Mother-In-Law Threatens To Cut Us From Will For Not Having Kids, Has Meltdown When We Move...
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- čas přidán 30. 12. 2023
- Mother-In-Law Threatens To Cut Us From Will For Not Having Kids, Has Meltdown When We Move Away After Husband's Promotion.
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Damn her ending up pregnant after all that is like a cherry on top, like mil ruined what she wanted most. Karma i guess
She doesn't want a grandkid. She just wants the praise from the other tiger-moms for the grandkid. It's all her. There's 0 compassion/empathy for others from her.
@@raketensven3127Yeah but if she had not been so horrible she could have had it. Just be nice to them and you can have them close and the praise from your shitty friends.
@AugustoEL Statistically, OP and the son would have moved away regardless. She was fucked from the get go.
@@ZilharrYeah but being nice would have let her have a relationship with her grandkid. Now not even that she will have.
@AugustoEL Not necessarily, I grew up on the other side of the country due to my parents having job opportunities, and I never had a relationship with my grandparents besides at Christmas some years. There are no guarantees, and the MIL could have done everything right and still wound up SOL.
Also, OP is going to be wishing they had some support besides financial once the baby comes. I wouldn't be surprised if they walked it all back and made amends.
so glad that that they got the psychotic inlaws out of their lives before they had their child. it would have been absolutely aweful for the kid otherwise.
Oh yeah. MIL would’ve been horrible. Guarantee she’d be one of those grandmas who weirdly try to replace the mother. She’d have constantly belittled OP for any parenting mistakes (or what SHE deemed as mistakes) and been hella condescending. A horrible influence all around.
He would’ve been in awe 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🗿🗿🗿💀💀💀
I agree, and I am very happy for OP, and fyi I saw this original post before but without the updates so I was very surprised by this turn of events. Iam soo happy for OP
I hate when people act like its bad to want your inheritance when the family in question has been nothing but awful to you. You owe someone who treats you badly your whole life exactly 0, and OPs husband was right. He should get the money if nothing else than because he dealt with them so long, and I don't think it makes you materialistic to hope for the 1 good thing they could do for you.
earn your own way brokie
They are terrible people. Imagine expecting money from people you don't even like. They can go fuck themselves and make their own way. Imagine thinking inheritance is just a given? Wtf fuck OP.
@SadBoys.1996 who said they are broke??
It kinda does you can't stay wiht someone foe just their money and not call yourself materialistic they don't owe him money
@@randomloseranddull1560 I mean, it make it worse if they are not brokies, imagine making your life miserable and full of drama for money you can live without, it's sad, look at the video, they put up with it to not even get it at the end, his entire life he had to support this.
She seems like the kind of women to constantly demand time with the grandchild just to show them off to her friends like a toy, so probably a good thing she'll be out of the kid's life
just wait 20 years for all the instagramas to take over with their baby pics
Chefs kiss for the ending. I hope they do an update after a year or so. Let us know how the move and pregnancy goes. Im sure the mil will go ape shit about it.
Same, can't wait to see what strikes MIL first. Karma or Crazy.
how to tell you're asian without telling you're asian.
That's what I was saying!!
Lol I wasn’t the only one who sensed it? I didn’t wanna assume but I was like “they don’t sound caucasian. She sounds like a tiger mom lowkey 🤔” 💀
The FIL is a doormat
Marriage does that sometimes
@@alphabret6844 nah, not marriage. Just a soft man's personality. My grandpa was like that. My grandma was strong willed, my grandpa was a man who puts his nose to the grindstone, so in the end, he came to accept her word as law. Meanwhile, I have an uncle from my mom's side who was much like that, but had a sense of duty about him. So when he'd come home to a wife telling him to discipline his child, he'd make her explain herself calmly, else blame her for the issue. She quickly learned and they worked together for years.
Uncle doesn't sound to pleasing@@Maninawig
@@HeoBaby24 I meant my uncle was a quiet man who kept his nose to the grindstone. He'd still be a good disciplinarian, but would keep a level head rather than blindly follow for "standing together" sake.
@@Maninawig why not follow the "standing together" being a parent is a 2 way street not just one.
Get a restraining order against the mom immediatley.
13:55 I literally was gonna say “That MIL is gonna get hit hard with the karma train after she pulled the disinherited BS.” And yep that’s what’s gonna happen.
Damn karma hit the MIL hard the op is not in the wrong
Husband suffered from his mom and had to get all that evil off his chest.
If she had only been nicer, waited and let them be, she would've got everything she wanted. But because of how MIL acted, she gets nothing
Excellent timing for the kid, he/she will now not be imvolved with that narc
I hope they made contingency plans like misleading address or something. Glad for these two's flourishing life away from toxic of a mother/in-law
It's honestly so sad that the only reason your own son sticks around you is money, and then you cut him off. Like seriously, at least OP and her husband are aware is not a good thing, but it just goes on to say the woman has nothing else going on in her life other than weird flexes.
