How to Master the Art of Getting Anyone to Like You | @RobertGreeneOfficial Ep. 581
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 14. 05. 2024
- Robert Greene is the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers on power and strategy. His latest book is The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature.
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What We Discuss with Robert Greene:
đš The one simple reason why Robert Greeneâs work resonates among the hip-hop communityâs most accomplished artists.
đš How seeing the world through a lens of radical realism allows you to be prepared for the worst life can throw your way.
đš What we can do to uncover a career path that aligns with what has brought us joy in the past (hopefully before working 80 jobs we hate like Robert did prior to writing his first bestseller).
đš Why we shouldnât fret if we havenât found our calling early in life - the experiences weâve had and lessons weâve learned along the way combine to give us a unique edge when we finally do find it.
đš Always stick to what makes you strange and weird. What made you a âweirdâ kid makes you an interesting adult.
đš And much moreâŠ
Who doesnât want to be more powerful? More in control? The best at what they do? Power and strategy expert Robert Greene rejoins us (make sure to check out his last appearance here) to discuss how we can meet all of these targets as outlined in his latest book, The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature - which offers a page of refined and concise wisdom for each day of the year. Each month centers around a major theme: power, seduction, persuasion, strategy, human nature, toxic people, self-control, mastery, psychology, leadership, adversity, or creativity.
Some might find digging into the Machiavellian levers of human behavior something of a dark art that should be buried away from those who would abuse its potential, but we take the other approach: this is information to which everyone should have access. It allows us to better know ourselves and explain why we behave the way we do, it gives us valuable insight into the mechanisms by which others operate, and it gives us the tools to resist manipulation by others for their own ends. Listen, learn, and enjoy!
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It's never too late to live your passion. I'm in my 60s and these are the best years of my life. Sometimes in younger years, you have to do a job in order to pay your bills. But you should never forget what really makes you happy, and keep it alive.
Thanks for this Iâm 36 and sometimes feel Iâm out of time to start all over so itâs nice to have conformation Iâm just having doubts
@@ProdbyCeeSick Everyone has doubts at some point. It's normal. The price you pay for being human and alive.
@@kelseymathias3881 word!
@@ProdbyCeeSick that thought is a very insidious thought. It has cost me much progress. You arenât too late for anything until you give up. There is ALWAYS Opportinity. Keep punching
Thatâs what I said too!
I was so tied down from 18 on with responsibilities and time for my daughter, diva mama and rock star husbandâŠ
I at times sacrificed my vision and desires for myself⊠but I did learn a lot and my daughter is going in the right direction⊠for herâŠđ„ peace & Love
I agree with him, his books are not for powerful people , they are for the disempowered who need to understand how these structures work. I have read every book and they have absolutely helped me navigate life.
Hi youtube mum since you've read every book , look forward to hearing what shined out for your path........ Good to be listening inn
Hey, you're also Subscribed to Alux! Good channel choice. Do you have any content?
A lot of people at the top read a lot of books
Top three of his books you'd recommend?
Dr Faustus lost his mind over waffles
Really appreciate Robert. Heâs like the courageous child who points out out loud that the emperor has no clothes.
I love Robert Greene. I used to be so emotionally reactive and went through way too much hurt I didnât need to. Now Iâm wiser, stronger and ironically even more empathetic. Thank you Mr. Green.
Herd mentality.I had a yard sale yesterday, and noticed that most people would stop by if there was one or more cars parked. Nobody wants to go to an empty restaurant, they prefer to get in line for the busy ones. It takes courageous people to be the first so followers can make decisions.
Park cars out front. Iâve also seen this phenomenon, and this is what I came up with.
an old coworker had his teen son + cousin drive around 'the circle'. (teen son was on learners permit, so it was perfect) it wasn't really a block, more like a circuit where you drive 1/2 mile down, turn right, go four miles, turn right for another two... and they would stop back at the yard sale like they were completely unrelated to the household, ask some version of 'do you have a computer monitor?' answer 'no the two i had got sold about 45 mins ago', jump back into the car, drive off and repeat.
I never feared aloneness
That never was an issue
The attacks for willingness to stand alone society denys that..I'm so thankful for robert greene clarifying so many things I've seen in life...
He gives reality a voice..
I wish so many teenagers could hear and read his work saves so much heartache
@@Numantino312 what it the point of telling us this Iâm genuinely confused?
