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Komentáře • 171

  • @mildredd7142
    @mildredd7142 Před 4 lety +20

    I suffer with anxiety, sometimes it literally feels like the nerve endings in my body are standing on end, but what I’ve learnt is we naturally reject any unpleasant emotion, fight against it instantly, cause ofcourse we don’t want it within us and naturally think this will make it go,but by doing so we can actually make the feeling worse, so starting with feeling anxious, panicking it’s there, worrying why it’s there, trying to make it go, worrying when it will go, just intensifies it, I’m trying to just sit with it, it’s just an emotion, have felt it before, and I know it does pass, I can’t put a time on this but I know it’s like a cycle and has a start and an end,and just recognising it, not giving into it or panicking about it I find helpful, cause I’m not loading other things into it to make it bigger, I guess having acceptance that it is an emotion I feel often, the symptoms it creates I have felt many times, maybe this makes me more in control of it?!
    Also, thank you for being open about your mental health!! Such a hard thing to do! X

  • @donnaleifels698
    @donnaleifels698 Před 4 lety +20

    Mark have you tried the grounding technique which is name 5 things you see, 4 things you hear , 3 things you can touch ,2 things you smell and one thing you can taste. When you do this you should feel less anxious 💕💕🦋🦋be well Mark and yes I love your haircut 🦋🦋💕💕

    • @wonderwoman5528
      @wonderwoman5528 Před 4 lety +4

      Nice tip :)

    • @sa80srcool
      @sa80srcool Před 4 lety +1

      Love this. I’m going to use it. Thank you xx

    • @donnaleifels698
      @donnaleifels698 Před 4 lety +1

      @Tuftygirl your welcome and I hope it helps after I learned this it really did help me... I get panic attacks and this helped me calm down🦋🦋💕💕

    • @sa80srcool
      @sa80srcool Před 4 lety +1

      Donna Leifels it will help. Sometimes your mind starts spinning off and this looks like a good. way to ground it. Will also pass it on to my daughter. Xxx

  • @janberry3657
    @janberry3657 Před 4 lety +17

    Hi Mark I totally get what you're feeling, not feeling you're enough at time's, the awful anxiety, I dread social situation's just because I over think and feel I won't be interesting or funny enough or I'm not slim enough etc on and on. I let my hair go grey, sabotaging myself, I know when I colour it I will feel brighter in myself ( like you not cutting your's ). I've been married forty two years and we've certainly had very 'trying' time's, jealousy on my part ( with no cause ), my angst and depression, I've had a difficult childhood to, unlike my husband, and like Nadia my husband has weathered the storms with me, I identify so much. My depression and its up's and down's are a part of me I accept now, we are stronger for it in away, we're still here when so many of our contemporary's are divorced. I was on sertraline but after a few years I needed a different anti depressant that seem's to suite now, I wonder if you are on the right dose, having said that it's early days! It's not unusual to have all the symptom's you speak of and many of them will settle down, sorry for the ramble, I hope I've not made you feel worse in any way. Love your mental health chats, so refreshingly honest, we have to talk and break down the taboo's surrounding the subject, thank you and feel better soon.

    • @pansypotter4
      @pansypotter4 Před 4 lety +1

      I used to be like you without the depression until I found a you tube video from Joyce Meyer. It changed my life, being a christian helped and if you are a non believer it still has valuable content. I let my past rule my future, all the bad things that happened and she taught me that it's in the past and should be left there, you can retrain yourself to look at things in a different way. Your brain is a very powerful thing and can trick us into feeling real physical symptoms.

    • @donnag4150
      @donnag4150 Před 4 lety

      Great reading.

  • @jennysfourhearts5837
    @jennysfourhearts5837 Před 4 lety +17

    I have struggled with this very thing. I have recently lost a huge amount of weight in fact the picture on this tiny circle icon was taken two days ago . The old Jennifer would have not used a picture of my self for this. I have suffered from depression sense I was 15 now 45 I am still struggling. You are a inspiration for me to start a CZcams channel to be able to talk in front of a camera and up load it on CZcams is brave . Thank you to you and Nadia and your family for showing that all that suffer from depression are not alone . Thank you thank you sending xx ❤️❤️ 🕊️🕊️

    • @yasminwebb8319
      @yasminwebb8319 Před 4 lety

      You’re beautiful Jennifer x 🦋

    • @jennysfourhearts5837
      @jennysfourhearts5837 Před 4 lety

      @@yasminwebb8319 thank you! X 🕊️

    • @reginamushi6582
      @reginamushi6582 Před 4 lety

      This is me! I have suffered with both depression and anxiety since I my teens am now 42...I didn't realise why I was feeling the way i was and I thought that everyone felt like that..it got worse at University at 21yrs onwards...I was diagnosed then but didn't take the tablets I was prescribed as they made me feel sick...I wish I had gone back and saw a specialist ..am now really suffering as it makes any physical pain worse...I take strong painkillers they tend to uplift me a bit so I can go to work...anyway good luck everyone God bless

  • @jom6136
    @jom6136 Před 4 lety +6

    Feeling your feelings is perfectly normal mark. Our problem is we've been conditioned to avoid them and see them as bad and threatening when they're not. The key is to gain awareness of what we're feeling, recognise where in the body it's showing up, and just allow yourself to feel it, no judgement, just total acceptance and total understanding. You could say something like of course I feel a bit anxious, ie I've had a very busy morning and I have that 'thing' coming up next week....or whatever. Just sit with it, whatever comes up needs to come up, it will just pass through, thats how we purge and clear old dense resistant energies from our system. You have to repeat this process until you do it automatically. It's perfectly normal to feel your feelings. 👍😀 hope this helps.

