Gay Marriage and My Religious Family | {THE AND} Andrew & Jerrold
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Andrew & Jerrold show what patience and support can do in a seven-year marriage. The two have battled trust issues, Andrew's epilepsy, and challenged Andrew's conservative family and their idea of what love can be.
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Director | Topaz Adizes
Producer | Julia Gorbach
Associate Producer | Carla Tramullas
Editor | Christopher McNabb
Assistant Editor | Scott Kan & John Picklap
Camera Operators | Julia Gorbach & Carla Tramullas
Graphic Design | Mikell Fine Iles
Intern | Julius Bowditch
With the Participation of | Andrew & Jerrold
Special Thanks | Nathan Phillips, Jordan Makow, Ricky Bacon, Mark Edgington, Deep Focus & On Level Ground.
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I can see pain in Andrew's dreamy blue eyes and hope in Jerrold's smiley eyes.
So true
weird
FACTS
Love and salvation
I don't know if I saw pain an much as I saw ok here we go I am about to speak totally raw no matter who sees it. and that for him is crazy if you listen to what he said at the end.
"yeah, some people are actually emotionally healthy!"
wow
I love this series soo much
Yeah... I so want to be one of those people
Aylisten Larchenko I thought the very same
@@jonibeta513 Me too
The wise words of the brother 👏👏👏
Yeah.... I'm 63yrs. old and know I'm not going one of those people.
This channel is a prime example of the beautiful capabilities of the internet.
+Falaffull Wow, thank you so much
Preach
True
I am not ashamed to say this: That point in the video when they were discussing sex was absolutely hot, in large part because seeing the chemistry between them and knowing that his desire for his significant other remains so strong after seven years, and also seeing that his partner reciprocates...there is nothing more attractive to me than such a genuine connection.
Marcus Scott, I completely agree!!!
Something tells me red shirt is the top and he's got a BIG one which is why he freaked when his partner was like 6 times a week. I love when he says "Ok, if you think you're capable then let's try it !"
@@oxforddictonary
bottoming six times per week?
Sis, tone it down!
Unless they flip flop...
@@user-ro5iu6br4f honey, if red shirt was my man, I'd bottom all day erryday! He is fine!
@@oxforddictonary
There is no way you can have anal 6 times per week.
That's physically impossible!
this touched me sooooo deeply! thank you for representing gay relationships in a great light and authenticty! the LGBTQ community in particular is grateful!
+zee mase
More of these two please. Very raw and beautiful emotions. It shows the hardship young, gay couple have to face when maybe people who see them might think they live a fairy tale. I've seen other couples have more than one video in your channel. These two have so much potential for that. It made me think about a lot of things and it's good to know that I am not the only one who thinks or acts the way I do in certain situations.
people are always like "he's hot" or like wanna get with someone who's attractive but like this video, the real thing you should be thinking about is "yeah they are attractive but will they be able to care for me when I have a seizure" and or are sick like these are the things you need to be considering people, can they take care of you when you're sick.
Love means to be in the better and in the worst. They found true love with each other.
Exactly!
MegaGardevoir
its true. i have a chronic illness that hit me 5 years ago..the true colors of everyone comes out. its one thing to have momentary illness or health issues, but when its chronic people cant have excuses your whole life and your see friends and family in a whole new light and there is many surprises.
omg that's so sad I'm sorry, if I were in your life I would be the same exact way and still try to make you happy like usual ya know, I wish you all the best of happiness.
both of their eyes are the prettiest goshdarn eyes I've ever seen
jerrod has a better eye shape
I agree!!! Their eyes are so similar. Wide, open and bright.
My god. Where do you find these people? They're both so beautiful.
Totally agree!
Good looking gay men gather in gay meccas like NYC and SF. That's where they found then, I'm sure.
Seriously!
And so tall. I was shook.
They are sooooo hot❤❤❤
They are both sooo handsome, just wow
This is the only couple that makes me believe in love. They are true and raw. I love how they care for each other. at three months, to care for someone to have a siezure. now that is love.
No.. they're not
This is what actual real love looks like, it's honest, it's intense, it's acknowledging your faults and mistakes and wanting to be better in yourself so you can give that truth to someone else. Gender is irrelevant, love is love.
