As an introvert, I never knew what real loneliness felt like until I, at age 19, moved to another country to study and had a hard time keeping up with Uni, because of the language barrier and first semester problems. All the authorities told me to find a study group, and it would make things easier. It sounds so easy, but is soo hard for me to do. I was so stressed because of studying, so I couldn't make free time for my hobbies, which kept me happy all the other years. (I do have friends, but I always try to stay emotional independent, so my happiness doesn't depend on others' presence). My only way through these lonely times was my two kittens, who gave me a reason to stay up early every day and to just keep going. I try to catch up on my earlier hobbies and always have some kind of spot going on.
this is so comforting for one reason and that is because I'm about to go through the exact same experience, I'm 18 and in about 2 weeks I'll be moving to Europe for Uni all alone and I'm begging my parents to let me take my cat with me because she truly motivates me for some unknown reason, she's my source of happiness and gives me a reason to get out of bed every single day. Wherever you are right now i hope you're doing well and working hard for everything you love, Stay safe💜
@@raegucci7703 Thank you!! When ever people ask me for advice if they should get a cat or not, because of loneliness, I always tell them yes. The space in a flat is often even for housecats enough, you must just watch out for that cats are allowed. (There are great CZcams videos about keeping cats happy in small space) I have a friend who lived for about 1 year and a half alone, while being in highschool. At some point she totally lost having a regular schedule and even past out once, because she would forget to eat, because of stress. She is since this summer a happy mom of two kitten and everything changed. The cats really help having a good routine going, so you don't get stuck at a bad state of mind easily.
I remember clearly a day back in middle school when a girl told me I was strange. That simple phrase has been stuck inside my brain for years. I used to think that there was something wrong with wanting to be alone, because everybody around me told me that being alone sucks, but I couldn't disagree more. I love being by myself, I enjoy the time spend alone and years later, I finally don't care if people think I'm "strange", I've embraced myself and I have discovered who I am. Thank you for bringing out this topic Zoe. Love your videos ❤️
You’re so lucky and strong to have forgotten about those words. *warning : there is a long rant coming up. stop reading now if you don’t care* One time at school, I was joking around with one of my “friends” because she was interrupting our game and talking over top of us so I told her to shut up and stop being stupid, which is my regular vocabulary, and she told me I was rude, twice. And I still haven’t forgotten when she said that, the way she said that. So I’m just constantly wondering “Am I rude?” and I hate myself for dwelling on that but I just can’t stop thinking about it. I made so many mistakes in primary school. I made horrible friends. I thought I was smart but how did I mess up so wrong? And on top of that they all tease me for liking kpop and I’ve tried to play it off but sometimes it really hurts, so I’ve learned to just not talk about it. Istg my toxic “friends” messed me up so bad. I can’t wait to go to high school and forget about them all, restart my life with a clean slate. But I can’t help but think about “what if it happens again? what if I make the same mistakes and make toxic and fake friends again?” i don’t know what to do. but it’s not like anyone would care anyway. If I post this comment I’ll hate myself even more for burdening other people with my own problems. Thanks for reading, I guess. Happy New Year
@@larafinocchiaro3716 I don't know you, but to be honest, when I read this, I felt like you must be a lovely person. I might not be the right person to give anyone some advice, but I can tell you something based on my own experience... People come and go, and if you're not comfortable being who you truly are in front of your "friends", then they're not your friends, but I'm sure that you will find people that will accept and love you just the way you are, you just need to be patient and be yourself. I've felt as an outcast my entire life for liking things that other people my age find boring or even ridiculous, but I have learned that as long as I'm happy with myself, I will eventually find peace outside of my own company as well. Don't be afraid. We all make mistakes, no one's perfect, but acknowledging that we mess up sometimes helps us grow. Don't believe everything that people tell you about you, I'm sure you're a great person and you'll be fine. You'll find people you feel comfortable around and when you look back, you'll see those comments as lessons learned, the reflection of your growth as a person. Happy new year!
@@hstm1258 omg thank you so much for this! Your lovely message made me cry you are so kind!! You’ve given me some great advice which I’ll carry with me into high school and I’ll never forget how caring you are to take time out of your day to write this for me. Saying that it’s ok to make mistakes sort of makes me feel like I’m admitting that I’ve made a mistake, but you’re right, it does helps us to grow, so I’ll try to heal from the things that happened in primary school and learn to be better in the future. Your message has made me feel so happy you are too amazing for this world. Thank you angel I’ll never forget you
@@larafinocchiaro3716You got this! Just trust yourself and surround yourself with positive vibes, wether it is from other people or maybe even your own good vibes. Don't forget you are awesome!
@@hstm1258 I can’t thank you enough for this you are a beautiful legend don’t let anyone tell you otherwise or I will be throwing hands. Thank you for cheering me up today and I promise to try and trust myself and not forget I am awesome! Just promise me you’ll do the same thing for yourself ;)
I love spending time alone. As a huge introvert spending lots of time with family and friends drains me so I need time to myself a lot. My family doesn't understand though and they keep asking me if I don't feel lonely seeing that I'm alone all the time and I always say no cause I truly don't feel lonely when I'm by myself
Oh my gosh it's the same with me too! I very much enjoy my own company more than being around people and much happier but it's sad that there are people in this world who can't be in their own company always needing someone to be happy and whole it's sad. Nobody understands and people would say I'm lonely and it's sad if I go to the movies or eat out alone but I love it
Exactly mam, finally someone said I have a really toxic friend because she always body shames me up , always tells i am an weird human , don't like how i talk, always dominants me and tells me i can't achieve anything I tried sooo hard even told her i dont like these things but she just sticks with me It's been 1 year and i have like 10 mental breakdown because of her But 2 months ago i finally told my mom and she is just like 1 more time and i will sue her So i am kinda happy now and ignores her reall well But she still sticks Eww
You can be surrounded by your whole family and friends, yet feel lonely. Loneliness Vs Being alone is like Carnage Vs Venom.... It's comes from the same root yet it's the dark side it. It's being alone but from the inside, as if you experience the feeling of emptiness inside you :/
As humans, most of us need human connection, but we shouldn't need it ALL the time in order to not fall apart. It is important to know who you are as an individual and feel comfortable being with yourself, even if you are someone who likes to spend most of their time with others. It is absolutely okay to want to be around people a lot, as long as you aren't doing it as a way to avoid yourself. Thank you for the video Zoe, it was beautiful!
I don't need human connection, it actually drains me for someone who is an introvert I love my company more than people and I love animals and nature more than people to be honest lmao but it is sad how people today need to have or be with someone to be happy and whole and can't enjoy their own company but I'm so glad you commented this because it is true
I'm comfortable being alone at home or at a place where there aren't people around. But loneliness comes in whenever I go out and they're a crowd of strangers.. like shopping malls or eating in a restaurant. I wonder is there something wrong with me that I feel uncomfortable being alone in public? Would going out alone often help me be more comfortable in public?
same here like i went for spiderman alone to the mall, didnt really feel anything but then i looked around seeing people with their friends,fam,etc. i started to feel bad
Nothing is wrong with you feeling this way. I have the theory that being surrounded by a group of people while you are alone feeds into our subconscious anxious mind and underlines the already doubtful thoughts of „Everyone is with someone but me. That must mean nobody likes me or wants to spend time with me.“ I felt this way for a long time myself. I found that talking about such feelings with my friends helped me a lot. I recently had an hour-long phone call with a dear friend of mine about anxieties and anxious thoughts that we had, and surprisingly, we had a lot in common in that regard. And it helped us both feel understood and less alone with such problems. Talking about this also strengthened our understanding of each other and our friendship just got tighter. Another thing that helped me was going shopping for myself. I really really love doing that now. I dress up a little and put makeup on to feel pretty and good about myself, and then I do some windowshopping, finding cute things I like and treating myself a little. It doesn’t have to be long, or to be something big. Listen to music that makes you feel good too. But what helped me most in the end is accepting that nothing that I feel is weird or invalid. I am not the only person experiencing this. I am not abnormal for feeling lonely surrounded by a crowd. No matter the reason or how stupid I may think it is to feel a certain way, at the end of the day, whatever I feel is valid because I feel it and it affects me. Imagine someone worrying over something trivial and unnecessary. They know it is trivial and unnecessary. Does it make their worries go away? No. And they still feel worried, and that’s okay. Hope this could help a little. I’m sorry if I’m not making much sense sometimes, English isn’t my first language and I might have put my points a bit difficult^^“
I’m alone most of the time, physically & mentally I don’t hate my life, I enjoy it very much !! I have a diary where I write my emotions, my interests, my favourite part of the day, printing out pictures I took on that day, and I don’t feel lonely at all !! You are drama-free, stress-free (friendships & relationships), and you can focus on yourself more than anyone else. You can watch anime, listen to k-pop, read a magazine and you care about nothing. It’s just as simple!