@@Tollah2real am giving example of induced herd mentality to original commenter, specifically that people are more likely to buy if there are other people who are also looking->buying. or, similar to having a shill at an auction (shill = someone who is placed by seller to fake-bid so that real buyers try to outbid the faker.)
except one does such with a yard/garage sale, particularly into afternoon when things quiet down too much.
coworker's son got some behind the wheel practice time by doing the above as fake garage sale visitor to his own house.
sorry if i wasn't talking clearly; have a good weekend!
I love Robert greene - he's such a lucid rational voice. Great to listen to.
Thanks for listening!
I'll second that. I'm currently reading his art of seduction
Lucid?
â@@SIZA3was it good?
You are one of the most inspiring people I have ever met, you are as real as can be and it is hard to find words to say how much I appreciate your work. It's amazing and the book is great
This guy saved my job and I started getting liked and becoming popular. 48 laws of power saved my ass!
The more I hear Robert Greene speak the more I like him
I used to think that I was always judging people but I realized that it's not Judgement but Discernment.
my parents taught me to give everyone the benefit of a doubt. as i got older i saw how bad that advice was. people are evil. i have dealt with a couple of narcissist and learned exactly how these people work. my parents were narcissists, and i think they intentionally set me up for narcissistic abuse. i cut off my parents because I saw just how evil they were as i got older. they were covert narcissist that wore a "good" mask. good natured people need to be educated on this subject because we are surrounded by predators.
You sound like a very fearful person
What you believe becomes your reality, change to believe people are good and good people come in your life
The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree
I was abused by narcissist too. I turned my life around by detaching from them and for some, complete cut off. After that, the most important thing I did was to begin looking at the sides of me that are like them or are inviting them unconsciously into my life. I dug super deep to really look at my issues. This is a lifelong process of always looking to myself as to how am I like them or allowing their behavior bc of weakness? And I then work to rid myself of these instead of blaming others. I now say âbless them and change meâ. This has changed my life and Iâm a better person for it
@@samanthamariah7625 absolutely the best comment here. Thinking admirable thoughts about your positive attitude and how you are grateful for what you have achieved
I respect Robert for his patience.. geez amazing guy. He just continues ever so gracefully..đ
I saw what you saw
Yes this is one of his favorite interviews. Him and I go way back. Thanks for watching!
I thought that too. There's this calmness about him. He is comfortable with himself in and and outside of the world. When he speaks reminds me of a Ram Das with more earthiness or pep!
Robert gives off an air of "putting up with people". If you pay attention, he does this in every interview. Its a power move, and when you read between the lines, you'll notice he's actually really enjoying this interview style.
Yes Robert and I are friends and this is always fun.
30:00 reason
38:00 combining skills
1:03:00 attitude
1:19:00 human nature
I'm still looking for the part about how to get people to like you - the title of the video lol. It's like the one thing he didn't talk about
lol
@@SanDiegoisnice mirror them. agree with their image of themselves
@@SanDiegoisniceBasically thinking of them as great and wonderful, your vibe will match with theirs. Just make sure youâre not faking the vibe but you truly believe it
@cosmicboy7188 that's not always true. Some people don't always think they are great and wonderful and if you do they will see you as a manipulator. What you want to do is discern their opinion of themselves and mirror that. Perhaps in a good light, but a mirror non the less.
For example. Lots of beautiful women don't actually think extremely highly of themselves, they know they have faults like everyone else.
If you approach them with unearned adoration, they see you as a manipulator like all the other men. If you approach them with a mirror of their own opinion of themselves, an accurate mirror, they will see it as actual respect, like you actually see them.
I can relate to his process. I wrote my first book when I was seven. Later in life, I ended up helping old people in care homes to write their life stories and publish them on Amazon for their friends and family around the world to read. I also turned the poems I wrote for them about their lives into animations that I put up on CZcams. What I earned doing this helped me pay off my mortgage and invest in the stock market so I could buy a second property and rent out the apartment that I own mortgage-free. I also managed to write over 100 books including two novels and several poetry books by following that voice that just said to me that I had to write.
When you put your creativity into practice you get paid twice, once for the money your earn, the other for the nourishment of your soul 𧥠Good for you!
Sounds so good!
What you just shared exemplifies the mantra âabundance is on the other side of sharing your giftsâ
@@janielelewis8846 I love this! đ§Ą
What are the names of the books on Amazon?
