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4 Signs You Are Guarding Your Heart Too Much
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- čas přidán 12. 08. 2024
- Are you guarding your heart too much? Are you cutting yourself off from relationship blessings because you are being too guarded? Here are 4 signs you are guarding your heart too much.
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Lord help us along our walk so that we’re willing and able to open our hearts. 🙌🏾
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In all honesty, I'm so frightened. I said that to God. I admit it. I desire so much to meet my future husband, but I feel so safe up under God's wing.
I know what you mean. I caught feelings so soon for someone after coming out of a relationship and I dont understand it. I have to do my best and be mature about it because he’s a friend but its hard because im so scared my heart is going to get broken again. I always think “ive had enough already, I cant take another hit”. Literally when I see him, I dont want to talk to him, get near, etc. I just wanna run away when im near him. I feel terrible about it but im trying to be better about one day at a time.
Wow another great lesson. After crazy heart break and rejection from people in my life as I got closer to God, I had a lot of fear of opening up until I heard a sermon related to the verse in Genesis that says, “it’s not good for man to be alone.” He created us to be a part of a community as the body of Christ. We don’t want our hearts to be hardened and overly concerned with protecting our own hearts to the point where we aren’t loving our neighbors. God bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Amen!!!!
Oh my gosh! This video was right on time! Number 1 and 3 was ME! Fear of getting close to someone cause of past rejections , a DESIRE to be with someone have always been me.
I was guarding my heart in fear by struggling to talk to the Christian girl that I was interested in, I finally mustered up the courage to text her yesterday night and she replied me back!
Praise the Lord!!
Thank you Pastor Mark !
I'm glad this was helpful to you :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Hoping and praying the rest goes smoothly.
God please !
@@MarvellousMorbing You know that hand sign that Spider man makes when he shoots web, with the two fingers sticking up? It's a satanic hand sign signifying devil horns.
In a 1969 interview the leader of the Satanic church, Anton Lavey called it "the corona" and said that it is a curse. All the rock and metal musicians throw it toward their audiences... watch for it!
I suspect that the curse makes people love/worship the artist and follow them and buy their stuff (worship).
StratMatt777 Haha, I know! Hollywood is plagued with some dark secretive occult stuff. All of the heavy metal music bands has something satanic about em, so be careful . Good thing I despise hearing rock music
This was for me today. I let fear control me too much! Thank you Mark!
I'm glad this was on time for you :)
Glad it helped you, you and me both share the same thing, letting FEAR grip our hearts and mind. Let GOD in !
I just felt God so strongly when you were speaking.. I think it's amazing when He teaches and corrects us.. He showed me a valuable lesson learned this morning and it goes along with what you were saying.. I love His truth.. Especially when I have been wrong.. It's beautiful to see that He still loves us all and is still working in that moment of revelation.. So I will speak truth even when it's difficult.. Everything you stated in this video is true.. I have been heartbrokenly CRUSHED for a couple months now trying to figure out why He felt so far away.. I don't remember a time in my life not talking to Him and feeling Him there.. this morning He showed me it was necessary for Him to distance Himself from me to teach me that when I distance myself or ignore His people, I'm not loving one another like I should.. I've always loved and helped people where I could so I've always known and believed in when He says to love one another.. I never struggled with that like I have lately.. and I'm sorry for that.. I've even been unkind.. and I've known better.. He distanced Himself from me to show me how it feels when I do that to His people.. it hurts others when we don't show His love.. My heart has been an iron gate. We should always remember to show His love even when it's not fair.. the thing is, I used to know this and say that.. yet somehow forgot through pain of my own experiences .. to end this statement, please know that God knows what's best for us and EXACTLY what we need.. I love watching Him work, especially when I'm wrong.. I, for one, am thankful He is my teacher.. Thank you, Mark, for putting this video out.. I humbly know when our heart is guarded too heavily, we can push even God away temporarily for Him to correct us. God bless you, brother.
Yes, you're right. We all have our reasons for the walls we've built. Pain from childhood, or etc. It's important to be resilient, so thank you for this. It takes a lot for shy me to actually open my heart. I ramble, but I really keep things private. I'll only be with someone who makes it clear that they want me there. Bc in childhood, had some people who showed me they very much did not want me there, my step parent who was bitter about not having kids, and as far as I can help it, I will never be where I'm not wanted. Never again. I'll be with someone who goes out of their way, and protects my heart. Otherwise, it won't be worth it, at least in my case. I know myself.