  • @ejw9584
    @ejw9584 Před 4 lety +3

    Thanks for this Mark, I'm in awe of your articulacy. It gives me security in owning my mental health more. Sometimes being able to pick apart every minor detail and analyse symptoms is a double edged sword often wish I wasn't as self aware it creates even more anxiety which then needs analysis! I was on sertraline for many years and was positive in keeping me level but I too had severe hot sweats to the point I couldn't do a food shop as I'd be embarrassed how much sweat was visible which then negatively affected my anxiety as Ithen avoided social situations unfortunately I didn't find any relief so decided to try something else. The tiredness you mention around 4pm is another I experience I felt like I couldn't possibly function anymore of the day until I had a nap, it's not easy but I soon figured I shut my eyes for 15mins an lay down I could regain focus not every time I may add. Love the haircut! Self care is key! You truly are an inspiration💙

  • @rcqc4193
    @rcqc4193 Před 4 lety +15

    Mark keep taking the tablets & maybe tweak the timing to see if that makes a difference. Try to get more sleep? You seem to work very very late & get up early. Set yourself a bedtime & stick to it..... Turn off the technology. Leave it downstairs. Vlogs can wait until another day. Keep well.

  • @susanbonita7679
    @susanbonita7679 Před 4 lety +7

    Mark you are a wonderful man you should have more faith in yourself. I had to be put into an induced coma last year as I had a terrible strain of phenomena in hospital for 3 months with a tracheotomy and it took me 5 months to walk again. My point being you either let it win or you fight like I have. Sure its tough cant sleep and lots of anxiety but you have a good life and we are only here once xxx

    • @tamsin9046
      @tamsin9046 Před 4 lety +1

      But everyone has different brainsand bodies. We all get anxious about different things. I totally relate to Mark I get the chest pains and tight knot and get anxious about things that are uttlery stupid to other people. Big things are sometimes easier to deal with, it's the little things you react to after that is harder to know what to do.

  • @jaynephillips8961
    @jaynephillips8961 Před 4 lety +9

    Wow mark you look much younger with your haircut and weight loss, Nadia is one lucky lady. Xxx

  • @jansinnott9710
    @jansinnott9710 Před 4 lety +3

    Mark your hair looks great, suits you and makes you look so much younger, very handsome. You are brave for sharing how you feel. As you said you have only been on the meds for 3 weeks, most meds take longer than that to kick in, I know it’s not nice how you feel, but just give them a good chance to start working. You have been enough for Nadia for the past 16 years, we can all see how much she loves you, she will always be there for you I’m sure. Take care

  • @rachelmarsh7291
    @rachelmarsh7291 Před 4 lety +9

    Your hair looks cool and groovy either way to be fair..sending peace mark..this too shall pass ..all will be well x

  • @samanthaobertelle4966
    @samanthaobertelle4966 Před 4 lety +1

    Mental health makes you tired ... I'm so happy it is more recognised than it was! My anxiety kept me in doors for 4 years. It's just this numb horrible feeling , i really feel for any one suffering with mental health , it's great to listen to people's views you sort of feel like your not so alone ... it's that thing isn't it Mark seems so full of positive energy and is so much fun ...but that's the thing you can't see it so many people don't understand it .. lots of people only understand the things you can see .. very sad .. x Mark anxiety can just come on .. just relax and breath deeply .. my way of dealing with it is just to focus my mind on art or watch something I like... only fools and horse honest I could read the script ... But it took my mind away from my beating heart etc etc etc etc.. hope you got threw it x

  • @catherinerostanti1738
    @catherinerostanti1738 Před 4 lety +7

    Mark I always say to myself what is normal is there normal? The same way I have come to the conclusion there is no such thing as perfection even though I spent a long time looking for it in different aspects of my life, I am a happier person accepting these things just don't exist. Absolutely love the hair like loads of other subs but most importantly do you?

