@@PeaceOfMakewtf you are completely confused little guy!! Life is so simple it happens with no hiccups. No complexity to it it’s simple. It’s complex to you because you don’t understand life
Uhhhhh ❤ the last time I heard someone mention bukowski is long ago. Thanks. Now I know I have to reach out for other ppl or call some real good soulmates back.
If this works for you that is great, I just want to say if you try this and it doesn't work for you don't beat yourself up. Having high expectations can be crushing when they aren't achieved, it is ok to take things slow, and allow the ups and downs that come along with the progress. As long as you are progressing consider THAT a win. Because expecting too much of yourself when we are only human can result in a lot of disappointment and depression. So be wary of this "all or nothing" attitude. Because sometimes it is a journey, with slopes and valleys and and as long as you keep going you are growing. Don't give up. Do take breaks! Burn out is a bitch js 😅
You are 100% correct. I spent 8 years as an alcoholic, 5 as a cocaine addict using both daily. My wife grew up because we had our first child. I was too addicted to grow up. So they left me. And I’ll tell you what, for me, nothing put a fire under my ass like losing my wife and daughter. I made a Choice right then that I was done. The alcohol withdrawal sucked, but I got through it. To this day, I have never once had a craving to drink or use. I also was able to earn back my wife’s trust and love about 6 months into sobriety. We now own property, are raising two children, have the dogs, the horses, the basketball hoop in the driveway etc. I made a commitment and it was easier than I thought it would be.
That is beyond awesome. So many people don't grow up & make their family more important than their own issues/damage. I'm very happy 4 u, ur wife but esp ur kids! 🤩
But this is the thing, you needed a fire lit under your ass to make the 100% commitment. It’s not easy for someone who is really addicted to just one day decide to quit. I feel like something has to happen to motivate us to truly commit and I wish this video included that nuance
@@Carpenter93 but you couldn’t make that decision and stick to it until your wife and daughter left. Hence my comment. You could’ve made a choice to quit when they were still around but couldn’t. You needed the fire lit. That’s all I was pointing out
@@GilAiresSilva Wel, his point is about commitment, not results, since in marriage both have to be commited, so his point still there. If you were a very doubtful and anxious person you wont get married ever unless you commit to it besides your fear
@@haloiscool1235 it's not that simple. Without proper support and advice, it can be impossible to stick to that commitment. Addictions change your entire brain chemistry. Not to mention that some addictions require actual medical intervention, or else the withdrawal can kill you. How about rather than saying stupid shit like "just stop being addicted lol", we share advice and resources that are actually going to help?
Im going through this right now i wish i could get help through this because i wont live another 5 years with my addiction i need to commit 100% so i can change my life around and gain control over myself and not let the drugs im doing control me even though ive tried to quit before the withdrawals were so bad i got back on them i need to just make the decision to quit and stick with it no matter how hard it may be
@@Hilariousmoments-pj2rm seek support. As much support as you can. You do need to commit, but you know first hand how difficult it is. Build a strong personal support circle around you, find other healthier coping methods to replace the addiction, and perhaps professional counselling if you think that will help too. I know you can do it. I believe in you. Every attempt makes it a little easier to quit
@@Hilariousmoments-pj2rm What's your poison? I'm on my 49th consecutive hour of railing cocaine by myself in an apartment. I was clean for years. Talk to me dude I kinda need it too lmao
This is how I managed to stop using alcohol, marijuana, and tobacco. All the other times I tried there was always a part of me that was wondering if I'd be successful. I would question how long I was going to last. This time, I set a clear goal of 6 months- 1year. I told myself I wanted to be proud of myself on my next birthday for how well I did. I'm now 8 months clean from alcohol and Marijuana, and 3 months clean from tobacco and nicotine.
@@franc_hayden that's ok if you can grow stronger from it. Many stay out of financial necessity. Or for health coverage. If money were no object, would they still stay? That's the question to ask ourselves
This is so true. It’s all mind set. In 2022 during Covid, I decided I wanted to be healthy needed to lose about 100 pounds. Now 3 years later, I have lost 97 pounds and kept it off. It was just a decision and commitment. And I’m off all of the meds I was on, because of it. Great video and sound advice. Thank you for making it.
Thats not what you supposed to do for extreme weight loss. Do it gradually otherwise even after getting in shape you will have a lot of loose skin which can only be surgically removed
@@Hmy8799 uhm hello? I believe it's YOU who doesn't understand math. Average doesn't work that way bud. That doesn't mean they lost 2.7 lbs per month, the graphs are never consistent. It can also mean 5.4 lbs on one day and 0 lbs on another. I literally learnt statistics in 7th grade 🤦🏻♂️
Very true! It reminded me of another piece of advice: Swap the idea of having "Power of Will" for having "Strength of Commitment." Because wills change.
Yes i agree 100%. I quit sweets and every kind of stuff with added sugar for 6 months now and to be honest it was totaly easy because the rule was strict and therefore you cant argue with yourself to justify any rule break
I've found that the solutions to most of life's problems are simple. Not *easy,* mind you, but simple. When that makes perfect sense to you, everything else will as well.
Man this advice really speaks to me. Today I was thinking of why it was so hard for me to be social sometimes but other times it was just second nature, and honestly this makes so much sense when I think back to those interactions I've had with people.
@@recoveringsoul755 It matters 100%. Women initiate 80% of divorces. 90% of the time, the man pays child support and alimony payments to the female. Moreover, his existing property is divided to give half of it to the female. Marriage is a lottery for many women in the West. It matters greatly.
