Seven Points Every Man Should Know
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- čas přidán 8. 07. 2021
- In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares seven points to help maintain your frame as a man. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at orderofman.link/instagram-ryan and share what’s working in your life.
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#1 People will work against you
#2 Evaluate other people’s motives
#3 Establish, communicate, and uphold boundaries
#4 Disengage or defend your position
#5 Stop unnecessary emotion
#6 Maintain the long-term perspective
#7 Eliminate your ego
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As a woman, I thank you for this channel. The war on manliness and masculinity is real.
Yup everything is pc now.
@@fluxypoo While I do agree that everything is PC, what does that have to do with manliness?
Why the hell is a woman listening to this channel? Go away
@@drmarctagon censorship is problem across the board, but if it’s racist, sexist, or prejudice in general it’s gotta be controversial. It’s not necessarily a war on manliness it’s about control over what people are putting out there, and how it’s influencing others.
It won’t last… a lot of young boys are getting pissed off. And I hope they don’t become more mass shooters. But all this war on men is only hurting young boys. But we will win this war. Whoever thinks we won’t is going to get crushed.
“Complaining about a problem without posing a solution is called whining.”
Teddy Roosevelt
1. Know that people will actively work against you (consciously or subconsciously) [Directly or indirectly].
2. Evaluate what they're trying to do and why. [There are internal and external motivating factors].
3. Establish, communicate, and uphold boundaries. [For yourself and others]. BIG ONE
4: Defend or disengage. [Weigh the risks and costs of either].
5. Do not unnecessarily react to emotions [hunger, fatigue, fear, any emotion really can be used as a weapon].
6. Maintain a long term perspective [100 years is 36,524 days. 1/3 of those are asleep. There is no long-term].
7. Eliminate your ego, focus on the results/intended outcome [Serve the whole, not the self].
damn so if I live 60 more years I only got 14,600 days left. well fuck.
This aren't even exclusive to just men. These are all-round helpful.
People are actively working against me? lol what is this rule based on?
@@chozen_juanLOL you don't understand?
Human beings are naturally competitive and even family or friends will possibly undermine you if it means they get the prize and you miss out!
Women especially in their nature are hypergamous meaning they are always looking for a better deal as in a provider of assets ie=husband
And will always trade up for a better life.. So other women are nothing but competition for the prize ... So any other woman being sister or best friend will be cold blooded eliminated if they get in the way!
And this goes for men also, people are ruthless, if you don't recognise this you will get walked all over you!
@@chozen_juanyour age ,your experience,your conclusion
I'm a 22 y/o guy and I personally appreciate that men like this take the time to drop these knowledge gems. Lord knows my ma wasn't able to teach me this stuff. She taught me what she could about being a person but boys can only learn man knowledge from men
WowI Ditto for me. Especially when all my idols were less than manly 70's and 80's rock stars. lol
I’m 23 and in the same boat man, you’re not alone. Let’s keep developing into the Men we needed when we were younger. 💪
30 this year and in the same boat with a ton of catching up to do man. At least you got here early 🤙🏽😎
Agreed my Dad was non existing in my life and not interested in me. Im 44y its tough to stop being stuck mentally on 12y old. Keep being productive and learning.
@@kevions4 never too late. Always strive forward and don't stop learning .
The war is on against the strong ,masculine put together role model.
It absolutely is, Its disgusting.
@@croceaMors1 I can not agree more!
True that. Ironically it has taken exactly that description of man to protect, save, and defend civilization throughout history. Ungrateful is an understatement for those who currently survive and fail to recognize this and worse demonize it.
Stop playing the victim.
and there are many, many women starving for the strong masculine men to resurface.
"It's hard to beat a man who never gives up." Babe Ruth
Never give up & never give in! No matter what.
You are absolutely correct. Never give up, never give in and never apologize. These people are mentally ill or evil.
Well stated 👍🏿
Roger that
I never gave up. And sometimes I think " I shoulda just kept my mouth shut". But I have done many things and seen many things.
"Never give up, never surrender"
-Galaxy Quest.
Yes Brother!!! Last 4 years of my life, all I hear from women is that I’m so masculine. My military job has taught me to maintain my frame. Very good talk for all men to hear 🙏🏽💪🏽
Respect man!
