Totally agree with the point about you changing but no one else does. I could never understand that. After first being diagnosed I looked up help groups and there was 1 group for bpd and about 10 for family and friends of bpd?! Googling bpd brain abnormalities mri scans did make me understand that bpd is literally brain damage and to make me somewhat better would start with trying to find ways to nourish the brain where there was damage. Also, if all children were taught relaxation techniques in school this would dramatically reduce the severity of bpd later on in life. In the uk the nhs guidelines definitely need to change because they bare no resemblance to the actual 'care' offered. I studied the amygdala, which in bpd folk has either not developed or has atrophied in teens. For me, that was a great eye opener. Many other brain abnormalities but obviously hard to grasp. Children who are traumatised are not usually going to come forward and report it so as a society we need to come up with better solutions so when they are older they don't have to go through hell. Take care.x
New subscribe here. Stumbled down the CZcams rabbit hole searching BPD and found your channel. Wanted to say thanks for the content and speaking from the perspective of a person struggling with BPD, as opposed to another video from a medical professional. I was recently diagnosed w/ BPD and definitely felt that lightbulb moment of "Yes! That's it!". Found it out after being sober for 15 months. Not sure what's next for me, but seeing your content and feeling like maybe there's a community of my peers out there gives me hope.
Well done for your honesty. At the moment having to go Private to get a diagnosis for my son in his 30s who has struggled for most of his life. I'm proud of you sweet as a Mum. This BDP journey is exhausting. Sending love ❤
Only God knows how many people got saved from my anger thanks to therapy and my willing to be a better person. It's frustrating but at the same time it makes me proud of myself. I just loved this video. Thankyou so much for posting it!!!
Thank you for this video, I needed to hear this, it IS hard SO SO hard, it's so difficult to take when this was done to us by others and we have to spend all out time trying to fix it! Uk here
It’s absolutely the hardest but also the bestest thing ive ever done for myself! Reflecting on how I would’ve acted years ago makes me remember just how far ive come 🥰
@@GLOsLife it's so new to me, I'm 37 and now I know about it so much in my life makes sense I was only diagnosed in March and still waiting for therapy but I hope one day I can confidently say I am in recovery
I fully believe I started recovery the day I was diagnosed, it made me understand myself and it’s such a relief to be like omg there’s a reason!! I had to go through all the stages of grief because I was so upset I lost years off my life because I didn’t know what was wrong with me! In a couple years I bet you’ll look back and everything will have changed!! I fully believe in you!!
Omg I NEEDED to see this right now!!!! You are 100% f*cking correct. YES. I am so glad it isn't just f*cking me. Thank you for making this video! It is a daily massive effort, dealing with this BPD.
USA Thank you for posting...recovery or improvement from BPD sounds more difficult than anything I have ever been tasked with...congrats for putting in all the effort and please keep believing that bad responses have NOTHING to do with you, because those are thei problems! I wish there was more I could do for my daughter (who has the diagnosis) but I will just always remember to respond properly and positively to her efforts!
Oh my god I'm so glad I found your channel last night, it is helping me so much. I love your approach and you're so relatable. I was crying for no reason last night and I felt overwhelmed with the impending week. Thank you for these videos, I hope you keep up this channel!
You are doing amazing to be so self aware 👏👏👏 Control the BPD dont let BPD control you 👍 Others will try to press your buttons because they think its 'funny'.
Thanks soooo much for putting this out there! Its mad watching..like you and my kid were separated at birth or something. Doing my best to educate myself. How the hell do we get a diagnosis in the uk when CAHMS just wanna tall about life and the psychiatrist you had to fight to get an appointment with puts issues down to teenage hormones? Grr. Thanks again. Been a rough week in our house this week and I wanna do more. Gonna binge watch your content. Take care. 💚🌱💛🧡💙🖤💜
I feel u, my asian parents are really yikes and belittle me everytime i try to do something 😭😭 i tried mindfulness meditation, deep breaths, journalling (i have not tried therapy because i am terrified if my mom and dad will kill me 😭😭 i think for now im just going to focus on myself, protect my energy, and try to stay alive (while saving money mindfully, and doing the work on myself)
2 mins in and I'm like are you me oh my god. I relate so hard when it comes to the fact that I work so fucking hard on myself to be better and better and better. I'm not the toxic shit I used to be because I spent years changing that about myself and then the people who have been in my life for years act like they don't see it and treat me like the person I used to be. All while they're still doing the shitty shit they were doing 8 years ago! It boils my blood so fucking much, I 100% get what you're saying. It makes you want to give up like. Stay strong ❤❤
Hahaha, it’s so annoying!! People don’t want to acknowledge that we’re better because then it means they have to acknowledge they’re still the same shitty people they’ve always been! I’m so proud of you, you’re doing an amazing job!!
