How to Overcome Self-Doubt | Mel Robbins | SUCCESS
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- Why do we let self-doubt hinder us? SUCCESS speaker, Mel Robbins, dives into her personal hardships to share her advice on how to overcome self-doubt. From enduring the closure of her husband’s business to losing their house and life-savings, Mel speaks on how she pulled herself up from hardship. Small decisions can change your life for the better and stop your self-doubt. She calls it the 5 Second Rule.
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While listening to this I was thinking about Nelson Mandela's story of when he was on a propeller plane, and one of the engines goes out, others start to panic, and even though he is aware of the danger, he continues to read his newspaper as if nothing is wrong, which has a calming effect on the rest of the passengers. After they safely land, he says to a friend, "Man, I was terrified up there!" but his actions reflected what he wanted out of life, to be a great leader.
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"If you have a problem that can be solved with action, you don't have a problem." Wow... I felt that!!!
A very powerful quote indeed
Sameee
My ADHD has stopped me from doing all the things I need to do because I’m so scattered, but when you have to move on the thought in 5 seconds you don’t have time to be scattered! It’s a miracle for me because I always used my ADHD as a crutch, a ridiculous crutch! Thank you for this!!!❤️❤️❤️
‘I’m calling bs. Almost All problems can be solved with action.
So true!!
"This is what it looks like to try. The feelings are normal; letting them stop you, is a CHOICE."
Your doubts create mountains. Your actions move them. Boom! That was great!
It was
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Yes, it was great! 😃😉
Omg... I can believe I came across this video. In 2016 a coworker told me about a self help audio. I downloaded it and listen to it all the time. I used it for a few months, then my life was going good, and forgot about it. My life is a struggle on things now. Some good some bad, ive been soul searching and trying to find SOMETHING to get me back on track. I will find the audio and restart my life agian!!.. and im hoping it will help my partner too. Wish me luck. B
She is literally the only realistic "motivational speaker"out there 😌
"when we define the dream, it's become a plan."
The way I beat self doubt is I find someone who has done whatever I want to do and realize they're no smarter than me so if they can do it I can too. That's how I bought my first motorcycle. My cousins had to drive it home from the dealership. Every morning after work I was on that thing until I figure it out. Here I was 120lbs woman trying to ride this 750 cc motorcycle. Yes l probably fell more times than I care to remember. Yes a few strangers helped me pick it up, but eventually I figured it out. Right now at nearly 60 years old I'm roller blading in the park in 90 degrees weather while listening to this. I don't look pretty but I'm having a darn good time.😉
Good job! One more thing left to do. Restore your relationship with your Father in Heaven. John 3:16, Romans 10:8-10, 2 Corinthians 5:19-21 You are greatly loved!
You are my hero
Girl, the county has classes to teach how to ride! And 750 cc is a lot for us little ladies. Another item off my bucket list. I stopped rollerblading around 45 years old when I fell and broke my coccyx. I’m like you, just a little younger, and I’m building a camper van all alone and about to launch my own business again so I can be self employed and location independent and travel with my doggy.
Way to go !!!! 👍🏻😁😁😁
"if you have a problem that can be solved with action, you don't have a problem."
Calm Grace Amazing!
I was wondering why a person with anxiety like myself does downhill biking and it doesn't scare me...I built confidence...I pushed through my fears and the self-doubt started to dissapear. So glad I discovered a passion of moving meditation. Biking is amazing to help alleviate anxiety! When there are obstacles and rough terrain and you crush it...oh wow...what a high!
This advice teaches us to be proactive. By doing what we think about, we start to feel accomplished, which builds confidence, which can lead to success.
The more you raise your self awareness the more successful you will get - you need to become your OBSERVER - like the eye in the sky
The whole premise of this video is huge! Change is within YOUR control, no one else’s. Go do it! 💕
I can’t count how many times I have counted 5 4 3 2 1 watching this video. I wanted to get up and do something but Instead I watched the video. 45 min well spent, now .... 5 4 3 2 1 .. get going and realise the dream. Great video! Thank you 🙏🏾!!!
Wow. That’s the most amazing speech I’ve ever heard I really look up to you and I’m only 11 ❤️❤️👍👍
I LOVE that you watched this and your only 11🤓💪🤗
What a sweetie you are! (I'm an expert-- ;-) being a teacher, and grandmother to 6!
I love your age, that's the level I like to teach. When my two big grandsons were 11, we invited them to your yearly overseas trip--exchanging houses. It was such fun. Now that they are big--one just finished the army here in Israel, the other is serving--in a parashooter's course now--I know I feel especially close to them because of the trips.