As a huge introvert, I really love (and need) to spend time alone. It is so much more peaceful and freeing. The times where I was the most lonely were when I was surrounded by people, but when I am alone, I feel good. I don't wait for friends to have a schedule that lines up with mine, or to find new friends to do the things I want to do in life. That new coffee shop I've been meaning to try? I went alone. That concert from my favorite band that none of my friends listen to? I am going to see them alone. Weather you're lonely or not, there is comfort and freedom in being alone. You are good company to yourself
That’s why I can’t WAIT to move out. I was forced to grow up with a younger sibling for years who wouldn’t leave me alone and my mom would give a crap about it
this is, by far, my favorite video from you, zoe. i’ve never felt so connected, safe, and accepted watching a video. thank you for helping me live a life that brings me nothing but euphoria and precious moments. one day, i’m certain i will be able to reach a similar point in my life like you
Owww, hey.. 💔 It's hard, i feel u, i'm like you, many people are lonely and this is a daybyday challenge. I hope, you understand me, english is not my mother language. ❤️❤️❤️ *hugs you very strong and hold you for many hours*
Thank you, Zoe. I agree with you on this 100% I myself think this way too and I came to realize that I need to find peace within myself and find myself before I can move on to be with someone. I noticed that I have a lot to learn and that I can be a difficult person sometimes and I don't want that to go into my new relationship.
This is a topic very close to me. I’ve been struggling with social anxiety for years because I was always judged for being an introvert. I felt so useless and awful when I saw my acquaintances hanging out with their friends because this pressure from my surroundings made me think that this is true happiness, if you don’t have this, you’re a complete loser. Thankfully, I feel much better now. I like spending time with myself and I don’t make myself do all these things just to fit into some “standards”. Now I don’t really fear being alone because I don’t fear myself. Thank you for speaking about this!💞
A few weeks ago, our English teacher asked us if humans can live without friends. Everyone said no and agreed with the teacher except me I said yes. She caught my answer since I was at the front and asked me why. I told her friends are not a necessity for a human to live. Humans can have friends if they want but they sure are able to live without friends. I’m the loner and quiet kid in our class and my whole class is new to this school including me so no one knows me well till now. I used to be like I can’t live without my friends and stuff but changed drastically in the almost two years of quarantine because sh*t kinda happened with my old friends. Anyway, I felt like I was the only weird one for thinking like that. The teacher moved on from my answer and changed the topic since the atmosphere was getting awkward. I love being alone. I explore myself and get to know myself better when I’m alone. Even my family always questions me when I’m alone and tells me to go sit or do anything with them. But they don’t understand I need some alone time. I can’t be the same person who everyone wants me to be when my energy’s running out. Oh Also I’m an introvert and I have anxiety so double the trouble. Why do I feel like I sound old, I’m only sixteen lol. My point is (I hope so cause I lost it while writing this long comment) I’m not alone cause I’m lonely, I’m alone cause I like it. And my friends are my family I don’t know why this fact always makes people shocked or something. English is not my first language so sorry for any mistakes. If you read till the end thank you very much & have a 🍪 this was long and you did great. Remember No one’s gonna love you if you don’t love yourself first. Peace out.
You shouldn’t apologize for your English. I understood you clearly and can relate to some degree to you. I also used to try really hard to have friend or put on that social butterfly persona (when I get easily drained by social interaction). Although I love meeting people and making friends, I learned to enjoy my own company and love being alone.
@@amaslife6591 Yeah, honestly I kinda lost my point while writing this comment (probably cause I’m not good at explaining myself) but I totally relate to what you said. Have a nice day/evening/night!
Even when I went to public school and was around my friends, I still didn't feel whole. There were times where I just went somewhere by myself and I realized that people had been making me feel like I had to be around people all the time. I think that's why I didn't even know what I liked or disliked because I tried to be with people and talk about things they wanted to talk about and I forgot about myself most of the time. I'm kinda glad I was homeschooled, because I discovered so many things about myself and I could do more things and not be judged. I love watching your videos because I feel empowered and calm someway and mostly understood by someone who doesn't even know me.💜
This is exactly what I needed. Had a tough few months and have very recently broken up with my boyfriend. I'm now focusing on myself, bettering myself and my career.
I had much more fun alone than being with a group of people. As an introvert, being with other people is not bad, however, it greatly decreases my own energy at the end of the day. Being alone gives me so much imagination as to what I'd like to do to have fun with my self. It can get lonely sometimes but it's better than hanging out with people who don't accept me that much. I mean not all of them LMAO, when I go out once in a while and to talk to other people. I can talk for hours and socialize, the downside is that it drains me so much LMAO
Thank you Zoe! these days i was doubting myself, i grew up in a family of extroverts who pretty much turned me into believing that without people i am not love worthy nor i can be happy. My dad, who always understood me, passed away a year ago and because of the holidays its healing for me to have time with myself instead of attending lots of parties. people around me think im lonely when i am just alone, trying to connect with myself. I think we as a society really need to stop pushing relationships as being the most important goal of your life. We all find contentment in very different ways and i definitely know i enjoy more my friends and family going outs when they are not based on avoiding the being alone feeling.
THANK YOU ZOE. This video addresses something I've always sought to achieve for myself, "Being alone, not lonely." At first, this thought was perhaps a defensive mechanism for me, to prevent the tide of hurt from washing over me. It can come from so places and people -- family, friends who don't really want you around, being left out of plans, FOMO. The sources of loneliness were endless, and all I wanted was to be accepted. I was eventually (and thankfully) able to realise that I was the one I would spent my entire life with. Other people come and go, and chasing after their acceptance was not only draining in the moment, but also futile in the long run. Maybe one day I'll seek someone else's approval again, but for now I'll prioritise my own. I've started to accept myself, and I'm proud of it. Proud that I chose me, because I find comfort in my solitude.
I went out with myself for a couple of times and I loved it 😆 Once, a nice lady commented on my dress, said it’s pretty and we had a little chat afterwards. Then she told me she works at an ice cream shop and her break just finished but invited me into the shop to give me some free ice cream lol. We didn’t exchange names or anything and we might never meet again but it was a nice interaction with a stranger😊
This video really hit home. I have a very small friend group so I'm often alone, and I feel loneliness a lot. I'm trying to choose myself like you said, but it feels like there's an invisible barrier blocking myself from doing things I need and want to. This video helped a lot though, thank you for the overall video and ideas! To anyone who reads this, I hope you have a great day/night :)
I’m a twin. I love that you said we come and go from this life alone. I remind myself often that I was born with someone but I’ll die alone. And it’s comforting in the weirdest way.
