r/Pettyrevenge My Dad Stole My Inheritance
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:07 Driveway
2:23 Cancellation revenge
5:42 School research
7:40 Lazy
10:17 No will
13:00 Harassment
16:12 Comment
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The patio furniture story, escalated quickly is an understatement. Holy crap! That guy is an absolute menace. Having witnesses to serve him was definitely the right call
How about the fact his own brother knew the kind of man he was! Or the fact she even needed witnesses for her safety! Good thing she saw the red flags and got the f away
Again, why do these kinds of people just turn into absolute lunatics on a dime when they're pushed back on? It was bad enough he was mocking his own wife for a response, but everything else that happened after with the divorce was just insane.
I wonder if OP's husband started using some kind of sugar? It doesn't turn a good person bad, but it can make a bad person not care about hiding it anymore.
Hey for story with the will. If she was dying. She probably was terminally ill. Stressed out and probably had foggy mind. We don't know the full context of the story only what OP told us.
Can't make a will if you aren't of sound mind, terminally ill and dosed up to your eyeballs on a cocktail of meds can quite easily disqualify you from that
Exactly.
Plus it depends on the country processes for formalising it, and if your solicitor fannies around
Although she hasn't been dying for the entirety of her daughter's life. She had plenty of time to make a will before she fell ill.
thank youuuu ^^^ this exactly!
Story 6: A therapist telling people to remove themselves from existence? That's no good, she's supposed to say the exact opposite
As for the whole ban system, holy hell that is terrible, like they're basically just giving bullies a slap on the wrist. Those bans are supposed to be permanent
It is horrible thing to say, but it may be a way to increase business. You know "I'm getting this customer, telling me to go kill myself. I cannot do anything, it really gets on me."
Wouldn't be surprised if the therapist was depressed herself and that was how she was lashing out.
Not the healthiest or most commendable thing to do, but it wouldn't be the first time someone's professional pride prevented them from getting help even when they know they need it.
Mental health issues among healthcare workers is actually extremely common.
I hate bad therapists as these people are already in desperate need of help and could take it to heart
Rslash - Making a will on your deathbed is not as easy as it seems, especially when greedy people are involved. Its all too common, and far too easy, to have people declared incompetent to make such decisions. My wife had to fight that legal battle when her dad died, and made a will during his last few weeks. It was a very long legal fight, and in the end, didn't amount to much use. By the time it was over, anything of sentimental significance to her and her siblings had "vanished", and the monetary remains that could be counted as solely his weren't worth much, especially after legal fees.
I think he meant she should have made a will BEFORE she was terminally ill.
I think he meant she should have done it BEFORE she was terminally ill.
The Will post: I agree that the mother should have made a Will years ago however, many believe they don't need one because they don't "have anything to leave" and then put it off too long. This is not an excuse and she SHOULD have made a Will, of course, but there it is. To be fair, in the end, she might have been in a health situation where it would be illegal for her to sign any legal/financial document. My husband died with an Alzheimer's diagnosis, for example, so thankfully he made his Will long before his diagnosis. This can apply to physical constraints, as well: if the patient is on heavy doses of pain killers sometimes, for example. Anything that could impede the patient's clear thinking, or open them to be easily coerced makes their last minute Will open to debate, at the very least.
Which is why you get a will done as soon as you have a child. This is pretty common sense.
@@shortwave737 exactly! I’m going to assume the OP was at least 20 so how tf do you go that long without writing a will to protect said child? Calling the mother dumb and lazy was far nicer than what I’d call her
@LovestarVGC i agree, some parents fail to do things they should know to do as soon as they know they are going to have kids.
Yeah my dad still doesn't have a will...Mum and I are entirely screwed if anything happens to him. We've been bugging him about it for years now
It also depends on what you want done. By default, when you die your money is distributed per stirpes - first to your spouse. If no spouse, to your children. If no children, then your parents. If no parents, then your siblings. If not sibling, your nieces/nephews. If no nieces/nephews, your grand parents. If no grandparents, your aunts/uncles. If no aunts/uncles, your cousins (this sort of ladder structure repeats until a willing heir is found, or if no heirs are found I think the government takes it? I’m not a lawyers so dont quote me on that bit. But basically, all is not lost if you don’t have a will and you trust your spouse/next heir. That’s enough for most people
Just read story 5 and ngl calling a dying woman stupid and lazy is kinda f**ked up to be completely honest. I’m sure writing wills are easy when you aren’t constantly in the hospital and near death/dying.
Op in the last story should have reported that therapist to her local licensing board. She needs to at least have it marked on her record even if there isn't enough proof to totally revoke the license
Last story: I would have *also* contacted the state licensing board so they'd at least be on notice.
Yeah that is major red flags from a therapist
@@TomDarkwulf87There's "red flags" and then there's this. She should be considered a criminal honestly.
@@jam2727
Goku: Is that also a red flag?
Piccolo: Crimson!
For those asking rSlash to take a break, do note that taking a break or vacation while still uploading daily still entails frontloading and recording multiple videos over a few days. This just redistributes the stress and I'd assume isn't as relieving. He also can't simply stop making videos, as the CZcams algorithm essentially punishes creators that don't upload consistently. I'd assume this is devastating for a channel that's been relatively stagnant in terms of views and subscriber count for a while.
It seems like it would be much more beneficial for him to stop uploading every day. It might provide diminishing returns at first, but I think it will be much better overtime.
EDIT: Including more positive, supportive, comical, or fulfilling subreddits in the palate of uploads would probably decrease the seeming burden of the workload, although I'm not sure how the views would compare to r/AITA and r/Bestof videos, for example. I'd hope most of rSlash fans would at least understand though.
TBF no one's telling Rslash to upload daily WHILE on a break
just telling him to take a break
if uploading daily is so necessary: do some wholesome content instead for a while.
He could try doing some shorter videos of like 8 minutes or something for a period when he's going to take breaks. So that way what would be 1 day of stories would cover 2 days.
I know some channels do that. Or do reposts of stories a few years old (while being honest that it's a repost).