That's why I know I'm going to need a brave person.
Yup I’ve def been guarding my heart..but honestly I have a right to, after everything I’ve been through I KNOW I have a right to protect my heart , if the man is truly sent by god then I know my walls will come down naturally 🙏🏼💖
I know it hurts and the memories sometimes just pop up out of nowhere but you need to forgive yourself and believe that God has already forgiven you .Take the chance he is giving you every day (we all need a second chance to start things over and succeed).
Have patience God is with you he is guiding you everyday toward the plan of peace he has prepared for your life.
St. Johnswort tea is a good one to cleanse your memories
Thankfully I am introverted and do not like people so much. I will continue to guard myself happily. 😎
Christopher Escobar so me i feel you, some people dont understand our sensitivity i can't deal😂😂😅
Me too but still I like public contact...
Lord My Rock hahaha how the truth hurts so....
Sometimes it's just apathy. Some people just don't care to open up to others.
No it's not that but the things once shared was used against the one who opened up himself trusting that the things said will remain between only the two of them but all the neighbourhood finally knew about it...
Yep, during my wholeness God was bringing me to new life and new things for me. But getting in a bad relationship I dissapionted some things in my life. I just got a new job so thats going to help to communicate with others in a healthy way. There are ways around lonliness and definitely Grace for any past mistakes.
omg i'm sooooo guarded it is ridiculous! I feel like a turtle with head tucked inthe shell, I can't see anything. i'm going to put my faith in god and learn how to be more open. God doesn't want me to live a safe and sheltered life, The goal God has for me isn't safety!!!
This is for me! A lot of times I am afraid to get to even know a girl due to becoming fearful that my relationship with God will be hindered and/or the girl will reject me. I guess I just have to pray and seek God more to help me stay true to Him as well as give me courage to embrace rejection.
The third sign really spoke to me and my current situation. My good friend kept his walls up in fear of getting hurt in our friendship. Due to the fact of his ex and their situation. It's difficult because I want to be there to support him, but I can't him when he's not open.
I believe that Father is teaching me this as part of Father's help with my anxiety mainly by the scripture Phillipans 4v6-7 & part of the balance of guarded heart & anxiety management by Father has seen me praying for my enemies and I'm receiving Gods grace in the area. :)
That is a great and powerful Scripture passage :)
Thank you Lord for allowing me to see this. I was guarding my heart to much because my past marriage was very abusive, but he also wasn’t a Christian. Thank you for the knowledge I feel like I can move forward in faith.
Yeah i been too guarded lately 😌 Thank you n God bless 💓
I really needed this!! I’m shocked at how much this applied to me. Thank you, Jesus!
God is good!
I was wowed too..
I need prayer
Me too what specifically do you need prayer for?
@@fightwithbiomechanix I need prayer for healing for my health. What do you need prayer for?
Praying for you 💚🙏🏻
@@janessatosh6460 Embrace and believe in the power and authority that you have as a child of God. Don't ask, don't beg, but COMMAND the spirit of sickness out of you.
Look up Tom Louds channel (or Pete Cabrera Jr) to see healing in action.
It is NOT fake. It will BLOW YOUR MIND like it did mine.
Go pray for yourself WITH AUTHORITY- not with a supplicating, hopeful request. :)
Do not say, "God we JUST....".
No. None of that powerless stuff that affirms that we are weak.
Instead, take up your authority as a child of God and kick some spiritual butt.
Command that garbage out of you.
God bless you. ;)
Janessa, if your health issue is not structural, watch this: @
And don't forget to look up Tom Louds channel.
This is extremely difficult if you have abuse in your background. Guarding yourself & your heart = survival. Letting others "in" takes extreme trust. Running into hurts can be so triggering that you can end up pushing others away because of the pain and fear.
Becca Bean So true! I have experienced emotional abuse from my past & as a result won’t let people get too close to me. I also don’t have the friends that I desire, even if it’s just one or two. I have concluded that I need to put pride aside & receive professional counseling to help in healing, so I can get on with my life.
A lot of Christians simply need counseling, but feel like b/c they “have God,” they don’t need it. Granted God does heal our wounds with time, but there is nothing wrong with seeking professional help.
Nasa O.
Amen, I hear ya on that.