I want to be happy alone but not lonely. I spend my highschool life very loney because my classmate think that im different from them and no ones wants to be my friend. Thats why i learn to love myself, having a selfcare routine your videos use to help me alot thank you😗
as an extrovert, there are sometimes where i rly want to be alone. sometimes, whenever im with a lot of ppl, i may be the loudest, but inside, i want to go to my room and just stay in silence. but i dont want to be *lonely*. its strange how those two words, lonely and alone, are different in a unique way. ty for this video zoe
I've gotten to the point where I'm comfortable with myself, but when I try to reincorporate myself into social settings I feel anxious. It's as if I can hear the voices of the people around me in my head and I just try to get out as fast as possible to avoid being around those people
I like being alone bc I don’t have to worry what others think about me, if I’m doing something wrong or something embarrassing. I do feel lonely sometimes but I prefer spending time by myself, whether that is when others are around or when i am alone. I’ve noticed the more I liked being around myself, the more I liked being around others, but that’s still a work in progress.
I am proud and happy to say that I reached a point in my life where I‘m so very comfortable being by myself. I used to have it as a kid and teenager but sort of lost it in my late teens/early twenties when I started University. I didn’t move out from home and I made new friends quickly, but somehow, I felt so lonely in my struggle to keep up with my new lifestyle. I discovered that I have some form of anxiety that made me overthink not only myself but my self-worth. I tied my worth and love to another person, and I still didn’t quite cut that tie, but it’s getting so much better. I’m comfortable being with myself again because I learned to become more honest and forced myself to do hard things. I’m still anxious, but I can cope with that now. And in that process, I really appreciated inspirational people like Zoe on CZcams. People that showed me that it’s not impossible to get better, and that it all starts with yourself, not with others. Thank you Zoe, for inspiring not only me but so many others to do and be better in your humorous but also serious and well-researched ways. Following you was one of the things that kept me happy and inspired this year, and I’m looking forward to your content in 2022.
I've noticed..these days..i started watching you everyday..I watch all of your vedios serval times..it makes me happy..i learn so much from you..im actualy changing now..it's all because of you..you're helping me so much..to grow and glow in a correct way..i don't know how to thank you..youre such a great human being..you deserve much much more zoe..please always be happy, healthy, safe, nice and fine..thank you so much..i love you
Such a well done video. For anyone who’s an extrovert like me, finding this feeling is possible but you need to practice it. It’s a great feeling and well worth it.
This video was so helpful, I just broke off 2 friendships and I’m just tryin to thug it out but the truth is that i feel lonely all of the time, I always don’t feel like I’m enough but I’ve been around so many other people and found out who they are and why I don’t like them but I haven’t found out about my self and who God made me to be and how to love myself more.
Sometimes I set alone in the dark drinking tea and feel so comfortable and really enjoy thinking or watching a movie And sometimes everyone I love around me and I l feel so lonely Who else like this ?
I love being by myself sometimes but I do miss being with friends - i lost all of them recently because high school cliques suck I think it is important to be able to spend time by yourself but too long by yourself is not fun, the difference between weeks and years
Perfect timing Zoe! I have been feeling lonely since November. I am always surrounded by ppl- family and friends, I have loads of friends who msg me everyday but it is not always about the no of texts u get, it is about urself. I cry thinking that I am wasting my teenage years pondering so deeply over this thought but it is not to be ignored.
All through out the year, I was craving for validation of people in the wrong places. I failed to learn about myself, you can say that I sabotaged in learning different aspects of myself especially at this time filled with isolation and fear of contacting COVID. ) :
Thank you for this video ❤️ As for me, I like to be with the people I love. But sometimes I need to be alone and get away from everything to feel relaxed and happy
This makes me feel so good, in 2022 I just want to be happy and a better version of myself than this year, what I have learnt this year is want to take that to 2022, and Understand that I don't need anyone to make me happy. Achieving my goals and being happy from myself is what I want. Without feeling the need to be validated and will always stand for me, Which I am not good at.
As an extravert, I always feel very dependent on people and I’m terrified of being alone. I always think of how overwhelming the future will be (I’m still in school) I tell myself that it’ll be okay if I date someone and live with them. I always feel scared even being alone in public. I know being okay with being alone is something I need to work on. When you talked about being able to stop anywhere on your trip, it reminded me of how when you’re alone, you don’t have to compromise or do what someone else wants to do. That must feel nice. I’m going to try to work on this, thanks for your beautiful videos :)
Hey. Im a HUGE extrovert + I have a twin sister, so no matter what, I have always had a company what ever I do. But the thing is.. im scared to be alone outside at this point.I have gotten so used to being with people, that being alone makes me sad. But it doesnt have to. So thanks for your video! I will try to embrace the alone time more often!
Thank you for this video! This is something I have been working on, and it's quite nice spending time alone to process my thoughts and just being able to do what I want to do, like reading and journaling. It's a work-in-progress, but I'm definitely more comfortable with myself than before! (:
I wish i could have some friends like yours.Zoe seriusly ty for teaching me things and giving me motivations to workout! Ilysm Stay healthy,take your time and dont Stress! Dont listen to haters cuz they are always gonna Hate Happy New Year in Advance ✨✨
Thank you so much for this video, it's exactly what I needed, because after spending the last two days at my partners place, I woke up to being ghosted by them. Right after I saw the recommendation for this video, and I feel like this is the sign I needed, to let myself be sad, but not let myself drown in that sadness.
Hello I really love you're video. As an infj I've felt misunderstood and lonely for a long time. I was I the rode of depression then I found your videos and it really helped. My parents are really happy seeing this positive change inside me thank you for let me meet this vision of me
Im actually much happier when I’m by myself , im an introvert i get anxious with others , i feel judged when im surrounded and uncomfortable SO when im with myself i acknowledge myself im relaxed and simply im happy. I do feel loneliest because well im human 🙆🏻♀️ but i always love to spend time by myself my thoughts and feeling present.
Idk why, but your voice and videos are so calm :> It is one of thousand of the advantages in subscribing ur channel! It may sound wierd, but I often memorize people with flowers... u really remind me of lavender and sunflower! :>>
Thank you, I had a hard time until now spending the new year eve alone (cuz I got covid). I didn't think it would be that hard for me to feel alone when all I want is to share this nostalgic moment with friends. But I now realize it is a chance. Bc I can reflect on myself, and love myself even more!
I feel like it's the society that makes us depedent on others. 2021 was the worst year for me, I had a really bad class at school where everyone hated each other. It was really hard for me because I had no friends. But I learned to be alone. I spend the new year entirely alone and it was just so cool to being by myself, do what I want to do, when I want, eat what I want etc. I appreciate spending time with my friends and my family but now I can also being alone without feeling lonely, and it's kind of liberating
this video came at a perfect time. i start a new semester in school next week, and will have completely new classes and different lunch. i have severe anxiety, and it’s really tough for me to talk to people i’m not already comfortable with. it also makes it very hard for me to be alone, because it terrifies me to be judged by others. i also just got my drivers license, and can start driving by myself. this video has inspired me to try and challenge my fear of being alone - and in the process battling my own loneliness and facing myself. i will be going on a me-date soon! thank you, zoe.
