r/AITA My Dad is Dating a 16-yo Girl
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0:00 Intro
0:06 P word
1:38 Boss kisser
5:13 Child support
7:36 P word R wordist
10:30 Comment
11:14 Awful younger brother
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Being “mentally delayed” and “not understanding what he did was wrong” only means he’s likely to do it again cause he doesn’t know it’s bad
And he’s surrounded by family who are encouraging him to not face his consequences and rationalize his acts
@@lorilancaster5917 If there’s no consequences, he doesn’t have to deal with the gravity of his actions
And if they really were so disabled they wouldn’t have been charged cause they wouldn’t be fit, and would’ve gone to a mental hospital
@@PugGrumbler Omg I didn’t even think of that
Age of consent is not a pass. I'm 40 and when 18, 19, and 20 year old dudes try and flirt with me, it is just...ick. They look like babies to me.
lol you still smell like piss until like mid-20s in my book... I get what you mean!
You can say that again I'm 25 but I get mistaken for 16 everytime I go out I had a 16 year old try and flirt with me I told him I'm 25 he didn't believe me I told him I didn't give 2 fart knockers I'm not dating a 16 year old
And is OP's father's friend's child. She probably knew her as a child. Gross
yo I'm nearly 28 and people just a year younger than me feel like teenagers to me 😂
Date shows it doesn't work that way with men. Regardless of men's age they tend to be attracted to women in their early twenties.
I know divorce is way easier said than done but the second OP is basically a doormat with “step on me harder” written on it. He caught her lying, caught her cheating on him, knows that she’s continuing her emotional affair, and is being accused of all sorts of nasty things. OP should strike now when his wife is stuck in the affair fog.
Yea he beed a divorce ASAP.
@@MathieuDuvaland the boss reported to his superiors if any
@lorilancaster5917 actually you can report COI to your State or Province Ethics Commission, not just to OP's (hopefully ex) wife's boss's boss
I don't understand how 50/50 custody entitles the ex-wife to ANY child support.
Because one parent will still beat more of the expenses.
It could be because of income disparity, like since OP makes 6 figures and his ex probably makes around 50k as a teacher, OP may still pay child support (even if it’s 50/50) but it depends on the state
Income disparity. It's so that the kids aren't lacking basic necessities at the house of the parent that earns less
Income disparity I know a dead beat with a rich mom who managed to get cs off his ex wife cause on paper he was poor and had no money. The biggest bs was he had 40% while the mom had 60%. Dude didn't take care of the kids when he had them instead he would get high. His mom paid to have a good lawyer on retainer for her man child.
Same it makes no sense, only when the one has less than 50% are they supposed to pay support. He should go back toncourt for that.
Story 4: WHY IS THE FAMILY STILL WANTING THAT CREEP BIL TO BE AROUND THEM???
WHY IS HE INVITED TO A 12 YEAR OLD’S BIRTHDAY PARTY?
Seriously it’s a very bad idea to let ANYONE who has attraction to minors be anywhere near a minor.
That’s what normal people think
One of my ex friends is dating a pedo. His excuse was "I was on bad meth and blackout drunk". She's a preacher's kid who thinks she can change him 🤢 not to mention that he is a white supremacist with the tattoos on his body 🙄 and she decided to bring my 3-year-old God kid around him.
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 You're defending this guy under every comment. Disgusting.
Further proving OP needs to get the heck out of that family! They are actually trying to rationalize BILs actions. I’m also betting they would’ve tried to distract OP at the party and introduce OPs daughter to him since she’s new in the family.
Probably all droped on their head once as a baby
Last story: "You denied me the chance to make things right!"
Me: You happen to have a time machine on you? The ONLY way you could make things right is to not have slept with them MARRIED your brother's wife.
And he didn’t want to make things right. He wanted to make his brother’s situation all about him. And screw OPs wife with the “I understand but…..”. If you understood you would respect the deceased sons wishes and not hold it over OPs head.
@@lorilancaster5917 Yeah, he didn't feel bad for what he did, he just didn't like that his family didn't like him, which is why he demanded forgiveness. He didn't want to make things right, he just wanted things to be made right.
I know, right! I just about fell over when I heard that. I wonder what he thinks he could possibly have done to 'make things right'.
The words I have to describe that younger brother and the wife are probably not allowed by YT.
And when are people going to get that the VICTIM gets to decide the extent of any forgiveness and the boundaries of any relationship. A perpetrator wanting to offer an apology does not give them the right to inflict further harm on a victim by disregarding their boundaries.
PDF files deserve no sympathy and shouldn't be around anyones kids. They have a super high recidivism rate, so you can't take chances.
Even if this playground extraction specialist is "reformed" it's still up to OP who gets to be around their kid for any or no reason
@@tmansmith2110 I agree that parents have the freedom of choosing who to associate their kids with and I never said they didn't. The problem is that SOs have a re-offend rate that quadruples over the 20 years after release from prison. On average, it goes from 10 to 40%. These stats are probably low as they only include reported crimes and many times these crimes aren't. So keeping them away from kids is paramount
My cousin got arrested for trying to solicit a 13 year old. After that, he sexually harassed me (although I was 27 at the time it was still very wrong for so many reasons). Somehow he "got out" of any charges after he got arrested. He should have went to jail. The good ole boy system sucks. My family blamed the girl and kept silent, and my mom told me not to tell anyone about him sexually harassing me. It's been years and he is almost 40 and still single. Still living at home. They claim he's "doing better." But I don't see it. My guess is that he just hasn't gotten caught.
