Me as well. Its like 'okay, that's not a big issue, I can adjust with her' thoughts which neglect any flaws. But would love to know your current status. Hope you're doing good.
This makes so much sense right now. Hopefully my next couple of days won’t be as horrible as today after hearing these as all of these three things rings true for me. The person I am obsessing over isn’t bad but I am becoming miserable more and more and it feels terrible.
At the moment i was obssesed with this girl and i cant help my self thinking about her .. i know to myself that i cannot love her or even respect her .. maybe some of you know what im talking about .. thats why i wonder why im so obsessed with her even in the first place she doesnt deserve my love and loyalty specially my respect ..hope this will help you too
Trauma touch and qualities of the person you are obsessing are interesting points, but even knowing those won't cure limerence ,it is really stubborn thing.
It’s the sex for me - no one has even come close to it. How do you stop obsessing over someone because they’re so amazing in bed? That’s what’s hard - you’ll bypass all their flaws because their love making is unmatched!!!
And especially when there is chemistry and connection and it’s like spiritual. Both ways. Even thou they are bad for you, you might think or the relationship isn’t working, you’d still choose this person over someone nice and better but not that deep connection and no wild chemistry, right🙌
IF YOURE THINKING THAT YOURE NOT HELPING US YOURE ACTUALLYYY HELPINGG MEE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ THANKKK YOUUU VERY MUCHHH ❤ I just listened the podcast and it was amazing🌷 thank youuuu
I’m not sure this video tells you how to stop obsessing over someone, but, by my experience, she is spot on about the reasons for the obsession. What if you can’t get close enough to see the person’s flaws? I wish I could help by giving some advice myself, but I haven’t figured it out yet.
If you know your reason, you have the solution. Obsession is a symptom, an important information about yourself and a chance to change. What to change depends on the reason of the obsession. If you put the person above everybody else, you need to focus on their imperfections. This will help you, to see them as a human they really are and stop obsessing If it's shadow work, you need to find out what is missing in your life and what this person represents for you and find it on your own. If it's trauma from childhood, you need to work on self love and probably go to therapy. If it's a combination you need an approach that tackels it all, see them as a human not a God, understand what is it that you admire and give it to yourself, try to love yourself and feel that you are worthy of love, a beautiful love from someone else then this person who triggers you so much. I think it was very helpful....more than anything I have every heard in the last 30 years that I suffer from this kind of attachments over and over again
This video is an eye opener , i really appreciate ❤ the genuine valid points to be looked after if we ever get trap into that scenario. Really helpful and so much grateful to hear this. 😅 thank you 🙏
I'm a "beautiful, successful" woman but is currently obsessed with a rough, unorganized avoidant 😂 He was into me at first and then left. Just left haha i think it's my pride taking over, I cant handle being rejected this way, so I became obsessed in winning him back, for what? He's no good for me. 😅
Perhaps they feel like their options are limited, maybe if they themselves feel their lives aren't fulfilling. Having meaning & purpose, and taking care of oneself-both internally & healthwise-makes you more likely to believe that your options are abundant and you don't necessarily to chase anyone in particular if you yourself are the prize. Being in a mindset of scarcity means you'd be more likely to cling onto people
At 3:03, you said you can get cuddles from anyone. False. Maybe for a beautiful woman like you, but it's not that easy for a normal looking person like myself.
I see his flaws yet obsess over him
How about now? R u over him?
Me as well. Its like 'okay, that's not a big issue, I can adjust with her' thoughts which neglect any flaws. But would love to know your current status. Hope you're doing good.
If you do then you know that there are more people like him that will like you :)
Same😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭help me lord
me too!
By realizing you can not rely on one specific individual for your happiness if you are not happy with yourself first
"They fart and poop as well", I didn't see that one coming! 😂 But it's so true! ❤️
Fr 😂
Unless they're like the North Korean leader in the interview and doesn't have a butthole cuz they have no use for 1 😂
😂😂😂
that helps 😂😂😂
Why should that be a flaw? 😄
This makes so much sense right now. Hopefully my next couple of days won’t be as horrible as today after hearing these as all of these three things rings true for me. The person I am obsessing over isn’t bad but I am becoming miserable more and more and it feels terrible.
