Foster Parents interview-Heidi and Dan
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- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Heidi and Dan, foster parents in Fond Du Lac, Wisconsin.
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Thank everyone for all the kind words. So many are asking about a go fund me. I am very hesitant but my daughters think otherwise. They started a go fund me “Foster Family Hope for the Thuerwachter’s”. ❤❤❤ God Bless❤️🙏 Mark makes a difference in this world. 🥰
May you all be blessed abundantly 💛
@lg2013 Well of course they do, but some of us want to pass on a money gift, just because...we want to. Relax.
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@lg2013 yes, that’s why we own mansions and yachts. That’s the only reason my husband and I fostered and adopted. We couldn’t wait to get filthy rich 🤑
I guess you missed the part of the interview where finances were addressed.
Truthfully you are living the way couples are supposed to live. You aren’t missing anything by not doing things that unhappy people do to look happy or successful. You have everything they don’t because of their narcissistic tendencies. 💖⚔️🧿
That’s my parents❤!!! We put a go fund me for my mom (Foster Family Hope for the Thuerwachters). Please help mom. I want her to have a million dollars for mothers day. I'm so excited. ❤
You are a sweetheart. 💕💖
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💞💞💞 God bless and keep you all 🙏🙏🙏
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Being in the comment section might not be a good idea
She used to be my fourth grade history teacher!! She’s an awesome woman and one of my two most memorable teachers. I remember when she was going through the process of adopting their first two foster children…
Congratulations Mrs. Heidi! (I’ll keep you last name redacted). This video made me cry, you’re doing amazingly.
-Marissa
I love you Marissa. Thank you so much sweetie. ❤
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@lg2013 Wait! Why can’t she teach and be a foster mom?
“There’s a lot of love in our family” the little girl said ❤😢
That was the topping on this beautifully real story. Happy tears from me.
If every foster parent in every system was like this, our country would be such a better place with better people. These humans are American treasures.
@@JJones-zg7yz well considering a few of their own children have commented on here saying how much they love their parents and are grateful for them kinda means something?
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There are alot of wonderful foster parents .
@@jillianlea9690 I agree, but there is also a lot of bad ones too unfortunately.
I am a foster parent and I am so happy for some positive stories.
thank you for helping children!
Yes! Thank you so much for being there for the children that you foster..it truly takes an amazing person to do that for them and change their lives for the better! All my best to you!
You're scum. You make money off the backs of traumatised children. What's wrong with you?
Thank you for helping children🙏💙
It seems there was some bias on Mark's part going into this due to his dealings with the former foster kids who were failed. We are foster parents for our county, and there are so many GOOD foster families out there! So many people going into it with love and not just self-interest.
I am a social worker. They are on point. They are trauma informed and do it for the right reasons. Beautiful heart. We need more foster parents like them. ...fostering is NOT a business, so don't become one if you don't have a heart and will not dedicate/commit to care for a child. Fostering someone's child is a privilege. In my years of working with foster youth, I have seen very successful stories and unfortunately not so good. I make myself available to my youth 24/7 for any concerns, visit them weekly then bi weekly after 90 days with a family. Bless this family.
I used to be a home health aid for many families I worked with liked to foster and then adopt special needs kids. That way they got money for them and had nurses and aids taking care of them most of the time. Some ppl have lots of kids cuz they want but you can definitely tell the ppl who do it for the wrong reasons
@@snuff2023 .... our agency assess every child needs in the home before another child joins the family, to ensure foster parents are able to care for another child.. but yes I agree with you. All Social workers need to carefully assess the homes/foster parents to ensure they can provide the best quality of care... and Shame on those who don't!
Foster care is big business.
That’s sad anyone sees fostering as a business. Kids’ lives are at stake and some folks see it as a way to get money.
@@DSPsWifesBf ths family I workd for were adopting 4 sibling from foster care. They were pushing to get it done before the new year. Told the kids it was for Xmas but then they bragged about how they would supposedly get thousands of dollars for adopting and wanted to b able to get it that year rather than having to wait until the next
I’m Heidi in the video thanks for all these amazing comments. Of course there are negative Nellie’s but that’s ok. There is always some in the bunch. Thanks so much for all the great comments.
