The 3 INFJ Subtypes
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 2. 03. 2020
- Three different types of INFJ based on their extroversion and energy.
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I knew it Heather ! I knew your beard didn't lie about it ! ! ! Thank you to have lockleared my day on ! ! ;)
Why do we never talk about ambiverts. Iâm introverted in certain circumstances but If I feel comfortable and safe I am somewhat extroverted. Thx FJ FOR ADDRESSING THIS. Iâm definitely ambivert.
Hi Frank, which of the three types fits the best for you?
I dont understand functions
I'm an INFJ that can 'turn on' extroversion around people I care to interact with. I don't really speak unless spoken to but when I do I try to talk, smile and laugh boldly to make people feel comfortable around me
same!
Me too i was always the extrovert i think acting classes helped with that. But i realized i didnt have good people around me so i became introverted because of it. When im around good people the extrovert comes out because I feel relaxed.
me too!! It took me some time before I realised that I subconsciously talk more or be more goofy when I know that it can be awkward otherwise and that it might help lighten the mood a bit and make people feel more comfortable, but if I am in a group with 2 or more extroverts then I leave the job to them and go back to just sitting and observing everyone. :)
Wtf ive always decribed it as a "turn on" button for extroversion
same omg, it's great to know that it's a normal thing to do
Being an INFJ feels like being all 16 personalities and none of them at the same time. It's really hard cuz you totally see how others are, but no one can see how you are.
This is SOOO true
My INFJ friends feel this way, but Iâve noticed that it isnât quite true. One in particular is completely confident in his perception of others but is often wrong.
@@sydneymallone5933 I know someone like this. They are always so off on their judgements. Really rude and annoying person.
@IHysm DammitimmaD yep lol
TXT,the brightest STAR in the universe itâs lonely đ
When Frank mentioned "INFJ doesn't talk much, but when they do they'll hammer you in the head with what they know"
Definitely accurate.
Sometimes I think I overload people with knowledge so I remain silent more often than not.
Me tooâŠ.
Hahah relatable. I'll seesaw between silence and then just outpouring.
Yep
Lol I overload me with information. I'm not trying to hurt others like I hurt me đđđ
Yes... I always get that..."slow down I get overwhelmed" lol
As an INFJ, I feel like I'm very introverted unless there is someone I feel is more introverted than me. In this case I try to open up this person and help them blend in. And if I really am the most introverted in a group setting, I just wait until someone notices me.
I can relate so much to that !
same here!
Same
Me too!
I think I just found my long lost twin
You know youre a true infj when you can relate with every single subcategory and end up having another identity crisis over your level of extroversion
Right like I can relate to all three types. It crazy
I have an identity crisis everyday because Iâll wake up and wonder if Iâm an infj or a wannabe infj who happens to be an enfj.
Oh....you commented my inner most feelings before I even fully recognized them.
I don't know about having a crisis over it. I kinda like it. I was always a floater and got along with everyone. But I didn't change, I just sorta "spoke their language" but said my own words and opinions. I love it. Makes me endlessly curious about people, which is probably why people think I'm highly extroverted.
LMAO me this whole video
No one:
Me: *trying to learn how to human as an INFJ*
I bought an ebook on how to be a human on Amazon lol
Cassandra M lmao
When I was little I asked my dad if there was an instruction book for life. He said the Bible. I believe in god but that wasnât what I meant, I mean how to do the day to day living haha
@@cass8330 haha oh man
@@charlie5115 umm Chile- itâs not âsĂŠdâ as a word itâs âTĆĄĂŠdâ as a word (Which is why the T is capitalized) đđđ, but no Iâm not aware-
Me as an INFJ working in the service industry:
Work hour: [extrovert mode on]
Off hour: [normal mode on]
THIS!!! I have to straight up tell my family to back off when I come in the door. I love them, and I know they want to make small talk, but I have "small talked" all day long. It's like asking a maid to clean, or a painter to paint, or a chef to cook when they get home. I need some time to decompress. The worst part is that I feel guilty for decompressing because I know they love me, and that's why they wanted to "small talk" in the first place. I'm an INFJerk and I hate that about myself sometimes.
Lol essentially
omg thissss
I think we have a natural good capacity to adapt to people and situations.
Same
ENFP here listening to all INFJ videos and realizing I treated my INFJ best friend wrong đđđ I want to run to her and hug her so much!
Awwe, okay I know I'm late to reply, but just do it! I'd feel important and valued if my friend came back, I would have also missed them everyday and talking it out to the fullest extent is what would make me feel that we both gave everything to keep the friendship. I hope your friendship workes out!!! God bleee
Here as an INFJ to say... she probably didn't really mind, unless you were _way_ off with your style of friendship
@@JacobGrim I luckily wasn't, I talked with her a lot. She knows how I meant some things and read my behaviour right. I'm socially awkward sometimes đ I'm happy ( and lucky ) she can read me so well. She's amazing đ
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@@danika9411 That's beautiful đđ
When Iâm around other introverts who are also feelers, it seems like I become more extroverted around them because they somehow make me open up and feel related?
OMG THIS IS ME
Me too! I feel more comfortable!
YES
I do this too. Probably seem snobby, but then make me feel comfortable around you then..?
Exactly
The three subtypes of ESTJs:
1. Hates Timmy.
2. Loathes Timmy.
3. Despises Timmy.
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Poor Timmy.. đ
@@Tauney he got what was coming to him đ€
I think, Timmy is just so misunderstood...
But seriously, wtf, Timmy?
This totally resonates.
Iâm an INFJ who is always busting out random excessive bursts of extroversion that are over the top and then experience paralysing self consciousness and regret later and overthink others perceptions of me as a loon.
I recently broke into the Tom Hanks song he performs in the movie Big at work including a small dance. Thought this would be entertaining but nobody got the reference and the tumbleweed rumbled through my soul.
