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1. If being in a relationship or thinking about this person is stifling your walk with Christ. 2. If your behaviours have become odd and negative due to your relationship with or thoughts of this person. 3. If you are dependening on someone to be the strength of your heart.
I wish I had grown up with more lessons like this and others you’ve shared. I’m thankful for every relationship and lesson that has brought me closer to my Heavenly Father..I wish I had been smarter, stronger in my relationship with God, my faith and myself but such is life and the lessons we learn to solely look to him in all ways for everlasting life.. 💛
This is a really good Word! I noticed that this actually applies to EVERY kind of relationship!! Thank you so much for this!! I receive it in the name of Jesus! God bless you, it truly opened my eyes to some things. 👏👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥🔥👊👊👊👊🥰🥰🥰🥰
Wow 😯, this is timely! Thank you Mark. I will speak to the Lord more through prayer on unresolved issues within my heart. I have repented from my sin of dating a single Christian male from church who said it was not considered living in sin to have sex outside of marriage. Mind you this was the first person I dated after being saved. He had pursued me relentlessly and I failed. 2 Sisters at the church have reached out to me and try to continue to make me feel welcome. They did explain that “not everyone who says they are Christian are actually obedient to the Lord.” However, even though I have made healthy choices and moved on, now it stirs disappointment within myself when I see him at church because he does not repent or see his behavior as causing another to stumble. I must pray to guard my heart from falling into sin but also from developing bitterness or resentment. I pray for healing through Jesus Christ ❤️🩹🙏.
This is such a balanced way of approaching and viewing a relationship with our future spouse. I liked how you went in depth about guarding your heart and walling your heart off and of course connected it with scripture. Thank you!
Thank you Jesus for opening my eyes to letting go of toxic people negative energy when I enlisted myself in dating site learned to trust you God I am the apple of your eyes and wonderfully made as your daughter to be happy healthy blessed in my life thank you Jesus amen
I needed this. Someone special has entered my life and the recent distance between us the past week and now this video has shown me I was investing too much and too quickly. I realize I need to go back to putting God first in my life and placing him in the center of the relationship. Also does guarding your heart mean that person isn't the one? And to end the relationship? or does it just mean taking a step back and not investing too much which can set up yourself and the relationship for failure?
I'm going through something similar. Taking a step back can be a good thing. By placing the relationship in God's hands to direct the pace. Guarding your heart is wise especially in the beginning. I would imagine it opens more over time as trust & the relationship is built. Keep seeking the Lord for every step, He will guide you.
It can mean anything like that. Ultimately it means using your heart wisely and not hurting yourself :) Even in good relationships we must guard hearts because can take a good thing too far and as too much it :)
It’s crazy how God works through people!! Exactly what I needed 🙏🔥 I flirted to convert basically. Crossed lines with an unbeliever. She was going to come to church just for me but I wanted her to have a relationship with God more then one with me so we stopped talking. I felt I was going to be a stumbling block. Spent the last year healing and reflecting, Two days ago I met her at a church team meeting! I don’t know if I should just pursue her or pursue getting to know other more mature Christian relationships like I feel in my heart. Def need some guidance 😭🙏
Oh wow, that's a tough one. Building a friendship sounds like maybe a good place to start, then you can see her relationship with God while praying for direction either way. Nothing needs to be rushed.