I feel u
Hi! Me too😢!!! How are you doing now?😊
At the moment i was obssesed with this girl and i cant help my self thinking about her .. i know to myself that i cannot love her or even respect her .. maybe some of you know what im talking about .. thats why i wonder why im so obsessed with her even in the first place she doesnt deserve my love and loyalty specially my respect ..hope this will help you too
Same here but still love her don't know why!!!!
I see them as completely flawed and it makes me more attracted to them
Trauma touch and qualities of the person you are obsessing are interesting points, but even knowing those won't cure limerence ,it is really stubborn thing.
It’s the sex for me - no one has even come close to it. How do you stop obsessing over someone because they’re so amazing in bed? That’s what’s hard - you’ll bypass all their flaws because their love making is unmatched!!!
Exactly this 😭
And especially when there is chemistry and connection and it’s like spiritual. Both ways. Even thou they are bad for you, you might think or the relationship isn’t working, you’d still choose this person over someone nice and better but not that deep connection and no wild chemistry, right🙌
delusion
IF YOURE THINKING THAT YOURE NOT HELPING US YOURE ACTUALLYYY HELPINGG MEE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
THANKKK YOUUU VERY MUCHHH ❤
I just listened the podcast and it was amazing🌷 thank youuuu
your talks always make sense
I’m not sure this video tells you how to stop obsessing over someone, but, by my experience, she is spot on about the reasons for the obsession. What if you can’t get close enough to see the person’s flaws? I wish I could help by giving some advice myself, but I haven’t figured it out yet.
If you know your reason, you have the solution. Obsession is a symptom, an important information about yourself and a chance to change. What to change depends on the reason of the obsession.
If you put the person above everybody else, you need to focus on their imperfections. This will help you, to see them as a human they really are and stop obsessing
If it's shadow work, you need to find out what is missing in your life and what this person represents for you and find it on your own.
If it's trauma from childhood, you need to work on self love and probably go to therapy.
If it's a combination you need an approach that tackels it all, see them as a human not a God, understand what is it that you admire and give it to yourself, try to love yourself and feel that you are worthy of love, a beautiful love from someone else then this person who triggers you so much.
I think it was very helpful....more than anything I have every heard in the last 30 years that I suffer from this kind of attachments over and over again
correct because that person has all the bad traits i am afraid to be but i find brave to be and have. so true that's he is my shadow
Great information. Thank you!
straightforward points ideas. Thank you
Yup I found my fathers doppelgänger it touched my trauma I was trying to redue my childhood in hopes it would fix me but I wasn’t aware…
" It's mostly an IMAGINATION "😭 ( And I felt that..... )
08/06/2024
Very good talk. 😎
This video is an eye opener , i really appreciate ❤ the genuine valid points to be looked after if we ever get trap into that scenario. Really helpful and so much grateful to hear this. 😅 thank you 🙏
please make a podcast episode on this topic🙏🏼
You saved my life right now
Love this thankyou❤
Thanks for this video Francesca
thank you for this
Great video
Thank you i never knew it was like that 😢
I thought I was the only one
Makes sense!
Where can I see full video of this podcast?
Thanks. I hope it will help me.
What can we do if we need a lot of attention from those people were are obsessed with, but can't get it 😢
I finally found what's going on in my life
I'm a "beautiful, successful" woman but is currently obsessed with a rough, unorganized avoidant 😂 He was into me at first and then left. Just left haha i think it's my pride taking over, I cant handle being rejected this way, so I became obsessed in winning him back, for what? He's no good for me. 😅
How are you now
I want to get over it too
All this is true but how are these techniques
What if someone just obcesses over any woman they find attractive
Perhaps they feel like their options are limited, maybe if they themselves feel their lives aren't fulfilling.
Having meaning & purpose, and taking care of oneself-both internally & healthwise-makes you more likely to believe that your options are abundant and you don't necessarily to chase anyone in particular if you yourself are the prize. Being in a mindset of scarcity means you'd be more likely to cling onto people
At 3:03, you said you can get cuddles from anyone. False. Maybe for a beautiful woman like you, but it's not that easy for a normal looking person like myself.