Not Attracted To Your Wife Anymore?
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- čas přidán 29. 06. 2024
- What if you are NOT attracted to your wife anymore?
Sure, we all change with age... but the relationship changes too and that can impact our "attraction" as well. Here are some things to think about.
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I understand this will be likely viewed as shallow, but as far as men in America a huge part of this title has to do with massive weight gain of the avg house wife. Letting themselves go men & women …
Yeah these women want to get all emotional psychological about it, but oftentimes it's just that they got fat and don't care about being attractive anymore
Agreed. I still love my wife, more now than ever. I believe she’s still the most beautiful person alive. She just doesn’t entice an erection from me anymore.
America is a blessed nation but many times blessings can turn into disaster. America does have obesity crisis. I wasn't overweight before coming to USA. But now being in USA, it is hard to lose and maintain weight. Sedentary lifestyle and big portion of foods equals perfect storm. It is sad. It can affect marriages. Very sad. But marriage is a commitment and not perfection. You are marrying for better or for worse those are the vows you took.
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a lot of ppl get bigger as they get older the body just metabolizes slower but if you want to jump from small person to small person until u find someone that stays that way for the rest of your lives together do so
So simple and so helpful!
You actually nailed my current situation..when we argue my wife says all these deragotory words to me and brutally disrespect me..i just cant see my self kissing that same mouth or even into her after such belittlement ..bur we have so many assets together..i feel stuck.. im not even aroused around her at all..we live like brothers and sisters.. when she wants it i have to force my self and 9 out 10 its a frustrating experience for both of us..its hell
I think once you start feeling contempt for them, it is very difficult to find them attractive any longer. I like your focus on the positives idea. I wish i would have done this.
How do you get passed a lack of physical attraction.
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Started losing attraction due to constant rejection. Despite voicing my concerns she tries to flip it on me. No accountability.
mistake 1 - you got married. bad move for a guy in the current era. prepare to lose your property, assets, investments, kids, house, reputation and retirement.
hope the 30-60 days of 'honeymoon' were worth it
In retrospect, no... but did give me one thing. My daughter. Perhaps some wisdom made me realize that I am worthy of real love, respect and cherish, and be cherished, loved, and respected. Came out the other side, armor a bit banged up but smarter, and I can fix the dents and try again.
Hypothetically speaking what happens if you're getting older, it's not just you're not physically attracted, but everyone in that marriage is now getting older, greyer and you never found those qualities attractive before, is that something that men can naturally adjust to? I'm 40 and I don't notice any change in what appeals to me physically.
What we find attractive physically at a certain age isn’t likely to change whether that is 40 or 50 and so on. The question really is did you marry your spouse based solely upon physical characteristics and attractiveness? We all age physically and not being attracted to our partner goes deeper than just the one attribute. More often than not there is a lot more going on. I am not able to really get into it in detail for you here but if you are struggling with this, grab a free consultation with me on my website.
@@therelationshipcoachformen ya in my case there is a lot going on. Thanks!. I just can’t help wonder if most(all?) marriages would get to this place eventually
@@VPSantiago Most marriages go through transformation in some way and that includes times that are difficult in one way or another. Attraction to another person is more than just the physical attraction aspect and when other things are not working, attraction can be the things that suffers.
How about if the change in attraction is easily controllable? My long term GF got a short haircut and honestly looks like a young boy. I love her but really struggling with this. She also knew before getting the haircut that I don’t like super short hair but still cut it without even talking to me about it. I am hoping it grows on me but really struggling with it now.
Found any soln?
She probably doesn't respect you and/or care about being attractive for you any longer. She's likely fallen into the modern era trap of ME, ME, ME whatever makes me happy is ok.
Im in this boat now. Recently, I had a midlife crisis after getting in the best shape of my life and now i feel like we vibrate on different levels
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I think there is a point where one accepts, or realizes, they married the right person for wrong reason. They married someone who while a great spouse was married to solve the problems of loneliness and lack of happiness. While there would have been attraction at the outset of the relationship, the afore mentioned problems not being solved over time causes a review, a reassessment. I guess the classic case of buyer’s remorse. But, the failing is on the part of the buyer for not having understood the problems they sought to resolve, could only be solved by meaningful introspection and resolution instead of marriage.