@@tmansmith2110"Playground Extraction Specialist" is probably the most creative way I've heard someone describe someone like that 😅
There is literally only one appropriate response to finding out someone has those inclinations, but unfortunately doing that will result in you spending the rest of your life in prison while society decides YOU are the bad guy for it.
Story 4: Some things can never be forgiven. OP's just protecting her child, and there's no guarantee that BIL won't reoffend. As for the in-law family, shame on them for being so adamant on bring BIL to places children would be, that's asking for disaster
Having worked with offenders, my guess is the family is going through reunification. (especially at two years post release) It is well documented the success in reunification drops recidivism.
Seems like there is an obvious cause of the BIL "trauma" and family wants to keep that quiet cause they don't want people to know.
And even if everything with BIL is true, there’s still one big problem: OP does not know BIL in the slightest beyond his terrible deeds. Most people don’t trust strangers with their kids much less strangers _with criminal records._
Especially using the argument "he didn't understand what he did was wrong, he did his time! " as though that's somehow supposed to just make any future interactions *not* worth worrying about with that mentality?
@@alexanderhenby1362Thank you for your service! Working corrections has to be one of the hardest jobs you can do. I'm glad there's a program like that which helps with rehabilitation.
Unfortunately for offenders, when it comes to P-Word crimes, very few people can be forgiving of them. I don't blame people for feeling that way though. If the offender in the story is truly reformed, I hope he stays reformed. But OP has every right to refuse to let her daughter around her husband's brother, even if it means divorce.
I'm glad that there is at least some who do truly reform. Unfortunately, it doesn't fix the hurt they caused. It's a heinous crime.
Wouldn’t he be on the offender registry for life after repeated offenses?
Story three: We all know, right? That lady ain’t caring about if the kids are deprived, she’s just mad that she can’t claim that child support for herself.
She ruined her family, she’s just a selfish POS
Absolutely, she wouldn't be bitching about it otherwise. And I don't recall child support ever being involved in 50-50 custody, so there's a good chance it might not even be legally mandated, but just a formality
@@brendanboomhour7606 As some people in other comments mentioned, with cases of 50-50 custody, they look at wage disparity, which is basically who makes more money. If they both make close to the same amount, then neither has to pay, but if one makes more than the other, especially significantly, then the one who makes more pays. And clearly OP makes more than she does, as he used to work 12.5 hours a day, 14 days on 7 days off (which basically means they work for 14 days in a row, and then get a week off) and she's a teacher. Even with him working a less stressful job, he probably makes more money than she does, which is why he has to pay. If she made more money than him, then she would have to pay.
yeah that's basically it, a teacher's salary isnt great, she could live quite well when she was with her ex and now she's mad cause 800$ isnt gonna cover luxury for her, it definitely more than covers cost for the kids since she only has them 50% of the time. That's probably why she still get support cause her income must be a loooot lower than his but the 800$ is more than enough for the kids, she's just mad she can't enjoy the good life anymore.
4th story: don't let him near her. I was exploited by a 28 yr old man when I was 15 and they might have a change of heart but they still have the urges. It's not up to op to help him feel reformed.
Being remorseful is accepting how ppl now see you
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 You're defending this guy under every comment. Disgusting.
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 you're literally everywhere to defend this guy.. Projecting much?? get help you creep
@@dontlookinmydescription7743 how is this comment defending?
@@Scarlett.Granger check his other comments too buddy
I imagine when something happens to the niece, the family will pressure her to stay quiet because "he's changed!" I hope OP stays in contact with her to make sure she's safe cause her family obviously won't 😑
My aunt's BIL was a PDF file. He did things to my middle sister and two of my cousins while his mother was hosting playdates/babysitting. I'm fairly certain that he would've gone after his sister's daughter as well. I know that it wasn't until my youngest cousin talked about with my aunt that she believed the older cousin's accusation, and it wasn't until my sister had extensive therapy that she was able to admit that she was one of his victims.
Leopards can't change their spots, and "pdf files" don't "reform". Once an SAer, always an SAer. Shut him OUT! 😡
You'd think If he's so "reformed" he'd just volunteer to not come too close to kids.
Also thinking he's entitled to forgiveness just because he served time? Absolutely not. Hope the niece is never too close to him.
I know right the family would be like:oups our wrong sorry anyway
Which is it? Did he “feel bad and pay his time” or is he “too traumatized to really know what he did wrong”??? Because you can’t have both at once.
*First OP:* It's bad enough that OP's dad is a PDF file, but he's one of _those_ who try to justify it with, "technically, that's not a" P-File. _And_ he dated his ex's daughter?! Ghetto! OP is NTA.
*Second OP:* You vs the man she told you not to worry about. OP should divorce his wife. He wouldn't want to put her in a cage, would he? OP is NTA.
*Third OP:* Lol at OP's ex getting mad at OP for having to pay less in child support. This all could've been avoided if she hadn't gotten her back blown out by other dudes during their marriage. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* Condolences to OP and his wife. OP was honoring his son's wishes. He was being a good father. OP is NTA, and F cancer.
I agree with ya on the first story. And lol, PDF file. That's creative. XD
honestly yeah, he's just trying to justify himself while he's clearly in the wrong, but the fact that people (from the US/anglosphere) tend to group infantophilia, pedophilia, hebephilia and even ephebophilia under the pedophile sticker isn't helping their case. The word has a certain meaning and broadening it this widely makes it lose it's meaning, just like people calling everyone they disagree with a nazi.