@@GLOsLife ah yes we are the best at mirroring aren’t we. I only figured it out because my son has it and he does lots of the same things as I did. I think adhd could be possible in all bpd as we frantically scan our environment for differences, so we can protect ourselves. I really hope that you get what you need from getting a proper diagnosis lovely. Don’t lose hope darling xxxxx You’re doing great 👍
I have no idea who or what I am suppose to be. I change personalities daily and whatever my surroundings are. I feel like an actor in this movie called Earth. Nobody gets me not even myself. Iure people in at the same time I push people away. I feel like I will never know and meet the real me. I am just walking around in this so called person suit.
Ive learnt that a lot of my behaviours and actions were influenced by masking to fit in! The more I learn about myself the more I’m like ‘why am I doing this?’ It’s hard trying to get past societies expectations of us 😢 we will get there, I know you will for sure! Life is just a long learning process 🧡
We will be eventually, it’s just finding the confidence to take it off and be ourselves. I think we fregar rejection and judgement which sucks! Are you UK or USA for the comp? Xx
@@GLOsLife As soon as my mask slips off, I am outcasted as crazy or weirdo. But I am not crazy. I am well aware of my surrounds. Maybe too observant at times. I am USA.
It’s so hard but always worth it! I always forget how far I’ve come but I’m lucky to have amazing friends and supportive mother to be like ‘hey, yes you did that but think of what you’d have done a year or two ago!!’ And it puts it into perspective 🥰🧡🧡🧡🧡
I sometimes feel the same, like, was i ever BPD?! I'm all good hun! And then BOOM. It's back. Also, YES, we work sooo hard to be better people and so many other people are super content being fucking bellends! Like how are you not even the slightest bit aware YOURE A BAD PERSON lol?! We are warriors huns!!
How annoying is it!!! No one ever mentions that bit when you start recovery! And also I’m like a therapist sharing my knowledge with family and friends so they can be better too 😂😂 We need to learn how to ignore people and not let it trigger us, easier said than done but we will get there for sure!!! Hope you’re okay and feeling better soon
@@GLOsLife I hope you feel better soon. I couldn't agree more with everything you've said. GOTTA LET GO OF THE FUCKING EGO CUZ THEN WE MAKE THESE FOCKERS BELIEVE THEY WERE RIGHT ALL ALONG. 😅😭 life is suuuuuch a twat.
You have not "gotten better". A Borderline can never get better. You are a snake, and you have just shed your skin. This entire comment section is a pit full of writhing snakes.
Totally agree with the point about you changing but no one else does. I could never understand that. After first being diagnosed I looked up help groups and there was 1 group for bpd and about 10 for family and friends of bpd?! Googling bpd brain abnormalities mri scans did make me understand that bpd is literally brain damage and to make me somewhat better would start with trying to find ways to nourish the brain where there was damage. Also, if all children were taught relaxation techniques in school this would dramatically reduce the severity of bpd later on in life. In the uk the nhs guidelines definitely need to change because they bare no resemblance to the actual 'care' offered. I studied the amygdala, which in bpd folk has either not developed or has atrophied in teens. For me, that was a great eye opener. Many other brain abnormalities but obviously hard to grasp. Children who are traumatised are not usually going to come forward and report it so as a society we need to come up with better solutions so when they are older they don't have to go through hell. Take care.x
New subscribe here. Stumbled down the CZcams rabbit hole searching BPD and found your channel. Wanted to say thanks for the content and speaking from the perspective of a person struggling with BPD, as opposed to another video from a medical professional.
I was recently diagnosed w/ BPD and definitely felt that lightbulb moment of "Yes! That's it!". Found it out after being sober for 15 months. Not sure what's next for me, but seeing your content and feeling like maybe there's a community of my peers out there gives me hope.
Well done for your honesty. At the moment having to go Private to get a diagnosis for my son in his 30s who has struggled for most of his life. I'm proud of you sweet as a Mum. This BDP journey is exhausting. Sending love ❤
You're so strong! You'll recover, I trust you. Thank you for sharing, it gets easier when you know you're not alone.
Only God knows how many people got saved from my anger thanks to therapy and my willing to be a better person. It's frustrating but at the same time it makes me proud of myself. I just loved this video. Thankyou so much for posting it!!!
Oh shit... this is the first ever time I have seen or heard your content. But thank you so much. I needed this!!
