TikTok's Un-Motivational Speaker
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- čas přidán 30. 08. 2021
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This week, we take a look at a motivational speaker I found on TikTok who has a very unorthodox method. Enjoy!
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Me, an amputee: "Yes, Owen, the world being TOO NICE to you is definitely the problem with wheelchairs...." 👀
I'm really glad I read your comment and then you username in that order, that made me laugh quite a bit.
I walk with a stick and it's just the **worst** when someone offers me their seat on a train, HOW DARE THEY?!!?!?! :)
exactly what I thought as a wheelchair user lmao
I like ur username lol
Right? He's an albeist POS
what’s up, checkmark.
I love the way he was like "if I was in a wheelchair, I wouldn't be afraid of the wheelchair" like... yeah dude, I don't think actual wheelchair users are scared of their wheelchairs either..
LMAO
"I spent money on this thing to help with my mobility but AHHH it is tooooo scary. Gosh, golly, why did I let this into my home. Ahhhh. So scary. Sure, it would help me move around and experience more of life, probably due to a chronic illness, but IT IS SOO SPOOKY"
@@Pinkcatninja hahaha
Wheelchair user:just vibing
*looks down*
Wheelchair user: aah!
[wheelchair user looks down]
uh- aH- (HORRIFIED SCREAMING)
13:42
I've legitimately had a teacher exactly like this. Everyone hated him. He made the shy girl cry because she messed up a multiplication question just like this. She also got a kid to stand up at the front of the class so he could make fun of his appearance.
Same here, my 7th-9th grade teacher would love to point out how stupid and worthless people were if they didn’t get the full points on a test and got enjoyment out of berating KIDS for failing the classes because she wasn’t a good teacher 😭
I hope a student beats them up.
I was straight up getting flashback & triggered
@@bloblovlalalulu3422 same
There’s so many teachers out in the world that need to be fired now
When he said "When I do that, I'm teaching" it gave me the same vibes as an abuser saying that they hit and/or insult you because they "love you"
Dude, gtfo. No one cares what you think except those losers that love to judge anything that doesn't resonate with their "truth". You were never going to help that guy anyways, so go back to eating your McDonald's.
so true. i was abused by my teachers & they used the excuse of “””teaching””” me plenty of times
Kurtis:,“They’ll say the craziest shit, and then just keep talking”
Also Kurtis, 9 minutes later: “why motivate, when you can motivenine?” *begins to do a brand deal*
It's different when kurt does it 😤
Lol
motivenein
Movtiveno
I actually took so long to figure out the stupid joke that he was already halfway into the brand deal when I finally laughed
"Stop being uncomfortable with yourself" has "Just buy a house if you're homeless" energy
same with “oh you’re depressed just be happy” it pisses me off so much
@@jex638I'm glad most people now have realised that you can't just turn that frown upside down
So true. Also, me, a wheelchair user: *everyone is tOo nIcE to me!!*
@@jex638 chill out
Just breathe if you're choking idiot
You just know that guy uses the word “snowflake” every single day
Fr
As a guy who grew up gay as hell in South Dakota of all places… this SCREAMS internalized homophobia rooted in his own insecurities and now he’s over compensating for what he dislikes about himself. Also he dresses like a youth pastor 🤣
💀😂
This dude set my gaydar off high key. Was scrolling through the comments looking for someone who said the same thing
@@kaszidyo3827 my gaydar might be defunct honestly. i think it's worn out from constantly pinging when im hanging out with my friends
I see no lie
"gay as hell" 😂😂
Perfect. Made my day
Something to note: if someone is genuinely struggling with motivation, self image, self esteem, etc., it’s probably something rooted much deeper than any “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” can comprehend or help with
100%
On point, and sometimes the whole “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” shit is the root of it. This people prey on the young and radicalize them, I've seen nice guys turn "absolute savages" because of this type of content...sad, man...
Absolutely right ✅
that’s why therapy exists. yes, it is expensive, but if someone decides to drop $500-2500 on a self proclaimed “motivational speaker” then i’m sure that they can also afford going to a therapist or like a support group (which usually targets a specific community). also, in addition to what you said, they plant these messed up ideas in their heads and i am almost certain that they don’t help anyone in the long run, if anything, these alpha men are shitty, egoistic and pretty misogynistic too.