  • @loobyt8692
    @loobyt8692 Před 4 lety +4

    Oh Mark do feel for you, depression and anxiety runs in my family including my mom who has depression, whereas mine is more anxiety based. I see it as a demon to be wrestled with and know some of my trigger points albeit not all, I then try and go to my arsenal of things I like doing or that calm me to help. I’d give the meds another few weeks, but if your not feeling any improvement I’d see your Dr they may not be right for you. As an avid sub watching your vlogs I think they do seem to have calmed you down a little, not so many of the bi-polar highs and lows, but maybe it’s this kind of flat middle ground that is making you feel worse, if it’s making you feel a bit bleak, or just too spaced out maybe a change of tactics is needed. I always say there’s a plan A, B, C and so on, so if what you are doing isn’t helping it might be time to re assess things and move onto another plan, to tackle your emotions. Yours and Nadia’s honesty though is inspiring, don’t think you realise how much you are helping other people, if you could see what we see you’d know why us subs love your family vlogs so much. Love to nanny Di too hope she’s getting stronger 💕

  • @heathertodd1559
    @heathertodd1559 Před 4 lety +6

    Mark your hair looks lovely and it makes you look younger and I bet you feel a lot better with it cut

  • @snowy10r
    @snowy10r Před 2 lety

    I find it somewhat calming to watch you share your experiences with depression and anxiety, thanks for sharing. It’s something I’ve struggled with since I was young, but more so over the last 10years and it can be a very lonely battle at times. I now have fairly severe tinnitus which is something I wouldn’t wish upon anyone and compounds the other problems. I feel like a broken version of myself at times. I don’t take medication, it’s something I tried in the past and I didn’t like the side affects.

  • @msanastasiaalexander
    @msanastasiaalexander Před 4 lety

    Thank you for sharing, Mark. You are so not alone with this, everything you're saying makes total sense to a lot of us. Just a little tip for anxiety that I find helpful: when I have that heavy feeling sitting in my stomach (some people feel it in their chest) I do deep breathing with visualisation. I imagine it's like a black mass in my stomach, and as I breathe in through my nose I imagine that I'm sucking some of it upwards into my throat. Then as I breathe out of my mouth I pretend that I'm blowing it out. Keep doing it 10-15 times, imagining the mass getting smaller. It's not a long term fix by any means, but it does take the edge off when I feel overwhelmed. Another thing that really works is EFT/tapping. It sounds weird, but works surprisingly well.

  • @clarelc5933
    @clarelc5933 Před 4 lety +4

    Sorry you are feeling so anxious Mark, I think maybe you have been worrying about your mums operation too and you have been bottling it up. You are an amazing husband and father, you have to stop over thinking things. Sending you lots of hugs 🤗🤗🤗🇫🇷

  • @janetreadgold5773
    @janetreadgold5773 Před 4 lety +5

    Awww, mark I feel everything you are feeling.... I struggle with anxiety, depression & I hyperventilate......it's an awful way to live life.... Keep going with the meds you've not been on them that long.. sorry I have no answers for you..... Stay strong your really doing great.... 💙...xx

  • @cherisong1
    @cherisong1 Před 4 lety

    What a perfect way to describe the feelings of depression. I’ve never heard anybody else talk about that flat feeling before, or maybe I’ve just not understood what they are describing. You are an amazing orator and I’m sure it will help so many people to understand those feelings more. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to accept anxiety, sit with it and it passes more quickly, fight it and it fights back. Have you read The Chimp Paradox by Steve Jones? It changed my life. More than any drugs which I no longer take. I also use the breathing and grounding exercises when the anxiety takes me to panic level. That self care is one of the first signs for me spiralling too. It’s ok to wallow but we have to know when to stop

  • @ginniekindler2766
    @ginniekindler2766 Před 4 lety

    Mark you are so describing the feelings both my sons go through. Both of my sons are retired army combat vets. I have found that when I just sit and listen to them when they feel their worst and encourage them in all they have accomplished it helps take the anxiety down a few notches. Nadia loves you so much and has publicly said so on many occasions. Your feelings are real and normal and will subside. Sometimes the medicine alone isn't enough. You may need a combination to help you. Talk to your doctor and tell him/her what is going on and see what they recommend. It's clear that your family adores you so much and remember that they are right there by your side to help you.

  • @pansypotter4
    @pansypotter4 Před 4 lety

    Mark, my hubby is on the same drug and he is exactly the same as you, he can sit down and sleep for hours, and he gets hot sweats, especially at night time. And he doesn't feel anything anymore, its hard to make him laugh, he doesn't feel the same emotions as most people as the drug has taken that away. He's on a very high dose and it lets him live as normal life as possible. Everything you spoke about is what he is going through. He gets anxious about using the phone to talk to people, he just can't deal with people so I have to do all the things he used to do. You are only three weeks in, its early days, keep going and hopefully your anxiety will dull down. If it doesn't by week six, go back to the doc and he may up them a little. Everyone needs a different dose to suit them.

  • @staceyxx8495
    @staceyxx8495 Před 4 lety

    Your hair looks fab Mark and so do you. You have done so well on Joe Wicks. I always find myself nodding to these updates you do or whenever you talk about depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia. I think we're quite similar and you always sum it up for me perfectly. Especially the body dysmorphia. It's shit that you feel shit. But by doing these updates, you make us feel like we aren't on our own with it. X

  • @Jane.Elspeth
    @Jane.Elspeth Před 4 lety

    Your hair looks great Mark! I was fascinated by your description of your state of mind as I suffer from this invisible illness and unlike you I find it so hard to put words to how I feel. A couple of tips though! When you are feeling overcome with anxiety try "grounding" your self by stamping on the ground, a couple of deep breaths etc... and I can recommend better sleep patterns as a means of balancing your feelings of well being so try a regular bedtime and no laptop/TV etc prior to sleep!

