How Samantha Wooed Me Back
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- Samuel discusses some pivotal moments of Samantha's recovery which helped save Samuel from himself.
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Samuel is an infidelity survivor and is one of many contributors to Affair Recovery's Survivors’ Blog, www.affairrecovery.com/our-blog. He participated in Affair Recovery's courses developed by founder and infidelity expert Rick Reynolds, LCSW. After finding healing, hope, and new life, Samuel wishes to share his journey and what AffairRecovery.com has to offer with others so they too can find hope and healing.
This was so true. After the shock of finding out, I put my anger to work for me and created a plan. I enrolled into school, got a therapist, started going to church again, picked up a hobby, when I got stronger I started becoming more social. My husbands response has been awe, but I didn’t do it for him or us. I did it for me. I was selfish for once. I wasn’t going allow his choices dictate the rest of my life. I didn’t want to be bitter with or without him. I just looked at my daughter and said I won’t fail you and I won’t give you bad habits. That was enough to get me running.
KCK ROX me too.
That is so beautiful, I’m happy you were so strong for your daughter.
That's EVERYTHING! So much truth to this
Yep. Ex betrayed me, and left me for someone, and string me along for 2 more month as I wanted to fix things and work on ourselves. She did not. She thought I gonna be there and wait for her, while she having fun somewehere else. I have recognized my faults and shortcomings, went to therapy, fixed it, came back 3x stronger, new hobbies, gym, friends, travelings, foundated my own companies, got promoted, bought a new house, started to date, got back the confidence, improved my skills on every possible aspect. And 1 year later she was devastated, of course the new relationship failed, she felt stupid especially when we met again and saw the improved me, and become jellous that I am dating and not investing in her. Yep. Now she is investing heavy. 100% chasing. And wants me back. Funny. I might give in, who knows. Tables turned for sure.
That’s the only way to Get back at women is take the L let them go work on yourself and then you had your moment and I bet that felt good.
As the betrayed spouse, this video brings me to tears.
Ive watched probably 200 of your Vlogs since Dday almost 2 months ago. This video couldnt have found me at a more perfect time. Im a mother to 4 boys and 33 years old and decided 2 weeks ago that i finally have the courage to follow a lifelong dream of mine. Ive never commented on your videos before but could not resist this time. I needed this video just as much if not more than all of the other ones Ive watched. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
wow Rachael, what a joy to read that message. i'm so glad you've been watching and are a part of the community. messages like this one give me so much hope and encouragement. so thank you for being bold and sharing my friend.
Hi Rachael, I would love to connect with you to talk to someone that is going through a similar situation. I have 3 boys ages 11, 6 and 3 and live in Australia.
Samuel, thanks so much for putting yours and Samantha's marriage out there and helping us all through a very lonely and confusing time. Your video's help! #6monthssinceDday
I want to thank you from the bottom of my ❤ I know everything you said in this video but sometimes need a pep talk. I play this and I'm good! Thanks for making these videos available.
Wow...my thought process for this was that I needed to fix us first. Thank you for the eureka moment!!
you're very welcome
Thanks Samuel! 9 months ago i found out my Wife slept with a co-worker. We tried therapy but she hasnt changed. Since then I've done nothing but chase her, trying to show her what she's missing. She keeps telling me she wants to seperate, then doesn't, then does, stringing me along while lying about not speaking to the affairpartner. I decided after seeing this NO MORE! Why chase after someone who wont freely give you love back. I went online and printed my own divorce papers to fillout and file. She can sign or respect my boundaries.
What if the wayward spouse doesnt show any kind of emotions they just go on with life as if everything is just gonna go away on it's on. When in reality the relationship is broken.
it's time for expert third party help. i would encourage you to draw a line in the sand and not allow that to happen.
It’s good! I’m really liking your blogs but I don’t need to woow my wayward spouse if there is to be any woowing he needs to woow me!
well said. thank you
Exactly
Carolyn McMillan Emily-Kate Ice Skating ABSOLUTELY! !!
Yes this made me puke a little 🤮
It should be the cheater wooing the spouse back
True!! Thank you, I’m gonna do that, with Christ all things are possible! I’m tired to cry and being sleep deprived!
I too believe
"With God
All Things Are Possible"
Mine is so complex. I have no healthy support system and my D day happened when the woman that helped raise me and her husband were unhealthy. He was abusing her emotionally and I think physically. Could not talk to her as I was trying to get her to move in with us. So I put it all aside. Pushing through the gut wrenching pain and trying to protect snd care for her. Then issues with bad staff caused her to end up with emergency surgery and ICU 30 plus days and now my mom and brother died tio and I am so messed up. How do I heal so much grief and betrayal at once????
This was good
Im the betrayed spouse Im really going through it. 💔
Love shawshank redemption
Great quote
so glad Cathy. thank you. it is a fantastic quote.
Does the living include the unfaithful ? I kind of feel that if I live and that living includes him than he thinks all is good .
Praise God for transparency...there is such freedom in the Light! The Lord provides supernatural strength..His strength is made perfect in our weakness.
My husband cheated on me.and wanted a divorce.i want to try and get him back.we are still friends.but it hurts so much idk how to deal with all of this.
Thank u for these videos
I wish my now ex
Had seen these before he discarded me
:(
i'm sorry Cathy. i'm glad you're here. you have new life out there for you though. you're not done and you're life is not over. he may have discarded you but do not discard yourself.
Im a stay at home mom who lost 3 out of 4 of her kids because of this marriage. My life is already over .
it's not. you still have life and breath and purpose. your life is not over my friend. there is still hope for you and your life and your future. but it's apparent you need expert help asap. are you seeing anyone professionally? you need to asap.
Samuel have you heard of EMDR and what are your thoughts?
i talk about it all the time in my more recent videos. I love it and believe in it as well as ETT as long as the person administering it with you is an expert and understands the nuances to infidelity. big fan of it.
Samuel how long did you move out for? How long did it take until use lived together again?
we separated about three weeks in total.
This was not the first time that he have betrayed me with .He knows that I will not make it and get divorce ...not because that I love him, but because I have no choice ...Is it possible to be healed by myself using only the information from your recovery library? How can I use yours information to make my own healing’s plan ?cause I can not hire an expert and I am really suffering 💔Thanks
Ban, this course will help you heal and focus on your own recovery: www.affairrecovery.com/product/harboring-hope it's a great way to find hope and healing for your own pain as a betrayed spouse. the recovery library is great, but not as in depth or engaging as the harboring hope course. you can file for a scholarship to the harboring hope course as well if you need to.
Thank you soooo much for your Awesome videos ..now I feel better and feel like a constant hunger towards your vlogs cause it makes me feel stronger and hopeful....May God bless you.🌹
@@banbana8314 means a ton you'd say that my friend. so glad you're here. thank you
Is pornography as bad as having an affair?
depends on who you ask. some spouses think/feel it's just as bad. some think it's not that big of a deal. your spouse may be thankful it's just porn and not an affair with an actual person. your spouse may feel it's incredibly damaging to them and an affair. what is your spouse/partner saying or feeling?
If they spend more time with porn than being intimate with their partner then it might be a problem, been through this,porn addiction is real.
How did you being a Christian fell for it? How come you didnt ask God to give you strength not to fall for temptation? Make a blog about how you fell for it... for those who want to cheat again or are Christians and seem to fall through the cracks.
thanks for the suggestion. christians fall for temptation all the time, unfortunately. it's sad, but we're human and we're not invincible unfortunately. it's always our fault when we choose to sin but God's faithful to forgive and heal.