The "advice" that motivational speakers spew is literally the opposite of what any therapist would tell you and I'm pretty sure it's actively harmful to those who do struggle with it
he has such "unhinged drama teacher with no sense of boundaries" vibes
this is so true LMAOOOO
omfg best comment lololl
SIKOWITZ
Or like 10th grade world history teacher that thinks they are funny
Who def gets fired cos he snaps and beats up a student
This is the type of man who'd abuse his children and then justify it with: _"My parents did this exact method on me and I turned out well and this means that they will too. I'm teaching them to be really strong like me."_
And this mindset is more common than people want to believe
Kurtis is really good at pretending to be mean. It actually managed to make me a little uncomfortable
Right!😂
Yeah, especially with the math teacher bit because it took me back to my primary school days when teachers berated me for getting math problems wrong 😅😢.
kurtis rlly does have the potential to be a bully and the fact that he isnt makes him 10000x better
"don't be yourself. Don't be your beta self. Your life will be miserable" "the first step to being an alpha is being comfortable with yourself"
LMFAO
First step is realising alpha wolves don’t exist 😊
@@blackparademistress1 the dude who wrote the paper on “alpha wolves” quickly realized his assumptions were wrongs, and the alpha wolves were the parents of the wolf pack; but his paper on “alpha wolves” had already been published and the american public already adapted the idea, so no one listened when he tried to fix it
@@blackparademistress1 your name is killing me 😩👌
he obviously meant your alpha self not your real self
I’m in a wheelchair, and trust me: everybody is not “too nice.” I’m happy to get “nice enough,” really.
thats what i was thinking too like ppl are more often than not just awful to disabled ppl?? so idky he said that
Kurtis made an excellent point too that the inconveniences disabled people face due to most things being made to be used by abled people is pretty high. People being nice to disabled people is never an insult.
I think the way people are "too nice" is when they keep trying to help when nobody asked ya know, I've done that to a classmate multiple times, and I fell so shity for it nowadays cause he was clearly bothered but I didn't realize it
Honestly, I think he miscommunicated what he was trying to say. He isn't afraid of people being "too nice", he's afraid of being pitied. I think this is probably a deep-seated ego fear that a lot of these guys have. They can't handle pity because they have no self-awareness or confidence.
@@logangantner3863 I see the point you were trying to make about being mindful of your wording. In which case you should have stopped talking after that thought, because the rest of what you typed out was simply a meaningless guess.
i feel so bad for all of those people who are so bad about themselves that they VOLUNTEERED to be bullied in front of a room full of people and then get it uploaded for the world to see
I feel so bad for people that are too lazy to watch the full video because its "an hour long", then judge based on short entertaining video. The guy that was "bullied" actually looked like a totally different person in another video Owen posted. Please don't talk about something you have 0 knowledge of (in this case, trauma release and social conditioning)
One of my professors in college (this particular class met once a week) would have us close our eyes and do some motivational talk and trying to get us to forget about everything that’s going on outside the class. One of the things, I remember, every week she would say something about noticing your feet on the ground and just being attached to the earth. And honestly, that shit helped me get into the rhythm of the class and just be grounded and mentally prepped.
This is literally just one of those people who are like "Anxious? Just relax! Depressed? Just stop being sad!"
"Eating disorder? Just eat right"
Why do you have asthma there’s so much air around you just don’t know how to breathe properly
"In a wheelchair? People are too nice to you!"
“Homeless? Just buy a house!”
Broke? Just work hard become a CEO
It feels like he’s talking to himself desperately trying to convince himself he’s the alpha
I was thinking the same thing!
Exactly
dude exactly!! it's so obvious he's projecting his insecurities onto his audience😭
@@treshurwilliams-carter4006 100% agree! The anger with which he said “never let it happen, it’s death” and so on and so forth, is proof enough for me.
Man needs to treat himself to some therapy
I like how he says “I want people to like me for the real me” is a beta mindset, but the number one trait of an alpha is apparently being comfortable with yourself
I work at a car wash and from now on when a customers car is done I will just go up to them and say “car done” :)
Nice! xD
This guy does NOT strike me as someone who is comfortable with himself
He's just so jittery, and the way he talks, it's like he's keeping himself distracted so he doesn't start thinking about himself and get crushed under the weight of introspect. He gives people such a desperate look, too, like, "For the love of God, don't let this conversation end, or I will die in myself"
Are you talking about Kurtis or the subject of this video?
@@aldentetoes130 it's definitely the dude Kurtis is talking about, Owen
@@deuceydee3506 So people can't be jittery and confident? 😂 I guess tourettes people or autistic people are fucked, ripppp
That's exactly what I thought too.
This dude's whole schtick is just yelling, "BE BETTER! STOP BEING BAD!"