I’m glad you found the video helpful 🧡 I hope you’re doing okay! Are you UK or USA to enter the competition? :)
@@GLOsLife im uk
Thank you for this video, I needed to hear this, it IS hard SO SO hard, it's so difficult to take when this was done to us by others and we have to spend all out time trying to fix it! Uk here
It’s absolutely the hardest but also the bestest thing ive ever done for myself! Reflecting on how I would’ve acted years ago makes me remember just how far ive come 🥰
@@GLOsLife it's so new to me, I'm 37 and now I know about it so much in my life makes sense I was only diagnosed in March and still waiting for therapy but I hope one day I can confidently say I am in recovery
I fully believe I started recovery the day I was diagnosed, it made me understand myself and it’s such a relief to be like omg there’s a reason!! I had to go through all the stages of grief because I was so upset I lost years off my life because I didn’t know what was wrong with me! In a couple years I bet you’ll look back and everything will have changed!! I fully believe in you!!
Check out my new video! There’s a special treat in it for you 🥰
Aww thanks! I don't have twitter though
Omg I NEEDED to see this right now!!!! You are 100% f*cking correct. YES. I am so glad it isn't just f*cking me. Thank you for making this video! It is a daily massive effort, dealing with this BPD.
It’s super hard but so are we and we can do this!!! Are you UK or USA to enter the competition? 🥰
USA
Thank you for posting...recovery or improvement from BPD sounds more difficult than anything I have ever been tasked with...congrats for putting in all the effort and please keep believing that bad responses have NOTHING to do with you, because those are thei problems!
I wish there was more I could do for my daughter (who has the diagnosis) but I will just always remember to respond properly and positively to her efforts!
This is EVERYTHING!!! Omg spot on mate I love this video 🥰❤
You’re the bestie of my dreams fr I’ve never felt so seen thank god I found your channel you’re out here saving lives
Oh my god I'm so glad I found your channel last night, it is helping me so much. I love your approach and you're so relatable. I was crying for no reason last night and I felt overwhelmed with the impending week. Thank you for these videos, I hope you keep up this channel!
Thank you so much for making these videos. There is no telling how many lives you have saved. Wow! ❤
I feel you. This week I'm having the most absolute shittest time and I'm in tears rn just feeling like this is never going to stop.
The amount of people who have said this is ridiculous!! It must be some sort of astrology thing!
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
I'm new here but I'm really proud of you! Normal people don't work on themselves too often.
You are doing amazing to be so self aware 👏👏👏
Control the BPD dont let BPD control you 👍 Others will try to press your buttons because they think its 'funny'.
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Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
Thanks for sharing Glo 💛
Thank you for the video! Whereabouts in 🇬🇧 are you based? (I’m in Leicestershire) :-)
I’m up near Newcastle but I’ve lived all over so my accent is a bit mixed 😂
Omg I need a friend like you!! Holy crap you just explained my life 😳
Thanks soooo much for putting this out there! Its mad watching..like you and my kid were separated at birth or something. Doing my best to educate myself. How the hell do we get a diagnosis in the uk when CAHMS just wanna tall about life and the psychiatrist you had to fight to get an appointment with puts issues down to teenage hormones? Grr.
Thanks again. Been a rough week in our house this week and I wanna do more. Gonna binge watch your content. Take care. 💚🌱💛🧡💙🖤💜
BPD rage at its finest.
Hahaha for sure! Better not to see it at its worst 🥲😂
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
I feel u, my asian parents are really yikes and belittle me everytime i try to do something 😭😭 i tried mindfulness meditation, deep breaths, journalling (i have not tried therapy because i am terrified if my mom and dad will kill me 😭😭 i think for now im just going to focus on myself, protect my energy, and try to stay alive (while saving money mindfully, and doing the work on myself)
Wow your rants are exactly like mine. Shit. Glad to hear that you are venting and getting it out.
Exactly THIS
Thank you
I couldn't have said it better myself 🙌💓
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Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
@@GLOsLife UK
Omg I feel the saaaame!!!!!
2 mins in and I'm like are you me oh my god. I relate so hard when it comes to the fact that I work so fucking hard on myself to be better and better and better. I'm not the toxic shit I used to be because I spent years changing that about myself and then the people who have been in my life for years act like they don't see it and treat me like the person I used to be. All while they're still doing the shitty shit they were doing 8 years ago! It boils my blood so fucking much, I 100% get what you're saying. It makes you want to give up like. Stay strong ❤❤
Hahaha, it’s so annoying!! People don’t want to acknowledge that we’re better because then it means they have to acknowledge they’re still the same shitty people they’ve always been! I’m so proud of you, you’re doing an amazing job!!