“Just suck it up” wise words coming from FIL lol
Speaking from experience
@@alphabret6844real
i would have told him the same when he complained about NC, "you taught me all my life.just suck it up"
They should have waited till they had a house lined up, and MIL was distracted for an extended period. So they could have moved their stuff quickly. After all that THEN could have told her they were leaving within the next few days. Less drama and interference of her trying to stop them.
OP writing that she was pregnant after cutting off MIL and all her incessant demands for grandkids is beyond hilarious.
Choosing to cut abusive family out before feeling financially secure is really hard. Op and her husband arent materialistic for making personal sacrifices to try and protect their financial future
A promotion and a baby all in under a year?! BEST TIME EVER!
Yet another story that makes me glad that my future in-laws will be 8000 miles away in a different country. I refuse to go through what I have seen two of my male friends go through with their in-laws.
Only thing I think is shallow to just „stick amount for the inheritance“. Otherwise, the MiL is messing with things that ain‘t her business. She is clearly in the wrong there.
Yeah, that part of the story rubbed me the wrong way to a degree; how obsessed they were with the inheritance. But then again given how the MIL has treated her son, OP's husband, his whole life I can also feel like he has earned that inheritance. Like compensation for the hardships he had to go through because of his nasty, unbearable mother. Of course in the end it's his parents' choice what to do with their own money, no one is entitled to their money, but it's also OP's and her husband's choice where they live and who they allow into their lives. And it seems like MIL won't be part of that unless she changes drastically. And I don't think someone that old - with rare exceptions - is capable of changing.
If you're so insufferable as a parent that your child who isn't financially well off will only tolerate you for the possibility of money after you die then it says more about you than the child. Heck, the only reason he's done so well in his job is because of his parents but not in the way that makes them look good. He's well off now because he doesn't want to rely on his parents inheritance and doesn't want to put up with them any more.
100%.
That inheritance is most likely a reparation payment for OP‘s husband for all the things his mom has put him through and still is putting through.
The MIL sounds like a narcissist bc my mom shows similar behaviors bc she pesters me about the same things 😭 I felt for the husband tho, I’ve been there too. It hurts a lot when your parents failed you in other aspects but expects you to forgive and forget. That doing the bare minimum is more than enough and make you struggle when you didn’t have to. I’m glad the OP is there for him, having someone in your corner when it comes to narcissistic abuse helps so much. It’s unreal to experience esp when it’s a parent
Its good that it ended with them blocking the grandma out of their life since she might control the baby next since that marks her son being an adult already
You picked a good one OP! That ending was excellent
For their own sanity and safety MIL cannot know about the pregnancy. If the bedroom talk with her son is any indictor of how u hinged she is, she can never know about tbe grandchild.
Also the father in law is a POS for allowing this to have go one this long with his roll over straegy. Now he can complete his life sentence with her.
Feels kinda fake because of pregnancy in the ending. OP didn't want kids, argued with MIL about kids, and never stated that she changed her mind about having kids and now she is suddenly overjoyed about her pregnancy?
OP never said she didn’t want kids. She simply didn’t have them and was getting shamed for it.
OP never said she didn't want kids. They were waiting till the time felt right to them and were not getting pregnant on MILs command.
the irony is so sweet im gonna get diabetes
Imagine ripping away your own opportunity to have a grandchild because you're so competitive, and reputation hungry😂😂😂
And the cycles continued...
Remember, what's goes around comes around.
"A good thing for girl power" is always a bad thing for you. Always.
My God say lives right already!
I have less sympathy because OP would've gladly continued to eat MIL's bullshit if they needed the money.
I like how MIL could recieve her wishes if only she was a good mother. Karma is a B. Aftar all
Love how as a op gets the last laugh by getting pregnant
KARMA!!!
I don’t understand the mother in law. Like most couples these days are having their first children between 30-35. So why in the heck is she so embarrassed? She must either have terrible friends or she’s created a problem, that doesn’t even exist, in her head.
Damn have dinner in the morning is wild
Sounds like an Asian grandma, because mine does a lot of the things the MIL does
This whole story so funny she just wants something to show off or something to just restart being a mom and everything tell that she's desperate because these people always never want you to adopt
I'm wondering if there's something wrong with the MIL, because sometimes things like dementia can cause Behavior like this. But since OP's husband has been dealing with this all his life, I doubt it.