Frank. I adore your content, wry humour and analysis. You are the cherry in my pie
I think I'm a INFJ I'm not pretty sure yet, bc i take two times the same test, it was pretty large and was a recommended for a friend who say that was trustworthy, so, I made it, two times, and the same answers, so I look up for more information and oh my surprise, the majority information I got was for the inbevert, or introvert type(I don't know how to write it, sorry, English is not my native language.) And I'm like...I CAN talk to other people perfectly I'm just...not connect, like, I can listen to you and pretend I care about in what you saying, but if there isn't a connection, I'm just pretendig listening, but, if we are closed I would talk to you about almost everything, and of course, some times I have this conversation with myself where I'm talking deep shit in my mind.
One time I was at work and I was really bored so I started dancing and I thought it was fun, asked my friend to dance and everyone stopped and asked it if was high. Normally I'm a pretty quiet person and keep to myself. People would describe me as a quiet kid in school, but then I just have a sudden need to talk at the speed of light to literally anyone or do something I absolutely would never to in a normal state of mind and sometimes I have to fight so hard to restrain myself because I know after five minutes I'll regret it so bad.
I'll randomly say like a quote from a movie. Then go back to whatever task I was doing.
It's like a random burst, hiccup...thing.
Ditto
as a infj I feel like I see things that others will never pick up on..
The infj I'm talking to was surprised I see the same things he does and always have. -enfp
i think we as infjs go through these subtypes at different phases in our life according to the situations presented to us
This is exactly what I was thinking. Our base stays the same but I think these subtypes could be a sliding scale. I was introverted INTROVERTED younger but now my introversion is very low. I look like an extrovert to other types at most times. I was with an extroverted sensor for 18 years so my theory is that pushed me to use that function more. I do still need to rest and retreat sometimes though.
Correct..
Yeah I can honestly relate to that. After getting out of high school I became more extroverted.
aashna yup I agree
Shit that's true
"Once they begin communicating, they will hammer you over the head with what they know." -FJ
I feel this deeply.
Raising my hand, âguiltyâ
Same here! hahaha
My friends call me a scholar.. But I am not
same. i dont talk alot, sometimes my friends think that i dont talk at all, but once u get me going in a convo, i become extremely talkative
I am just apologizing on beforehand, and usually, they say it is okay. Sadly sometimes I get a lot of shit for it hahah. I also either get comments, like "Why do you talk so much? or "why aren't you saying anything?" And then I am just put in this conflict of what I am supposed to do? I guess Philosophy has helped me there, to just go the Golden middle-way between two extremes as Aristotle said. I talk and respond, but also listen to what people are saying. It is apparently working so... i guess my 22 years of trial and error i have finally managed to get somewhere.
I don't want to imply anything or bother you Bjorn, but are you perhaps Scandinavian, like Norwegian perhaps? It is the name you see as BjĂžrn is Bear in Norwegian. Another reason for why I know this is because I grew up in Norway. It might just be a coincidence hah.
As an INFJ I usually tend to act differently with everyone Like I can get sooo social and active when I'm excited or when talking to someone I feel at ease with ( especially kids lol) but then can turn extremely socially anxious when I don't know them it's a struggle
Im that way with my dog we just be having full conversations
Iâm an INFJ and I feel like Iâve cycled through each of these types throughout my life kind of based on how much self confidence I felt at that point in time. Love your channel
So accurately stated! THIS was exactly my life experience as wellđđđ.
I relate so heavily to this!!
does anyone know how am i supposed to turn my introverted thinking , Ti or introverted intuition, Ni back on?! đđ
ive gotten so used to being the extrovert infj for like my whole life and like now i feel like iâve lost..? or idk just how to activate it??
Instead of "extroverted INFJ", maybe "social INFJ" would be a better term.
Yes, exactly!
ANFJ (Ambivert)? đ€Ł
Hi I'm a social introvert with social anxiety:D
definitely! I can be social with no problems but still love my alone time more than anything
@@Psychenfj Im p sure he got that and he was just stating like a better term for it
This is very interesting because Iâm INFJ, and when most people meet me they are convinced Iâm an extrovert, but thatâs only cause Iâve worked on coming across as super confident for years. Truth is I constantly cancel group or people plans because it sounds real exhausting even though I want to be with people. I think a lot, but I can also communicate well and listen. Iâm almost never sad when someone else cancels lol, cause yay alone time. đđŒ
The only people I make definite plans with are my immediate family. Everything else is a maybe. My family made Mondays Family Day every week when I moved out because they never saw me. I go to work, home, church, and Family Day. Thatâs it. Havenât been grocery shopping since March. Itâs too people-y in Walmart.
Same!
This spoke to me
Feels like I wrote this about myself đ
Alana French - haha a true introvert if I ever heard one. đđŒ
Iâm an INFJ, and my daughter is an INFJ, and we are so opposite! It bothers her a lot that I have taken the MBTest 3 times and always come up INFJ. I just sent this video to her, because this explains a LOT! Sheâs the totally introverted one, and Iâm the ambivert one.
Might want to make sure youâre taking one of the more reliable tests too, 16 personalities is not always the best source. Learning the functions is a must too.
Ambivert and introvert INFJs shouldn't be opposites... Maybe one of you is mis-typed?
I'm an introverted INFJ, but I mis-typed as INTP for years because I didn't know myself well enough to answer tests accurately.
â@@justinb9612Do you recommend a reliable test? I've been wondering which test I could take to be sure of my type.
@@mongoose9851 thats my problem too. i took already 5 tests and i got 2 infjs 1 intj and 2 istjs
Wait til she finds out Hitler was also an INFJ, it will ruin her day.
I'm naturally very introverted, but I had a job for decades where I HAD to learn to talk to people & forced me to be very extroverted, so even though I'm definitely not a 'people person', I can now talk to just about anyone with no problem... but at the same time, I don't really WANT to talk to them, which is weird...
Super Introverted is the kid in class who never talks, but is very responsive if you ask for help.
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100% guilty of the whole "I know, I know what you're saying, let me talk" thing ambiverted INFJs do. I'm working on it, because even I know it's really annoying. I just have so many ideas and thoughts and I hate wasting time, so it's a struggle.
