At this moment I am happily single. I enjoy being alone, going on solo dates, going out to eat good food, and understanding what I want as a person. Until God brings me my future husband, I will enjoy this single season. 😊
Happily Single, not ready to see someone everyday. Own my on home, love my freedom, decorating like i want, if i just want a sandwich for dinner then that's ok. I take trips alone, I love the Peace of it all. Been married ..been there done that. Maybe one day I will be open for more now I'm just loving my life and really truly doing me❤🎉
I was married for more than 3 decades and had the privilege of being my wife’s home hospice caregiver. Now that I am alone, I have no absolutely interest in remarrying or being in a committed relationship because my wife is irreplaceable. So “happily single” women like you Helena, are right up my alley as I enjoy my autonomy and solitude when I want it , too. I lived alone for more than a decade before I got married and gained even greater skills in self reliance from my wife during our lives together. So, I don’t need a “help mate.” And, as long as we have that understanding, things will be great. But, that said, I feel a woman who just wants to maintain her autonomy is like me. And, since she only wants a casual relationship/friend with benefits, she should not expected to be treated like a woman who is being courted for a serious relationship. I never believed in mistreating anyone but there are different levels to interaction.
Thank you, I appreciate this! I feel understood. I’m glad you had the opportunity to love and be loved in a committed relationship and you don’t feel obligated to settle. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you!!! When I tell you I love peace and quiet so much, nothing is worth sacrificing it. Someone has to mutually respect this. Thank you for sharing and understanding!
Bravo to you, Helena, for doing this video!! I am BEYOND happily single and not even thinking about "mingling!" My peace of mind and being able to move freely about the country without question or hassle is PRICELESS. I'm over 50, so my perspective is probably a bit different than most, and God bless those ladies who are still waiting on their husband to come. But as for me and MY house, I'm good...blessed and highly favored.
I enjoy being single for the most part. i have my days when i long for companionship & once i think too long & hard im glad to be able to enjoy my freedom. I have also NEVER lived with anyone because i enjoy my space deeply.
I just started listening to your channel and everything you’re saying about being single is true. I’ve been single for a long time, ever since I was 18 years old, I’ve always wanted to get married, but the kind of man that I would like to marry hasn’t found me yet. My mother always told me that no one can make you happy, you have to make yourself happy. If you find someone, that’s great, but you can’t expect others to make you happy. With the quality of men that are out here today, they leave a lot to be desired. Also, a lot of these men today don’t want to marry or settle down with just one woman, they want to burn the candle at both ends and I’m not going to put up with all that. So, with that being said, i’m just going to continue living my best life and doing what I want to do. I’m not gonna wait to be happy, I’m happy now.
I have recently decided to not even date for awhile. I need to work on myself and at this time I don't like being in a broken state, always allowing women to use me, and end up alone and starting over because I build them up. So in order for me to experience love forreal I'm taking myself off the merry go round.
Yesssss, I have a specific man that I am called to as well. The gifts & strength God has put on the inside of me, I just can't give of myself to any man. God has me in protective custody/ covering right now until I meet my purpose mate. I'm enjoying my single season!! ❤🎉
I completely agree because more & more each day I've grown to enjoy my peace and singleness overall and people don't understand where I'm coming from I actually enjoy just seeing my friend every weekend vs every day to give us both space and no pressure to what's in store in future.
I love love, but I've been hurt a couple of times. Took time to heal, but this time was the longest. No one believes me but been single for 13 years and abstinent for 8 years now. I really am happily single. As I've gotten older I fell in love with myself, my time, my space. I go where I want, spend what I want, and hold myself accountable where I see failure and work on fixing at my own rhythm. I am open to dating, I just haven't met that one where I feel something yet. I am enjoying me until that time comes, and then I will make room for them.
One thing I’m happily single about is, no emotional investment. That can be very exhausting, especially when your partner is a little needy. And also, the spontaneity, I’m able to sign up for things I wanna sign up for without having to think of how it would make my partner feel. The only con is that, I long for a woman’s soft skin and sexy voice. But I’m willing to lose out on that for now
Great points, there are pros and cons. My hope is that it doesn’t make someone desperate or depressed. Singleness is a time for personal growth to me. Thank you for sharing, always appreciated!
