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🚨 HOLD ON TO YOUR HEARTS, FOLKS! 🚨 It's your girl, Charlotte Dobre, and today we're diving headfirst into the world of ultimate betrayal - the kind that could rival a Shakespearean drama, but with more emojis and less poetic soliloquies. 😱💔
🤯 Picture this: Two peas in a pod, BFFs for life, but guess what? The plot thickens, my friends! In today's rollercoaster of emotions, we're exploring the jaw-dropping phenomenon of best friend betrayals that will make your trust issues go through the roof! 🎢🤦♀️
🕵️♀️ Join me as we dissect the juicy details, the clandestine whispers, and the not-so-secret sabotage that turned these friendship fairy tales into twisted tales of treachery. Because who needs enemies when you've got a best friend with a secret agenda? 😏🔍
👀 We'll be spilling the tea on those clandestine text messages, the backstabbing brunches, and the epic betrayals that will have you questioning whether you ever truly knew your ride-or-die. Spoiler alert: Not all friendships are made to withstand the storm! ☕🐍
💅 Oh honey, we're talking drama levels that could rival a reality show. From stolen boyfriends to secret side hustles, these BFFs redefine the meaning of "frenemy." Grab your snacks, sit back, and prepare to have your jaw hit the floor! 😱🍿
👯♀️ But fear not, my darlings! In the midst of the wreckage, we'll uncover the silver linings - the lessons learned, the hilarious revenge plots, and the newfound friendships that rose from the ashes. Because nothing says "I'll show you" like success after betrayal! 💪🌈
👉 So, hit that subscribe button, grab your emotional support snacks, and join me, Charlotte Dobre, on this wild journey through the dark and twisty world of best friend betrayals. It's time to spill the tea, spill the truth, and spill some laughs along the way!
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I truly believe that if a person treats you horribly and your friends are okay with hanging out with them, they are not your friends
💯 💶 💯 💶 💯
My ex husband did this w a couple who treated me horribly. I told him it wasn't ok to choose them over me. 'I came home to you, not them!'
😒 so not the same thing!
what’s that phrase? When people show you who they are believe them?
It’s sort of like if your friends defend someone cheating or protects a cheater.. they’re likely cheaters lol
It took awhile to realize this unfortunately my best friend was talking bad about me with an ex and I thought we could get over this and she promised to do better. I realized I was wrong because she never did and it opened my eyes that our friendship was very one sided. I had to end a 17 year friendship and it was very difficult but she dropped me pretty quickly.
Learned that the hard way. I was so scared of not having friends and convinced myself they could change, that they would change. That their friendship meant as much to me as it did to them. We were friends for 16 years. I married one of them. My best friends wife and my wife were cheating with each other. 16 yr. ex best friend one and didn't tell me. It was a horrible mess.
Thank goodness for the divorce and my current fiance who opened my eyes.
That pesto girl will never hear the end of it. 😂
Seriously 😅... But I hope she enjoys all the weird stories 😂
@@radhikapatil1986 I read on her TikTok that she loves the Suzi Pesto stories. Heheheh!
Right?! Let the poor girl live 😂
😅😅 I thought the same thing! It's more like a play off of her than a dis'. She should be ok.😂
I hope she’s embracing it! She need to come up with her own store bought pesto crazy story!
I had a friend who's response to me getting married was, "I don't get it...I've dated way more than you have". So...yeah. having friends like that is great💁🏼♀️
😂you should have clapped back saying yeah that's why you "don't get it" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
** P.s. that's not a friend, she's just a witch who isn't any good for you. The kind that cheers at your downfalls, but not when you're winning.
When i got married I had male friends that just completely stopped talking to me. Guess they weren't really my friends.
Should have told her, “I’m quality over quantity “
That is just…. Like what a crazy thing to say 😭😭😭😭😭
Ugh, try having a sister like that!
“You can’t be friends with someone who is jealous of you.” Whew girl. That cut deep with the facts.
Took me actually years to figure out that someone I regarded as a good friend, was so jealous of me that she would visit with my mother (knowing I was at work at the time) and tell stories to cause trouble (when we were teenagers). I actually find jealousy to be wasted focus. It's the one time one should focus on oneself, and improve.
"Men wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean a thing. You might as well be a pie." MORE FACTS!
Unless they grow from it idk
I know this. I have my FAMILY MEMBER to confront. (Not saying names or if sibling or not)
@@niamphdollieofficial She never changed. I let her go.
Maya Angelou- a queen in her own right said it! And the first girl quoted it - "When people show you who they are, believe them."
Yessssss!
Actually she said "believe them the 1st time"... which hits even closer to home :-(
@@martagasowska6772 Amen and preach it louder to the people in the back!