@@abumansaray7 no. If he makes more money than she does then he pays. Otherwise she could pay him. It's based on finances.. And why assume the man owns all the property? If they acquired it during marriage, half of it already belongs to the wife. So of course she should get her half and he should get his. Men tend to earn more so if we fix the wage gap maybe that will shift . Let me tell you my experience. I filed for divorce far too late. Hadn't seen him sober in a decade and he was destroying our finances. Addiction tends to do that. If he bothered to come home between whoever he slept with, he'd scream at me and the kids for 2 hours until he got tired, then passed out drunk. He'd ruin every holiday and birthday unless it was his. He begged me to stay for a couple of years, while dating others and escalating the abuse. He asks what I want for my birthday one night, the following night he shows up swearing and threatening to kill me. Well I didn't want death threats for my birthday. My kid was hoping me so CPS sends an idiot to investigate. I get interviewed. My child gets pulled out of school. And daddy dearest gets interviewed later. He stalled the process for 13 years, so far. I was a stay at home mom. I offered to buy him out of the PAID OFF family home that I BOUGHT, in 2012, twice. He said no, waited for the price to go up and stole it from me with slander. Stole my abused children and pets and everything I own. All the cars, all the pensions, my clothes and shoes. Everything I accumulated in a lifetime. Things I inherited before marriage. Things from my childhood. College textbooks and notes. Furniture I inherited prior to marriage. I left with nothing. I'm starving to death. He's remarried I think, moved twice, is in a mansion on 10 acres. My kids still won't talk to me because of the parental alienation. I've spent well over $100k on useless lawyers. With no job or income . Not to mention rent. He violated every court order and agreement and stipulation we made. His male Privilege allows him to speak lies in court without a shred of proof and he is believed. I try to say the truth with proof and they don't believe me. The woman judge who kicked me out of my home knew about his death threats. I called the police for 3 years and they never helped. So apparently the way to win everything is lying through your teeth, and totally destroying the life of your spouse and children. Because according to Lundy Bancroft, who has studied angry and controlling men, written books, many interviews with him here on CZcams, he says that the family courts have been giving sole custody of abused children to the abuser (almost always a man), for 40 years. The courts know it has a detrimental effect on the health of the children 100% of the time. But they keep doing it. Of course they don't want the kids, don't love them, they just want to hurt their wives and not pay child support. Then he deliberately quits his job, claims he was laid off, not a shred of proof for anything. I had to get a psych evaluation as part of his stonewalling. It just showed I was a victim of domestic Violence. He failed his 3 random drug tests. And still nothing has been restored to me. I don't know if he bribes my lawyers or all the judges or what, but something very strange is happening. And it's got nothing to do with justice I've had enough of you privileged men telling me this lie that women automatically win. Not true
Few years ago I said Im gonna stop lying, any kind of lie. As long as I remember, my days weren't stressed anymore, I was more honest and felt better. I don't know what made me do it, but I'm glad I did.
I'm glad quitting drinking was easy for you. Quitting drinking was incredibly difficult and disruptive for me. Even after stopping, it took me a full year to feel like and function like a normal person.
Sex leads to possibly children. Will you 100% COMMIT to taking care of any children no matter your relationship with the mother? Willing to sign a contract before sex? Are you willing to make sure that baby had a roof over its head, food, healthcare, clothes and an involved fathere? EVEN if you don't live wuth them? No birth control is guaranteed except celibacy
@rollingon6358 ehhhhh i think if done carefully, there isn't much wrong with casual sex. Of course, if i think i find someone really special, it's not going to just be about the sex obviously 🙄
@@FN2166_ no bread, no cake, no icecream, no sugar drinks, no sodas, no alcohol. Homemade foods & water.. Lost 16 lbs. Lost the cravings & lost anxiety. ❤
Agree 100% I quit drinking in my early 20’s with that mentality 0 tolerance 100% commitment not one will understand only you and that’s all that matters! Amazing video always always so talented and creative 😊
Not always the best advice for someone who isn't qualified or realistic. Some things in life have prerequisites and devastating consequences. But if that commitment involves training, conditioning, growth, and developments for preparation and pre-qualification, then yes, 100% is great and necessary. I guess that goes without saying. I think the message here is that having a commitment makes the destination more clear and definite, and also serves as a governing and alignment factor over all aspects of your journey.
Sex makes babies. Something MEN need to be aware of and be ready for. This guy talks about HIS heart breaking. But would think nothing of abandoning a child if the mother doesn't want to stay married.. its fine to destroy a helpless childs life and deprive them of food and shelter, a father, if males don't continue to get sex from the mother
It's never good advice for anyone. It's a dopamine treadmill. You hype yourself up about how you have just mentally ascended to perfection because of a CZcams video, you plan out some absolutely ridiculous "life change" plan and you completely abandon it at the first sign of failure, because failure is what makes us fall down, and people can't deal with failure. Telling a person that is afraid of failure that "they're already perfect" is only going to drive them to severe mental illness. A man does not look for advice on how to drive the spear into a tiger. The man looks for advice on how to not die trying. The fool wants to know how to drive the spear in, because the fool wants to daydream about how glorious it would be if he did it, instead of actually doing it. Any "advice" that focuses on positivity instead of negativity is axiomatically wrong.