Iâm 26 and Iâve had this scarcity mentality that has really slowed me down my entire life. Itâs really damaged my ability to get ahead in school and now Iâm a college dropout. Iâm not sure what my next move should be but Iâm glad this man exist. Thanks Robert I will be reading all your books. Just listening to you gives me more clarity
Whatever you do keep taking classes, even if it's online and only one a semester.. That way no matter what you're still progressing towards a better life.
Youâre not damaged or slowed down in any way except that you allow. Where you are is your starting point. We all have one. What happened in the past has NO bearing on your tomorrow, except what you allow. Itâs too easy to blame the past stuff (no matter how true). No one ever got ahead in anything, ever, using blame as a tool. Your tool kit includes things youâve learned FROM the past stuff. If youâve learned nothing then youâre going to see it come up again and again, until you do. I have learned all this the hard way. I share this with you so you donât have to.
@@MrsShanonBrown beautiful
Your still young, make a plan over 2 years and you will be super successful by 28!
Here's a tip: people will not ask your age, but they will use your graduation date as a proxy. Graduating later can make you look younger.
The most important thing is to graduate into a good economy for your sector. Think about whether to have a "Plan B" or to go for broke in a field where you love the work and excel naturally.
People who advise you to forget your true passion and be "practical" may be doing you a grave disservice, because if you end up having to compete with people who LOVE love what they do, you probably can't. They may be able to work 50 and 60 hour weeks, no problem. That is always a drag -- and not practical, either.
So I just came across this video. I thought it would be good as a bedtime material. Oh man. How wrong was I! So 40 minutes into it, my heart is thumping, my neurons are dancing tango and I feel that all my ideas that I've been mulling over the past weeks will burst out uncontrollably. My eyes are wide open, my mind is a sponge and I'm ready to do anything but sleep. This is some truly inspiring shit. Tomorrow is my last day of work and then holidays are coming. Suddenly I know what I'm going to be doing. Watch these guys over and over, order Green's books and take that godnamn inspiration for a spin! Honestly, the best stuff I've seen in ages. It's funny how sometimes you find exactly what you need on your journey and it does the trick. đ
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How did you go?
To the person reading this, don't let the challenges of life bring you down. You are strong and capable of overcoming any obstacle. Keep pushing forward, and good luck on your journey! đȘđŒđ
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Robert Green is a legend. He's a blessing
Greene is the hippest nerd on the planet. Hands down...
Robert Greene is the author that got me into reading. Not only is he insightful but also entertaining.
I appreciate Robert Greene's books because he researched and found proof that we all have multiple personalities and if we embrace and acknowledge that fact. Then we will be able to handle ourselves better... it kinda keeps us humble because we are no better or worse than the other person.
I absolutely love Robert Greene's books and his interviews; he's the best! GREAT SHOW, loving your show!
The best interview with Robert Greene! Every second is not boring.
As long as you are still alive, a passion can start at any age. Time is just an illusion. Do what you love.
40:50 âYour source of power in life is ACTUALLY THAT WHICH MAKES YOU WEIRD AND STRANGE. That which makes you DIFFERENT IS THAT WHICH YOU WANT TO LEAN INTO. To the degree that you know what makes you different and lean into it is where your power lies.â 40:50
What if THAT is what gets me bullied by my boss at work? I can't quit but to survive I have to hide my authentic self as a protective measure so I can survive my narcissistic boss. Til I can get away from her at least.
I've never heard of this man before but after reading a lot of books and attending different seminars over the years, I have to say, this man has managed to put into words exactly what I've been trying to understand. I do also find his voice really easy to listen to and thank goodness he doesn't use a lot of jargon and present airy fairy ideas. Buying his book today.
It's amazing that a man can write one of the greatest books of all time and still be so grounded.
I swear this book got me back to what I love. Music.
Now I just my career as my foundation to supplement and support my music.
Thanks Robert.
Thank you!!! Finally found an interview where it feels like Robert is engaged. The chemistry was great. I cracked up a few times
Anyone that says Robert Greeneâs books are evil arenât getting it.
Right.
Maybe they do get it : he exposed their game. đ
Exactly
He helps so much
People want to deny reality
He exposes it and gives hope to people bc now they understand things better
@@l.w.paradis2108 ty ty exactly
Thank you Robert Greene. You have helped transforming my life. I have really received some much! It's opened up my eyes.
Thank you Robert I appreciate the honesty you speak from.
Great advice!! Love Robertâ s book. May you live long!!!