I've been back in the states after 10 plus years over-seas as a civilian contracter ( Qatar,Iraq,Kuwaitt & Afghanistan ) did some mercenary work & logistics. I'm still adjusting to life back in the states and being around regular people-meaning ( being around military personnel,being around Arabs,around DOD & mercenary folks,other civilian contracters ) plus,I LOVE my peace and quiet,personal space,not arguing about stupid stuff. Now,I can put myself-FIRST-and don't have to please someone else,which is-GOLDEN-for me.
@@user-be7tc2bd6e your service ? A mercenary, is a hired gun, a soldier of fortune. A soldier, who puts prophets above allegiance above moral commitments.
I have come across your page. Interestingly, you are also in Houston. I found that most women do not want marriage; I am glad you are happy single and speak your truth. As a black educated man, I do see most women black women being happily single in their 30s to the point where BM are encouraged to be in interracial relationships. Thanks for the content. God Bless.
"Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper for for him'" Unless, of course, she has things to do... oh God ain't say that part? Haha
Hi Helena, I must say that I have enjoyed watching you videos in the past and I feel like you have said some very sensible things on a variety of topics. However, your use of the scripture would not be right in this circumstance and for two reasons. Firstly, apostle Paul gave this advice to the Corinthian church because of the crisis that was taking place in Corinth at the time. See 1 Cor 7:26. Secondly, apostle Paul advises that if they cannot control themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn in passion. See 1 Cor 7:9 This scripture should not be used as a justification for having intercourse outside of marriage. Of course, it is up to you if you want to date, but it is wrong to use the scriptures to support a single life if it is not accompanied by celibacy. Be single if you like, that is totally your choice and I ain't trying to judge your for it. But if you do want to have sex then the bible verse that you read does encourage you to be married first.
I TOTALLY agree with this comment right here! Especially the part regarding... can you really say you are happy in your singleness with no sex?? Hey, you brought the Bible into this Helena! Lol...
@@stacyhunter6763 Thank you. I like the way you put it, "can you really say that you are happy in your singleness with no sex??" Given that the Bible's involved that is a great question to ask.
Thank you for your elaboration. Dating does not mean having sex for clarification. Is that what you think? I understand the context in the Bible and I stated it for singles that don’t feel the need to be married. It still confirms my belief that marriage is not for everyone otherwise the disciples would have been married.
@@HelenaPaschal Peter, who is considered one of the most prominent disciples, is mentioned to have had a mother-in-law (Matthew 8:14-15; Mark 1:29-31), implying that he may have been married. In 1 Corinthians 9:5, Paul mentions that Peter and other apostles, including James (often identified as James, the brother of Jesus), take their wives along on their missionary journeys. This implies that Peter and possibly others among the apostles were married.
@@HelenaPaschal Hi Helena, thank you for your reply. I would disagree and say that dating is done with the intention of having sex. I know that you think the same way, because I listened to your story about the man who could not "get it up" and how you moved on swiftly from that situation. The bible teaches that if you desire sex then you should get married as you quoted in Corinthians. Some of the apostles were married and some were not. See 1 Cor 9:5. However, those who were not married lived celibate lives. This scripture does not confirm your belief that marriage is not for everyone because the qualifying factor is celibacy. If someone is single, dating and having sex then they do not have the gift of celibacy and marriage is something that they should aim for. Personally, I would not have taken issue with the video if it did not involve the scriptures. But with the scriptures involved an appropriate title would be "how to be a happily celibate"
At this moment I am happily single. I enjoy being alone, going on solo dates, going out to eat good food, and understanding what I want as a person. Until God brings me my future husband, I will enjoy this single season. 😊
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I have been happily single 66 years and I am in graduate school and living my best life!🎉
I love that for you!
I love to hear this! Many women attach happiness to marriage.
I’m happily single and will allow God to write ✍🏽 my love ❤story. Until I meet the man who God has for me, I’ll continue to enjoy my single life.
🙏🏽
Happily Single, not ready to see someone everyday. Own my on home, love my freedom, decorating like i want, if i just want a sandwich for dinner then that's ok. I take trips alone, I love the Peace of it all. Been married ..been there done that. Maybe one day I will be open for more now I'm just loving my life and really truly doing me❤🎉
Cuz . . . Peace of mind is priceless!
I am happily single. I enjoy peace and solitude, making solo decisions about my life and being my authentic self.
In Quiet, in Peace!