@@recoveringsoul755 grandma stop spamming on every thread, I was genuinely conserned about you from what you said in another thread but when you sh*t about your husband nonstop on every reply chain it seems like you are promoting the fact that all men are drunk and your experience doesnt seem real
Neville Goddard always said that you cannot leave any part of the old self in your minds eye for comfort when you put on 'the new man' or you'll go back because it's so familiar and habitual and 'habit is the most inhibiting force in the world' (this short really fired me up to get to work)
@@lylel3471 I’m not saying it’s not true but also said on the topic of meditation you get out of the habit and lose the skill over time when you don’t work on it and it requires more will, same with say a pianist This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot though interesting topic. Do you find things happen effortlessly for you?
He is absolutely right. Every time I made up in my mind stopping alcohol was hard, it was. And when I prayed and saw it as not hard, the agreement was broken and I didn’t drink. Simple as that….FAITH
Yup… black and white changes are the easiest to stick to. That is why dieting is so hard. You can’t just quit eating, so you have to find a way to manage the gray areas.
Love this! Super. Competing means you believe there's lack whilst dominating means there are more than enough for everyone so... Dominate your stuff, mind & trust in the Creator.
If you don't like the current results, then pretty much *any* action other than what you're currently doing, is a step in the right direction. Rather than vacillate on whether or not a choice is the optimum/best/most efficient... Just make a good guess in the general direction, then get going on it. Even if you're wrong, you'll learn. That's worth a lot. Whether win or lose with any individual choice, you actually only get closer to your goal by not staying in the same place. Get to it. I believe in you. 👍
That’s really good advice and completely true! I also stop drink alcohol and it’s so easy for me, and I use to drink every weekend wines, and go to events and everything… now I don’t even miss at all
Absolutely right !!! the thing is majority of population out there don't focus on such small ''yet most important'' advices. They need some big generalized advice which is simple to understand and looks fancy when quoted. These subtle changes taken seriously, makes the difference. I get you there brother !!!
Yep so true. I committed 100% to my work and holy cow....I was working longer hours and harder than I'd ever worked in my life. KNow what happened? I got more raises, more promotions, more of all the good stuff I craved and all I did was stop complaining about what I didn't have and commit everything to my job. It was amazing and fun and really not as hard as I thought it would be.
It's easy to keep doing what you're comfortable doing even when you don't want to. It feels weird to break a habit but change needs to happen for you to change
This is so true. Same for me with drinking. I had “tried to quit” so many times but when I truly decided to be 100% committed, it was soooooo much easier. I didn’t even entertain the thought of going back.
So we’re not even gonna consider framing it as “it took me a little while, but I got a handle on it eventually”, it’s just gotta be “I was weak then one day I decided to be strong about it”? Because in any other discipline we would call trying a few times before eventually succeeding “practice”, you would be taught that failing before you succeed is normal, and folks would attribute your eventual success to your earlier failures. Seems that somehow when we talk about perceived moral failings like substance abuse there is a presumption that everyone is naturally talented at sobriety and therefore should need no practice returning to it, even after potentially spending more time as a substance abuser than as a sober person in their life. Glad you’re in a better place though, I just don’t see why it should have to be such a black and white perspective on your development.
Damn straight it's your mindset If you think there's a chance of failure, you'll fail if you believe there's no chance of failure, you'll always succeed
The thing is to think "how" and not run away immediately after, you have to be honest on what you need and what you want and value both to be commited to something.
It's also about changing your identity. Instead of asking "what can i do" and trying to reach an outcome, ask yourself "who do i want to become". I got this advice from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear.
If a man has sex, there's a possibility of children. If you don't 100% want kids and vow to support them no matter what, then do NOT have sex and do not expect her to handle the birth control
@@cryonicus too bad he's legally required to support that child. The ONLY effective birth control is abstinence. Prevents STDs too. Since women being pregnant is a big deal, her body will never be the same, some require bed rest, some die in childbirth, the sheer expense of pregnancy and childbirth, etc, it's not something to be taken lightly. I understand the hormones and the lust. But I wish I knew what I know now when I was younger. I would have avoided a lot of bad decisions.
I quit drinking the same way! Used to be a very heavy partier, but got the download from Spirit to quit drinking, put the half full beer back on the bar top, and left never to drink again. Sometimes people fall into unconscious autopilot with things, though. So reminder to everyone to give yourself grace. You will never shame yourself into positive change!
He's absolute correct! I quit drinking several times, but the time (after a DWI) I quit cold turkey and decided I was never going back. It wasn't hard at all - and my life got 100% better!
You are 100% correct in your message. I quit smoking (cold turkey) after 20 years because I was 💯% committed. I didn't experience withdrawal nor it wasn't as difficult as one thinks it is. You can do anything you set your mind to....period!
The way you reach the 100% is by accepting the truth however painful. I quit doing all sorts of bad things because I realized I was a piece of crap. If that's true, then I MUST change
Yep. I wanted to get in shape, so now I workout every single day. Don't have to go hard everyday, but it has to be something. The transformation has been huge
This is so true. When I moved to a different state to pursue a Master's Program, I had no plan B. I was 100% committed to finishing the program. Well...I did not just finish it, I graduated with 4.0 GPA and honors.
True. I used to do cold showers every dat but Sunday, when my depression got bad i quit. Now, by doing every shower cold, it just becomes clear how easy it is.