YES omg... especially growing up in a big loud family where Iâm constantly fighting to be heard... itâs just a reflex to try to jump in, def have to work on that haha
I have the exact same!!
I am sooo guilty of this! It's just I have so many comments on what somebody is saying to me and I know I'll forget all of them by the time they finish what they're saying...
Yeah Iâm guilty too đ I unintentionally cut people off or guess the word they were going to say next cause they were going slow. This might also be cause I have ADHD idk. Anyways I somehow found 2 introverted best friends that make me bold. :)
I wish there was a way to interrupt you in the middle of your comment because I already knew where you were going with it. :)
I'm an INFJ. I like my alone time but I also get so much out of engaging conversations with people that I love and trust. It allows me to unload and I often have a need to feel understood and validated when it comes to dealing with problems big or small.
It comes back to that communication thing I guess.
I can go a week without seeing people but I also generally like to socialize at least once a week. Preferably in one on one or small groups with close friends.
Yes, everything you just said rings true for me also
Oh, yeah, small groups of friends - the only way to socialize! Throw in just one non-friend and I have to shut down and just listen especially when I know the person thinks less of me or likes to talk. Fine, have it.
Iâve had other MBTI people say, âBut youâre so personable and friendly! I would never guess youâre INFJ.â Yeah, well, I can do that for a few hours, but then I need a day or so to recover.
Itâs nice to see other people turn on and off.
Same. I don't dislike people, in fact I like being around them. But hells, I need my alone time or else I'll go insane! And I definitely prefer my close circle of family and friends to acquaintances or strangers.
Same !
Commication is huge for me. But Commication in general. I need to talk to get out of my head. Or what I like to call "the battle" that goes on inside my head. The two debate teams playing ping pong with endless streams of thought.
And than there's my need to commicate with really close ppl whom I love so that don't feel I'm ignoring them. They have needs too and I feel we should all be in the know of each other's needs.
I used to be an extroverted INFJ as a teenager. A lot of energy put on the others, less on myself. That leaded me to personal and internal problems.
Then I focused all my energy on myself, and my self discovering. Therefore became an introverted INFJ. But helped me a lot to learn about myself. But always had in mind as a bigger goal to help others. But always thinking the following: "If I can't controll my life, neither I could help with other's". That was a lot of introspecting and self learning.
After all the process, now I am a healthier INFJ, an "ambibert" INFJ. I think of myself when it's necessary, but still put my energy on who DESERVE it. This path leaded me to have better relationships, less but closer friends at the end.
How funny... Im reading my own story line! I can understand you very very well.. And u know.. Wot u gonna heading towards next? Something interesting gonna come in ur life and u gonna realise Why you have done all those things in the past and wot was that all abt and everything under the universe â€ïž. Happy to see such a person atleast in a random comment section
Me too. Same EXACT story. đ
Same!!
âTheir FE is strong...â. Like, iron strong?
bruh xD
Nice lol
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I appreciate you
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I am an INFJ. I feel drained after social events, and whenever I have an event coming up I dread going to it and socializing. But when I do go, I either enjoy it, or I dislike it. Sometimes I feel more alone when Iâm in a group compared to when I am truly by myself. Despite all of this anxiety, if Iâm by myself too much I *need* socialization.
In new environments, I donât talk to people. I talk to them when they talk to me, or talk when there is a shared interest, but starting a conversation is hard for me. And yet, I complain about not having friends.
I complain that I can relate to most people I meet, but none of them can fully relate to me. I complain that I donât hang out with friends, even though I donât make any effort to try and hang out with them. Itâs like my personality contradicts itself.
Iâve started to watch your channel, and love all of your content, especially the INFJ content. Great video!
I would call me a middle INFJ, though that might just be my need to make everything even and balanced lol. I try not to gloat when it comes to me being smart, and I know this will make me sound full of myself, but when my teachers keep telling me Iâm smart, I joke around and act like Iâm confident. Iâm sort of not confident, but I hope that my mask helps to make me truly a bit more confident. If I had that then Iâd be pretty well off.
Wow. This is crazy, because this exactly how I am.
Painfull isnt it? Being alone, left behind, hated, despised, even if they tell u they love u and will never leave u. U just cant trust them. Not in the sense that they will understand. Not in the sense that u can put into words. The mask u put on everyday, every morning hurts u more and more. U try to take it off, but it sticks like thats the way u want the world to see u. The smile, quite, good listeners type.
@@Sweeps, you just described me word for word. It's reassuring to know there are other INFJs like this. I was going crazy thinking that there's something wrong with me, lmao
SnowAngel0303 One of us! One of us!
Yep. Ambivert INFJ. I've been called a know-it-all who must always be right by my hubby and family members, especially as I've gotten older and a bit more extraverted. It is good to step back and realize that other people process their experiences differently and who am I to interfere or judge. Even if we can predict certain outcomes and behaviors, it doesn't mean it's our place to always point them out.
lol yeah I'm a major introvert. Just the other day I saw a lady delivering goodies to a neighbor and the two were having a conversation. And all I could think about was the energy it would take out of me to do such a thing. I expressed this to my mom who was beside me. She misunderstood my introversion as misanthropy (as always but I don't blame her). But I assured her, "I would LOVE to do nice things for people, mom. I just don't wanna talk to them!" xD
3 INFJ types:
-Unhealty
-Even more unhealthy
-So unhealthy that she thinks she is healthy
JadeCeci please don't call me out like that â°ïž
hey stop it... hahahah.. on point.
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INFJ T+, INFJ T, INFJ T- I grade myself on a curve đ
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100% I'm the Ambiverted INFJ. So many times I start smiling before the climax of someones story because I can guess what's about to happen. I've been called out on it a few timesđ .
Also guilty of this đ
Guilty of filling in other people 's sentences
YES I came here to say the same đ always laughing at jokes before the punchline đ
Same here
Welcome to the Club đđđđđ
If I'm the one in your shoes and the person telling is a girl "Cringes Expected" too as male package of being INFJ đđđđ
I always burst into laughter when you mention INFJs and the deep abstract stuff that's in our mind & our sense of responsibility to communicate it for the good of everyone else đ I mean, that's it đ never have I felt so good-humoredly understood
I believe all of these subgroups are within every INFJ. I just think the level of consciousness in the individual determines what traits are outwardly and inwardly expressed.