At this point, his bad takes are probably ragebaiting for engagement points so loyal subscribers have to habituate on the comments section more than when the judgments he make are logical, sane, and ethical.
Maybe this is me being too harsh, but i find myself with very little sympathy for someone who calls a dead woman's actions "kinda stupid and lazy" with regards to her will.
@@lexalina132 It was definitely a harsh comment. His reasoning wasn't invalid (the mother should've made a will as soon as she had children), but he definitely wasn't empathetic. He didn't have sympathy for the guy with very obvious anxiety issues in the first story of yesterday's video either. It's understandable to not be sympathetic to him.
Dead mom's will: If she only had a little while to live, the husband could argue she wasn't of sound mind when she made it. This would mean that OP would have to spend a long time fighting legal battles just to _maybe_ get the money she was promised in the will, and she'd likely have spent a significant portion on her lawyer's fees.
That was my thought. OP doesn't say what she was sick with. It could be something that causes some mental problems, in which case you aren't of sound mind and body as well.
Yup. First thought I had about it.
And the older you get you allegedly have to have a evaluation to see if you are of sound enough mind to even make the will let alone get it legally recognized before you pass away
Tbf the mother was kinda dumb for her lack of planning and not having a will. You should always have a will if you have children. The fact she didn’t was either stupid decision for trusting her husband or she was too lazy to get it done in the many years after giving birth
@@LovestarVGC right? I'm only 30ish and have a will. I have kids too, so if something happens to me and my kids I specified who gets my life insurance and who takes my kids in. Just in case
The final one with the therapist -- OP should have reported this to the licensing board for therapists in their area. Professional misconduct goes beyond the office in many fields, and therapy is very much one of them.
"And then OP posted an update."
What I was expecting:
"My husband apologized."
What I was not expecting:
"So my husband attempted to murder me."
Are wills easy to set up? Sure. And just because there is a will doesn't mean that it won't be contested or you won't end up in a legal battle.
My grandmother made multiple wills over the last 20 years. My uncle was named executor, which in the state they lived in carries certain fiduciary responsibilities by law. He has been refusing to respond to my mom, turned in older wills, despite being told where the most current will was. (My cousin later found it, right where my uncle was told it was, and gave it to the lawyer.) My mom is considering requesting an investigation of elder financial abuse. (There is evidence that he spent her money on things he shouldn't have.) There is an ongoing lawsuit against my uncle.
Here is where it gets pertinent to the story: my grandma realized right at the end that her son had been taking advantage of her and at that point she was too ill to change the will, even if she wanted to. Even if you try to do everything right, sometimes it is just too late.
Do trusts. There’s no probate and there is no capital gains tax. It IS easy to do.
@@Nikodymus funny you should say that. Turns out I'm part of this mess now because she did put everything in a trust a couple decades ago and I'm listed as a beneficiary. And, due to it being a trust, the will is irrelevant.
My own parents have living wills, but all major assets are in a trust where I am the sole recipient (only child) with the only caveat being that it would go to my daughter if I was deceased. (She is also an only child.)
However, neither my grandmother nor my parents are/will be passing on enough to trigger the inheritance tax.
Geez @rslash, I usually agree with your opinions but calling a terminally ill woman ‘stupid’ without knowing the full story is really harsh.
I honestly was confused when reading this and after hearing that part I was like “ oh yeah I get that’s a bit harsh and judgmental”
Giving him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he means she should have made a will well before she got sick just as a precaution seeing ss she had a child.
However, still, calling her stupid and lazy is just harsh. She's dead and died in a horrible way. Insulting her when you know virtually nothing about her does nothing. Don't know if rslash was in a bad mood during this video or what.
Remember, opinions are opinions, not truths
@@llamaniaman4002 I agree, but also we don’t know what kind of life OP’s mom had before she got ill either.. she could’ve been suffering way longer than known, she could’ve been sick for a long time without realizing it.
Not really. If she had time to call and say the end is near and I have no will. She had enough time to say all that and ask OP to quickly bring an attorney to her.
Have you never heard of diminished capacity? The mom may have not been able to legally make or adjust her will. By the time she realized she was dying it would have been too late. Calling a dead woman stupid without knowing the full story is a bad look rslash
Yeah exactly- we had this issue with my grandpa updating his will just before he died, and it was only to change his power of attorney and executor. [it had been my grandma before, who died a couple years before him, and he had more to think about than updating his own will since it was a nightmare for him to get things sorted anyway] If the arrival of a notary representative had been delayed by even a day the doctor would have declared him not to be of sound mind.
I'm honestly baffled he said that, it was super tone deaf.
@@bubblegumsnowdrop especially since we don’t even know what country they’re in and what laws and restrictions there are in that country
Literally have this going on in my life, tertiary though. My dad was the accountant of a man who passed away but a lawyer couldn't get to him in time before he was hospitalized to properly sign a new will that he has dictated. Lots of bullshit has come up from it.
Sometimes it's not totally on them. Sometimes you can't figure out when it comes or can't get it signed in time due to a lot of factors. Sometimes, shit happens.
Absolutely cruel take to blame her.
This! My mom passed years ago and also couldn't write one she passed overnight. This was super insensitive, made me feel so upset. That is someone's relative, they grew up with that person and probably loved and were close to them. this was really rude ong
@@bubblegumsnowdrop I think that it's great that rslash has a will ready to go now, but like you said life gets in the way and sometimes things just fall through the cracks.
Last story: that so-called therapist should be in jail. At least in my country, encouraging or aiding someone in unaliving themselves is a crime: up to 2 years for doing so, 3 years if the person attempting it suffers any serious injuries and 6 years if they succeed.
Ayo slash, on story 5 you were a bit too aggressive to the dead mom imo. I get that setting up a will is easy but calling her dumb and lazy was a bit much
It’s harsh but true. She was dumb and screwed over her daughter with her lack of foresight
Agreed, I do think there is more she could have done, but to say that about her after she has already passed is pretty f*cked
I really think he needs to start listening to his own recordings, or get someone who provides a second opinion. Yes, it's frustrating that she didn't have a will. But as others have said: she could have been far enough that the will would have been contested. Even if that wasn't the case, no need to dog pile on the dead mother of a still grieving person. He could have, instead, taken the opportunity to only explain how to get one for viewers who do not know.