  • @denismichaeljames
    @denismichaeljames Před 4 lety

    I’ve known a certain person admit, to trying everything in terms of therapies and antidepressants for years. None of them worked for them. And just gradually over time and for no explanation whatsoever, the fog lifted itself and life became bearable and then agreeable. And these days for them really quite ok. They spent fortunes and yet meandered in the wilderness. Spend days in bed with the curtains closed. Our wiring is such a complex and personalised thing. Perhaps we will never have the real answers? All I know is, it’s ghastly when in the midst of the worse depression and feeling hopeless. You are at times obviously really struggling. I think you are a great inspiration in helping others, just by talking. Hope your new medication kicks in soon. Haircut looks great and you suit a bit of unshaven. Be kinder to yourself. You deserve it.

  • @clancyk8497
    @clancyk8497 Před 4 lety +4

    The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through christ jesus.
    Philippians 4:7
    God bless 😊

  • @Anita-tw4vm
    @Anita-tw4vm Před 4 lety +3

    When I started taking setraline I experienced this rushing, hyperventilating feelings. My doctor prescribed ‘downers’ in the beginning to help this rushing feelings. It will eventually even out. Just keep going!

  • @jackiec1474
    @jackiec1474 Před 4 lety +3

    You are such a nice bloke!

  • @kymkavanagh3788
    @kymkavanagh3788 Před 4 lety +1

    Love the hair Mark,much smarter.You should keep it this short.👍🏻.I can relate to lots of how your feeling.It’s hard.I find there are no easy answers,is there?.Just lots of trial and error.With myself I just try to accept it all.I hate it but it’s part of me,I find with myself all the over thinking about it and trying to fix it all just burns me out so I think to myself this is how I was made.I’m meant to be like this?🤷🏼‍♀️❣️

  • @jimmyfreckles4582
    @jimmyfreckles4582 Před 4 lety

    Wow. You are an incredible man. You are so conscious and aware of yourself. I Completely understand that blanket you’re talking about. I can’t really do the pill thing.. depression runs in my family hell even suicide ..music has saved me in most cases and weed honestly and a good cup of coffee in the morning ...one love my brother from one human to another. The fact that you’re aware of it means you’re alive ...it’s once you don’t even realize the blanket is there is when you’re lost.

  • @Laura-rw3jo
    @Laura-rw3jo Před 4 lety +1

    Mark, thank you. You've put it into words so well... I can just share this instead of panicking about explaining myself (watch this, this is what's going on inside)

  • @katherinesmith7899
    @katherinesmith7899 Před 4 lety +2

    Love your hair mark! All this resonates with me. Feel better soon xx

  • @curly147
    @curly147 Před 4 lety +1

    I could tell you were getting worked up Mark because you were getting short of breath and agitated. I recognise it because I get like that with the anxiety. It's like the beginning of a panic attack. You will feel worse before you get better. I was told to take the Sertraline at night and it was much better because you are sleeping away some of the side effects. I am an over thinker, over analyser over worrier and have been all my life. I'm from an over thinking/worrying family which is a bit of a curse. Menopause has definitely thrown a spanner in the works and made the anxiety worse. I am now off the Sertraline and coping much better. I have to tell myself to rationalise situations, it doesn't always work but I try my hardest not to put myself into stressful situations like going out on a works do. I now say I can't go which empowers me because I am in control and I'm not going because everyone else from work is going and I'm going for them not for me. Stay strong Mark you can do it💙

  • @jacquelineroddawales2024
    @jacquelineroddawales2024 Před 4 lety +2

    Self enabling....allowing you to feel crap about yourself and can't be bothered...or as I do hibernating. Having a shower, washing your hair, getting dressed etc etc...all negate the hibernation or shutting off. I could arrange to meet up for a coffee tomorrow with a friend....why not? cos I've built in a shut off day because today as been a full on funeral day, giving myself emotionally through singing at the funeral. I could change it tomorrow..I don't want to....next week 21 years since my son died...what am I doing hibernating but not in my bed at home...I'm going to hibernate somewhere away....but near....I don't even have the energy to drive 2 hours to my son's grave....but that's how it is. I really just wonder how much worse it would be with medication or would it?!

  • @sashlee3018
    @sashlee3018 Před 4 lety

    Mark you are enough! Nadia loves you and wouldn’t have stuck with you through the dark times if she didn’t. Hair looks fab. X

  • @louisecrawford7379
    @louisecrawford7379 Před 4 lety

    Hair looks good! It takes time to acclimatise to the antidepressant. Anxiety can be crippling and you’re battling through and keeping busy,so good for you. I’m sure this initial stage will pass 🙏🏻💗

  • @juliawhite9977
    @juliawhite9977 Před 4 lety

    Mark yes it is normal. You are at the start of this medication and it sounds like it is beginning to have an effect. In moments of anxiety moving in turn on the radio quite loud, distract yourself, sing,dance, anything but don't let yourself think about the darkness. Give it a good few weeks more and see how you feel then. The meds you are on may still not be right for you, but you should have a clearer understanding by then. xx