Exactly! It's what I did when I quit smoking. I actually enjoyed smoking. But something came over me one day and I said I don't want to do this anymore. It's disgusting, expensive and I no longer enjoy it. I quit cold turkey and never looked back. Been smoke free since Jan 1st 2023. Not a resolution just happened to be the day I said no more. I smoked for 39 yrs.
If you’re feeling triggered like ur a failure after watching this it’s bc you are. You are failing yourself. Nobody and nothing is in your way but you. Commit 💯%, leave no room for any other options and experience guaranteed success! 👏🏽❤️ This message is not brutal, it’s inspirational.
That's why it's called an "Addiction" - because things just keep adding up. The pleasure, the pain, the frustration, the doubt. Well, maybe the commitment too, and the anti-commitment. To be honest, that 100% percent isn't always enough.
This is so true. I started running each day about 10 days ago. Have tried it before with 5 days a week running but it is so much easier committing 100%!❤
Love this. This is powerful. I did this for drinking (now 10 years sober), and smoking (9 years smoke free). Never thought of it like this before - I’m going to give the 100% commitment next to exercise, and work.
COMMITMENT IS EVERYTHING..... BEING COMMITTED WILL MAKE YOU DROP THE THINGS BLOCKING YOU, WILL MAKE YOU DISCIPLINED AND SEE IT TO THE END ... JUST TO NAME A FEW ... 🙏💚 DONT WANT ANYONE IN MY LIFE THAT ISNT COMMITTED, HAS RESILIENCE AND TRANSPARENCY
incredible advice. just like Charles Bukowski said,
"If you're going to try, go all the way. otherwise, don't even start"
Life is complex. If you did everything 100%, you'd go mad.
And he did as well.
@@PeaceOfMakewtf you are completely confused little guy!! Life is so simple it happens with no hiccups. No complexity to it it’s simple. It’s complex to you because you don’t understand life
Uhhhhh ❤ the last time I heard someone mention bukowski is long ago. Thanks. Now I know I have to reach out for other ppl or call some real good soulmates back.
100% has no meaning, think about it...there's always more to anything, no end to the web we weave and other incidentals...until 💀 and then ???
If this works for you that is great, I just want to say if you try this and it doesn't work for you don't beat yourself up. Having high expectations can be crushing when they aren't achieved, it is ok to take things slow, and allow the ups and downs that come along with the progress. As long as you are progressing consider THAT a win. Because expecting too much of yourself when we are only human can result in a lot of disappointment and depression. So be wary of this "all or nothing" attitude. Because sometimes it is a journey, with slopes and valleys and and as long as you keep going you are growing. Don't give up. Do take breaks! Burn out is a bitch js 😅
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca
Thats ture
The issue is we live in our heads so in a nutshell that's what matters most
"Often times it's no *hard* it's just you thinking it's hard "
Im crying rn
This is like the classic cure to anxiety. "Just don't worry about it, mate" 😂😂
Lmao
Right?? Idiotic
@@rubyrainville2318scientifically proven by teams of neuroscientists at Stanford, Vanderbilt, and the UC system. Read a book
Physics 100% certain? Man must have stopped at Newtonian physics.
You are 100% correct. I spent 8 years as an alcoholic, 5 as a cocaine addict using both daily. My wife grew up because we had our first child. I was too addicted to grow up. So they left me. And I’ll tell you what, for me, nothing put a fire under my ass like losing my wife and daughter. I made a Choice right then that I was done. The alcohol withdrawal sucked, but I got through it. To this day, I have never once had a craving to drink or use.
I also was able to earn back my wife’s trust and love about 6 months into sobriety. We now own property, are raising two children, have the dogs, the horses, the basketball hoop in the driveway etc. I made a commitment and it was easier than I thought it would be.
That is beyond awesome. So many people don't grow up & make their family more important than their own issues/damage. I'm very happy 4 u, ur wife but esp ur kids! 🤩
But this is the thing, you needed a fire lit under your ass to make the 100% commitment. It’s not easy for someone who is really addicted to just one day decide to quit. I feel like something has to happen to motivate us to truly commit and I wish this video included that nuance
@@terrapurvis6541 no one said it was easy, but it is simple. Make a decision and stick to it. Brutal honesty is your friend.
Needed to hear that story,I'm glad you found your way back to your family,sounds like you are doing wonderful and enjoying life,take care
@@Carpenter93 but you couldn’t make that decision and stick to it until your wife and daughter left. Hence my comment. You could’ve made a choice to quit when they were still around but couldn’t. You needed the fire lit. That’s all I was pointing out
Nobody is 100% sure about marrying someone won’t cheat. We really out here flipping coins 😅
Yes, really bad example 😂 Divorce rates are over 50% in the USA and people still marry! Exactly the opposite of the point he was trying to make
@@GilAiresSilva Wel, his point is about commitment, not results, since in marriage both have to be commited, so his point still there. If you were a very doubtful and anxious person you wont get married ever unless you commit to it besides your fear
Don't flip....... if you or another are uncertain...... split!
Im thankful to be able to say im 100% certain my husband will never cheat on me. Its rare but there are some gems out there
You're choosing wrong then
I first heard that saying in Jack Canfield's book "the success principles." But had long forgotten it. Thanks for the reminder and explanation! 🤜🤛
Bruh really said "beating addiction is as simple as deciding to beat the addiction"
It’s as simple as that. It’s just about getting to the point you actually commit.
@@haloiscool1235 it's not that simple. Without proper support and advice, it can be impossible to stick to that commitment. Addictions change your entire brain chemistry. Not to mention that some addictions require actual medical intervention, or else the withdrawal can kill you.