Edit: People forget that a lot of the population isn't very financially literate.
The truth is in many states a will doesn't need to be a big thing. In my state, it literally can just be written on a piece of paper and witnessed by 2 people. Grab 2 friends or nurses and, write out a simple will, can literally be a paragraph, and sign.
Wills can be written in chronic disease, near death circumstances but it looks suspicious. The government, life insurance companies will question the death, mental state, and motives. Depending on the assets they can be seized by the government too.
RSlash takes a break for the holidays. I think we need to encourage him to take more breaks throughout the year.
He needs to make it a habit of taking small breaks every month, on top of having vacations for holidays and personal family vacations.
rSlash: Insults a deceased person without knowing the full story
Also rSlash: “What could possibly go wrong?”
I've gotta unfollow at this point, it's becoming a cycle that's making me really uncomfortable. Vincey ends with a bit of happy to balance it out and that really seems to help him not do that
Last episode was bullying people with mental health issues, this episode is insulting dead people without a clue of the context. Rslash needs a break again lol
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
You're right, if I'm on my deathbed and about to die, the first person I'll think of calling is my lawyer, not my family. /S. That was a bit of a tone-deaf comment from R/Slash there. Do you really think that was on her mind at that moment?
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
@@Nikodymus But that wasn't what he said, he said the first call should have been to a lawyer, not the OP. While he may have meant it otherwise that wasn't how it came across.
That therapist needs to lose their license and find another job, maybe at a call center.
At 12:43, it may be that while the mother was aware enough to want to see her child again, she wasn't legally sound of mind. Meaning that any will she would've written at that time might be able to be challenged to be voided. I think this because of the phrase "Because of how she died, she didn't have a will."
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
My landlord was diagnosed with Stage 4 Lung Cancer and passed away within 3 weeks after finding out. The day she was moved to hospice, she told us that she was waiting for the lawyer to show up to make the will. It took the lawyer 3 days to show up on a Saturday and she had passed that monday morning. She only held on for that long to make her affairs were in order.
Now I may be dumb but why call someone stupid for not having a will? I mean, it took my landlord over a week to find one and it took that lawyer DAYS to show up. I feel Rslash is out of touch with normal people as of late. Besides wills aren't set in stone because my aunt got her ex husband's house when he died even though he left it to his sister and they were divorced for 25 years!!!!!!
Exactly. My family is in a lawsuit over my grandma's will. I got a summons to respond and spent two weeks trying to to find a lawyer in a state across the country to advise me. I couldn't get a call back on something they could have explained in about 10 minutes that was still time sensitive. Imagine trying to set up a document while sick and dying.
(My parents are the ones who are bring the lawsuit against my uncle. They aren't happy their lawyer didn't warn them I was going to be sued out of legal requirement. Ended up writing a letter basically saying, "I'm responding as required, but I don't know what you need as an answer."
You should have a will ahead of time not just when things go bad. Holy shit no one in these comments are thinking at all. Death can come at any time and do you really want your children to have to deal with losing you AND their inheritance? Just get a will made up when you have a kid it's that easy idiots.
Rslash is now hottakeslash cause all he does is contradict himself or do hottakes so yeah. Also there have been apparently a couple of videos that no longer exist that he was shamed hard for so he took those down and still does his stuff like it doesn't matter. Mainly shaming fat people or single parents or those who went to cyber school. I went to cyber school and in one of those videos I think it was an entitled parents video he said that "anyone who goes to cyber school or home school is gonna be stupid cause it takes a village to raise a child." My school here lead to the death of 5 kids from suicide since the school punished them like crazy for no reason
Second paragraph suggests that Dabney needs to touch grass for the last 3-4 years, but that's a very logical suggestion. Is he even balancing his online life and real life social skills? Maybe he's been reading too much reddit and not interacting with real people outside his family and close circles.
@@319hiroyuki sound more like everyone else here needs to get a better idea of what you are supposed to do in life. Ensuring your children's future is an indisputable number 1 on that list and this mother failed to do that. Now the kid is suffering. RSlash is completely correct.
While I do agree that not getting a will made/adjusted was a bad move, I wouldn't call a dying woman stupid and thoughtless... OP only gave as much detail as they thought was necessary, we don't know enough about the situation to pass judgement on the mother. Maybe she wasn't in the right state of mind because of her illness, so she couldn't legally list OP in her will after she became sick? She obviously didn't plan to leave him with nothing. Maybe try having some compassion?
Stuff like this is why he's started losing followers. He's gotta either learn how to handle his stress or decrease his upload schedule or something.
He's merely ragebaiting. I don't recommend making a fuss about it since it merely feeds him engagement points.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
@@Nikodymus Is he her lawyer? Does he know her financial status and history? Until the answers to both of those questions are a yes, he does not get to call her stupid based on a 2000 word post.
I used to live on the corner right in the middle of an elementary school and middle school. NO ONE ever parked in our driveway even though parking was slim pickings. We had plenty of kids sitting on our fence and even sitting in our driveway waiting for their parents but that was never an issue. It actually surprised me no one ever did.
On Story 5/the will story: Rslash, that comment was really insensitive.
My grandfather died this past September and while he did have a will, it hadn't been updated since my grandmother's passing about two years prior. Likely because handling her estate and his own grief was very harsh on him. But when it was clear to us he was dying, it was very difficult for us to have the doctor agree he was of sound mind and transfer authority to be his executor and power of attorney to my aunt [something he said he wanted prior to this anyway]- and that was just an edit to a very cut and dry estate.
If she didn't have a will, the fact that she may not have been considered of sound mind before he death greatly impacts it. My grandfather was a smart man, even at the end of his life. He just made a mistake. At that point in her life, it isn't laziness or anything. She may literally have not had the time or the legal capability to get it done. That isn't considering what else in her life may have meant she didn't have a will [such as not being able to afford an attorney until it was too late].
