The Biggest Myth About Strong Women (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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In this week's episode of LOVELife I take a caller through a gentle process of coaching to come around to the mindset that strength is allowing yourself to be served.
We talk about how relinquishing excessive independence in a relationship is like growing a team as a CEO, and how you can use this to make yourself more approachable.
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I think a lot of independent people become this way because they got so sick being dependent or being abused in overdependence/codependency or anything unhealthy tied to others. So their way of surviving/"being fine" or Safe is to be Independent so no one can have power to create havoc in their life again. But they forget that the goal of life is not to be fine but for it to be incredible! So they can now be dependent independently.
well said. :)
The truth is that there are self sufficient people who are friendly and approachable, but they don't need other people. They easily make friends, but they don't need them.
Yeah.. I think that's me :/
PianoGirl555 You should be proud of yourself.
Preach!
Mmmh that's so me
Dude you understood her in the first two sentences ........ U r good .feels great to be following someone who's smart .
Sat Sri Akal ji
Hi Matt
You are just LOVELY!!!! I loved the way you worked with Patty... You just enveloped her with everything that you are and gave her the best help you could give her. Thank you Matt, you have a rare level of authenticity - it's a hard find.
I'm also that strong gal but I have been applying what you have said from your videos. FYI... I got the guy ;) Thank you Matt
Just loved the content in this talk back - so many things apply to me. At 50+ years of age, I've learned more in 9 minutes than the last 30 years of dating. Thanks Matt and thanks Patty for calling in.
I have never before left a CZcams comment but I felt compelled to do so because Matt, this is one of the best videos I have ever watched in my life. 'There is nothing weak about asking for help, in fact it makes you strong to allow yourself to be served'. Due to my life circumstances I have grown to be afraid of relying on others for fear of being 'weak' or putting myself in a position where I can be let down by others. Your video really resonated with me and I see that I need to change my way of thinking! I absolutely love your videos, you have helped me so much in my life so far, thank you Matt x
I am going to use this quote as a life motto.
"The goal in life is not to be fine, the goal in life is to make it incredible." - matthew hussey
This is far one of your best videos Matthew. I am so one of those ultra independent women. One of the most amazing things about meeting you was even on a retreat, for the moments we talked you gave me 100% of your attention, and eye contact!!! What you say I believe works and I'm seeing it as I use more eye contact in my own life. In fact, I've been asked on two dates just since I made a point to make eye contact with people. Very good stuff.
Robin Mitchell I like.....Eye to boob contact, every man does!!!
Brilliant advice I needed to hear today! I have just found you and have been bingeing on your channel. You do some valuable work here.
I'm still learning this, but doing so much better. Thank you for the awesome advice you give us ladies!
Omg, Matthew, so much fear came up when you said to touch people. I NEVER touch people. I always find people who can pull off the casual-yet-caring arm touch when they ask how I am or complement my outfit to be so charismatic, and I always wish I could be them, but I just have no idea how to go about it. I worry that the person will think I'm coming on too strong and crossing into their personal space. I would love it if you could do a video literally showing us how to do this, like in different settings, different positions (eg sitting across a table, standing next to each other upon first introduction, etc), and also romantic and platonic. Especially because I can't imagine touching the inside forearm? Like, just reaching in next to their waist? Lol this will be a disaster waiting to happen until I can see what you mean! :)
Beautiful advice! Very insightful. Good job!
Damn! Another one that just hit me like a freight train. Seriously made me think. I'm gonna have to really try the "giving value" advance
Thsnk you for encouraging people to smile all more without feeling to weird...I miss people smiling more without making me feel like I am going to far
Great interaction / interview there guys ;D. I find it natural to give light gentle touch's to others and eye contact. I am uncomfortable with others if they hide their eyes behind dark glass's or keep looking away because they break off the flow of intimate sincere communication that I am able to feel on a deep level . Good eye contact is like a beautiful spirit hug or being hugged by spirit : )
I really enjoyed this video. It gave me some situations to approach differently. Thanks!
One of the best advice I ever got. Thank u Hussey, you are the greatest coach for love n life
Well done, Matt. Spot on at every turn in handling the call. You are indeed the consummate professional.