"WHY ARE YOU IN THAT WHEELCHAIR, JUST GET UP AND WALK"
I assume that's what he'd say...
YOU ARE NOT BLIND JUST SEE
stop poor 🤨🤨🤨 make money👹😟😩😳🙇🏻♀️🙏🏼
RENAL FAILURE?? YOU’RE THE FAILURE! STAND YOUR GROUND, MAKE THOSE KIDNEYS WORK!
GET GOOD
When I was a kid my soccer coach pressured me to scream as loud as I could because I was too quiet thinking it would help somehow, I did it, and then I cried the whole drive home. He reminds me of this guy.
:( That’s so sad tho
Kurtis' sense of humour is a real fever dream and I'm willingly staying in it
“I look exactly like you.” Oh no, the skits are becoming self-aware.
They always were
Uh oh
I looked at the comments the exact moment that this was said
It kind of reminded me of Ryan George's videos LOL. "super easy barely an inconvenience"
Oh no. Oh God. Ohhh.
one of the best motivational speakers i’ve ever seen was a veteran who lost his sight while in action. His speech was about his pursuit of education after coming back home, and the difficulties he faced as a disabled person, and the value of education. Hearing him tell his story from a place of personal ups and downs was way more meaningful than any surface level “you can do it”
Do you know if he has a CZcams channel. I would love to hear about more about him.
sooo true. I find that shit motivational. Hearing people talk about ACTUAL adversity they had to overcome - makes you realize how lucky your are and more likely to make the most of each day imo
what a champ! the only good motivational speech I've ever heard was from muniba mazari, in which she told the story of her accident and how she ended up in a wheelchair and everything that followed!
Clint Malarchuk gave a speech in my high school once and genuinely brought me to tears. He has SUCH an inspirational story, it's insane
you mean surface leather?
That “Watch him get fixed” joke makes me laugh every time I see it or even just think about it.
SAMEEE OMFG IM HYSTERICAL
I really love how he's literally wearing a "please be nice to me" cap and the teacher does the complete opposite
He sounds like his best advice for someone suffering with crippling anxiety to just stay calm
he sounds like the type of guy to say "how are you blind? just see."
‘’Oh u just witnessed someone getting murdered which scarred you and will slowly drive you to insanity for lying to everyone that you didn’t witness such a thing…just forget about it, sensitive prick’’
Just be confident in yourself and stop thinking others are judging you! It's easy! Just do it! JUST DO IT! DO IT! FUCKING DO IT!!!! - Him if he was my therapist
Lol what are u supposed to say to them? I remember when my friend was having a asthma attack, I didn't know what to say so my dumbass just said "Just Breathe"
“Oh you’re having an asthma attack? Just breathe loser”
As a wheelchair user, I can confirm that I am NEVER worried about people being too nice to me. People straight up see you as subhuman, going grocery shopping makes me actually wanna die
When I had a serious knee injury, I used one of those motorized carts & people literally went out of their way to sneer & obstruct my path because they assumed I riding it to goof off. People are vile to the disabled.
I love your pfp
ppl in my class would fight over who got to push the person in the wheelchair😭
Awww well that fucking sucks. My friend has been in a wheel chair for years. She gets her fair share of shit as well but we love her so it doesn’t matter.
@@ongakira lol so would we but it was to do races with her lol I race her around disney when we went. It was a blast.
"don't be paranoid" boy I have schizophrenia. that is the one thing that I cannot stop.
THAT KILLED ME 😂😂😂😂😂😂
The reality of being in a wheelchair is constantly having people park in front of your ramp. Never being able to get into certain buildings because they aren't wheelchair accessible. People QUESTIONING if you actually need that wheelchair. Smh
I never got why people would question that because even if someone didn’t need it (which would never happen) it’s none of your business!
“Ever have a friend your age die”
“no”
“Soon you will”
Well that felt like a threat
*If you're lucky*
Kill your friends.
(To be lucky.)
"What I'm saying is I'll murder your friends"
he followed that kid home after this event and shot the first person the kid talked to and was like "told you"
I'm terrified
His tour might be free in terms of money but imagine spending any amount of TIME at this mess
and braincells...because they’ll be DEAD for sure
They saved money but they lost brain cells
fuckin opportunity cost man
ESPECIALLY if “time is money” according to many of these speakers
Too high of a price.