@@dracko158Lol, I've seen other people use that substitute, and I stole it. 😛
@@PotatoSmasher420I was about to say that while the dad is still disgusting for dating a minor, ephebophile is the correct term, not PDF file.
@@PotatoSmasher420yeah while all of them are terrible the difference is important. Expecially in regards to how victims can deal with the consequences and what therapy is appropriate.
Story 5: Totally justified. Death does not confer blanket pardons.
Exactly. Anyone thinking the younger son will try to get his wife pregnant so they can name the child after the deceased brother and make up their own story?
@@lorilancaster5917 Yep, they're already creating the narrative that they were victims and kept away from dying family. What horrible people. I hope they both cheat on each other.
You know what? Even if the age of consent is lower than average where you live, it is STILL fucked up to pursue a relationship with a person the same age as your child, I'm pretty sure there was a Bojack Horseman episode with that EXACT story
Yeah, the Penny situation.
yeah, teenage girls lack life experience. Any grown ass man actively pursuing anything with a 16 year old is undeniably creepy and groomer behaviour, even if its technically "legal". A lot of things are legal but still unethical
@cielbie8251 assuming that story was from the US, it would still likely be illegal. While there are a lot of states with age of consent at 16, according to a quick Google search it would still be illegal for anyone 20 years or older to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with a 16 year old
Sadly can't post pictures here, but this is described perfectly by that meme "Regardless of the law, you should have a moral obligation to not fuck a child."
@@theickster3008yeah don’t those laws usually state that it can only be a 3-4 year age gap for it to be legal. Which it’s still weird that anyone over 18 would wants a 16 year old.
“we’ll keep an eye on him so he won’t be alone with her”
so, you’re saying if she’s alone with him he’ll do something? yeah, absolutely not
And they wouldn’t keep an eye on her. They would try to introduce her to him behind OPs back and go back to partying. They don’t want ti face the reality of his crimes and the fact he he hasn’t reformed. I’m also betting he never genuinely apologized to his victim nor her family
Story 1: if I had to guess he assumed that since OP's his kid, they would automatically be on his side. And I will never understand the delusion of people like this, do you really expect your friend to be okay that you are dating their under age daughter? Nevermind that part about giving them a piece of his mind, like dude, are you trying to get jumped? And I'm going to assume he was telling the truth about the age of consent in your state, because I would imagine the mom or any of his former friends would have already called the cops by now.
I think you're right. I'm also guessing that OP is male, which is why a) the dad thinks he can speak 'man-to-man' to OP and b) why daddy isn't hitting on OP.
S4: If he's mentally 15, shouldn't he still know what he did was wrong? If he was mentally 6 or like 10, I'd MAYBE agree, but, 15 is still old enough to know it's bad. Wtf?
I’m wondering if they said that for well to try to get him off the hook but if sentenced, he be placed under protection from the inmates? Inmates don’t think highly of people imprisoned for sexual related crimes.
It's just them justifying it, unfortunately, and further pushing stereotypes. If he's mentally 15, he 100% knows it's wrong and is using it as an excuse.
It's not pedophilia, it's ephebophilia. Ephebophila is when you're a pedophile, but because your targets are teenagers you want to act like technically you're something different or better(it's not) so you can feel better about yourself(you shouldn't).
Use the upper case/lower case letter repeat thing with that first sentence and it'll be funnier. Had me the first in half, etc.
Technically it's for the older teenagers, typically 14-17. Between p*do and ephebo you have hebephilia, which is for the preteens, typically 11-13. However, most people just generalize it all under p*edophilia.
@@AzureKyle And rightly so. It's all the same, attraction to children.
That is... the best way of putting it I've ever seen. Bravo.
Every time I see that argument being made, I recall a bit by Gianmarco Soresi in regard to R. Kelly. It can be found on youtube pretty easily.
Age of consent that is less than 18 in the states is for 16 year olds to be with other 16-18 year olds. Not so 38 years olds can be with 16 year olds.
I thought those were normally covered with the “Romeo and Juliet” laws, which don’t lower the age of consent but rather make exceptions for those who are close to the line on either side?
Unfortunately, it actually means they can date/sleep with 40 year olds if they want to. You are thinking of the Romeo and Juliet clauses some states have, but if the states age of consent is 16, she can consent to sleep with anyone 16 and up.
but thats assuming they are in the US depends which country they are also in and the kid is technically wrong on the term hes not the p one hes one of the other philes
Pre-2001 North Carolina would like to have a word with you.
Also, I looked it up. Here, the law is if you're 15, you can be in a relationship with someone who is less than 4 years older, and if 15 or 16, within 10 years. So at least not a TOTAL free for all. /s
Story 2, she's actively cheating, and gaslighting him to let her continue. The kiss alone is when he should have filed for divorce.
2nd story: *HOLY FUCKING SHIT, SHE REMINDS ME OF MY EX,* gaslighting him, lying, making consolations. And this dude needs to stop being so pathetic. She cheated on him myltiple times, he makes the tiniest of demands and what? That’s him “putting his foot down?” “Drawing the line?” Dudes been walked over 16x ways to Sunday and is like, “ok…you can be around him, but you’ve gotta…ooh I swear…you’ve gotta pinky promise to be professional, ok?! *OK?!* 😠”
I mean he is right that p*phile is technically for kids before puberty but if that's your defense, you know that the relation is problematic at best
16 year olds are still mentally immature to be in relationships with adults
Only creeps get defensive about that.