So true.well said.👍👍👍👍👍👍
I’ve never realized how therapeutic this open conversations are. Those awkward silence, eye-to-eye contact and sighs... I really felt that.
I have noticed that gay couples tend to be more open about their relationship than straight couples do.they discuss things that straight couples tend to avoid,even though it is awkward at times
+eren luin We don't all come with the same skill set. My bf had been in a relationship before us, but it was my first time living together. He hung in there; guess he saw something would last before I did; it took me a while before I learned the ropes of being completely open.
+mcmanpa okay,I hope you are now open to him.relationship works if you are an open book
eren luin He taught me how to be open; in fact he demanded it if we were to stay together. With every year, I keep learning more.
@kiwibrown
It isn't.
Psychologists have been saying this for decades...
Yeah.. more open about their sexual relationship too. To air out all your sexual behavior in a public forum is inappropriate. That's not typical and doesn't amount to being "open".
Please have this couple back on!
🙋
Hi
Sexy. Cool men
This is simply beautiful. This is what happens when individuals and couples commit themselves to the real work of intimacy with the self, and other. This also brought tears to my eeys because this stuff is hard work. Its not gained "right now." Its gained over years of work, hard work.
Beautiful words! Thank you!
Right out the gate, I just started tearing up...thinking of the way he took care of him during his seizure...
Sofia me too
When Jerrold told Andrew he was afraid of telling him things that might disappoint him because he already lost so many people in his life...wow i related to that on spiritual levels, like sometimes i refrain myself of telling people so many things because i'm terrified of them leaving me, because that has happened so many times already, it's reached a point i'm terrified of losing more people, because i actually feel like nobody truly gets me and if they reach a point where they know me well, they will leave me, because almost no one proved me otherwise and the people that proved me otherwise so far, i'm deadly afraid of losing...rejection is horrible and i've been having an issue with it all my life in all aspects of my life and i wish no one experienced it
Hi Mayra, thank you so much for opening up and sharing this with us ❤️ We're glad you were able to connect with Jerrold's story-this is why we do it.
Every word I just read could've came out of my mouth. I was diagnosed with MS and boyfriend at time gradually pulled away. I made it easier on myself by telling him he wasnt needed. He was but I NEVER vocalized that to anyone. That was 7 years ago. Hard to accept when love isn't gone. Still hasn't. Never dated since then.
You give hope to millions who are having issues with their sexuality
Wow thank you so much for this ❤️❤️
I NEED AN UPDATE ON THEIR LIVES!!!
Noel Harris me too
Happily married 12 years together and counting, I stalked them on IG 😁
Jp Micheals Do you mind to share their IG please
@@phoebeN29 Search for Jerroldblackwell
Jp Micheals thanks a lot
the person on the right sort of resembles Scott disick, his mouth and nose and voice a little. they are so adorable together! love the respect and the harmony
+Buki Yves Birkin He sort of talks and sounds like him too
+MegaGardevoir Yes he does
I LITERALLY THOUGHT THE SAME THING WHILST WATCHING THIS
Actually just wrote a comment similar to this!
And the guy on the left reminds me of Tiger Woods lols
Why can't I meet a straight guy like them, Geez Kind,Caring, patient, smart,
Because straight men are jerks,gay men tend to be more caring,that is why women like hanging out with them
I agree,
+Angela Simmons don't worry there are good straight men out there
+eren luin thank you I will be patient
+Angela Simmons awww,! yes be patient.
I want more! This couple is beautiful. Wanted the video to be longer. If they could have kids, their kids would be adorable. These two draw you in, I wanted to hear more about their first date, I wish most of the questions were asked to both of them. I also wanted to hear more about Andrews dark place, their wedding, who proposed. I just want more.
You know the video's you're watching are utterly captivating, heartwarming and just so damn beautiful, when you realise at the end you've had a smile on your face the whole time #love
+Charlene Jozefzoon We ❤️ your comment, Charlene!
+The Skin Deep thank you, I'm in love with what you're creating, big fan! ❤️
I've tears in my eyes....This was way too real...I too have an oppressive and religious family, so much so that the very idea of coming out scares me..and I too am sure I'll never ever find someone who'd love me enough or that I'd every have a marriage or other such things one hopes for, simply because I dont even try. Most of my energy is spent trying to be "normal".... But yes, looking at this couple gives me joy too, it's always nice to see that at least someone managed to find happiness, against all odds...Thanks for thi6s
+The Skin Deep
You ARE normal; you just happen to like men.