You're both wonderful, uplifting human beings and your family is amazing 👏 ❤️ 💖
Great video. Thank you!
You have a beautiful family.
you are wonderfull people doing a great job both of you
Thank you for sharing your life with us and I'd definitely never be a negative Nellie about anything you two wonderful souls do helping others .❤️🙏🏻❤️
Heidi was called to this. How beautiful to be able to fulfill such a legacy.
Thank you so much. I believe it was my calling. It’s hard to describe because it was just part of me. I’m an empath too so maybe that plays a part. Thank you so much
Every foster parent should be like you... World would be much better...
THIS
It's refreshing to be able to see people who are an asset to the community instead of a liability for a change.
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I was physically and sexually abused by my foster dad and they wanted to adopt me. Thankfully the police rescued us before that happened.
I am sorry that happened to you @jenn451 it happens frequently I am all too aware. The Trauma of an adoption is also something that needs to be addressed. Even in "great" adoptions, I have yet to meet a grown adult that isn't trauma filled. I pray this will end well for this family. Tee
I'm sorry you had to go through that, I hope you've found safety and love since
Just simple, ordinary greatness.
These are the people who deserve our support and money. Imagine how many additional lives they are changing. ❤️ Thank you sweet family!
Yeah not that idiot Rebecca.
I love how people think it's a money making scheme, you barely get anything and it's meant to be a reimbursement not a profit. In my state you get 29 dollars a day for up to 4 years old.
You can tell these parents absolutely adore their children and surround them with the love and stability they deserve. All the best to this lovely family 💗
Ordinary ppl doing extraordinary thing....
We can so relate to Dan and Heidi. We fostered for almost 21 yrs. We adopted 14 children and have 7 others that we have custody of along with our 2 biological boys. We have 23 children and wouldn’t want it any other way. We no longer foster and still have 7 children at home. When they said they have gone broke doing foster care, we have as well. We wouldn’t trade our lives though, because seeing the children grow and go on to become great humans that have broken a cycle is worth it.
I'm so happy that you represented a great foster home on your channel, Mark. I'm also a foster parent and there is such a bad rap for us when there are actually so many wonderful foster parents who have opened their hearts and their homes to children in need. We usually only hear about the bad homes and maybe that is because it's more interesting and salacious for people to hear the horror stories? Regardless, many, many blessings and love to Heidi and Dan and your beautiful family! Thank you for this Mark!
We usually hear from adults who were mistreated in foster care system. Sometimes it is not even the foster families but the rules and agencies policies which hurt children in care.
Their stories are important to hear in order to improve the system of care for children entering foster care.
What a beautiful couple! They finish each other sentences. Real love, they are one flesh for real. I would have loved to have such marriage.
My favorite part is when the dad said “safety” is number one! ❤️❤️❤️! Giving to these people is so much more important than giving to the drug addicts!
These are people who should have a go fund me.
Yes!!!! I was thinking that🎉
Lovely family!!!!
My daughters started one just now. I wasn’t crazy about it but they were all excited.
If more people were like these people, the world would be a better place. I took 3 kids that got taken away from some of my family members, and they are doing amazing . It is not the kids' fault that they are in some horrible situations.
These two wonderful souls will be good at teaching a course on what should be expected of foster parents. The system is incredibly broken 💔
You take courses before fostering. Well, at least in Canada you do.
Yes we take courses and we have so many training hours each year. Honestly trainings are ok but it’s the experience that helps you. I wish I could help more.
Mark, I would love to hear more stories from unsung heroes. They give me hope.
I went to the website to watch the end. I'm glad you re-edited it. Everyone deserved to see that beautiful family.
I did the same! I absolutely agree, this is so beautiful 💙
Huh?
I didn't even think to do that. It was too early 😂
@@randymarsh9488 He had posted this earlier and it abruptly cut off at 21 minutes, scrapping the ending where you see the family. I was posting to Mark more than the viewers. Sorry if it wasn't clear.
❤ The world needs more Heidis & Dans!
I have always thought of becoming a foster parent because I know I can provide a safe loving home for a child. I am still doing my research, but this inspires me to continue my path.