I had a best friend since high school. She'd go to parties but would invite everyone but me. She met this guy that beat her up and called me scared and crying. I asked where she was so I could go get her but she wouldn't tell me. I didn't hear from her for like 7 years and then she called me out of the blue. Turned out that she married the guy and she didn't invite me o the wedding because he still neat her and she even had two black eyes at her wedding. She knew if she invited me that there wouldn't have been a wedding and he never would've had kids. They had two kids before finally getting divorced. I had two kids. They grew up best friends for years. If my friend was sick, I'd go over and clean her house, cook her and her kids dinner, took care of her and her kids. We would go out drinking with another girl all the time. I was invited as the DUFF but I didn't care because I was married anyway and don't believe in cheating. I would always be the body guard if some guy came around and bothered them and they wanted him to go away. I had a not so suttle way of making them leave and not come back. I ended up being hurt in a tornado and eventually became disabled from it with chronic pain 24/7. My husband who was a very abusive narcissist in every way but physically and was a chronic cheater. He ended up leaving me for his last girlfriend saying he didn't want to be strapped to an invalid for the rest of his life. I was not and am not an invalid. I was like Supermom and did everything for everybody and cooked and cleaned and took care of everything. The reason he said it was because he had to make dinner twice in 4 years because I was in too much pain after doing everything else that I just had to go to bed, take my pain meds and cry. Anyway, I tried to lean on my best friend for moral support. I either used two canes to walk or used my wheelchair. Instead of helping me like I always helped her, she told me she couldn't be my friend anymore because my being disabled was too painful for her. What?!?! I later figured it out. It wasn't my disability, it was the fact that others seeing me walk with two canes or seeing me in a wheelchair would distract others from looking at her and giving her all of the attention. BTW I'm a very strong empath and she was a very strong narcissist. Also, I've had 5 relationships in my life, and all of them were abusive narcissists but only one was physically abusive as well. As an empath, narcissists are all I attract so I've given up on dating. As for friends, it's the same thing. They were all narcissists. One friend was verbally, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive. She wanted me to be her DUFF, but I refused. It turned out that I was smarter than she was even though she had a college degree (I have ASD), I was prettier than she was, and she was fatter than I was so she screamed at me, berated me, put me down, and tried to correct everything I said even though I was right and when I proved I was right she still refused to admit it. She even told my ex-husband who she used to work with and hit on (who knows, he may have cheated on me with her, but she was always jealous of me) that I made porn with my boyfriend. I didn't make porn with him in 21 years of marriage so why would I suddenly do it with my boyfriend? I finally had enough of it and told her exactly what kind of person she was to me and how abusive she was to her daughter. She didn't take it well. Her daughter tried to threaten me because she was a Marine. I told her to bring it because I told her the truth. My daughter backed up everything I said too. Her daughter was so beaten down when she was hanging out with my daughter that she was afraid to say anything for fear thar she'd get screamed at or beaten. I had witnessed her doing both and so did my daughter. She only had two ways of talking...calm and screaming. There was never just raising her voice a bit. I think she was Bipolar. My boyfriend who she introduced me to was Bipolar as well. They had a thing before me so again...jealous. I'm not sure why. He was a horrible boyfriend. She was thrilled when I broke up with him though. Her daughter never brought it which even though she was a Marine and I had chronic pain 24/7, I still would've knocked her out. I knew how tough she wasn't and I'm very surprised that she even made it through basic training because she was so wimpy and cried if she bumped her toe...not stubbed, just bumped. Anyway, I gave up friends for the same reason I gave up dating...the abusive narcissists bled me dry. I tried dating again after not dating for over 16 years, I got the 5th abusive narcissist so I gave up. Not one of the 5 ever loved me. Abusive narcissists can only love one person...themselves. They're tricky, they pretend to be nice and sweet and innocent to draw you in for a little bit and then they become who they really are. As an empath, I think I can change them back so I end up staying way too long. I will probably die never having been loved by anyone because I'm too afraid to trust anyone again. As for friends, I don't trust them either. I was burned too many times. So why try? All they want is my energy and I need all I have to get me through the pain every day. It would be nice to be friends with another empath though so we could feed off of each other's energy when we needed it, but with my luck, it would be a narcissist disguised as an empath. I had a few of those too. I've been abused since birth, I don't need any more.
Yes, many people have said that over the hundreds of years...I believe even Shakespeare said it as well.
Yes, it's true. People will let you know what they are about, including telling you outright.
These are good examples of "Don't cross oceans for people who wouldn't jump a puddle for you".
I am trying to teach my daughter this right now, and it is so hard! I told her she shouldn't feel the need to run to keep up with a friend who won't stop and wait for her. 😢
@OctobersDaughter I get you, I have twin 13 year olds and they have huge hearts that keep getting broken. I tell them never to regret giving love and friendship but they should also have a line that they won't cross and won't allow others to cross. If a friend violates those boundaries, then you know it's time to let them grow away from you. We all have to bloom where we are planted, if your friend turns out to be a weed then get em out before they start stealing the nutrients you need to live!
@Wwydn Oh, I absolutely love that! I hope you don't mind me sharing that with my daughter! She is also 13 🥰 it's great that you have twins. They will always have each other which is wonderful! I also have an 11 year old son, and I hope my two stay close as they grow up because a sibling bond is such an important thing!
@OctobersDaughter feel free to share with her! I agree, I always tell the girls that nothing should ever be allowed to come between them, that is their soul mate, their partner against the world and they should put their bond above all others, even us. Wombmates for life!
@@Wwydn THIS 👏🏽
When bestie #3 was so ready to go and defend I KNEW
Me too, she wanted to fight for herself
dude i had NOO idea!
@@yolandaogimfr
I thought it was odd
Omm the ones who go the hardest way to hard are ALWAYSSSSSS the ones to watch out for
After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would.
He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day.
I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision.
25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old.
💝 💐
I was in a DV situation many years ago. He also slept with a bunch of my "friends," and when it was over my best friend (a guy) chose him over me. So when I left I lost my best friend, all of my girlfriends, and my main relationship. I basically lost everyone, because of 1 guy who was putting his hands on me inappropriately out of anger. It sucked but I got through it. People can be so disloyal while expecting you to have their backs.
I'm so sorry that is so horrible. But I am glad they showed you they weren't really your friends so that you hopefully could devote your time to the people who actually have your back. It was nothing this serious but I was kind of serially used by a lot of my friends in high-school and it hurt learning how little I meant to them when we weren't face to face but my college friends showed me a lot about what true friendship is and having each other's back. I only still talk to like 2 people from high school that were genuine friends. I hope you have a good support system now
@@abbiesmith9065 I do I am surrounded by good drs. and my husband who I will have been with 18 years this May, always has my back. Sorry, you went through the disloyalty in HS, and glad you have some friends now you can trust.
That's horrible, and rough, but that shows they weren't true friends to begin with! They did you a favor! Eff em all. Lol.
The trash just took itself out sister. Happy that you're over it now ❤
Ugh, how awful. That’s why they say “when someone shows you who they are, believe them” they weren’t your people and I hope you find your real tribe. A small circle is better than the wrong circle.