How about rather than saying stupid shit like "just stop being addicted lol", we share advice and resources that are actually going to help?
Im going through this right now i wish i could get help through this because i wont live another 5 years with my addiction i need to commit 100% so i can change my life around and gain control over myself and not let the drugs im doing control me even though ive tried to quit before the withdrawals were so bad i got back on them i need to just make the decision to quit and stick with it no matter how hard it may be
@@Hilariousmoments-pj2rm seek support. As much support as you can. You do need to commit, but you know first hand how difficult it is. Build a strong personal support circle around you, find other healthier coping methods to replace the addiction, and perhaps professional counselling if you think that will help too. I know you can do it. I believe in you. Every attempt makes it a little easier to quit
@@Hilariousmoments-pj2rm What's your poison? I'm on my 49th consecutive hour of railing cocaine by myself in an apartment. I was clean for years. Talk to me dude I kinda need it too lmao
This is how I managed to stop using alcohol, marijuana, and tobacco. All the other times I tried there was always a part of me that was wondering if I'd be successful. I would question how long I was going to last. This time, I set a clear goal of 6 months- 1year. I told myself I wanted to be proud of myself on my next birthday for how well I did. I'm now 8 months clean from alcohol and Marijuana, and 3 months clean from tobacco and nicotine.
Awesome - great to hear!!!
"Do or do not. There is no try" - Master Yoda
"I don't talk about it, I be about it" ~ Every rapper in the last 8 years
Also remember to slowly cut down on addictions. Cutting them off abruptly is almost always physically and mentally dangerous.
I listened. I’m now 100% watching for change.
People definitely marry with less than 90% certainty they’d get cheated on 😂
They have sex with no intentions of supporting any children that CAN result
I know people who stay married even though they know their partner cheated on them.
Yeah, that was a bad example lol
@@franc_hayden that's ok if you can grow stronger from it. Many stay out of financial necessity. Or for health coverage. If money were no object, would they still stay? That's the question to ask ourselves
You have a definite 10% worth of cheating in this deal 😅
Decisions decisions.......
This is so true. It’s all mind set. In 2022 during Covid, I decided I wanted to be healthy needed to lose about 100 pounds. Now 3 years later, I have lost 97 pounds and kept it off. It was just a decision and commitment. And I’m off all of the meds I was on, because of it. Great video and sound advice. Thank you for making it.
That is awesome. Good 4 U & the future U also.🤩
Thats not what you supposed to do for extreme weight loss. Do it gradually otherwise even after getting in shape you will have a lot of loose skin which can only be surgically removed
@@-SimonRileyclearly they don’t have it, don’t mind, or are gonna fix it.
@@Hmy8799 uhm hello? I believe it's YOU who doesn't understand math. Average doesn't work that way bud. That doesn't mean they lost 2.7 lbs per month, the graphs are never consistent. It can also mean 5.4 lbs on one day and 0 lbs on another. I literally learnt statistics in 7th grade 🤦🏻♂️
first get overweight then start losing weight.. life in a nutshell
This is so dang true man. Straight facts if you can just internalize this and apply it
Exactly! Mind over matter!! That need for change definitely has to be priority and commitment of 100%
True. There’s nothing worse than one foot in and one foot out of something.
"it's not actually hard. it's thinking that it is hard that makes it hard."
"You are never more free than when your hands are tied" - me.
OFTEN TIMES IT'S NOT HARD IT'S THINKING THAT'S IT'S HARD THAT'S MAKES IT HARD! this actually makes perfect sense love it! thank you for this
Very true! It reminded me of another piece of advice: Swap the idea of having "Power of Will" for having "Strength of Commitment." Because wills change.
Yes i agree 100%. I quit sweets and every kind of stuff with added sugar for 6 months now and to be honest it was totaly easy because the rule was strict and therefore you cant argue with yourself to justify any rule break
Why would you do that? Your body needs sugar
I've found that the solutions to most of life's problems are simple. Not *easy,* mind you, but simple.
When that makes perfect sense to you, everything else will as well.
Man this advice really speaks to me. Today I was thinking of why it was so hard for me to be social sometimes but other times it was just second nature, and honestly this makes so much sense when I think back to those interactions I've had with people.
Would you marry someone if there was a 50% chance of divorce? Because that’s the actual statistic 😂
Its higher for 2nd marriages. And 90% for 3rd marriage's
Even good men abandon kids in divorce and try not to pay
Depends. Are you the groom or the bride
@@abumansaray7 doesn't matter at all. No guarantees either sex
@@recoveringsoul755 It matters 100%. Women initiate 80% of divorces. 90% of the time, the man pays child support and alimony payments to the female. Moreover, his existing property is divided to give half of it to the female. Marriage is a lottery for many women in the West. It matters greatly.
@@abumansaray7 no. If he makes more money than she does then he pays. Otherwise she could pay him. It's based on finances.. And why assume the man owns all the property? If they acquired it during marriage, half of it already belongs to the wife. So of course she should get her half and he should get his. Men tend to earn more so if we fix the wage gap maybe that will shift .
