The best relationship advice no one ever told you

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  • @clarkkegley
    @clarkkegley  Před 3 lety +1750

    You loved some of our other videos on this topic... so thought I'd share the 3 BEST pieces of advice I've heard on relationships. Remember, all there's ONE common denominator to EVERY relationship you've had in the past, are in currently, or might have in the future.... YOU! That's why when you shift into the highest version of yourself, ALL your relationships improve. We've helped hundreds of people this year alone just like you create and shift into that 2.0 version of themselves using Identity Shifting. Want some more info? Wondering if it's for you? Check out this free vid that'll fill ya in a bit more ➡ www.clarkkegley.com/free-case-study?sl=yt-relationship

  • @jonathanhinson7397
    @jonathanhinson7397 Před 3 lety +26519

    I loved this. "Instead of trying to find the right person , become the right person"

    • @wyattrussell525
      @wyattrussell525 Před 3 lety +38

      When your turbulent an assertive women will come along and make you their bitch

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 Před 3 lety +297

      What crap. I am the right person.

    • @watp5552
      @watp5552 Před 3 lety +461

      But changing who you are to please a person doesn't last unless u change to who u want to be and it pleases them

    • @ericalinmorales676
      @ericalinmorales676 Před 3 lety +19

      Lmfao I text my man real quick

    • @Haileyrodriguez288
      @Haileyrodriguez288 Před 3 lety +37

      Makes no sense

  • @socialguarantee
    @socialguarantee Před 2 lety +6657

    "You don't attract what you want, you attract what you are". Amazing quote.

    • @Arthurs_Playground
      @Arthurs_Playground Před 2 lety +54

      We often want what is peculiar and we cannot fully define ourselves without the help of an outsider's perspective. So I rephrased it for myself:
      "We attract what we want, we mirror our identity to the ideal person, in the process our ex-identity is over shallowed by our newer portrayed persona, that's why I think what we attract is often different from what we are, we start to see different shades of ourselves through the other person and through realization within ourselves."

    • @laurar.2053
      @laurar.2053 Před rokem +60

      Based on this logic, I don't exist.

    • @johnlol8954
      @johnlol8954 Před rokem

      This blew my mind!

    • @suga7206
      @suga7206 Před rokem +3

      No

    • @fleshytrash
      @fleshytrash Před rokem +2

      Lies that is all I want with I could just clone and marry my self

  • @brandonf5558
    @brandonf5558 Před 2 lety +5992

    As my father in law once said, "Live your own life, and look next to you, and you might just find someone going the same path as you, and that's a good start." I think this is the best way to find a "compatible" mate. Honestly you don't have to be compatible, to love, because you can love anyone, but it may be work. So to find someone along the same path, makes it much easier.

    • @juliekrol
      @juliekrol Před 2 lety +27

      I love what your father in law said…it may need to become a song of mine ❤️

    • @AhmedSaad-bx7ij
      @AhmedSaad-bx7ij Před 2 lety +8

      that's very wise actually, Big thanks to your father 👌

    • @OfficialIreneGratil
      @OfficialIreneGratil Před 2 lety +4

      My

    • @notsure6915
      @notsure6915 Před 2 lety +3

      Wow that's awesome

    • @sauravistheascended7161
      @sauravistheascended7161 Před rokem +7

      You can’t love anyone, that’s not how humans work. We have preferences duuuhhh Your source: Trust me bro

  • @dr4bones
    @dr4bones Před rokem +569

    Been married 35 years now and the number one thing that ALL relationships MUST have before love and friendship, for a lasting relationship is "RESPECT". If you do not have respect for each other then love and friendship will not carry you.

    • @noexcuses5524
      @noexcuses5524 Před rokem +5

      Your right but respect is different from other people.. what is respectful for u might not be for other person?

    • @MichealLizzyjr
      @MichealLizzyjr Před rokem

      Respect is good to have in any relationship

    • @k_hammock2516
      @k_hammock2516 Před rokem +3

      ​@@noexcuses5524thats why you communicate at the Beginning

    • @TomBradyOkas
      @TomBradyOkas Před 11 měsíci

      I am also single but I need a serious relationship with someone

    • @HarryKayd
      @HarryKayd Před 11 měsíci +1

      Exactly great point👍💯

  • @oliviaharris5957
    @oliviaharris5957 Před 3 lety +8686

    “Stop trying to LOOK like the 10, and focus on BECOMING the 10.”
    THAT. IS. SO. GOOD.
    THANK YOU.

    • @fingreen2663
      @fingreen2663 Před 2 lety +34

      I think I’m happy with an 8

    • @mumuuuuo
      @mumuuuuo Před 2 lety +50

      Keep working on yourself. But also know that you’re perfect the way you are and you can be love just is. Despite all the flaws. You love yourself no matter what you are right now unconditionally or where you’re going to be. And know that others can and is going to appreciate and love you the same way. Through the journeys. Through the struggles. You are giving thanks and gratitude for all the abundance you currently have and you are drawing more to. You are bettering yourself for yourself and your loved one, a conscious committed dedication and devotion. Everybody wins.

    • @jackalkin6757
      @jackalkin6757 Před 2 lety +2

      For some reason, I can imagine this in other ways, including relationships.

    • @lilianemurekatete6593
      @lilianemurekatete6593 Před 2 lety +12

      Be authentic.

    • @Flight000
      @Flight000 Před 2 lety +4

      It's both. Focus on improving yourself and you physical appearance

  • @privateequityguy
    @privateequityguy Před 2 lety +4522

    *"If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can't hear them..."* If you are reading this, I hope you have an amazing day!

    • @andreacastroamezquita3988
      @andreacastroamezquita3988 Před 2 lety +7

      I know it's completely unrelated, but your user name is super cool and original! Just wanted to say that, have a great day!

    • @zozzex
      @zozzex Před 2 lety +2

      u 2 brother

    • @Prettybadhaitian
      @Prettybadhaitian Před 2 lety +2

      this right here

    • @isaiahminott
      @isaiahminott Před 2 lety +5

      Not to rain on the parade but that's not good advice it sounds nice and driving but doesn't mean much.
      It gives the idea that if someone tells you something you don't like them blindly ignore them.
      And in a relationship sense it's not good to listen to everyone but it's also terrible to not listen at all.
      If someone who loves you have it be dad,brother,sister,mother best friend or watever it offering experience wisdom it's best to have an open mind.

    • @anonima1964
      @anonima1964 Před 2 lety

      Thank you, but since i'm here...

  • @rickmoco2622
    @rickmoco2622 Před 2 lety +553

    “Stop looking for the right person and become the right person” Love this 💪🏿

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
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    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @troykinnison4575
      @troykinnison4575 Před rokem

      I am the right person! Why does EVERY WOMAN! think she is sooooooo much better an EVERYMAN ON EARTH!!!
      when did this happen ??
      That every man is a loser bum overgrown teenage worthless person
      Women choose there men at the finish line in life. An think that her baby making parts give her some magic key to screw over any guy.

    • @RadioMinne
      @RadioMinne Před rokem

      Thanks

    • @SeegMan
      @SeegMan Před 9 měsíci

      Hey are you doing

  • @chelseamoneill7717
    @chelseamoneill7717 Před rokem +55

    Most people looking for “the right person” forgets to think that the other person has needs and dreams of their own.

    • @IconMan-qc1ys
      @IconMan-qc1ys Před rokem

      You’re right and I love your perspective.
      My name is Steve, can I be your friend?

    • @user-hb6mk3nn6d
      @user-hb6mk3nn6d Před 10 měsíci

      Hello beautiful

  • @NickNotas
    @NickNotas Před 3 lety +8766

    Attraction alone is not enough. Just because you _feel_ good with someone, doesn't mean you can build a healthy long-term relationship. You need to align on values, respect one another, and have good communication. Well said Clark.

    • @QUINTUSMAXIMUS
      @QUINTUSMAXIMUS Před 3 lety +111

      Yeah, definitely. My ex and I were attracted to each other, but our ideas of what it takes to make a relationship work didn't align. I believed that a good friendship, having the same values are key, not infatuation. A lot of people are super into infatuation because of Hollywood, Korean dramas. The world isn't the movies.