I love it when Charlotte goes heavy listening mode and just screams out of nowhere 😂
Same, it makes me laugh so hard!!!
I no and the side eye!!
Me too. Her reactions are the best😂
Her face when she’s so transfixed and then it hits her and you can see the transition from intense listen, to processing, to the yell from the audacity.
@@solene2014 Ils adorent quand Charlotte passe d'une écoute sérieuse et intense, puis crie de nulle part lol! 😂💋🦄
All these toxic friend groups make me very grateful that my friends are very low drama and can still hang out around each other, even the ones who used to date and have since broken up.
One of my best friends is my ex's baby momma. We bonded over what he put us both though. I love having female friends, but finding one that's low drama is like winning the lottery. I'll cherish the few that I have. ❤
@@WhitneySt0rmy we should definitely treasure friends who are low drama 😊
Audible GASP when I heard bestie number 3! OMG
Saaame! By the way that gasping emoji is awesome!!
Charlotte praising the use of emojis in the story like giving feedback after a presentation in school. xD
“I liked that you used pictures.”
Virgo energy haha
You would actually feel like a time-warp happen on the earth because of how fast I would tell my bestie the truth of her being betrayed. If we are “best friends,” that holds real meaning for me.
Agreed. Either they’re just casual friends you don’t bother to get involved in the drama or it’s your actual best friend and your ride or die
Yep. As soon as I found out, I'd tell her
This. There seems to be a lot of people who think if someone is *cool* or they never had a problem with them, even if they've been proven to be untrustworthy it's ok to be friends with them. They could be a creep, chronic liar, cheater or whatever and that will still be the excuse. Like wtf? I don't get that.
I think that everyone in your friendship should not only know about said person, and that no one who is your friend would be friends with them knowing your history.
THIS!! YES!! 10000000% agreed. That's not a real friend without a doubt. Best friend for me isn't just some thing that can be turned on and off. If you're my best friend. That is a big deal for me. My best friend is the sister I never had. Been best friends going on a decade and trust her with the life of not just myself but my miracle of a daughter. Because time and time again she has shown how much she is truly there for me. I am VERY blessed in that sense. Best wishes to you and yours!!💖
After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would.
He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day.
I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision.
25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old.
💝 💐
wow this is crazy similar to my lifelong (37 yrs) friendship with my bf. Once you see how much they took advantage, the memories start flooding in and you can't pretend they are decent people anymore
I found out from a friend that people have been talking crap about me behind my back. She only mentioned this after I was gonna hit her with some news relating to that. I had no clue people were talking about me and turns out she already knew about my news. She never came to me before to tell me what she knows. I asked her ofc who told her and who is saying what about me. The moment she said I can't say and refused to tell me anything, I knew her loyalty ain't with me.
My “bff” left me during the darkest period of my life. Was willing to leave me and my son (a newborn at the time) homeless despite her living at my apt for months while not even needing to and slept with all my ex’s. That was an enemy
Oh my God hun. I’m so sorry you went through that. I am so loyal but never find friends that repay me the same so I just end up hurt. It sucks.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing much better. God bless 🙏🏼🤍
WTF?? 😟😳
Thats what best friends are for. 😢 ppl suck
'You cannot be friends with a girl who is jealous of you' and 'You can't be friends with a boy-crazy woman'. Preach! God knows I learned this the hard way, and got burned and betrayed. Thanks for your sprinkles of wisdom in all your videos, Charlotte ❤ Love getting my Charlotte fix!
Yes 10000%!!!
Exactly. They just stay monitoring and trying to copy your life 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am currently working on removing the narcissists in my life who feed off my empathy and my god its a hard pill to swallow because if you're used to people love bombing and then taking advantage of you, its usually everyone around you. Growing away from the cycle and learning self care is initially isolating and depressing. Pushing through that to find the right people was and is HARD.
Good for you!!!! You can do it!!!
You can do it. All the worthwhile stuff is HARD! You are an incredible multidimensional being and You will get through this. You are already learning and this narcissist is a lesson for you. Narcissism is behavior. Have empathy and walk away. Most people don't learn and just keep going back for more. This person will teach you so much and when you are done learning the healing is easy. Discover you and your truth by going inward. Don't focus for long on his behavior. Learn why you are seeking this for yourself and then the healing comes easier and much faster. You already know this person isn't good for you. Trust your instincts. Learn and move on. It's why we're here. Don't beat yourself up. You're learning and you will be amazed when it's over at how strong you are. Most people don't make it this far....you got this. ✨🫶✨
There's video tutorials on CZcams about how to do this
Lost my childhood best friend a few days ago myself, so watching this video has helped me feel a bit better about writing the entire friendship off! We were living together and there was an accidental fire at the rental house (base board wall heater got too hot and caught the floor mat and other stuff in the bathroom on fire- 70's style old house), scary incident which I was still in the house rescuing all the pets while she scampered off in the morning. But she totally bailed on me. Pretty sure she turned the temp up in the bathroom before leaving since I never put it that high, and I was still asleep when the fire occurred. She had the nerve to blame me for the fire accident, and demanded money compensation as well as "extra" compensation for the inconvenience I caused her... She even wanted me to apologize to her regarding the fire when I didn't cause it, nor did she have any concerns about me or the animals who were in the house when it happened. For the record her stuff wasn't touched by the fire beyond a light dusting of ash, whereas furniture I bought and other momentos were ruined. She didn't even tell me she was moving out, heard it from my landlord, she was ghosting all texts and only messaged me about her new money demands and time frame to have money by. Just love when your (now ex)"bestie" bails on you and doesn't care about anyone other than themselves~
How could you ever keep something horrible from your “best friends”? The *SECOND* I found out, I’d be on the phone with mine, spilling it all! No one wants lukewarm tea. 😂
Not even God likes lukewarm!