That moment when you feel that knowing your personality type is the best and worst thing that ever happened to you. Enlightening and confusing ...
for moi, is enlightening & condemning...lol
Timestamps for the 3 types:
2:18 Very Introverted
5:39 Ambivert
8:09 Extroverted
Thank you đ which one are you?
@@JESUSLOVESYOU219 You're welcome! I think I'm an ambivert (erring a bit more toward the introverted side). What about you?
Violet Moxley ohhh same here x
I think you can see & understand from your test results, there are percentages listed, my introvert and judging scores are almost 100 percent, 80 percent intuitive, while my thinking and feeling scores are almost the same or balanced, so sometimes my results are intj or infj đ€đ€đ€
Thank youuu
I'm very introverted infj. I could be home forever with my dogs and husband and kids only and be perfectly happy. I love my husband and kids and open up to them often, perhaps to their annoyance at times lol. I do like short superficial interactions with strangers, just enough to engage and them to smile while I run errands. Then I hurry back to my house in the country far enough away that I don't get pop-ins.
I love supermarket line conversations. Then I can leave!
I'm just a teenager but this is quite similar to what I imagined my future to be
Your examples are so spot on. I avoid big parties not because Iâm afraid to talk to people but because so much talk about the weather exhausts me...a lot! And I donât feel itâs worth it.
Because we're bored of talking about nothing.
You are the most likeable person on CZcams
have you met LiJo
That is because he plays as everyone
@@jj.jaypeg that's what us INFJ do lol
@@dotdashdotdash they once make a video together, it's on LiJo's channel
so why I am don't like how he talks? ;-;
I'm the second type and it annoys me as well! I don't want to interrupt others, I'm just trying to save everyone's time. (facepalming myself because of myself)
Me too. Especially if you are thinking of doing something different and important yet they are there telling you about something you know where is really heading
I get angry with myself because i don't wait and listen. Its like i have a talk show and i know all the answers. I have great friends btw.
Definitely an extroverted INFJ. I switched between all of these at different times, and I especially tend to get typed by 16 personalities as an INFP or ENFP because, as a concert pianist, I've been forced to develop my Se and Fi beyond where INFJs usually do in order to becone a better performer , but at the end of the day I'm at my best when I can rely on introverted intuition and create huge, weblike long-term plans and stories that often stretch over a long time frame, which is much closer to the combination of introverted intuition and thinking of the classic INTJ and INFJ.
I'm an ambivert nowadays. When was a kid I couldn't talk and felt like an alien to my classmates and had no friends. I thank my guitar playing for making me extroverted because people started to think that I'm cool and started talking to me
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Ambivert INFJ- Yeah Iâve definitely come off as irritating and aloof at times to other people. I always thought the not listening and skipping ahead thing was ADHD though. And here I find out I am just annoying đđ
I have ADHD friends and they tend to do that a lot. So I think it's definitely playing into it.
Same:)
I am kinda ambivert ENFJ, and when I read the INFJ details I was like, hold on, this isn't right, why is this one accurate as well.
Lol ambivert infj w adhd here too. I've always wondered abt type correlation w adhd, cool to see anotha homie
I'm INFJ with ADHD and it often gets into collision with my traits. I'm trying to be organized but it's too much for my brain.
"INFJs when they're really losing their mind about what's going wrong in their life, it's usually, like, some _thing_ is going haywire"
This is true for me on a spiritual level lol.
I RELATE!!
Yeah the subconcious Ni is going nuts like WTF IS HAPPENING - Whereas Fe is like EW sally is screwing everything haha
Yeah the subconcious Ni is going nuts like WTF IS HAPPENING - Whereas Fe is like EW sally is screwing everything haha
Yeah the subconcious Ni is going nuts like WTF IS HAPPENING - Whereas Fe is like EW sally is screwing everything haha
Does even an issue w a person become a THING? Is that why we get so upset? Ex: Dad dies of alcoholism...we go insane trying to figure out alcoholism? Or the emotionally unstable mind?
I grew up in a family of extroverts, and thought this was the way I should be as well. It was hard for me to distinguish between introversion and depression.
I can kinda âturn onâ the extroversion and play to be like really outgoing and caring and engaged in conversation and stuff but it really empties my battery to a point that I am unable to properly talk to anyone for a significant amount of time
> ambivert infjs are not the greatest listeners
> acts like they got everything under control
> acts like theyre smart
HAHAHAHAHAHA me
Same he just described me
Hehehe đ
Oh, so guilty of jumping ahead in conversations.
Aah this jus hurts cuz I think it might be true, pff Iâm still smart dafuq u guys talking about haha
Tracy Jekyll he said that and I literally turned to an invisible camera like đŹđ haha damn! I already know, but hate to hear it coming externally as well as just internally as usual haha itâs just so hard for me to listen through a whole shpeel with ppl when I friggen get it, just get to the point! And to be fair, itâs not necessarily an act when our intuition is usually right. Even before people realize it themselves! But who has the time to unscramble that type of insight to someone who would never understand. Itâs hard enough to unscramble it to myself!
Being a single, very introverted INFJ makes you think of dating like that horrible, terrible thing đ so much trouble and energy investment heeeelll no â°ïž
This is so me right now đ #selfpartnered
The absolute truth ..
They must date INFJs, much easier
Homer Jay Simpson Good ide! Thank you đ đ
Live Long and Prosper â
Jupp this is Me also! Feel you
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Iâm definitely the super introverted type INFJ, being social is exhausting. I would say that even though I donât use my extroverted feeling very often, if I have a reason to use it, I can use it well. Maybe thatâs just because I am constantly getting silent reads on everyone in the room, even if I never end up using those reads, which gives me the ability to use it when I want to.
