I could write such a long story about being stuck in quasi-recovery for many years. Unable to see the mistakes I was still making. Not alloweing myself to eat whenever I want, whatever I want, how much ever I want. Still controlling my weight on a scale. Still trying to change and control my body SOMEHOW! But I finally became aware - thanks to you Elisa and also Tabitha Farrar ♥ My whole perspective has changed. Even though recovery is tough, seeing you - happy and healthy and free - I know it will be worth it ♥
I struggled with anorexia for 16 years now. I was an high carb (ethical, I thought) vegan for more then 11 years. I discovered Tabitha Farrar and you and I realized that this restriction meant that I never actually recover, despite being an healthy weight for a while before I relapsed 8 months ago. I now allow myself to eat anything. It started with eggs, then cheese, seafood, and now, I eat chicken. I realize that, as long as there are food rules in place, you aren't free from ED, and much more susceptible to relapse. Thank you for this video !
I want to be “fully recovered” but I have such a hard time letting go with food restrictions. I am irritated at the food industry because I just think that certain man made food was designed to harm me and just make me fat. I challenged fear foods a few months ago but then I got freaked out because I have to take a stupid health class that talks about all the things wrong with junk food. Maybe I want to enjoy that food sometimes. But now I’m just terrified of it.
Such a good message. No wonder your channel doesn't grow the way the other ones do. No one wants to hear that they need to stop focusing on weight, they want to hear about people's experiences with weight restoration (particularly the ones where weight loss results after weight gain) but you are ABSOLUTELY right, you HAVE TO LET GO OF YOUR FOCUS ON WEIGHT AND FOCUS ON RECOVERY. You articulated this so beautifully, thank you, I needed this today. : )
This video is really helpful, thank you! I wanted to tell you that I am following a meal plan and a week ago my ED hit me really hard with anxiety and I wanted to quit and relapse, and even harm my body with scissors because I felt so fat and disgusting. The worst of it lasted for a couple of days and I kept following the plan even though i was in so much mental pain. And it gradually got easier. Now I feel that I can handle this no matter how bad anxiety and ED voices get. I wanted to tell you this because so many relapse in these moments and I want to say to others, please do not quit. It feels horrible, it can feel like your life is ending, but it won't! I'm not yet recovered and it's going to take a lot of time but I won't quit ever anymore and i hope others will try and find strength to go on because the bad days will go away. They might come back again but they will go away again too.
Reading your book and Bulimia Help Method and Tabitha Farrar's book were the keys to me eating whatever I wanted when I wanted during the early stages of my recovery. I still try to stick to this even after my appetite lessened after 4 months of extreme hunger. I think it's the quickest way to freedom but it's a hard path to choose.
I am learning so much from your channel!! This is everything I needed to hear. I’ve been in recovery for a while but still hold onto so many food rules and still go through periods of counting calories. Your video gave me a beautiful new perspective.
thank you very vuch for sharing these tips with us. I'm dealing with recovery since ....... and you have said things are are extremely important. I think with "you" I will be able to get over it.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm well aware of all these obstacles but still it was so good to hear them out once again! I've discovered that I've had ED only more than two decades of my life. It's really sad. When I had bulimia after sever anorexia at first it was like my dream - I could eat whatever I want and then I could purge so there would no weigh gain problem. But eventually I realized that I just couldn't break this vicious circle. My teeth were in very bad condition, I felt depressed all the time, after every meal I couldn't think about anything but getting rid of all the food. Then it occured to me that something definitely very much wrong with me but I didn't have any info about EDs. I just realized that I came to the stage that my stomach couldn't keep food inside even if I wanted. I took really not traditional actions to stop purging. It was really hard. After that there was all the life with restrictions and self hatress. And here I am - in recovery at the end, after orthorexia version, realizing finally that during all my 20s and 30s I've been suffering from ED. For me eating is less the problem, self accepting is the most problem now for me cos my body is gaining weight drastically. I'm sending my support to everyone in recovery.