Owen originally started as a pick up artist, idk if he's still doing it but he usually would bring these guys for seminars, hot seats, then go out together and pick up girls after. I'd love to see a deep dive into this bc Kurtis would find all the wild shit Owen used to say and do and make it hilarious
thank u for the pushback on the wheelchair comment, i literally did have to crawl into my dentist's office using my arms because they had multiple steps and no ramp lmao, so right on the mark there
BuT wErE ThEy TOO NICE tO yOu???!?!?!
I'm so glad Curtis has stayed so humble after winning all those game shows in the 80s
Dunno why he spells his name with a K now though. I guess...money really does change people.
Just wow czcams.com/video/3wHWI9XOrUI/video.html
Mannn he’s so smart
Its Curtis Konner* get it right
THISSS LMFAO
It was his alter ego! How can you not tell! Why else would he have a mullet?
Owen is 100% a high school bully who discovered the most genius outlet for his bullying.
he probably got bullied tbh
@@skitzstuff5788 Maybe? Idk. He has such natural bully energy I feel like he's always been this way.
And tbh i respect the hustle.
@@skitzstuff5788 many people have been in both situations
@@Jabadamazo He grew up and is now yelling at people 10+ years younger than him
honestly that guy reminds me of parents who verbally berate their children to "discipline them", there is a fine line between discipline and abuse
I’ve struggled with self image and self esteem (and still do) and this is the type of guy who would make me legit cry
i feel like anyone who uses the words “alpha” and “beta” unironically to describe people shouldn’t be allowed to give life advice
Agreed
unless they’re a math teacher i guess idk lmao
1000% agree. Let’s make this the Law!
And you best believe they are the same people that make fun of astrology 😂😂😂
@The Up Paradigm I can't tell you're joking or not, but if you're not...... THAT'S HILARIOUS!
As someone with severe depression and who struggled with motivation for years, this guy actually does motivate me to keep going, solely for the miniscule possibility that I could meet him and thus have the chance to smack him upside the head.
hell to the yeah
they had us in he first half, not gonna lie 😂
Yess 👏🏻👏🏻
This is how a feel about nicacado avacado. The only reason I haven’t killed myself is because nicacado avacado will have outlived me.
He motivates me to never be like him
13:05 I had this teacher who was like this, he taught me for 4 years 3D animation in my art school and he always insulted me and humiliated me in front of others just because he could ,almost exactly like this speech guy…well and now I’m so disgusted to even try learning 3D animation again but I guess it was more bullying then the “actual” motivation
(sorry I couldn’t help I needed to mention him)
14:05 It’s sad, but I have had teachers like this. It might be a bit of a stretch, but I do, currently, have teachers like this. Welcome to the US babyyyyy
Dude: “Do NOT be a beta!” Also him: *keeps his hands in his skinny jeans the entire speech*
Underrated comment :D
Bothered me so much. This dude is so obvious
"The number one trait of an alpha is being comfortable with yourself"
*Does not know what to do with his hands*
@@fabiobalassia EXACTLY
@@Itsme-qo2le thank you! :]
We really need to make therapy more accessible so people can stop wasting their time with some of these motivational speakers.
Preach!
100%
Plus, we need to get rid of the stigma surrounding therapy. A lot of people in professional careers, like lawyers, avoid therapy as it make their records look bad.
THIS it def needs to be more affordable to ppl who need it and to those who want to go but cant afford
Yessss
that teacher skit happened to me when i told my fifth grade teach they/them could be used as singular pronouns and it ended bcos i started crying bcos i couldnt think of an example after she started counting down saying "go ahead go tell me when give us an example if ur so smart" and then the other kids got quiet bcos they felt bad
DUDE I'm so sorry. A teacher tried to do the same thing to me, too. I was like "if someone drops THEIR pencil you pick it up and give it back to THEM and THEY say thank you." I've been repping singular They pronoun since I was in elementary because of that one shit teacher, mainly because I was disgusted that she tried to incorrectly correct me lol. But I think it was a great coincidence, I ended up being nonbinary. I think it's insane that someone can grow up speaking a whole language where they regularly use singular They, and not even realize they do it. That teacher sucked, I'm sorry you went through that.
"thats not what teachers do" as someone whos been bullied by a teacher, they do infact, do that.
It’s so painfully obvious that Owen is just projecting his own insecurities onto everyone else it almost makes me feel bad for him
he's crying rn cuz you insulted him by being nice to him by worrying about him *dabs*
*almost*
Too true
I was going to comment the same thing
he guides others to treasure he cannot posess
He gives me dad who physically and emotionally abuses his children to "prepare them for the real world" vibes
I second this as someone who has a father like that💖
I third this except it’s my mother who does that
@@FiendEnder hey! Me too! It's always fun to bond over abusive parents, isn't it?