You can feel envy, like "oh I wish I had this", and it's fine if it's a feeling and a thought and you can deal with it and move on. It happens, when your bestie has a better job and money, or a good relationship and you are single - it's natural. As long as those feelings don't consume you and there's no resentment it's fine. Jelaousy is a bit more tricky, because it grows from the "I should have it", not from "I wish", and it pushes people into dark, dark places.
Well said, I was thinking that if I don't feel like my friends have things I want then are they really having a good life? Like the alternative is looking down on them, lol. But, I think I am confusing admiration and jealousy.
@@melodymastache3401 I think a way to tell the difference is admiration is seeing someone have what you want and you being inspired to lift yourself and meet them at their level. Jealousy is wanting what they have by pulling them down and taking what is already theirs.
My cousin was my best friend, I was so naive as a kid till probably 17-ish. My cousin (Steph) was so jealous of my body, hated how pretty I looked, which I was so insecure of. She would talk about my body in front of me to her boyfriends, which made me feel weird. I was like a lost puppy to her. She showed me her true self. I hate her so much for manipulating me so much. She is family sadly. I'm so thankful for my friends who helped me see everything she did to me, and made me realize it all. I haven't talked to her for a while. My depression is bad but my insecurities are no more.
One time, my best friend (at the time) and I went on a girl's trip to Miami with my mom and my mom's best friend. From the moment we landed, this girl took over and tried to make the entire trip about her-to the point where my mom/mom's best friend were giving her the side eye and didn't even want to be around her.
So, on our last night there, she and I decided to just walk around downtown Miami-find a nice place to eat, then maybe hit a club or something.
After roaming around for a bit, we stumbled across this really cute restaurant, and decided we'd eat there...and here's when the bs started: We got sat, the host handed us our menus and, to our surprise, there were *no prices.* Like, at all. From the wine, to the cocktails, to the apps, to the entrees-we had no idea of what any of these items cost. Sounds dumb now, but we were too embarrassed to ask about pricing; didn't want to seem broke, I guess (which we were lol, we both had maybe like $150 left to our name). So, in our minds, we'd play it safe by ordering a glass of wine each, and share 2 apps.
After we were finished, our server dropped the bill and it was $102. This girl literally looked at bill and scream-whispered, "I've got a plan, I'm gonna get up and go to the bathroom-wait for like 2 minutes, then pretend you're going to the bathroom as well... then we'll just sneak out the door." I'm no saint, but there's no way I'd ever walk a tab. I've been in the service industry for a number of years-so has she-and that's like one of the worst things to be on the receiving end of. So, I told her no...like we're not going to do that. She goes, "Well, if you want to sit here and pay for the bill, that's on you. I'm leaving."
Do you know this trick actually got up and left me! I had to pay that entire bill, plus I left at 20% tip, because that's what I always do-I'm not going to leave a crappy tip just because I'm low on funds-so, it came out to like $120 something. Mind you, I only had $150 to my name.
When I finally caught up with her outside, she was wayyyy down the street, flirting with some random dudes. I confronted her and basically told her that she needed to give me half of what I paid. She said, "Why? I told you what the plan was-you didn't follow it, sounds like a personal problem." When I tell you, I was *seething.*
And that's not where it ended. Later on, we got in a screaming match in the hotel lobby, which ended our friendship, over something else she wound up doing that night.
Let's just say, the flight home was verrryyyy awkward 😬
Hows her life now?
I had a "best" friend in my adult years who was jealous of me. It was stupid because she had a lot of wonderful things going on in her life. She would take opportunity to set me up to get hurt or embarrassed. I had people thinking twice about who I was. Needless to say, I removed her from my life and never looked back. 😊😊😊
I wonder if beneath the jealousy in them, lies the unpalatable truth that they are not meeting their own best potential? At the base level of all poor self esteem hides the realization that they could be better, if they do better, but it's all too hard, and the friend they are jealous of makes it all look so easy. They're very superficial in their thinking, if they think it out at all. I've had a similar experience to you, and thought "seriously, we're practically old, should be past all that dumb high school telling tales stage and backstabbing". I said goodbye and haven't spoken to her since. All because of jealousy, which honestly, I couldn't comprehend why. If you see someone "ahead" of you in some way, work to make the gap smaller or focus on your own weaknesses, remedy things. Find out how they did it lol. Pick their brains, not nitpick.
@@Kayenne54 I love that. Great insight. We all have attributes that others wish for, as we wish for them too. Use that as a radar for yourself to make yourself a better person. There’s no need for jealousy, that only puts obstacles in our way. Obstacles of our own making. Thank you Kayenne for responding. Have a blessed day.
It probably wasn't material things. Some people will be jealous of your kindness, the way others relate to you, your confidence etc. There's a saying...Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.
@@Curvesohyeah 🤣🤣🤣 that sounds about right. Thank you for sharing. 😉
@@Curvesohyeah Your last sentence is what I've reluctantly come to observe. The more someone "instantly" dislikes me, the more I have found out that they are in some way, falling short of their own spiritual/moral goals. I'm not coming from some high and mighty Mt Olympus view point; I'm down here in the mud with everyone else, plodding onwards, and sometimes even upwards. But invariably, if I'm met with unwarranted hostility (I haven't set out to offend, or have nasty intentions), it is because they are hiding something ABOUT THEMSELVES from themselves, and I am somehow acting as an unwelcome mirror. Which, for someone who carries the two-edged sword of empathy, makes for lots of relationship juggling. It's not my job to make them face anything. It's their own task. Unless they ask.
In college I was sent flowers anonymously for Valentines. My best friend at the time insisted that the flowers could only have come from my brother, who was 19, poor, and living in a foreign country at that time! She had never been sent flowers so I feel like she was threatened that I got some. We aren’t friends anymore. Not because of the flowers, but largely due to similar behavior from her. Luckily, I have found some much better friends.
mann idk how people are like this!! i been single for almost a year with no action and i kid you not my best friend told me thursday that she was single and she got a sweet guy buying her flowers already!! i was so excited i swear i started worshiping her rizz 😂😂
@@twocathome399it might not be "rizz" though if ya know what I mean. 😉 She might just be a "304". JS.