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
@@GLOsLife You're doing an amazing job too!!! ❤ I'm ireland so I don't think i can enter the comp but it's okay😊
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Keep going girl 🎉, you can do it Xx
I'm undiagnosed, theyre refusing bc i'm a minor-
But thank u so much for sharing this
Ello darling, I have bpd and suspected autism. I hope that you feel better soon x
Hey Fliss! I suspect I have that too although it could just be learnt traits from my dad and sister! I’m getting checked for adhd next month too! X
Hey Fliss! I suspect I have that too although it could just be learnt traits from my dad and sister! I’m getting checked for adhd next month too! X
@@GLOsLife ah yes we are the best at mirroring aren’t we. I only figured it out because my son has it and he does lots of the same things as I did.
I think adhd could be possible in all bpd as we frantically scan our environment for differences, so we can protect ourselves.
I really hope that you get what you need from getting a proper diagnosis lovely.
Don’t lose hope darling xxxxx
You’re doing great 👍
@@popflickbogeypoo you’re a great woman Fliss, I wish you nothing but the best!! Your positivity radiates through the screen 🥰
Fellow BPD’er here…. I feel ur pain …top quality vent though … better out than in Glo . Stay safe x
Thanks Steve!! You stay safe too x
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
@@GLOsLife Hi Glo… I’m in the uk. Got the book already thanks so didn’t plan to enter xx
I have no idea who or what I am suppose to be. I change personalities daily and whatever my surroundings are. I feel like an actor in this movie called Earth. Nobody gets me not even myself. Iure people in at the same time I push people away. I feel like I will never know and meet the real me. I am just walking around in this so called person suit.
Ive learnt that a lot of my behaviours and actions were influenced by masking to fit in! The more I learn about myself the more I’m like ‘why am I doing this?’ It’s hard trying to get past societies expectations of us 😢 we will get there, I know you will for sure! Life is just a long learning process 🧡
@@GLOsLife Yes we all wears masks. The mask of society. But why, why do we have to mask ourselves. Why can't we be our true selves.
We will be eventually, it’s just finding the confidence to take it off and be ourselves. I think we fregar rejection and judgement which sucks! Are you UK or USA for the comp? Xx
@@GLOsLife As soon as my mask slips off, I am outcasted as crazy or weirdo. But I am not crazy. I am well aware of my surrounds. Maybe too observant at times. I am USA.
Fuck yeah!❤
Yes so hard to walk away lol Please enter me into comp UK
My x wife seems to mask her BPD very well she is high functioning, is it common to be very skilled at hiding their pain?
She's not hiding pain, she's hiding metaphorical knives. Run for the hills.
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Honey im recovering from this fucking illness recovery exists but it's hard .❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s so hard but always worth it! I always forget how far I’ve come but I’m lucky to have amazing friends and supportive mother to be like ‘hey, yes you did that but think of what you’d have done a year or two ago!!’ And it puts it into perspective 🥰🧡🧡🧡🧡
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
@@GLOsLife Greece
I sometimes feel the same, like, was i ever BPD?! I'm all good hun! And then BOOM. It's back.
Also, YES, we work sooo hard to be better people and so many other people are super content being fucking bellends! Like how are you not even the slightest bit aware YOURE A BAD PERSON lol?!
We are warriors huns!!
How annoying is it!!! No one ever mentions that bit when you start recovery! And also I’m like a therapist sharing my knowledge with family and friends so they can be better too 😂😂
We need to learn how to ignore people and not let it trigger us, easier said than done but we will get there for sure!!! Hope you’re okay and feeling better soon
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
@@GLOsLife UK love!! X
A fat fucking mood. 😭🤣💖
I just needed to let it out 🥲😂🧡
@@GLOsLife I hope you feel better soon. I couldn't agree more with everything you've said. GOTTA LET GO OF THE FUCKING EGO CUZ THEN WE MAKE THESE FOCKERS BELIEVE THEY WERE RIGHT ALL ALONG. 😅😭 life is suuuuuch a twat.
We will do it, I know it!! Us bpd gang are made are stern stuff!! Super resilient 💪🏻
Are you UK or USA for the comp? 🥰
@@GLOsLife I'm from the US. Haha. What is a comp? 🙂
OH MY GOSH YES. 🤣🤣
You have not "gotten better". A Borderline can never get better. You are a snake, and you have just shed your skin. This entire comment section is a pit full of writhing snakes.
Keep going bettering yourself🫶🏽