    • @ohdear2275
      @ohdear2275 Před 2 lety +84

      You're so right. You must also have shared values, emotional maturity, a shared vision and blendable lifestyles.
      I learned this the hard way.
      Chemistry and mutual attraction are not enough to start a RELATIONSHIP.
      Chemistry and mutual attraction are just enough to DATE to determine if you have the other components.
      The purpose of Dating is to learn about each other, to determine if you should even pursue a long term Relationship.

    • @phantomdaze2599
      @phantomdaze2599 Před 2 lety +4

      I have that we click a little bit but I'm not really attracted to her. I feel like its a chore to date her.

    • @ADHDDoc
      @ADHDDoc Před 2 lety +7

      that initial attraction is simply hormones playing tricks on you.

    • @pradagirl777
      @pradagirl777 Před 2 lety +1

      You’re right. 10’s attract 10’s. I’m focusing on myself. ❤️

  • @knickandknac
    @knickandknac Před 3 lety +3448

    "you don't manifest what you want you manifest who you are" YES.

  • @toni.bolden
    @toni.bolden Před 2 lety +227

    compatibility isn’t a prerequisite for love, it’s the achievement of love.

    • @beautyjoseph7763
      @beautyjoseph7763 Před 2 lety +5

      Hi I just got my relationship fixed and my ex is back to me and we are living happily like never before i got help from a relationship expert

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @takecontrol000
      @takecontrol000 Před rokem +1

      Wow I was having thoughts about it.. If compatibility and love have their own parts like yes you can fall in love but the Compatibility part got me. When love happens and you see what interests the other I m sure the other partner will too have patience and also work on the their own selves or icks they get from each other and then the compatibility part just happens with effort and time almost like cultivating the love and fondness resulting with good rapport/compatibility.

    • @LucyHalbert
      @LucyHalbert Před 11 měsíci +1

      Hello how are you ?

    • @mariewiggins1
      @mariewiggins1 Před 11 měsíci

      Yah it’s true

  • @salemander588
    @salemander588 Před 2 lety +292

    "Being in love is kinda easy." It always has been for me! I love so many people passionately. It doesn't mean I see a viable relationship with them. I would only pursue romance if I could have meaningful conversations with them, want to experience life with them, and work well together. Looks are at the bottom of what I value in relationships.

    • @suzehartman
      @suzehartman Před rokem

      How do you stop yourself from convincing yourself that it could be a viable relationship when it maybe can’t be?

    • @georgewilson8715
      @georgewilson8715 Před rokem +2

      Hi am searching for love

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @nickgarner6267
      @nickgarner6267 Před rokem +2

      @@suzehartman the answer to this is already in the video! Remember that when you’re “in love,” you’re looking through those rose-colored glasses that block out the logical considerations of your brain. Really taking a step back and analyzing who the other person is, as well as talking to a close friend (who’s unbiased) or family member about the other person would be a great start too. Overall, when you feel madly attracted to someone, your brain is going to tune out the potential red flags, and you’re going to emotionally throw caution to the wind. Talk to people who are impartial, and think deeply about what you’re doing!

    • @tilloscar46
      @tilloscar46 Před rokem

      @@nickgarner6267 Good advice! Helped me a lot :)

  • @chris.bussing
    @chris.bussing Před 2 lety +4976

    “10’s attract 10’s - Not just looks wise but energetically, lifestyle wise, communication wise, value wise, job wise, social circle wise - you don’t attract who you want you attract who you are”

    • @melissabee4052
      @melissabee4052 Před 2 lety +14

      This right here 💖💖
      But how many mes can I attract? 😂 cos I had that person then we had to break up cos the circumstances weren't so favouring..distance but I do hope I'll meet them one day.
      Even tho they legit talked about "getting another girl" right when we were saying our forlorn goodbyes...my heart😂
      It bled

    • @mskatrich
      @mskatrich Před 2 lety +11

      Yes! 10s attract 10s!

    • @janemike3048
      @janemike3048 Před 2 lety

      Hey

    • @EveofPyrite
      @EveofPyrite Před 2 lety +27

      Not true I'm poor and I attract rich people a lot lol

    • @jasminejanelle1228
      @jasminejanelle1228 Před 2 lety

      Damn I needed this comment. It blew up for a reason. Thank you 🌻

  • @FenyaFirewolf
    @FenyaFirewolf Před 2 lety +2618

    The most important thing in any relationship is good communication.

    • @oscarbear7498
      @oscarbear7498 Před 2 lety +128

      Yep. No matter how bad life gets, if you have good communication, everything works. No matter how wacky things get

    • @shawnkee8689
      @shawnkee8689 Před 2 lety +18

      Say it louder!

    • @fawzee_em
      @fawzee_em Před 2 lety +149

      I always say comprehension is more important. You can communicate all you want but allowing yourself in the shoes of your partner to understand things from their perspective, even if the communication is not that effective on the other end, will make things easier to solve and to live by.

    • @jkjokero3421
      @jkjokero3421 Před 2 lety +4

      he spittin

    • @keeswayze7975
      @keeswayze7975 Před 2 lety +8

      Comprehension as well

  • @dymoure
    @dymoure Před rokem +126

    Romantic love may not be “the most important thing,” but even after watching this video I still truly believe love is the most important thing. Love keeps us going. Love is helping others. Love is doing things that fully benefit someone who isn’t yourself. Believing in love is believing in God without knowing it.

    • @kristinasvenska3688
      @kristinasvenska3688 Před rokem +1

      So u have to work then on romantic things when honey moon phase is gone…. Otherwise is it endless cycle with dif people.

    • @johannalange802
      @johannalange802 Před rokem +1

      Based on your own definition of romatic love you have a point. Take into consideration that many people don' t have a clear concept of 'romantic love' and don't reflect on it They often confound it with lust, look at it in terms of getting instead of giving etc... So it all boils down to having the same understanding what constitutes 'romantic love'.

    • @Unofficial_Suno_Music
      @Unofficial_Suno_Music Před rokem

      I think people tend to forget when reading something as declarative as “Love is the most important thing”, that that is simply one’s opinion, and many different people have many different views on life.
      I personally don’t believe love is the MOST important thing, but the people who think that way are some of the happiest

    • @dogstick12
      @dogstick12 Před rokem +1

      Romantic love is subtracting from another person

    • @sethtenrec
      @sethtenrec Před 10 měsíci +1

      Love is a choice and also LOVE IS A VERB

  • @Abhishek-vz6ud
    @Abhishek-vz6ud Před 11 měsíci +92

    When issues develop in a relationship, many people consider leaving. But I've learned that it's critical to talk about and work on relationships on a daily basis.
    Especially if you really love the person, but I get it sometimes it’s hard. So, for those times we use lovify’s couple games, to share our expectations.
    We are now trying to open up about topics we previously avoided ❤

    • @namioliver232
      @namioliver232 Před 9 měsíci

      Yeah it’s better to be open to your partner when you have a thought about him/her

    • @RBN_M8
      @RBN_M8 Před 6 měsíci

      Never again will I be so ungrateful

  • @ADHDDoc
    @ADHDDoc Před 2 lety +3303

    I never played any relationship games. I was my authentic self from day one, and I share everything. I knew I was going to marry my wife after our first date, and I told her on our second date. She thought I was nuts, but we've been married for 17 years.

    • @user-cg6rz7ul5z
      @user-cg6rz7ul5z Před 2 lety +88

      Ayo congratulations nfs 🥳👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před 2 lety +35

      Priceless🥰😂🤣😅👏👏👏👏

    • @user-ds4ly5qk6h
      @user-ds4ly5qk6h Před 2 lety +21

      How did you know that so quickly? :D

    • @lissethg7249
      @lissethg7249 Před 2 lety +88

      I’ve been told by 2 guys that they want to marry me early on but they always fell through. I guess times have changed and people love bomb to get what they want. Now I will never talk to anyone who says they want to marry me early on.

