How to Stop Caring What Other People Think of You At Work (FOR REAL)
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- How to Stop Caring What Other People Think of You At Work (and IRL) // You are worrying about what others think, but you don’t want to. You need to know how to stop caring about what other people think about you. Once you know how to not care what others think about you at work, you will be able to focus on getting results; and not on your toxic coworkers opinions, the office gossip or jealous coworkers. Just follow these tips to find out exactly how to stop caring about what other people think about you at work.
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What tips would you add to the list?
7. Learn more about your job role and other areas of the work.
They gotta hate seeing someone getting more into the core of their job.
instead of worrying if other people approve of you, try to understand others better. calculatively showing the right vulnerability with the right people at the right time can actually get you further than trying SO HARD to appear competent all the time to everybody.
How about "How to stop comparing yourself to others"? Please let me know. Thanks.
Xoxoxo
@@Satarupa902 am I speaking to you?
@@Satarupa902 okay no worries
The main reasons why people care what their co-workers think of them is because they got familiar with them. Remember people you are only there to get your money, not make friends.
Sadly, we need to work with insecure and immature folks...
None of that matters. Put the focus where is it actual effective; on yourself. Anything less is victim-postering.
Being a ray of sunshine and competent pisses some people off. Being nice and incompetent might help deter the news-holes.
But the problem is when a coworker a female will say nasty things to your boss and some boss will believe the old timer worker's. And if they are close aquintance
I wouldn't have cared too much about how my former co-workers saw me. They were problematic since I started working amongst them and they didn't really accept me as one of their own as I was considered an outsider, despite living a 20 minute walk away from work. I got treated better by the customers, which made my work days a lot easier and was able to earn several recognitions for my outstanding customer service. I'm pretty sure a lot of my co-workers were jealous. I literally rised above all the hate from my toxic co-workers.
"former co-workers", you ended up leaving that job?
Your story is a bit similar to mine: I have a good rapport with my clients but with management and a couple of coworkers there's this weird vibe towards me. Like you, I feel like an outsider at this place. I am the type of person to keep to myself anyway, do my work and talk later. I'm not the type to really gossip at work or talk about personal topics...so they definitely hate that I don't make effort to fit in. I am independent and want to be respected as such. The environment I am in is unorganized and chaotic..with a break down of communication. They want teamwork but they haven't exactly shown me good teamwork skills.
Also, I came into my job very initiative..which I naturally am when I am passionate about something..and they hated it lmaoo
@@AskNieRe this sounds like my work rn
@@AskNieRe same here! It's so uncomfortable work like that.
In my experience with humans; this all and always comes back to the core issue of one’s perception of own’s own sense of self-worth. If you understand your innate worth simply as a human being, what other people think of you one way or the other will be completely moot. This isn’t even a matter of “caring what other people will think of you”. That will not even enter the equation. I never think about what people think of me as none of that matters.
However, what I think of the person I choose to be (keywords: my choice) is all that matters. And if you choose to be an honorable, kind, helpful/uplifting, compassionate and empathic person, that’s all one needs to know. You are thee only person qualified to make that call for yourself. No one else is remotely qualified to make a call on your “worth”. That’s your job as a human being. You make the harmonious choices, the rest will fall into place.
Also, play acting at being positive will bite you in the ass with other humans. There is a thing called “toxic positivity” that puts other humans off once they sense (and they will) that you are putting on a show. And they will resent you for it.
It’s never what you do that ultimately matters, but rather the intention BEHIND the action. You can’t fake intention.
As such, get your intentions in order first and foremost.
Also, esp. with work; Always be of a service-minded intention. And also, be fucking really good at what you do. If you are not inspired to be really fucking good at what you do, then you’re in the wrong line of work, and thus; find the thing that naturally inspires you to be really fucking good at what you do and then stay humble about it and be of good service with your skills and everything will just fall into place.
Trust me, I got hired straight into top-tier level positions in Hollywood doing VFX employing all this same exact principles.
Why? Because I’m not afraid of being awesome and I’m not afraid of being humble in the process of being awesome. Rare quality in Hollywood especially.