@@user-sn3ek4vj2jthe obsession with women being 304s is ridiculous. Can women breath without being one. Yikes a girl can even get flowers. Grow up
Who sent the flowers?!? It’s like you told only half a story, I need to know! 😆
@@Glowrollerdisco I never did find out. There was no name on the card and no one ever said anything to me.
The second girl...omg, it just kept going and going. I was like NOOO, how?!
I can confirm that *multiple times*, even when we called ahead and told them we would be travelling and they'd start to see weird charges, that our card has been locked without our permission while travelling. We have a backup card for exactly this reason because when you need gas in the middle of an interstate at 2am, you seriously do not have time to sit on the phone with fraud protection that's not even open yet to get it unlocked so you can keep going. Like, thank you for protecting me, but maybe not from myself? When I put a notice it was gonna be me?
Story 1: My grace for Bestie 1 was "She hasn't told you yet? I told her I'd give her a little bit of time to woman up."
That ended when Bestie 1 & 5 didn't dump those POS!
Same, but i slightly wonder how much bestie 5 knew
Bestie #1 was conflicted. I am sure.
Naw. If that's your bestie fr she's supposed to take action, not feel conflicted.
The BEST REVENGE is living well. I hope the narcissistic friend keeps hearing about how well the empathetic friend is doing for the rest of her friendless life.
she has a channel with her sweet British husband!!!!
This is why I keep to my self, I'm 43 and NO friends. I get lonely sometimes but I pray and my best friend listens to me everytime I speak to him and that is God 🙏
Late 30s.. I have two legit friends and they’re online only. I understand and sympathize for the loneliness at times. God bless!
@@Jenny_Rose_ 🙏💜🙏 same to you love 🙏💜🙏
Amen to that!
@@tswain92_ 🙏🙏🙏🙏 amen 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
That last one, she was in love with you/obsessed which is why she was pushing everyone else away and trying to get you out of any relationships you were in.
100000%. I know a girl like that. She did the exact same thing lmao.
I'm with you Charlotte, the older I get the smaller my friend circle gets too! I have no time or patients to be dealing with fake friendships.
I literally cut off my best friend of 15 years. I'm 33 now. I am an empath. Her and I have been through SO MUCH through out the years. I was always the one taking the blame, and the heat. I was ALWAYS the one apologizing. The last straw was when she got back with someone a few years ago, who was involved with a huge part of my PTSD 12 years ago. I heard her out, and I tried so hard to be her partners friend FIR HER, but I just couldn't. Not only that, but she had the audacity to call me two faced about it, minimized my trauma and experience, not taking one ounce of responsibility for a single thing. 3 years ago she blocked me after cutting me with every word she could. Last month she asked a mutual friend for my number. I allowed it, thinking she grew up. Nope. She immediately went into her manipulation and gas lighting me. Not one apology. Even told me she just wants the "old me" back. I told her, I have grown so much. And if she's looking for the old me, she no longer exists. I was willing to extend my friendship to her and her alone. I was able to forgive her partner, for myself. But I DO NOT have to be friends with someone who heavily participated in my trauma. Take it or leave it. And she continued to tell me setting boundaries is bullcrap cause she never did with me. At that point I said, have a nice life. And blocked her. I'm a healed/still healing version of myself. I refuse to be walked on anymore. I guess you could say I'm in my Villan Era. And I no longer care what others think about their version of me. I Let them carry on with their delulu.
❤️💪🏾
I’m so happy for you. One tip from a fellow empath to another..keep saying what you mean and mean what you say. People will never respect you if you don’t set boundaries. You don’t lose a friend by setting boundaries, you lose dead weight.
@carolynmcdonald2746 oh yes, I most definately know half of setting the boundary is holding it. Thanks for the encouragement. It's taken me a LONG time to get to this level of confidence and belief in myself. It's an amazing feeling to know your worth, and when your able to start really seeing it, you start truly seeing who not only doesn't see it, but doesn't value it. Ive put in a solid year of therapy and addressing my BPD. I've made so much inner growth. Onto of that mental growth, I've lost SO MUCH weight and have started becoming a healthier better version of myself. I planted a seed within myself a year and a half ago, called love. And I was so kind to the seed. I nurtured it. And now I can see who is for me, and who isn't. At least a whole lot better then I used to.
I know the feeling exactly
@@shayecastellano5483 that’s awesome…again I’m so happy for you
I do not have friends any more and I am much happier for it. I always say I am friendly towards everybody, I am friends with no-one.
I also don't have friends anymore, although I am unhappy. I still have my freedom, but I don't take betrayal well and I am NOT a peaceful lady.
Smh,that poor girl, I can't imagine having "friends" like that. I'm still best friends with my childhood best friends, one time back in school, one of my Bestie's Boyfriend (we all hung out so I guess he thought I was his friend) told me about cheating on my bestie. I wasted NO TIME & told her as soon as i saw her again that day. We still laugh that he ever thought that I wouldn't tell her, like what?? Needless to say she broke up with him. They both live farther away now but we still have our msg group with all three of us. Been Bestie's for over 20 yrs now!
There is a huge difference between EMPATH and PUSHOVER !! 💯
True... I'm an empath too, but as soon as I felt taken for a ride by former friends... I was like, "cool, have a nice life" and that was the end of it. I'm not sorry I was friends with them, cause I learnt stuff and grew as a person, but yeah. As an empath, you do tend to attract some real selfish people... and I don't mean in the material way. Nor does it stop at just friends... family too.
@@m0t0b33 same.
Wrong. Most empaths are pushovers. You are actually an anomaly if you’re an empath and not pushed over. Anytime someone uses the 100 emoji, I assume they’re slow
@@yeahumad6085 you can be empathetic and still honour your boundaries. So, no you are completely wrong.