No amount of research will prepare you for the roller coaster ride of fostering. I took in a family member from foster care and really thought I was ready after all the research, preparation, and thought it would be easy-ish. Boy was I COMPLETELY WRONG. Taking in a foster child that’s been mentally, emotionally, physically neglected and abused has been beyond hard, difficult and stressful.
@@justineholliday177it’s worth a shot though to better that child’s life if some are willing to take that risk. I’m not I’ll admit it.
I wish my foster parents had been as supportive and loving. I spent 7 years in one foster home. I aged out at 19 without knowing any life skills. I didn't even know how to boil an egg or do laundry. I was just a paycheck for them. Their adult daughter stole hundreds of dollars from me in that 7 years. This was back in the 90s. It's so refreshing to see a family like this.
I'm sorry you were exploited and didn't get what you needed. For those of us in this situation it's a struggle to learn how to adult properly. Good luck to you!
I'm sorry this happened. Not only did the foster parents fail you but your attorney and the social workers. Nobody should be in foster care 7+ years. There are legal mandates for permanency. There are supposed to be transitional housing and classes to help you budget and plan even if the foster parents aren't doing it. The statistics of how many children who were in foster care who wind up in prison or homeless is very scary. And, of course, for females- the number who have kids when they can't even support themselves, yet.
Just from what you wrote here, I get the sense you are a resourceful person who has managed well despite what you shared. A lot of intelligence in how you expressed yourself, which is often lacking in comment sections on CZcams and social media. Thanks for sharing your experience.
May you be blessed with healing.
Mr. T!!!!! He's a good man who cares about his job on a level unknown to most. Patient. Dedicated. I can not believe I am seeing this! I'm so glad I know this about him! The foster parents in Fond du Lac are phenomenal, caring, thoughtful people, and they have my respect. I still see my children's previous foster parents occasionally and its always a positive interaction. Such a good human Mr. T is. I know this because my kids know this. My daughter sees him at least two times a week. His wife seems just as stellar. They have my respect. Mark, this is flipping amazing! Your work is evolving and I love it! Love it!!
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I am a foster care worker. Thank you for sacrifice and love for the youth! We need more families like you!! THANK YOU!
1. I'm happy that there are great foster parents in the world
2. It makes me proud to be a Wisconsinite knowing they are from Fon Du Lac
Beautiful family. Thank you for being foster and adoptive parents
Those faces at the end! ❤ Great interview. 👍
I have read that 80% of the people who sign up to be foster parents, and take in a child, never do it a second time. I can understand why. Kudos to these people who can do it.
I was in foster care for two weeks with two separate families.. both abused my brother and I. The father in the 2nd family beat the complete hell out of us. He would lift us by the hair and throw us against walls among other things… My cousins were in long term foster care and they were SA for years by the dad.. nobody believed any of us as kids.
Currently working with the State to find out exactly who they were to hopefully get some sort of justice 30 years later.
Foster care is the reason I trust nobody that I meet and the reason I’ve struggled with drugs and low self esteem. . I know they’re not all bad but in my experience, not one was good.
Sorry you went thru that.
Foster care was the seed that grew into your trauma. I have long fought for people to understand that most of the drug addicts they judge so harshly are sufferers of trauma. It's true of sex workers as well.