Thanks matthew,you really got anicebody can't get tired of listening to your videos.
Men, you can always ask for help too don’t be nervous :)
I do...all the time.
Men ask for help a lot - they ask other men who are able to help.
@Tennesse rebel as people, we are always looking to solve problems. However, there will be cases where you have to ask for help, and there is no shame in that either.
Love this video! Very very helpful 😁!
Thank you so much Matthew! You are helping me too because I 've recognized myself in Patty. So I've changed my point of view about how to be a strong woman. Regards from Romania!
I am so happy I stumbled upon your videos today. New fan here.
that woman on the call is literally me. this video force me to contemplating my self
Man you are too good and I like your clarity with the questions and answers
Thank you Matthew! I've had the same problem as this woman in the past. Before I even saw your videos I figured out that I was, in fact, being weak by not allowing someone to help me. I thought that if they offered help, they were offering because they thought I couldn't do it. How wrong I was! And you've only enforced my own eye opening experiences. You're a wonderful teacher and I just wanted you to know that you've really made my social life ten times better than what it used to be!
Hey Matthew, I just started reading your book and it's funny how I have legit occupation hazard of being an engineer which is a masculine field and being successful at it. For me even watching these video is a huge step, because I don't like asking for help. Your content has helped me understand about myself, I appreciate that. You are correct, I can do everything myself but I choose to be a girl because I've forgotten how wise and beautiful feminine really is, plus why would I do all the heavy lifting when I can have a guy to do it for me 😉
So relevant to me, I'm so use to doing everything by myself. But it's a good point, don't try to impress, instead give value :) Great lesson and talk, as always, thanks Matt!
thank you so much Matthew because I also come of as a person that is not attractive by my body language or I go into business mode. definitely helped me know I need to be more interactive with people
oh Matt I needed this... you give the best life advices.. I'll go out and validate and touch people.. and ask for help..
Wow! I’m just floored with he just did in this video! So subtle ❤️
Totally felt this one. Great advice 👍
Great advice!
Just what I needed!!
The goal of life is not to be fine! The goal of life is to make it incredible! God I'm on the right path😁 Feeling soooooo proud of myself! Thank you Matthew😍 You never fail to impress😎
Great insight. Thank you.
Man really appreciate this. I'm terrible at asking for help, my father, teachers all through school and even uni told me to just ask coz it's not weak. Sadly I still hate to. But watching this helps :D esp CEO bit (Ps for me it's work orientated)
Matthew I love your videos and your book.. plz make another inspirational book :-)
Seriously what I needed to hear. Thank you Matt!!
so good, thank you!
"You gotta touch them" ahhh... didn't think about covid times 😭😭 imagine how life was like before covid where we didn't have to worry about it
How do you think COVID spread so quickly?
People following hussey's advice!
Love all your videos !!!
wow! I love all ur videos.
Damn he's good. I am going to start this tomorrow.
Thanks for sharing this video I agree with everything might struggle with touching strangers
I love watching your video. I always learn something new! But I wonder 'cause I got to your website and I didn't find personal coaching. Is it possible that you coach one person?
I needed to hear this today.
"I need lovers.." he said.
TAKE ME
OTHno3TLA I VOLUNTER AS TRIBUTE!
lol jk
🤣🤣🤣
Love the way Matt thinks.
Matthew, I think the woman's problem was not that she didn't admit that she needed others, but she just needed the being approachable tips and other practical tips how to show it.
This was on my birthday!
Matthew Hussey is Awesome 👏🏾
You are great..I am a huge fan of youtube videos..too...I listened to this..I realized how I was and made mistakes in human relationship, not just with a man but, all.. I will ask some help from now on..Thank you, Matt..your strength is a balanced idea on many things.. You are smart and wise..Everytime, I listen I reflect what I have done with people..
I let them uneasy..I used to be like this caller so... Awaring what we have done..and try to collect a bit of every day, you have made me....Thank you, Matt.. Love to interview you for Korean audiences...so, you can give us advices too.. I do not see all these just for male and famale things..but, more like a human relationship to be wiser.. Thank you.. You are simply great...