Thank you so much for this video! I have made a lot of progress so far but I've been struggling with the last bits of recovery for a while now. Especially nr.5 is something I realized I have been neglecting. I know my mentality has changed a lot - for the better - but I sometimes tend to push my disordered thoughts aways or just shut them up instead of taking the extra action to rewire. I will make sure to do that from today on and hopefully this could be the missing piece for my full recovery 😊
Hi Elisa thank you so much for your videos :) I recognise myself especially in point 2 that I'm still mentally restricting, I'm allowing myself to eat anything ("junk" food etc.) but still in moderation and I'm very strict about meal times, I don't really listen to my mental hunger so I can't say I'm eating unrestricted. The thing is I'm afraid to do so because even tough it makes sense to me and I'd like to try it, my treatment team doesn't approve of that, they all recommend a quite structured and somewhat limited way of eating. I'm always nervous about going to my dietician because I feel like she wants me to eat a "balanced and healthy" diet and doesn't seem to understand the mental hunger aspect. All in all I feel stuck because I'm torn between following advice "from the internet" or listening to the professionals treating me here... sometimes I even think about dropping them all and trying to recover by myself with your help and all the other great recovery coaches out there... But at least I can say you've already helped me a lot with many aspects of recovery and just changing my mindset so thank you :) you're doing an amazing job! Sorry for the long post xx
@@jennid2495 hi :) I’m good how are you? I don’t even remember writing this it’s been so long! Well I never went “all in” and 2 years later it’s pretty much the same except with more restrictions...
Hey. I saw your fear food challenge on ig. I’m also trying to recover. But if I eat any fear food I’ll probably want to throw up again. I’m so scared to let go of restricting. If I stop restricting I’ll overeat and throw up again. Please can you give some tips to boost up my confidence. You’ve already been so much help. Thanks 🙏🏽
The only way you can boost up your confidence is by working on your mindset. You need to tell yourself that nothings happening when you eat your fear foods, you are still gonna be the same person and you still gonna love yourself. That is what helped me most in my recovery. And then you need to take action and eat those kind of foods and at the same time you tell yourself that this is now the best thing you can do for your body and mind. Best would be you go out with your best friend or partner and then eat those fear foods together, that helped me a lot. Your friend or partner can support you with that and you'll see that everything is still fine afterwards. The more often you do this, the better it will become. I started very slowly. I went out once per months and ate my fear foods, then 2 times per month and then 3 times per months and so on. There will come the point when you're not afraid any more :) hope that helps :)
but, i really really try to listen to All mental hunger, but, then i feel so sick that my body vomits, (i dont even try, it just happens)… but then i feel hungry again and i have to eat, but i feel so so nauseous that i am scared to throw up again… i really want to recover, but my body cant handle this much food… what to do?
Hi Elisa, thank you for all the information you have shared over the years. It is helping me a lot with the very last touches of my recovery. I have one question though: do you think it is ever again possible to have a specific meal plan for health reasons (e.g. insulin resistance, etc) without spiraling down again into an eating disorder? I have tried a few times, but as soon as I start restricting anything, even for pure health reasons, not for weight loss, I start rebelling soon afterwards and eating more of the foods I was limiting. 🤔 Do I simply need more time (like a decade 😂) in revovery? Thank you 😘
I've been concerned about Nina actually, her videos disappeared off the face of the Earth some time ago along with her site. I did some research to find out her last name and found her facebook profile but it looked like she had not posted anything in 2 years or something. Her videos were what kick-started my recovery so It saddens me to see that something not so good must have happened.
@@laurenallison9550 Lauren, I believe it's Vucetic. She has (had?) Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pages (I think this is her Instagram page: instagram.com/ninavucetic/?hl=en), but her last posts seem to be from 2016-17, from Australia. I do hope nothing sinister has happened to her; it's rather strange that she would abruptly quit all social media without a farewell note to her many followers. Elisa, if you see this comment, have you ever corresponded with Nina directly? Just wondering.