    • @francescolecca5796
      @francescolecca5796 Před 2 lety +4

      Chad

  • @seekingpersonalgrowth3676
    @seekingpersonalgrowth3676 Před 3 lety +4264

    One of the most TOXIC beliefs around relationships is that there is one right person for everyone. I've been married for 21 years (8/19). Love is WORK. It might be rainbows and unicorns for the first 6 months, but eventually, as you mentioned, those immediate feelings fade. My husband and I married when I was 19 and he was 18. When people are in a marriage, they can grow together or they can grow apart. Either way they are growing. Love is definitely a choice in a lot of ways. Now, of course if your spouse is abusive or dismissive, then working on the relationship may not be worth it and might be futile. However, if we aren't working on our relationship by loving each other every day and making that person feel loved, what are we doing? It's definitely a two-way-street, but over the years, one of us definitely has more energy to give at times than the other. We hold each other up and help each other be our best selves. We've been through a lot and there's no one I'd rather spend my life with than my husband.

    • @annies976
      @annies976 Před 3 lety +12

      ❤️

    • @bobhussain9775
      @bobhussain9775 Před 3 lety +36

      Amen 💐🙌💫Beautiful share 🙌💐💫

    • @kunal_k_
      @kunal_k_ Před 3 lety +41

      Amazing to know.. Glad you'd share your wise bit of experience

    • @hi-ex8wt
      @hi-ex8wt Před 3 lety +3

      Damn facts

    • @jessxj5521
      @jessxj5521 Před 3 lety +11

      Yes yes yes !!!!!! You’re on point ❤️

  • @Prettythinker
    @Prettythinker Před rokem +153

    Thankyou for saying "you dont attract things you want, you attract things you are" cause that taught me alot. I understood more. Thankyou! And also "stop looking for the right person, start becoming thr right person" have a good day yall!:)

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @SchoolOfFeelosophy
      @SchoolOfFeelosophy Před rokem

      Before you begin a journey with someone else its important that you have a great relationship with yourself

  • @Kyle_1068
    @Kyle_1068 Před 2 lety +248

    This shit hits home. Had to break up with someone I was head over heels in love with for 5 months. Afterthe honeymoon phase wore off and the excitment and butterflies of love, I realised we weren't as compatable as I thought. Shit hurt to break up with someone I seen my future with and having this realisation in the space of like a week. Worst part was hurting a girl I genuinly loved and care for and still care for when I never thought I would, she did not deserve that. Suppose thats life, all learning and experiences until you find what is right for you.

    • @Ok-ef2bc
      @Ok-ef2bc Před 2 lety +5

      Did you just kinda lose feelings?? Or kinda decide y’all weren’t right for eachother?

    • @Ishowmasculino
      @Ishowmasculino Před rokem +2

      In the end it's better to find a girl thats compatable, that helps you on your path . Im with a girl like that and i was LOVE but didnt last long BC i realize we're not compatable

    • @mrt.1903
      @mrt.1903 Před rokem +29

      You people are so lost and delusional.
      This generation doesn't know what is fighting anymore.
      In the very first little frustration, disappointment or if things aren't perfect or aren't your way, you just give up.
      Só fooking sad.

    • @pennyjane9906
      @pennyjane9906 Před rokem +16

      Kinda really hard for me to believe that you were in love… do you know what love is? Love never dies, and love becomes pain and agony when you are not with the person you love. For the rest of your life.

    • @VB-dp1vs
      @VB-dp1vs Před rokem +7

      If you actually loved her, you wouldn’t have left her

  • @misslayer999
    @misslayer999 Před 3 lety +1421

    Being "in love" isn't Love, it's infatuation. Notice it happens before people actually get a chance to truly know each other. And you can't love somebody without knowing them. Loving someone for real is a choice you make everyday. Infatuation while often a precursor for the real thing, is also a precursor for the very opposite

    • @zoebeingzoe3909
      @zoebeingzoe3909 Před 3 lety +53

      Soooooo true! Most ppl don’t realize the difference between infatuation and love. I wonder how many ppl in this crazy century are lucky enough to even feel real LOVE at least once in their lives. Infatuation is self-centered projection. Love is altruism and faith.

    • @kelyshacairo9044
      @kelyshacairo9044 Před 2 lety +30

      So love is choosing someone over and over again?

    • @interneturomagazin
      @interneturomagazin Před 2 lety +18

      Well said. Loving someone is a choice (for a person) and a vow (4fidelity) you make to yourself "to be" with that person in every way every day. You must respect and love the other just like you would like to be respected and loved. If you want to not be cheated than don't cheat, if you want to be respected than respect, if you want to be understood then understand and if you want your relationship not to fail make sure the other person has the same values as you.
      A relationship stages should be:
      friendship, confiding, mutual goals, physical contact and the last one should be sex (just like the cherry on the cake) only when you are sure you want a family with that person because nothing could change your mind and you are both set on being as one.
      A child is both parents as one... if anything had or will come between his parents that child will suffer in some way the consequences, so make sure you will always love the other part of your child (your partner).
      Also fidelity is something transcendent that doesn't apply only to the future. As their child, would you like to know that your parents had other lovers before they meet each other ... don't think so. Because cheating can be done before you meet someone you'll love, just as after. The rest are excuses.

    • @dena11118
      @dena11118 Před 2 lety +4

      That last sentence. Best I heard in awhile. I read tarot...thanks I give you credit when I use it. Much love to you

    • @ernestbuckley8671
      @ernestbuckley8671 Před 2 lety +6

      Love is a choice. Love is not a feeling or emotion. When someone says they “fell out of love”, they don’t understand this reality: it was not love in the 1st place. They simply choose not to be with that person any more. This is totally unromantic but its a fact. Love is always a choice.

  • @ElseyandEssie
    @ElseyandEssie Před 3 lety +1340

    This is so true!
    I’ve been in love with my fiancé for 12 years..
    he feels like home to me. He’s my safe space and my person.
    He drives me mad.. a lot. We bicker.. a lot! But we also resolve our problems, laugh & truly WANT to be together.
    We have brought 4 children into this world and got through really horrible and hard moments within our relationship.
    Love absolutely is a choice.. and I choose him every single day, in every reality, in every lifetime.

    • @pigguswiggus
      @pigguswiggus Před 2 lety +33

      That is beautiful! What I will strive for.

    • @kokolatte825
      @kokolatte825 Před 2 lety +46

      You guys are fiancés and have known each other for 12 years and have 4 kids?

    • @PiusXulu
      @PiusXulu Před 2 lety +24

      Engaged for 12 years?

    • @ElseyandEssie
      @ElseyandEssie Před 2 lety +31

      We’ve been engaged for 2 years. Together for 10 years. And have 4 children !

    • @DocFischer
      @DocFischer Před 2 lety +7

      Love this. Stay engaged... keep sth to look forward to. It's important.

  • @Eirud
    @Eirud Před 2 lety +21

    Relationships are significantly more about creating something with someone rather than finding the perfect partner. Find someone you think is attractive, that you can trust, that you maybe share some ambitions with, and then put the effort into creating your relationship. Throwing beautiful colors at each other will make a masterpiece much less often than using a brush and placing those colors where you truly believe they make sense.

  • @Blue.Berry.Gums.
    @Blue.Berry.Gums. Před 2 lety +270

    My husband and I have been together since I was 15, him 17. It’s been 12 years together, 5 married. We are both proud of how we operate as a couple but don’t really identify with many other couples. This is the absolute best advice I’ve heard! I’ve had to battle other people’s views on relationships from purity culture to “don’t marry young” and everything between. This is officially my go-to video I send friends looking for advice. 😎

    • @aprilapril2
      @aprilapril2 Před rokem +2

      My 12 year relationship just ended when I introduced him to an acquaintance … he gone

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @Levun7821
      @Levun7821 Před rokem +1

      Can I ask you a question. Has there been any moments where you wanted to give up because your hurt or you broke up because you were hurt but than got back together ?

    • @danmcmanus8098
      @danmcmanus8098 Před rokem

      Odd… “purity culture” or most Christians I know (especially women) think it’s the end of the world or they’ll never get married if they don’t find their spouse in college.