I am thankful that you are pursuing legal action. Unfortunately, what happened to you and your family seems to be what really happens in far too many cases. I'm sure you have also considered the foster care placement folks in your legal action. I know that the states always say they are overwhelmed with too many children and not enough workers. To that I say, there has to be parts of that program that can be downsized without taking away from the ability to check on the families to whom you have put your trust. Abuse like that can be seen with trained eyes but if these monsters know when the caseworker us coming, they have time to clean up. And yes, I am very aware that they don't have to open the door unless an officer is present...and to that I say, if you don't allow a caseworker in your house to check on the kids, then the kids are removed. Sadly, caseworkers who do not have time to follow up on the placements are, in my mind , equally guilty of abuse. Most people have no real clue how horrible it can be or even that child trafficking is also associated with these agencies. I encourage every person who faced this hell through the foster care system, find legal means to hold them accountable. Will they win? I don't know. But at least these victims can put a face on the monsters. I want you to know that many of us have trust issues and not all from foster care. I also beg you, to understand you have this giant rock on your back called trauma. Please, find a place where you can get help for specifically for trauma. You are not the reason this happened. You can turn this around and help others. You can take that rock and break it down into something others can see as beautiful. Like coal into diamonds. That is how you win, not just survive. I hope people see your words now and understand what you say is true. Also, we all know that some people will lie and pretend they were mistreated. This happens all the time. I'm sure you can spot these liars. Speak up. Those folks will derail the entire mission. Never forget , like these people here, not everyone is horrible. There are still people who really can love, care and protect children. Let us all raise them up high for the world to see. Someday, someone will really love you , too. Just keep moving in the right direction. ❤
So very sorry that happened to you. Here in SC. the system is so broken. Don’t screen enough, check in on families and you here many abuse of all kinds. I think what you are doing should be done more. Maybe then the government would fix a system that should love, nurture and help children not add to Trama. May God bless you with peace, strength and justice.💖🙏
So so sorry you had a terrible childhood, I hope one day you bring them to justice. I know it's difficult but pls pls remember you are a wonderful person who is loved and wanted. Be kind to yourself and stay safe. Sending hugs ❤️ from the uk ❤️
I am sorry you went through this. I don't trust easily either, and to be honest, I've seen people who appear to be lovely to the outside world but are monsters at home.
There was a child raped and murdered by a foster family they reported the child missing. Eventually, her body was found in the Logan River. The biological mother was trying to get her daughter back. She voiced her concerns to everyone along the chain, and nobody listened to her.
During the weeks this girl went missing and the police were searching for her I didn't see one helicopter searching.
A few months later, a police dog went missing the sky was filled with helicopters day and night over a loud speaker a description of the dog was announced. That dog received more attention than the young girl. It wouldn't have helped anyway because her poor little pregnant body was deep in the Logan River.
That foster family went on the media, sounding as genuine as could be, but they had planned this girls murder. The father, the biological son, and the mother. When they were pleading for her return tears streaming, they had already killed her. This is the nature of some humans. That family didn't want to be caught for the sexual abuse. When the girl was pregnant, they knew the SA would come to light, so they murdered the girl. They thought they would get away with it, and they very nearly did.
Omg! Those kids are so precious! And the parents are so wonderful! God bless this family!
I’d love to see more interviews related to the foster care system. We adopted our son from foster care and it was quite an experience. I think it has an overall negative reputation but there are a lot of parts people aren’t as aware of. More understanding could lead to more of the right people getting involved.
Making children feel like they matter and are loved unconditionally when they have been through so much trauma is selfless and so admirable! The world so desperately needs more people like this Thank you Heidi, Dan and Mark, this was a beautiful heartfelt video, may we all be inspired to be better humans after watching this.
I am a social worker. I love this interview. It’s nice to hear the positive stories. Wish someone would bless them financially because I know they’d spend it wisely. We need more foster parents! Hope this helps others consider fostering for the right reasons. Too many kids in care that need loving, stable homes!
Thank you. God didn’t give me millions but he gave me a big heart. ❤❤❤
Also, if anyone deserves a gofundme, it’s this couple
I wish. But understand.
My daughters started one just now. I wasn’t crazy about it but they were all excited.
i grew up in neglectful violent chaos. for some reason they just left us there.
i always wished to be whisked away to a foster home where i would be greeted by amazing folks like these.
bless their hearts. what they do for our society is sorely needed. the way they describe some of the behaviors is so on point. they really know their stuff!
I wish I could give them a couples weekend vacation for just them to celebrate their anniversary! Happy Anniversary Dan & Heidi 🎉💗
What an amazing couple! Thank you for caring for our most vulnerable children.
In a world of ugliness and pain, this family and their story is pure amazement. I don't know you, but I love you all!!!!
As a CASA for foster youth, we’re so grateful for amazing foster parents and homes that bring them love and care ❤
I loved my CASA worker. She held me together. The GAL did too. I was blessed.
@@Heidithuerwachter Awhh I love that so much ❤️ hugs to you!
Seeing the smiles at the end says it all. So happy we got to meet this beautiful family! ❤
Their faces said more than their words, and there was joy in their words, too. Very sweet.