Don't let other people's opinions of you scare you out of living your truth. Don't let them direct your life. You can do this!
Wishing you strength, happiness, and love. 😊
+Ankush Mudgal Hi Ankush, thank you so much for such a heartfelt and honest comment. We came into contact with Andrew & Jerrold through the organization Level Ground, which creates dialogue around faith, gender and sexuality. It may be of interest to you: www.onlevelground.org.
+Ankush Mudgal . I am in same boat with u. we will die alone. no escape
oonu basu I hope not. Nothing is more exhausting than loneliness....and There's still hope, I mean maybe they'll strike down Section 377.
The Skin Deep Thank You very much for your help, I really appreciate it, but unfortunately my circumstances don't permit me to take any action. I would really love it though if you'd bring more gay couples into your videos...I live for videos like these ...
These guys are caring and flawed in such lovely, human ways, and they worked through their hardships in therapy exactly like honest people should, and seem so much better for it. Very touching and human. Shows what a miracle a good human relationship can be, how people can nurture each other. Bravo, guys.
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+Shivana Lai Yes!
Very informative
I want to watch a full on movie with these two, they're amazing :) The most real couple I've seen in a while
Keisha and Andrew, Sidra and Ben, and these two are the vids that resonate the most with me. I find their interactions appealing, soothing, inspiring, realistic, and intriguing. I hope {The And} keeps on bringing them back until they are 95.
You're amazing Bob
I love this. It's so raw, so authentic, you can see the love in their eyes. So beautiful.
1. Keisha & Andrew
2. Andrew & Jerrold
Thanks for reminding me
Yeah, these two are definitely on my list of favourites too.
I'm getting an Andrew then
I cried at the end they're such a perfect couple that balance eachother out so well💕 love this series!
Love this! ❤️❤️ I wish them a long and lasting marriage.
I really love the diversity in your videos, thank you for that
So this is are what gay couples look like? Jeez...... and here we are made to believe they are some kinda wield folks. Pretty normal and cool to me tho...
I'm Nigerian. And even I think Nigerians overreact to everything.
Are you genuinely confused? It's almost like gay men are normal people like you and I. Who would have thought???
You just got the memo? Smh.
@@dpcisunbreakable Not everyone is from a country where homosexuality is legally accepted, so don't complain.
@@surelyashley5726 bitch fuck you. I wasn't complaining about shit. Stay in your third world area.
So I'm obsessed with this beautiful couple, just as I'm obsessed with this channel.
+Fatima Hash Thank you, Fatima!
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I'm getting worried how many times I watch them...
they are so freaking adorable.
I come back to this video again and again and again. This video, this couple, gives me such hope and light.
OMG that's me too, they need to bring this couple back!
There are so many people like Andrew (I know, I'm one) and he's damned lucky he found someone to lead him out of that place.
Hope you find your special someone
If only that someone were white.
+TrstnWilson what
I really enjoyed watching this genuine video of two men who seem to be loving each other a lot. Long time relationships need love but also need work. Very touching video. I really liked the tenderness between you two.
Ah, right guy became sooo red when they were talking about sex. Soo red.
Both of them have stunning eyes, very beautiful but in completely different way. But that guy on the left has mesmerising eyes. Cant stop looking. They are both amazing.
All these videos bring tears to my eyes. Such authentic stories and conversations. It's so amazing how comfortable everyone is in front of the cameras and how open they are to talk about personal things. Really touching and inspiring
I can't believe I'm just discovering this channel and this beautiful couple. So genuine and authentic is the love between these two. I was very moved by just the glimpse we saw inside Andrew and Jerrold's love story. As a psychotherapist who has worked with couples, many of whom face struggles trying to manage their partner's mental health issues, seeing the openness and talking about those dark moments was refreshing. I will say to Andrew though that you are a good person. Struggling with mental health issues doesn't make you not a good person, and while I'm pretty sure that's not what he meant, I still feel it's important to address that comment. It reminds me of a quote I heard that said, "You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly". We all have flaws but at the end of the day its about acceptance and having the determination to work through tough times. I'm glad that the two of them found each other and have a love that is to be admired by all.