  • @lauradbays9083
    @lauradbays9083 Před 4 lety +1

    I really like your new hair “do” you are looking really well. You are totally right we can’t really control our head and our thoughts.... I’ve had crippling anxiety for two weeks now all over a Dr appointment to discuss my hip. Anyway I’m now on a waiting list for a hip replacement and I’m just 48yrs old. Should be done in January. I’m happily married and I’ve got a 10yr old and 8yr old.. we can only keep going. I’ve tried the “Headspace” meditation it’s helping x

  • @stickwidow
    @stickwidow Před 4 lety +2

    Looks Great Mark. Tablets are different for all and because you had a break from them your starting again and the make you feel rubbish first 2 weeks so give it time

  • @Annemarie01967
    @Annemarie01967 Před 4 lety +1

    Love these blogs Mark. So informative. Hope your feeling less anxious xx

  • @waltzingmatilda9092
    @waltzingmatilda9092 Před 4 lety +1

    This is going to sound really strange, but go with me on this one for a minute... sometimes when I’m down, I avoid doing the thing that I know will make me feel better and I think it’s because in the back of my mind, I’m thinking “I know that I can do that, I’m looking forward to doing that... that thing will make me feel better once I do it” BUT I think somewhere subconsciously, I choose not to do it in case that thing doesn’t prove as effective as it has in the past...
    For example, I’m a writer (a novice writer) and I go through down stages where I know that’s the exact time that I should be writing, but I avoid doing it because of the excitement of doing it / thinking it will make me feel better... what if the very act of knowing that there’s something at your disposal to make a small difference to your mental health is the only thing you can cling onto in that moment? If that one thing is gone, then what am I left with?
    I don’t think I ever consciously do it, but I do think that’s what I do sub-consciously, at least to a certain degree!
    Sorry for rambling, hope this makes sense!

  • @janer718
    @janer718 Před 4 lety

    Oh Mark. You describe the depression that I know incredibly well, I struggle to articulate my feelings, but you captured the essence. I recognise the stareing only too well. I understand anxiety is different to depression & needs different drugs/treatment is that worth exploring? A pharmacist told me you should take antidepressants before bed to help the mind heal. Anxiety and/or depression is a bitch. I'm in the eye of the storm myself right now with everything kicking off around me, don't know where to start. Guess we just need to keep trying to talk it away. Good luck x

  • @ladymannas17
    @ladymannas17 Před 4 lety +1

    I was told that any 'feelings' such as increased anxiety, sweating etc will lessen in time and are a side effect of the drug. Once the AD is in your system which can take 1-2 months these 'feelings' will be less of a problem. It gets worse before it gets better is what i was continuously told. It's very hard to hear that when you are in the middle of it all but in my experience it is true. Hope this helps Mark. xxx

  • @alexnewall8864
    @alexnewall8864 Před 4 lety +2

    Thinking of you Marc ,nerves and depression are so complex and hard for others who don’t suffer to understand 🙁my mum was agoraphobic and depressed to the point she had electric shock treatment and my father also suffered terribly with depression, I am fifty six now and have sort of accepted who I am and that I will always suffer with anxiety I have good and bad days at the moment I’m waking up with a feeling of dread and butterflies in my stomach before I even get out of bed 🙁but am trying to accept it will pass but it’s so hard I really do sympathise with you Marc but I’m sure the tablets will kick in soon 👍🏻 x

  • @carolsmith6776
    @carolsmith6776 Před 4 lety

    I love listening to you talk about depression and your anxiety, it really helps me to listen to you describing so brilliantly how I feel and many others I’m sure, so thank you so much for doing this .... ps love the hair xx lots of love xx

  • @HD-mj9zi
    @HD-mj9zi Před 4 lety +5

    Put classic fm on ❤️

  • @annemartin6072
    @annemartin6072 Před 4 lety +1

    Yes you do know yourself very well !

  • @janicefretwell2178
    @janicefretwell2178 Před 4 lety +1

    The hair looks great 👍🏻 and over thinking is my worse downfall it’s like a carousel in my head going round and round and I can’t get off it’s a constant struggle depression love your chats about how your doing it does help understand a lot of things so thank you Mark ❤️

  • @Babylons123456789
    @Babylons123456789 Před 4 lety

    Wow your description of the hurricane to explain depression. That really got to me. I don't suffer from anxiety or depression thank god but that really helped me understand how people must feel. I have said this to you in other comments Mark, but I just want to give you a big hug. Ps. I love your hair!!!

  • @caitrionakenny999
    @caitrionakenny999 Před 4 lety

    Hi Mark ,
    Thanks for sharing this. I get anxious all the time about not doing or being enough. I do meditation as well and it does help me. I know exactly the feeling you are describing but I do try and think that I would never be as harsh on others as I am to myself. That sometimes helps the over thinking.

  • @jennyellacook6052
    @jennyellacook6052 Před 4 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing 🙏❤️. Connecting to your breath breathing into the feelings which in turn shifts energy is everything ....I have suffered with panic attacks throughout my life and anxiety the only thing that has helped me really changed everything is committing to yoga practice for 15/20 mins a day it is a game changer ....it removes energy blocks negative feelings that otherwise manifest more anxiety etc the breath is our life force when we get anxious etc it messes everything up ....low self esteem makes us feel like we have more to prove to everyone even just going to meet friends can feel like an overwhelming event that we have to give more to etc replace it with I am enough .and breathe 🙏❤️🤩

  • @heidihinter4961
    @heidihinter4961 Před 4 lety

    Mark, I understand all of this. Thanks for being open.