@@beccabean5770 yea I agree, I’ve been thinking about it all day and honestly I keep getting the feeling that it’s best if we stay as just friends until I see that she is steadfast. If I’m really honest I feel scared that if I let her go I’ll never find anyone but I’m slowly starting to accept that I’d rather take that risk and wait for Gods timing because it would be better not to marry then marry someone who doesn’t put God first in their life. Edit: but then again I thought I was in a good place in my walk when I fooled myself into thinking I was strong enough to resist temptation.. a true walk with Jesus has ups and downs and we get to learn that we aren’t as strong as we think we are. A true walk doesn’t put feelings first but rather Jesus principles and applying Gods character to our everyday decisions. No one has a perfect walk with Christ but what is the mark of a genuine Christian that may just be struggling through sanctification? 🤔
Wooow look @ God I've been processing the unhealthy relationships in my life. I've learned to do so many foolish things in my years of rebellion. Psalm 73 has recently been my go to passage... I feel seen by this passage when looking over my life! I've been thinking of getting it tattooed on my right forearm. "When my soul was embittered, when I was pricked in heart, I was brutish and ignorant; I was like a beast toward you. Nevertheless, I am continually with you; you hold my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will receive me to glory." God is so good. Thanks be to God! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Right on time… I’m starting to lose my altar time recently due to work and him… Unlike before when we just started our relationship. He too, almost going to point 3, just yesterday asking me to make him the strength of my heart. Usually whenever I see something like this I will start to doubt again if he’s from God but now I will calm my mind first and not just draw conclusions. Thank you for the reminder Mark, God bless you 🙏🏻
That is a blessing! Probably one of the biggest things I struggle with, and I know that doesn't honor Christ and it honders me from being my true self at times. I think many of us women & men suffer in silent with body image issues, it's a hard subject to talk about. Thanks Mark! God bless you.
Same time. You will have to learn to do both one day anyways if you want to be married, so it's best to accept that you will have to do multiple things in life at once if you really want them both :)
How can I guard my heart ? Like God showed me who my wife is but I’m now in a waiting season but I think of her everyday. How can I stop it. Maybe I’m even idolizing her ?
Yes, sounds like an idol. If you are waiting for someone you don't know that well, that means you are infatuated with her as an idea. Not sure if that is your situation or not but be careful assuming you know who you will marry if you are not even dating her yet :)
In the same boat. I've heard of too many couples that believed God revealed their spouses and actually did get married to discount God doing this at least occasionally. I'm also in a long season of waiting and have had to repent of creating an idol of something that hasn't happened yet. It's hard for me to just keep turning it over to God and trusting that if it truly was Him speaking then it will for sure happen. Learning patience the only way..lol. God bless
Jesus never guarded His Heart from matters of Love.He told us to guard our hearts from evil things that come out of the heart. If you have the mate of Father's choice after you ask Him to send your mate you will have no reason to fear because He will send His choice to you. He doesn't suggest trial or error. He want His pairs to be married and when He does it, you will marry.
Does guarding your heart meaning necessarily removing the person or just breaking away from the negative feelings you are holding unto associated with them?
It can mean anything like that. Ultimately it means using your heart wisely and not hurting yourself :) Even in good relationships we must guard hearts because can take a good thing too far and as too much it :)
I love all of this & it’s super helpful to create this awareness, so thank you & God bless. One thing I find weird though, is when you refer to. God as a ‘person’ … 😂 …. Is God really a person ?
Yes :) God the Father is not a human person but he still is an individual with personhood. Jesus is literally a human person :) This is why the Bible refers to God the Holy Spirit has "he" and not "it". God bless!
It could mean that. It more so means you are just using your heart wisely and making sure you don't damage yourself. You still need to guard your heart even in good relationships as we can always take a good thing too far :)
Do you have advice for when a new Godly relationship is undergoing frequent spiritual attack because satan wants to tear the two apart? That also is lack of peace. Thanks.
My main advice is to submit to God (James 4:7) and seek to honor him. But if there are a lot of problems early on and it's not projecting to be a healthy relationship, it could also just mean it's not a good fit. Fight through what you feel led to fight through, but if sin and hurt is occurring this is not a good sign that you should stay together. Satan can also tempt you to stay with the wrong person :)
It's important not to treat them like your counselor or pastor. If you want to share that is fine but you don't have to share everything. Sometimes it's best to share past issues with someone who is more trained to help you.
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1. If being in a relationship or thinking about this person is stifling your walk with Christ.