@@yeahumad6085 any time someone judges another person's intelligence by what emojis they use, I assume their IQ is so low they wouldn't know real intelligent conversation if it bit them by the balls
I’m sorry to the last girl and… I needed to see this because it helped me see how awful a friendship I was in was. Thanks for your courage sharing because this happened to me, too. Even though I know it was awful and I was abused, I stillll sometimes blame myself and get upset with myself and call myself awful things when I see her🤦🏻♀️
Same I felt that story so strong
I wish you both healing, comfort, strength, support, Light, Hope, & Peace.
You both deserve better than people who betray, use, & exploit you. ❤️
Me and my parents didn't go on holiday either. It wasn't affordable for 3 people. And when I was 16 I said to them. "I'm gonna go to spain with the church youthgroup then you can go on holiday by yourselves." They were hesitant at first and I've never told them I had a miserable time at church camp.
I'm honestly so sorry, that was selfless of you
I feel so happy for the last girl, I recently got rid of someone toxic too and in the beginning it felt so weird I didn't know how to go about it, but now... I'M FREE!!! 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤ CHEERS TO ALL OF US EMPATHS GETTING OVER A TOXIC NARCISSIST!!! 🍻🥂
A friendship IS a type of relationship. Friendships can be toxic, too.
Moral of the stories: find friends with morals
“ it’s you or the pie 🥧 “ sent me 😂 too real
Got sucked in for years in a 'bestie' relationship. Looking back, I still can't believe I didn't see the major red flags! It's not easy for the people who actually care about you to witness this. Thank you to all of you brave enough to share. Maybe someday I'll share when I'm ready but for now let's have each other's backs!
Thanks to so many for making me feel better about the fact that my so-called bestie (beastie) was a total POS.
Girl!! Your editors crack me up with those tib bits that pop-up with the sound effects! LOVE IT!!!
As the great Maya Angelou once said, "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time."
I had a female friend who I introduced to a group of my gay friends to build bridges and while in said group they not only turned her against me but then when an ex of mine moved back into town, one of them apparently hooked up with my ex and i didnt find out until the group broke up due to similar drama. Lesson learned: keep your friend group small and tight with trustworthy people.
I'd also suggest that if you belong to multiple friend groups that don't know each other, avoid mingling them together. You'll start as the common denominator, but could end up the odd one out. It helps a lot because if you get tired of one group's drama, you can take a break and hang out with different people.
I was unfortunately one of those people who tried to be friends with someone who was jealous of me. They treated me awful and I kept blowing it off. I realized after two months that no one was my friends. I was constantly being excluded
My days are instantly made better when there's a petty queen video.
It's stories like these that make my social anxiety feel like a positive curse for once.
Much love from London 🇬🇧
My peer group are mostly in our 50s 60s some 70s some 40s, and while it's less common when we're older (more of us die 😆) it does still happen.
But we're also more upfront about calling people out on their crap, and being more supportive of each other. Women have to treat each other better, because if we don't demand it from ourselves, no one else will treat us with respect.
I literally had a friend in school who started dating an ex of mine as soon as we broke up. She told everyone she could that he thought I was as ugly as a dog. She laughed when I confronted her and said, “oh it’s just a joke. It’s not that deep, but I thought it was hilarious.” I was like “i hope he was worth our friendship.” She rolled her eyes and I walked off. Never spoke to her again. She tried getting a hold of me on Facebook years later and I added her only to block and delete her lol. I don’t need that in my life
some of my absolute worst experiences post high school /in early 20s we’re exactly these kind of dilemmas. a jealous friend who tries to turn others against you, a toxic friend group that caused me to lose the person i thought was a real friend but didn’t back me up when she knew how the others had treated me… it’s crazy how petty and toxic grown adults are. honestly worse than middle schoolers lol
Not extreme to cut out people who betray or undermine you. It's self care and realizing self worth. ❤❤
Met at 3 months old, friends for 35+ years, covered her at work when she had Covid. I was asked to stay on, she kept calling in sick (insisted I cover her, over and over for 2 years) she refused to cover me, she kept lying about being sick so employer terminated her. Guess who got the blame for it? Rumours spread, lost other friends because of her lies. Don’t miss her as I was always only there for her convenience anyway. #respectyourself
Dude I had got a traumatic brain injury and this girl had the audacity to tell me not to talk about my injuries because my real friends don't want to know me that way. My real best friend bought a text book on TBI's and came to visit me at the rehab, the previous girl did not, both lived really close. I dropped that friend like a hot sack of potatoes. Im an empath I put up with her for so long. Never again.
My ex-best friend and I were friends for five years and we actually helped each other through good and bad times, like real friends would. (She always got good grades while mine were okay-ish to lightly bad and we both came from different family financial situations), but it all changed when I got better grades than her in our final exam and she started treating me like i was an entitled rich kid, always getting angry whatever I said and saying that my personal problems where pathetic especially since my family was financially more stable than others.
It really hurt especially since we were real friends at some point, I always been happy for her achievements and progress.
I told her that she hurt my feelings and if I did anything wrong she should tell me, but I never got a reason nor an apology, so I parted ways with her.
Everyone gets jealous now and then, even friends. Bad friends hold on to that feeling and blame you for their own feelings of inadequacy rather than boosting you up, being happy for your successes, and being boosted up in return.
The girl from the share the bf story.... she is literally the best friend in the k drama "marry my husband".... 100% that person that just wants to take everything away from her best friend to feel better about herself and then acts pathetic to get her friend to forgive her instead of walking away
Not one friend has ever stayed loyal & the closer they get, the more they hurt you
People can only treat you the way YOU allow them to treat you! YOU are the common denominator in all of your relationships! If you have problems like this often or with the majority of people you are involved with, ie; friends, family and lovers, then you need to understand what it is about YOU that keeps attracting these types of people.