And health can go sideways fast. My grandfather was seemingly in perfect health before he suddenly passed. It was less than a week of him going downhill just before he was about to come live with us. We don't know the full situation with OP's mom, and calling her lazy and stupid is deeply disrespectful. Not to mention the absolute legal nightmare that can ensue with trying to actually go through with the will once the time comes- again, my grandfather's estate was VERY simply, cut-and-dry, and it only just recently got resolved. And that was quick, it was expected to take a full year.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
@@Nikodymus Even then we don't know the circumstances, nor where they are and what the laws are there. Situations can be complicated, and Rslash *still* shouldn't have said that about a dead woman regardless. It's deeply disrespectful to the dead and to OP.
These things are morbid and escape people. Like I said, my grandpa was perfectly healthy before suddenly passing, and didn't realize his will wasn't updated. Shit happens. Doesn't make a person stupid.
I agree and I’m sorry for your loss, may your grandfather and grandmother rest in peace.
I’d like to add that we don’t know what the mother’s day to day life was like. It’s not an everyday thing people think about. As well as like you mentioned down below the legal side of things. My mom can’t make my will until I’m 18, mostly due to the fact I’m having my name changed. We also don’t know OP’s age either. Op could’ve been a minor still or young adult. Anyway totally agree with you.
Rslash you were way harsh on the terminal mother. Having lost both parents in similar situations, it can take an act of Congress level of energy in those around the terminal person to get it going.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Did you even read the will story? She literally said her mom didnt realize she was sick until it was too late
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick. And even still…wills should be established EARLY in life, not late.
Omg! The last one hits home. I work in a call center and I had to make a call to a someone about a login issue that they were having for their acct. They berated me for calling them at the wrong time, made fun of me that I was working in a call center, made fun of my intelligence, kept bragging about her PhD's and how smart she was, acting completely narcissistic, chatting with her co-worker and bad mouthing me while on the call. And so forth. Got nothing done on that phone call mind you. Did I mention, this lady was a THERAPIST?! I worry for her clients/patients.
Dude you legit called a dying/dead mom stupid??? WTF man! Bad bad call
You don't know whether the alive parent might betray the child and what if the first parent died while the child is still a minor. You never know when you'll kick bucket and a will is just a "just in case measure".
Hitler died. He was pretty stupid
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
rSlash you've been making a couple bad calls lately and barely sympathise with the people in these stories. Story 5 he explicitely said it was too late for the mum to create a will, likely because she had alzheimer or similar. And she just had a good day when she talked to OP about the will.
Take a break or something, we don't want you to suffer!
Seriously, he must be in a dark place these days..
Taking a break or vacation while still uploading daily still entails frontloading and recording multiple videos over a few days. This just redistributes the stress and I'd assume isn't as relieving. He also can't simply stop making videos, as the CZcams algorithm essentially punishes creators that don't upload consistently. I'd assume this is devastating for a channel that's been relatively stagnant in terms of views and subscriber count for a while.
It seems like it would be much more beneficial for him to stop uploading every day. It might provide diminishing returns at first, but I think it will be much better overtime.
EDIT: Including more positive or funny subreddits would probably decrease the seeming burden of the workload, although I'm not sure how the views would compare to r/AITA and r/Bestof videos, for example. I'd hope most of rSlash fans would at least understand though.
At this point I’ve ignored his commentary cause he’s just annoying when he just says things that are heartless
@@NightytimeExtras Or switch to like, not stories about buttholes. There are subreddits for hear warming stories and stories about good things/people, he could absolutely do some of those.
It’s his opinion?… do you only want to hear opinions the same as yours? That’s an unhealthy echo chamber.
For the last story I would have secretly recorded her then quit and notify the licensing board with the evidence
1- I’m glad OP was nice to the little boy! Poor kid is stuck with that Karen of a mom!
Only rslash would trash someone’s mother for the actions she didn’t take while on her deathbed lmao
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Story 4: All this over OP not wanting to break her back hauling heavy boxes through a car park. It's not lazy to avoid back pains.
Husband's got real issues if that was his reaction to the divorce, hope he is locked away for a while
Yeah. I hurt my back when I was 10 and it's never been the same since. Anyway, I knew this wasn't about the damn boxes. But this happening helped push OP into finally leaving him since this was going on for so long. And even though I hate that his own damn mother got hurt, it's good that his parents were there as eye witnesses so OP's in-laws couldn't lie.
Yet another example of someone going absolutely pyschotic when they're called out on their behaviour. Bad enough that he was pushing his wife for a reaction, but everything else after was just insane.
I’m kind of proud of OP for giving him the same treatment and realizing that she should leave him.
Yeah, I thought he was being a dumbass. NOPE! Psychotic and abusive!
Last story: Unfortunately it doesn’t surprise me at all that someone working in the mental health field is a sick, sadistic bully. It does seem to attract some really vile individuals who themselves probably suffer from a personality disorder, such as sociopathy or malignant narcissism, who get a real kick out of manipulating and preying on a victim pool of vulnerable people seeking help.
I’ve met perhaps five therapists over the years who certainly enjoyed playing with people’s lives (3 psychiatrists and 2 psychologists), plus a medical student looking to go into psychiatry who was a horrible bully in high school. I hate to think how much damage such people can do in that role, and how many patients they’ve talked into killing themselves. OP should have sent the recordings to the therapist’s governing body. Patients definitely need to be protected from her.
i never usually comment on these but calling a DYING woman stupid and lazy of all things?? dude..
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
WOW. I am absolutely FLOORED that you said what you did about a dead person who didn't have time to craft a will. Sure, she could she have made one sooner, but it's not at the forefront of everyone's mind. Honestly, it's disgusting to call someone lazy because a dying woman didn't meet your standards.
And totally clipped it, just in case you delete that section to evade further backslash.