    • @Relationship_advice12
      @Relationship_advice12 Před rokem

      Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.

  • @missstorme2771
    @missstorme2771 Před 3 lety +1036

    Best relationship advise I ever got was, "Don't look for the right person, become the right person for YOURSELF and the right person will be drawn to you"

  • @inhobiswinecellar9571
    @inhobiswinecellar9571 Před 2 lety +3103

    “Start becoming the right person” literally 7 mos after I started working out I felt way more open and at ease. Thinking abt relationships didn’t fill me with as much anxiety. Had a lot of firsts from then. I’m 19 and still figuring stuff out but I’ll forever live by this rule. :)

    • @standardofexcellence
      @standardofexcellence Před 2 lety +20

      You're on right track lad

    • @joaopedroandsan2172
      @joaopedroandsan2172 Před 2 lety +9

      Self improvment

    • @jahfaricoumarbatch3947
      @jahfaricoumarbatch3947 Před 2 lety +10

      same boat and same age fam. hope you continue figuring it out

    • @LokheeNyx
      @LokheeNyx Před 2 lety +7

      Yessssir, keep on going! I started working out every second day while completing NNN and bruh lemme tell you what a confidence boost that had on me, since I was doing it for myself! And like a miracle, a month later I got together with the girl I've been crushing on for 2 years without even THINKING of needing to be in a relationship. We're still going as strong as ever and as cheezy as it sounds, work on yourself, and become the right person like you've been doing the past few months. You'll gain confidence like drinking water and damn is it a good road to travel

    • @bryangasca6300
      @bryangasca6300 Před 2 lety

      Right un the same boat even started doing auto work on a project that I was too nervous to do myself idk it just gave me a new outlook

  • @mickeyc2137
    @mickeyc2137 Před rokem +13

    the main problem is is that almost no one chooses to love themself. Thats why they keep ending up in failing relationships. Learn to love yourself first, when you do that you are choosing yourself and choosing happiness and then you will become the right person for you and then attract to you a person who is another form of you to love you just as much.

    • @veronica587
      @veronica587 Před rokem

      True.
      And most times meet people that just turns our world around and we can't help but love them and love ourselves more for loving them. Love is like an ocean, you just can't measure it's depth

  • @brandonray61
    @brandonray61 Před 2 lety +97

    Biggest takeaway for me from this was the compatibility vs love. Personally I see that with alot of people close to me and it hurts to watch people lie to themselves simply because they "love" or "think they love" that person.
    I did it myself for a time and basically put myself in a space where that person could do no wrong and it just got worse than I could have ever imagined.
    So I hate to see it.
    I definitely agree. Falling in love is easy... chosing and finding someone you're compatible with not so much some times.

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @juanjosagas2706
      @juanjosagas2706 Před rokem

      How do you know you are compatible with that person?

    • @brandonray61
      @brandonray61 Před rokem +3

      I don't think alot of people do know the answer to that question when they think they love someone. I think we choose people based on emotion and feeling as opposed to what fits logically. I dont really believe in "matchmakers" or " love gurus" but I do almost think it takes a third party who has no attachment to the situation to help figure out what who is "compatible" with whom.

    • @TammyKaren-ut1ih
      @TammyKaren-ut1ih Před rokem

      Please how do you know you’re compatible with the person??

    • @brandonray61
      @brandonray61 Před rokem +1

      @@TammyKaren-ut1ih I don't have the correct answer to that question. I feel like I touched on that in my reply above.

  • @rootedro
    @rootedro Před 3 lety +2188

    The second you decide you don’t want love, is the second it makes it’s way into your life hehehe 💖

    • @wyattrussell525
      @wyattrussell525 Před 3 lety +105

      Super weird how that happens

    • @rootedro
      @rootedro Před 3 lety +37

      @@Mr.Honest247 I totally feel you. Check in with your energy as your manifesting.
      Is it too strong? Is there a strong attachment to the outcome? Are you TRUSTING that it really is on its way? Are you letting go?
      When we are manifesting from a place of lack, our energy can feel needy/clingy. This could cause a repulsion effect to what we are desiring.
      Honestly the letting go, is the key that most people are missing in their manifestation techniques. I mean think about it… someone that is desperate for your attention is normally pretty unattractive. But if they are rooted in their own confidence then 🔥🔥
      I hope all that made sense

    • @ivairena3931
      @ivairena3931 Před 3 lety

      Hello,how are you doing today?

    • @lifeisbeautiful7047
      @lifeisbeautiful7047 Před 3 lety +2

      you don't Need* love

    • @itsmeGeorgina
      @itsmeGeorgina Před 3 lety +12

      Nah,, more like when you decide to relax regarding it all... then boooom ...

  • @draxxx_exe
    @draxxx_exe Před 2 lety +468

    “You don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are”

  • @kriskurus1037
    @kriskurus1037 Před rokem +17

    I always said “I’m a whole person, I don’t need someone to complete himself with his half”, been dating, few relationships, but only when I started my last relationship with my partner I realized that he’s a whole personality as well, and we go together on the same path, we want the same things, we like the same things. And we both are beautiful 😂that helps too!

  • @darkwave957
    @darkwave957 Před 2 lety +62

    I’ve been in so many relationships and I’m only 24. Never given myself the chance to truly enjoy being single. Watching this video really reinforces a lot of opinions and thoughts I have had.

  • @TeshuwahRijkers
    @TeshuwahRijkers Před 2 lety +1273

    You're describing a piece of poetry I wrote.
    "Infatuation is the force that drives people together.
    It's both passionate and fervant,
    its presence fierce and fast.
    Like-mindedness is rarer, much more precious,
    withstands weather.
    Friendship is the footing of relationships that last."

    • @thaninadjoudi6025
      @thaninadjoudi6025 Před 2 lety +5

      Waw ❤️✨

    • @jeramietober1849
      @jeramietober1849 Před 2 lety +10

      Hi, with youe permission of course, I'd love to share this on my social media. Contact me please.

    • @bethturnermusic
      @bethturnermusic Před 2 lety +3

      This is beautiful

    • @molinachavez
      @molinachavez Před 2 lety +1

      how lovely, I would love this as a wedding quote or vow thank you for sharing your beautiful words

    • @mastermitser5693
      @mastermitser5693 Před 2 lety

      get some bitches lol

  • @DeJay7
    @DeJay7 Před 2 lety +1334

    "Avoid relationships" and "It's not all about love" are my two favourite quotes ... to cope with myself.

    • @ChillinLikeBobDyllan
      @ChillinLikeBobDyllan Před 2 lety +40

      It’ll find you without you even looking.

    • @MrsAlmightyKey
      @MrsAlmightyKey Před rokem +9

      Yeah, that is my current mindset, which is ironic cause I'm a person that loves, love. Funny right lol

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @ultra.based.27
      @ultra.based.27 Před rokem +2

      ​@@ChillinLikeBobDyllan if you are good looking

    • @dxminichughes
      @dxminichughes Před rokem +6

      @@ChillinLikeBobDyllan trust that. I took a year to myself and told myself to embrace being single for this period and just work on myself. Just casually enjoying myself out with a friend one day, the best woman I could’ve asked for came up and found me.
      Good things find you when you stop looking so hard

  • @_sqwid
    @_sqwid Před rokem +7

    My definition of love is wanting to be by that person and have a special connection with them, but to also be able to function regularly even if they aren’t by u

  • @Kid871
    @Kid871 Před 2 lety +35

    A lot of people in our generation mistake love for lust. It’s easy to fall in lust but love is so much deeper. It took me a long time to learn this, love is being your true self with someone and visa versa.

    • @illy_lia
      @illy_lia Před rokem

      is it possible if i wanted to ask you to elaborate more on the difference between love and lust based on your experience and perspective?