My dad was in his late 30s when he got this book. He insisted on me reading it too. The young rebellious idealist that i was, I had many heated debates as to why this book, these rules were evil. Now that m in my late 30s, i miss my dad. I wish he was still with me to discuss and reflect on the pure gold that this book delivers. Its a weapon that i m discovering against the reality of the world and people
I have infinite respect for Robert Greene he is great author who writes to really and honestly help people without BS
And he personally helped me with his "33 Strategies Of War" which was like a punch to the gut and a harsh reality check which I needed, specifically keeping the presence of mind chapter
Which I read while being in the dark place from which I could not see the exit but after reading that chapter and learning historical examples I understood the need to take control of my mind because just panicking and feeling hopeless won't fix anything. I need to calm down and analyze situation to find solution and become the arm for people to depend on. (Of course I did not immediately shut off emotions rather just received a direction to become more resilient)
That chapter literally changed my life for the better things I dreaded became mundane.
I soo love RGreene!! đ Thank you Jordan, for having him!! I also love your other videos about becoming more charismatic - you are a role model!! đđŒđđŒđđŒ
Jordan peterson spoke over him.
You are one of the most inspiring people I have ever met, you are as real as can be and it is hard to find words to say how much I appreciate your work. It's amazing and the book is great
I know someone who didnât become wildly successful until his 70âs. Toiled all his life, doing the same thing, in the same industry, he made some changes and took a risk, sold his company for $780 million 6 years ago , he toiled there for 50 years. At points the company had negative worth. He decided to get better people by paying more then competition , significantly more , and selling more expensive and luxurious product, after a year or so the avalanche of money his company started to make, allowed him to advertise and grow like crazy. He got a private Jet and a box at Jets stadium , he is a lifelong Jets fan, thatâs not a very successful team. But he stuck with them. He made his sons and close associates millionaires . I worked for him for 20 years. He was a great boss.
My gosh, Robert seems to have got to the heart of the matter.
I watch a lot of podcast with mr. Greene and you are one of the few who really knows what your saving and not just like nodding and uhmmm yess, that's true kinda respond. Great job! This is really enjoyable to watch đđ
Best and most valuable Robert Greene interview I have watched.. The down to earth conversation style protrays has allowed me to understand him better
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@@JordanHarbingerShow Robert Greene plagiarized R.G.H. Siu's The Craft of Power.
Thank you God for Robert Greene
Thanks for the 1st law!!! Changed my life!
His books have really helped me to deal with myself and poeple around me .
Thank you for this interview. Gave me a new perspective.
I like to watch others interview Robert Green but I like Jordan's demeanor and funny remarks in this interview best.
Inkredible writer and person!
I love his books, great guy
About 53 minutes in they expound on the important art to separating this isn't good vs I'm not good. Knowing that your work can use improvement shows that you know what is good; accept that there is a good enough level, that is indicative of your current skillset. Do things as well as you can at the moment, don't slack off and don't compare to your future abilities. They explain this well.
He is speaking truth about workplace politics and majority are mean to deadliest end.
Brilliant interview, thank you!
Robert Greene.....world class thinker.
I have only discovered him in the past week and he talks so smoothly also calmly unlike me
I didn't know about this man until now. And I am more mature now. I just could have used this for years! He's right about power games.
I really love listening to Robert Greene. Kind of wish this interviewer would stop interrupting Robert. A great interview isn't about showing how clever you are, but in stepping back and letting your guest shine.
Not really. This is a conversation which is totally different. Robert comes on my show specifically for this reason. If you only want Robert, buy the book instead đ€Ą thanks for watching!
That was kinda harsh calling the lady a clown lol.
Iâm not afraid to tell it like it is.
I hear You Robbie You are great I just love You thanks for sharing your wisdom
Excellent interview. This episode single handedly turned me into a fan of Robert Greene.
I go there and back forth and I don't know how in the end of the night I always watching Robert in another interview ....
This was so good. I love Robert Green and Jordan you are a natural.
Robert Greene plagiarized R.G.H. Siu's The Craft of Power.
I am naive, too.
Great person you are, Mr. Green
I done the thinking someone into a good reputation thing all the time with reportedly bad patients at the hospital. It works. I always try to think positively of people and the meet my expectations all the time.
I absolutely love Robert Greene and his books! I appreciate his honesty, keen insight and desire to share suggestions on how to navigate both in the work world and personal life.
Thanks for watching. More with Robert in The Jordan Harbinger Show podcast feed.
Thank you for making the interview fun đ€© I like your interviewing style. Robert Green thank you for writing some of my favorite books đđŸ
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great coversation.Love Robert Green insights.