Did find op and her husband at fault as well as they would have not been in any mess if they were not materialistic. With how story goes I am pretty damn sure op's husband must have taken money from his parent for his college tuition and they further accepted the gift of the house for marriage with even we all know is expensive. Furthermore, op herself repeatedly claim her and her husband's materialistic nature. So, I do feel a doubt can op have manipulated story for it to be in her favour as people see and perceive same situations in different perspectives.
congrate on the promotion
They’re both kinda messed up. Only “sticking around” your parents for the inheritance is fucked up
i want to see the mil's reaction after she came to know about the pregnancy soo bad. please give us an update if there is any
That isn’t girl power. That’s abuse
Who wants to bet MIL and FIL move to their new city, to be closer to the grandkids?
I hate how much value money holds over people. It turns people evil and crazy. Bleh
I feel bad for the father is his wife was like that to her son and daughter in law think what she like to the father I bet she broke him down too until he couldn’t take it anymore and just agreed because he that broken by her threw mental abuse
"While that's great for girl power" Bro I cringed so hard on that💀
Lmaooo at the MIL
Op and her husband were also in the wrong it only happened to work out because he suddenly got a promotion, but she admitted they were planning on sticking around, aka using them for their inheritance. It would be one thing if they never cared about the money then MIL would 1000 percent be in the wrong however she admitted they stuck around and played nice for their money so what MIL did wasn't really an asshole move it was just as much of a transaction as what op and her husband were doing to them. " I know you're using me for the inheritance. However, if you want my money, I want a grandchild, " which up until he got the promotion, the first part of that statement would have been correct. How can OP expect to be given all their money but then refuse to abide by the things they want. Like "give me all your money, I'm going to be fake nice to you pretend it's out of duty qnd not abide by your wishes and refuse to be told what to do" they only stopped caring about the money at the last minute when he was rich enough for it not to matter, which she admitted to in the post. Op sounds materialistic, and so does her husband. If they were that abusive, he should have left sooner, not maintaining a fake relationship with his parents for money. Both op and the parents are the assholes here.
Not really because Mil was pressuring Op and her husband to have kids and honestly it’s understandable because her husbands parents were Evil to him throughout his entire childhood.
"my mother in law was the one in charge"
"and while that's a good thing for girl power, it sucks for us personally"
How do you think the FIL feels? You only get a portion of it, but you cheer it on because "girl power"
Don't like MIL, but I don't like OP for that comment either.
if the FIL felt that badly, he couldve yknow. also said something
@@ice15464 he's a doormat, he's not going to say anything
FIL is definitley the doormat cause the MIL is from a rich family and he puts up with her because he loves her but also to have a very comfortable life.
@@GodlyWodahs my point exactly
OP is a shallow B
Say she’s rich but want money that’s not hers.
Takes credit for other accomplishments
I’m only 3 min in and F this.
It sounded more like they were sticking around because of not being fiscally able to move. They werent planning on receiving inheritance for a long time, and they didnt even wanna be there. But thats my take on it.
This sounds like the wife was doind some gatekeeping and like she was actually manipulative behind the scenes.
God did a perfect timing for the pregnancy
Well the MIL and FIL lost two things that day - their son and their new grandchild!
Absolute narc behaviour
I fell sorry for girl power, if a annoying vain old lady being in charge at home is a win.
I'm just trying to figure out what Minecraft map this is 😂
OP speaking of girl power while being victim of her FIL's inability to confront her is hilarious. Also she's really shallow..
OP actually not a good person tbh so I can understand why the mom would flip out.
Yeah the man's mother is wrong for shaming about the kids, but the moment OP started policing calls and admitted about being materialistic, that's when I knew she was after the money.
Her husband is going to regret his decision
All of them are terrible... The only victim in the story is the Husband
@@kush7138 the mil is abusive and self-centered to a fault, whereas OP at least portrays herself as being invested in the well-being of her husband, so while she may be overboard with policing calls, I don't think she is being very problemati.
@@silphonym It not like people make themselves as good persons in there post's 😂😂
@@kush7138 being materialistic doesn't make someone a monster. Plus she and her husband were earning same. Wanting money in a capitalist is bad? She did police calls for one night, the night her husband cried. That was a overkill but not totally unreasonable or terrible.
Op is shady too. If someone is paying for your stuff then they do have say in your life. Op used them too, and admits it. No sympathy for anyone.
What did you watch?
@testaccount01336 not going to lie I didn't finish the whole thing. Mainly because op sounds like she's trying to play the victim while being a vulture. Once it wasn't enough of a benefit they finally did what they should've done. While the MIL is indeed crossing boundaries. Rich people problems.
Yeah, I agree. OP admits in the beginning that she was worried "...I was kinda afraid that maybe I'd pissed her off really badly and we couldn't afford to do that if WE wanted to inherit ALL their [key word here , their, because it IS MIL & FIL'S money & house, to with as they wish.] Money and house. {@ 2:04 }.