We need more parents like this. Typically rude/disrespectful kids are reflections of their parents behavior/parenting. Thankfully Heidi and Dan provide the loving example that all kids deserve. ❤
I get it.. thank you to Mr. & Mrs. Easton. (Vance Shelby) my undocumented foster/ Parents. There are many great people in this world Mark… please bring more on the channel
So happy to finally see a positive, inspiring story here, instead of so much tragedy. Please, more like this!
2 Angels . Happy anniversary!
Spotlighting the positive in the system is heartwarming. Thank you.
As a foster parent I know these feelings. The “mansion” statement gets me every single time when a new kiddo comes into my 3bd town home.
I love this so much! I'm from WI and my ex was in 10 foster homes before getting adopted. At 32, he still struggles greatly with mental health and his childhood trauma from his bio mom. When i met him, i asked him what his favorite childhood memory was and he said, "Getting adopted." That and my work with children who've experienced trauma makes me moved to adopt.
That’s wonderful that your ex made it out! Mine on the other hand was in those homes and living on the street….bio mom strung out and he’s now in prison. It’s a cycle with him and his decision making. Not everybody makes it out!
@Alyssa-do3yc my ex is in jail :/ beautiful, wonderful man when he's well.
I do hope that this couple will frame the photo you took. It is fabulous.
This video was such a breath of fresh air. I caught myself getting extremely emotional at parts. God bless this entire family
after the one the other day with the teen sex worker (it broke me) this was needed.
This is a beautiful family God bless your mom and dad I know it’s not all rainbows and sunshine being a foster parent but the joy the love you get is very special and rewarding I wish your family nothing but the best and I wish their was more foster parents like you two❤
Thank you, Mark. I was hanging on to every word!
I really admire people like you! It takes a lot of effort, time, patience, love to click with these traumatized kids, but you seem to do that instantly and naturally. That's because you have a big heart and you really are special. Thanks for bringing joy and safety to this broken children, you really make a difference.
Hats off to you guys. Thank you for taking those kids and loving them so much, protecting those children, stability. What a feel good interview.
Omg! I’m glad I watched this. My husband and I are foster parents. We love it. The one thing I only feel bad about until watching this is the eating home cooked meals. They refuse to eat my gourmet dinners. I’m big on nutrition and the food groups and very sensitive to every child’s likes and needs but for some reason all they really like to eat is ramen noodles, hot dogs or processed tv dinner like meals. So I’m glad to hear that it’s just a thing. Thank you for what you do😊
I’m glad you understand. ❤❤❤
It’s a thing :0) I recommend reading Love Me, Feed Me by Katja Rowell (first edition addresses adoption/foster more heavily). Great resource to help understand feeding issues w these kids :)
These 2 are the best people in this world I love and respect them so much. I look up to them so much and would love to be like them
They brought me to tears with their generosity and love. May God bless these people.
The ending of this made me cry and smile at the same time. What a precious beautiful family ❤
My husband and I are also foster/adoptive parents. We have 2 bio sons, 1 adopted son and 2 who we are in the midst of adopting and a foster placement that is a pre-adoptive placement. Mark, I’m soooo happy to see a POSITIVE
video shining the light on GREAT foster parents. The world needs a reminder that there are GREAT foster parents that are doing right by their kids..❤
I lived in Fondy for nearly all my school years. Right on Lake Winnebago. Went to a one room schoolhouse , still remember the wonderful teacher, Mrs Kluckman.
No idea how it is now, but for me it was idyllic. Good memories for sure.
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I’m a foster mom to twin boys we got them at 3 months!! It so amazing to see another amazing foster family uplifting kids!!
Heidi and Dan, you gave me back hope in humanity.
The love you two have for each other and the children are absolutely unbelievable.
It's so beautiful I cried.
God bless you and your beautiful family, lots of love from Norway ❤️
My step mom is from Norway. She goes there every so often. She came to the US when she was 11. Her name is Velough. ❤❤❤
I cried through the whole video. Bless ♥️
Proud to be from Wisconsin after seeing this. The world still has angels that walk around in plain sight. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. ❤️
Me too!!
I was in a foster home in Canada. These people are going to heaven if there is one.