I thank you Zoe this vidio has given me strength to continue new and different, I love how you address the topics that are swept under the table to be ignored. And it's nice to see (sorry not meant badly) that I'm not alone with such a situation. Thank you, keep up the good work and believe in yourself 🤍☀️🥺💭
I like being with my friends, but I usually don't hang out with more than a person at the time because it becomes stressful. I personally like being alone, it helps me regain energy after an emotionally draining day where I've been forced to go outside and talk to people lol
I really needed this video to understand that being alone is not always lonely.. For the past few days I have been feeling very lonely specially since it's weekends and new years eve I just couldn't stop overthinking but this really cheered me up and motivated me to do good in the new year.. Thank u so much zoe💜🌈
I remember when I started my channel and after the second episode I went solo.. I used to visit cafes alone.. travel 2-3 hours in train and find my way to the cafe by myself.... honestly it was the best thing ever.. but I feel I like being connected to people as well and it’s when I was in a phase where I was unable to balance it took a hit.. but now I am getting so good at balancing it more .. I am proud of myself.. it is only today after so many years after watching Zoe’s video I realise how awesome I was and how much more I am yet to become even though I lost a bit of balance in between 🥰🥰🥰🥺🥺🥺♥️♥️♥️ thank you so much Zoe. God bless!!! 🧚🏻♀️✨💕 stay happy always hehehe
I also distinctly remember when people at the cafe looked at me and might have thought my date didn’t show up but it was just me being by myself hahahaha .. I was on a date w myself .. and it really helped me so much after that to be independent.. I remember when I joined a job at Charni Road and at that office whenever I didn’t like my lunch I used to head for lunch outside by myself and I didn’t realise it back then until today how badass that was... 🥰♥️
Love the video and the tips on how to be alone without feeling lonely. That being said, I wonder if being busy on your phone (videos, taking pictures etc) and/ or talking to the camera really classifies as being alone because it allows you to escape being truly alone with your own thoughts. The real loneliness creeps in when you have to come face to face with your thoughts without a distraction. This could lead to one spiralling or having an existential crises, but it could also be a liberating experience once you learn to pivot your thoughts towards more self serving affirmations. That, in my opinion, would allow one to enjoy their own company immensely and serve as the true antidote to loneliness rather than a distraction from it. Thoughts?
I really enjoy doing a lot of things by myself. Walking, running. Exercise in general. Playing guitar, listening to music, watching whatever show or movie i want to see. Going Shopping, to a cafe, a restaurant. Reading, learning new stuff on internet. Cooking and going for groceries. Taking pictures. I'm ok with being alone 99% of my time.
I used to feel like I was extremely lonely; a few years back I started high school, fun for the first few months, then I was getting bullied and lost my friendship group over petty reasons. Everyone was new, so I had no friends or people I could talk to. After being down and depressed for a bit, I decided to make a change cuz there was no way my sadness was gonna be a product of someone else's carelss actions. I started gaining confidence, talking to people in my classes, and found a new circle of friends. Fast forward 4 years, I have had my fair share ups and downs, stayed home for a while earlier this year due to stress, anxiety & depression; however I came back to skl and my friend circle had changed again, with new people I disliked and old people who moved to different friend groups. It was a bit unsettling but I wasn't too worried as I had accumulated friends in different friendship groups over the years. So I choose to be alone, since huge exams are coming up & I missed around 2 months of school, I spend my free time revising and studying. I feel alone when doing these things, though not lonely. I learnt to enjoy my own company and feel safe, with many acquaintances I socialize with all the time. I feel calm and centred when I'm alone, however my social battery is refrshed when I get to banter with classmates in my lessons. Balance is the key to a healthy lifestyle, never forget that.
i watch a different video of your‘s everyday and they‘ve helped me change my mindset in a positive way. I‘m so glad i‘ve come across your channel and i really wish i could subscribe to you more than once.
my family always asks me why do you always isolate yourself and like being alone. and im like its cause i want become comfortable enough to spend time with myself and love myself.
I love being alone. I have never felt lonely because I genuinely enjoy my own company. Being extremely introverted is something I’m actually happy about, but it can be difficult when society favours extroversion so much. But being too dependent on other peoples company for you to live comfortably is quite a negative thing too. It backfires hard at you in times like these.
I always wanted to fit in with the people around and it always got me in terrible friendships but this video made me realize the difference between being alone and being lonely and now I just wanna be with myself thanks so much
Loving ourselves is easy yet so hard at the same time. I think I will start with stop comparing ourselves to other people. Seeing other people as complement not competition. Living alone is hard but once we are used to it, it helps with our individual development. Mindset is not natural, instead it takes a lot of practice. Years of practice maybe!
I had been fighting with anxiety. It was hard. I remember I always used to cancel my meetings with my friends and took myself back from everything. I didn’t even want to look eye to eye with people. My only happiness was being alone. But end of this journey I realized there is world and it’s waiting me to rediscover it. Whereas I decided to be alone, not lonely. You want to give up sometimes, it’s so natural. We are humans buddy, we have emotions. It’s normal to feel sad or angry. If happiness is emotion, they are also emotions. Don’t be scared about feeling different. At the same time being alone is one of the best thing in the world. I really like to be alone. There are so much things to do when you are alone.
thank you for posting about this so openly and honestly! I have been thinking about this a lot lately, and came to the realization I took on the work of loving others because I couldn't love myself, and always felt unloved because these people I love misunderstood me, thinking of love as only something that can be given between people and not to yourself. basically exactly this !! aaaaaanyway
This might be my favourite video so far: it exactly what I'm practicing with myself, the things I've telling myself etc.. Practically it summerize the philosophy I'm following, I love it!! As always you are such a queen and spiritual mentor uwu
ive been learning to hang out with myself for the last few months and watching this video seriously reminded why that’s so important. i’m OBSESSED with how you made this and hope it’s OK if i take some inspo (with credits ofcourse) for a video i’d like to share w my own audience about my journey💘 thank you!!
Do you enjoy spending time alone? What do you love doing by yourself?✨🤍
I enjoy going on walks by myself, journaling and drawing. Next year I want to get back at reading books. 😊
Sometimes
@@blackkoneko9367 same i stopped reading for a while but i actually really love it.
i love learning new languages rn im learning mandarin french and my native language. its hard but its fun. nextyear i wanna start playing piano again
You didn't travel alone, you traveled with 500.000 followers. When I watched the video I felt like I was with you.😅😅
Sometimes I want to be alone not lonely, it’s so similar yet so different.
So true.......
They’re both physically similar a lot of the time but they are always emotionally different
As an introvert, I never knew what real loneliness felt like until I, at age 19, moved to another country to study and had a hard time keeping up with Uni, because of the language barrier and first semester problems. All the authorities told me to find a study group, and it would make things easier. It sounds so easy, but is soo hard for me to do. I was so stressed because of studying, so I couldn't make free time for my hobbies, which kept me happy all the other years. (I do have friends, but I always try to stay emotional independent, so my happiness doesn't depend on others' presence). My only way through these lonely times was my two kittens, who gave me a reason to stay up early every day and to just keep going. I try to catch up on my earlier hobbies and always have some kind of spot going on.
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That's amazing! I am so proud of you for never giving up
this is so comforting for one reason and that is because I'm about to go through the exact same experience, I'm 18 and in about 2 weeks I'll be moving to Europe for Uni all alone and I'm begging my parents to let me take my cat with me because she truly motivates me for some unknown reason, she's my source of happiness and gives me a reason to get out of bed every single day. Wherever you are right now i hope you're doing well and working hard for everything you love, Stay safe💜
@@raegucci7703 Thank you!! When ever people ask me for advice if they should get a cat or not, because of loneliness, I always tell them yes. The space in a flat is often even for housecats enough, you must just watch out for that cats are allowed. (There are great CZcams videos about keeping cats happy in small space) I have a friend who lived for about 1 year and a half alone, while being in highschool. At some point she totally lost having a regular schedule and even past out once, because she would forget to eat, because of stress. She is since this summer a happy mom of two kitten and everything changed. The cats really help having a good routine going, so you don't get stuck at a bad state of mind easily.