Let me tell you my experience. I filed for divorce far too late. Hadn't seen him sober in a decade and he was destroying our finances. Addiction tends to do that. If he bothered to come home between whoever he slept with, he'd scream at me and the kids for 2 hours until he got tired, then passed out drunk. He'd ruin every holiday and birthday unless it was his. He begged me to stay for a couple of years, while dating others and escalating the abuse. He asks what I want for my birthday one night, the following night he shows up swearing and threatening to kill me. Well I didn't want death threats for my birthday. My kid was hoping me so CPS sends an idiot to investigate. I get interviewed. My child gets pulled out of school. And daddy dearest gets interviewed later.
He stalled the process for 13 years, so far. I was a stay at home mom. I offered to buy him out of the PAID OFF family home that I BOUGHT, in 2012, twice. He said no, waited for the price to go up and stole it from me with slander.
Stole my abused children and pets and everything I own. All the cars, all the pensions, my clothes and shoes. Everything I accumulated in a lifetime. Things I inherited before marriage. Things from my childhood. College textbooks and notes. Furniture I inherited prior to marriage. I left with nothing. I'm starving to death. He's remarried I think, moved twice, is in a mansion on 10 acres.
My kids still won't talk to me because of the parental alienation. I've spent well over $100k on useless lawyers. With no job or income . Not to mention rent.
He violated every court order and agreement and stipulation we made. His male Privilege allows him to speak lies in court without a shred of proof and he is believed. I try to say the truth with proof and they don't believe me.
The woman judge who kicked me out of my home knew about his death threats. I called the police for 3 years and they never helped.
So apparently the way to win everything is lying through your teeth, and totally destroying the life of your spouse and children.
Because according to Lundy Bancroft, who has studied angry and controlling men, written books, many interviews with him here on CZcams, he says that the family courts have been giving sole custody of abused children to the abuser (almost always a man), for 40 years. The courts know it has a detrimental effect on the health of the children 100% of the time. But they keep doing it.
Of course they don't want the kids, don't love them, they just want to hurt their wives and not pay child support.
Then he deliberately quits his job, claims he was laid off, not a shred of proof for anything. I had to get a psych evaluation as part of his stonewalling. It just showed I was a victim of domestic Violence. He failed his 3 random drug tests. And still nothing has been restored to me. I don't know if he bribes my lawyers or all the judges or what, but something very strange is happening. And it's got nothing to do with justice
I've had enough of you privileged men telling me this lie that women automatically win. Not true
It’s your commitment that carries you to the finish line
Few years ago I said Im gonna stop lying, any kind of lie. As long as I remember, my days weren't stressed anymore, I was more honest and felt better. I don't know what made me do it, but I'm glad I did.
I'm glad quitting drinking was easy for you. Quitting drinking was incredibly difficult and disruptive for me. Even after stopping, it took me a full year to feel like and function like a normal person.
I must've been subconsciously 100% commited to being a virgin then 😂
Consciously 100% commit and enter the consecrated religious life in the Catholic Church.
Sex is not everything bud. In time you will find your partner. Just don’t make decisions based on sexual desire.
Sex leads to possibly children. Will you 100% COMMIT to taking care of any children no matter your relationship with the mother? Willing to sign a contract before sex?
Are you willing to make sure that baby had a roof over its head, food, healthcare, clothes and an involved fathere? EVEN if you don't live wuth them?
No birth control is guaranteed except celibacy
@rollingon6358 ehhhhh i think if done carefully, there isn't much wrong with casual sex. Of course, if i think i find someone really special, it's not going to just be about the sex obviously 🙄
@@recoveringsoul755 abortion.
True i did that with my food and it helped me heal most of my health issues
Thanks for posting this. It's helpful for me.
What did you change in your diet?
Great!🤩
@@FN2166_ no bread, no cake, no icecream, no sugar drinks, no sodas, no alcohol.
Homemade foods & water..
Lost 16 lbs. Lost the cravings & lost anxiety. ❤
There is nothing 100% certain out there but it is in your hands if you wanna be 100% committed to it.
Agree 100% I quit drinking in my early 20’s with that mentality 0 tolerance 100% commitment not one will understand only you and that’s all that matters! Amazing video always always so talented and creative 😊
Not always the best advice for someone who isn't qualified or realistic. Some things in life have prerequisites and devastating consequences. But if that commitment involves training, conditioning, growth, and developments for preparation and pre-qualification, then yes, 100% is great and necessary. I guess that goes without saying. I think the message here is that having a commitment makes the destination more clear and definite, and also serves as a governing and alignment factor over all aspects of your journey.
But then with 100 pc, the seeker will also search for that knowledge / qualification too. Its part of the process too
Sex makes babies. Something MEN need to be aware of and be ready for. This guy talks about HIS heart breaking. But would think nothing of abandoning a child if the mother doesn't want to stay married.. its fine to destroy a helpless childs life and deprive them of food and shelter, a father, if males don't continue to get sex from the mother
@@recoveringsoul755you read waaay too much into it. Stuff that isn’t there.
It's never good advice for anyone. It's a dopamine treadmill. You hype yourself up about how you have just mentally ascended to perfection because of a CZcams video, you plan out some absolutely ridiculous "life change" plan and you completely abandon it at the first sign of failure, because failure is what makes us fall down, and people can't deal with failure. Telling a person that is afraid of failure that "they're already perfect" is only going to drive them to severe mental illness.
A man does not look for advice on how to drive the spear into a tiger. The man looks for advice on how to not die trying. The fool wants to know how to drive the spear in, because the fool wants to daydream about how glorious it would be if he did it, instead of actually doing it. Any "advice" that focuses on positivity instead of negativity is axiomatically wrong.