2. If your behaviours have become odd and negative due to your relationship with or thoughts of this person.
3. If you are dependening on someone to be the strength of your heart.
#2 ☝☝
Life itself will stifle your walk with Christ. Just breathing will do that.
Jesus have mercy on me, help me guard my heart against immoral people and save my soul.
Amen!
RIGHT ON TIME OMGEEE!!!!
Holyyy me too this girl been using me sad to say but right on time ! Gods timing impeccable
I'm so glad this was helpful and timely Mesha!
@@jccisneros7919 yes, he really comes to our aid when he sees us being misused
Lmao ikr
I wish I had grown up with more lessons like this and others you’ve shared. I’m thankful for every relationship and lesson that has brought me closer to my Heavenly Father..I wish I had been smarter, stronger in my relationship with God, my faith and myself but such is life and the lessons we learn to solely look to him in all ways for everlasting life.. 💛
There's still time to apply this now :) We all have regrets about the past, the key is to not make new regrets :) God bless!
This is a really good Word! I noticed that this actually applies to EVERY kind of relationship!! Thank you so much for this!! I receive it in the name of Jesus! God bless you, it truly opened my eyes to some things. 👏👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥🔥👊👊👊👊🥰🥰🥰🥰
Amen!
Wow 😯, this is timely! Thank you Mark. I will speak to the Lord more through prayer on unresolved issues within my heart.
I have repented from my sin of dating a single Christian male from church who said it was not considered living in sin to have sex outside of marriage.
Mind you this was the first person I dated after being saved. He had pursued me relentlessly and I failed. 2 Sisters at the church have reached out to me and try to continue to make me feel welcome. They did explain that “not everyone who says they are Christian are actually obedient to the Lord.”
However, even though I have made healthy choices and moved on, now it stirs disappointment within myself when I see him at church because he does not repent or see his behavior as causing another to stumble.
I must pray to guard my heart from falling into sin but also from developing bitterness or resentment. I pray for healing through Jesus Christ ❤️🩹🙏.
So glad you are maturing in the Lord and have other church members walking alongside of you
My relationship with God through his son Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit is by far the most important thing to me. I don't practice idolatry
Praise the Lord! 🕊🥰❤️🌷
Amen!
This is such a balanced way of approaching and viewing a relationship with our future spouse. I liked how you went in depth about guarding your heart and walling your heart off and of course connected it with scripture. Thank you!
So glad it was useful Kristy!
Thank you Jesus for opening my eyes to letting go of toxic people negative energy when I enlisted myself in dating site learned to trust you God I am the apple of your eyes and wonderfully made as your daughter to be happy healthy blessed in my life thank you Jesus amen
God bless Michelle!
I needed this. Someone special has entered my life and the recent distance between us the past week and now this video has shown me I was investing too much and too quickly. I realize I need to go back to putting God first in my life and placing him in the center of the relationship.
Also does guarding your heart mean that person isn't the one? And to end the relationship? or does it just mean taking a step back and not investing too much which can set up yourself and the relationship for failure?
I'm going through something similar. Taking a step back can be a good thing. By placing the relationship in God's hands to direct the pace. Guarding your heart is wise especially in the beginning. I would imagine it opens more over time as trust & the relationship is built. Keep seeking the Lord for every step, He will guide you.
It can mean anything like that. Ultimately it means using your heart wisely and not hurting yourself :) Even in good relationships we must guard hearts because can take a good thing too far and as too much it :)
It’s crazy how God works through people!! Exactly what I needed 🙏🔥 I flirted to convert basically. Crossed lines with an unbeliever. She was going to come to church just for me but I wanted her to have a relationship with God more then one with me so we stopped talking. I felt I was going to be a stumbling block. Spent the last year healing and reflecting, Two days ago I met her at a church team meeting! I don’t know if I should just pursue her or pursue getting to know other more mature Christian relationships like I feel in my heart. Def need some guidance 😭🙏
Oh wow, that's a tough one. Building a friendship sounds like maybe a good place to start, then you can see her relationship with God while praying for direction either way. Nothing needs to be rushed.