You know he leaves comments when he deletes stuff like that right? He doesn’t do it to hide what he said he does it because he had his mind changed
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
About that will post, my mom and I were in a similar situation, she was deadly sick and had no will. My "luck" was that I'm the only person left that was there to inherit anything. Anyways, in the end she wasn't able to make a will because the last three weeks of her life were only tollerable because she got the maximum dosage of Fentanyl you can give an adult. To put it bluntly, she was lucid enough to lament the mistakes of her life, but in no position to sign any kind of legally binding document. This might have been the same with OPs mom in this story, so... No, she's not stupid for not getting a will done on the spot (which itself can be fought quite easily due to the fact she's about to die), she's at most shortsighted to not make a will when she had the opportunity to.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
That awkward moment when your therapist’s name is Kathy 😂
1:51 a car horn honked out my window when he said this
and it's like midnight
i was like wow these sound effects are super realistic
Even if people HAVE a will, it doesn't mean it's followed. My grandmother's will stated certain things were to go to my dad, and guess what? He died (with no will, because he was young with no known health complications) very suddenly, and the rest of his siblings took what was LEGALLY mine. My mom, who is an attorney, knew it wasn't worth the legal battle and asked for what she thought was necessary from my grandmother's house (i.e. plates for me to use when I moved out, or gifts we'd gotten her). Not everything is black and white, even when it comes to wills.
And thanks for insulting anyone who died unexpectedly and didn't think they'd have to craft a will. And any potential attorney spouses who said they would help. Can't wait knowing THAT take'll get removed instead of an apology for being so callous.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
To your credit, the executor could fail at following the will for any reason, which is why an ATTORNEY or their office should be the executor. That way it’s followed legally.
For the therapist, OP should have reported her to the state board. Homegirl needs to be investigated and lose her professional license and practice.
I listened to a lot of r/ recently, and he really has gotten more heartless as time goes on. I listen to his older stuff and he always tried to come from a place of understanding. Now he just judges people because in his position “it’s all much easier” or “people are just too dumb”. It’s really sad to see honestly :(
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Your take on the dead mom story is the most hot steaming pile of a take I’ve ever heard. That’s ridiculous dude
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Really wish Rslash would upload more happier or funny stories - or palate cleansers at the end
I've never heard the word meat shield used in that way before. I have however heard the teachers say that I should stand in front of the door during an active shooter situation so that I could be the meat shield if the active shooter came to that classroom.
He didn't say it quite that badly but using the word meat shield towards a student is not okay and I definitely regret not saying something to someone higher up.
Story 4: "Escalated quickly" is an understatement to say the least.
That second story has me FLOORED just from the intro of "instead of getting MULTIPLE wedding cars, Dad got one, and then HIRED A HELICOPTER". Holy Jesus on a pogo stick, how crazy rich is your family?????
14:45 the correct response to someone like this is [in the most Barbie customer service voice possible] "Oh, I have, but the police told me next time I'm going to jail. Your address is xxxx xxxx xxx right?"
Story 5: people with terminal illnesses tend to be extremely tired, with a limited amount of things they can do each day. For the mom, setting up an appointment with a lawyer so you can give your daughter your money (especially if your own husband probably won't help with it, because he wants all of it) sounds utterly EXHAUSTING. I don't think doing all that sounds like a good use of what time she had left, especially if she just wants to spend it with her family. OP'S mom may also have made incorrect assumptions about inheritance laws in her state, and when she realized her daughter wouldn't get anything without a will, she couldn't do anything about it, which sounds like what happened. :(
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
I didn't get my will done until I was in my 50s. Like many others, I tend to procrastinate. I am childless and single, so this would be messier than usual.
Getting your will done - and updating when things change - is a loving act. We all are mortal. When we die, those who love us should not be agonizing over how to distribute assets. Also make sure you state how you would like your funeral to be and what you would like to become of your remains. Give your loved ones the opportunity to just grieve.
Dabney...what the heck, dude. Seriously. Calm down, dial it back, and take a break. You are going at this in *completely* the wrong way.
These takes are getting borderline vicious.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Sounds like that therapist in the last story works for Better help.
Oh gosh, would have been morbidly funny if the video would have been sponsored by them...
I like how if rslash starts doing bad takes most of us are immediately like "bro leave us and take care of yourself we are worried" Also I hope he and his family and friends are all doing good. If you ever have too much going on or are getting overly stressed by work please take a break. We are all worth more than a job.
My Masters degree advisors were very noted about the volume and quality of writings done with their names on it. You can bet that nothing got passed them. Everything was properly notated, etc. I even got cited in other journals afterwards by their efforts. This I found out at the 5 year anniversary of my undergraduate class graduation. A fellow alumnus congratulated me on the paper that I researched later. Thank you to my advisors.
Dabney, ive been watching you since youve started, and i absolutely love how your channel has grown and evolved.
That being said, you should probably take a whole week off of reading these dark stories because that out of pocket comment about Op's mom in story 5 being "dumb" is NOT okay. I would actually put you on blast if that was my mom you name called beyond the grave.
Did you just mentally block out the fact that OPs mom literally didnt know she was dying so couldn't craft a legally written will? She also couldnt have known her husband, who was literally in OPs shoes, would double cross her in death like that.
You dont need a day, you dont need a few days, you need at least a week off reddit and youtube. Refresh your brain with happy thoughts and sniff some empathy coffee grounds cause your ability to empathize is diminishing.
Please think about what you say about innocent people please my guy. If you are reading the comments, please listen to us and take a break from reddit and YT. You cant use Lily as a virtual accountability shield anymore, either... cause she no longer has anything to do with these off handed remarks.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
@@Nikodymus she was young and not expecting to die, so when it was time, it wasn't enough to construct a legal will to her parameters.
Looks like that Kathy therapist was creating her own client base.
take your bets now on when Rslash will delete his take on story 5 away - mine is 3hrs
I'm betting 2 hours
I give it 8.
My money is on 1 more hour (so two hours), then it'll **poof** out of existence
Still up after 4 hours. Homeslice needs a break if he's calling a dying mother lazy and stupid.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Yesterday it was shit talking guys with anxiety, today it’s shit talking women on their death beds. Yikes.