I grew up vegetarian from birth, I ate meat though between age 11 to 15, but then I went vegan at the start of my eating disorder to lose weight. Since then I was vegan for ethical reasons. I went back to vegetarian for recovery but I do feel guilty. Would I really have to eat meat to fully recover? Sometimes I remember the nice taste but I honestly really don't want to eat animals. But could this be damaging my recovery?
It can damage your recovery however it depends on the background of your deciding of being vegan. If you think about the reasons why you don't want to eat meat, is it because you unintentionally want to restrict or lose weight or is it ONLY because of ethical reasons. As you've mentioned that you started going vegan in order to lose weight in your eating disorder, you should really consider if being vegan is the right decision for you. I am working as an eating disorder recovery coach myself and I get this question a lot from people who want to recover from an eating disorder but they are vegan. And I always recommend to start slowly. You don't need to be 100% vegan straight away. You first need to recover mentally from your eating disorder and then step-by-step you can leave out more and more animal products. I used to be vegan in my own eating disorder recovery and for me personally it didn't work. It triggered me too much, so I had to go back being a vegetarian or pescatarian. Now 5 years after being fully recovered I am still vegetarian eat meat maybe once per year. And I feel completely fine with it. I don't have any cravings for meat or for dairy products. So what I want to tell you with that, it is not necessary to eat meat in order to recover from an eating disorder as long as it is not a restriction for you. I hope that helps :) Best wishes
I know that you didn't suffer from binge eating disorder - however it is very similar to bulimia but I just don't purge. I have been recovering for 6 months. So sometimes my thoughts are about eating more and I try to acknowledge the thought and let it pass without eating. However certain times of the month I think - "oh its that time of the month, I can eat these chips" because I am craving them but not necessarily hungry. I assume these thoughts are my eating disorder? and perhaps as my body doesn't feel hungry I should let the thought pass without acting on it?
Hi! Thank you for commenting! I would so want to talk to someone who has binge eating disorder, I do not meet people in my work with just this condition very often so I want to understand more. Can I ask you one question? In your binge eating disorder, when you binged, did you also restricted, dieted, or compensated in any other way after the binges? (not just purging)
I definitely restricted and did the whole weight loss thing as a child/teen however I had something happen in my life where I turned to food for comfort. So, first I started binging as a comfort and it slowly became a habit. Then I would always think that "okay tomorrow I will start eating super healthy" and I would do the "last supper" binge. However, when I tried to eat "healthier" (as they say) it would stress me out beyond belief and I would be so unhappy and just go back to binging. There is definitely some mental restriction associated with it.
How do I reconcile the guilt of eating animal-based foods while working to recover? I became vegan initially for health reasons, but it became ethical over time. I’m struggling to reconcile eating anything I want with being vegan. 😢
Hi Adria! I am currently going through this as well. I was an avid vegan for almost 2 years after my first round of recovery. After about a couple months into being vegan I fell into relapse (not connected to veganism) and recovered again on a vegan lifestyle however I noticed a part of my life still felt restricted. I realized I was indirectly restricting myself from all those fun experiences with friends and family all because something wasn't 100% vegan. What has helped me in making the transition is to just realize that you are not a label. You are not "vegan," you are Adria. Your diet doesn't have to coencide with a label, you have the power to make your own label. Also for me whenever I do not eat something that isn't vegan like eggs or maybe a milkshake, I express gratitude for the connection I am making with this food is giving me the ability to thrive and to cultivate a memorable experience with my friends and family. Looking at it that way has definitely helped. And no one is saying you can't just try and be as ethical as you can whilst also doing what works for you! You are enough as you are! You're not alone and you will get through this!
Just educate yourself on why veganism is NOT sustainable long-term. It is okay to eat meat. And once you see you are not alone with your struggles, it gets so much easier! I would advice watching vegan deterioration, Frank Tufano or ex-vegan videos on Goatis' channel. You didn't do anything wrong. Veganism doesn't work.
