The Powerful Role of Men in Society Today with Nick Freitas
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- čas přidán 28. 05. 2024
- You want to be a better man than you currently are. If that wasn’t the case, you wouldn’t even be listening to this podcast. Regardless of where you are on your path and how you feel about how you show up in life as a father, husband, business owner, and/or community leader there is room left on the table for all of us to step up even more.
My guest today, Nick Freitas, shares with us some insight onto how to do just that. Today, we talk about what “bad guys” get right, why, “happy wife, happy life,” is garbage, the role of women and men in family and society, harnessing masculinity for good purposes, addressing and dealing with your insecurities, and the difference between being a “good man,” and being, “good at being a man.”
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
(00:00) Episode Intro
(00:50) Defining Masculinity and Family Role
(09:18) Navigating Relationships and Divorce Challenges
(18:38) Test of Loyalty in Marriage
(26:36) Navigating Decisions and Communication in Marriage
(32:26) Exploring the Bad Boy Archetype
(38:46) Understanding Men's Emotional Maturity
(44:25) The Roles of Men and Women
(49:58) Traditional Gender Roles and Mental Health
(53:53) Traditional Gender Roles in Marriage
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We got married at 15 and was married 35 years till he passed away. Don't regret a minute of it.
Two great Podcasters speaking about what they love, how to build up the family. Thank you gents.
I think that if you do a recount, you will find that there are many, many women that listen to your podcasts. Your respect for people and your level of common sense is why I keep coming back!
Have you caved to kittens yet?
I also enjoy your coffee cup collection.
You absolutely ser my spirit free. I was raised in horrific circumstances and was divorced after 24 years and two very sick kids while completing a masters in nursing and having a solid nursing career. I have been verbally berated by my ex through out these years to my sons. My youngest still can't cut me slack and does the same to me now.
This has been such a wonderful interview. Thank you to both of you REAL MEN. If I may, too, ask..could you ask Nick’s wife to share her story to hear the woman’s, wife and mother’s role? Thank you. 🙏🙏
Vulnerability meaning you describes for what women need is correct!
How beautiful a listen this was. Thank you!
Good interview. Consultation and conflict resolution. Centuries of experience and wisdom. Honorable men do what they can to come together and communicate the flexible fabric that serves to hold us all together and communicate the needed tools to lift society out of the murk of the swamp that would swallow all.
"One of the finest interviews I continue to watch on this channel. I sincerely appreciate all the effort and work put into delivering quality content. Your dedication and professionalism are truly admirable. Thank you!"
Thank you both for sharing, amazing conversation, glad i was able to catch this one!
I agree wholeheartedly on principle. Men need to be encouraged to do what's best for themselves, and build themselves into a man who seeks improvement and excellence for his entire life.
HOWEVER and it's a big however, what this message is putting forth, in effect, is teaching metaphorically, is the intricacies and detailed techniques of tennis, when in reality, there is and will never be, anyone interested, incentivized, motivated, encouraged, admonished, or in any way, shape or form, molded into remaining a worthy and willing partner on the other side of the net with whom to engage. In other words, tennis, two players, sexual dynamics, two players. One player being molded how to play, the other left to their own devices including whether or not to ever pick up the racket at all.
None of this advice or encouragement means anything or is worth a damn when for 99% of men, there will never be one single player who even WANTS to be on the other side based on this set of rules.
Like it or not, this is the reality, and no amount of even the best intentioned support and encouragement for males will do anything while the other half is nearly completely empowered and encouraged and indeed CELEBRATED for doing anything BUT being a willing participant in this endeavor. Study after study, poll after poll, survey after survey.... marriage aged women do not value and are not interested in any of this by and large into the 90th percentile regarding families, having kids, being wives, being part of a man's life in any way.
Summary: I agree, I feel this is a net good, and a necessary message to for all males to hear and to heed. What's missing is the harsh but inevitable reality that the other half of this dynamic in today's world are simply not going to willingly take part in this interaction. There is almost no reason for them to do so, and almost every reason for them to not engage with men who live this way. In short, you're admonishing and encouraging the one side, but given there is virtually nothing approaching the same degree of incentive for females, this is an endeavor that will simply fall far short of purported outcomes, not because it's faulty or ill-advised, but because there are two halves of humankind, and the other half is just not engaging with society on these terms anymore, and has not been for some decades.
P.S. Test my hypothesis: Get your wives on with you and put out a video titled "Are You Good At Being A Woman" and see what happens.
Yep, I agree completely. Left a similar comment a minute ago. Women can do whatever and get away with it, often cheered on by their toxic feminist girlfriends. Zero standards or accountability for women. But as a man, you're in the endless rat race to "better yourself."
As usual, "girls just wanna have fun" - it doesn't matter if she calls herself Christian or not. I've seen plenty of them "good church-going girls" on the dating apps looking for "fun" because they're bored of their husbands.
This is what I learned growing up in a christian family. Whenever there is a problem just pray. God is in control and if things happen is because he allows it. There is nothing we can do about it. The world is falling apart? Dont worry just pray because at the end of the day we’re going to die anyway.
So it doesn't matter if you pray because God's going to do what he wants anyways?
Sounds like people avoiding responsibility. Not religious in any term.
you had a weird Christian family
You have interesting profile picture 🤔
My ex never supported my mothering or my career to my kids come to find out behind my back and it clearly was destructive.
I hate to say this, but the elephant in the room is that Ryan - the guy literally busting his ass trying to be a better man and learn from other great men, like Mr. Freitas here - still ended up getting the divorce papers from his wife. Twice divorced. Same as Nick's dad who by all accounts was a great father and husband, and yet still went through TWO divorces. Sure, there's probably things these men could've done differently, but it's hard to ignore that there's another side of that coin... The side with double-X chromosomes, devoid of accountability, prone to hypergamy, and subjected to lots of cultural cancer (aka feminism), social media, and other bad influence.
Nick has every right to attribute the success of his marriage to the hard work that he and his wife have both put into it. At the same time, his marriage is a phenomenal exception to the vast majority of marriages/relationships out there, Christian or not. An exception that only proves the rule: that most couples have dysfunctional relationships that are either toxic or passionless. Nick was lucky to snag a great girl who was raised right while she was still young and before someone else ruined her.
No matter how good of a man you are, you're still rolling the dice with the woman that you choose to be with. Unless you hit the jackpot and find a good one, you'll be walking the minefield. Know the dangers and don't ignore the red flags, fellas. Peace.
I'm so sick and tired of people telling me how to "be a man." Fix your own life instead of trying to tell me what's wrong with mine
What you're doing is like going into someone else's house, sitting on their couch, then telling them to get a new one because you don't like it. You're welcome to leave anytime.
Clint,
I understand bc you might be a good/ great man in all areas of life…but we have to remember the reminders and teachers of being a REAL Man IS SO NEEDED IN THIS WORLD today..bc the role of a man/ men is being jeopardized every day.
So they both divorsed twice
she was never yours it was just your turn....never should have given them equal freedom
Great conversation guys