    • @kristenk708
      @kristenk708 Před rokem

      ​@@illy_lia i will answer, if I may. To me, lust is just a strong physical attraction, or infatuation. Love is soo much more. It's truly caring for a person. Wanting them to be happy and doing your best efforts to make them happy in every way possible. It's oftentimes putting their wants and needs first. It's respect. I can go on but these are the main points

  • @colleenanne360
    @colleenanne360 Před 2 lety +390

    Commitment is a choice you make everyday in a long term relationship. I'm so glad someone finally said that.

  • @LosTacticalTaco
    @LosTacticalTaco Před 2 lety +1156

    I'm going to watch this whenever I get in my feels, lying awake at night, missing someone who doesn't miss me whatsoever. I'm tired of holding onto the past, and I'm definitely tired of hurting inside. I need to understand that life is not all about love. It's time I start spending my days bettering myself and not waiting around for something unrealistic to come along. Thank you very much for this advice! 🙏

    • @Koliousoe
      @Koliousoe Před 2 lety +9

      Hope you feel better soon!

    • @khadijaabdu4298
      @khadijaabdu4298 Před 2 lety +6

      Hold out and u will see the light

    • @neilhunsinger8487
      @neilhunsinger8487 Před 2 lety +6

      great advice in its own right! good idea, i’m there right now. not sure what this “relationship” i’m in now is. most likely nothing. seems like she really isn’t interested.

    • @craftcode7468
      @craftcode7468 Před 2 lety +2

      peace and prayers ❤️

    • @acidbath3226
      @acidbath3226 Před 2 lety +1

      make sure to listen to my remaster of the 'drive' soundtrack if you do

  • @bula9737
    @bula9737 Před rokem +3

    Not a relationship expert, yet spits incredible advice on it. There’s something about this dude that’s gravitating. Best subscriptions I’ve got on CZcams and I’m a devout Muslim. Alhamdulillah ❤️

  • @saswatisaha8155
    @saswatisaha8155 Před rokem +3

    This video is the most realistic piece of advice ever on internet!
    Half of our lives , we spend on watching videos on how to bring someone back chasing you ? How to play hard to get ? And so on but once you understand the concept of deep bonding and learn love like the previous generation, you'll loose interest in people who plays games and so will you hardly have any interest on those videos , etc !

  • @carieyounginsurance
    @carieyounginsurance Před 3 lety +456

    Focus on making yourself the love of your life- all the rest will take care of itself naturally

    • @soniapawar704
      @soniapawar704 Před 3 lety +6

      How i make myself love of my life...how??????

    • @VictoryVictoryMusic
      @VictoryVictoryMusic Před 2 lety +7

      This is toxic positivity

    • @MJisthepowerhouseofmusic
      @MJisthepowerhouseofmusic Před 2 lety +5

      No. Thats bull. Focus on what you want to see in the person u love and change into it. Ur not supposed to be an egoistic narcissist

    • @slavsya
      @slavsya Před 2 lety +2

      I've known a guy like that, he's currently 30 years old, Virgin and never been in a relationship but he's very nice person to be around and talk to. Don't do what it is said above

  • @davidbrucemusicvideo
    @davidbrucemusicvideo Před 3 lety +517

    “Love and compatibility are two entirely different things…”

  • @eloy89
    @eloy89 Před 2 lety +4

    “What are you willing to give up in exchange for your demands” love it!

  • @CarrionCurse
    @CarrionCurse Před rokem +41

    Just got out of a 4 year relationship. Very inspirational material you have here. Convinced me to uninstall Tinder so I can just focus on myself.

  • @fenix925
    @fenix925 Před 2 lety +532

    5 months after my last breakup with whom I thought was the one. Still hurts sometimes(mostly because I have regrets). Gotta say... loneliness hits hard when you feel you are not good enough for yourself, so to anyone feeling the same. Keep trying to fall in love with yourself, focus on yourself. That is the way.

    • @mlo6684
      @mlo6684 Před 2 lety +7

      Agreed brother. We all gonna make it

    • @irenesoka2994
      @irenesoka2994 Před 2 lety +3

      For sure same here i went through hell due to my last break up

    • @M4RK_F
      @M4RK_F Před 2 lety +4

      We were together for 2 years, and I spent the next 3 years sobbing. Now i am as happy and satisfied as I have never been. Wounds will heal eventually

    • @BiG__Disgruntled
      @BiG__Disgruntled Před 2 lety +4

      I think that's a good sign to work on yourself and to stay out of relationships for a while. Being content and happy alone (being good enough for yourself, as you described it) are the most important gifts you can give yourself. We've been sold a shit bill of goods in the phrase "you complete me" when in reality we are the only ones who can complete ourselves. And if we don't take that time we'll constantly search for others to do it for us... Aka codependence. Cry, meditate, pray, allow your pain to speak and tell you why it exists and move on when you're ready. And know when you do heal you've become a stronger and better version of yourself.

  • @POLYLIVING
    @POLYLIVING Před 2 lety +474

    I recently met a guy who had all of the attributes I normally wish I could find but his energy was really off because of trauma. We spoke in great depth about why he needs time to heal. Timing is everything. Be cautious of letting emotions guide your actions. Self control is a blessing✨

    • @shawnmoore1319
      @shawnmoore1319 Před 2 lety +4

      Could you explain the energy?

    • @sierratai
      @sierratai Před 2 lety +2

      What about his energy was off?

    • @eliza7ioana
      @eliza7ioana Před 2 lety +2

      🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @mittey5365
      @mittey5365 Před 2 lety +13

      Maybe that guy is recovering from a bad breakup, if he voiced it out to you and openly expressed that he needs time to heal then that shows that he’s a good person, you two may not be ready to be together but at least he’s showing enough maturity and honesty to work on himself.

    • @marryhadalittlelamb854
      @marryhadalittlelamb854 Před 2 lety +5

      Same situation I'm in a complicated relationship with a guy actually he was my school crush 😂, but we met again, he has some trauma his going through and same here me too that's why it's complicated cause we both afraid of falling in love again but actually we both enjoys eachother company very much. I don't know what will happen but I'm really hoping best for both of us

  • @Myeyesburnbabyburn
    @Myeyesburnbabyburn Před 2 lety +9

    I had more compatibility than love, which in turn became strong love. Being young and “damaged” as a lot of us are I thought I was trapped into this relationship, only to see we were meant for each other and only continue to GROW together.

  • @joodeatsfood
    @joodeatsfood Před 2 lety +12

    Married at 20, divorced at 21. Should’ve become my own full and whole person before I even entered the relationship. Self love is vital

    • @TammyKaren-ut1ih
      @TammyKaren-ut1ih Před rokem

      I Agree that self love is vital but True love still exist 😊

  • @jennifercollins5201
    @jennifercollins5201 Před 3 lety +706

    I'm in the process of becoming the person I need to be to attract the person I know I deserve. ❤

    • @QUINTUSMAXIMUS
      @QUINTUSMAXIMUS Před 3 lety +11

      Yeah, I've been working on myself very hard the past three months and considering a relationship with a lady who I might otherwise have thought was out of my league. We'll see. Aim high, right?

    • @ivairena3931
      @ivairena3931 Před 3 lety

      Hello how are you doing today?

    • @Speedypro-hp5dh
      @Speedypro-hp5dh Před 3 lety +1

      Love this🤍

    • @IIQuickII
      @IIQuickII Před 2 lety +1

      Holy shit yes, that exactly the way I can describe this as well!

    • @imaginempress3408
      @imaginempress3408 Před 2 lety +1

      Amen

  • @darialo8740
    @darialo8740 Před rokem +3

    “Stop settling, start living”! Wish I heard it years ago. But to start living is never too late !

  • @SerenityVoiceXL
    @SerenityVoiceXL Před měsícem

    "That's not love, that's control." SPOT ON, BROTHER! You nailed it with that one!

  • @brodzillagaming
    @brodzillagaming Před 2 lety +442

    Still breaks my heart a thousand times over that my ex and I genuinely loved each other and put it honest effort but were just not compatible. But over the last two years I’ve done all I can to better myself and be good to others. Everything in this vid is true.