@@nana-qn1zc same
Basically he’s punchable 😊
12:58 GAVE ME GENUINE FLASHBACKS??? that shit is exactly how an abusive partner or friend or whatever would talk. this is genuinely concerning what the fuck how does this guy have a platform
Me as a person in a wheelchair: yes! my disability/wheelchair isn’t the issue, the lack of accessibility, living in a world not built for us, and large amount of ableism that still exists nah not it- people are TOO nice to meee ♿️😂
The way neuro and physio-typical people perceive differently abled people is real strange. Almost a weird sense of jealousy.
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere such people are just very insecure due to failing to achieve what they desire, as well as feeling lonely and not appreciated/recognised by people. They get so desperate to get the attention they're unable to get with their set of skills that it makes them jealous someone can actually have it (even when it's mere courtesy) - it's similar to how misogynists always focus on how "men are expected to open doors/carry things" whenever there's an argument about women's rights, as if it's relevant and the "extra niceties" they bring up are at all comparable to the issues discussed. Similarly, they will find any excuse to think to themselves that when someone else has what they want it is undeserved, and must be due to (for example) disability, since everyone is "too nice" - they can't face the fact that they're just not good enough. They almost wish they were in the same situation as they know they wouldn't get the "attention" otherwise, convincing themselves that even mere courtesy is some kind of special treatment (that they crave but can't have), therefore demonising it and staying ignorant to all the issues that come with disabilities. It all stems from hurt egos that are too fragile to face reality, and it's honestly pathetic.
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere most typicals aren’t even aware that there’s a whole differently abled world out there that is absolutely different from how they function. It’s like we’re unicorns lol
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere It’s so insane to me how so many people when they can’t relate on a personal level just decide that it’s ok to throw empathy out of the way.
I had to use a cane for about a year last year because of a huge surgery left me very very weak. I’m 24 and people were so incredibly nice to me, it made me want to vomit.
Him berating that man on stage and then being like “you know when I’m doing that I’m teaching?” Is the same as when parents beat their kids and say “I do this because I love you” so disgustingly toxic
Hey, were you there when I was a kid?
@@DragonMaiden77 lol
@@DragonMaiden77 im sorry :(
Natsu knows what I've been through wow
@@DragonMaiden77 even if its a joke, hope you’re doing okay right now
I love how Kurtis sometimes pronounces it “Dick Dock”
Same he says the T so softly XD
I remember getting into motivational speaking and self help. I lost interest in it, because of course, it doesn’t do any real good. But coming back and seeing people properly critique it for what it is is nice to see.
So, his advice to be an alpha is "never be a beta"? Isn't that like someone's advice for getting rich to be "never be poor"?
if you have depression: just never be sad!
@@GandSsavoy if you are missing an eye,
!!!just get a new one!!!🤯
If you're an orphan, just don't lose your parents!
If you are homeless: just buy a house!
If you're dead, just be alive! It's that easy1!1!1!1!1!1
alpha male mentality is LITERALLY just toxic masculinity in shiny new clothes
Nah "alpha male" clothes still wouldn't be shiny nor new. But yeah, this and enforcing toxic masculinity on yourself and/or other men are basically the same ol' shit.
No one takes it seriously I feel like. I’ve only seen people rip on it but maybe that’s because I don’t watch Jake Paul who knows lmao
Yarp
not even to mention wolves dont even have "alphas" which makes the whole thing they based their rebranded toxic masculinity on completely incorrect. If you want to see the dominance and social hierarchy they talk about when being an alpha, a chicken is the best bet. They have a very strict pecking order and will seek to bully other chickens lower on the hierarchy
@@user-yf4ly2rz7q the alpha chicken 😂
I know it's a joke, but I've legit had several teachers that were straight up bullies. I had a teacher tell me I'd never meet a girl and I'd be stuck living paycheck to paycheck. I had another one tell the whole class that whatever grades they're making is the only grade they will ever make
Motivational speaker open mic is actually a fire bit to actually film
That dude 100% got bullied hard as a kid and now has “free” seminars just so he can for once in his miserable life be the bully!
What a sad little man
He actually was
Talks about it in this video
czcams.com/video/f7HIyQaJN9Q/video.html
Little baby man
"Babe, that was not very pog of you." I am going to say this to my boyfriend and watch him exhale forcefully through his nose.