Ok groomer
I remember a comedian saying something like "technically it is ephebophilia, but if you try to explain the difference from hebephilia, ephebophilia, and pedophilia... you sound like a huge pedophile."
Ok creep
Last story: OP it wasn't your decision it was your son who made it very clear he wanted nothing to do with his younger brother or his ex-wife. And you're young it doesn't get to be mad that his brother's final wish was to not be a tool to help him get closure. To quote BoJack horseman "you have to live with a shity thing you did, and know that it's never going to be okay." That's the kind of closure your youngest is ever going to get.
The younger brother is such a tool. Did he seriously think he could "make things right"! Too late for that, buddy.
Small update on the boss kisser story and more info:
thanks for all your support. It’s also hurting me some of the messages. I feel so dumb. But I’m happy with all the reactions too. I should have asked earlier… thanks also for the genuine, empathic messages.
Thanks for all your support. Love you all.
Comment by op: Forgot to mention that her boss is married and has a new born with his wife. The poor girl. And I have her phone number. I’m so on edge to call her tomorrow and explain everything.
Of course the boss has a newborn. He’s clearly one of those “she’s not giving me the attention she used to” sorts.
I hope he does and has screenshots
Story 2: okay first of all stop letting her think you're stupid, friends don't regularly hug and kiss each other, they are so clearly dating. In the fact she tried to make you seem like a jerk for not wanting your wife to not date her boss, it just damn pathetic. And for her to actually use the argument that you would take money from her is a sign that that might be the only reason she's still married to you.
OP you gave her an ultimatum and she clearly made her choice, and she apparently has no respect for you, she's not even hiding it you know she cheating and she's guilt tripping you for not letting her. I'm sorry but your marriage is over.
Yeah when she couldn't keep a job for over a year and suddenly she keeps this job and loves it... it's because she's doing more with her boss than kissing 😂
If she isn't physically cheating now, she very soon will be. This relationship has already sunk. OP is still hugging the anchor as it goes down. 🤨
The best part is he thinks his wife and her boss didn't passionately hugged 😆
This guy really is pathetic. He finds out his wife is cheating on him and does nothing. In fact he continues to let his wife work for and see the man she cheated with. Then when she continues to cheat on him is like “oh I think you need to stop seeing ur bit on the side, is that ok with you.” FFS op grow a back bone.
Boss kisser OP is the most understanding and kind partner I’ve seen in a while and it’s being wasted on that awful wife
Problem is he’s passed kindness territory and is in spineless territory. She won’t stop this so OP should
That's not understanding and kind. That kind of spinelessness is not a virtue. Feel sad for him, but don't admire his actions.
Some people have far too much confidence in justifying their actions and not enough shame
It's what Paul the apostle calls having a "seared conscience".
First story: Why in fudge did no one report him to the police?!?! That’s a borderline case of grooming!!
police don't tend to take these cases seriously unless there's explicit evidence of them doing suggestive things
It said, that she is above age of consent. So, you would need to proof any kind of coercion or unbalanced dynamic going on.
OPs dad has so many red flags that it’s a sea of red
Op needs to run like run fast
OPs dad should be grateful that he isn’t in jail
I hope the girl’s mom can get her in therapy and try to get a RO against OPs dad. I don’t care how he spins it, he’s a creep!
Hey dad, have you wondered what asphalt tastes like? Well here's a curb you could bite down on. Say what do you think about my new boots?
"Are you wearing that sports cup? Let's test it out right now!"
@@danielbrant6740and here’s a line of people wanted to test their golf cleats on you
Why is the wife getting child support when they have 50/50 custody? This isn’t right as no one should pay
OP, you'll save a couple Ks on a family court lawyer, and pay a mint over the next 2 decades. A fool and his money!
I can almost guarantee this is a "he was the sole earner for years" situation. So they make adjustments based off the earning potential. If she's a teacher and he's making six figures there ya go. It's a messed up system that needs to be changed
@@victoriakinny9210I guess OP should be thankful he doesn’t have to pay alimony. Let her flings take care of her since they’re worth throwing her marriage away for
Wage discrepancy. If you make a certain amount of money more than your partner you will end up paying child support reguarless to maintain the child’s “standard of living” while at the other parents house.
@@victoriakinny9210 It's not messed up, it makes sense. If custody is split evenly, and one person significantly makes more money than the other, they should pay child support, so the child gets equal support from both parents. Otherwise, you'll have a case where the child starts siding with one parent over the other because "things are nicer at dad's and he buys me things because he makes more money"
WHAT DID YOU EXPECT JACOB BLACK
Who is Jacob Black? I know I can google it but I have a feeling that I don’t want it on my history
@@allisonwilliams7455Jacob black from the Twilight series where he imprinted on a baby (Bella and Edward’s daughter)
@@cmt9271995 thank you. I was right about not googling that
@@cmt9271995 I still can't believe it's an actual scene in the books/movies
@@allisonwilliams7455
Yeah and "imprinting" is basically another way of saying "soulmates."
Also, Bella and Edward's daughter was growing at a rapid pace. She became a teen by the end of "Breaking Dawn," but it's still icky.
Surprised that nobody batted an eye about it when it first was released. 👀
Story 1 is exactly why I don't wanna hear "whats in the contract" or "what's in the will" when it comes to AITA.