@@raegucci7703 I hope you are safe and have a happy new year
I remember clearly a day back in middle school when a girl told me I was strange. That simple phrase has been stuck inside my brain for years. I used to think that there was something wrong with wanting to be alone, because everybody around me told me that being alone sucks, but I couldn't disagree more. I love being by myself, I enjoy the time spend alone and years later, I finally don't care if people think I'm "strange", I've embraced myself and I have discovered who I am. Thank you for bringing out this topic Zoe. Love your videos ❤️
You’re so lucky and strong to have forgotten about those words. *warning : there is a long rant coming up. stop reading now if you don’t care* One time at school, I was joking around with one of my “friends” because she was interrupting our game and talking over top of us so I told her to shut up and stop being stupid, which is my regular vocabulary, and she told me I was rude, twice. And I still haven’t forgotten when she said that, the way she said that. So I’m just constantly wondering “Am I rude?” and I hate myself for dwelling on that but I just can’t stop thinking about it. I made so many mistakes in primary school. I made horrible friends. I thought I was smart but how did I mess up so wrong? And on top of that they all tease me for liking kpop and I’ve tried to play it off but sometimes it really hurts, so I’ve learned to just not talk about it. Istg my toxic “friends” messed me up so bad. I can’t wait to go to high school and forget about them all, restart my life with a clean slate. But I can’t help but think about “what if it happens again? what if I make the same mistakes and make toxic and fake friends again?” i don’t know what to do. but it’s not like anyone would care anyway. If I post this comment I’ll hate myself even more for burdening other people with my own problems. Thanks for reading, I guess. Happy New Year
@@larafinocchiaro3716 I don't know you, but to be honest, when I read this, I felt like you must be a lovely person. I might not be the right person to give anyone some advice, but I can tell you something based on my own experience... People come and go, and if you're not comfortable being who you truly are in front of your "friends", then they're not your friends, but I'm sure that you will find people that will accept and love you just the way you are, you just need to be patient and be yourself. I've felt as an outcast my entire life for liking things that other people my age find boring or even ridiculous, but I have learned that as long as I'm happy with myself, I will eventually find peace outside of my own company as well. Don't be afraid. We all make mistakes, no one's perfect, but acknowledging that we mess up sometimes helps us grow. Don't believe everything that people tell you about you, I'm sure you're a great person and you'll be fine. You'll find people you feel comfortable around and when you look back, you'll see those comments as lessons learned, the reflection of your growth as a person.
Happy new year!
@@hstm1258 omg thank you so much for this! Your lovely message made me cry you are so kind!! You’ve given me some great advice which I’ll carry with me into high school and I’ll never forget how caring you are to take time out of your day to write this for me. Saying that it’s ok to make mistakes sort of makes me feel like I’m admitting that I’ve made a mistake, but you’re right, it does helps us to grow, so I’ll try to heal from the things that happened in primary school and learn to be better in the future. Your message has made me feel so happy you are too amazing for this world. Thank you angel I’ll never forget you
@@larafinocchiaro3716You got this! Just trust yourself and surround yourself with positive vibes, wether it is from other people or maybe even your own good vibes.
Don't forget you are awesome!
@@hstm1258 I can’t thank you enough for this you are a beautiful legend don’t let anyone tell you otherwise or I will be throwing hands. Thank you for cheering me up today and I promise to try and trust myself and not forget I am awesome! Just promise me you’ll do the same thing for yourself ;)
What a powerful video!
Thank you Hafu!!
wow seeing two of my fav youtubers communicating is just gold! happy new year btw zoe&hafu
I love spending time alone. As a huge introvert spending lots of time with family and friends drains me so I need time to myself a lot. My family doesn't understand though and they keep asking me if I don't feel lonely seeing that I'm alone all the time and I always say no cause I truly don't feel lonely when I'm by myself
Hi tentitoo :) I like your profile picture of Pikachu, very cute 😊
@@ArmyBlinkGirl05 thank you ahah yours is very pretty too 😊
Oh my gosh it's the same with me too! I very much enjoy my own company more than being around people and much happier but it's sad that there are people in this world who can't be in their own company always needing someone to be happy and whole it's sad. Nobody understands and people would say I'm lonely and it's sad if I go to the movies or eat out alone but I love it
It's hard to be alone sometimes, but it's a million times harder to be with someone that you can't get rid of or who is making you miserable.
Exactly mam, finally someone said
I have a really toxic friend because she always body shames me up , always tells i am an weird human , don't like how i talk, always dominants me and tells me i can't achieve anything
I tried sooo hard even told her i dont like these things but she just sticks with me
It's been 1 year and i have like 10 mental breakdown because of her
But 2 months ago i finally told my mom and she is just like 1 more time and i will sue her
So i am kinda happy now and ignores her reall well
But she still sticks
Eww
AMEN!! Finally someone who GETS it! It’s like being stuck with a sibling vs being an only child
@@akanshadahiya3735 it's been awhile since your comment but i hope you have cut her off now, you don't need those kind of ppl in your life
You can be surrounded by your whole family and friends, yet feel lonely. Loneliness Vs Being alone is like Carnage Vs Venom.... It's comes from the same root yet it's the dark side it. It's being alone but from the inside, as if you experience the feeling of emptiness inside you :/
Yah like when NO ONE understands how you feel about things. Emotionally, you are alone
@@lessismore8533 indeed. Also, not me cringing from the grammatical mistakes in the original comment...
As humans, most of us need human connection, but we shouldn't need it ALL the time in order to not fall apart. It is important to know who you are as an individual and feel comfortable being with yourself, even if you are someone who likes to spend most of their time with others. It is absolutely okay to want to be around people a lot, as long as you aren't doing it as a way to avoid yourself. Thank you for the video Zoe, it was beautiful!
I don't need human connection, it actually drains me for someone who is an introvert I love my company more than people and I love animals and nature more than people to be honest lmao but it is sad how people today need to have or be with someone to be happy and whole and can't enjoy their own company but I'm so glad you commented this because it is true
Being alone is not lonely because being alone is like at peace and happiness with yourself
I'm comfortable being alone at home or at a place where there aren't people around. But loneliness comes in whenever I go out and they're a crowd of strangers.. like shopping malls or eating in a restaurant. I wonder is there something wrong with me that I feel uncomfortable being alone in public? Would going out alone often help me be more comfortable in public?
same here like i went for spiderman alone to the mall, didnt really feel anything but then i looked around seeing people with their friends,fam,etc. i started to feel bad
Nothing is wrong with you feeling this way. I have the theory that being surrounded by a group of people while you are alone feeds into our subconscious anxious mind and underlines the already doubtful thoughts of „Everyone is with someone but me. That must mean nobody likes me or wants to spend time with me.“ I felt this way for a long time myself.
I found that talking about such feelings with my friends helped me a lot. I recently had an hour-long phone call with a dear friend of mine about anxieties and anxious thoughts that we had, and surprisingly, we had a lot in common in that regard. And it helped us both feel understood and less alone with such problems. Talking about this also strengthened our understanding of each other and our friendship just got tighter.
Another thing that helped me was going shopping for myself. I really really love doing that now. I dress up a little and put makeup on to feel pretty and good about myself, and then I do some windowshopping, finding cute things I like and treating myself a little. It doesn’t have to be long, or to be something big. Listen to music that makes you feel good too.
But what helped me most in the end is accepting that nothing that I feel is weird or invalid. I am not the only person experiencing this. I am not abnormal for feeling lonely surrounded by a crowd. No matter the reason or how stupid I may think it is to feel a certain way, at the end of the day, whatever I feel is valid because I feel it and it affects me. Imagine someone worrying over something trivial and unnecessary. They know it is trivial and unnecessary. Does it make their worries go away? No. And they still feel worried, and that’s okay.