Edit: I did it, he reacted exactly as I said. Also, shit man, I didn't expect this many people to care.
powerful
I'm pretty sure I've already said this to my partner
i say this on the daily to everyone
I exhaled forcefully through my nose after reading this comment
@@guydisorder tbh, that's how I thought everyone else would react instead of liking this comment.
That skit at 13:45 was almost word for word an interaction i had with my 4th grade teacher.
This guy is the Goop of motivational speakers
when he said “folks” and waited so long to clap it felt like the verbal equivalent to edging
I-
ok but you're not wrong
I came ngl
Jesus
no...... no
This is basically if one of those dudes that swears bullying "builds character" took a couple of improv comedy classes and decided he would get rich off seminars.
Yeah I’d say that’s pretty much it
It’s just a little bit of a darwanism
14:28 The teacher crazy confirmed. Why you ask to class when you could ask the student, Class can only be room they cannot talk
I really like how you bring your comedy around by bringing jokes you made previously into the new ones. I know that probably isn’t a thing you created or anything like that, but the jokes you make that incorporate that format I notice the most.
my family forced me to go to a "motivational course" when i was in highschool, the lady there said that people have cancer bc they live resentful lives and that deppresion didnt exist, and then i skipped classes for the rest of the summer :)
Assuming u have money please seek professional therapy instead of these "courses".
IF u are actually unhappy with self image or depressed then these courses/conventions are very damaging instead.
I hope youre doing great now! Everything will turn out great for you I just know it!
you made the right choice
excuse me- I find it very ignorant but I do know people don't believe depression exists
but I have NEVER heard someone say that people get cancer because they live resentful lives. Like wut the fuq. My grandma and aunt died of cancer bro-
@@Chikaboom_Boom my grandpa died of it too what the motivational speaker said is so ignorant. a lot of people live happily but still get cancer so it really irked me when i read that part. i'd like to see that speaker get cancer and then have someone tell them "well maybe you were living a resentful life🤷" to see how they would react
"alpha male" sounds like boys who are emotionally stunted and neglected but instead of doing the work to identify their trauma/triggers just grew up into hurt men. the real boss move is to introspectively look within yourself and notice the shortcomings you have and deal with them and lean on others when you need help. A friend will always be there.
What if you got no friends or support to lean on though
@@pepperchan6471 yea ur right, it's hard for others to be there for you the way you want. i'm going thru so much and i have to somewhat be there for myself so idk.
@@pepperchan6471 seek a professional. not a motivational seeker or weird people with 0 credibility trying to steal your money, i mean a therapist. i'm of the belief that relying on friends and seeking help with family can lead to more harm than good, because not everyone is equipped to handle someone else's baggage and it's frankly not fair to expect that of everyone at all times.
you shouldn't be relying on friends or family for your mental well-being, that'll only drag you both down to the ground. you'll slowly ruin all your relationships by constantly dumping negativity on everyone around you and hoping to get positivity out of other people. you need to learn how to be stable and functional on your own first, and getting therapy might help you get your footing for that.
@@ayatoculus @kirin I'm not saying I like motivational speakers or anything, I find them cringey too. And yes, I know that one should not use friends or family as an emotional dumpster, because from a young age my own parents have unloaded their emotional baggage on me, effectively fucking me up.
However, a lot of people in my position CANNOT AFFORD THERAPY, and live in shitty countries where seeking help for mental problems is a huge stigma. I'm a minor, and am trapped in a abusive household and have no money. Lots of kids out there like me. Worst thing is that this is normal in my country. Services for child protection won't do shit. So I understand if someone turns to Motivational Speakers as a last desperate resort. It is easy to attract and manipulate emotionally vulnerable and lonely people.
@@ayatoculus that sounds much like victim blaming, also as the other comments said not everyone can afford a therapist, especially while being underage and in a non-supportive household. Or maybe they tried and had a bad experience (I got a shitty therapist [which my mom didnt even actually get for my mental health, she just wanted to get a paper saying that I needed a support dog or whatever so our dog could stay home] that costed hundreds and they literally just made me feel like shit and my mom got angry at me for "exaggerating" things. I know this was only 1 therapist and doesn't reflect on all the others, but lmao my mom ain't taking me to another one since she got the paper for the dog.
Also, saying that you shouldn't rely on friends or family is only your personal belief. My friends have been what are keeping me floating and alive. I understand than friends are not professionals and they are not equipped to help with your emotional baggage, but that isn't what it is about. It's just about having someone who you know likes you despite you thinking that you're shit. They just listen to me, I listen to them and then we play games together and forget the bad things. It's one of the only times I'm happy and having fun.