The black guy is the adult and backbone in the relationship! beautiful!! I don't get bored watching this video time and time again!
He's definitely the backbone!
ALEZANDAR me toooooo watched this video like a dozen times 🥰
This is by far added to my favorite skin deep videos because like i can really see the connection from both of them and like how committed they are to each other regardless with what situation they'd be in. I don't i mean me watching this videos makes me a bith depressed of not having the same connection as anyone in the other video... I mean i liked to have it one day.. but i still watch the videos because somehow it gives joy and cheer to my day seing how REAL LOVE works for both person... Ahh i'm just happy at the same it jelous..
This is one of the best, most real conversations I've ever seen. Thank you both so much for sharing something so deeply personal with us,
this is too sappy i can't watch it without pausing every few seconds to breathe
his eyes really are piercingly blue
Eh they're alright !
+Danari
He's beautiful
+Danari True, they are pretty dreamy.
In tears. This reminds me of a relationship I was in for 6 + years. So many memories came back to me while watching this. Thank you.
We must be getting close to when they upload their second THE AND video. Can't wait!
Definitely can tell this is a couple who have received therapy (good thing). The conversation is so fluid and fulfilling and expressive. Talking things through is one of the easiest ways to save a relationship and yet so many people dont know how to do it and its a sad thing.
I don't understand how more people haven't discovered this channel. The Skin Deep is my FAVORITE YT channel, thank you guys so much for these videos!!
I tell all my friends about these videos.
+Janelle Ntim Thank you so much!
the last answer from Andrew must be one of the most beautiful things I've heard someone saying about their partner. just so beautiful.
They are both beautiful people inside and out. You can tell how much they love each other and how open they are in their relationship. This is how all relationships should be ❤️❤️❤️❤️
+Shae Duran Well said, Shae 👌
Wow. That answer at the end was one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard.
oh man! I know Im only eighteen but this make me hope to find love, i love it!
How did things work out for you? Did you find what you were looking for? I need all the tea that you can serve 😩
WHAT!! HOW have i not SEEN this vid ???? I thought I've seen ALL (THE ANDs)!!!
Such an amazing series!! Can't stop watching. Keep up the great work! Lots of love from Australia at 3:15am Xx
+MAC Lippy Thanks so much for the international love ❤️
ugh my feels. There were several lines in this where I was like, "Why isn't this man crying and I am? I'm not even in this relationship. I don't even know these people." That part about growing up with the idea that you're not allowed certain things, or that part about him not being able to help while the other dude's in a dark place, emotionally. triggered.
I look forward to Wednesdays; the highlight of my week. I literally tell everyone I know to watch this channel.
And they are both beautiful souls and beings. Sending well wishes for a long and prosperous marriage.
+Karel Wiggins Thank you so much!! Much more to come, so stay tuned!
Two loving, touching souls being deeply expressive, genuine and heartfelt: sending only my best wishes from North-Germany!
I LOVE this channel...every single video puts a smile on my face. The cinematography is amazing too. And they are both so beautiful.
Thank you so much!
Please bring this couple back!!!
Wow , thanks so much for that!! Truly remarkable the depth and honesty. Very powerful
they are so beautiful
this is one of my favorites. you can see how genuine these people are and what a great couple they are.
Someone from online dropped me bec they wanted a date but I was unable to, I had just had surgery at the time, so the individual stopped talking to me. This delightful man stayed in his corner and fell in love with him.....some ppl can truly learn a lot from these two and their example of how life is not always about oneself.
Please make a part two on these guys❤
When they talked about the seizure it really touched me...words can't even begin to express how I'm feeling at the moment. But it's beautiful.
wow..i am like speechless..this channel is like a book about relationships for me..i am learning so much..thanks for being here for people like me..really thankful for that..bzw is this the complete video about this couple?
I am IN LOVE with these videos. The couples ones are always so incredible and thought-provoking.
You guys are incredible!! that was so hard and yet you had the courage to go through with it!! Thank you so much.
Not only are they very attractive people, but also are very thoughtful and intelligent. Their ability to use logic and intelligence to figure things out is totally commendable. I know this is an older submission, but so relevant still. Thanks, guys.
That's a very intense couple's conversation! Thanks for sharing and teaching us how to cultivate an honest relationship.