Then she contradicts herself when she said "We didn't have to stick around 'JUST for the inheritance anymore, because that's going to come around much later..." "So it was 'OBVIOUSLY' out of a sense of responsibility and duty that we stuck with them" 🙄🤔{@ 8:40}
In my opinion, OP also throws bubby under the bus when she said "I know it 'SEEMS' shallow and selfish to want to stick around your in-laws 'JUST' for the inheritance, but they are quite well off and my husband also believes that life will be easy for us if we have that sort of money." {@2:10}
OP bent herself in a pretzel to justify her and hubby's entitlement, however, MIL is all kinds of wrong thinking she has any thing other than just an opinion about their family unit. And FIL is at fault too, for sacrificing his relationship with his son and his family for the sake of 'not rocking the boat". My grandfather was and my FIL is exactly like OP's FIL. They think keeping the peace is worth it, but they don't understand the hurt and lack of security it causes to the other close people in their life.
So, yeah, in my humble opinion, they are all AITA in different degrees. I am glad that OP and hubby are happy and content with his employment position and their new family unit.
Very shallow dil and son. Materialist and probably be bad parents so good that they don’t have kids
You're sticking around for money than you're also terrible. Even if it's practical. Even if it's deserved. You're just as superficial as they are
OP and MIL sucks
Great for girl power tho
Idk, MIL is annoying and clearly doesn't know how to respect boundaries BUT to me OP and her husband being so worried about the inheritance just doesn't sit right with me. Maybe it's just me but it feels so wrong to look at someone as a resource, specially regarding money. Like, they were basically just waiting for MIL to die and give them the money they think they deserve... they don't sound like good people to me
So the MIL wasn't treating her son like a resource by basically demanding he give her a grandchild to show off to her cabal of boring, nosy old bats? She went so far as to threaten cutting off his inheritance. How is that not using someone, but waiting for compensation from poor parents is? Your perspective is ALL the was fucked up. I imagine you are a similar person to MIL of you think that way. I hope you change.
Exactly
Correct me if I'm wrong but OP and her husband's family is most probably Asian, Chinese to be exact. Notice how the MIL said 25 is too old to be single because in Chinese culture, it sort of is. 27, you are probably getting raised eyebrows from your Chinese relatives and by 30 and still single you are basically called a "left-over" woman. This is a common upbringing in a Chinese household. Although not all, in Chinese culture, money and having a lot of it is sort of a bragging rights and in Chinese family you are valued based on how much money you have, your job position, your properties etc. Nobody can look down on you and say anything negative to you. Your relatives will listen to you more because you are a person of high stature. This is a toxic culture but can't really blame them if they are raised that way. I'm actually impressed they prefer to be more independent. A more common daughter in law will have to suck-up until her in laws die and enjoy the money later. And so, the cycle will continue. Moving out is a good thing for them to finally break the cycle and maybe they will raise their kids to be less materialistic, away from the culture they grew up.
OP said they never asked for money. And the eventual inheritance was going to be compensation for putting up with the insults and blackmailing from MIL. MIL is just a evil mastermind that wanted to control everyone in their family. And OP/husband leaving immediatly after they became financially stable indicated they really didnt care about the inheritance if it meant they could chose how to live. Which is the way its supposted to be.
@@mynailfairy Thank you, although I'm aware of Chinese culture (regarding what you explained) I didn't know they are Chinese so that makes more sense :) However, I still feel kind of the same since I do not share the culture (I'm not from the US btw); I find that side of Chinese kind of unhealthy but I understand that's a personal thing.
What text to speech software do you use? I have to create an audiobook but I can’t find anything that provides this quality. Ok, I’m cheap.
everyone is at fault .... greed destroyed this family.....if everyone voiced their opinion before outburst ,things would have been better......
No it wouldn't.
what is the account
Cringe "girl power" comment.
baby rabies. ha
You were kinda way too hard on the FIL and you were also kind of selfish
You came from a different house so i guess it was okay for you but their son he is a jerk just sticking around for inheritance to people who raised him and you were just making assumptions about how his mother was in past aging is a strange phenomenon you don't know how people change with age on your part you are right byt he failed as a son
Women should never be in charge of the house and relationships.
Op’s greed is fckng gross
Why would I ever give my wealth away to my kids if I knew they wouldn't grow it and pass it down, and instead fritter it away on a childless existence?
why would your child ever want to be with you with that kind of a mentality?
I love the comment about girl power while spending the entire thing complaining about girl power and what happens when a man isn't in charge.
not every man is dominant and not every woman is submissive, thats the thing going on here
NTA. MIL is a terrible person.
“She demanded that we get pregnant”
The husband: 🫃