This explains a lot. Iâm definitely the Ambivert because I always get almost 50% on the Extroversion factor for the Big 5. Also⊠heâs right, Iâm not a good listener but Iâm aware and working on it đ
I relate so much with the bad listener part. Everytime my sister starts telling a story and using so many unnecessary details and long explanations, I either get really antsy or just tune it out entirely.
Bethany Gardner honestly me with my parents đ©
Me too, always ask the person yes I got that , the key points plzzzđ
Oh my gosh! Yes! It is so annoying to me when a person goes on and on and I already got their point in the first few seconds and have my answer ready! Iâm just impatiently waiting to give my answer and wish they would shut up long enough to hear it!
Yea I like bullet points.
it happens to me when my brother speaks about his minecraft's quests
I was a very extraverted INFJ as a kid until I got bullied. At that time, I thought everyone were my friends and the hurt made me recoil inside my own mind. I've recently restarted being extroverted and opening myself back to the world.
I relate so strongly to this.
Same situation with me
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I feel like I'm not always a good listener because I've "gone into my head" about the subject, and am thinking about how the subject relates to me in my life, or past experiences on the subject, etc. It's not that I don't want to hear everything the other person has to say. When I can stay out of my head I am a good listener. đ
The one that fits me the most is the introverted INFJ. I definitely require a lot of alone time and would never consider myself an ambivert and most definitely not an extrovert.
I think infj's can evolve from more introverted to less introverted and with people they know well (and accept them as they are) be even very extroverted. Infj's need harmony around them to be able to open up. A very dominant and critical Sally (yeah, i know who she is cause i am an infjđ) can cause an infj to become very introverted i guess.. (it would be easier to explain this in my own language...đ€Ż)
I agree, Iâm an INFJ & a very guarded person but, Iâm open & bubbly if I trust you.
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Weâre interested in people and our problem isnât social anxiety as Frank was saying, itâs the overwhelming, draining information you get from being in social situations. If weâre not overwhelmed we enjoy company. So I guess with family and close friends we already know a lot about them, how theyâre likely to be feeling, this isnât coming at us as new information to read. Thatâs what Iâve assumed is the difference anyway.
Yes, this, exactly. Iâm super outgoing and boisterous with people I know well. But it takes forever to get to that point.
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Thats pretty INFJ
He has the look that's for sure. â„ïž
The eyes are always killing and ressurecting me like a thousand times throughout a short ~10 min. video
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His eyes are eyes...? I don't get it
@@mama_5830 Do you see the emojis? I think it's supposed to mean his eyes are very expressive.
I have went through the process from being extrovert INFJ to becoming introvert as I have aged. I still try to sit on my smart and hide it. I do believe I know where you are going a step ahead of you (really ruins TV and movies). I don't listen but am told by everyone I am a great listener. I fuzz into 4 spirals while trying to keep up with you.
There are many T people in my family and being smart with people doesn't hold a lot of ground. Now I have to hide that I know it all. I lost a lot of interest in people. Getting into plants. Trying to be positive cause it creates positive. Get time to myself as much as possible. I am exhausted. My mom tells me wait until you are old. I'm not 40 yet. I guess after 50 I will get a better appreciation for my S that I am losing.
Don't take me as down, I am the happiest I have been my entire life. I know it sounds negative. I learned I am enough just 2 years ago. I have young children who hold my heart. I'm proud of myself. I'm an addict but I am clean. I am not suicidal.
Oh kid you not I am finally happy. People pleasing almost killed me. I got a phone call while writing this, shifted focus and who knows where this started
Ok, thank you for your thoughts. As always I enjoy hearing about MBTI.
Hello! I just want to say that your channel has really helped me out!
I am an INFJ (realised from your video that Iâm most likely an ambiverted INFJ) and have taken a lot of tests and researched cognitive functions.
Lately, I believed that I may be an ENFJ instead as someone told me that Iâm quite extroverted and my Fe is very high. However, although I can speak to others if spoken to, I believe that Iâm really awkward and like to be alone (yet, ironically, I also feel pretty lonely and want people to like me - hah!)
But, Iâve realised that I tend to mirror the people around me. For instance, if people are very lively Iâll perk up a bit - if people are more quiet, I relax and tone down.
But, additionally, if there is someone a lot shyer than me, Iâll appear more extroverted because I donât want them to feel left out. Iâll quickly take on a motherly/caretaking role so that they feel included. I think thatâs because I hate feeling left out, so I make sure that they donât too.
I thought that because of this, I may be an ENFJ instead as I believed that INFJs are supposed to be quiet and introverted (which I am most of the time). But, this video made me realise that INFJs can fall onto a spectrum of introversion/extroversions.
Iâm sorry for my long message. I just really love your channel and your INFJ focused videos! Youâre really helping me to discover and learn about my type, which is really interesting.
Thank you! I hope you have a great day :)
Iâm the same as you.
Iâm a INFJ-T Heyoka Empath.
I'm extroverted in situations only because I don't want anyone to feel as awkward as I do. I spend all my energy looking for the wallflowers that are lonely because I can physically feel their angst and I have to take care of them. I try to make everyone happy and comfortable by adapting to their personality then I go home wired and exhausted. I spend my time wishing someone would want to know me but at the same time, I know I'll never give them the chance to see all of me, only small pieces and never the whole. I'm a contradiction in terms and it's exhausting. The blessing and the curse of an INFJ; absorbing the emotions of everyone around you and analyzing every single person you come in contact with. While everyone else is thinking what a nice person Timmy is, I'm seeing a kid that has been abused and is acting out in various ways and will become a serial killer in ten years.
fr though. for some reason i just cant seem to trust anyone i meet, even my 'close friends'. i give them bits and pieces of my life, never the whole thing. idk why but no one seems like they would understand or care and it just makes me feel better if i dont burden other people with issues im facing. but at the same time i feel shitty if they dont check up on me or realise that something is going on, because its so easy for me to tell if someone feels a bit off. so because of that i end up wanting someone who can see under the lines and i get upset if my friends dont. totally get my expectations up(completely my fault) and get dissapointed in the end. like TF is wrong with me, dont be wishy washy, stick to one thing. you cant have both. :(
Omg this is in all honesty one of the most relatable comment I've seen out here and it does make me feel a little relieved to know I'm not the only one feeling this way :and doing stuff like that :""D
I hate it when I'm in a group, peole are talking, there's a newbie and they're being left out!! I'm just the same - have to make the stranger feel
comfortable in a new situation, even if I'm in the same boat!!!