That is great insight, John. Yes, it is always better if we can look inward and become our best self before going into a relationship. Thank you for your comment.
4:18. what do you mean by this? hold on to the justification? at one time i was attracted, now i am not. i don't get what you are saying here.
First of all, if you are not attracted to your wife it may because she no longer looks like she did when you got married. Other things can be discussed, but that one is decisive.
NO ONE is going to look the same as when they got married. Do you look the same as when you were 14? That's how life works...
@@TomikaKelly works both ways do it not?
@jocular1910 Of course it works both ways; it works ALL ways. I never said it didn't. I simply pointed out how silly it is to expect anyone to remain the same.
@@TomikaKellywhat if it was only 14 months ago…
You are very attractive😁
The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said,
“A believer must not hate a believing woman (i.e., his wife); if he dislikes one of her traits he will be pleased with another.” (Muslim)
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That quote truly says nothing.
You just describing attraction from a women to men not men to women. Men attraction is usually physical it’s not that difficult to please us. Don’t gain too much weight
If weight gain is an issue then the issue is with how you perceive attraction, not with your spouse's physical appearance.
@@TomikaKellyscrew perception
If she ain't she ain't attractive.
It's not hard to realise what is physically attractive and not attractive in a women
@AM-dn1iq Everyone decides what is physically attractive TO THEM. Some people like supermodel thin women, others like video vixen thick women, and some like plus sized women.
If weight gain is all it takes to no longer find your spouse attractive then perhaps stay unmarried OR hire your wife a personal chef, personal trainer, and mental health therapist, a housekeeper, and a nanny a d retire her from working so she can focus ONLY on being fit for you.
@@TomikaKelly they are exceptions
Maybe you don't understand this cos I'm assuming you are a woman.
But there is a thing called universal beauty that is not subjective.
If a woman genuinely tries her best to stay in shape and you make sure to try and look best for her and also you assist her to in looking best. Then there is no problem.
@AM-dn1iq We all know that there are universal beauty standards. 🙄 (That's why so many Black people and darker skinned people are affected by things like colorism, texturism, and featurism. 🫠) However, you and your spouse didn't marry the universe; you married each other. 🙃
Again, if weight gain is all it takes for you to completely lose attraction to your spouse, then you either shouldn't be married OR you should be able to provide her with the resources to stay in shape.
I would tell a woman the EXACT SAME thing if she lost all attraction to her husband because he lost his job or wasn't making as much money as before or couldn't buy her the same luxuries as before. If a man no longer being able to buy you a Gucci purse means you're no longer attracted to him, then you shouldn't be married.
I hope this helps. 😊
I quick question for you …. How do you really know the REAL situation as a third party unless both parties are present to tell what happened . Keep in mind that not all men are really honest . Tons of cheating men out there even in relationships so the attraction disappears. Do not believe all you hear .
That is true, but the data; where is the data and, as you say, how do you know everyone is telling it straight?
AND WHO DO MEN CHEAT WITH, HOES THAT JUST HAVE A MAN FOR CONVENIENCE NOT BECAUSE THEY LOVE THE,
as a 76 year old male that has been around the block and talked to many women who have opened up to me, toooooooooooooo many women marry out of lust and fake love and wanting someone to provide a home life for them but the characters of both do not match and once the romantic honeymoon is over the shit hits the fan and like it was mentioned the women start demeaning the man and he just goes fffffffffff you and turns off and then the women who cause the problem pull the bullshit it was your fault and when they cheat because they need the validation from others they blame the man, when you look at divorces 80% are started by women so where is the BIGGEST PROBLEM----WOMEN.
You have a point.
You know what's freaking unattractive? "I'm a feminist" BS! A man just wants a good woman to take care of him.
Hopefully it works both ways.
Hello I was faithfully married and had Three beautiful girls, working and being a good man. That was not enough as women ALWAYS want a new toy. Got divorced and it was devastating. But I picked myself up and travelled 🧳the world 🌎 25 countries with the hottest women and honestly other than my girls I miss, MARRIAGE SUCKS AND I'LL NEVER EVER FOREVER TRUST A WOMAN 👠👠 500+ SO FAR. FELLAS BANG BUST 💦 BYE BYE. ✌️