If you can only defend your actions on legality, then people probably dislike you for a good reason.
Story 4: If BIL was "reformed", he would opt not to be around children/teens at all. The mere fact that he not doing so is the greatest red flag imaginable.
First story: Does the dad also think "Taxes are theft"? That driver's licenses are cruel oppression by the state?
Omg there is a reason why they have to be registered sex offenders once they leave prison. To avoid this happening again which 1000% it will.
Which is why I hope OP informs the authorities. I’m also betting he’s staying with family instead of his authorized housing in PDFville.
@@lorilancaster5917 100% that's got to be grounds for breaking probation. I'm not a parent but I taught for 9 yrs and anything like this happening to my kids was my biggest nightmare. 💔
A grave was digged for me when I read the first 10 seconds of the first story
*dug
*dug.
*dug
*Doug
*dawg
"He was mentally the same as the 15 yo girl.''
So we are clear, at 15 yo and actually every age I knew it's wrong to Grape anyone.
*2nd Story:* Unless that boss is the owner of the company, OP should definitely go up the ladder to let them know that a boss & employee are having a not entirely professional relationship.
Regardless, he and the wife should’ve consulted a lawyer long ago. I’m not going to let the wife off the hook completely, but the boss is the biggest bad guy here. OP said she didn’t have a lot of work experience. I think he definitely took advantage of her. She let the situation get out of hand, but he abused his position.
Note the age of consent in the states that are 16 years old. It's when the other party is under 4 to 5 years difference... So an 18 to a 20 year old can't lose their life for dating 16 year old if both parties are consenting.... Not for someone with a 15 plus age difference....
Story 1 : ahhhh is this an adult video storyline?? NTA..
Story 2 : " she was furious accusing me of breaching her privacy and such" ahhh the rare cheater double take .. NTA.. " shes only had jobs for 1-2 years" is it because she rode her bosses out of the job?? Op just leave.. your wife is clearly riding both you and her boss..
Story 3 : NTA.. the ex is really trying to have her cake and eat it too.. " I cheated but you better keep paying me for it".. welcome to the court system Rslash where it's almost always men's fault.
Story 4 : NTA.. kid touchers can't be trusted no matter what..op your doing the right thing by being preventive and not reactive .. " everyone is pissed at me because he did his time and tried to convince me several times that what my Bil did was a one time thing" yeah op is doing the right thing with making sure it's a 1 time thing .. op hasband is a complete donkey dude it's not a hard decision protect the kid from a kid toucher..if anything op gets -5 out of 5 a hole this is a hill to die on op do not let the toucher around your kid in any way shape or forum...
Story 5 : NTA.. why would you tell a backstabbing bleephole what happened to his victim?? He doesn't deserve jack only to be shunned.. op your wife is cray cray and just plane awful as person she's upset that your youngest is mad well maybe he shouldn't have slept with his brothers lady .. the youngest burns the bridge to his brother by stabbing him in the back and is throwing a tantrum that he's not getting the chance to " make things right" Dude don't betray your brother and think " im sorry " is gonna fix it.. op youngest and the cheating hussy get 4 out of 5 a hole and op wife gets 4 out of 5 a hole as well trying to defend the indefensible " let's just but it behind us and heal " op needs to start checking if his wife is cheating on him ..
His brothers lady? That ain’t no lady.
@@Mariamunro95 I was trying to be nice and not get " your comment failed to post " from sjwtube....
I like going on Reddit to see the incredible stupid responses people make. Like “In some European countries the age of consent is 16. So YTA for not defending your father because hE’s fAmILy”
Funny enough here in State of Georgia the age of consent 16 but they do have exceptions to it like the Romeo and Juliet law. Even so it's very creepy regardless.
@@1985toyotacamryThe Romeo and Juliet laws mainly are if you’re 14 and they’re 16. People much older aren’t exactly liked for it
In my country, the age of consent is 15, but I *guarantee* that people would still think it was super sketchy for a 38 year old to be dating a teenager. Honestly, he should just be thankful that nobody has turned up on his doorstep to kick the crap out of him.
@@1985toyotacamry In my state the only exception is if they're more than 3 years older, so 19 would be the cutoff age to date a 16 year old (pretty sure that's still Romeo and Juliet law though)
@@YourXavier Up until last year, the age of consent in Japan was 13. They ended up raising it to 16 last year though thankfully.
That last story is just further evidence that people shouldn't be allowed to marry their siblings' ex-spouses. If anything, sleeping with a sibling's spouse should be treated like incest.
Story 3 is wild because that man gave her so many chances when he had no reason to. At a point, it just feels like she’s trying to hurt him
So… OP’s wife made out with her boss multiple times, and is mad at her husband.. for being mad at her? And as for the, and being honest here, pedophilic rapist, if he got arrested for what he did, surely he’d be on some sort of registry, right? Sex offenders aren’t supposed to be near children. That’s like if I kill someone I hate, then my friends beg someone else I hate to let me hang out with them.
If he has 50/50 custody he owes 0 child support
Should be that way, but the courts are heavily biased toward women. During my divorce, that was what my ex tried. She even quit her job to lower her income, but I had a shark of a lawyer who took no bs.
@@camarofan2008 not always. there was a judge in Michigan that sent kids to some kind of camp and called them liars because they refused to spend time with their (allegedly, not entirely sure) abusive father.
@GiordanDiodato there are always exceptions, but statistically, the courts favor women.