You English is good! I was in India 1/2 year ago and loved it--Karala. Regards from Israel.
i am 5
Service plus significance equals success ,she got blessed because she was a blessing to others!!
She is brilliant her techniques help me to go on stage for the very first time to do a stand-up comedy routine this is life-changing!!
Iam happy 4 u. GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
"if you're hiding from trying something new, the key is baby steps."
This rules kicks ass Mel! I talk about it all the time in presentations ( with attribution of course)
I love the fact that you always have practical solution for problems
This lady is so right on. So Real.
She surely one of the best speakers in the world
i love the the signs! I'm addicted to synchronicity💗 You have helped me become a better person🤗 Thank You!
I watched this video less than 24 hours ago, and it has already been a major positive help!
Truly inspirational, Mel! Wishing you continued success in all you do! Plurking (play + work = plurk) the connections and communication, spreading joy, co-creating and imbuing inspiration!
The best ever......watch, listen and change your life...Thank you Mel
Thank you for the 5 second countdown. Great reminder and a brilliant flashback. For many (most, or all) of us, counting down was programmed in childhood so this is easily relatable and retrievable from memory. Counting down to dive into a swimming pool, counting down to launch a rocket ship, counting down to get back into your seat (in classroom), counting down to start a race, etc. Counting down was a "call to action" from childhood and I am so grateful for the reminder!
Am in total awe of Mel. Thank you so much.
I needed you very much today; in the best (not to say worst) way. God Bless this message and the messenger 💝
This really helped me so much Ima start using the 5 second rule more often
I discovered this myself. when you daydream, or goto a room and forget why you went there, I count to 10 and keep moving. I've been wasting 5 seconds each time, I only needed 5 seconds
If you have a problem that can be solved with action, you actually don’t have a problem. With competency, confidence appears. It also appears when we take action. Self- doubt, procrastination, these are only habits. By counting 5-4-3-2-1 you activate the pre- frontal cortex, and you go into action. Here's the definition of self- doubt. Its the decision not to. Confidence is the decision to try. You cant control how you feel all the time but you can always choose to take action. 4 traps of self- doubt. 1) Hesitating 2)/Hiding 3) Hyper- critical and 4) Help- lessness. Hesitating. When you are not sure. Uncertainty. It starts with the willingness to try. 2) Hiding is spurred by fear. Procrastinating. Expect it to always feel like a big deal. But what can you do next day that would force you not to hide. You read a book, talk to people, you figure it out. 3) Hyper- critical. Just make a choice to push yourself every day. 4) Helplessness. Triggered by insecurity and low self- worth. You.need to talk specific. Specifically, what does it look like in the next chapter?
Yes it's simple; 5,4,3,2,1, but it works. It's a matter of forced refocusing of your mind. She's a great speaker and always worth listening to.
A 46-minute talk about a 5-second technique! LOL Actually I think it's great! I love her no-nonsense attitude.
Exactly what I thought. I was thinking it will take 5 seconds😁😂
She was funny 2.
Yep, awesome!
Yes, people need everything broken down to the least common denominator to reach their soul. We were blessed with 46 min of power-packed wisdom and encouragement.
5 second technique is my portion from now on!!!
I find Mel Robbins a good example for the fact that often by instinct you choose a career that has something to do with what your gut tells you you should be doing, even if it's not the right thing. Meaning: Practicing law was not right for her, but looking back, it makes total sense because she is not trying to help people in another way, and she can now use many of the people skills she learned over the years.
LOVE THIS! I've been doing it for the past couple months, life changing!!
Everyone that went on stage did very very wonderful that takes a tremendous amount of courage, the biggest lesson is even though you are afraid do it anyway ,courage is not the absence of fear ,if you weren’t afraid it wouldn’t be courage
I️ love this woman with all my heart
Mel you are helping me help myself. So thank you for educating me in a new way of thinking ❤️x . This is my very first discovery of experiencing you . Thanks for being here x
Mel hi I'm Joana. I would like to thank you for sharing your thoughts. I've been feeling pretty weird lately and this is the first time I had some kind of light that I think it will brighten.☀️. Cheers Joana Karasek.
There is also a good book by Dr Susan Jeffers: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.
It's said to be one of the few self-help books that actually work. I've read it a few times - messages like that don't get absorbed in one reading. I come from a negative family. If I listed to my dad, I'd never leave the house. Basically, feel nervous, but do it anyway.
I've been teaching for a couple of decades. It doesn't stop me feeling nervous as hell before the start of a new course. But I admit that to my students and they are surprised, but then they perk up because they are nervous, too. So we laugh together and then everyone relaxes.