That dude yesterday was definitely so fucking stressed. Like yeah he said some out there shit but it really did come from a place of love for his girlfriend and not wanting to lose her. He had so much anxiety and the people on reddit made it so much worse.
Dude clearly is in need of a break from the internet.
You can shittalk people with anxiety because there are therapeutic approaches that require helpers to confront the anxiety (irrational cognitions)
He was right yesterday, though. That OP was a mentally abusive hiding behind anxiety. He treated his girlfriend like she was nothing but a burden over a dollar ffs.
The deathbed story is definitely him being wrong though.
1st story..love this one.Had a similar experience. We have a double wide shared driveway with our neighbour. The neighbour at this time had 3 ppl living in the house so 3 cars on their half of the driveway. We have 2 cars but one is always parked in the garage so only mine is always parked on our side. One of the ppl living next door almost always walked to work since it was only a few blocks away so her car was pretty much parked last in line. Since I worked in an office full time on graveyard shift there was never usually an issue with the other neighbours backing out to get to work via our side of the drive to get around the last parked car. I would normally get home around 8:45 - 9 AM. This one day I get home and there is a car parked on my side of the drive. Someone is visiting the neighbour. This car is parked up far enough to let me park behind it. This put me right beside the last car in line on their side and the owner has already left for work. The other neighours car is parked in front of the 3rd car and the idiot in my driveway is parked beside that one so she is totally blocked in with a car beside her, my truck behind her and our house on her drivers side so she has no place to go. As I get out my truck she comes rushing out "I'm only going to be 5 minutes." I say nothing, just shrug and go in the house. 45 min later she is knocking on the door. I open the inside door and she says "Sorry I'd like to leave now." I ask her "You know you are parked in MY driveway and not (neibours)?" She says "Yes". I reply "So you knew you were parking on someone else's driveway." Again she says "Yes. But I was only 5 minutes." I said "SO not only do you have no respect for other ppls property but you can't even tell time. Its been 45 minutes. Just so you understand how disrespectful this is I will be moving MY legally parked truck in MY driveway when I get GOOD AND GODDAMNED READY too and NOT a minute before. Maybe..just MAYBE you'll learn a good lesson today." I slammed and locked the door. I knew full well that she was stuck because the person who had the 3rd car in line was at work and she had the only keys for that car so there was no way it was moving. I proceeded with my normal after work routine and went to bed. I got up about 2:30 PM and her car was still there. I finally went out and moved my truck about 3:00 PM. She must have heard the truck start up, cuz she was out like a flash to move her car. As I was walking back to the house she gave me the stare down. I just laughed and said "And here ended the lesson. Next time I'll just have it towed." She could have easily avoided all this if she had just parked in front of the neighbours house. Plenty of free parking on our quiet side street. I really hope she had to be somewhere important that day. Neighbours moved about a year later. New neighbours are awesome.
Just FYI: having a Will is infinitely better than not having one but ideally you should be setting up a Trust. Most lawyers will try to get you to execute a will because not only do they get paid to write the will but they get paid again to probate the will once you pass. A trust will avoid probate.
OP in the last story should have told Kathy that she needs help because someone kept calling their job and telling her to hurt herself and it's really getting to her. Then before Kathy can respond say 'you know what, never mind, that person is right' then hang up leaving Kathy with the agonizing guilt that she was responsible for someone hurting themselves.
About the will thing: It's not hard to make a will that can at least be enforced or give someone grounds, even without a lawyer - at least where I live, any written or recorded message can be used as a will (though the husband might challenge it so there is an advantage to getting it notarised, however it is not necessarry in the slightest as long as you tell someone where it is.
GOD I LOVE THAT YOURE SO FAMILY FRIENDLY THAT I CANT TELL IF YOURE SAYING COCKS OR COPS BAHAHAA 5:02
In relation to the last story, you can report the therapist to their licensing board as well.
I think we’re all needing some more wholesome content. While these stories do make for good thumbnails and titles, I think both R/slash and we the viewers need some more happy stuff.
I think the last story with the call center was an actual strategy the therapist used to get more clients.
Okay, so imagine this. You’re constantly tormented at your job, never having a break and even gaining low self esteem or mental health. So what d’ya do? You go to a therapist. The closest one? That therapist lady. It’s like some sorta step by step method to worsen people’s health to get more clientele.
Kinda like a security company getting people to ‘break in’ to a house to make people believe they need the products they provide
The 6th story reminds me of this one creep i encountered years ago when i worked at Rue 21. If you dont know, it was a clothing store in malls that primarily catered to young women. I was one of the assistant managers and was in my mid-twenties, and all of my employees were either underage or barely legal. Like 16-20 years old at the max. One day i answered a phone call from a dude who sounded middle-aged. He started asking me detailed questions about the underwear and lingerie we sold, and that he was trying to buy some as a gift for (take a deep breath) HIS MOTHER. Yeah. Not weird at all. His conversation lasted several minutes before i finally cut him off and told him i needed to help another customer. Afterwards, i tell the employees on shift with me about the creepy exchange, only to find out that theyve talked to him too. Apparently sometimes he said he was shopping for his "girlfriend" and sometimes for his "mom", and he always made these young girls describe the lingerie in excruciating detail - he asked how they look, how they fit, which kinds they like the best, if they own any of them, etc. Even worse than the call I just had. I was livid when i found out. I mean, these were highschool girls at their first jobs, and this grown-ass man was getting off on sexually harassing them. I went back to the call log (i dont think the dumbfuck realized we had caller ID) and got his phone number, as well as his first and last name. I wrote it all down on a piece of paper with instructions not to answer if he called, and if he called while i was there to bring me the phone immediately. Sent a pic of that paper to the work group chat and then left it by the phone. Guess who called back the next day? And guess who was working when he did? Instead of hearing a cheerful greeting of "Rue 21, how can i help you?" from a teenager, he heard me answering with something like "hi (his first and last name), quit harassing my underage employees. If you ever call here again, I'll forward your information to the police for repeatedly sexually harassing minors." He immediately hung up, and as far as i know, he never called again 🎉
Story 3 - Oh I would be PISSED if I lost my MSc and my BSc by having it redacted!