@@camarofan2008maybe OP should hire your lawyer.
@@camarofan2008 If the difference in salary is massive, you can still have to pay child support so the kids don't end up missing some necessities at the other parent's place. Also, your ex's a cunt! lol
Fourth story: So your telling me these people are not only excusing a rapist but are protecting a rapist as well. Everyone deserves 10/5 bholes! The only way op WOULD be in the wrong is if she stays with her husband, and shares custody with her husband after the divorce. I 100% bet that if op shares custody that the husband WILL bring her to family events, and that child WILL be around him.
I also wonder if the police and BILs parole officer know that he’s in proximity to children?
She shouldn't be divorcing her husband, they should communicate. The brother never once, according to the story. Tried to get the daughter around the rapist. What he did do is lament that he's lost his family because of the rapist and is being harassed
@@lorilancaster5917 Probably not, the family is probably lying to them. I'm also certain that his 'childhood trauma' is that he also got diddled as a child and the family is trying to cover that up as well.
@@Manorbis Exactly. Some people are acting as if he's siding with his family and thinks like they do, when he's just upset and feels like everyone is giving him an ultimatum and forcing him to choose. However, this is where he is the AH, because it shouldn't even be a choice. He needs to do everything in his power to protect his daughter, even if it means going NC with the rest of his family.
Did the store say that the husband tried to do anything else, or just breakdown?
USA Prisons doesn't "reform" convicts, it "punishes" their actions. It's one of the reasons recidivism rates are so high.
That fourth story brings back an old memory. When I was a teenager, one of my teenage cousins began to get very inappropriate in the way he touched me. My older sister made the same complaint about him. We had the good sense to just stay away from him when visiting the relatives. I am forgiving in the sense that he is very slow in the head due to childhood trauma. He has bad learning delays and it showed when his hormones kicked in during his teen years. That does NOT mean I want to visit him and I definitely do NOT want him anywhere near my daughter, even when heavily supervised!
Crazy how the husband in story 4 is being bashed for being unhappy that he can no longer connect his family’s because of what his brother did. At no point in the story does it say or show that he wants to bring them together yet he gets the cold shoulder from his wife for being sad and called an ahole here. Wild
Story 1: WOW!! Not even sugar coating it with a softer story. Just right into it! Darn R/Slash! Also dude realizes he’s a P-word CUZ THE GIRL IS UNDER 18! Age of consent in any state/country doesn’t matter. The age of the CHILD is what matters.
Story 2: OP didn’t “breach her privacy”. She opened that door when she tried deleting the message she got. And then that confession…the constant texting on a family trip…and the increased contact. This woman lost the plot and it’s obvious her family is no longer a priority. So she doesn’t have the right to get mad that she’s been given an ultimatum.
Story 3: So wife cheated cuz she felt “neglected”. And because OP stopped working the “normal amount”, her normalized standard of living that she felt entitled to is practically dead due to working less hours to have more time with his kids. Woman reeeeeeeeeeally didn’t think this through (or ignored all the talks about how the money would be cut when OP changed his hours)
Story 4: Holy hell…2 of these stories in 1 vid?! All the yikes. Why is the family so set on “he paid the price for his mistakes, so get over it” isn’t an excuse to allow a pred around kids again?! OP is in the right to protect her child and not allow a predator near her child. And since the husband is so “torn” then OP has the right to leave him so he doesn’t have to “choose between family”.
Story 5: Wow so OP is definitely caught in the middle. Good on her for protecting his older son’s wishes. But the fact the youngest son felt entitled to know his brother passed AFTER BETRAYING HIM. So I agree with OP that the youngest son doesn’t deserve to be at the funeral. Blood isn’t thicker than water when such a deep rooted betrayal happens. What he did was grounds for disownment.
Slight disagreement on 5: everyone gets that saying wrong and therefore keep taking it as Family is more important, the full saying is The blood of the covenant is thicker then the water of the womb.
Story 3: It sounds like the children are doing okay, so why is the wife throwing a fit about it? She is making money herself, and OP doesn't need to work as intensely anymore, so what's the issue?
she wants to exploit OP for more money, possibly for a second time, from the sounds of it
She's a gold digger that was expecting enough child support to live off of for the next 15 years or so. Now she's going to have to get a job
Isn’t there a law that requires those types of people to stay FAR FAR AWAY from kids and local school zones?! Where’s the police?! Throw the book at them all! So glad she didn’t have kids with the man otherwise….nope, not going there. Just…keep your distance and keep being a W mom and protect your child
2nd story: well op time for your wife to become your ex the fact she disrespected your boundaries, allowed her boss to basically use her willingly and was sneaking romantic texts and calls between them while being married is just disgusting, also the fact she's mad at you basically means she knows it's wrong but doesnt want to do anything about it.
Last story: OP is nowhere nearly as angry at the youngest son as he should be. I would've disowned my kid if they betrayed their brother like that.
S4: NTA. I don't blame you because you are completely right. People like that don't change, they might repress, but they don't change. They should never be around minors ever again and anyone that believes otherwise is negligent to put their child around them.
It frustrates me when people find out their partners are cheating and are so much of a doormat that they basically go "stop cheating with me or else I'll break up/divorce you!" as if that's going to **magically** solve **all** of their issues. They aren't in the wrong, it sucks that they're getting cheated on, but **come on,** you're just setting yourself up for more heartbreak.