  • @maureenmoran5140
    @maureenmoran5140 Před 4 lety

    Hiya Mark. I am an over analyser and over thinker too , and have been that way since I was very young. It's so tiring!. I do it when I write texts too.I take so much time writing the words that have to be said in the right way. I get very hot flushes and attacks of horrible heat too with the sertraline and had to go to an endocrinologist to be tested for having too much adrenaline.Heart palpitations can happen when taking Sertraline as well but not all the time. My husband and I go to Reiki which helps a lot. x

  • @kathrynpavic4899
    @kathrynpavic4899 Před 4 lety +3

    Wow.. You look so handsome with that hair cut, James Bond look out,why with all that low esteem , from hearing you speak sometimes l feel you talk yourself into feeling low, take a look at what you have and say thank you .

  • @helenfatharly6382
    @helenfatharly6382 Před 4 lety +1

    Mark, in my experience they made me feel worse before I felt any better, and they were exacerbating the very sensations I was taking them for in the first place, which was kind of ironic. I would say they took a good 6 weeks until I felt better. Be kind to yourself. I know of no perfect person. Of course we should always strive to be better, but maybe cut yourself a bit of slack, you ARE just fine you know. These are things I try and tell myself, I am also very hard on myself.

  • @janetritchie7127
    @janetritchie7127 Před 4 lety +1

    Mark your hair looks great

  • @robertbarnier45
    @robertbarnier45 Před 4 lety

    Mark, just re anxiety panic attacks. My experience is that you have to own the anxiety attack & wait til it passes, try not to worry about the possibility that it will come back. It’s the fear that makes it come back. I haven’t had an attack since I started using this method. Of course you have to try to find out what in your life is causing anxiety. I try not to over analyse & complicate things in life. Aussie Bob X

  • @tamsin9046
    @tamsin9046 Před 4 lety

    In answer to your question about 8.40 ish in, yes, feel like I am floating around not part of the situation and just staring and not processing. Have apolgised to my Best friend several times recently for just zoning out and not hearing what he is saying then when I can focus just in tears as I feel everything is just happening around. Your description of the eye of the storm is perfect, for my understanding, everything is just whirring around and you can't focus or put your finger on it.... It is just happening around you.

  • @Sararizzles
    @Sararizzles Před 4 lety

    You look gorgeous with the new hair Mark! You seem to be feeling a bit better for having it cut. It's very hard to maintain on self care with depression but I agree with what you said, that the times you are you able to keep on top of it really does make you feel a bit better. I'm currently on a roll the last 2 days with keeping my place clean and looking after myself so I'm trying my hardest to keep on top of it xxx

  • @geraldinemallon812
    @geraldinemallon812 Před 4 lety

    Think you for sharing how you’re getting on Mark. I’m sure you’re helping a lot of people who are either going through this or living with someone who is. And by the way, you look fantastic. The weight loss (and now, the haircut) has taken years off you. I’m sure Nadia has told you how handsome you are.

  • @robertbarnier45
    @robertbarnier45 Před 4 lety +1

    My mum said always ‘count your blessings’. I found this helps as well. Aussie Bob X

  • @christinesaunderson4627

    You are looking gorgeous. Put a reminder on the calendar to have another haircut on 1st Dec and do that every other month. So every 8 weeks or so you will be feeling good about how you look after a new haircut xx

  • @twinsgran
    @twinsgran Před 4 lety +1

    I like the new look Mark. Hope Nadia does too x

  • @jazzsounds9076
    @jazzsounds9076 Před 4 lety +1

    Mark....soooooo much better with less hair..u look younger.so keep this up.....what a difference...nice one..

  • @robertbarnier45
    @robertbarnier45 Před 4 lety +1

    Mark. Just saying, you are a Legend Keep that in mind. Aussie Bob x

  • @lior.vibefeeler9500
    @lior.vibefeeler9500 Před 4 lety

    I do this with my hair. I know I always feel slightly better when I get it done. I'm excellent at self sabotage. If there was a medal for it, I'd win it. Your hair looks great.

  • @arlenejackson403
    @arlenejackson403 Před 4 lety

    Self care is massively important yet I feel our generation thinks of it as frivolous, especially when there’s a squillion things to do in a day. But ...it’s not...it’s vital to take time out, have someone do something for you/ make time to do it for yourself, whether it’s a pampering hair cut and shave or a cup of tea. I love your haircut..you really suit it. I hope you like it and are able to accept all of the many positive comments. Wishing you better days and peace. Xx

  • @cherisong1
    @cherisong1 Před 4 lety

    Think if your anxiety like the wasps in Greece. Nadia sat quietly, they did their thing and moved on. You waved your arms, jumped, ran and generally agitated them so they stayed longer causing you more angst. Who suffered the least? You or Nadia? We all get those feelings. I hate to say it but it’s kind of like meditating 😘 if you sit with the feeling it gets bored and moves on. Took me a long long time to work that out.