Hope this could help a little. I’m sorry if I’m not making much sense sometimes, English isn’t my first language and I might have put my points a bit difficult^^“
@@aliceliddell4062 this was beautifully said and you have great advice ❤
I’m alone most of the time, physically & mentally
I don’t hate my life, I enjoy it very much !! I have a diary where I write my emotions, my interests, my favourite part of the day, printing out pictures I took on that day, and I don’t feel lonely at all !!
You are drama-free, stress-free (friendships & relationships), and you can focus on yourself more than anyone else. You can watch anime, listen to k-pop, read a magazine and you care about nothing.
It’s just as simple!
As a huge introvert, I really love (and need) to spend time alone. It is so much more peaceful and freeing. The times where I was the most lonely were when I was surrounded by people, but when I am alone, I feel good. I don't wait for friends to have a schedule that lines up with mine, or to find new friends to do the things I want to do in life. That new coffee shop I've been meaning to try? I went alone. That concert from my favorite band that none of my friends listen to? I am going to see them alone. Weather you're lonely or not, there is comfort and freedom in being alone. You are good company to yourself
That’s why I can’t WAIT to move out. I was forced to grow up with a younger sibling for years who wouldn’t leave me alone and my mom would give a crap about it
this is, by far, my favorite video from you, zoe. i’ve never felt so connected, safe, and accepted watching a video. thank you for helping me live a life that brings me nothing but euphoria and precious moments. one day, i’m certain i will be able to reach a similar point in my life like you
Owww, hey.. 💔 It's hard, i feel u, i'm like you, many people are lonely and this is a daybyday challenge. I hope, you understand me, english is not my mother language. ❤️❤️❤️
*hugs you very strong and hold you for many hours*
the way this came right after I finished crying about how lonely I feel and how stressed I am about being lonely the entire of 2022
Thank you, Zoe.
I agree with you on this 100% I myself think this way too and I came to realize that I need to find peace within myself and find myself before I can move on to be with someone. I noticed that I have a lot to learn and that I can be a difficult person sometimes and I don't want that to go into my new relationship.
This is a topic very close to me. I’ve been struggling with social anxiety for years because I was always judged for being an introvert. I felt so useless and awful when I saw my acquaintances hanging out with their friends because this pressure from my surroundings made me think that this is true happiness, if you don’t have this, you’re a complete loser. Thankfully, I feel much better now. I like spending time with myself and I don’t make myself do all these things just to fit into some “standards”. Now I don’t really fear being alone because I don’t fear myself. Thank you for speaking about this!💞
A few weeks ago, our English teacher asked us if humans can live without friends. Everyone said no and agreed with the teacher except me I said yes. She caught my answer since I was at the front and asked me why. I told her friends are not a necessity for a human to live. Humans can have friends if they want but they sure are able to live without friends. I’m the loner and quiet kid in our class and my whole class is new to this school including me so no one knows me well till now. I used to be like I can’t live without my friends and stuff but changed drastically in the almost two years of quarantine because sh*t kinda happened with my old friends. Anyway, I felt like I was the only weird one for thinking like that. The teacher moved on from my answer and changed the topic since the atmosphere was getting awkward. I love being alone. I explore myself and get to know myself better when I’m alone. Even my family always questions me when I’m alone and tells me to go sit or do anything with them. But they don’t understand I need some alone time. I can’t be the same person who everyone wants me to be when my energy’s running out. Oh Also I’m an introvert and I have anxiety so double the trouble. Why do I feel like I sound old, I’m only sixteen lol. My point is (I hope so cause I lost it while writing this long comment) I’m not alone cause I’m lonely, I’m alone cause I like it. And my friends are my family I don’t know why this fact always makes people shocked or something. English is not my first language so sorry for any mistakes. If you read till the end thank you very much & have a 🍪 this was long and you did great. Remember No one’s gonna love you if you don’t love yourself first. Peace out.
You shouldn’t apologize for your English. I understood you clearly and can relate to some degree to you. I also used to try really hard to have friend or put on that social butterfly persona (when I get easily drained by social interaction). Although I love meeting people and making friends, I learned to enjoy my own company and love being alone.
@@amaslife6591 Yeah, honestly I kinda lost my point while writing this comment (probably cause I’m not good at explaining myself) but I totally relate to what you said. Have a nice day/evening/night!
Sameeee we should be friendsss
@@basicqweenheremsp5727 I’d love to ^_^
@@talmadan5303 yaaaa do you have Instagram
Even when I went to public school and was around my friends, I still didn't feel whole. There were times where I just went somewhere by myself and I realized that people had been making me feel like I had to be around people all the time. I think that's why I didn't even know what I liked or disliked because I tried to be with people and talk about things they wanted to talk about and I forgot about myself most of the time. I'm kinda glad I was homeschooled, because I discovered so many things about myself and I could do more things and not be judged. I love watching your videos because I feel empowered and calm someway and mostly understood by someone who doesn't even know me.💜
This is exactly what I needed. Had a tough few months and have very recently broken up with my boyfriend. I'm now focusing on myself, bettering myself and my career.
I had much more fun alone than being with a group of people. As an introvert, being with other people is not bad, however, it greatly decreases my own energy at the end of the day. Being alone gives me so much imagination as to what I'd like to do to have fun with my self. It can get lonely sometimes but it's better than hanging out with people who don't accept me that much. I mean not all of them LMAO, when I go out once in a while and to talk to other people. I can talk for hours and socialize, the downside is that it drains me so much LMAO
Thank you Zoe!
these days i was doubting myself, i grew up in a family of extroverts who pretty much turned me into believing that without people i am not love worthy nor i can be happy. My dad, who always understood me, passed away a year ago and because of the holidays its healing for me to have time with myself instead of attending lots of parties. people around me think im lonely when i am just alone, trying to connect with myself. I think we as a society really need to stop pushing relationships as being the most important goal of your life. We all find contentment in very different ways and i definitely know i enjoy more my friends and family going outs when they are not based on avoiding the being alone feeling.
I’m alone 90% of my time and i’m happy like this. Never ever felt lonely, I enjoy my own company. Having pets helps 🧡
I feel that I'm getting lonely as I get older everything seems to fall on me so I tend to put all the pressure on myself.
THANK YOU ZOE.
This video addresses something I've always sought to achieve for myself, "Being alone, not lonely." At first, this thought was perhaps a defensive mechanism for me, to prevent the tide of hurt from washing over me. It can come from so places and people -- family, friends who don't really want you around, being left out of plans, FOMO. The sources of loneliness were endless, and all I wanted was to be accepted.
I was eventually (and thankfully) able to realise that I was the one I would spent my entire life with. Other people come and go, and chasing after their acceptance was not only draining in the moment, but also futile in the long run. Maybe one day I'll seek someone else's approval again, but for now I'll prioritise my own.
I've started to accept myself, and I'm proud of it. Proud that I chose me, because I find comfort in my solitude.
I went out with myself for a couple of times and I loved it 😆 Once, a nice lady commented on my dress, said it’s pretty and we had a little chat afterwards. Then she told me she works at an ice cream shop and her break just finished but invited me into the shop to give me some free ice cream lol. We didn’t exchange names or anything and we might never meet again but it was a nice interaction with a stranger😊
at least you arent me :,) if someone did that I would probably be like ‘oh no I DONT EVEN KNOW THIS PERSON OMG HELP’
This video really hit home. I have a very small friend group so I'm often alone, and I feel loneliness a lot. I'm trying to choose myself like you said, but it feels like there's an invisible barrier blocking myself from doing things I need and want to. This video helped a lot though, thank you for the overall video and ideas! To anyone who reads this, I hope you have a great day/night :)
I’m a twin. I love that you said we come and go from this life alone. I remind myself often that I was born with someone but I’ll die alone. And it’s comforting in the weirdest way.