    • @EverythingChar
      @EverythingChar Před 2 lety +5

      Same

    • @ciarasutton7530
      @ciarasutton7530 Před 2 lety +5

      God this comment hit me in my soul ♥️♥️♥️

    • @leehalloway8787
      @leehalloway8787 Před 2 lety +23

      Same. I loved someone who would not come out of the closet and was desperate to appease their religious family. I got tired of being hidden. It's definitely not enough to love someone. An incompatibility can ruin a relationship.

    • @rachelmurphy9679
      @rachelmurphy9679 Před 2 lety +19

      Maybe you just weren’t ready for each other. Maybe later in life you will be ready for each other. When love is real it cannot be broken. Sometimes it just takes time to catch up with each other they you both need to. And maybe there is someone who is way more suited for you. You never know. Just don’t give up hope. Hope your heart heals soon.

    • @kaitlynng7214
      @kaitlynng7214 Před 2 lety +3

      same here but it gets better

  • @leoniea138
    @leoniea138 Před 3 lety +273

    Relationships are hard work. I can not change myself for another person . I'm happy alone and content. I need nothing . What a great life . At peace always.

    • @ivairena3931
      @ivairena3931 Před 3 lety +3

      Hello,how are you doing today?

    • @maramariajarvis3425
      @maramariajarvis3425 Před 3 lety +2

      Omg, yes!

    • @tootstoyou1
      @tootstoyou1 Před 2 lety +2

      I hear ya sister! And feel the same! 🥰

    • @andrewmarvell5137
      @andrewmarvell5137 Před 2 lety +3

      Yeah your right but I need someone to feel up the empty space in heart

    • @MrsYolandicook
      @MrsYolandicook Před 2 lety +14

      But… still you are on here. I’m not meaning that as a slight, but there must be a part of you that knows you wouldn’t say no if the right person came along.

  • @saralina1018
    @saralina1018 Před 6 měsíci +2

    The vibrations and energy you put out are what you attract into your life. ❤✨️

  • @Nevernormal790
    @Nevernormal790 Před rokem +2

    I am done trying. I am a hopeless romantic and been told being too much, care to much, give flowers on a first date = too much, I am done. Apparently showing genuine interest is too much in 2023, I am done i don't have it in me !

  • @thomaswaffle5121
    @thomaswaffle5121 Před 3 lety +73

    That's the biggest problem in relationships. Not being yourself and them not being themselves and after a while, the real comes out and incompatibility is undeniable.

  • @adolfoduarte3719
    @adolfoduarte3719 Před 2 lety +220

    The best advice I've heard was "You can love anybody as long as you're willing to love them, emotions change don't base your relationship off of love but instead off of how they will help you improve yourself and vice versa"

    • @aarathi010
      @aarathi010 Před 2 lety +1

      Nice thought, but not exactly applicable for people on the aromantic spectrum.

  • @hestiaartworks2288
    @hestiaartworks2288 Před 2 lety +3

    I have never been a romantic person. I’m a loyal person, a ‘be there for you’ person, and a ‘we can grow together and apart’ kind of person. I don’t say I love you, I show love, I don’t say I’m here for you, I show that I’m here for you, and I don’t expect a person to change who they are for me. And I won’t change who I am for anyone either. I will evolve myself to be a better communicator, a better listener, a better friend, but I won’t make myself unhappy to make another person happy, bc that’s not a relationship, that’s a dependency, and a one sided one at that.

  • @dropdemi
    @dropdemi Před rokem +2

    best way to find the best girl or woman to spend life with is to go places you don't normally go, opposites are the best relationships, love is most of the battle imo, compatibility is kinda important but only for certain things but if you both are willing to compromise for love then you'll be living the best life and bringing out the best in each other. Obviously don't get disrespected, but just be a good person and you will find the one, don't ignore red flags, talk about them if you see them and decide if you want to continue based on how you feel about their response. Listen if you're reading this and doubting me, you probably will experience some heartbreak and hurt but as a man we need to see and feel those things to know what to look for. Girls look for guys that are similar to their dad, guys look for girls that wont hurt them :) you got this you'll find someone. Trust

  • @thesouthernbandit3752
    @thesouthernbandit3752 Před 2 lety +671

    “Success is mental” best advice I’ve ever gotten. I’ve been through a lot and if you just tell yourself you’re okay and you do things that make you happy and you just say that pain doesn’t exist then it won’t, you’ll only feel how you think you feel

    • @jolyenslik44
      @jolyenslik44 Před 2 lety +39

      It really does not work like that💀 being delusional about one’s pain doesn’t mean it’s actually been resolved

    • @thuydungie
      @thuydungie Před rokem +10

      i kinda get where that is coming from but telling yourself that certain pain doesn't exist can lead to you bottling everything up and then it gets *really* dangerous. it's okay to acknowledge that you're in pain and work on it without letting it control your life. you don't have to be okay all the time to be successful.

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @melodymodica7922
      @melodymodica7922 Před rokem +2

      @@thuydungie yes this is a more balanced way of seeing it, feel the pain but don’t let it consume your life

    • @hahaha-pl7ev
      @hahaha-pl7ev Před rokem +2

      Emotional Suppression 101

  • @josefraticellimaldonado8137

    “Falling in love is easy” im so glad someone finally points it out

  • @lumiya_lumos1423
    @lumiya_lumos1423 Před 2 lety +9

    saw this video on my recommended and felt like I should watch it and it’s so true how you were saying that when you elevate yourself you start to attract your energy. I found the person I really connect with and we are growing together, both in the good and the bad. I always felt that I was unworthy of my amazing partner but the funny thing is, he feels the same way. Communication is everything. When you internalize those feelings instead of working through them together. The part about feeling like a phony speaks to my relationship with my ex. His insecurities made him play games with me and cheat through our relationship to feel he deserved a good woman like me. Soooo good. Thank you for helping me think of this in a different way.

    • @eugeneanthony5229
      @eugeneanthony5229 Před 11 měsíci

      Yeah I had same issues with my woman too but I just have to keep my faith up and keep being the best version of myself if you don’t mind we can chat a lil bit

  • @wiseriverhealing
    @wiseriverhealing Před rokem +7

    I learned the concept of becoming the person I wanted to be with in my first year of addiction recovery. Its changed my perspective in profound ways.

    • @scottwilliams824
      @scottwilliams824 Před rokem

      How are you doing pretty

    • @Relationship_advice12
      @Relationship_advice12 Před rokem

      Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.

    • @SeegMan
      @SeegMan Před 9 měsíci

      How are you doing today getting nice to see you here I’m I love the video I’m single looking for serious relationship I’m be single for over a good 6 years I don’t see serious relationship I’m looking for relationship

    • @BrianOwen-nj1nn
      @BrianOwen-nj1nn Před 9 měsíci

      Hi there

  • @earlymedia3301
    @earlymedia3301 Před 2 lety +531

    Just got out of a 3 year relationship and have been trying not to kick myself for stepping away from someone I was so deeply in love with and who loved me hard. But you really described a lot of what I was feeling and why i couldn’t see it working out.
    Its tragic that “love is half the battle” but its so so true. The advice on “become the right person” was exactly what I needed to hear.
    This video randomly came up for me but I’m glad it did!

    • @KDbelieves
      @KDbelieves Před 2 lety +44

      This is what my parents warn me about. That if you pick the wrong person and love that person, it will hurt to leave them. Their advice is to make a list of non-negotiables that are heavily based on logic and yes and no answers. Things like, do they want kids. What is their religious faith etc, then you can build love on top of that. If you fall in love with someone that doesn't meet your non-negotiables, your relationship is already a failure. It's only a matter of time before the love can't cover for that non-negotiable.

    • @EddyG0rdo
      @EddyG0rdo Před 2 lety +7

      You will be ok! Just keep working on yourself. You’ll have good days and bad days but overall never give up. Things will be ok.

    • @djj54
      @djj54 Před 2 lety +1

      Damn this is exactly what im going through (plus a baby) with someone and glad to see we have arrived at the same place.

    • @badpiggy2403
      @badpiggy2403 Před 2 lety +3

      Sorry to hear about that, try to stay strong!