I graduated in 2018 with my BSc in Biomedical Science (IBMS accredited) - IBMS accreditation translates to I can work in diagnostics as a Biomedical Scientist (a BMS job is to diagnose and monitor patients, but not treat, that is a clinician's job) with my specialism being in Clinical Biochemistry.
I leave my job of three years last year (August 2023) as I realised in order to go up the ranks, I needed a masters in BMS, specialism doesn't matter so much as experience is king. I have broken my back doing this MSc as when people say "School is easy", I actually found diagnosing patients easier than the absolute ball ache I'm doing now because of all the hoops of academia I have to jump through... I didn't expect to get a Distinction in my MSc but am aiming for a Merit (Masters course classification is Pass, Merit and finally Distinction (50%, 60% and 70% respectively). My final thesis is due next month.
I swear if after all I had been through this year, I'd lost all that, I'd completely lose it...
BMS = Biomedical Scientist/Science
IBMS = Institute of Biomedical Science (the body which governs how medical labs are run in the UK as well as if courses are "worthy" of being IBMS accredited) as there is a very similar sounding degree called "Biomedical Sciences" that does not allow you to go into diagnostics and limits you to medical research.
The last story - holy crap what a flashback! I had a similar situation when I worked nights at a pet insurance company. She called late at night and would ask a question, I'd answer, and she'd shriek back that that wasn't her question along with some insults. Kind of like her asking "Why is the sky blue?" I'd answer and she'd say "Thats not what I asked! I asked why the grass was green! How much are they paying you to be this stupid?" We got disconnected during the call and I immediately called her back so she wouldn't have to go through the phone system again and get even more pissed off, but I got her voicemail. Her outgoing message stated "you have reached blah blah blah, therapist..." Anywho, she was apparently already calling me back at the same time and continued to explode anout how I hung up on her, that I was an asshole for not calling her back (to which i explained I DID call and that I left her a voicemail)
The whole call ended with her demanding to speak to someone else that wasn't a "Brain-dead f****** retard."
I looked her up and she was apparently a therapist that specialized in ptsd treatment.
This was MANY years ago, and I had to grow a pretty thick skin at that job. Eventually, I became a supervisor and made it a point to not tolerate that behavior towards my team.
I left that job 5 years ago, and I still remember that damn "therapist." I feel absolute pity for her patients.
I don’t think r/slash needs a break, but perhaps a few more lighthearted stories just to get some love back in the world
Dabney calling the mother dumb and lazy was uncalled for. You don’t know the condition she was in mentally and physically. Sorry but you owe op and apology and maybe your readers. Very disappointed in you man do better
Story 2: believe me, they wouldn't have use "cocks" because in Lancashire slang a cock is used as a term of endearment, the same way you'd say "mate", "pet", or "duck". They would've used, as you'd say it, "grunts"
Story 1: the child went to school, but mommy is the one that got a lesson 😂😂😂
I would’ve called the tow truck maybe
Story 5:
Some illness can prevent you from making a will that will stand up in court, as they might not be considered legally competent to make such decisions due to degradation of mental capabilities. So yeah, the mom COULD have made a will, but it may have been extremely easy to overturn and she probably knew that.
First story should have been from Ferris Buellers Day Off 2 or something 🤣
Story 5: Although, I agree the will should’ve been made long before her death, the way it was worded felt a bit harsh. Not to mention, OP said ‘mom’s husband’ not ‘dad’ implying this isn’t their dad, or something similar. Although I’m not certain, it could indicate why a will wasn’t made, as their mother’s life changed
You have to be of sound mind to make a will. If she was on certain meds when she realized she was near the end, the will could have been easily overturned.
It isn't as simple as just calling when she realized.
She should have gotten one much earlier, but most people don't.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
Hey RSlash, im not OP but I heavily sympathize with them a lot. My mother recently succumbed to cancer almost year ago and she could not have written a will at all in the state she was in because her brain was fogged, she was in pain and vomitting everyday. She couldn’t have written a will, it’s not easy when you’re about to die. Why do you think she used her last moments to call her kids, do you think the last face she wanted to see was a lawyer??? Be fucking serious man.
All she knew was pain and suffering, I’ve been a fan since day one and this is by far one THE worst takes I’ve ever seen from you and to insult their mother who was dying/is already dead is such a low blow it pissed me off greatly. If someone had the audacity to insult my own like that I would’ve taken them outside to throw hands and I’m sure you would’ve too if this was your own family.
Take a break, you’ve been making a lot of questionable takes. It’s really getting to you.
ouch. i hope your mother is resting well.
@@themosaicshow she’s rests on the mountain we use to walk on 💖
@@scrump3262 good to hear :)
In Mexico your will has to be made by a notary (which is totally different from the notaries in the US) and it can take up to weeks soooooo
Man, i was wrong. He called a dead one stupid a d lazy. The woman who was suffering while dying, was stupid and lazy. Then he virtue singaled like always
Yup, give it to Rslash to fuck up an easy story read with his horseshit.
If someone who’s dying is lazy what would he think dead people are?
@@bibigamer502right?
@@bibigamer502 too lazy to live?
He could need a break is all. Doing this every day takes a toll on someone’s health
Dude. That last story I'd have reported that therapist to the AMA!