This is such a wonderment. These parents are the best. These kids seem so well adjusted that it makes me wonder how kids from good families with a good start in life good awry. Although these parents say the kids will have monumental challenges ahead, just think about the good you are doing for them, then try to imagine where these kids would be if it weren’t for you two to open your hearts to these foster children. Your influence will go on forever, not matter what they face ahead.
❤ I'm so happy that these 2 extraordinary individuals made the choice to be foster parents. You hear a lot of when these precious children end up with bad foster experiences and its so heart breaking.
Thank you for being a loving shining light for these kids❤
I wish you guys were the norm
I've wanted to be a foster parent since I was 16. I've not been in a position to be able to do so yet but it's so deeply on my heart. It breaks me to think of children in hurting circumstances and one day I hope to have a home to provide a soft place to land.
Same! 💜
Please do!!!
I don’t think they love the drama and chaos, but it’s what they’re used to. They are comfortable with it. Change is hard, even if it’s a good change. Kids will always try to stay in their comfort zone, no matter how bad. Adults do it as well.
You are correct, I agree. I do have to say my 19yr old daughter loves drama and creates it. She knows it to. But you are right about most of them. They know nothing different.
Mark I'm so glad you are showing the other the side of the foster care story. I know so many foster parents and they are all beautiful loving people.
Providing a safe haven is priceless for children who have zero stability in their lives. Love and sitting down to meals together very important. Thank you for sharing your family with us.💖
Thanks for reposting this, Mark!
Thank you letting me know the end of this video was cut off in the previously uploaded version. The ending is the best part!
We got you, Mark. Hi Noelle! 🫂
This is an awesome change from the usual interviews. More of these 👏🏻
That was heartwarming. The kids look great- healthy and well taken care of. The sweet hearts of the Midwest. I can see Mom is the glue and Dad sometimes has to just adjust and go with it. Both amazing people.
OMG! What a wonderful couple who found their purpose in life. This was the most inspiring watch. THANK YOU Heidi and Dan 💌
Way to go, Mark. What a great interview. It’s so nice to see a happy family. I’m glad for you Mark that you are doing more encouraging videos.
Foster parents making a positive difference. Loved the interview.
What a beautiful story and beautiful family. I was in and out of foster care, didn’t get the Nikes or fancy clothes but I felt loved and still talk with my foster mom and sisters to this day. What wonderful parents you are. God bless
How refreshing to hear this type of story! What a blessing to those kids’ lives 🙏 Thanks, Mark.
These foster parents seem like such down to earth and realistic people ever. Obvs I don’t know them but they seem very honest and genuinely care about the kids but will admit that they have moments where they want to focus on each other because parenting is hard. I appreciate what they had to say
Also those kids are adorable! ☺️
At least they're realistic about the situation.
From one Canadian Foster Parent to you two, I thank you !! I understand !!! Bless you !
This is so heart warming!!! This couple and their children are so very special. They make my heart sing!!!
Thank you
Ruth
10,000 angels in flight for this entire family and everything that this couple is doing. True love!
Such great people!.. Wish every kid could go to a family like this every time they are put in Foster care.. great interview.. some positive energy is always good!
These people are angels! I wish all foster parents were like them! What wonderful people and to see those kids happy and smile is priceless! Thank you Mark for this wonderful interview! ❤
Two lovely souls!!! This world needs more people like you
Loved this so much, in tears. Your children are beautiful, truly love is the way and the great healer we all need.
I loved hearing this. I know of another family that adopted four children after their biological children left the nest. It really breathed life into the family and the home. This is such a brave thing to do, so much sacrifice, but oh the love!!
Happiest sad true song I ever heard, very good man
Loved seeing the kids with them at the end. Brought a huge smile to my face. So much love there and love heals. Beautiful family ❤
Sitting here watching and smiling at the love they share. I see the views go up and the likes and smiling. Greatest interview ever
God bless good foster parents! I remember the first time I babysat a child from a not so great home...it was very eye opening. The child's actions say it all no matter how much the "parents" claim to be good.
awwww, I love this story. Thank you for being content in being givers and loving those that have not previously been well-loved. And, thank you, Mark, for sharing.
So refreshing to see decent people 💓
These people are absolute angels! These children are very lucky to have you!