I was party friends with a boy crazy girl but didn't recognize it cuz I was boy crazy too 😂 We had us some timessss! With her wavy waist-length raven hair, high cheekbones & bedroom eyes, she caught lotsa attention! She, Ren, had a petite athletic frame & always wore heels to be taller😂 Also, she always wore deep shades of red lipstick. I'd been seeing this cutie Rick for several months & we'd slept over at each other's homes a few times. The 1st time I went to Rick's, he showed me around & talked about paintings displayed in his home. He was very fond of 3 specific pieces & went on & on about the artist. Not really my style art, but I faked interest. Rick had money, a nice home, badass car & great sense of style. I didn't know about his work, just that he was in sales. Anyway, FF 3 months... Me & Ren were at her house getting ready for a night out of cocktails & dancing, when Rick called asking if I wanted to hang out. After conferring with Ren, I told Rick he could meet us at the club. Rick & Ren knew about each other, but hadn't met. Rick arrived at the club an hour after me & Ren. I introduced them, then Rick handed me the removable faceplate of his car stereo & asked if I mind keeping it in my bag; not much bigger than a regular hair comb, not a problem. I offered to buy the 1st round & rather than wait for a waitress, I went over to the bar. The club was packed; I couldn't see our table thru the crowd! Like 10 minutes later, as I approached our table, drinks in hand, I saw Ren & Rick chatting & laughing. I don't typically get jealous & was happy to see my friend & current beau getting along. It was such an act - on Ren's part. A few minutes after I got back to our table, Rick went outside to take a call. I never saw him again! As soon as he was outta earshot, Ren told me Rick was hitting on her while I was off buying drinks. I was like, I love you girlfriend!! I took Rick's stereo faceplate outta my bag, set it on the table we hauled ass. The parking lot was full and I know Rick didn't see us leave, cuz next thing I know, I got a text from him reaming me for leaving his faceplate sitting out in the open on the table 😂 He didn't ask where we went or anything. He knew! Guess he was used to girls that stab each other in the back? Rick told Ren that he really liked me a lot, but he sees other women. News to me!! He literally asked Ren out on a date after knowing her 10 minutes! After Ren told me what happened, we went from party buddies to besties! We're separated by hundreds of miles now, but remain friends to this day. As for Rick, we found out about his job in sales when we read the news he was arrested for dealing. Me & Ren were getting ready to go out & as she applied her red lipstick, it hit me; I was like, OMG! Ren you look just like the girls in the paintings that Rick had!! 😂😂 She really did!! Rick likely knew he was gonna go for Ren the second he laid eyes on her. What an unbelievable schmuck!
The jealousy part hit me. The jealous friend abuśed me for years. I moved on but the pain still remains. Has effected my life on making friends
I'm convinced "jealous friend Olivia" was just in love with her bestie and didn't know how to approach that. She was jealous of her, probably, but also probably wanted to be With her.
It amazes me how some ppl can figure out a person's intentions or motivation for their actions in a 10 minute video but it takes some of us 20 yrs. Is that wisdom or are the rest of us in denial? But I can watch these for hours.
That one story... Girl, you are not an 'empath', you're a doormat.
Most empathy doormats doofus
The first story “bestie #1” can’t be blamed, she was being loyal to her best friend too. She had to betray one of them. As for the guy he don’t owe his ex any loyalty either. If he made a move on the friends; they should be loyal to her a dub him. Also, MOST OF THESE FRIENDS ENCOURAGE YOU TO LEAVE THE MAN NOT BECAUSE HE MESSED UP BUT BECAUSE THEY WANT HIM FOR THEMSELVES.
I had 2 best friends. We did everything together. Birthdays, holidays, vacations, bbqs… you know- close. All of our partners, family etc. So one afternoon I had a late business lunch. I wasn’t in our town but I was two towns (26 miles away) over. So I’m talking to my clients and we’re eating. Im kinda scanning the room, you know- as you do in public. So I look around and I see a couple sitting at a table and my brain thinks “hey there’s Tim” but it’s not actually a real realization yet. So I look back. Sure enough, it’s Tim. He’s holding this lady’s hand and the lady has long frizzy blonde hair. And his wife Shay has a black pixie and is built like a pencil. She’s beautiful 🤩 and kind, sweet, compassionate… anyway. So I think huh? Must be his aunt or something. She’s a bit older than us, dressed very matronly… so I continue with my meeting. Until…. I see him kiss that lady like he was Roto-rooting her throat. 🤢🤮 I shot iced tea out of my nose!! I got my phone out and zoomed in and recorded. 😑 That night I call other best friend and told her what happened and told her she had to go with me to tell Shay. Uggggh. We went to lunch the next afternoon. I couldn’t sleep. I felt nauseous. I knew this was going to hurt her and I was going to be the one who changes the trajectory of her marriage… we get to the restaurant and order our drinks. I can’t hold it in anymore. I didn’t want to order food I wouldn’t be able to eat anyway so I told her there was a reason I asked her to lunch. I tell her. I show her the video. She’s just sitting there kinda blank. But then she looks at Mia and says YOU knew about this?!? And I’m all confused. And Shay says “That’s your aunt Kathy isn’t it”?!? Omg I was floored. Needless to say Shay got a divorce from Tim. Tim married Kathy. Mia married Tim’s younger brother. Shay and I are still friends and laugh often about the Jerry Springer show episode her life was. 😅 I had to tell. I would’ve spontaneously combusted
The last story is giving "Marry my husband" vibes 😂😂
Such a great great great show!!!!! ❤
I thought the same
14:44 I am not standing up for that friend, but my bank locked my card because of a suspicious/fraudulent charge, and it was one I wasn’t aware of, so I was glad it got caught… but I found out it was locked at a terribly embarrassing moment trying to purchase something. I went to an ATM machine to W/D the money, but it wouldn’t go thru. The real irony is that I had just left the bank ATM depositing more than enough cash, if I would’ve stopped at the store first, I would’ve been able to just pay with cash. It was so ridiculous 😂
When your friend is the type of woman who is gonna stay no matter what, then it's a waste of time to tell them their bf/husband is cheating. And sometimes when you do tell them, they get angry with you. I know of three friends who married their bf's after learning they had cheated.