Read “The Four Agreements” to get you started.
we work from home and communicate with each other through teams chat. aside from the biweekly virtual meeting and going into the office once a week, we don't really see each other. it's easier to talk behind peoples' backs, give them attitude, or think negatively of someone if they're not in the presence of said person. the biggest issue i have is people thinking i'm dumb, when i'm not, and making backhanded remarks. when i directly address those remarks, i get painted as aggressive. so, it's either i let people communicate with me in a disrespectful tone or i respond and get labeled.
so this isn't really me caring what other people think but somewhat is because these people have sway in my work evaluations.
Sometimes it matters because in some countries bosses collect information from other employees about you and if you are working in a toxic environment that everyone is gossiping, then one wrong opinion can destroy your career in that company.
Then you weren’t meant to be there. And who would stay in a toxic workplace by choice? Leave and find a healthy place to work.
True, here in India it is not wise idea to talk directly to boss or HR if peers act difficult.
How do I be approachable with work topics without encouraging people to linger around me for conversation? I just don’t have patience for people and I want them to go away.
I avoid the people I don’t like so having to spend 40 hours a week with people I don’t like is just ughhhhhh😩
The people who need this vid aren't watching it.
I never cared what my co workers thought about me I was not there to make friends one or to be catty and messy
So all the gossip behind my back means I'm special and thought of, I'm very flattered I lose no sleep either way 😂😂😂
Needless to say I left that toxic company
Between the micromanagement, the pettiness and cliques I'm too old, classy and valuable for this ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
I absolutely Love your comment.❤ & Needed this to start my day and have my head held high no matter what. So thank you ☺️
I was with you until the last few tips, they seemed to contradict your first few tips. First you mention to not care what others think, then you say to monitor what impressions we give off to others?!?! Isn’t that caring?? Also, truth be told some people will never like you, no matter how positive or nice you are. Some people are hell bent on being miserable
💯% agree with you
I have been in my career for 25 years and absolutely care what people think. More with authority figures. It has been the most challenging part of my job, otherwise I love what I do.
I really needed this advice
Amazing video. Very helpful
I needed this! Thanks I do like your videos!! Keep them coming!
Will do, Melinda!
I don’t think I give ENOUGH of a shit of what my co workers think of me...but I should? Lol
i could honestly care less and it doesn’t bother me bc I have nothing to prove to them. but I think it bothers them that I’m not bothered?
I’m very ambitious and focused and driven. I guess I could seem unfriendly since I keep to myself and do my own thing but still work as a team. I just choose not to talk about personal life, lesson learned from my previous job, your workers are not really your friends.
I think once you reach adult maturity, which is around 28-30, you start to not give a shit about pleasing people or what they think of you. Im confident in what I do bc I have a lot of passion for my career. I’m just at that point in my life where, your opinion is the least of my problems nor does it phase me.
Idk if my way of thinking is a good thing or I should reconsider changing my ways?
March 22, 2021 and no thumbs down. Thanks for the tips!!
I was thinking I am the only one
And then I realized I am not alone
Tnku mam
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Jenn you are probably changing my life with this videos. I wish I could talk to you in person to share my problems and get your advices.
Girl me too
i personally don't care about what others think of me. but i can't stand others talking crap about me. luckily i haven't had someone who has rubbed be the wrong way. if you push me far enough, you may come to your car at night and your tires are deflated.
also, i don't care much of the impression i set on anyone except maybe my boss.
Good advice.....you are very well spoken!
Thank you friend!
Especially to those that treat you like an Expendable Asset.
Hi, your knowledge about this & other topics for Co-Workers are very well thought & experienced based. I live in Asia (Spore) & the way people worked in this particular country is very closed to what you've been discussing, highly political. I think & in my opinion, if studying a serious & detrimental office politics in the world this is one of the place can look out for perfectly. Thank you so much for sharing unselfish very relevant information. I look out for every topic you share in this channel.
Thanks for sharing your experience and enlightening up beyond North America, I appreciate it, and you hanging with me on my channel!
Hello! Do you have a video about boss expressing that they are happy with your performance buy will not promote you when you asl?
Starting over has triggered me.
This is terrible … how do I recover???
Hardwired/evolution in the same sentence?
I bet the toxic guys at my work are way worse than yours . These guys are insane. For real.
1:15 Opinions are like what? I didn't get the censored word...