You are an amazing human being, thank you.
"...I need lovers, I need girlfriends" allrighty then! :-)
+b dal I volunteer as tribute!
LOL!
b dal Count me in!
b dal it's unnatural for men to be monogamous.
@@intrinsicallyme8404 we can keep our word, though
Amazing stuff !!!
Mathew your a genius!!
Thank you! :)
Thanks so much
Man spitting facts.
though love! Love it!
thank u mathew!!! u are amazing!!! greetings from México. Paola shiadani😘
You are so wise !!!
Love love love!
Yeah I've been waiting for your video on this topic!... If we had to become stronger is cause of freak bad raised men out there ;) LOL like on a previous insight you did!! LOVE YOUR VIDEOS THANK YOU - ps. got my sis to be a fan also ;)
Haha, this made me smile the whole time. Can relate here.
Amazing life advice, thank you so much!
Mathew we love you darlin, you are so smart..intelligence is rare in today's world and common sense even more rare LOL. Hugs
Important you can be a strong from this stage of time ( move yourself being brave to every actions 😃
I am very independent. This is a great video.
this is good.
That is awsome!
Good advises..we need balance always :)
Wow.. just found out I have this trait, too. Would never have thought it can actually be called "strong".
I am an 18year old teenager and I cant make an eye contact thus cant't talk to guys in my class in particular.But can talk to men.
So this really helped me feeling good about my issue.I hope I step out of my comfort zone and try doing these things.
Thankyou.you are amazing :)
GREAT answer Matt! I like how you tied it in to asking for help in order to grow a business. Helpful in many ways.
As a person who struggles with physical touch due to truama , I highly recommend that touching people is not okay. I don't like people touching me , especially if I don't know you.
Yip that is me and it's very hard to change
never stop doing these videos they are so helpful !!!!!!!!!!!!
Everything he says is so logic.. the answers are there...
I love what he's saying here, and it works. I'm a strong independent woman to, but I let men know that I like them, and their looks. That little smile, or touch doesn't have to be weird when you feel the attraction, and see it on their face too. Just a casual touch on the forearm, or hand gets your signal across.
Matthew your great dear ( I love you man ) good luck to your show 😇😎😇gob blessed you dear .😘
When a “charismatic” guy touches lots of people casually, I just assume he’s a player. And I’m very rarely wrong!!
I love this conversation.. That's true there is woman.. Full of enthusiasm to do it whatever alone though reach out but no one help because we don't know.. Why? But if we know the value of a person we proceed to what we gonna do.. Not impressed to but we need to know how to communicate although friends or family etc..
brilliant
Ohhhhh myyyyy i love his accenttttt
I think i am like this...and its done me NO favors i think its time to change and grow...Whilst in a coffee house a few days ago i commented on a guys after shave and he was taken back and received the compliment with grace, and opened up and warmed to the attention..He was cute, but to young for me, and his girlfriend present, i involved the lady in conversation cos i am a women s women...
I love this man!
yay... i'm #3... but always thought i was being a little cunning lol... it worked though
Running business and a relationship are clearly near in the concept of help and charisma
Omg that is so me. Just thinking about doing that stuff made me so nervous. Now I see why I have socialising issues
You're so freaking smart! I'm really inspired :D
I have to desagree... A lot of men like women who need everything done for them, just as long as they're loved by that woman at some level, a lot of man don't really care if women are independent or not.
To an extent, maybe.
It is more about complimenting strengths and weaknesses.
where the original video i can’t found it anyway i love that video😢 pls link me
Hahaha meee 🙈 thank you for this video !
Awww I love you and your videos... So pleasant to watch... I will be putting these into practice today when I go out....thanks for sharing
eye contact and tactile in first 30 seconds. LOL introvert's nightmare. Okay Matt will give it a shot. I am so the strong woman type, like to pretend I don't need people but wth some of them are incredible!!! damn.
We all need someone because people are imperfect by definition
Brilliant! I'm going to work this advice.
a huh I love you...you're a live changer 💗
I like this video as we get an insight into the type of women Matt likes. I would love to be her.