I tried to fellowship with other Godly Christians and it’s always end with me in pain so this why I’m alone with God
2 *Fear vs Faith, 3 Afraid of someone using me and breaking my heart, as I've seen men do to my friends, I need to step out in faith. My family says a caterpillar does not stay that way forever. Metamorphosis leads to becoming a butterfly and spreading ones wings to fly and risk~
Here's a risk, but you're worth more~
ah... thank you for this vid
So scary to open your heart for real.. Kinda, just keeping that person in your heart but no intention to show it.
Wow! I just had a talk with my daughter while at her house about how much I guard my heart and then I came home and listened to you, Mark! Numbers 1-3 definitely me and now that I know, LOL, I will be careful not to do number 4!
I'm so glad this was helpful Patricia!
I have tears because this is true for me
I guard my heart and I know why.
I have been guarding my heart way tooo much when it comes to relationships, I get very protective over myself when the person says they don’t really follow Christianity. I really want to be equally yoked, so I end cutting them off right away, sometimes feeling a bit of guilt cause I never give them a chance to start with. Can u please help me understand how I can go about this differently! I want to give someone a chance!
You did right
Miss Optimistic look for his fellowship and obedience to the Spirit of God. That's how to choose a husband.
Helen Enang thanks 😊
Be equally yoked. If guy likes you but does not follow Christ or is not same spiritual level; cut him.
PARIS The Spanish Singer #cutthim most def, TY!
Point 3 is perfect. Great video!
I'm so glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you so much mark for this word. To step out of fear of being hurt, and allow God to bless me
God spoke to me about this . I started to go to counseling to heal the hurt that I’ve been holding on to.
Thanks Mark!!! I appreciate your videos!!! I know I have had the challenge of #2 & #3 real bad! This season He has been challenging me in this area! I confess sometimes that I don't watch them right away knowing they will be mad convicting!!! 😂
lol!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger I thank God for His Holy Spirit! Past Severe Trauma that started in the womb had caused me to be EXTREMELY introverted & internally angry to the point I wouldn't even allow people at church to tap me on the shoulder or hug me! This dichotomy had caused me to be a severely codependent individual with no boundaries & I was always a TARGET! Since SURVIVING severe Covert Narcissistic Abusive spouse in 2017, I learned that both of my parents are Narcissists! I thank God for being patient in His deliverance process that I had to go through & finally waking up from what I coin phrase as the "Narcissistic Abusive Coma" that I experienced! Now I can identify things clearer. Healthier people are apart of my life now! I NOW know how to set & ENFORCE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES for myself NOW! Such a LIBERATING EXPERIENCE & FEELING!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Those description ,Thanks for sharing. I agree I've been guarding my heart too much.
I'll walk with God.. Amen
I've kept my heart closed to someone who loves me
Thank you very much I needed this urgently
Cannot please God if we don't walk with Him
I want a friend who can talk about Jesus with me, I haven't found one. I don't need Sunday Church goers for friends who feel shy to talk about Jesus on other days, and I always end up on CZcams.
I’m living with number 3. Reason why , I tend to do things my own way which I’m not really making it into a big deal hopefully not. I’m indecisive don’t know wat I want so rn I rather build myself up hopefully one day I can open up and love someone or get into a relationship. I dislike hurting the woman that I lead or go for so I gotta be careful. I know is not how the lord wants us to be so give it time my brothers and sisters jus don’t isolate yourselves we might miss the person God sent for us. GB
THIS IS VERY TIMELY!!!
Thank you and god, it helped me understand now why I guard my guard my heart after being hurt so many times.
I'm so glad this was helpful :)
This is so timely..thank you very much for this..
Thank you Mark... I needed to hear this.
Thank you brother...fr the wonderful message.... which makes me awake through the word of God....m Latika Mididoddi from Mumbai.
Wow I needed this... thank you Mark!
My pleasure!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger thank You brother for sharing... I really need it now... I broke up with someone in my past and find new one now He knows my past and guided me and he only guided me towards God... But when I am deep in God I decided to make too much boundaries with him, we never crossed our limits because he is godly men but still I thought that I am sinner I never worth for him because he's such a godly men... But that's not what God wants from us... Please pray for me I am Sarah from India🇮🇳
Very useful
Amen, I'm so glad this was helpful
Guarding your heart too much because of past pains causes that.