Thank you TEDx for organising such lovely a programme.
a great talk as usual Mel Robbins. You are a master explainer :)
She did excellent on stage she’s beautiful too ,she will make it , congratulations on helping kids have a voice
OMG, im here for the first time listening to her getting inspired all and just realised today is October 6th. Happy Birthday Mel Robbins :)
This is one of the best speech. Appreciate for uploading this
You are a wonderful woman & God will continued in his power to be with you & your family both home & abroad. My new chapter is can you do me a favor to help me financially with $20k - $50k to start a small home based business. Thanks for your help & your understanding
Remained bless
I just want you to know that this video has helped me a lot today! I’m going to stop hiding and being hypercritical. Thank you love you Mel
Iam happy 4 u. GOD bless u & yr loved with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
Thank you for this it couldn't come at a better time. I've gone through all of these and was in helplessness and playing the victim when I want to move forward in my business This is great! and has helped me move into action!! THANK YOU
GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
feeling like "SH*t today myself & I am a very motivated person. Confidence is what I am looking for right now!
There are so many things that need to be done.. The assignments I get assigned at work, cleaning my room, learning new skills for my job (can't do well without them), managing my expenses. Basically everything.. From buying new clothes to getting new shoes... Everything.. And just thinking about all of this is so. Overwhelming!
I literally don't want to do anything.. I've become apathetic
I LOVE her voice,And her teaching style ,she is being extremely humble because it’s not stupid, I use it !!And I teach it to others.That 5 second rule,Is what gave me the courage the first time I did a comedy routine on stage, I said instead of being in the audience ,I’m going to be on the DAMN STAGE!!
Bravo!
I needed this today!!!
Great talk and very relatable and practical. Love it!!
extremely inspiration for me thanks so much
Wow! This is really inspiring and is in line with my current situation I wish I discovered this years ago, but now is the time. I have been contemplating on resigning from my very good job as I call it the golden handcuffs. I have been hesitating for years due to fear and the what if's of life. Thank you Mel for opening my eyes to the possibilities to move forward and following my true passion in life, and how I can give back. I have the key to these handcuffs and it's time to unlock them and get out of the trap that I have been in for years. I already feel liberated just saying these words!
Hi, i hope, you get out of the trap. How are you today about all this? (from a random stanger who just read comments, three years later...)
Thank you... This is so motivating and I needed to hear it.
Iam glad u found the video. GOD bless u with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
LOVE YOU MEL. 5 Second Rule WORKS. THANK YOU
Mel..you really inspire me...I thank God for you.I hope one day I'll be able to attend one of your conferences.
GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it♡.
Mel, I relate to what you said about the many jobs not knowing.....I am in the process of exploring the next chapter....what I know for sure is I want to be "in the arena" to help lift the emotions of others....
I got chills when the girl said she wanted to give a voice to sexually abused children. She's amazing.
"You can be a negative, frustrated, depressed, anxiety-ridden son of a gun and you can still take action..."
Gosh, that was harsh to hear, personally...
She described my mother.
GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
The trick there is, to take a HELPFUL action!
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You're worthy -
You're good -
You're supposed to succeed, again - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1
Go create your Successes -
"Success is a Journey,
Not a Destination"
-author unknown
But wise -
PS - To the Speaker - CONGRATULATIONS! 🏆
Beth Bartlett how do you feel worthy and like you matter?
Charlie Grei
Are you asking in general or how I do it?
Understand that every person on this planet has a soul, we are soul energies having a Human Experience.
Energy is eternal (Physics)
Thus we have a purpose for this life journey - (worthy)
To understand healthy and balanced "self-love", I look at myself in 2 ways - 1) the child I was at about 4 or 5 - I feel love and compassion for that child
2) my work, efforts, giving, caring for others, friends/family, my accomplishments, my spiritual side/my soul, all of these comprise my adult life journey -
The pain, and the gain -
I respect my fortitude, ethics, and integrity - I look at the challenges and my response to those - I understand my poor decisions - and I applaud my good decisions, I look towards resolving those that need work and I keep in mind I am in a human dimension, with human ego - but I know I must work toward "a Greater Version of me" - I love my value and values.
I keep Wisdom and Mature Minded a conscious point of what is right - (as opposed to Adolescent Ego Minded DRAMA)
I make an effort to realize we are not all on the same page or chapter, and I attempt to be patient with those whom are - yet to get the mature or life purpose, and I make an effort not to judge -
For this, I respect myself and have self worth and self love.
Hope this was what you were asking -
Thanks -
@@bethbartlett5692 thanks for sharing the details with us. That's beautiful ❤️😍 here I found wisdom and grace.
Mel Robbins is awesome, and so is Success Magazine.