Story 5: you must have been stable enough since he kidnapped her. Also how long ago was this exactly because I thought when you get out you you're still on parole and can't be anywhere near kids anyway? Yes I believe in redemption and believe he can do better in his life but I also understand that at the end of the day you have to watch over your kid and you don't trust the rest of the family because they've been trying to convince you that nothing going to happen because of all the excuses. I'm sorry your husband's stuck in the middle but I went to apologize for putting my daughter, or any child for that matter first.
I think some OPs deserve an AH score when they're being an AH to themselves. OP 2 is a grade A jellyfish. I give him a 2 score for putting himself and his kids second to his wife's infidelity and abuse.
Yeah, technically he's not a paedo, but an ephebo.
Still, I wouldn't even let my cats near him.
I've worked around p-words and they rarely change.
Story 1: slow your roll Ken Penders, the moment you bust out the "age of consent" argument you're in the wrong. Straight to jail with ya.
Hmmm I wonder why OP’s wife loves her job.
rSlash, another way to avoid the " P "-word, is PDF file.
I thought it was autocorrect when I saw it in another comment and couldn't stop laughing at it. Don't you just love censorship. It forces people to come up with innocent sounding phrases that means something NSFW even though we're all adults and it's obvious what you're talking about. That's like banning the word "water" but it's okay to say H2O instead. Nothing is being accomplished.
story 4: even if the brother wouldn't "do" anything, she doesn't have to want to be around the uncle if she doesn't want to.
And OP has every right to not take that risk. I hope nothing happens to the niece or the rest the of the minors in that family
Holy heck that story hits too close to home. I have a family member who...touched a kid inappropriately. He's been in prison for about twelve years now and he's set to be released soon. My parents want him to come live with us. I'm an adult now, but I am not comfortable living with him any more, even if we still talk. I'm saving just in case he actually comes back, I'm moving straight out of my parent's house as an exit plan.
That first story holy crap how
is op's dad so clueless that he is in fact a pedo
kind of, she gt the term wrong hes on of the other kinds the one shes going with is ones who target actual very young children hes one of the ones who dont target the very young ones
Honestly dating someone under 21 when you're above 25 is gross
18-19 weird and I'll give you the side eye, 20-22 still kinda weird, but no side eye, 23< you good. Imo
Imagine dating someone who's 24 when you're 25. Gross.
But not illegal. Gross, but not illegal. 🤷🏻♂️
What makes the fourth story even worse is that the familys excuses don't even work. "He is mentally behind and didn't understand that what he was doing was wrong." That makes it WORSE! He doesn't think r wording a kid is wrong?
14 days on, 7 days off is actually not an uncommon work schedule. Its very typical of those who work on oil rigs, and many mine workers and/or those who work in isolated places related to natural resources. I suspect the 3rd OP is an oil rig worker, which lines up with his income and transitional reduced income.
Why does the husband pay child support when it's 50/50 custody? That makes no sense
the 4th story i can understand OP's husband being frustrated at the situation but OP is right to put the protection of her daughter above it.
No, he’s siding with his family by refusing to backup his wife. He needs to get a backbone and stop acting like a child in a bad divorce
I’m sorry but I can’t understand his frustration. They’ve chosen a disgusting excuse of a human being over the rest of the family. He’s chosen this fermented toxic sewage of a person over someone he should love like his own daughter
Story 1: NTA! Your father IS a PDF file! Also, REPORT HIS ASS TO THE AUTHORITIES 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
STORY 2: I would've said "report to HR", but she wound up CHEATING on OP with HER BOSS!!! NTA! She gets 🚩🚩🚩🚩
STORY 3: people who cheat don't deserve any kindness! Your ex may be a teacher, but her getting child support out of you while you share 50/50 custody is nuts. 🚩🚩🚩🚩 NTA!
STORY 4: WE GOT ANOTHER PDF FILE!🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 omg, it's worse than the first story, and "step daughter"? THAT'S WORSE! And the family backing up the pdf file?! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 OP, it might be time to either get out or call the cops because... Shouldn't he be NOT ALLOWED NEAR KIDS AT ALL?! OP, NTA! Get out of that family!
STORY 5: oh jeez... OP, sorry for the loss of your oldest. Glad you respected his wishes of NOT telling your youngest. Your wife needs to understand that your youngest CHEATED with your oldest's ex! NTA. They messed around and found out. 🟢
“he wouldn’t do that to family“
Most of the time it is done to family.
Story 4:
I disagree with the husband being the AH. He never once in the story tried to convince his wife or anything of the sorts. the man was crying because he's losing his family because of his brother.
Yeah. “For being a whiny crybaby” oh no how dare a man show emotions!! /s
First 6 seconds 0:58 technical he’s right about that is he bad yes is he right legally yes he’s right 7:49 ok that’s just straight up illegal so obviously op is not the a hole 9:24 jail / prison dosnt do that tho
Thats more than 6 seconds
@@buddyburrowsbruh I meant I got to the video in 6 seconds the time stamp is completely separate
@@Codm22712 thats more than 6 seconds tho 🤔
@@buddyburrows ok your the dumbest person I’ve ever seen there’s no saving you
Child support story: why on Earth is op paying child support if custody is 50/50?
Especially since she cheated? People have theories. One is the judge values moms over dads. Second is due to OP having significantly more income after he changed jobs and worked less.
It could be for a number of reasons. First, the judge valued moms over dads. Second even with 50/50 custody OP is still the higher income parent. Third OP didn’t have a pit bull for a lawyer.