What does it mean to mantain your frame? Do you have personal examples or stories?
Don't be a girly-man or for that matter a manly-girl. Just be who God made you to be, and do it as well as you can.
Let’s not bring fairy tales into this
@@Stranger_In_The_Alps Do you mean the fairytale that says we evolved after 1 billion years from an amoeba in a primordial pond that no one witnessed happened and no one-named individual can attest to. (And that story continues to change.) Scientist don't count because they were not there to see it. How do you explain sacrificial love in the evolutionary theory. You can't because it's survival of the fittest. Dog eat dog. But GOD an eternal being who was present at creation, & the Trinity testified to what HE had done as Creator of all and relayed that message to man through Moses in Genesis.
@@duncanragnar3484 yes totally agree
What if God made you a 'feminine' man? It happens every day. We are all created different and it might be healthy to let go of the idea that there is this linear hierarchy of people where you have to strive to fit one single mold if you happen to have a Y chromosome.
@@duncanragnar3484 the few and the proud, I'm with you brother! 🙏
Appreciate the content. Started my business full time last month. Working out, I will quit cigarettes.
Love to hear that man. Salute.
Hey,
I recently quit smoking cigarettes after 30 yrs of smoking, and just wanted to tell you what helped me. Even tho I wanted to quit cigarettes earlier, I realized I was still thinking that they were benefiting me
Ex: I thought they actually helped calm me and were there when I was bored.
When you flip the tables on your perception about why you smoke it’s much easier.
Meaning: Start convincing yourself that it’s not benefiting you. A good way to start would be to write dn all the benefits of smoking and then write dn all the bad things about smoking.
I’m pretty sure the bad out weighs the good. Let that be your ammunition of will to quit.
Ps. I assure you after 2 yrs of not smoking it’s way better you can breathe better you’re calmer, less anxiety, saves you a lot of time and money, not to mention you’ll realize how bad it smelled to others around you.
Good luck with all your endeavors!
Cheers 🍻
You got this. This is just a small stepping stone in your path to greatness. I smoked for 5-6 years. Readily quit around three years ago. I will say starting Jiu Jitsu and focus on that while staying healthy helped greatly. Good luck, and know that we’re with you.
Go hard man. You got it
Good job , cause smokers really stink bad to non-smokers.
Hang in there !
Commenting for the algorithm, hope your growth doesn't slow down 🙏
Much appreciate.
Just finished a bible study on being a godly man and found your podcast. Good stuff. May God continue to bless you and all those following you. We need strong men in this spiritual war. 1 Corinthians 16:13
We need strong men who can think for themselves and ask the disturbing questions...
There is no God.
@@jonathanwaltherYou're gonna be disappointed my friend
@@dp1908 You are right. I am truly disappointed by so called grown adults to adopt such lunatic ideas like "faith in God".
I want to join this Bible study.
Yes! When they start limiting you, you're doing something right!
Wish i could hear these from my father at my 20ies. There is no value if knowledge is not shared. Congratulations for your work man. So grateful for this gem.
George, maybe your dad didn’t know. You should be the man he wasn’t.... No disrespect...
George, maybe this might help. Really help.
Value = time x energy x demand.
Thinking this really through, it changed my life
@@mjones9088 if 50/60's men taught there sons, we would also know some more.
People stopped writing, stopped taking responsibillity, started delivering to the state instead of to their own offspring.
Partly not to their own neglect to face up to the job of being a father and giving their childeren actual life advice instead of showing them when the potatoes are ready.
As Jordan Peterson says: learn to write, think and speak and you are deadly. Mis 1 of 3, not so deadly. None the less. Its worth thinking about it.
Learning my boys at the moment to speak properly. Its amazing to see how people react to it. Its absolutely ridicullous seeing aduls interact with a 3.5yr old boy. They are in pure awe.
Feeling prouder by the day.
Maybe something to share: im writing books. To preserve my upbringing and have them understand later in life who dad was and why he did surtand stuff. Maybe even reflect on the difficulties that i faced and having them see what worked and didnt work out. Maybe even for grandkids to see who grandfather was. (If it ever comes to that point)
If you have something for me in exchange, please do share. Always in for exchanges of viewpoints :-)
“ Emotions and your response are not married “
That’s good, good word.