Omg Charlotte! You took the words out of my mouth at the end lol "Hit a little too close to home" For those of us who have a huge heart that we wear on our sleeves it is really hard to find genuine good girlfriends. The ones that really just want to be there for you and put the same energy into your friendship as you. I cry to my husband so the time because I keep befriending those who use me for one thing or another and/or walk all over me. Even if they didn't initially start the friendship with that intent somehow before long they pick up on how hard it is for me to say no and how important it is for me to make people happy and if I can do something then I do it even if I don't want to. Also they see that I always put my feelings and myself on the back burner. I'm working on these things but knowing my tendencies and the way I am doesn't make them easy to stop nor does it help find people who aren't willing to take advantage of a person or their situation. At least I know I'm not alone as sad as that makes me to say.
My bank locks my card every time I go out of the country and forget to tell them. I always wonder why it doesn’t work the first time I go to use it in a foreign country, then I remember to call and tell them where I am and how long I’ll be gone. Thank you treasury department credit union!
I assumed banks had some kind of algorithm where if you book flights on a card then they won’t assume it’s been stolen if the same card is used overseas?
Then again we know what happens when we assume..
But also I’ve never had this problem so 🤷♀️
Monica: "What shall we cook for them?" I'm thinking Donner party...
Charlotte you're not jaded, you're a realist 💯 🤎🖤🤎🖤✌🏼
Personally I call myself cynical😊
I feel like I need emojis in all of Charlotte's videos now. They really help 😂
I have philosophies I live by. Here are two. "I like people, but for friends I like few people" (Marilyn Monroe). "What people think of me is none of my business" (from a book I read years ago). Admittedly the older I get the easier it is to be unsociable. My anxiety thanks me for it everyday.😊
Narcissistic absolutely know when people are empaths and when they’re easily manipulative. Happened to me
Maybe we can share him? ☺️
Ladies and gentleman…we have our new delulu queen 😂😂
I like watching Charlotte's facial expressions while she is listening. It's funny to watch her cause her gestures when she is suspicious of someone in the story. She's like 🤨 🤔🤔😒 and then, when the plot twist comes, she is always right about who was untrustworthy! Lol
Charlotte, listening to explain empaths and narcissists, was alot like listening to you describe my life 😮😢😢❤❤❤
26:53
"It's literally tales as old as time"
...." ugh, I have trauma" 😂
Same girl . Same.....😢😂😮
The first girl is gorgeous! Wow❤
I love how the young woman around the 12 minute mark says "the funds." I'm obsessed with how she says it. It's so cute.
Omg these photo props and sound effects had me rolling today. Lol 😂
I had a sister who made my life hell over her jealously. I have nothing to do with her anymore and I have had 15 plus years of complete bliss.
My college roommate and I were super close, until she met my boyfriend... I'd been living with him for 3 years at this point. We went on a coffee date with her, the whole time through the day she kept acting like I was was the third wheel tagging along to their date. Over time she started making comments like "he's so philosophical. I really like that about him. I think I understand him better than you do. Maybe you should give him to me." And then later when she had a boyfriend who was madly in love with her and wanted to marry her, she said, "I think we should swap. You can give me yours, you can have mine. He's silly and stupid. You would like him better."
I watched her break the hearts of three boys at college. If she thought I was going to let her near my precious... She was sorely mistaken. Plus, I fail to understand how a philosophy and anthropology major is smarter than someone studying dermatology anyway... We both ended up dropping out for different reasons but she always acted like I was dumber than her. Just because I'm autistic doesn't mean I'm stupid. She cut me off when I couldn't engineer a skype call for her during my wedding which was held on a remote farm in the mountains. Yes, I am now married to the man she kept begging me for like he was a piece of cake to be passed around. She calls herself a feminist but she would subject men to the same abhorrent treatment she despisers them for herself... Pshh.
The last girl, OMG, we have similar stories about dealing with a narcissistic friend...
:O So scary that everything was so similar
"She was getting on my laaaaast nerd..." 😁🤗😅♥️
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer!
11:11 I’ll be your bestie..you seem amazing! Love the story😂😂
That blocking you then coming back like nothing happend reminds me of a former friend/ex who i knew for over 10 years 😅
Im a person with a hefty amount of moral objections so I love how you speak on these matters.
Monica’s cray cray friend wasn’t in love with her, she was in love with the attention she got from Monica. And because she’s a narcissist she wanted to have all the attention for herself. So she sabotaged every relationship she got in or just didn’t acknowledge it. It has happened to me so many times, fortunately i got around to cutting people off earlier, but i have so many friendships that ended when i got a boyfriend because i didn’t spend enough time with my friends (even though i tried to invite them to lot’s of things and made time for the two of us, still wasn’t enough though)
I sit here and literally talk with you about all this tea like we are besties ❤😂 I love watching your videos babe!
I totaly had a friend like that where I was always there for them and when I needed her she was too busy to even talk to me on the phone more than like 6 min. Better off with them gone!
ALSO! The first friend already knew about the second. She was just mad because #3 didn't tell her. If #1 held on to the secret for #2 it means she didnt give two f's about you.
You nailed the narcissist part
Your card also locks if u travel out of the country without notifying certain banks. They label it as fraud but it’s a really quick call to verify and remove it.
I had the bank lock my card/account when i was overseas purely because i hadnt advised them i was travelling and they were concerned my account or card had been hacked/stolen. (I didnt have a mobile then so they couldnt reach me to confirm but once i rang them all was fine.)
Be sure your bank is aware if youre going to countries that have a high level of scammers or tourist traps.
i have had several girl friends that thought i wanted their boyfriends... obviously they didn't tell me this before i was iced out of the friend groups... i have never wanted someone else's boyfriend. i do not condone cheating in any way, shape or form. The fact that none of them realized that after all the time spent together is amazing. At some point i just stopped trying to be friends with women and kept shit cordial. The only female friends i have now are the ones i made in school.