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Thank you!! Me too but hubby has been convinced for years that heâs an introvert and Iâm an extrovert because of this. Recently I said, dude youâre not an introvert and he reevaluated and came to the same conclusion as I have. Iâm also glad heâs talking about the bell curve. Iâm so tired of everyone thinking itâs one or the other. Itâs a sliding scale and can move throughout your life.
I come off extroverted to alot of people at first. Because I tend to be really loud and hyper with quiet people/introverts like me. But when people do get to know me, especially my friends, they start to realize I'm an introvert because they only see me like 2x a year. No joke, even before covid I've only met my bestfriend twice in 2019 LOL
I feel a little less strange, seeing someone behave so similar to how I do!
hahahahahhaha same gurl, same!!!
I'm like so guilty of being an annoying friend because I hate listening to unnecessary details but lately I've been trying to be a good listener
I could literally live on an island by myself and be very happy and never bored. On the other hand, I get irritated about planned social functions and get pissed when the day arrives. It's exhausting and I hate small talk with every fiber of my being. Most people don't get it...to the point where they take it personally (which, of course, is irritating as well). I gotta be me đ€
"Not good listeners"
That was the only thing I heard as I was reading the comments đ I feel so called out!
I think that there are more types of INFJ ... đ€divided not only by extroversion ... because I can find myself in all three groups, depending on the circumstances, the people I am with and the topic of conversation...and overall mood.
Mood! It matters so much!!
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We can adapt tho. I think when we asses the mood, we can adapt and be more extroverted.
Gotta remember that thereâs 7 billion people in the world and we are all different in our own unique ways
good, its not only me, but it confuses me.
I am an extroverted INFJ. What I can tell you is , it's a lot of masking and performing, followed by days of ghosting everyone. I will be in my room and not say word one to people, not answer my phone, email or have any human contact. I exhaust myself.
I have met so many people like me who love cars but don't drive. Why? It means interacting with road rage situations, and I don't like that sort of confrontation. I would just let everyone go first and then feel bad or worry constantly.
I know l creep people out. I actually figured out I was an INFJ after being told I was like Marilyn Manson in Betty Crockers body. Yes, he is an INFJ extrovert type as well.
The first one resonates with me but my bursts of extroverted feeling might make someone think otherwise. Like I'm an intj pragmatic jerk meets enfj touchy feely team player traincrash if that makes sense lol. Swinging back and forth before I hole up in my introverted intuition comfort zone again.
Everyone is surprised when I share that I am an introvert. They even argue with me lol I can be extroverted and do it well, but it has a time stamp
Same!
I'm very aware of that time stamp myself BtheLightas so as a result I've been working on social fillers for when I'm completely burnt-out. My favorite social filler is laughter alongside smiling. I'm not gonna say it's easy because when I'm exhausted I feel low-energy to the point where I need to take a nap đŽ but in those moments I make sure I become the best actor I can be in order to carry my weight as an adult in a social/professional environment. Filler laughs and smiles can be used every other sentence to show that you're interested in the conversation and that you're listening. If you have any questions lmk I have alot of game when it comes to this topic.
Does anyone else love the little laugh he does when he says something dangerously on point?
Iâm definitely the first type- the type of social anxiety that we feel is so true, the uncomfortable feeling we get comes from the draining of energy from being around so many people. I donât feel self-conscious, just completely drained by the presence of that many people
I do score 50% on the E-I scale on those Big 5 tests. I'm definitely an INFJ but most of my friends would insist to their last breath that I am an extravert. A lot of people familiar with Meyers-Briggs peg me as an ENFP. I fell for that myth myself for awhile but my decision-making paradigm only fits with INFJ. ...And you're right, I do the interrupting/bad-listener thing! (hides face in shame) I try to stop myself but am not always successful...
From what Iâve heard, INFJs can be like chameleons adapting to their surroundings. Iâve always felt that I was capable of blending in with different groups of people. Iâve never been in a room though and thought I was the smartest person in it lol. While Ni and Ti tend to be the functions I favor, my type of job makes me have to flex my SE so it isnât difficult to use. I would just prefer not to use it if the moment doesnât require it.
The chameleon thing...I've been accused of not having a personality because it just started running together like a sloppy rainbow.
I agree 100% for me it depends on my mood mostly
Agreed except secretly I typically see myself as a smartest person in the room.
I agree, I can also prepare, mentally, for an event with lots of people
Yeah, I've been calling myself a chameleon for years now.
"Once they start talking..they will hammer you over the head"
omg I'm so sorry to everyone I've ever talked to đđđđ
Now that you mentioned it, I felt bad to the people I converse with~ đ
Not me... Iâm the one listening for 20 minutes... seriously hurry tf up like talk so slow and I have work/life to do. Iâm super patient... to a point! đ
Yes I'd gone a long way from extroverted to introverted Infj and it's just another extreme, still not the middle field. Now I can't force myself going on dates at all or trusting people or of telling them about my unconventional plans as they judge anyway. I keep all to myself and can't get any sleep at night anymore because of overthinking.