Good advice. Thank you. At 36 I have come to a lot of the same conclusions. It is good to hear other men talking about it. Be civil, be respectful but demand the same from others and be capable of enforcing if necessary.
Might I suggest adding Jordan Peterson to your watchlist? Its a very good addition to add to above video
@@boerbeun Thank you. Yes, I have watched a few talks by and with Jordan. Good stuff 👍
If you're taking fire, you're over the target.
I googled this saying. I'd never heard it before. Thanks
Great content as always bro! Amazing how they limit content like this that helps us become better men, yet anything over sexualized and negative is being pushed down our throats. Stay aware guys, there is a definite attack on masculinity 👁
Third point is something I've learned to uphold over the past year and a bit. I have a difficult mother who crosses boundaries at times. I've had to step up and enforce these boundaries because I don't appreciate being talked to with disrespect. At first she retaliated, emotionally might I add, but I kept at it and now she respects those boundaries.
Never back down fellas.
And never cross that line, otherwise you'll be the bad guy. Stand firm at that line and don't give an inch.
I can't express how much this is concentric to Stoicism. Stoicism is not about being devoid of emotion. It is about taking a practical approach as to how we handle emotion and situations in life at large. Men, as creatures of logic and strength must be aware of our emotions. This is "emotional intelligence" - what is this feeling or situation and how do I best address it with grace and humility. There is a brief moment between stimulus and response which gives us a chance - to make a choice which will determine the outcome. The "frame" is complete composure at all times. Women are natural born emotional creatures. Men do not have to take over their role as were are needed for logic and keeping composed under extreme circumstances. Love this video, thanks.
Goddamn, dude. That statement about boundaries when disconnecting from your employer was a hard hit. I did exactly what you said and maintained my frame in EXACTLY the way you brought up, fully planned out and responsibly. Then I didn't do it with the client that was covering the monetary fall out of the choice and was weak with him and it fucked EVERYTHING up. Thank you for reminding me that fear and weakness fucked my shit up. 👍👍👍
Hey, don't know who you are but please don't take my HEAVENLY FATHER'S name in vain.
My son is 11 and he’s started doing the same, it gets difficult to handle at times. Thanks for the reminder that I have to remain the bigger man.
My son is 12 and he's testing me as well. Best thing you can do is stay calm and communicate about when you expect. I didn't have a dad to keep me in line so this phase has be interesting
@@neilfreytag9166 Stay calm on the inside but don't be afraid to raise your voice occasionally on the outside. Some boys are a soft touch and respond to a hint, others need a bit more 'projection' before they acknowledge that you really mean business!
I found that it helped my kids for me to explain why they were acting this way. Some of my kids would actually catch their own behavior, recognize what they were doing and reverse it.
@@neilfreytag9166 hello neil, i read your message and was wundering: what referal point do you have to compare your own behaviour to?
This message is needed in this age... Literally saving me right now!
Jesus Christ is the Lord 🙏
Acts 2:38
One Lord, one faith, one baptism.
Love reading these comments.
Like to think: what if all boys/young men that feel this way would meet up 1 one place.
That would be some march happening then 😵
I've trying to move on from a bad breakup and I want to become a man and be proud of myself. Thank you for this video, a lot of this are clearer now.
Tise above brother. Most modern women arent worth your time. Work on your career, mental/physical health, passions,etc., Just don't be foolish enough to ever marry. Today that is quite possibly the dumbest thing any man could do in the western world.
Work on yourself and your happiness period and a decent woman will come along.
I’d add, from jujitsu as well, be as effective as you can with as little movement or energy as possible. Meaning, efficiency through calculation. This applies to our Physical, mental, and spiritual well-being.
We must endure to mature, the powers that be are afraid of the lions awakening inside of us. ROAR and continue to ROAR
Ryan, randomly came across your channel and I gotta say, I wish there were a lot more like you on social media. I’m a young adult moving into full blown man adulthood and this content really gets my brain working. Thanks and keep it up
Well this is how I held my frame. Boss man fired me, publicly. He was trying to embarrass me. Did not work. When he said your fired. I said "well alright I got some thing's I've been wanting to do. Could not of come at a better time".I Did a little reverse psychology on him and it embarrassed him. Wasn't trying to embarrass him I just wasn't going to let him do it to me.