Thank you 🙏🏽 God bless y’all
Once again this is so for me:I was having a discussion with a close friend about opening up and prayed for wisdom before going to bed and now seeing this feels like a confirmation from God: but at the same time the reason why I am not opening up to the person that I would want to is due to the fact that he is agnostic and this person in the past already told me how he felt about me but I felt that it was too early and I didn't feel that and never actually said those three words to anyone and it was my first time hearing it from a man.. second of we had different conversations where it was evident that he's not ready to the idea of a committed relationship.. and also I had a vision a year ago where eventually I was going to tell him and is response was positive to the point that he was about to propose but then woke up.. so I am confused cause if he was Christian it would had made sense but since he's not and knowing that he's doesn't want to go through the hassle of dating and prefers to be single, what's the right thing to do?????? It's been hard for me cause I know that if I did gave him a chance I would be in an unequally yoked relationship and knowing what God says that in the Bible I have been holding on that so much and having strong boundaries with him to make sure not to fall into temptation at all...HELP!!!!!
God bless you..
I guard my heart b/c I've been divorced 2 times. The second marriage happened when I met a guy who was in the process of divorce, and I'm afraid I'm an adulterer now, and should not remarry. Therefore I shall not remarry. I clearly have issues of not knowing how to do this thing called relationships. 😒
I do love someone, but there are alot of problems and I'm too much alone to understand how to fix it! I know that I don't want to get hurt in the relationship and ending up alone. I don't know how I'm going to make it to him, I feel like the walls are closing in on me! I feel trapped, because I live with my family siblings and they don't understand and I feel that I can't ever ask for help from them! I lost him once and I just got him back, but I'm afraid to lose him again! I've been waiting for him all my life and still I have no way to get to him! I have to only wait on God to help me through this, I don't anything else to do! I feel so alone and I want so much to get married and have children of my own! I haven't had a real friend in years to talk to about this! All I have is God and Jesus! I have to stay in faith and wait on a miracle! The one that I love is so far away from me, that if only he knew of the problems that I have that he would try his best to come for me! I pray that God will make a way for him to come in the name of Jesus.Amen❤🙏
Sometimes, things aren’t meant to work out. I was in a long distance relationship (I’m not sure if this is what you meant by far away from him) but it just wasn’t good. We “loved each other”, but that’s all we had going for us. Which sure, loves triumphs all, but if there are pieces missing in your life, or both of you need to work on yourselves, then being apart is a lot better than being hurt in the end. I would pray to god all the time,”please god I want us to work, please I don’t want to lose him.” But (I’m not sure if this was god or me or whomever) I had a strange feeling in my gut that was like he’s not the one. And eventually, we broke up. Yeah it was sad it hurt, but it does make you stronger and a lot of lessons learned. Most people say,”rejection means there’s another direction.” And I definitely believe that. I’m not sure how old you are, but if you’re young or a young adult, you have your whole life ahead of you and there’s so many other people out there who will be blessed to have you. If God’s Plan for you acquires it to work out, then great. But if he’s not the one for you, he isn’t and that is perfectly okay. Hope this helped and I hope you’ll find peace in this.
This came to me right on time.
Great video! :)
So glad it was helpful :)
I feel this is confirmation from God to me but now idk if I feel confused or angry the timing is too insane , I thought I'm suppose to wait on this person and then I felt god was possibly telling me to open my heart for this new person (start a friend ship) and I told my self no Im gonna guard my heart and then this video pops up. Is it wrong to ask God to just tell me clearly so I'm not confused no more 😂
This spoke to my life 100% all 4 apply to me 😓
Great video! So true
Wow... I think this is for me...
I'm not sure if it's bcoz of fear or maybe I just very careful this time...
Thanks Pastor!!!
all true...but i met a guy on online dating we've been talking for 3 months...i asked about his Spiritual beliefs and relationship to Jesus...he said that he is not religious and don't go church but he believe in God (He is a Catholic btw). So because of that i'm so guarded. I don't know if i will continue to talk to him.
Apathy. Learned helplessness.
3 is me not gonna lie
I think for me I afraid of emotion become out of control. intp emotions can be explosive. Mine biggest fear falling into love too hard to fast and diving away any girl friend i may get. how ever I pursue am girl when i feel called.
This video is for me
God makes me laugh😆
Thanks Mark for this video. I love the clarification and insight you gave on the subject.