Wish this video was longer! So brilliant!
I love this channel , warms my heart makes me cry but it good to learn bout other people and how they feel
Wow. . . this was extremely beautiful and insightful. This couple captivated me from beginning to end. I didn't want their conversation to be over lol. Thank you for this amazing video, Skin Deep
i definitely didn't realise 10 minutes passed when the credits rolled.
RagazzaIrlandese SAME!!!!
+A. J. Thank you for watching!
The chemistry, connection, truth & love between these two jumps off the screen. They are definitely made for each other.
These two men are adorable!! Im so proud to see this, in my generation if it happened you didn't hear about it or see it.
Let's keep going, we aren't there yet collectively.
NOBODY WINS UNTIL EVERYONE ONE WINS!!❤💛💚🧡💜🤎🖤🤍
Jerrod is a kindred old soul! he is so beautiful. This is what the new generation of gay men should identify themselves with, and also nurture in their relationships! substance, maturity, loyalty, love, emotionally available, vulnerability, and yes intimacy!
I love skin deep .. you see real people with real emotions .. you see love and struggle .. the world is such a chaotic place but in the middle of all the craziness is the most beautiful thing to ever be created .
This was very intense and beautiful. What an incredible experience to share with your partner!
Let this beautiful couple be a lesson to the single black gay man reading this.Keep your heart and mind open to the possibility of finding love outside of our community.
My husband is white and we are happily married. We are opposites in a lot of ways, he’s outgoing and social, I’m introverted and keep to myself. He’s a bit emotional and I’m more logical but we have the same values and respect.
well, I'm crying, inspired, and-- omg they're both so beautiful !
Omg they're both soo good looking
Thank you for sharing this moment of intimate exchange, so real, so true, so deep. What you rememberd me of: love is so much more than fun and joy, healthy relationships can exist, admitting to your vulnerability keeps you developing, and: love is the most important task in life. Thank you so much! Hans
Is this the whole video?? Please upload more with this amazing couple!! 💜
The guy on the right kinda sounds and looks like Scott Disick
And you look flawless.............
Nah... More like Lance Bass
I went to high school with Andrew (Drew)
Wow... this like totally opened up my mind to what being in a relationship actually means. It's just so much deeper than what it seems and I wish there were more representations of that in mass media, not just shallow high-school type relationships and other dumb stuff
This was really great. A lot more intense than I thought it would be.
I really like this episode
The purity of heart, transparency boldness both have
Love you guys ,wish you have a bright future ,love you guys 💞
They are both so good looking it's hard not to comment on that. But beside that I love that the guy in red was able to find someone who accepted his depression and what comes with depression. I really hope to find someone as supportive as that to support me during my dark moments.
aww so touching! I have watched this episode couple of times and couldn't skip any second of it. pls reveal more gay couples and make more good questions! ;)
I agree 👍
This is beautiful and amazing! I am in love with your channel. keep up good work. We need more Andrew and Jerrold love story.:)
this is incredibly precious.. it is so fulfilling to see such pure love; it makes me incredibly happy to see a couple like this happy
This wasn't just too close to the bone for me - this cut right into it. I see in Andrew & Jerrold the same personal cost and investment of my own relationship with my partner (hopefully soon in Australia my husband). Like Andrew with Jerrold, he changed me in fundamental ways. I'm not sure I'd recognise the me that first met him. He has been for so long now the best thing about my life that I can't imagine a life without him.
It is really strange that Australia has not legalized same sex marriage
eren luin I agree.
Absolutely loved this episode!
Elle T-O to
this is such a vivid reflection of my marriage...wish i could be brave and have this conversations with my husband.
The absolute LOVE they have!! Wow!!!!! I can just rematch this (and more about them) over and over
I cannot explain how happy these videos make me. How happy these two make me. And how I long for a love like this. :)
I don't know what is is about these 2 but I keep watching it, I think they both remind me of my relationship with my partner, were an interracial couple we been together 13 years and married 3 years.. I can see a lot of them in us.. Very normal and grounded.. I love there honesty, I'd love to see more of them on this channel.. They seem the realist so far 🙌🏾
This was touching. I’m happy they found each other.
So beautiful to see , and one day I hope to have the same thing...great episode y'all! And truly inspiring!