But also. I worked for a call center like the OP. We had a similar guy that would call ... hey did you know there's a river in England called Avon? Now you do... but he would call in to one of the companies I answered for - that sold make up and other stuff to keep your skin so very soft, sake women used to call in on the house wide to try to beautify her life... he would call in most evenings. Our company did not have the 3 strikes rule. We weren't allowed to hang up on them. But we were allowed to ask if there was anything else we could help them with 3 times, but very carefully placed our we got sanctioned, you couldn't just go "anything else? anything else?anything else?" and hang up, we also had to close the call it not just hang up. And we couldn't ban the callers. For anything. So dude would call in and ask the operators what we were wearing and were we wearing a dress or lingerie or heels and what we got off on and on and on. And if one operator managed to get through the whole riggamarol to hang up he would call right back and get a different operator. He would hang up if a male operator got him. He was trying to use it as a free phone s€x line basically. We would always pop up in our cubicles and stand to and point at our earphone to warn the others that the game was afoot, you could literally watch from across the room and watch operators pop up out of their cubicles like prairie dogs prairie dogging as his call passed down the line, one right after the other.
Welp, one fine Saturday we were pulling overtime, but the recorded for blah blah purposes listener/ write you up lady was not. We all kept transferring him to the saucy gay guy with a side of lisp (by his request... the gay guy's that is) he would try to keep him on the line. He kept asking the guy if he could help with that.
Eventually I got him and decided to keep him. I chose not to transfer him. He was stuck with me. I turned his questions back on him. Well what are YOU wearing? Did he wear dresses? A-length or T? Or did he prefer minis? What color dress would he wear if he did? High heels or flats? Fish nets right? And he just stuttered his way through awkward as all get. After a while my coworkers lost control of their laughter, they'd been listening the whole time, slow day. And he got so embarrassed and hung up. We didn't hear back from him that day. I'd like to say we broke him and never heard from him again and there was a slow clap and and everyone cheered, but the reality was he called back many more times before I graduated an left that job, but on overtime Saturdays when the quality control lady wasn't there we would spend the day either sending him to Saucy or turning his schtick back on him.
Blue. Mini. Heels. Yes.
Op from story 1 should contact the school and get them to remind the parents that private drive ways are not meant for parents to wait for their kids.
So... laziness was the least of that man's problems in the end.
As someone who just works entry level in healthcare it kinda pisses me off that op in that story didn’t go nuclear. Being able to prove a therapist was intentionally doing harm and telling others to kill themselves would mean the end of her license. That’s why she hung up, she knew people connecting the dots is a big deal. A therapist who chooses to hurt others for idk, some release? Does not need to be working in healthcare. I feel bad for her clients.
She's lucky that's all he did was call her and relay her own story back to her. If he could get those chat logs sent to the state board she'd be out of practice.
omg how petty do you have to be to get someones degree taken away LMAOOOOO
I agree with the comments… I think calling a dying woman dumb and lazy isn’t ok R/slash.. please take a mental break, you need it.
You seem like you were a few months ago, a break wouldn’t hurt. ❤
There isn't an obvious solution, unfortunately.
If he goes on vacation, he has to record multiple videos per day in advance. This probably just redistributes the stress.
If he just stops uploading, he will receive less engagements since the CZcams algorithm desires creators who consistently upload
If he stops uploading every day (the best solution, in my opinion), it will hurt his revenue. Though, I'd presume that uploading 5 or 6 days out of 7 is still a sustainable job.
Uploading more positive, comical, or fulfilling content on some days might make the workload feel more burdensome, but I think more people are inclined to watch content like this because of its shock or drama value. Not sure how the views would compare, even though I'm sure most people would at least understand.
Nah RSlash was spot on with that one. OPs mom not having a will screwed OP out of her inheritance and that is something you should do as soon as you have a child. Death can come at any moment and leaving your kids to have to pick up the pieces because you were lazy or just stupid is just terrible. This kind of thing happens all the time. Get your will in order.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
@@Nikodymus even then, still is wrong. We don’t know what the mom’s life was like before she got ill, you know?
I know everyone is saying r/slash needs to take a break, and I agree. But if you can't take a break from making videos, maybe you should switch forums. Like read wholesome stuff for awhile. You're being too harsh lately in a lot of your videos. Take a break before you start loosing views.
I think he meant she should have set it up BEFORE she got sick.
That last story was the best way I've seen someone get back at a toxic person.
Story #1: I would have parked there, poured me a glass of whisky or sth else that's strong, sat outside of my house, on the porch or sth and sipped the drink while looking her straight in the eye. Then say: "oh I'm sorry. I don't think I am legally allowed to drive anymore. Please call a taxi home. Yeah? Go get your car tomorrow"
About the No Will story. My Aunt & cousins went through something similar. It depends on what state (in the USA) you’re in but in CA my Aunt was dying of cancer and tried to set up her will but unfortunately was told because of all the drugs she was on (& in late stages of cancer) the state rep./ government employee determined she was not sound of mind (or something like that) and therefore couldn’t make a will in case someone was trying to take advantage of her in her weakened state of health. Of course this meant her sh*ty 2nd husband got everything like her house & money. My Aunt was fairly young like late 40 or early 50s so that’s why she didn’t have an official will. My cousins really got screwed over because their step dad promised he’d give them a fair share just like OP but of course it was a lie. I felt bad for my cousins because not only did they lose their mom but they couldn’t even afford to pay for her funeral because the stepdad refused to help financially. The rest of the family helped out of course.
Plagiarism story:
It’s kind of hard to believe that the dissertation committee didn’t deny the thesis during the bosses oral arguments. In order to defend your thesis, you have to have all of your citations, and will be vigorously questioned about them. Believe me, I know. Maybe the boss has friends in high places, is my only guess. But good for OP for setting the record straight.
isnt that driveway story super super old and retold all the time even on the same channels? or does that actually happen this often?
Was NOT expecting the escalation about the 'lazy' husband
Wow Dabney, calling a dying woman stupid and lazy when you have no idea what her mental state was or how quickly it was onset. That is surprsngly ignorant and insensitive of you.
shout out to the family for apologizing for 'not realizing he was like this' instead of trying to apologize for him or push her to take him back
"Where we live" like what? Multuple helicopter companies in ANY area cannot possibly be common
In Oregon you have to have two non-related witnesses and a notary to make a will. Which means you have to find two friends who can take time off during the business day. It is a pain.
It's really not. You don't have to know the witnesses personally, as long as they're unrelated.
For the therapist story: that is also against her code of ethics and should lose her license- report her!!