  • @mindytrumpower7533
    @mindytrumpower7533 Před 4 lety

    I love the new haircut! It looks awesome, and it also shows off just how amazingly you look, the wonderful progress you've made thus far in your journey. Hopefully walking the dogs in the upcoming cooler weather will help with the angst you have been having. Sending love and well wishes to Nanny Di , we love her so much. Love to all of the family. Maybe you can take Nanny Di to New York for Christmas and as Lady Gaga says, just dance. love you all!

  • @bridgeenskudayski2810
    @bridgeenskudayski2810 Před 4 lety +3

    Ohh Marrk you look 10years younger.

  • @gilliansgoggleaccount7657

    I'm on lexepro for anxiety and it works well. Maybe you shouldn't be on antidepressants. It also takes about 2 months to properly kick in and can sometime feel worse before feeling better

  • @selinaloufogg
    @selinaloufogg Před 4 lety

    I quite often sit and stare into space for ages. b kinder to yourself mark xx

  • @helenwilliamson7099
    @helenwilliamson7099 Před 4 lety +2

    Your hair looks great Mark, you look sooo much younger 😊

  • @emmacurwood
    @emmacurwood Před 4 lety

    I hope you are feeling much better soon, everyone has written what I could say in the comments already 😊

  • @alicerogers9919
    @alicerogers9919 Před 4 lety

    I took the same tablets and I also felt like I was out of my body at the beginning. It gets better! Try to make a list of everything that you dont have to feel anxious about or try to rationalise the things you do feel anxious about- this works for me :)

  • @reggiethomas8508
    @reggiethomas8508 Před 4 lety +3

    Hi mark, I love your updates. I have been on sertraline for about 5 weeks so I’m following your journey as it’s helping me. I no the anxiety thing your talking about, also the dizziness sometimes, and I’ve felt slightly sick. I love you and Nadias vlogs, your such a lovely family. Keep up the updates please mark I look forward to them, you make sense and it helps me. Take care and thank you 😊 x

  • @sallyyoung6077
    @sallyyoung6077 Před 4 lety

    Mark your hair looks great. 👍
    Thankyou for sharing. You are a typical codependant I think 🤔 Always thinking you're not enough and everyone else's feelings come before your own. You suppress your emotions because you don't want to burden others and then they swim around your brain causing havoc 😣
    It's normal to feel worse for a while on the meds. It will take about 2 months to properly be in your system I think.
    I put my headphones on and listen to music....it takes my mind off things.
    I used to get the starey times......I miss going into a trance 😐
    All the best

  • @Emmalinamagupieu
    @Emmalinamagupieu Před 4 lety +2

    Mark have you tried something called tapping therapy? It can help some people with various bits n bobs in life. Have a google if you get a moment it has worked for me with bouts of anxiety. Good hair cut 😁

  • @4456416
    @4456416 Před 4 lety

    These tablets can make you feel worse before you feel better. You explained your feelings so well. Hang on in there. There's a technique called 5 4 3 2 1 where you acknowledge 5 things you can see around you. 4 things you can touch around you, 3 things you can hear (not your thoughts) 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. It's a grounding technique that works as a reset button. Give it go Claire x

  • @susanbonita7679
    @susanbonita7679 Před 4 lety +3

    Hi babe you sure look so handsome we all love you loads xxxxxx

  • @natalijad4363
    @natalijad4363 Před 4 lety

    Mark, your hair looks great! Making it a regular thing in the calendar will help you further. Appearance transformation can help much better in loving yourself than drugs. Swimming, breathing exercises can calm down your anxiety. Wish you well.

  • @JaneDoe-sw2js
    @JaneDoe-sw2js Před 4 lety +2

    Imbalanced male and female energy is the root of the problem. One is male, one female. Spiritually giving and giving but not receiving or accepting back is a problem. This occurs when we value others and not ourselves.

  • @joylapins2963
    @joylapins2963 Před 4 lety +1

    Looking hot Mark! 😉..
    Wow you really are good with words aren't you and I'm fascinated at how you can relate exactly how you are feeling.. I'm rubbish at explaining things..
    Staring is good, a bit of mindfulness is great. Hope you enjoyed the theatre 😊

  • @zeefarah1510
    @zeefarah1510 Před 4 lety

    I really appreciate the bravery of sharing how you feel in the moment. I empathise with you and I hope your amazing family are as supportive as I imagine them to be 🙏🏽

  • @kellylody7928
    @kellylody7928 Před 4 lety

    Your hair looks really good mark - I think sometimes once those impending doom feelings set in they take a while to leave again. I felt quick numb when I started my anti anxiety medications - however slowly things got better xx there is light mark

  • @NoreenRing
    @NoreenRing Před 4 lety

    Mark! You speak so much sense. You are amazing. You are so smart. You are just amazing. Xxxx

  • @Yvonneb_
    @Yvonneb_ Před 4 lety

    You look great Mark, really suits you x

  • @clarelc5933
    @clarelc5933 Před 4 lety +1

    You look amazing Mark!