I was married for more than 3 decades and had the privilege of being my wife’s home hospice caregiver. Now that I am alone, I have no absolutely interest in remarrying or being in a committed relationship because my wife is irreplaceable. So “happily single” women like you Helena, are right up my alley as I enjoy my autonomy and solitude when I want it , too. I lived alone for more than a decade before I got married and gained even greater skills in self reliance from my wife during our lives together. So, I don’t need a “help mate.” And, as long as we have that understanding, things will be great.
But, that said, I feel a woman who just wants to maintain her autonomy is like me. And, since she only wants a casual relationship/friend with benefits, she should not expected to be treated like a woman who is being courted for a serious relationship. I never believed in mistreating anyone but there are different levels to interaction.
Thank you, I appreciate this! I feel understood. I’m glad you had the opportunity to love and be loved in a committed relationship and you don’t feel obligated to settle. Thank you for sharing!
The thing I enjoy about being single is peace & quiet...
Nothing wrong with what you're doing Helena.
Thank you!!! When I tell you I love peace and quiet so much, nothing is worth sacrificing it. Someone has to mutually respect this. Thank you for sharing and understanding!
Bravo to you, Helena, for doing this video!! I am BEYOND happily single and not even thinking about "mingling!" My peace of mind and being able to move freely about the country without question or hassle is PRICELESS. I'm over 50, so my perspective is probably a bit different than most, and God bless those ladies who are still waiting on their husband to come. But as for me and MY house, I'm good...blessed and highly favored.
I enjoy being single for the most part. i have my days when i long for companionship & once i think too long & hard im glad to be able to enjoy my freedom. I have also NEVER lived with anyone because i enjoy my space deeply.
I am happily SINGLE 🎉🎊
Freedom is precious
I just started listening to your channel and everything you’re saying about being single is true. I’ve been single for a long time, ever since I was 18 years old, I’ve always wanted to get married, but the kind of man that I would like to marry hasn’t found me yet. My mother always told me that no one can make you happy, you have to make yourself happy. If you find someone, that’s great, but you can’t expect others to make you happy. With the quality of men that are out here today, they leave a lot to be desired. Also, a lot of these men today don’t want to marry or settle down with just one woman, they want to burn the candle at both ends and I’m not going to put up with all that. So, with that being said, i’m just going to continue living my best life and doing what I want to do. I’m not gonna wait to be happy, I’m happy now.
I have recently decided to not even date for awhile. I need to work on myself and at this time I don't like being in a broken state, always allowing women to use me, and end up alone and starting over because I build them up. So in order for me to experience love forreal I'm taking myself off the merry go round.
Single women live longer is a pretty good incentive . . . so there's that . . .
Yesssss, I have a specific man that I am called to as well. The gifts & strength God has put on the inside of me, I just can't give of myself to any man. God has me in protective custody/ covering right now until I meet my purpose mate. I'm enjoying my single season!! ❤🎉
If you're not happy single, you probably won't be happy as married person....
💯...ppl need to learn how to be alone sometimes...just do'n you and learning yourself all over again.
I completely agree because more & more each day I've grown to enjoy my peace and singleness overall and people don't understand where I'm coming from I actually enjoy just seeing my friend every weekend vs every day to give us both space and no pressure to what's in store in future.
I love love, but I've been hurt a couple of times. Took time to heal, but this time was the longest. No one believes me but been single for 13 years and abstinent for 8 years now. I really am happily single. As I've gotten older I fell in love with myself, my time, my space. I go where I want, spend what I want, and hold myself accountable where I see failure and work on fixing at my own rhythm. I am open to dating, I just haven't met that one where I feel something yet. I am enjoying me until that time comes, and then I will make room for them.
I’m happily single 🎉 I enjoy my family and my space, I’m content until I’m ready for more.
Single and Happy!!💜💜💜❤️❤️❤️💙💙💙
Thank you! Someone said something! 😊❤
I like this Helena! Happily Single... it is a real joy to enjoy yourself without the guilt of having to take care of others. So Happy for you! :)
Thank you, Elisha! You know firsthand how important and hard it can be to make yourself a priority. Finally guilt free about it!
I’m very happy& single😊
Lol, you are so funny. I enjoy your video. 😊
Thank you
One thing I’m happily single about is, no emotional investment. That can be very exhausting, especially when your partner is a little needy.
And also, the spontaneity, I’m able to sign up for things I wanna sign up for without having to think of how it would make my partner feel.
The only con is that, I long for a woman’s soft skin and sexy voice. But I’m willing to lose out on that for now
Great points, there are pros and cons. My hope is that it doesn’t make someone desperate or depressed. Singleness is a time for personal growth to me. Thank you for sharing, always appreciated!