Defending people who have abused minors is a 7 of 5 bad guys. There's only terminal cures for that problem.
Boss kisser story: O.P. deserves a 1.5 out of 5 score for letting your wife continue to work there with a boss SHE KISSED!!! and TEXTED while on VACATION....O.P. please leave. Wife 3.5 out of 5 and boss 4 out of 5......
Good afternoon everyone 😊
Good night
"Oh, he would never do that to family!!!"
Statistically speaking, most chomos go after kids that know them and trust them, such as family members or friends' kids. Its very rare that the chomo and the kid dont know each other.
10:14 “lack of concern” girl you can make your own choices, but you don’t have to stretch the truth so far that it breaks
11:00 over react much?
11:06 ah yes men can’t cry I forgot
11:10 whatever Dabney 😒
UwU
Team bears won.
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I believe in Big Man supremacy
@@lucanusafrost Hell yeah brother!!
Thank you for spreading the Splatoon news!
I didn’t play the splatfest, but grrrr, how dare team chicks not win >:(
11:06 - “I’m giving your husband 3/5 for being a whiney baby…” WTF, rSlash?! What the actual F***?! The husband did nothing in this story aside from cry because he’s caught between his correct wife and seeing the rest of his family, some of whom he still wants to see. He wasn’t defending the brother, and he wasn’t disagreeing with the wife. All he did was cry about being caught in the middle and that’s somehow deserving of 3/5?? What the toxic masculinity BS is this????
Indeed. He said he is sick about everyone giving him crap and ultimatums. And wifes response is to go to her mothers instead of like talking?
And tbh, I don’t see why the husband can’t just go to these family events on his own, without his wife and kid. I had an aunt in my family who I *never* saw during the holidays because she just didn’t want to associate with our family for whatever reason. It’s not unheard of.
@@Tustin2121he of course can I think he is just wanting to vent about the situation
Someone is not being a “whiny baby” because they are caught in the middle of family drama. To be clear the mother is not wrong to keep the child safe and he should recognize that is all she is trying to do but it doesn’t invalidate his feelings. Trust me I’ve been in the middle of family drama and it sucks.
I love this time of the night. It means rslash has uploaded and I can finally have some time to observe other people’s problems that aren’t my own.
Good Morning people
Good morning, friend :)
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Since the other guy name calls those who actually beats him when done so, I'll agree with you being first
One unfortunate bit of personal knowledge I have is that if the person is past puberty but not a full adult yet, the technical term for that is if epibophilia. Of course, by simply sharing this information, I'm sure some people are going to call me the other word.
Last story, I have a close family member who has made it very clear that they do not want their estranged and disinherited child to be informed of their passing or to be allowed to attend the funeral due to their behaviour towards this family member in the past. Even if I didn't despise that family members child myself (for their behaviour towards myself and other family members as well as who they are as a person) I would still honour that family members wishes, because at the end of the day its their funeral, if they don't want someone there then you have to respect that just like with weddings and birthdays
No views in 8 seconds. R slash fell off
for very good reason too, his opinions started to SUCK. and i mean really suck. things i would never naturally think he says with full chest.
10 likes in 5 minutes This comment fell off
No one cares.
@snowprincess5538 A person who isn't you has a different opinion than you... what a shocker!
This wasn't even in my notifications.. I kept refreshing, wondering where today's video is, and had to come to his page to find it been posted for 4 mins 🤦😡. CZcams notifications suck sometimes. Sometimes, I don't get the notification for some videos til hours later 🤬😡
On the first story, I'm already rolling my eyes at the "It's not PDF if they're not pre-pubescent" excuse. I'm getting tired of hearing people try to make it sound like the victim not being in middle school makes it any better.
If the bro is emotionally/mentally stunted it's even more important to protect your child...I worked in a group home w/a client who had (nonsexual) inappropriate interactions w/neighborhood kids & he literally didn't understand that KIDS who were taller than him & had mustaches(he couldn't grow 1 in his 60's) were actually KIDS bc of these physical characteristics!!!
Story1: So, a grown man is dating someone the same age as their own kid and thinks that's okay? Ask them how long they waited for the kid to become legal so they could start officially dating. Their answer can then be countered with "Well then, that's how long you groomed that kid for, you criminal freak"
But they won't last. Age-gap relationships between a settled adult and a teen still developing themselves have practically no chances of working out on the long term. They either become abusive or fail because they grow apart. Nobody is truly settled into their true adult selves until they reach their mid twenties on average.
That kid is gonna regret missing out on their experimental days and cheat or that dad is gonna fail to connect to the person the kid grows into and move on to a different victim.
This. If he was dating the mother, he's had a long time to prepare the ground and his keen awareness of age limits only makes it more likely that he waited for the right moment. This is all SUPER sketchy.
"She genuinely loves her job"
I bet she does!
I wonder why she does
First story: NTA, cut contact with your dad and live with your mom or any relatives. The father is dating a girl that could pass as his daughter and OP's younger sister.
As a nonbinary person I find it both funny and a bit frustrating when someone doesn't know a person's gender and says "your son/daughter". Why not "your child" or "your kid" or, if that sounds too young, "your teenager"? You'd even save on the amount of words you have to say! Lol
Either way, that father in the first story is a creep.
She would be a horrible mom to let him near her kid
Story 2: Physical and emotional cheating is cheating. Leave her.
Especially since she still is cheating and is prioritizing it over OP and the kids.
And report them both to everyone! Salt the earth!