My pleasure! I'm so glad you found it helpful!
LOL I feel this is what I have been struggling with for years. Number 2 is me. In relation to number 4, how do you know that God is telling you to step out in faith rather than your own head and family/friends telling you "put yourself out there" but you think you need to focus on yourself?? Thank you so much.
This timing is uncanny.. 😅 I wrote a long IG post about this very issue nearly 2 years ago, and felt led to mention it to a friend a few days ago.. 🙆🏾♂️ So this is like confirmation.. 👀👀👀 - @Acharich
nice!
Geez confirmation😩.
At least you know what the Lord is leading you to work on with him :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger ye Mark! I’ve went from one to two extremes but I’ve been following God with each step but I’m learning how to not completely give my heart nor walk it off😭. It’s a hard balance.
So true, it’s really easy to go too far one way or the other
To be honest this one was a bit confusing.. What if someone wants to open up and be in a relationship.. but certain situations at home may not be providing for a suitable environment. What should one do?
Amen Amen Amen
I have extreme trouble with opening up to people. My mother(who is a great mom and loves me) told me when I was younger, God told her that’d I would marry a guy named Joshua. Later, she’s said she didn’t know if it was dating, marrying, but it would be someone who would help me. I’m worried about this because if that’s the case, can I not date anyone named Joshua? Can I not even have a crush on anyone unless their name is Joshua? I recently got out of a relationship a few months ago (his name wasn’t Joshua), but it makes me believe more that I can’t date anyone unless that’s their name. I’m also insecure about my looks, and sometimes I worry that I might be asexual(not saying that is a bad thing, but a future with someone would be nice). Sorry this was so long. If anyone could give some advice or words of encouragement, thank you. I’m also going though some spiritual questionings and purpose in life which makes it harder to stand strong with god. Thank you again.
Pray and fast and ask God specific questions so you know it is him answering you, if Joshua is Ur husband ask him to confirm it, he is faithful to do so. You need to test if what your mum said was from the Lord, we all do when we hear a prophecy over our life, sometimes ppl can err, so you need to go to God to get clarity on this, and I would focus on you and God right now, in due season he will bring your husband. Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all things will be added to you :-) Spend time with God to heal, and give him your wounds and disappointments so he can make you whole for where he is taking you :-) Ask God to help you overcome insecurity, talk to him where the root of this came from and pray for God to touch and heal you in this area, if you feel lead pray and also ask if he can direct you to a Christian councellor that is right for you, someone who can talk you through this, it will help, but make God Ur primary source. Jesus bless you :-)
Jesus Returning - Rev 22:12 thank you so much🙌
Joshua can also be someone’s spiritual name. Read the story about him and see what his traits are.. look for the traits maybe. But fasting clears many things up!!!
I also wanted to add, that if God confirms that his name is Joshua, you have to wait on the Lord for when that day comes, you may also want to ask him what instructions he has for you to do and what preparation you have to go through for him (or for marriage in general)... also check out RC Blakes, Jr on CZcams, he has alot of great teachings on wrong rships, dealing with insecurities and wounds from parents or abusive rships, he touches on many things to help heal you, and also cutting aay ungodly soul ties, when a rship ends, you need those ties to be cut and all items that you both had to be removed, this will help you heal quicker too. Blessings in you journey, you will do well :-)) big hugs
@@yeyamusic - Thats interesting too :-) Fasting will give her much insight.
2 and 3. That's me!
That’s what god wants u to think
I started going to a group at my local college. I asked the group leader for advice on asking a girl on a date and he said girls are a distraction from God. I told my parents about the situation and they said I should talk to the girl. What should I do help Mark!!!
Girls can be a distraction but if you plan on getting married one day you will need to talk to girls :) Perhaps you group leader plans on being a priest? I would say if you feel prepared to date in general you should talk to her and see what happens.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger yeah I do have full intentions of getting married one day. I guess I just dont want to make the wrong decision. Thankyou
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Always put God first and make sure she does as well. Be confident in being you! Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline".
Kennia Ruiz 👍
How do i fix #1 ?
Perhaps this video might help a bit czcams.com/video/c8FI5siqMWE/video.html
Please explain this to me I need to understand this
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Im so afraid of being uneqaually Yoked >>>>>>>Ray D
If you have the Holy Spirit, you won't have issues.
We do have challenge in life but God is their to help us overcome it...
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