I'm not sure if I could of handled it any better but it was the first thing that came to mind. I think that was the right way to handle it
This video is so timely for me. My whole life I was under the belief that I was maintaining my frame however that was strictly from the book of a the woman who raised me. Long story short...thank you for taking the time to break this down. Definitely grateful to have found Your page.
Ryan, you and the Order have been a fantastic resource for so many of us. Even though I have some work to do, I have leveled up on many fronts. Thank you for what you do, and thank you to the men that follow and support the movement.
Right on Patrick. Your name is Wallace like William Wallace of Scotland. May you do what it takes to live up to that name that William did not die in vain fighting for the freedom of men. Your attitude of gratitude will serve you well. 💪🏻
This was the best thing I've seen on CZcams in a long time, thanks for producing this!
Things I allways say to my lady - it's ok to feel whatever you feel like, it's not ok to act on those feelings, especially if they are considered as destructive.
Glad to find this. It reminds me of the time when my wife and daughters tried to say that I wasn’t doing or thinking correctly. I simply said ‘that would make sense if I was a woman, but I am not, no matter how much you think I should be.’
Great Gem of a Response! I will remember that. Salute to you Sir!
I’ve been in the exactly same situation 👍🏼
“Adding value to my life” is an understatement man! Love your content!
Watching your videos are crazy. The timing is nuts, you're always talking about something I'm going through or just recently went through and I have always handled it pretty much the way you said. So it's reassuring to know someone else is thinking like me.
We are all men. We all feel this. Some choose to act upon it. Others shy away from it.
Hello from a fellow man 👍
The emotion, the response.
That part my friend, added a subscriber.
Well said, and much appreciated.
Ryan Thank you for another great pod cast. I am just one of many that take away so much for what you share. Than you once again.
Anger and Ego have always come with very high price tags on them in my life personally. I Endeavor to watch them like a hawk, both of them, as it's worth it to control yourself. As one who has suffered from not doing so, I know of which I speak. Hope this is helpful to someone.
Man this is so good
Yep...know this one
Keep up the content. We're going to win this battle. Thank you!
Great message brother. Great to have this voice for men out there.
You're doing an amazing work! keep it up. Thank you for all your hard work
I am inspired by your message and have been naturally learning this recently. Thank you for the affirmation and guidance.
Thank you Ryan. Have a blessed day.
The world needs more of what you guys are doing. This concept and message is not likes by “them” I love what you are doing. Keep after it.
I really appreciated this video. I'm running a podcast called Mansplainin where we talk about events, relationships and situations from a man's perspective but I really wanted to back up and just address the men on what being a man is . You have some absolute gems to pass along.
Be Blessed
Took me years to learn what was said here, and I haven't heard it as well described here. Words of wisdom.
Great work. Solid information.
Thanks for all the help. Keep it going!
Thanks for the reminder brotha i appreciate this vid
Started a job as a framer 2 months ago, definitely clicked on this video to listen to as I'm working.
I really needed to hear this today! Thanks a lot brother!
I've listened to Order of Man a few times and while generally agreeing with the values I never really got anything out of it. But this one, wheww. I thoroughly enjoyed taking these topics and chewing on them and really teasing them out. You have a new subscriber.
New sub! Needed this content in such a challenging chapter of being a father, husband and student. These 3 hats are slowly starting to crumble me. Thanks for the great content man, my brother.
Just found your channel, definitely what I needed to hear. Appreciate the content
Assisting with the algorithm. Definitely agree with the points here. New sub.
I’m really enjoying this channel. Thank you.
Thank you for explaining this. Very helpful
Now that you mention it, I haven’t seen your channel pop up in my feed. Stay strong Ryan
Absolutely Ryan!! Love what you do!! Very much appreciated!! I definitely highly recommend your content. 💯👊🔥🎯❤🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲
Watching this on Father’s Day. Very timely. Thanks for sharing!
Excellent points! Thank you! Well outlined and delivery was clear.
Great word, brother, and Yes. Jit’s analogy makes perfect sense. OSS!