@@beccabean5770 yea I agree, I’ve been thinking about it all day and honestly I keep getting the feeling that it’s best if we stay as just friends until I see that she is steadfast. If I’m really honest I feel scared that if I let her go I’ll never find anyone but I’m slowly starting to accept that I’d rather take that risk and wait for Gods timing because it would be better not to marry then marry someone who doesn’t put God first in their life.
Edit: but then again I thought I was in a good place in my walk when I fooled myself into thinking I was strong enough to resist temptation.. a true walk with Jesus has ups and downs and we get to learn that we aren’t as strong as we think we are. A true walk doesn’t put feelings first but rather Jesus principles and applying Gods character to our everyday decisions. No one has a perfect walk with Christ but what is the mark of a genuine Christian that may just be struggling through sanctification? 🤔
✨🙏🏽✨Praying with you, my brother. ✌🏽😎👍🏽
Wooow look @ God
I've been processing the unhealthy relationships in my life. I've learned to do so many foolish things in my years of rebellion.
Psalm 73 has recently been my go to passage... I feel seen by this passage when looking over my life! I've been thinking of getting it tattooed on my right forearm.
"When my soul was embittered, when I was pricked in heart, I was brutish and ignorant; I was like a beast toward you.
Nevertheless, I am continually with you; you hold my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will receive me to glory."
God is so good. Thanks be to God! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Amen, all glory to God!
Again and again and again.
Brother much love coming from Jojo from Zambia ♥️🔥🇿🇲thank you thank you thank you.
So glad this was helpful!
This video speaks straight to the soul!
So glad to hear that!
thank you for doing what you do
My pleasure!
I needed this so much , been very clouded in the mind about this subject .
So glad it was helpful!
This was literally the message at church today
Wow!
The timing was great! I was confused for a long time
So glad it was timely!
I am good with keeping people out, nothing good from from letting people in, ever.
Yes, both are needed at different times :)
Jesus is Lord 📯🙌🏽📯🥂✔. Bless GOD in Jesus Holy Name.
Wow I reading that verse outloud and same time this video popped up in notifications at 7:50pm
Nice! God is good!
God richly bless you
Thank you and may the Lord bless you too!
Amen!
God bless Sara!
Right on time… I’m starting to lose my altar time recently due to work and him… Unlike before when we just started our relationship. He too, almost going to point 3, just yesterday asking me to make him the strength of my heart.
Usually whenever I see something like this I will start to doubt again if he’s from God but now I will calm my mind first and not just draw conclusions.
Thank you for the reminder Mark, God bless you 🙏🏻
Amen, take it slow and keep walking with the Lord!
This video is definitely for me!!
So glad it was relevant!
Perfect timing dude. This weekend... (Sigh) wasn't so great. Thanks for the videos as always. 👍
So glad this was useful Jimmy! Keep going!
Thank you for forgiving me Lord
Wooow, Thank you Jesus for your Instrument: Mark !!!
So glad you enjoyed this Charlene! All glory to God!
I love this video! Could you actually do a video on body image issues for men and women?
Yes, I've been thinking about doing something like that so hopefully in a few weeks or months I can :)
That is a blessing! Probably one of the biggest things I struggle with, and I know that doesn't honor Christ and it honders me from being my true self at times. I think many of us women & men suffer in silent with body image issues, it's a hard subject to talk about. Thanks Mark! God bless you.
Blessed the Lord
Thank you for your word, Mark! This is timely ✨
You are so welcome! All glory to God!
Amen. So true. DEFINITELY, even for someone like me 🙂👍💒🤵♂️👰♂️🙏🙂👍💒🤵♂️👰♂️.