Can someone please please tell me: where is the border between not restricting and eating what you want AND letting it be an excuse? ED or not, recovery or not, it’s not good to eat candy 24/7 (for me) or just McDonald’s or whatever. But I do not know when I can say “I’m having tons tons tons of candy because I’m still recovering” and “I’m having candy because I love it and it’s a reward thing for the brain and it tastes good”. Please don’t say that I should eat allllll the candy at allllll times until I stop craving it because it won’t happen. And I wasn’t restricting or anorexic for years or didn’t touch candy for years....
I get your point. In my recovery I also overate and couldn't stop eating sweets and junk food. But from my experience and what I see from people I work with (since I am working as an eating disorder recovery coach) is that there comes a point where you're just satisfied after a piece of cake and then you just dont want to eat it any more. For me for example, when it's Christmas time I ate so so many cookies when I was recovering. Nowadays I just only can eat 4-5 cookies and then it gets too much for me. I just dont have the desire any more to eat more cookies. My body tells me naturally it is enough sugar for me and I don't need any more. I got very sensitive to what my body wants and what not. Of course, sometimes I overeat when I go out with friends or when someone is cooking and I eat more than I physically need since it tastes so good, but it directly affects my body which means I feel tired afterwards or I don't have any cravings for a very long time.
It doesn't go on forever... Over esting is a myth. I don't ever sit and gorge on junk food all day every day... I eat a normal balance diet. I went through the extreme hunger... But it stops... Im 1.5 years in to recovery now. Hope thag helps xx
Kinda TMI but when do bowel movements and bloating stop? When I've started recovering before my bowel movements would be normal and I wouldn't get bloated, so I felt I must be on the right path. But this time on recovery I get terrible constant bloating and my bowel movements are inconsistent. Wtf am I doing wrong? I am not binging so why is this happening 🙁 is it cos I'm eating dairy after not eating it for years?
Hello Eliza :) thanks so much for you videos.... I do have a question, it may be silly but.... I don’t know if I’m in a category to say I need recovery, I purge when I’m eating to much or bad food, but then o have good days... and eat well... and feel good.... I’ve never lost my piriod and well... I don’t know, it’s bad to purge, I know I want to stop yesterday :( but can’t. So I’m I considere a bulimia girl? And do I need to go through all the extreme hunger and getting fat :( to truly stop? Thanks love from Mexico
Hi Tonina! this is not a silly question but a very important one. Yes, you absolutely need to recover. I would never think a person doesn't have a problem even when they purge *just* one a week or smth. When you have those behaviors then they are the eating disorder behaviors and no way healthy or normal. Recover now so it doesnt get any worse. For me it was a huge mistake to start to purge once here and there and not getting help sooner.
Follow the Intuition you have no idea what it means to me that you answer 😭 I’m in a dark hole right know, yesterday had a big battle with my self, was so unhappy so bloated, I’ll I wanted to do was eat everything to make my feelings go away and the purge to not feel full 😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓 I think, and I guess it’s the best to do, is telling my husband and mother about this.... I can’t even imagine telling them... but maybe it’s for the better, right?
I could write such a long story about being stuck in quasi-recovery for many years. Unable to see the mistakes I was still making. Not alloweing myself to eat whenever I want, whatever I want, how much ever I want. Still controlling my weight on a scale. Still trying to change and control my body SOMEHOW! But I finally became aware - thanks to you Elisa and also Tabitha Farrar ♥ My whole perspective has changed. Even though recovery is tough, seeing you - happy and healthy and free - I know it will be worth it ♥
Im so so happy to read this! I want you to be free and im so glad you have become aware and your mind has changed!!! Thanks for your comment!
I was so lucky to have found your blog ♥ For sure I'm just one woman of many, whose life you may have saved ♥
It would be nice to have some videos of people in recovery or recovered in their 60's and older. Ty
I struggled with anorexia for 16 years now. I was an high carb (ethical, I thought) vegan for more then 11 years. I discovered Tabitha Farrar and you and I realized that this restriction meant that I never actually recover, despite being an healthy weight for a while before I relapsed 8 months ago. I now allow myself to eat anything. It started with eggs, then cheese, seafood, and now, I eat chicken. I realize that, as long as there are food rules in place, you aren't free from ED, and much more susceptible to relapse. Thank you for this video !
