Why I don't live my life as a man
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- čas přidán 16. 10. 2016
- This week I answer the question "why don't you live your life as a man?"
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Ashley Wylde is a queer and gender nonbinary writer, activist, and travel enthusiast. Wylde publishes CZcams videos weekly on her channel Ashley’s Wylde Life, and is the creator of The Gender Tag Project, a project exploring the complex ideas of sex, gender roles, gender identity, and gender expression, which has inspired over 750 individual videos responses.
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you are such an intelligent and insightful person, thank you for this
Thank you Allie!
OMG you managed to put something into words that is so easy to unterstand when you are feeling it yourself yet so hard to make other people understand.
I've never actually thought of identifying as anything other than female. I'm biologically female and this makes my life pretty easy (save for the everyday problems everyone experiences regardless of gender). I found your channel rather by accident but it has been eye opening. I'm an open minded and accepting person but I feel I could easily make social faux pas with people whom are non binary. It wouldn't be intentional but your videos are truly educational and helping me to be a better person in general and especially to people who don't fit the 'usual labels'. I've subscribed 😊
This is so important, especially the breakdown of social vs personal.
You- you put it into words
How did you DO that
They are a genius I want to be one too
Awesome insight. I have to work that into my own approach. I'm non-binary but on a path that's indistinguishable from a MtF TS with the one exception of *I'm not a woman.* And I do get a lot of questions about wouldn't it be easier for me to just be a trans woman? And it's true it would be easier on a social level. I've been struggling on why it just doesn't work for me, and I think you nailed it. My fight so far has been to become myself, not to dive into a new closet. I choose me. Great thought. Thanks.
This!
you're cute. Also I relate to the androgynous stuff. Born with female parts but I only really look like it if I put on makeup and feminine clothing which I rarely feel like doing. My gender always confuses me but I guess I'm demigirl at this point although sometimes I feel like neither female nor male. And it's been hard for me because I feel like I relate to almost no one.
I understand this, but for some reason I did the exact opposite thing. I came out as a trans guy because I didn't want to have to explain my gender every time I came out. And...I just thought people would take me more seriously? I'm still in high school, so even coming out as binary trans is problematic, but I thought I'd not make my life harder than it has to be. I'm generally comfortable being called he, and I want to go through your average ftm transition, so I thought, why not? It's kinda sad that I had to do that, but for right now, that's much easier for me. It really just depends on the person I suppose. :)
Exactly!! And I'm glad to hear that your choice has been better for you :]
I really want to say how much I could relate to this explanation. I'm a non-binary person myself with a genderfluid experience and I sort of struggle with this on an everyday basis too - should I dress feminine and be mistaken for a cisgender woman (I don't feel comfortable with passing when I dress feminine because my non-binary identity sort of becomes invisible at that) or should I present myself more masculine (you might say more androgynous since I presenting more masculine sorta balance the traditional anatomical features of a woman that I have). Since the experience of my gender switches back and forth a lot then it's hard to sort of enjoy myself for who I am when the world constantly gets confused about my presentation.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this video! You're awesome and I always enjoy your content:)
Thank you sooo much for this video!
Stay the way you are Ashley. If it's not broke, don't fix it. Thank-you. You are a great help to many people.
you look good in hats.
Why thank you :]
Thank you for bringing this topic to light. I love your videos. Keep making great content; no pressure, you do it naturally :-)
Personal or social. The reality is that chromosomes stay the same, xx or xy. Accepting the objective truth makes the other two far more easier to navigate.
I just want to reach out and hug you! You're very articulate, which makes what you are saying very easy to understand, makes a lot of sense! Thanks so much for your videos! Xoxo
This is a really good analysis, i love all your reflections 💕
This was such a dope explanation. I've been curious about this for awhile, and this made perfect sense.
This is such a great way of explaining it!
Ashley, I am male but I think I may be nonbinary or intween the genders. I dont think I'm a girl but I dont feel like I'm 100 percent male.
I can relate to this quite a lot. Thanks for putting it into words because it's not always easy to do that =)
Great video!!!!!
Thank you.
I'm in the same shoes.
You helped me much.
Thank you!
Wonderfully said
Your absolutely beautiful. Thanks for this video on my birthday. 💗
And also, people never know whether you consider yourself as a nonbinary or a man and they wouldn't ask...
People that except you for who you are, are the best whereas changing urself to appeal to other ppl is silly cos those ppl aren't worth it and don't matter
And those who matter don't mind always be urself
You said you are tall - how tall are you?
I'm 6'1" !
Ashley Wylde Yo! That's awesome! I'm only 5'9 but, when I was little, I wanted to grow up to be 6'0! Height is a pretty cool thing!
whoaa nice
YOU ARE AMAZING
you are awesome! :D
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such a great video.
omg I love you
I searched CZcams for the letter "a" then filtered for "last hour", that is how I got here.
I have legitimate insights and unique perspectives regarding this subject, but I don't think you or your audience would be receptive to my input. I am assuming that, I do not know that. I don't think many people in America are really open to ideas outside their own media bubbles, this attitude is dangerous because it leads to extremism. Thanks for uploading.
100% hit it on the mark. I finally got tired of social ease at the greater cost to my personal ease. I got cannabis to smoke to let me shrug off the social stigmatization people might throw my way. I'm tired of hiding who I am from everyone even myself.
So I chose personal ease and am gonna go out loud and proud about who I am.
am I the first comment?? :'D
You would be my ideal partner.... And you're 6'1....... 🤤
Lol my answer would have been : because I'm not a man so back off Already
yerbamatedude in some way she said this hahah ;)
Mariana Ferreira well ya I know but that's just what I would immediately say
In other words, you choose this life and not the after.
May God forgive you and help you with your struggle.
This world is doomed.