@@recoveringsoul755 grandma stop spamming on every thread, I was genuinely conserned about you from what you said in another thread but when you sh*t about your husband nonstop on every reply chain it seems like you are promoting the fact that all men are drunk and your experience doesnt seem real
Neville Goddard always said that you cannot leave any part of the old self in your minds eye for comfort when you put on 'the new man' or you'll go back because it's so familiar and habitual and 'habit is the most inhibiting force in the world'
(this short really fired me up to get to work)
Thanks for mentioning Neville, Luke. I appreciated it.
I love Neville! It’s good to see people actually listen or read his works too
@@wayvislife I love Neville!
@@lylel3471 you think you can go through life without ever working?
Good luck
@@lylel3471 I’m not saying it’s not true but also said on the topic of meditation
you get out of the habit and lose the skill over time when you don’t work on it and it requires more will, same with say a pianist
This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot though interesting topic. Do you find things happen effortlessly for you?
He is absolutely right. Every time I made up in my mind stopping alcohol was hard, it was. And when I prayed and saw it as not hard, the agreement was broken and I didn’t drink. Simple as that….FAITH
Theres no way back, just going thru 100%...beautiful. Thanks Clark Kent
Im a doctor, and I approve this message.
Yup… black and white changes are the easiest to stick to.
That is why dieting is so hard. You can’t just quit eating, so you have to find a way to manage the gray areas.
For the first time in my life i realised that i know what to do to quit my addiction,because of you my friend thank you very much🙏♥️
Go all in, self motivate and watch yourself rise.
“Often times it’s not hard, it’s thinking that it’s hard that makes it hard”
That’s so relatable
Ya 🍌
"Don't ever compete, always dominate." Is a philosophy I now live by.
Your “close quote” marks are in the wrong place, dude 😏
@@calisongbird Now that you have brought this to my attention its annoying me haha
@@Jermainetheintrovert well, thank God for the CZcams edit button
Love this! Super. Competing means you believe there's lack whilst dominating means there are more than enough for everyone so... Dominate your stuff, mind & trust in the Creator.
@@calisongbirdhahaha you're a perfectionist or organizer, here's your ribbon 🎀, make it blue if you're a guy.
That's it, I'm having one alarm for tomorrow, wish me good luck!
Brilliant, 100% agree. I have fell back on things so many times because the fear of continuing forever.
Thank you. I think this is the piece I'm missing. Hesitating and worrying it's the wrong decision.
"If you don't try, you will never know." Failing is always better then not doing anything. You'll be wiser afterwards.
If you don't like the current results, then pretty much *any* action other than what you're currently doing, is a step in the right direction.
Rather than vacillate on whether or not a choice is the optimum/best/most efficient... Just make a good guess in the general direction, then get going on it.
Even if you're wrong, you'll learn. That's worth a lot. Whether win or lose with any individual choice, you actually only get closer to your goal by not staying in the same place.
Get to it.
I believe in you. 👍
CHILDREN have needs. Physical, financial, psychological needs. COMMIT to meeting those needs EACH time you have sex. Married or not
“If you just don’t do it again, than it won’t be hard to do it again”
100% Solid advice.. Quit smoking 🚬 after being a smoker for 4.5 years...1 year clean with no relapse.
That’s really good advice and completely true! I also stop drink alcohol and it’s so easy for me, and I use to drink every weekend wines, and go to events and everything… now I don’t even miss at all
Setting your mind on something unequivocally is powerful and key 🔑
a quote on decision making: to make a decision is to eliminate all other possibilities
WOW. Send this to every rehab program and every homeless drug addict on the street. Groundbreaking stuff right here!!!
I'm only 17 but this has already become apparent to me. Thanks and keep spreading good.
Absolutely right !!! the thing is majority of population out there don't focus on such small ''yet most important'' advices. They need some big generalized advice which is simple to understand and looks fancy when quoted. These subtle changes taken seriously, makes the difference. I get you there brother !!!
Yep so true. I committed 100% to my work and holy cow....I was working longer hours and harder than I'd ever worked in my life. KNow what happened? I got more raises, more promotions, more of all the good stuff I craved and all I did was stop complaining about what I didn't have and commit everything to my job. It was amazing and fun and really not as hard as I thought it would be.
It's easy to keep doing what you're comfortable doing even when you don't want to. It feels weird to break a habit but change needs to happen for you to change
This is such a powerful advice man. I got rid of lots of bad habits based on this rule. glad to hear it being put in words.
Words will always seem easier than actions. And if the actions aren't lined up to your thoughts, then your out of chakra balance
That is tough but the question at the end, "how can I commit 100%" is a great starting point to identifying barriers and how to get over them
I watch about a billion shorts a year, this is the only one that I will comment on. Solidest advice out there rn.
This is so true. Same for me with drinking. I had “tried to quit” so many times but when I truly decided to be 100% committed, it was soooooo much easier. I didn’t even entertain the thought of going back.
So we’re not even gonna consider framing it as “it took me a little while, but I got a handle on it eventually”, it’s just gotta be “I was weak then one day I decided to be strong about it”? Because in any other discipline we would call trying a few times before eventually succeeding “practice”, you would be taught that failing before you succeed is normal, and folks would attribute your eventual success to your earlier failures. Seems that somehow when we talk about perceived moral failings like substance abuse there is a presumption that everyone is naturally talented at sobriety and therefore should need no practice returning to it, even after potentially spending more time as a substance abuser than as a sober person in their life. Glad you’re in a better place though, I just don’t see why it should have to be such a black and white perspective on your development.