I've always been either underestimated or judged wrong. I guess they thought they knew me
I think the analysis on ambiverted INFJâs in my case is spot on! For years Iâve been a confused about why some act so positively and they are mostly older people while others react the contrary to my personality. Watching myself closely, I realized, itâs because Iâm am not always a good and patient listeners. And it is not a good trait when you actually want ppl to be able to talk to you about themselves, I say communicate your feelings, they I kind of do the oppositeâŠ. But I have an INTJ at home to make me realize the benefits of finding a balance by reminding myself to not let myself become impatient just because, I kind of ârightfullyâ sense what is coming next. The ambiverted can balance between emotional feeling and logical thinking if he can stop feeling too much and focus a bit outside itâs comfort zone of âknowing it allâ, when it is blindsided by itâs own sometimes simingly âarrogantâ mindset đ
I recently noticed I interrupt people by coming with some weird analogy to tell them "I got you, I get it" and they are like: "yeah, well actually no but..." and I realized that's annoying. Now I try to listen all the way through and actually pay attention to what they are saying. I've forgot how to social during this quarantineđ
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"This is so much energy."
Yes.
"I'm gonna have to deal with so much random bullcrap coming at me."
Y E S .
Found which one I am.
Dude, all the time! I got this bs at work right now. I can read situations so fast its like yep...i see this is going south. Someone at work is intimidated by me cuz i was the quiet hard worker that nobody saw coming. Worked my way up and this chick is pissed cuz by not kissing ass i got where i needed to be. She resorted to saying straight to our boss i was talking shit about her. Funny thing was, all my coworkers tell me im too QUIET all the time and that im pretty much doing my job and not yackin. When my boss approached me with this crap i was very confused. She kept saying i hate her and i never said anything. All i said was, it would be nice if you would do your job instead of ditching me to do it for you and you kiss the bosses rear as im doing both our jobs. She started giving me dirt looks, literally finding more ways to avoid me, and she started saying shit to my boss who caught on what she was doing. Im literally waiting for the 2nd random wtf is going on with u two. I got to a point where i went full on shutdown. Stopped doing as much and wouldnt do her stuff, started getting defiant, and rly not talk to anyone or got snarky or sarcastic, or rebelling. Yaaaa. There were alot of unfairness towards me and once i throw down i had it, i got the oh your talking smack. So, can an infj be intimidating? Some say i am and some say im just a little teddybear. Odds be in their favor upon approaching. Lol but rly tho.
@@snoozebutton23 I think that since us INFJs don't say a whole lot all the time, when we do and we have something to say that's kind of blunt, everyone acts like it's a big deal when it's really not lol
Tfs wrong with u?
Itâs about time schools teach about personality types specially during the formative years of children.
As an introvert, I dreaded recitations and group works and raising hand even if I know the answer. People would say I am too passive and got scolded for it. I love to stay at the back. I would always want to arrive two minutes before the scheduled time and be the first to go.
Crowd is suffocating and everything happens too fast sometimes and the people around me talk too much that I would cease interaction.
I would often be misunderstood but thatâs fine because I cannot even understand myself đ
I love my friends, though. I would love to keep my circle small
We are like chameleons. We try so hard to understand people and create a good environment to feel accepted that, sometimes, to be fit in a place, we forget who we are.
I tested INFJ/ENFJ when I was 30 & was required to be MBTI tested for work. I have read that INFJs are the most extroverted of the introverts. Truly, I was much more extroverted when I was younger & had to be vivacious & cheerful (a variation of cool & attractive) in order to "fit in"; now that I'm older, I can say booger off to people & live like the hermit I was destined to be hahaha... but I AM writing the book that'll solve the world's problems.... đđ
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That is the most INFJ sentence I've ever heard... I'm intrigued
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This is the first time I've heard someone talk about extroverted INFJs and how we struggle with knowing who we truly are and it's super relieving to know I'm not alone in that feeling lol
As an INFJ, I have gone through these subtypes in different phases of my life. I remember reading how we develop our functions in order (Ni as a child, Fe as a teen, Ti mid twenties, Se mid thirties). My decades-long I/E swings seemed to have followed that progression.
What book did you read about INFJ?
I definitely know an extroverted INFJ in my personal life. The way I can tell is that he's very people-focused when he talks, has insanely high aspirations and can freak out over seemingly small things, but is still incredibly chit-chatty. I myself am on the ambiverted part of the spectrum, but it's incredibly hard to tell because I actually have anxiety
*this is a lot of extraverted sensing you're asking me to do, I'm not a fan* - my answer from now on to anyone trying to get me to participate in any social interaction whatsoever
SlavomĂra NemÄĂkovĂĄ too good
I thought the same. I will definitely be using that.
At first I was thinking that responding to this was too much in the way of extraverted sensing for me to do and then I thought, âno- I must validate these beings. They are my people. And together we can take a stand.â
Same. I hate it so much, just let me live in my head please, thanks.
SlavomĂra NemÄĂkovĂĄ this is my answer to every zoom meeting Iâm being asked to join......
I feel like I have went through all 3 types of these INFJs throughout my life, but definitely more ambiverted. People believe I am an extrovert, as I am social in public, but I prefer a lot of alone time to think and process.
exactly the same for me!
Thanks for clarifying, I've always come out as an INFJ on the tests etc but then have been left unsure as people have tried to tell me that I can't be as I'm "too extroverted". This has made so much sense to me to realise I'm an extroverted INFJ.
I mistyped myself as an Enfj for like 3 years. I went through an abusive childhood from a friend of the family who took me in after my parents died. So my INTJ sister-in-law made the astute observation that as a teen, I was introverted but I reached out to people to get love, acceptance and companionship from others because I was starved at home. I learned how to be more seemingly extroverted.
I am super introverted because I have a soft voice, the amount of energy it takes for me to raise my voice uuugh pass
Why is everyone so deaf? Do I need to yell for people to hear me? Like screw off, I can hear whispers.
Help me. Im surrounded by loud people and it drained me.
Same, same
So relatable.
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Iâm a more extroverted infj in that I crave new social experiences even if they arenât super easy or relaxing for me. If I only hang out with introverted friends I actually get frustrated because I then have to take on the role of the friend who convinces others to go out on the town with me, and if they finally agree they wonât dance they just stand as wallflowers. So I need extroverted friends too. A lot of people think Iâm extroverted when they meet me out somewhere, but I canât keep up the act for long đ
Same, that's why I have more extro friends
i can relate haha
You might like hanging out with a ENFJ. We're social butterflies who love being supportive. They'd try new stuff with you while also giving you space when you need it.