I want to be “fully recovered” but I have such a hard time letting go with food restrictions. I am irritated at the food industry because I just think that certain man made food was designed to harm me and just make me fat.
I challenged fear foods a few months ago but then I got freaked out because I have to take a stupid health class that talks about all the things wrong with junk food. Maybe I want to enjoy that food sometimes. But now I’m just terrified of it.
just let it go you need to recover. JUNK FOOD IS BETTER THAN NO FOOD, eat it and enjoy it
Thank you for the reply! I sent that a couple years ago. Things are so much better now and I have no fear foods anymore. 😊
@@songcentral3110 awww that makes me so happy im soo proud of you angel!
TY 😁😁😁
Learn from your mistakes and change them!
Such a good message. No wonder your channel doesn't grow the way the other ones do. No one wants to hear that they need to stop focusing on weight, they want to hear about people's experiences with weight restoration (particularly the ones where weight loss results after weight gain) but you are ABSOLUTELY right, you HAVE TO LET GO OF YOUR FOCUS ON WEIGHT AND FOCUS ON RECOVERY. You articulated this so beautifully, thank you, I needed this today. : )
This video should be shown to people in eating recovery units. So clear, and amazingly helpful
so true!
This video is really helpful, thank you! I wanted to tell you that I am following a meal plan and a week ago my ED hit me really hard with anxiety and I wanted to quit and relapse, and even harm my body with scissors because I felt so fat and disgusting. The worst of it lasted for a couple of days and I kept following the plan even though i was in so much mental pain. And it gradually got easier. Now I feel that I can handle this no matter how bad anxiety and ED voices get. I wanted to tell you this because so many relapse in these moments and I want to say to others, please do not quit. It feels horrible, it can feel like your life is ending, but it won't! I'm not yet recovered and it's going to take a lot of time but I won't quit ever anymore and i hope others will try and find strength to go on because the bad days will go away. They might come back again but they will go away again too.
Reading your book and Bulimia Help Method and Tabitha Farrar's book were the keys to me eating whatever I wanted when I wanted during the early stages of my recovery. I still try to stick to this even after my appetite lessened after 4 months of extreme hunger. I think it's the quickest way to freedom but it's a hard path to choose.
I am learning so much from your channel!! This is everything I needed to hear. I’ve been in recovery for a while but still hold onto so many food rules and still go through periods of counting calories. Your video gave me a beautiful new perspective.
You say so many wise things that actually makes me listen and understand
thank you very vuch for sharing these tips with us. I'm dealing with recovery since ....... and you have said things are are extremely important. I think with "you" I will be able to get over it.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm well aware of all these obstacles but still it was so good to hear them out once again! I've discovered that I've had ED only more than two decades of my life. It's really sad. When I had bulimia after sever anorexia at first it was like my dream - I could eat whatever I want and then I could purge so there would no weigh gain problem. But eventually I realized that I just couldn't break this vicious circle. My teeth were in very bad condition, I felt depressed all the time, after every meal I couldn't think about anything but getting rid of all the food. Then it occured to me that something definitely very much wrong with me but I didn't have any info about EDs. I just realized that I came to the stage that my stomach couldn't keep food inside even if I wanted. I took really not traditional actions to stop purging. It was really hard. After that there was all the life with restrictions and self hatress. And here I am - in recovery at the end, after orthorexia version, realizing finally that during all my 20s and 30s I've been suffering from ED. For me eating is less the problem, self accepting is the most problem now for me cos my body is gaining weight drastically. I'm sending my support to everyone in recovery.
I find out that l am actually making all of these mistakes. Thank you 💕
Thank you so much for this video! I have made a lot of progress so far but I've been struggling with the last bits of recovery for a while now. Especially nr.5 is something I realized I have been neglecting. I know my mentality has changed a lot - for the better - but I sometimes tend to push my disordered thoughts aways or just shut them up instead of taking the extra action to rewire. I will make sure to do that from today on and hopefully this could be the missing piece for my full recovery 😊
Reading your book currently 💗 It’s helping so much!!!