R.I.P extra greeting
Owen starts to scream into his computer when he sees a game in [BETA] and not [ALPHA]
The principal of my high school was a motivational speaker and I swear he was the weirdest person. Every assembly felt like an over the top business seminar. It always felt like he had no idea what actually went on at a high school and was just using us to test out new motivational material. He also had one of those face mics!
I recently revealed the genders of my two girlfriends. It got a lot of hate and now has 30 times more dislikes than likes. I am really sad that people can be so mean. Sorry for using your comment to talk about my problems, dear av
sounds like a heck of an assembly
Motivational speakers are a lot like fake psychics in that they say incredibly generic things but their audience is going to interpret those generic sayings to apply to their specific situation without even realizing it so they will attribute wisdom or knowledge to the psychic or speaker. It's a natural human instinct to relate to other humans and relate what other humans are saying to our situation. It's a basic part of human empathy. Unfortunately con artists know this and they use it to manipulate people. Which is why so many people believe in horoscopes and those psychics that claim to speak to your dead relatives and motivational speakers apparently.
@@AxxLAfriku wat
Ur from india
Disabled people had to literally fight the Supreme Court to get even the most minuscule accessibility and anti discrimination rights but yeah they’re worried about people being too nice. He’s totally empathetic to disabled folks.
I had to argue to my school board so many times to get my accommodations. But yeah, the hardest part was that they were so nice :(
thought he meant like he was afraid of being infantilized or sum but nah that's way too wise for him
this is what empathetic means by the way: "showing an ability to understand and share the feelings of another."
i think the word you are looking for might be apathetic or unsympathetic :)
@@DARKENINGTIMES they're being sarcastic, I believe
@@skellish Indeed, he's **totally** empathetic to disabled folks.
watching this actually did give me motivation because it made me realize that if this dude’s doing shit like that and making a career out of it, i’ll be okay no matter what
Im surprised you only hit the surface with Owen. He started out in that Pick up artist comunity RSD Real Social Dynamics. Went by RSD Tyler. Back in 2020 youtube nuked a lot of pua infeild footage. This lead to them pivoting into other things. So Owen became a Motivational Speaker
kurtis, your editing is so accurate to my brain, it's honestly scary
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This guy has the same energy as people who say "if you're depressed, just stop being depressed 😊"
Just don't do that ❤✨
just stop being depressed 😜🤞 smile 😃‼️
Just that he'd scream that at your face 😂😂
guy literally said "stop being uncomfortable with yourself, just be comfortable with yourself"
@@muskratloggin right like wow I'm cured thanks buddy why didnt I think of that
rewatching a lot of your vids and oh my god this is the funniest thing ever
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needed this on my grad cap
Kurtis, fellow canadian, did you not have those random ass motivational speakers come into your elementary/high school? Shit was wack but we got to miss math🥲
Im german, but ive had the same experience. It was so strange and i hated it 😭✌🏻
@@piaj2742 im swiss and same😭😭
in America we had someone come in and sing about Johnny Appleseed and the dangers of high fructose corn syrup🥴
@@vbm8992 only thing i know about johnny appleseed is that one weird ass prayer we had to do in catholic elementary school. That’s a weird ass assembly lolll
@@vbm8992 WAIT DID HE WEAR A GREEN SUIT AND HAVE A WHOLE MOVIE THING ABOUT LUNCH FOOD
That weird guy: everyone is too nice to people in wheelchairs
Ableism: exists
Isn’t patronization a form of ableism?
@@its.martin1125 yeah, its a microaggression & kinda on the same level as infantilisation i think
Where are all these people who are super nice to wheelchair users and can I meet them?
It is rampant.
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Me when burnt pizza rolls
I think one exception to the "motivational speakers bad" idea is in the context of high schools. Sometimes high schools invite motivational speakers and it can do some good. Many teenagers struggle with anxiety, depression, fear of the future, directionlessness, etc. Sometimes what they need is motivation, to hear from someone with experience that everything's going to be okay.
"Ever had a friend your age die?"
"No."
"Well soon you will, if you're lucky."
pardon?
I KNOW. I was trying to unpack that but... I got nothing.
Owen stabbed that guy’s friend later in the parking lot lol.
I guess the point was if you’re NOT lucky you will die yourself? Kind of stupid tho
Ranko Zeremski yeah, I guess. Idk
@@rankozeremski7280 Nah, I'm almost 100% positive that that statement turned into a "overcoming a massive struggle makes you stronger and way more alpha". Possibly followed by something implying that caring about people makes you weak.