  • @eireannbullimore7763
    @eireannbullimore7763 Před 4 lety

    I understand that thing about trying to explain it all. I've always been very good with words too but I've never felt I've explained how I feel adequately. The hurricane analogy was so good, it does feel exactly like that.
    Also you could try just an empty mind meditation rather than the mindfulness ones Nadia does, you might feel better if you were able to completely unplug your mind for a while and then control the return of conscience thought. It's hard and you gotta practice a lot but it really helped me back when I meditated. I should really start again.

  • @samanthaferrari5948
    @samanthaferrari5948 Před 4 lety +1

    Bloody hell, Mark looks fantastic!

  • @Kellyjellycones78
    @Kellyjellycones78 Před 4 lety

    Your hair looks great Mark!
    People have told me I stare into the astral plane!
    People have frequencies, we are all energy in one form or another! Everything living has a frequency even our planet and everything in our solar system I listen to the planets at times! Nasa has recorded the sound frequency of all the planets observable in our solar system, it's fascinating and I listen in secession the sounds they make...its very calming.
    Do you feel in general the mood of people has changed in the past decade? I do and there is so much unrest that creates a tangable subliminal feeling with actual physical effects.
    Even the word disease is to describe a uneasy feeling with actual physical effects.
    We are more connected to everything than we imagine.
    That's why people who feel the most have more physical effects.
    Being over aware creates Analysis paralysis, looking for meaning with in everything is a fucking head fuck!
    It's dnt make a person a fuck up to be over sensitive but it can make people feel different, and that is true but not any better or worse just different!
    Creative people often have periods of great highs followed low points! I honestly believe that's what feeds the creativity.
    The ability to create a story or character, comes from the imagination of a diverse thinker.
    Some of the most spectacular creations have been thought of in the darkest times.
    Celebrate the fact, sometimes it's best to just accept your own sensitivity and know it's some kind of fuel that is a part of you and once you understand it's a fundamental spectrum ...it will open you up and free you from it's grasp.
    Why try to fight something that's what is creating the anxiety, the rejection of parts of a personality.
    Some times I just have a good cry about stuff cos it's what I need.
    I dnt like it but I won't try and pretend I'm not just a emotional mess sometimes.
    Sometimes I've no reason that I can explain to other for my state of mind. Yet we all have these time in varying degrees, and to try to be strong all of the time is a massive part of a person demise.
    Our personal expectations and the expectations of others is also a massive factor.
    You have not lived until you have felt all of the spectrum of life! To feel high a person would have to know the lows!
    Appreciation of good times are measured against those times and this is the balance of everything.
    It sounds like a poster, but balance is all that life has to offer and the acceptance of each state.
    I have to have word with myself all the time...as mad as it sounds! Alan Watts is one of my favourite past times to listen to.
    That guy is just a genius!
    Your alright Mark, a really funny, open and respectfully honest! You have a wonderful wife who I love and a beautiful family.
    I look forward to watching you guys! Love your chats they are engageing and meaningful. I think we need more of what you offer online..." real" people living real life! Just do you!
    Sending positive vibes to you all.
    Xxx
    It's not a human failing to be upset it's a human factor and we are all on a spectrum of emotions at times.

  • @raspberrymojitogirldec
    @raspberrymojitogirldec Před 4 lety +1

    You look amazing mark interesting how well doing vlogg hugs and love

  • @catherinearciniegas9481

    wow!! lovin the haircut Mark

  • @theresarice8035
    @theresarice8035 Před 4 lety +1

    Your hair looks great, try breathing techniques to help calm anxiety xxx

  • @debbiehayward2048
    @debbiehayward2048 Před 4 lety

    Aw my heart goes out to you. please give the tablets a chance things will improve don't over overthink everything

  • @Marigoldblu
    @Marigoldblu Před 4 lety +1

    Please get another diagnosis if you can Mark. Love your hair by the way :D

  • @Joy-qw3wm
    @Joy-qw3wm Před 4 lety

    Mark ,do agree with what you`re saying.A new haircut can do wonders.You`re looking great ,with the work outs ,and now the hair.Great choice:)x

  • @ricciasa3536
    @ricciasa3536 Před 4 lety

    Hello Mark your videos on your mental state and what you are thinking.
    really helps me take a second look at some of the things that go throught my head .Ive always thought talking about. feeling to someone is better then any pills , has the pills just numb it for a little while but the feelings are still there. sometime I feel like im looking. from a dark place at a room full of chaos .do I take a pill to enter the room or do I find a friend to. hold your hand to enter the room .the hand will always feel better then the pills. P.S wish I had hair to have a good haircut like yours .keep smiling Mark

  • @traceypaddisonphoto
    @traceypaddisonphoto Před 4 lety

    Anxiety will take care of itself, it's the calmness that we have to work on...do more of the things that make you feel calm, I hope that make sense...also try the 7/11 breathing technique...inhale for 7, big exhale for 11.

  • @1000shoeswoman
    @1000shoeswoman Před 4 lety

    love your hair mark you look try not to over think you seem like the perfect dad husband don't beat yourself up
    all the symptoms i no wat your talking about but you should have a sleep in the day wen you feel tired don't fight it