    • @mutiaraLUVSmusix
      @mutiaraLUVSmusix Před rokem +5

      Just went through this last night… hope things are easier for you by now. Brighter futures ahead 🙏🏻

  • @panheadgirlofskillet
    @panheadgirlofskillet Před 2 lety +133

    I learned the hard way that love ≠ compatibility. I was SO compatible with my guy best friend & we convinced ourselves it would be smart to be in love. We fell out in 2 years because it was always supposed to be platonic from the beginning. After a year of taking a break we’re finally best friends again. But what a hard journey to go through

    • @jehandelange6266
      @jehandelange6266 Před 2 lety +3

      Aww yay, so happy you're best friends again!

    • @Realiiizee123
      @Realiiizee123 Před 2 lety +2

      Currently dealing with this

    • @ThomasLahm-vo4ew
      @ThomasLahm-vo4ew Před 7 měsíci

      I definitely agree with you not every friendships lead to love. Are you single please?

  • @suzukiomelette4387
    @suzukiomelette4387 Před 2 lety +6

    This video tells me so much of what I needed. My relationship ended yesterday and it almost felt inevitable. But only now did I realize that what I did was wrong. All my flaws were shown in this video. I want to strive to be a better person and not make the same mistakes again. Thank you

  • @andrewplaysagame3479
    @andrewplaysagame3479 Před rokem +3

    I haven’t been in a relationship in 3 years. The longer I went being single, the less I valued myself and thought that I would always be undesired and unloved. It was only earlier this year that I finally saw my self destructive pattern of self loathing and people pleasing for what it was and vowed to make a change. I got into mediation and positive affirmation and started accepting that my mistakes and insecurities don’t define who I am as a person. I’ve never felt better about myself.
    The loneliness still comes and goes, but each time I remind myself how lucky I am, because the longer I keep building myself into the self fulfilled person that we are all meant to be, the more likely that I’m going to be open and ready for a relationship with the right someone that comes along. You gotta have love for yourself before you can give any love to another.

  • @aliengoddesskang9364
    @aliengoddesskang9364 Před 3 lety +270

    Omg… you’re a genius… And that’s exactly what I am going through. To be the best version of myself - I need to grow up and try different things those are not me. Wow!!! Great job!!!!

  • @sacdaabdurhman
    @sacdaabdurhman Před 3 lety +130

    “You cannot be protected from the things that frighten you and hurt you, but if you identify with part of your being that is responsible for transformation, then you are always equal or more than equal of the things that frighten you”
    Keep you head up 💜

    • @josieposie9969
      @josieposie9969 Před 2 lety +1

      Oh my gosh, that is exactly what I needed to hear!
      God bless you!

  • @rickrude26
    @rickrude26 Před rokem +3

    When you say things that people are already thinking, it makes it make more sense.

  • @ry6554
    @ry6554 Před rokem +2

    If you can sit down and work together in silence and still love each other,
    That’s love.

  • @jessicaphillips5344
    @jessicaphillips5344 Před 2 lety +246

    I’m currently on my second relationship that I’ve ever had in my life and I’m 25 and I approached each one very differently. The relationship I have now I started off with rose colored glasses on and I learned very early to let go but mainly work on myself a lot more and the advice is so true I can’t even explain it. And since my partner had started seeing me start to level up and work on myself, he slowly started to level up with me too and it was nice to see

    • @Beverleyprince
      @Beverleyprince Před 2 lety +14

      I also started off my relationship with Rose coloured glasses, now I am focussing on myself more and levelling up, I see him wanting to do the same. I’ve definitely been slacking, it’s so important to keep developing yourself when you’re in a relationship because it’s so easy to stay still and be comfortable. I prioritised my partners life/problems over myself at one point.

    • @voodoodolll
      @voodoodolll Před rokem +1

      I've been making some massive strides in my life this year, and my 3 year relationship just fell apart over Christmas because she was too afraid of her insecurities to 'level up' beside me. I'm glad there's a success story out there.

    • @nataliajason2193
      @nataliajason2193 Před rokem

      How are you my dear I can help you with any type of spell
      Feel free to receive my help remember a problem shared is a problem solved don’t keep your problem to your self share it with me and get it solved I can help you out with any type of spell such as :
      Love spell
      Binding spell
      Pregnancy spell
      Healing
      Breaking of curse
      Return to sender spell
      Evil eye removal and Cleansing spell
      Heal disease spell
      Weight loss spell
      Etc

    • @SchoolOfFeelosophy
      @SchoolOfFeelosophy Před rokem

      I feel you

  • @LadyNikitaShark
    @LadyNikitaShark Před 2 lety +10

    Loved the vid. Before I met my partner I only dated guys that made other women jealous but ultimately didn't made me happy. When I started dating my partner, I had friends genuinely asking me why I was dating him because I could get so much better looking guys in the past. I met my partner when I was 32 and at a point in my life where I realized what I really wanted was way over just looks. I admit I used to be very shallow in that department, I dated a few models, just for exemple. There is do much more to a relationship then looks and stuff like that. Meeting someone with whom you can be your true self and grow together as a person is amazing.

  • @ajhill251117
    @ajhill251117 Před rokem +3

    I came here for the relationship advice but NOW I know destiny brought me here to see how AMAAZING your shirt is 👌🏾

    • @veronica587
      @veronica587 Před rokem

      OMG! You are so funny and sweet. Such honesty!

  • @brookhellemons1306
    @brookhellemons1306 Před 3 lety +60

    I'm a co-dependant person this was quite hard to hear but needed

  • @xxxicequeenxxx
    @xxxicequeenxxx Před 2 lety +38

    Going on 3 years still obsessed lol honestly it won’t run out. Once I love you it’s done. Thankful that we are so compatible. Things happen in weird ways when you least expect them that’s for sure.

  • @firemedic542
    @firemedic542 Před 2 lety +6

    Hands down, one of the best most common sense videos I’ve listened to on this topic. Thank you!

  • @lissette1798
    @lissette1798 Před 2 lety +3

    Wow, "You don't manifest what you want, You manifest who you are." Love the spin on that phrase. Makes you see it in a diff way. So truee.

  • @qudsiagohar2042
    @qudsiagohar2042 Před 3 lety +69

    You are the one who made me change my life just by believing in me that I worth everything and I can do anything, working as a chef assistant to having my dream job working as a manager. 47 Kg low weight to 55 Kg perfect weight. Never being able to communicate my feelings, to being able to put myself out with confidence. Still learning and trying to get to know myself better. This is a massage for everyone out there YES you can do this. By the way I listen to your affection (love, health, wealth in 21 days) I was jobless at the time when I started listening every morning, and keeping myself in happy frequency for all day, I got job only in 15 days it wasn't easy but consistence make it happen. Still learning, working hard to shape myself and my life for batter. Lots of love and wishes for you keep it up. You are awesome. Stop settling start living 😍

    • @TilikaVispute
      @TilikaVispute Před 2 lety +6

      The fact your autocorrect went from better to batter just shows how much you love your profession of being a chef 👨‍🍳 hehe ☺️✨

  • @EefkeL
    @EefkeL Před 2 lety +65

    “Instead of looking for the right person, become the right person.”
    Hadn’t heard this advice but this is exactly what I did in the 2 years that I was single before meeting my now boyfriend. That and the “avoid getting into a relationship”.
    I knew what I wanted from a future partner. I’ve never been one to date for fun, I wanted my life long partner so I acted like how I would want them to act. I trained myself into being my ultimate partner. An example is that whenever someone attractive on social media would catch my eye I would scroll instead of look. I know myself and I know I wouldn’t be able to handle a partner whose eyes would wander, so I made sure mine wouldn’t either. This is important because even if you find YOUR ultimate partner, it doesn’t mean you’re theirs. You could meet the love of your life, but if you haven’t worked on being a good partner then it can still go bad. So after working on things like that it came to a point where I could say with a 100% certainty that I would date myself AND be happy with how I acted. After 2 years of working on myself and correcting myself as if I were already in a relationship I met him. And this is the part that will probably motivate you if you’re reading this; he was exactly like me. He had the same mentality, boundaries, etc. It was a match that I could’ve only dreamed of. Of course I worked on more things but going along with my example from earlier: he didn’t follow any ig models, his tiktok was only filled with funny videos, he respected girls and didn’t objectify them, etc. He is all that and the best part is that I deserve him. Not only did I get who I wanted but I also deserve the man I want because I was loyal even before I met him.
    Before him I would of course explore my options with people who I came across but with all of them I knew within a week that it wouldn’t be anything because I knew what I wanted. With him the connection was SO strong that we’ve basically been together since day one. I suspected it in the first few days but after a month of knowing him I knew he was the person I had worked so hard for. Meeting someone and clicking is cool but meeting some, clicking, knowing that that is the person you waited for AND deserving them is just something entirely else.
    Love is a choice, but even in hard times that choice is easy to make when you’ve worked on deserving them in the first place.
    I want to share a thought that I had in those 2 years of working on myself that have kept me motivated: If you can exist with your mindset, boundaries, morals, etc then someone else with those same things can also exist.