I want to be happy alone but not lonely. I spend my highschool life very loney because my classmate think that im different from them and no ones wants to be my friend. Thats why i learn to love myself, having a selfcare routine your videos use to help me alot thank you😗
as an extrovert, there are sometimes where i rly want to be alone. sometimes, whenever im with a lot of ppl, i may be the loudest, but inside, i want to go to my room and just stay in silence. but i dont want to be *lonely*. its strange how those two words, lonely and alone, are different in a unique way. ty for this video zoe
I've gotten to the point where I'm comfortable with myself, but when I try to reincorporate myself into social settings I feel anxious. It's as if I can hear the voices of the people around me in my head and I just try to get out as fast as possible to avoid being around those people
I love to stay alone instead of sitting with people who lying on me everyday 🌚💜🤚
I like being alone bc I don’t have to worry what others think about me, if I’m doing something wrong or something embarrassing. I do feel lonely sometimes but I prefer spending time by myself, whether that is when others are around or when i am alone. I’ve noticed the more I liked being around myself, the more I liked being around others, but that’s still a work in progress.
I absolutely love being alone and I really enjoy my alone time, I feel like I am really myself when I'm alone
I am proud and happy to say that I reached a point in my life where I‘m so very comfortable being by myself. I used to have it as a kid and teenager but sort of lost it in my late teens/early twenties when I started University. I didn’t move out from home and I made new friends quickly, but somehow, I felt so lonely in my struggle to keep up with my new lifestyle. I discovered that I have some form of anxiety that made me overthink not only myself but my self-worth. I tied my worth and love to another person, and I still didn’t quite cut that tie, but it’s getting so much better. I’m comfortable being with myself again because I learned to become more honest and forced myself to do hard things. I’m still anxious, but I can cope with that now.
And in that process, I really appreciated inspirational people like Zoe on CZcams. People that showed me that it’s not impossible to get better, and that it all starts with yourself, not with others. Thank you Zoe, for inspiring not only me but so many others to do and be better in your humorous but also serious and well-researched ways. Following you was one of the things that kept me happy and inspired this year, and I’m looking forward to your content in 2022.
I've noticed..these days..i started watching you everyday..I watch all of your vedios serval times..it makes me happy..i learn so much from you..im actualy changing now..it's all because of you..you're helping me so much..to grow and glow in a correct way..i don't know how to thank you..youre such a great human being..you deserve much much more zoe..please always be happy, healthy, safe, nice and fine..thank you so much..i love you
Such a well done video. For anyone who’s an extrovert like me, finding this feeling is possible but you need to practice it. It’s a great feeling and well worth it.
I love being alone. I feel lonely mostly when I'm with other people- basically against my will, because society expects it
I will never thank you enough for all of your videos, they truly help me in various aspects of my life, thank you zoe and happy new year!!
This video was so helpful, I just broke off 2 friendships and I’m just tryin to thug it out but the truth is that i feel lonely all of the time, I always don’t feel like I’m enough but I’ve been around so many other people and found out who they are and why I don’t like them but I haven’t found out about my self and who God made me to be and how to love myself more.
Sometimes I set alone in the dark drinking tea and feel so comfortable and really enjoy thinking or watching a movie
And sometimes everyone I love around me and I l feel so lonely
Who else like this ?
No matter how connected you are with your love one, there will be time that you need to faces challenges that only overcome by you
great quote
I feel like youtube saved your life, it helped you become the person you are today. You have so many fans! I'm amazed.
I love being by myself sometimes but I do miss being with friends - i lost all of them recently because high school cliques suck
I think it is important to be able to spend time by yourself but too long by yourself is not fun, the difference between weeks and years
Perfect timing Zoe! I have been feeling lonely since November. I am always surrounded by ppl- family and friends, I have loads of friends who msg me everyday but it is not always about the no of texts u get, it is about urself. I cry thinking that I am wasting my teenage years pondering so deeply over this thought but it is not to be ignored.
i actually spoke abt this in class, we were given the freedom to choose to speak abt anything and this is exactly what i chose!!
If you’re the only human on earth, then you not feel lonely. The moment you know that there’s another human out there, you will feel lonely.
All through out the year, I was craving for validation of people in the wrong places. I failed to learn about myself, you can say that I sabotaged in learning different aspects of myself especially at this time filled with isolation and fear of contacting COVID. ) :
Loneliness got me a job at a Big 4. I'm my dark times, I turned to the one thing that would always be there. I'm so excited to start
Thank you for this video ❤️
As for me, I like to be with the people I love. But sometimes I need to be alone and get away from everything to feel relaxed and happy
I'm here coming back here whenever I feel so exhausted tysm zoe you're like my big sis 🥺❤️
I was just crying yesterday because I didn't get into my dream clg inspite of so much hardwork
But you made be comfortable thanku bestie
This makes me feel so good, in 2022 I just want to be happy and a better version of myself than this year, what I have learnt this year is want to take that to 2022, and Understand that I don't need anyone to make me happy. Achieving my goals and being happy from myself is what I want. Without feeling the need to be validated and will always stand for me, Which I am not good at.
True ♥️
She's just such an inspiration she's simple yet so motivating I wanna be like her
As an extravert, I always feel very dependent on people and I’m terrified of being alone. I always think of how overwhelming the future will be (I’m still in school) I tell myself that it’ll be okay if I date someone and live with them. I always feel scared even being alone in public. I know being okay with being alone is something I need to work on. When you talked about being able to stop anywhere on your trip, it reminded me of how when you’re alone, you don’t have to compromise or do what someone else wants to do. That must feel nice. I’m going to try to work on this, thanks for your beautiful videos :)
Hey. Im a HUGE extrovert + I have a twin sister, so no matter what, I have always had a company what ever I do. But the thing is.. im scared to be alone outside at this point.I have gotten so used to being with people, that being alone makes me sad. But it doesnt have to. So thanks for your video! I will try to embrace the alone time more often!
Thank you for this video! This is something I have been working on, and it's quite nice spending time alone to process my thoughts and just being able to do what I want to do, like reading and journaling. It's a work-in-progress, but I'm definitely more comfortable with myself than before! (:
I wish i could have some friends like yours.Zoe seriusly ty for teaching me things and giving me motivations to workout!
Ilysm Stay healthy,take your time and dont Stress!
Dont listen to haters cuz they are always gonna Hate
Happy New Year in Advance ✨✨
Thank you so much for this video, it's exactly what I needed, because after spending the last two days at my partners place, I woke up to being ghosted by them. Right after I saw the recommendation for this video, and I feel like this is the sign I needed, to let myself be sad, but not let myself drown in that sadness.
Hello I really love you're video. As an infj I've felt misunderstood and lonely for a long time. I was I the rode of depression then I found your videos and it really helped. My parents are really happy seeing this positive change inside me thank you for let me meet this vision of me
Im actually much happier when I’m by myself , im an introvert i get anxious with others , i feel judged when im surrounded and uncomfortable SO when im with myself i acknowledge myself im relaxed and simply im happy. I do feel loneliest because well im human 🙆🏻♀️ but i always love to spend time by myself my thoughts and feeling present.
Idk why, but your voice and videos are so calm :> It is one of thousand of the advantages in subscribing ur channel! It may sound wierd, but I often memorize people with flowers... u really remind me of lavender and sunflower! :>>
Her videos are so motivating 😭😭
'I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude' Henry David Thoreau
I’m so happy to see the San Diego temple in this video and you appreciating how beautiful a building from my religion is 🥰
Thank you, I had a hard time until now spending the new year eve alone (cuz I got covid). I didn't think it would be that hard for me to feel alone when all I want is to share this nostalgic moment with friends. But I now realize it is a chance. Bc I can reflect on myself, and love myself even more!
i enjoy my own company so much, it makes me happy, to finally be able to say this :)
I feel like it's the society that makes us depedent on others.