Thank you ❤ this video is so helpful
Your videos are very helpful, thank you!❤️
Hi Elisa thank you so much for your videos :) I recognise myself especially in point 2 that I'm still mentally restricting, I'm allowing myself to eat anything ("junk" food etc.) but still in moderation and I'm very strict about meal times, I don't really listen to my mental hunger so I can't say I'm eating unrestricted. The thing is I'm afraid to do so because even tough it makes sense to me and I'd like to try it, my treatment team doesn't approve of that, they all recommend a quite structured and somewhat limited way of eating. I'm always nervous about going to my dietician because I feel like she wants me to eat a "balanced and healthy" diet and doesn't seem to understand the mental hunger aspect. All in all I feel stuck because I'm torn between following advice "from the internet" or listening to the professionals treating me here... sometimes I even think about dropping them all and trying to recover by myself with your help and all the other great recovery coaches out there...
But at least I can say you've already helped me a lot with many aspects of recovery and just changing my mindset so thank you :) you're doing an amazing job! Sorry for the long post xx
Hi! How are you? What did you end up doing? Did it work?
@@jennid2495 hi :) I’m good how are you? I don’t even remember writing this it’s been so long! Well I never went “all in” and 2 years later it’s pretty much the same except with more restrictions...
Thank you I am struggling with weight gain
Thank you so so much
Orded your books today 🙏🙌💕
Thank you for this inspiring video (as always :) !!! What is the name of the book you talked about?
Hey. I saw your fear food challenge on ig. I’m also trying to recover. But if I eat any fear food I’ll probably want to throw up again. I’m so scared to let go of restricting. If I stop restricting I’ll overeat and throw up again. Please can you give some tips to boost up my confidence. You’ve already been so much help. Thanks 🙏🏽
The only way you can boost up your confidence is by working on your mindset. You need to tell yourself that nothings happening when you eat your fear foods, you are still gonna be the same person and you still gonna love yourself. That is what helped me most in my recovery. And then you need to take action and eat those kind of foods and at the same time you tell yourself that this is now the best thing you can do for your body and mind. Best would be you go out with your best friend or partner and then eat those fear foods together, that helped me a lot. Your friend or partner can support you with that and you'll see that everything is still fine afterwards. The more often you do this, the better it will become.
I started very slowly. I went out once per months and ate my fear foods, then 2 times per month and then 3 times per months and so on. There will come the point when you're not afraid any more :) hope that helps :)
but, i really really try to listen to All mental hunger, but, then i feel so sick that my body vomits, (i dont even try, it just happens)… but then i feel hungry again and i have to eat, but i feel so so nauseous that i am scared to throw up again… i really want to recover, but my body cant handle this much food… what to do?
Hi Elisa, thank you for all the information you have shared over the years. It is helping me a lot with the very last touches of my recovery. I have one question though: do you think it is ever again possible to have a specific meal plan for health reasons (e.g. insulin resistance, etc) without spiraling down again into an eating disorder? I have tried a few times, but as soon as I start restricting anything, even for pure health reasons, not for weight loss, I start rebelling soon afterwards and eating more of the foods I was limiting. 🤔 Do I simply need more time (like a decade 😂) in revovery? Thank you 😘
I've been concerned about Nina actually, her videos disappeared off the face of the Earth some time ago along with her site. I did some research to find out her last name and found her facebook profile but it looked like she had not posted anything in 2 years or something.
Her videos were what kick-started my recovery so It saddens me to see that something not so good must have happened.
I noticed that, too-there no longer seems to be anything online from her regarding her ED recovery.
@@dorothypond2373 I hope she is ok :(
Whats her last name
@@laurenallison9550 Lauren, I believe it's Vucetic. She has (had?) Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pages (I think this is her Instagram page: instagram.com/ninavucetic/?hl=en), but her last posts seem to be from 2016-17, from Australia. I do hope nothing sinister has happened to her; it's rather strange that she would abruptly quit all social media without a farewell note to her many followers. Elisa, if you see this comment, have you ever corresponded with Nina directly? Just wondering.