    • @evatoxu864
      @evatoxu864 Před rokem

      Thank you for writing down your inspiring and amazing experience. I read it thoroughly and found we had some in common. Congratulations! I kind of know what meeting and being with the person that you’ve been searching for or even becoming is absolutely amazing. I’m working on it. I know what I’m gonna do now. Thank you for your comment again as it makes my path clearer. All the best. x

    • @scottwilliams824
      @scottwilliams824 Před rokem

      How are you doing pretty

    • @Suihoon
      @Suihoon Před 11 měsíci

      Your right ❤

    • @inhphuonglinh5a-209
      @inhphuonglinh5a-209 Před 11 měsíci

      omg it touches so hard

    • @user-hb6ry9tl4l
      @user-hb6ry9tl4l Před 9 měsíci

      Hello

  • @yashikashishodia4161
    @yashikashishodia4161 Před rokem +2

    You are literally the best person on the whole You tube planet.....everything that you say makes so much sense

  • @PyroYeet
    @PyroYeet Před rokem +7

    It is slightly worrying that I already knew everything in this video yet I am still messing up every aspect.
    I've had toxic relationships twice and a relationship with an incompatible but non-toxic person once, and I am currently taking care of those around me and having a blast with friends I just met and yet I can't shake the feeling that I can't be the person someone actually wants. Regardless of how much people tell me I am caring and have a great view on life and that I am a great person, I still can't help but feel like there is something in me preventing people from truly loving me. Everyone seems to be so close yet so far. They all want to be close but none truly close. I hope this is just temporary because it kindof hurts to see people come in for a hug and be happy from it yet you can't feel their touch.

  • @lynncarter4964
    @lynncarter4964 Před 2 lety +47

    You can't know if it's real love until you've been through some trials together, and come out stronger. If you come out weaker, watch out. Preferably some pretty challenging and awful trials. Don't get married until you've had a couple of bad trials. Life is hard, so you have to know if you can do this as a team or not.
    Attraction comes and goes in real love, then comes back again, then goes away and comes again.

  • @colinesquire2480
    @colinesquire2480 Před 2 lety +47

    I wish people would talk more about love being a choice it's a shame people don't look at it like this

    • @elizabethrose644
      @elizabethrose644 Před 2 lety +9

      falling in love isn’t a choice, but commitment is

  • @shellieblack528
    @shellieblack528 Před 2 lety +5

    When truth is spoken it is not always easy to take. When it is not easy to take.....that make a person better. I wish I had known these truths when younger. I am now in a relationship that is exactly what it is. My man is deployed and it means that loving or just being friends......it is a constant process and we make the choice everyday to be together. Thank you so much Clark! The last tip is absolutely right!!! You attract what you see yourself to be. I changed my thoughts and what I wanted to change about myself....and I attracted a wonderful man who is my equal!!!!

  • @Yvonnemorgan2020
    @Yvonnemorgan2020 Před 9 měsíci +5

    Best thing is good communication ❤

  • @myxomatosis455
    @myxomatosis455 Před 2 lety +66

    "You don't attract what you want, you attract who you are." 💯

  • @mrmartinez4188
    @mrmartinez4188 Před 3 lety +88

    Absolutely right Clark. I used to look at it as I want to attract the right woman. Now I’ve learned to just be. Just be an allow. Nothing more nothing less.

  • @RealTalk-mq2ug
    @RealTalk-mq2ug Před rokem +2

    I claim a beautiful heart-centered healing for the friendship between myself and my best friend.
    May all visible and invisible support surround us both in the healing power of love and truth.
    It is possible, it is happening and it is divine. And so it is.

  • @0neness7
    @0neness7 Před rokem +1

    Thanks a lot Clark , the last one was the best i have ever thought of and i will work on myself. the best take away is that “stop trying to look for the right person ,instead be the right person”..

  • @ErK61
    @ErK61 Před 3 lety +103

    Love the emphasis on authenticity. Life never felt better than since I prioritized authenticity and loving

  • @mikahlactpo
    @mikahlactpo Před 3 lety +77

    Whoa 🤯 good video! Lately I’ve realized sometimes in a relationship Love isn’t enough. Sometimes you’re on different paths, you want different futures or you see the world differently, you may be in love but it doesn’t make everything else right 🥺

  • @doublehd159
    @doublehd159 Před rokem +5

    Love and compatibility are two SEPARATE things. Thank you for that. That put my past relationship into better perspective. She was a great girl and I did my best to be patient and love her but I just had a feeling we weren't exactly compatible and had to let the relationship go.

  • @MIMC16
    @MIMC16 Před 2 lety +55

    Thank you for this. Im currently in an emotional turmoil after leaving a 7 year abusive relationship. These are exactly the words i needed to hear ❤️

    • @beautyjoseph7763
      @beautyjoseph7763 Před 2 lety +1

      Hi I just got my relationship fixed and my ex is back to me and we are living happily like never before i got help from a relationship expert

    • @otiscoyer5287
      @otiscoyer5287 Před rokem

      faith with time you will hear take your time you will make the right decision soon

    • @Relationship_advice12
      @Relationship_advice12 Před rokem

      Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.

    • @SchoolOfFeelosophy
      @SchoolOfFeelosophy Před rokem

      Just keep going! sometimes one door closes to open up new doors

    • @AdityaArjun-wc9un
      @AdityaArjun-wc9un Před rokem

      Am so sorry about that but always remember not to give up yet in your heart desires

  • @caylieann1994
    @caylieann1994 Před 3 lety +30

    I’ve learned, just in the past few months, that you can love someone but not want to be with them. I still love my ex husband, but I feel no sort of attachment to him. My love for him stems solely from time. We’ve known each other since we were kids. Compared to what it “used to be”, now I see him as a life long friend.

    • @StrongerThanBigfoot
      @StrongerThanBigfoot Před 3 lety +2

      This my struggle now. I just want to be single but I stay for my kids. I don’t want to be in a relationship but don’t want to hurt her my girlfriend. At the same time I feel like I’m doing wrong by her by not leaving so she can be happy and find the right partner. She keeps bringing up marriage and I’m just not into it. I love her but not in love with her.

    • @dosesandmimoses
      @dosesandmimoses Před 2 lety +2

      Man.. that is hard to hear

  • @Disasterpiece5150
    @Disasterpiece5150 Před 2 lety +24

    "The luckiest man who walks this earth is the one who finds true love."
    Dracula

  • @GEORGIABOY23
    @GEORGIABOY23 Před rokem +3

    It’s like there’s no way you love that shirt but you allowed it to come to you and fuckin wore it. That’s real strength bro.

  • @bigdaddytruck3647
    @bigdaddytruck3647 Před rokem +4

    With the last piece of advice, I was accidentally following it already lol, I started dating a guy who’s absolutely amazing and super kind and everything and dating him is making me realise that I want to improve myself the way he tries to improve himself. I want to start going to the gym, I want to start being more empathetic, I want to be a better person. I’m going to try my best.

  • @GMAceM
    @GMAceM Před 2 lety +8

    You are your most important project. You always come first. When you’re at your best, that’s exactly what you’re gonna get.