Awesome insights...especially for my situation. Excellent work Mel. thank you. You're REAL👍🙋🏻♀️
Stunning Confidence!
Thank you!
Congratulations!
I so believe this. I’ve been trying all this motivational stuff.....and on most days, I still felt worse deep down.
How are you feeling now?
This is exactly what I needed to hear!! Perfect timing.
I loved Mels, stories and I loved how t h ey moved the mountains... It gives hope for when you doubt...Thanks!
Thank you Mel Robbins for the opportunity to go up on stage with you. You gave me the courage to change my life that day. I hope to be back on stage some day sharing with you my dream that I turned into reality. 54321.....GO!
Oh wow is that you on that stage with her ! I have seen the real passion in you that you wanna make your company bigger nationwide ! 54321 just do it
Congratulations!!!! I was wondering if we'd hear from some of the awesome individuals who went on stage. Thanks for sharing your success story!
Good job Kelliejoe!!!!!
+Lynell Holmes Good job Julie!!!
Bravo 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
That was so chock full of wisdom
What I have noticed is that you all deal with people who are young and who have many more years of life ahead of them. It's as if the senior citizens have no right to a better existence. Why should it be so? We feel pained too,and feel desperate and depressed, helpless and hopelessabout our chsllenges. And matters seem worse because there are not that many years ahead either. Couldn't someone, anyone, reach out to us? Vijaya Singh, India
I clicked on this cause of the title not knowing it was Mel... Happiness!!!!
LOL same.
This really really works! As long as you make a move on 1,seriously WORKS! Thanks Mel Robbins!!! You ROCK, WOMAN❤😅
I've been doing this for years now and I'm 67 years old.
Real message here. Thank you Mel...
I needed this message right now in my life! Awesome video! I so want to attend one of these events!!!
Hope u dont let that motivation surge fade away!
Right on .
I was struggling with uncertainty today. But I just used this rule to revise a PPT that I have been dreading to revise. I turned it in to my client. Though I know that I might have to revise it again, at least I have revised it once. It'll be easier next time. Thank you for you advice!
So inspirational ," confidence is the decision to try " I will keep trying
And easier by saying to self 5-4-3-2-1.
I am unsure, outside of being a parent, what I am doing. Unemployed now due to covid. College again at middle age. I understand her hole she was in. I understand the no confidence and full of doubt. I will try this 5 second rule.
I have a list of successes..like Mel says to think about wins ..no matter how small... I call it accomplishments list..it helps.. Remind me that I have skill and get tasks completed
True confidence comes from being present living in the moment practicing meditation can help to understand ourselves to break old thought patterns
So true! Silencing the external world and make the internal world louder :)
In a good way though
First time listening to Mel and I felt like we were kindred spirits. She understands what it is like to have self doubts because we are human and through changing some habits we can easily succeed!!❤️❌⭕️❌⭕️Thank You Mel!#MelRobbinsrocks
Mel is so great, I like her. She's so smart and funny.
"take at least one action a day" toward your goal.
Outstanding session. Thank you.
5 second rule - tell on yourself - all brilliant and it resonates so loudly!
This video is extraordinary! I enjoy videos much more than I read. Where can I find more of your material?
Meeeellllll!!!!!!! Oh my Gooooooood!!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ You are incredible!!
Mel, my take away from your talk is "The One Thing." You used "The One Thing" on every member of the audience you invited up. This is so simple and yet so profound advise. It made me realize I have to many things going on and overwhelm stops me from doing what needs to be done to move forward. I will prioritize my work and 5,4,3,2,1 take action on that one highest priority activity.
Question: What is the ONE thing you can do, that by doing it, makes everything else easy or unnecessary?
I love the concept of using 54321 not only is creating action, saying those numbers to yourself subconsciously creates change, persistence, optimism ,coexistence, & self determination. Love it! This countdown is also used in dance, music & many other things in life. Very inspiring. I will definitely be putting this practice to use in business and all I do. I wish all that come across this content be inspired to create change with themselves and master the skill of confidence in all that you do in life. Beautiful. 😁🤩😁🤩
Wish you all the best Mrs.Robbins
Mel YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!
Love this! Thanks!
confidence is not in the doing its in the being
Oh my God, this video and speaker was magnificent and very much needed. Thank you for sharing.
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I love her talks!
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if you have a problem that can solve with action you dont have a problem
Wow! I really like her! Very realistic and practical advice.
She is amazing, very clear the best video l have ever watched.
Amazing! You can beat self-doubt in 5 seconds... i just wish she could explain it in less than 5 minutes.
This is me! Ugh, I love this and I so needed to see this and Mel Robbins. Thank You!! Have this in my Watch Again list!!