Happy single!
Im single, i cant say happily it definitely gets lonely but im so tired of being used for sex
Paul is talking about being single and celibate.Not this Modern version single hood.Meaning if you want sex. You need get married
Oh okay so all the disciples were virgins?
I've been back in the states after 10 plus years over-seas as a civilian contracter ( Qatar,Iraq,Kuwaitt & Afghanistan ) did some mercenary work & logistics. I'm still adjusting to life back in the states and being around regular people-meaning ( being around military personnel,being around Arabs,around DOD & mercenary folks,other civilian contracters ) plus,I LOVE my peace and quiet,personal space,not arguing about stupid stuff. Now,I can put myself-FIRST-and don't have to please someone else,which is-GOLDEN-for me.
Thank you for your service and I definitely understand. Your comment is appreciated.
@@HelenaPaschal Thank you for recognizing my service,it's appreciated.You're producing good content,keep-up the GOOD work.
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your service ?
A mercenary, is a hired gun, a soldier of fortune. A soldier, who puts prophets above allegiance above moral commitments.
I travel . . .
I am absolutely miserable i will admit but i love my space as well
I'm happy single. Been divorced. I'm working on myself. I live on my own schedule. It's wonderful. I choose not to date right now. ...my choice.😊
I have come across your page. Interestingly, you are also in Houston. I found that most women do not want marriage; I am glad you are happy single and speak your truth. As a black educated man, I do see most women black women being happily single in their 30s to the point where BM are encouraged to be in interracial relationships. Thanks for the content. God Bless.
Im happily unmarried and not looking.
Ain't no crime taken your time.
"Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper for for him'"
Unless, of course, she has things to do... oh God ain't say that part? Haha
lol! Good perspective, thank you for sharing!
Hi Helena, I must say that I have enjoyed watching you videos in the past and I feel like you have said some very sensible things on a variety of topics. However, your use of the scripture would not be right in this circumstance and for two reasons.
Firstly, apostle Paul gave this advice to the Corinthian church because of the crisis that was taking place in Corinth at the time. See 1 Cor 7:26.
Secondly, apostle Paul advises that if they cannot control themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn in passion. See 1 Cor 7:9 This scripture should not be used as a justification for having intercourse outside of marriage. Of course, it is up to you if you want to date, but it is wrong to use the scriptures to support a single life if it is not accompanied by celibacy.
Be single if you like, that is totally your choice and I ain't trying to judge your for it. But if you do want to have sex then the bible verse that you read does encourage you to be married first.
I TOTALLY agree with this comment right here! Especially the part regarding... can you really say you are happy in your singleness with no sex?? Hey, you brought the Bible into this Helena! Lol...
@@stacyhunter6763 Thank you. I like the way you put it, "can you really say that you are happy in your singleness with no sex??" Given that the Bible's involved that is a great question to ask.
Thank you for your elaboration. Dating does not mean having sex for clarification. Is that what you think? I understand the context in the Bible and I stated it for singles that don’t feel the need to be married. It still confirms my belief that marriage is not for everyone otherwise the disciples would have been married.
@@HelenaPaschal Peter, who is considered one of the most prominent disciples, is mentioned to have had a mother-in-law (Matthew 8:14-15; Mark 1:29-31), implying that he may have been married.
In 1 Corinthians 9:5, Paul mentions that Peter and other apostles, including James (often identified as James, the brother of Jesus), take their wives along on their missionary journeys. This implies that Peter and possibly others among the apostles were married.
@@HelenaPaschal Hi Helena, thank you for your reply. I would disagree and say that dating is done with the intention of having sex. I know that you think the same way, because I listened to your story about the man who could not "get it up" and how you moved on swiftly from that situation.
The bible teaches that if you desire sex then you should get married as you quoted in Corinthians. Some of the apostles were married and some were not. See 1 Cor 9:5. However, those who were not married lived celibate lives.
This scripture does not confirm your belief that marriage is not for everyone because the qualifying factor is celibacy. If someone is single, dating and having sex then they do not have the gift of celibacy and marriage is something that they should aim for.
Personally, I would not have taken issue with the video if it did not involve the scriptures. But with the scriptures involved an appropriate title would be "how to be a happily celibate"
If you on you tube making videos then I don't think you happily single 😂. I'm single and never going on you tube ever in life.
Thank you! Someone said something! 😊❤