I grew up vegetarian from birth, I ate meat though between age 11 to 15, but then I went vegan at the start of my eating disorder to lose weight. Since then I was vegan for ethical reasons. I went back to vegetarian for recovery but I do feel guilty. Would I really have to eat meat to fully recover? Sometimes I remember the nice taste but I honestly really don't want to eat animals. But could this be damaging my recovery?
It can damage your recovery however it depends on the background of your deciding of being vegan. If you think about the reasons why you don't want to eat meat, is it because you unintentionally want to restrict or lose weight or is it ONLY because of ethical reasons.
As you've mentioned that you started going vegan in order to lose weight in your eating disorder, you should really consider if being vegan is the right decision for you. I am working as an eating disorder recovery coach myself and I get this question a lot from people who want to recover from an eating disorder but they are vegan. And I always recommend to start slowly. You don't need to be 100% vegan straight away. You first need to recover mentally from your eating disorder and then step-by-step you can leave out more and more animal products.
I used to be vegan in my own eating disorder recovery and for me personally it didn't work. It triggered me too much, so I had to go back being a vegetarian or pescatarian. Now 5 years after being fully recovered I am still vegetarian eat meat maybe once per year. And I feel completely fine with it. I don't have any cravings for meat or for dairy products. So what I want to tell you with that, it is not necessary to eat meat in order to recover from an eating disorder as long as it is not a restriction for you.
I hope that helps :) Best wishes
I know that you didn't suffer from binge eating disorder - however it is very similar to bulimia but I just don't purge. I have been recovering for 6 months. So sometimes my thoughts are about eating more and I try to acknowledge the thought and let it pass without eating. However certain times of the month I think - "oh its that time of the month, I can eat these chips" because I am craving them but not necessarily hungry. I assume these thoughts are my eating disorder? and perhaps as my body doesn't feel hungry I should let the thought pass without acting on it?
Hi! Thank you for commenting! I would so want to talk to someone who has binge eating disorder, I do not meet people in my work with just this condition very often so I want to understand more. Can I ask you one question? In your binge eating disorder, when you binged, did you also restricted, dieted, or compensated in any other way after the binges? (not just purging)
I definitely restricted and did the whole weight loss thing as a child/teen however I had something happen in my life where I turned to food for comfort. So, first I started binging as a comfort and it slowly became a habit. Then I would always think that "okay tomorrow I will start eating super healthy" and I would do the "last supper" binge. However, when I tried to eat "healthier" (as they say) it would stress me out beyond belief and I would be so unhappy and just go back to binging. There is definitely some mental restriction associated with it.
How do I reconcile the guilt of eating animal-based foods while working to recover? I became vegan initially for health reasons, but it became ethical over time. I’m struggling to reconcile eating anything I want with being vegan. 😢
Hi Adria! I am currently going through this as well. I was an avid vegan for almost 2 years after my first round of recovery. After about a couple months into being vegan I fell into relapse (not connected to veganism) and recovered again on a vegan lifestyle however I noticed a part of my life still felt restricted. I realized I was indirectly restricting myself from all those fun experiences with friends and family all because something wasn't 100% vegan. What has helped me in making the transition is to just realize that you are not a label. You are not "vegan," you are Adria. Your diet doesn't have to coencide with a label, you have the power to make your own label. Also for me whenever I do not eat something that isn't vegan like eggs or maybe a milkshake, I express gratitude for the connection I am making with this food is giving me the ability to thrive and to cultivate a memorable experience with my friends and family. Looking at it that way has definitely helped. And no one is saying you can't just try and be as ethical as you can whilst also doing what works for you! You are enough as you are! You're not alone and you will get through this!
Zoë Alexis Thank you for your input! This gives me something to think about.
