias to improve our Image in the Community or Use them with Inteligence?
Ryan. Awesome video and I love the rules. One thing to consider is that people of the autism spectrum have difficulty making eye contact. Making eye contact for my son (who is on the spectrum) is painful for him. Something to be aware of.
Going back to what you said about the "lone wolf mentality." I think the lone wolf is simply depicted as being at the top of the hierarchy scale. In many ways, the lone wolves we admire are all compelling men.
You said “articulate your words” but you meant “enunciate.” Articulation refers to thought coherency, the clarity of the point, not the clarity of how the word was said.
Is a very interesting channel.
One time a fellow security officer tried to dominate me by getting aggresive with the hand shake, I just pulled his thumb back with force and this much bigger guy than I, thought I was gonna break his thumb, he was humbled by this martial artist who he was being disrespectful to! He was about 6'5" & I am only 5'8". Your presentation was Great, by the way!
💯 %. Fucking truth ! thanks Man ✌️
Literally just dropped a like just cause of the beard
great
3) Speak slowly, especially when presenting complicated subjects: Physics, Engineering, Automatic Transmissions, etc.
7) Have good answers for "So, tell me about yourself."
The axe in the background lol
I own a barber shop, I enjoy having young boys come into the shop. These boys are not taught how to give a good hand shake, look in the eye. I make these boys shake hands and look into the eyes. It's funny when they give a wet noodle hand shake, I say to them to put some ass into the hand shake and then give the proper hand shake and the parents laugh. Fathers do not do not teach hand shaking to their boys. Great video.
Another false positive with non-verbal. Good luck with that.
Right on!
Agreed! Keep doing what you’re doing. As a father of a 31yr old severely autistic non-verbal son, I can’t understand how fathers don’t make the time to teach their “healthy” sons. My son can’t even speak but he knows how to give a firm handshake. God bless!
Badass
Coice of words is important too for men... Some will often misuse a word because they dont actually know its meaning. That comprimises a person's credibility
The secret to success in life is sincerity; once you can fake that you have it made!
Seriously, being genuinely interested in other people without faking it doesnt come easily to me. Any advice on that?
Could u turn up the volume a little bit .? I'm hard of hearing.
How much time do you spend on your beard per day?
You’re right! I almost shut this video off because of the beard and the hat. Glad I didn’t, but I did find it hard to take you serious because of your attire.
I'm deliberate about what I wear and I know it won't appeal to everyone. Nothing I do, say, or wear ever would.
Order of Man More power to ya man, you do you. I was just commenting on something you had said about your beard.
There's an idea. An camouflage suit...
❤
I would add for the younger men out there: Stop adopting word and speech patterns of women and teens, which means:
1) NO UPTALK. That is a marker of someone without confidence, who speaks as though they are not actually sure about what they are saying.
2) Stop starting sentences with "So.." Unless you are sitting around a campfire and about to tell a story, don't start your sentences off as though you are already in the middle of a cogent narrative that the listener is already in on..it sounds stupid.
3) Monitor how many times you say "Like" in a sentence. Speak straight forward, not like a teenage girl (in that case, "like" was used correctly, as a matter of actual comparison).
4) And FFS, STOP saying "No worries" when the correct, polite response is, depending on the circumstances, "you're welcome" or "my pleasure"...same with "You're fine" or "It's ok". When someone is making a passing comment about something that you need to address (or your company or where you work), you don't act like you are giving them a "pass" by throwing it back on them with a "oh...no worries...you're fine". It's annoying as hell and gives the impression you completely misunderstood that they are pointing something OUT TO YOU, not asking for your permission to complain, or a "pass" from you. Example: You are in customer service and someone advises you that your company has the wrong phone number on a flyer, and they want your service but had to go thru hoops to get the right number...you dont' say "oh no worries, you're fine". It's "oh, I'm sorry...let me make a note of that to have so and so check it out" . This used to be common sense, but apparently all these 15-30 year olds are so self-centered they feel like everyone is apologizing to them constantly and that they need to give them a "pass" or excuse them, by saying "oh, you're fine...no worries...it's not a problem".
The hell you talking about, that beard wicked!
Is funny because I thought looking down when engaging eyecontact was the only way to be respectful. I feel silly now
I wanna do construction
You need to think of your clothes/hair/beard/etc as a Halloween costume rather than a fashion statement.
Whatever character you dress up as, is what people are going to believe you are.
The only thing I don't do on this listen is dress well... I am so sexy though so I'm good. I'm still on Amazon looking at dress clothes.
Making a career move and I'm grateful for 2020...
I'm also a beardsman but in your experience from shorter to longer beard as yours is now, how differently are you perceived or treated if any? A big natural beard is epic but has a negative stigma that is hard to overcome with the majority of society. You talk alot about appearance and I'm just curious how this affects you personally.
I've worked at three companies since the beard was faux paux in corporate circles. I can tell you that people are coming around. Ironically most of the guys wearing beards are former military, myself included.
It doesn't impact me because of my line of work. Yeah, there are obviously people who don't like it but that doesn't really matter to me.
@@Orderofman thanks for the reply and I am with you in that I don't care what others think.
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Your beard is being judged lol 😂 but so true
people do judge you!
But I didn’t take advantage of that now I will
A lot the things you talked about in this video
I have acted sometimes and now I realize why I remember those days as my best ! I was being a man lol