2021 was the worst year for me, I had a really bad class at school where everyone hated each other. It was really hard for me because I had no friends. But I learned to be alone. I spend the new year entirely alone and it was just so cool to being by myself, do what I want to do, when I want, eat what I want etc.
I appreciate spending time with my friends and my family but now I can also being alone without feeling lonely, and it's kind of liberating
this video came at a perfect time. i start a new semester in school next week, and will have completely new classes and different lunch. i have severe anxiety, and it’s really tough for me to talk to people i’m not already comfortable with. it also makes it very hard for me to be alone, because it terrifies me to be judged by others.
i also just got my drivers license, and can start driving by myself. this video has inspired me to try and challenge my fear of being alone - and in the process battling my own loneliness and facing myself. i will be going on a me-date soon! thank you, zoe.
I thank you Zoe this vidio has given me strength to continue new and different, I love how you address the topics that are swept under the table to be ignored. And it's nice to see (sorry not meant badly) that I'm not alone with such a situation. Thank you, keep up the good work and believe in yourself 🤍☀️🥺💭
I like being with my friends, but I usually don't hang out with more than a person at the time because it becomes stressful. I personally like being alone, it helps me regain energy after an emotionally draining day where I've been forced to go outside and talk to people lol
I really needed this video to understand that being alone is not always lonely.. For the past few days I have been feeling very lonely specially since it's weekends and new years eve I just couldn't stop overthinking but this really cheered me up and motivated me to do good in the new year.. Thank u so much zoe💜🌈
I remember when I started my channel and after the second episode I went solo.. I used to visit cafes alone.. travel 2-3 hours in train and find my way to the cafe by myself.... honestly it was the best thing ever.. but I feel I like being connected to people as well and it’s when I was in a phase where I was unable to balance it took a hit.. but now I am getting so good at balancing it more .. I am proud of myself.. it is only today after so many years after watching Zoe’s video I realise how awesome I was and how much more I am yet to become even though I lost a bit of balance in between 🥰🥰🥰🥺🥺🥺♥️♥️♥️ thank you so much Zoe. God bless!!! 🧚🏻♀️✨💕 stay happy always hehehe
I also distinctly remember when people at the cafe looked at me and might have thought my date didn’t show up but it was just me being by myself hahahaha .. I was on a date w myself .. and it really helped me so much after that to be independent.. I remember when I joined a job at Charni Road and at that office whenever I didn’t like my lunch I used to head for lunch outside by myself and I didn’t realise it back then until today how badass that was... 🥰♥️
When yourself is your best friend, you can't be lonely💖 If you're lonely, you're in bad company and you need to work on that
Love the video and the tips on how to be alone without feeling lonely. That being said, I wonder if being busy on your phone (videos, taking pictures etc) and/ or talking to the camera really classifies as being alone because it allows you to escape being truly alone with your own thoughts.
The real loneliness creeps in when you have to come face to face with your thoughts without a distraction. This could lead to one spiralling or having an existential crises, but it could also be a liberating experience once you learn to pivot your thoughts towards more self serving affirmations. That, in my opinion, would allow one to enjoy their own company immensely and serve as the true antidote to loneliness rather than a distraction from it.
Thoughts?
This is the video we needed in quarantine 😩!!!
I really enjoy doing a lot of things by myself. Walking, running. Exercise in general. Playing guitar, listening to music, watching whatever show or movie i want to see. Going Shopping, to a cafe, a restaurant. Reading, learning new stuff on internet. Cooking and going for groceries. Taking pictures. I'm ok with being alone 99% of my time.
this actually made me cry because I felt so deeply everything said in this video..
never in my life thought that I'd get so lonely to be here rn 😢
zoe is my therapist that i dont have to pay for
wow, this video made a huge difference in my mind! thank you
I used to feel like I was extremely lonely; a few years back I started high school, fun for the first few months, then I was getting bullied and lost my friendship group over petty reasons. Everyone was new, so I had no friends or people I could talk to. After being down and depressed for a bit, I decided to make a change cuz there was no way my sadness was gonna be a product of someone else's carelss actions. I started gaining confidence, talking to people in my classes, and found a new circle of friends. Fast forward 4 years, I have had my fair share ups and downs, stayed home for a while earlier this year due to stress, anxiety & depression; however I came back to skl and my friend circle had changed again, with new people I disliked and old people who moved to different friend groups. It was a bit unsettling but I wasn't too worried as I had accumulated friends in different friendship groups over the years. So I choose to be alone, since huge exams are coming up & I missed around 2 months of school, I spend my free time revising and studying. I feel alone when doing these things, though not lonely. I learnt to enjoy my own company and feel safe, with many acquaintances I socialize with all the time. I feel calm and centred when I'm alone, however my social battery is refrshed when I get to banter with classmates in my lessons. Balance is the key to a healthy lifestyle, never forget that.
i watch a different video of your‘s everyday and they‘ve helped me change my mindset in a positive way. I‘m so glad i‘ve come across your channel and i really wish i could subscribe to you more than once.
my family always asks me why do you always isolate yourself and like being alone. and im like its cause i want become comfortable enough to spend time with myself and love myself.
I love being alone. I have never felt lonely because I genuinely enjoy my own company. Being extremely introverted is something I’m actually happy about, but it can be difficult when society favours extroversion so much. But being too dependent on other peoples company for you to live comfortably is quite a negative thing too. It backfires hard at you in times like these.
I always wanted to fit in with the people around and it always got me in terrible friendships but this video made me realize the difference between being alone and being lonely and now I just wanna be with myself thanks so much
Loving ourselves is easy yet so hard at the same time. I think I will start with stop comparing ourselves to other people. Seeing other people as complement not competition. Living alone is hard but once we are used to it, it helps with our individual development. Mindset is not natural, instead it takes a lot of practice. Years of practice maybe!
This feel so..idk how to word it, but I guess soothing/calming would be kinda appropriate
This video deserves more than a million views!
I can't put my words together right now but am so proud of u sis!
I had been fighting with anxiety. It was hard. I remember I always used to cancel my meetings with my friends and took myself back from everything. I didn’t even want to look eye to eye with people. My only happiness was being alone. But end of this journey I realized there is world and it’s waiting me to rediscover it. Whereas I decided to be alone, not lonely. You want to give up sometimes, it’s so natural. We are humans buddy, we have emotions. It’s normal to feel sad or angry. If happiness is emotion, they are also emotions. Don’t be scared about feeling different. At the same time being alone is one of the best thing in the world. I really like to be alone. There are so much things to do when you are alone.
thank you for posting about this so openly and honestly! I have been thinking about this a lot lately, and came to the realization I took on the work of loving others because I couldn't love myself, and always felt unloved because these people I love misunderstood me, thinking of love as only something that can be given between people and not to yourself. basically exactly this !! aaaaaanyway
love that you took pictures in front of the LDS temple LOL😭
I really loveeeed your look Zoe! ✨✨🤩
Zoe, every single video of yours makes me think so many things about my life. You are one of my best inspirations, something like a role model!💖
This might be my favourite video so far: it exactly what I'm practicing with myself, the things I've telling myself etc.. Practically it summerize the philosophy I'm following, I love it!! As always you are such a queen and spiritual mentor uwu
It's easy for you to say because you're an adult and independent, you can go anywhere you wanna go anytime
ive been learning to hang out with myself for the last few months and watching this video seriously reminded why that’s so important. i’m OBSESSED with how you made this and hope it’s OK if i take some inspo (with credits ofcourse) for a video i’d like to share w my own audience about my journey💘 thank you!!
I’m sorry this is off topic but your side profile is flawless
I love watching your videos.It some kinda give me happiness, comfort and confidence ❤️❤️
Zoe crying next to silver play button! Hits so hard 😩✨❤️