Just educate yourself on why veganism is NOT sustainable long-term. It is okay to eat meat. And once you see you are not alone with your struggles, it gets so much easier! I would advice watching vegan deterioration, Frank Tufano or ex-vegan videos on Goatis' channel. You didn't do anything wrong. Veganism doesn't work.
Please could you tell me the name of the book you read by Nina V ?
Hi Elisa! I was wondering what the cost is for your coaching program. I can’t seem to find it on your website
Hi. Very very thanks.
During recovery phase what about sport and exercise? In your opinion, are they compensation or healthy habits?
Marianna Sarracino it‘s restriction... you should only start exercising again if you are fully recovered
Can someone please please tell me: where is the border between not restricting and eating what you want AND letting it be an excuse? ED or not, recovery or not, it’s not good to eat candy 24/7 (for me) or just McDonald’s or whatever. But I do not know when I can say “I’m having tons tons tons of candy because I’m still recovering” and “I’m having candy because I love it and it’s a reward thing for the brain and it tastes good”. Please don’t say that I should eat allllll the candy at allllll times until I stop craving it because it won’t happen. And I wasn’t restricting or anorexic for years or didn’t touch candy for years....
Even people who’ve never had ED know and try to eat, i e, a slice of cake not the entire thing haha
At one point your body gets sick of it and you won't want it anymore
I get your point. In my recovery I also overate and couldn't stop eating sweets and junk food. But from my experience and what I see from people I work with (since I am working as an eating disorder recovery coach) is that there comes a point where you're just satisfied after a piece of cake and then you just dont want to eat it any more. For me for example, when it's Christmas time I ate so so many cookies when I was recovering. Nowadays I just only can eat 4-5 cookies and then it gets too much for me. I just dont have the desire any more to eat more cookies. My body tells me naturally it is enough sugar for me and I don't need any more. I got very sensitive to what my body wants and what not.
Of course, sometimes I overeat when I go out with friends or when someone is cooking and I eat more than I physically need since it tastes so good, but it directly affects my body which means I feel tired afterwards or I don't have any cravings for a very long time.
It doesn't go on forever... Over esting is a myth. I don't ever sit and gorge on junk food all day every day... I eat a normal balance diet. I went through the extreme hunger... But it stops... Im 1.5 years in to recovery now. Hope thag helps xx
Does this includes IF?
But what if it is not just an uncomfortable(physical) feeling ,but immense pain ?
Restriction doesnt help in any case, but here I recommend definitely getting medical and professional help.
Kinda TMI but when do bowel movements and bloating stop? When I've started recovering before my bowel movements would be normal and I wouldn't get bloated, so I felt I must be on the right path. But this time on recovery I get terrible constant bloating and my bowel movements are inconsistent. Wtf am I doing wrong? I am not binging so why is this happening 🙁 is it cos I'm eating dairy after not eating it for years?
Hello Eliza :) thanks so much for you videos.... I do have a question, it may be silly but.... I don’t know if I’m in a category to say I need recovery, I purge when I’m eating to much or bad food, but then o have good days... and eat well... and feel good.... I’ve never lost my piriod and well... I don’t know, it’s bad to purge, I know I want to stop yesterday :( but can’t. So I’m I considere a bulimia girl? And do I need to go through all the extreme hunger and getting fat :( to truly stop?
Thanks love from Mexico
Hi Tonina! this is not a silly question but a very important one. Yes, you absolutely need to recover. I would never think a person doesn't have a problem even when they purge *just* one a week or smth. When you have those behaviors then they are the eating disorder behaviors and no way healthy or normal. Recover now so it doesnt get any worse. For me it was a huge mistake to start to purge once here and there and not getting help sooner.
Follow the Intuition you have no idea what it means to me that you answer 😭
I’m in a dark hole right know, yesterday had a big battle with my self, was so unhappy so bloated, I’ll I wanted to do was eat everything to make my feelings go away and the purge to not feel full 😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓
I think, and I guess it’s the best to do, is telling my husband and mother about this.... I can’t even imagine telling them... but maybe it’s for the better, right?
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