Either that or if he had said yes, dude would have pivoted to "did you cry?" And then start bullying him again.
He actually seems so much more insecure about himself than the ppl he picks out of the crowd
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The fact that people just talk... say the CRAZIEST sh**... and then keep on going without immediately unpacking how f**ked up it was... is literally what makes me stay inside for always. The only thing that is worse is the people listening eating it up instead of going "wtf!?"
13:30 when i was like. 8 or 9 i had to go to writing intervention at school bc i was a rlly slow writer (still am i just physically cannot write fast). we had to write a sentence abt what job we wanted in the future and why and i was writing 'i want to be a teacher because i like my teacher'. keep in mind i was only 8 or 9 and in WRITING INTERVENTION. all the other kids finished before me and then the teacher running the intervention yelled at me until i cried bc i was taking too long. also i already finished the sentence i just had to put a fullstop. and then she yelled at me again went i put the fullstop on bc she thought i was trying to make her shut up
lmao she was in her 40s bullying a little kid
I'm sorry, it is insane to tell at a literal child like that. You didn't deserve that
@@jazwhoaskedforthis thanks it happened years ago and i did rlly good in english prelims so I'm winning now
that’s actually a really common manipulation tactic with abusers. they are abusive to you and then try to convince you that it’s for your own good.
Owen had "I was bullied by my dad" energy.
"just be comfortable with yourself" really motivational.
I'm going to turn off my dysphoria now thank you /s
Has "Just stop being sad" energy
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@cloverseas it looks like trash
@@davitothevillios4316 wtf
8:37 me stoned af sharing my nonsensical thoughts to everyone in the room
“be comfortable with yourself” was the only piece of value I saw come out if his mouth. Followed up by the smartest advice ever, just “don’t be uncomfortable” :)
"Just be comfortable with yourself"
Ah yes and if you're depressed just be happy
Anxious? Just relax 😌
Dying? Just live ✨
ADHD? Just focus!
Sick? Just be healthy!
anorexic? just love your body!
Poor? Just get money!
have asthma? just breathe 🥰
Damn ive never seen men this into the omegaverse. They're even role-playing with all their friends.
I'm having an awful day at work, and your comment made me exhale so loud, thanks
Meanwhile, middle-school lesbians: omg I left fuzzy cat ears at home!!! Whatever will the pack do now?
Bruh this comment made me laugh out loud
Also what's the flag on your profile picture?
@@Korra228 its the agender flag
@@Korra228 and if u dont know what that is its when u dont have a gender :))
The one person I like as a motivational speaker is Dan Clark. He's a super down to earth guy who actually knows how to speak like a person and not a robot. He is super understanding and also he usually doesn't charge ridiculous prices, he 's one of the best yet he came to my middle school 7 years ago for free and just spoke to us.
I had a teacher once say “this class will motivate you to be better than you thought you could be” then proceed to go over an entire chapter of math in 1 hour because “if you aren’t smart enough to understand it you aren’t smart enough to be in this class.”
This guy's speech just sounds like me trying to write a thousand word essay
Also Kurtis posted this on his story and im new to this channel and is this like a inside joke? or did kurtis make this if so then why? i've asked many people but they can't explain it lmao 😭😭here's the link lmao please tell me i you know czcams.com/video/jvghBUcdyGw/video.html
Yeah, when you've got nothing to say filler words and repetition really fill out your show/essay length.
"Don't be a beta"
>walks around with his hands in his pockets
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dude straightup looks like a younger lester crest lmao
I know the “don’t be motivated” speech was a joke but honestly it rings true in some ways. People gatekeep themselves behind their motivation when a lot of the time we just have to discipline ourselves to work through the lack thereof. It’s obviously not the way you want to work all the time, but sometimes the strength of character comes through in the dedication despite no motivation to keep pushing.
A lot of Kurtis’s content has great re-watch value
I hate it when people use wolfs as examples of the whole “beta” and “alpha” superiority measures, when alphas are usually just the parents of wolf packs, they’re not even superior in strength. It’s literally just age.
"Alpha males"- No, no, don't be an average man, be an *old* man!!
David Mech: Fucking THANK YOU
even funnier considering the whole "alpha/beta" rhetoric in wolves was made up too
And there are SO MANY other animals you can take inspiration from!
In that case, that motivational speaker guy has the hairline of a wizened grandpa, and we should definitely listen to him!