Just remember the world is a stage and everyone is an actor and the sooner you realize that what people say is typically the opposite of what they really want and that you should just figure out the role they are playing and you can win anyone who you meet over. Need to be someone you don't know, its a lot harder to change a negative opinion than to create a positive one
Do you mean this guy could possibly be a "bad actor" out to manipulate weak people with flawed personalities and weak characters so they can destroy themselves and one another?
This interview is priceless †the rider of the horse is your frontal cortex đ
This audio was sent to me from beyond
This is the second interview with Robert Greene, or already the third? Your back and forth is so much fun and warm. I love it!
Hey thank you! This is the third at least by now :)
@@JordanHarbingerShow Robert Greene plagiarized R.G.H. Siu's The Craft of Power.
The guy who changed my life. Mr. Greene
THE INTERVIEW IS STUNNING. THERES A LOT OF WISDOM IN IT, IT WILL MAKE YOU THINK AND MIRROR YOURSELF. IT INSPIRES ME TO BE BETTER NOT JUST FOR MYSELF BUT MY RELATIONSHIPS TOWARDS PEOPLE. WHAT I LOVE ABOUT IT IS ITS SO REALISTIC, INSIGHTFUL ANF IT CHANGES MY PERCEPTION IN LIFE. HIS BOOKS WILL TAUGHT YOU ABOUT LIFE, PEOPLE, ATTITUDE AND INSPIRE YOU TO BE HUMBLE. HIS VOICE IS SO GENTLE AND CALM IT DOESNT IRRITATE ME UNLIKE OTHER LECTURERS THAT SHOUT WHICH IS ANNOYĂNG.. â€â€ real quick question where can i buy his book?
I love the Cloak and Dagger reference!!!
I love Robert Greeneâs books and the message of being aware of manipulations & social surroundings and defending yourself against it. Where people are messing up is that they feel like they must be liked by everyone so will use the laws to be fake, manipulative and disingenuous.
There was a jock in high school and used to sit next to me in class and say, âTennille, youâre so hot but why do you dress like such a freak.â I would reply, âSo guys like you donât try to date me.â
Works like a charm!! đ€Ł
I like your podcasts, Jordan. Keep it coming.
Thank you! More in the podcast feed that I donât put on CZcams
Radical realism I wonder how possible it is for there to be future lockdowns for global warming
INFJ-A. Super spot on. Most comprehensive mbti guide I've found, extremely informative and well structured.
Robert is genius!All my respect for his work !
Excellent discussion!
Robert really helps me
Thanks for listening him
as a disempowered college student. I read his book and became powerful. I then used it to inspire and take care of employees. Gotcha dumb bosses
Fascinating perspectives here
I wish that I would have had this information early in life, but when the student is ready⊠Thank you, Robert and the host of this interview.
this is the guy that wrote that book! dude this book created a monster in my life - now it's my turn to read + step up but with goodness
Im in love with this man đ
I just started listening to this and Robert said "there are negative reviews?" Is hilarious!đđđ
Mr. Greene is a great observer of human behavior.
Wow I love Robert greene
Awesome!!! I just picked up a copy of the daily laws. I love his books they really help me profoundly.
Me too.
i love this guy, he is really deep
Jordan is the best interviewer. Used to listen to his previous podcast and then he launched this and its even better. He has incredible guests. He has the best banter with his guests of any interviewer. It's the right mix of casual conversation, banter, deep questioning and always moving the interview forward.
Thanks so much and welcome!
No he's not.
Here is the 5 second secret to getting anyone to like you-no joke,no trolling no b.s.
Always smile, and sincerely say hello to everyone you see.
Problem is it is exhausting to do nonstop and that is why people don't do it, especially when you discover most people will ignore you and very very few will reciprocate.
Robert Greene opens the shut and bolted.....(figuratively speaking) the inside doors and windows in the depth of the obscure...hidden seat of human internal power of the conscience. ...
Law num. 1 on the 48 saved my job. And made my boss love me.
Yall got great chemistry
so much value here... thank you
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37:30 THAT FEELING WHEN THE AUDIO RE-SINCS đ€©
Man that horse analogy is gonna stick with me. Works so well
Robert putting out that đ„đ„đ„đ„
It's very kind of you, idols. You like to help me and help people in need. Working together is beautiful
:)
Really fabulous discussion...
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I just read The 48 Laws of Power there is a Reversal section for every law he mentioned.
We read to learn but not exactly to copy what we read or apply we still have to use our own brain. By reading books make us to think, and move.