Rich measurement to go by! ✨❤️✨
God bless!
What’s your advice about careers vs dating? Should one focus on one vs the other or do it at the same time?
Same time. You will have to learn to do both one day anyways if you want to be married, so it's best to accept that you will have to do multiple things in life at once if you really want them both :)
Amen
God bless!
How do you always come out with a video about my exact situation
I pay google to listen through your phone :) Jk, all glory to God!
God's perfect timing
Amen! The Truth shall set you free! 🙏❤️
Amen!
Walking through this right now. Thank you for your video
So glad it was useful to you!
AMEN AMEN AMEN 🙏
God bless!
Great video thank you 💓🥰
You’re welcome!
Right on time! Praise God!
God bless Nicole!
Wisdom from above 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
All glory to God!
I needed to hear this tonight
I'm so glad it was useful Vickie!
How can I guard my heart ? Like God showed me who my wife is but I’m now in a waiting season but I think of her everyday. How can I stop it. Maybe I’m even idolizing her ?
Yes, sounds like an idol. If you are waiting for someone you don't know that well, that means you are infatuated with her as an idea. Not sure if that is your situation or not but be careful assuming you know who you will marry if you are not even dating her yet :)
In the same boat. I've heard of too many couples that believed God revealed their spouses and actually did get married to discount God doing this at least occasionally. I'm also in a long season of waiting and have had to repent of creating an idol of something that hasn't happened yet. It's hard for me to just keep turning it over to God and trusting that if it truly was Him speaking then it will for sure happen. Learning patience the only way..lol. God bless
Thank you for this message
You are so welcome!
Lovely.
Jesus never guarded His Heart from matters of Love.He told us to guard our hearts from evil things that come out of the heart. If you have the mate of Father's choice after you ask Him to send your mate you will have no reason to fear because He will send His choice to you. He doesn't suggest trial or error. He want His pairs to be married and when He does it, you will marry.
In Jesus Name Amen ♥️♥️♥️🙏
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❤❤❤❤
Does guarding your heart meaning necessarily removing the person or just breaking away from the negative feelings you are holding unto associated with them?
It can mean anything like that. Ultimately it means using your heart wisely and not hurting yourself :) Even in good relationships we must guard hearts because can take a good thing too far and as too much it :)
What does guarding your heart mean practically? Removing someone or just learn to stay in contact but setting strict boundaries ?
I answer that here: czcams.com/video/aRlx9LpySok/video.html
I love all of this & it’s super helpful to create this awareness, so thank you & God bless. One thing I find weird though, is when you refer to. God as a ‘person’ … 😂 …. Is God really a person ?
Yes :) God the Father is not a human person but he still is an individual with personhood. Jesus is literally a human person :) This is why the Bible refers to God the Holy Spirit has "he" and not "it". God bless!
Does guarding your heart means, this person is not "the one" and that you need to let go or what?
It could mean that. It more so means you are just using your heart wisely and making sure you don't damage yourself. You still need to guard your heart even in good relationships as we can always take a good thing too far :)
My sister texted bad words to my gf from my mobile and she blocked me
Do you have advice for when a new Godly relationship is undergoing frequent spiritual attack because satan wants to tear the two apart? That also is lack of peace. Thanks.
My main advice is to submit to God (James 4:7) and seek to honor him. But if there are a lot of problems early on and it's not projecting to be a healthy relationship, it could also just mean it's not a good fit. Fight through what you feel led to fight through, but if sin and hurt is occurring this is not a good sign that you should stay together. Satan can also tempt you to stay with the wrong person :)
Mark I have an understanding fiance but something is stopping me from sharing the bad memories my dad has caused me to have. What do you propose?
It's important not to treat them like your counselor or pastor. If you want to share that is fine but you don't have to share everything. Sometimes it's best to share past issues with someone who is more trained to help you.
Okay but what is guarding your heart? What does that look like?
Stop it,Pain caused me to