"You either do or don't, there is no try" as Yoda says.
“Do or do not. There is no ‘try.’”
I simply tell those thoughts there is NO NEGOTIATION!
Damn straight it's your mindset If you think there's a chance of failure, you'll fail if you believe there's no chance of failure, you'll always succeed
The thing is to think "how" and not run away immediately after, you have to be honest on what you need and what you want and value both to be commited to something.
"oh no silly, you don't have a drug problem, you're just not trying hard enough! chin up king."
Way to completely miss the point.
It's also about changing your identity. Instead of asking "what can i do" and trying to reach an outcome, ask yourself "who do i want to become". I got this advice from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear.
At the start i thought the guy was stoned out of his mind and speaking absolute gibberish but the advice was actually really solid.. Much respect
If a man has sex, there's a possibility of children. If you don't 100% want kids and vow to support them no matter what, then do NOT have sex and do not expect her to handle the birth control
@@cryonicus too bad he's legally required to support that child. The ONLY effective birth control is abstinence. Prevents STDs too.
Since women being pregnant is a big deal, her body will never be the same, some require bed rest, some die in childbirth, the sheer expense of pregnancy and childbirth, etc, it's not something to be taken lightly.
I understand the hormones and the lust. But I wish I knew what I know now when I was younger. I would have avoided a lot of bad decisions.
Best advice I got, thanks
One of the better pieces of advice I’ve seen scrolling through this hellscape of a platform. Thank you!
"Easier said than done." but I always like to add, "But only as hard as you make it."
That really helped me out a lot
Damn. Needed to hear this ❤
The moment in front of you is not bothering you. You are bothering yourself about the moment in front of you.
Omg, that is wild.
But only because it is so true.
Thanks. 👍
My wisdom has increased by roughly 40% now thanks
I quit drinking the same way! Used to be a very heavy partier, but got the download from Spirit to quit drinking, put the half full beer back on the bar top, and left never to drink again. Sometimes people fall into unconscious autopilot with things, though. So reminder to everyone to give yourself grace. You will never shame yourself into positive change!
Don’t depend on a partial feeling - Miyamoto Musashi
I needed to hear this today.
He's absolute correct!
I quit drinking several times, but the time (after a DWI) I quit cold turkey and decided I was never going back.
It wasn't hard at all - and my life got 100% better!
I'm 100% going to push past my limit and transcend this corporeal world and never die thanks to this advice I just overcame death thank you
Sounds simple, but that pure commitment seems powerful. Well said
This is such an amazing advice.
You are 100% correct in your message. I quit smoking (cold turkey) after 20 years because I was 💯% committed. I didn't experience withdrawal nor it wasn't as difficult as one thinks it is. You can do anything you set your mind to....period!
that one single bacteria stopping you from taking a bath every day:
When you truly love yourself 100% is doable❤
The way you reach the 100% is by accepting the truth however painful. I quit doing all sorts of bad things because I realized I was a piece of crap. If that's true, then I MUST change
Nobody can change them except themselves if they sincerely want to.
Yep. I wanted to get in shape, so now I workout every single day. Don't have to go hard everyday, but it has to be something. The transformation has been huge
This is so true. When I moved to a different state to pursue a Master's Program, I had no plan B. I was 100% committed to finishing the program. Well...I did not just finish it, I graduated with 4.0 GPA and honors.
True. I used to do cold showers every dat but Sunday, when my depression got bad i quit. Now, by doing every shower cold, it just becomes clear how easy it is.
Exactly! It's what I did when I quit smoking. I actually enjoyed smoking. But something came over me one day and I said I don't want to do this anymore. It's disgusting, expensive and I no longer enjoy it. I quit cold turkey and never looked back. Been smoke free since Jan 1st 2023. Not a resolution just happened to be the day I said no more. I smoked for 39 yrs.
If you’re feeling triggered like ur a failure after watching this it’s bc you are. You are failing yourself. Nobody and nothing is in your way but you. Commit 💯%, leave no room for any other options and experience guaranteed success! 👏🏽❤️ This message is not brutal, it’s inspirational.
That's why it's called an "Addiction" - because things just keep adding up. The pleasure, the pain, the frustration, the doubt.
Well, maybe the commitment too, and the anti-commitment.
To be honest, that 100% percent isn't always enough.
this is so accurate I've experienced this a thousand times
It's all in or nothing! It truly makes a difference. Thanks!
This is so true. I started running each day about 10 days ago. Have tried it before with 5 days a week running but it is so much easier committing 100%!❤
Love this. This is powerful. I did this for drinking (now 10 years sober), and smoking (9 years smoke free). Never thought of it like this before - I’m going to give the 100% commitment next to exercise, and work.
COMMITMENT IS EVERYTHING..... BEING
COMMITTED WILL MAKE YOU DROP THE THINGS BLOCKING YOU, WILL MAKE YOU DISCIPLINED AND SEE IT TO THE END ... JUST TO NAME A FEW ...
🙏💚
DONT WANT ANYONE IN MY LIFE THAT ISNT COMMITTED, HAS RESILIENCE AND TRANSPARENCY
As the great random CZcamsr Mikey had said, "if its not 100%, its 50%" words to live by.
It's all about perspective. With addiction, the choice is easy. There's no dilemma, you already know the right choice you must make. Now commit 100%