Thank You for punch me right between my eyes for showing I'm really annoyng because sometimes I just act like I have everything under my control instead of really listen to the others, and being more open to listen and to receive help for the others. Like, really! What I just loved about had found out that I'm an INFJ is that I'm more conscious about myself, so I can actually understand myself and work to improve myself more, and your channel has been a greeeeaaat helper for me! (Brazilian INFJ talking from here, Thank u for your help!) đ
I think I lean more into the first category, the super introverted kind of INFJ but will become extroverted when I need to be.
"I know what's going on here". This is one of my worst traits. Only in full adulthood have I figured out that I am actually a moron and that I often have no idea what's going on. So embarrassing. Sorry to everyone I knew earlier in life.
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Oh god I feel this. I recently went through a rather humbling period and am realizing just how often Iâm a moron. And then accepting that because perfectionism is a freaking disease
The reason why two people with the same type can seem different is because the human psyche depends on two things - nature and nurture. MBTI only tells us about the nature part.
What do you mean by nurture?
â@@post-humangod2575 One's upbringing, the environment they grew up in, and how they have ended up choosing how to act in different social situations based on their life experiences. Seriously recommend you to go to CSJ's channel and watch the first 2 seasons.
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@@Lucky-ed4pk give an example please.
Looks like comments containing CSJ's name won't be visible to anyone so I had to edit and abbreviate it lol. It's all good tho, he's just kinda controversial around here.
The super introverted INFJ is me as a child. But i think now i am more ambiverted. That "i know what you're gonna say" thing has gotten me into a lot of trouble. And people tell me i act like a smartass from far away and they're surprised i'm not like that when they get to know me.
I've already deduced I'm a social introvert INFJ, so you'll see me try to be social and connect with others, but I'm not the best at it. When it comes to gatherings, I'm just, the quiet one.
"stay cool and attractive" lol bold of you to assume I'm attractive in the first place
I'm an introvert, I enjoy going out with my friends. Im a normally loud guy when im around people im comfortable with. When im surrounded by strangers im quiet and keep to myself.
@@abrahambeadner7696 you sound like a dope guy
I always called it omnivert rather than ambivert, but thatâs exactly how I am⊠although I prefer to listen rather then do the âI know I know â thing you mentioned. I used to be the more extroverted with just a little introvertedness and then trauma changed my personality to be way more equal between the two. I feel introverted a lot now but if I donât get extroverted experiences I start to feel drained (too much is even more draining though). This is interesting to learn about the subcategories. My big struggle is I feel the need to communicate with people but am misunderstood so often that it makes me want to never talk again. Then I feel the need to communicate again and it becomes a vicious cycle. It seems like Iâm only really understood in writing but that doesnât help in the moment when Iâm socializing so Iâm not sure how to help the cycle stop.
Really enjoy hearing you talk, itâs so chill, fun and full of great info âșïž
When you talked about the extroverted/introverted INFJ, I laughed hardđ I wasnt sure what subtypes of INFJs were until you named them and then you mentioned the 2nd one and I was like Yep that's međ Seriously tho one thing, When we interrupt the speaker it's unintentional because we honestly know where this goes and we are not trying to act smart we are just trying to speed up the process that is taking place. And when I try to listen even tho I already know where this is going I get this boredom feeling that makes me want to change the subject. So Im kinda stuck with "Yeah, Okay I got it lemme explain it to you" interruption wayđđ
I think its important to realize though that you dont always know where its going and that no matter how confident you feel in your Ni, you owe the other person a sincere listening ear especially if you are initiating THEM to talk to YOU. Im more of an introverted infj and my cousin is more of an ambivert. If she can tell there is something wrong she'll proceed to ask me(typical infj needing to be the therapist and confidant which is absolutely fine), I'll start talking, she'll jump to conclusions, and because half the time her conclusions is actually nothing close to what im actually concerned about and because i hate being misunderstood i shut down. Then weeks later when she realizes what the actual problem was she gets mad at me for "being secretive" and "not letting her in". I've sort of decided to look for a listening ear elsewhere because being misunderstood is the bane of an infjs existence and when an infj thinks they are are right, there is no convincing them otherwise; they'll have to discover it for themselves which is why i dont try to talk over her and re explain myself when she jumps to conclusions because in her head her conclusion is absolute. I know i do this sometimes too when friends ask for advice and I've also been proved that my "hunches" are not always right. Ni works best when you actually take in all the information first. When i listen to everything that has to be said, only then am i creepily accurate at predicting what can/will happen.
If my friends needs to rant, the donât usually need me to actually listen and I tend to zone out. If they are asking for advice, I have to force myself not to disassociate. Human interaction is not my forte. But my friends like asking for advice. Itâs easier in a message because I can reread until Iâve gotten everything down and they got it all out in one go.
This is so me đđ I know itâs rude to assume and I can hold myself back, so most people think Iâm a good listener. But really my inner dialogue is coming up with ways to solve the other persons problems etc wondering why they canât see the obvious. But at the same time I can understand them and put myself in their shoes and empathise. But again at the same time I just wanna go back to thinking about myself and âwho cares about anyone elseâ but then I wanna help them but usually thatâs to boost my own ego? Ahhh I just contradict myself so much đ
i find it almost painful to listen to someone talk about what i already know
1000% yes. I don't interrupt people because I don't want to look like a know it all..i just see where it's going 5 seconds into the question and know how to tackle it. The faster i can address your concern the faster I can move onto the next concern. I always worry people get mad when I interrupt. I can't help it because I already know what you're thinking.
No doubt I'm an Amivert INFJ-A. Smack dab in the middle. Aka: outgoing loner.
same
literally me
Felt that, I have a small group of friends but we are always going out and having fun
@@andifone2484 same here. Got a small circle of buddies that enjoys hanging out.
I gotta say that your INFJ videos are the most enjoying to me on all of CZcams. I love your style, your mannerisms, the substantive info provided, your way of speaking, and your great sense of humor. WTG!