Thank you.
Just found you and your content; love what I’m hearing. Learn from giants and execute the knowledge they pass on.
Keep this up.
Thanks! I needed that!
I wouldn't worry about what big medias re doing bro. Us men that want to listen are going to listen. I've swapped from CZcams too Spotify as my main podcast platform to get away from you tube. Today is a big exception. Stay The course, seek truth, be blessed in Christ name.
This video has thought me a lot
Thanks for sharing your wisdom
I truly really really appreciate you brother.
Looking forward to hear more from you
This information ought to taught in schools. May God continualy bless in your ministry to us men
Good material, love what you’re working on! Best wishes
Yoooo, glad I found this page so many good points. Finding and keeping your frame is important as a man. Being balanced is key in reference to being emotional, angry, and applying action. This can lead to bad results. Thanks for the check up sir
This just came up as a suggested video on my feed. Never saw this guy before. Glad to see the unapologetic masculine perspective.
Thanks for rhe work you do just recently found your channel a couple months ago. Great content!
I’m new to your channel. Thank you for what you’re doing here. It is so vital that men step up to the challenges. These times call for real men to take real action and conquer the evil that is trying to prevail.
Will be sharing. Thanks buddy
This is the first notification i've seen from your channel in months. Something is definently going on from youtube.
Me too
Yep same here.
Classy African.........They're AFRAID of the INFLUENCE.
Big value for me, watching order of man, I find it very relevant for me as a man, I am very grateful for this service and I am going to be the man I am supposed to be. Ryan is a good man and I have bought and listened to his audio book Sovereignty multiple times. Big believer in Ryan, Kip ÷ Order of Man. Sincerly Jon; Ireland.
Ryan I dig your calm, rational and practical approach. Very important information that’s been actively suppressed bc of it’s foundational power and I’m glad to see it’s resurgence. Subscribed!
Man this message helped me so much today thank you!
This is so good! Especially for those who grew up without fathers
Frequent listener that just got engaged to my man. These podcasts are helping guide my partner and I in our future ahead ❤ Thank you!
Congrats on getting 200k Ryan. You deserve it!
Thank you Mr Mickler. Great Podcast, great messages.
Your podcast are really a great standard for who a man should be nowadays. I begun my journey of working on my inner self to meet these standards. Luckily I began this journey under the age of 30 and can live most of my life being the man I want to be to my family, girlfriend and people around me. I use to allow my emotions to get the best of me or my ego but I have learned that is definitely not the way to get things done. I’m ready for the new standard💯
Great message and practices to live by everyday
Michler maintaining. 100. You do provide value. Thank you for everything.
Commenting for the algorithm.
Haven’t seen any news from your channel in my newsfeed for a long time.
Will push and communicate to my friends.
Thanks for all your effort.
D.
Thank tou Ryan for this vídeo..ALL my respect and admiration from Brazil. Strenght and Honor
Great advice for women too. I’ve been listening to these types of videos to aid my marriage. Thank you.
Thank you for the video.
I am a new subscriber.
Keep up the good work!
Excellent video , Thank You for your wisdom !
You have been here 6 years I have been here 2 minutes and 30 seconds liked subscribed and commented.
Hold the line men.
Be dog soldiers, don’t break
Great information my prayers always that I respond and righteousness. Being righteous is not being passive. As you said setting that boundary and engaging or disengaging pending on the situation.
Great message!
Thank you, Be Blessed!
Highly valuable information. I wonder where id be if i had a concept of this at a younger age.
One of the most manly -lucid podcasts i have encountered !
Brilliant message. Love your work.
Great content! Thank you!
Even though I'm not a man, I really enjoy your straight talk with how to be self sufficient and independent. I think all genders should learn to harness masculinity as a force for good and a source for growth.
“all genders”.. how many are there?
Agreed, men and women both can learn the benefits of masculinity...
@@sboy1955 2. Only totalitairian states try to dismiss reality so that people have no weighpoint to compare to.
Well spoken. Wishing you health and wealth!
Needed this a week ago. Still trying to clear up the collateral damage. Long term goal!
👊 real solid advice ⚔️thank you for sharing 🙏
This video came up in my suggested videos. First time for your channel in a long time.