How to Overcome Self-Doubt | Mel Robbins | SUCCESS
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- Why do we let self-doubt hinder us? SUCCESS speaker, Mel Robbins, dives into her personal hardships to share her advice on how to overcome self-doubt. From enduring the closure of her husband’s business to losing their house and life-savings, Mel speaks on how she pulled herself up from hardship. Small decisions can change your life for the better and stop your self-doubt. She calls it the 5 Second Rule.
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While listening to this I was thinking about Nelson Mandela's story of when he was on a propeller plane, and one of the engines goes out, others start to panic, and even though he is aware of the danger, he continues to read his newspaper as if nothing is wrong, which has a calming effect on the rest of the passengers. After they safely land, he says to a friend, "Man, I was terrified up there!" but his actions reflected what he wanted out of life, to be a great leader.
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"This is what it looks like to try. The feelings are normal; letting them stop you, is a CHOICE."
"If you have a problem that can be solved with action, you don't have a problem." Wow... I felt that!!!
A very powerful quote indeed
Sameee
My ADHD has stopped me from doing all the things I need to do because I’m so scattered, but when you have to move on the thought in 5 seconds you don’t have time to be scattered! It’s a miracle for me because I always used my ADHD as a crutch, a ridiculous crutch! Thank you for this!!!❤️❤️❤️
‘I’m calling bs. Almost All problems can be solved with action.
So true!!
Your doubts create mountains. Your actions move them. Boom! That was great!
It was
@@iconaastratta8202 ,?
Yes, it was great! 😃😉
"when we define the dream, it's become a plan."
She is literally the only realistic "motivational speaker"out there 😌
"if you have a problem that can be solved with action, you don't have a problem."
Calm Grace Amazing!
The more you raise your self awareness the more successful you will get - you need to become your OBSERVER - like the eye in the sky
Omg... I can believe I came across this video. In 2016 a coworker told me about a self help audio. I downloaded it and listen to it all the time. I used it for a few months, then my life was going good, and forgot about it. My life is a struggle on things now. Some good some bad, ive been soul searching and trying to find SOMETHING to get me back on track. I will find the audio and restart my life agian!!.. and im hoping it will help my partner too. Wish me luck. B
Service plus significance equals success ,she got blessed because she was a blessing to others!!
The whole premise of this video is huge! Change is within YOUR control, no one else’s. Go do it! 💕
This advice teaches us to be proactive. By doing what we think about, we start to feel accomplished, which builds confidence, which can lead to success.
The way I beat self doubt is I find someone who has done whatever I want to do and realize they're no smarter than me so if they can do it I can too. That's how I bought my first motorcycle. My cousins had to drive it home from the dealership. Every morning after work I was on that thing until I figure it out. Here I was 120lbs woman trying to ride this 750 cc motorcycle. Yes l probably fell more times than I care to remember. Yes a few strangers helped me pick it up, but eventually I figured it out. Right now at nearly 60 years old I'm roller blading in the park in 90 degrees weather while listening to this. I don't look pretty but I'm having a darn good time.😉
Good job! One more thing left to do. Restore your relationship with your Father in Heaven. John 3:16, Romans 10:8-10, 2 Corinthians 5:19-21 You are greatly loved!
You are my hero
Girl, the county has classes to teach how to ride! And 750 cc is a lot for us little ladies. Another item off my bucket list. I stopped rollerblading around 45 years old when I fell and broke my coccyx. I’m like you, just a little younger, and I’m building a camper van all alone and about to launch my own business again so I can be self employed and location independent and travel with my doggy.
Way to go !!!! 👍🏻😁😁😁
"if you're hiding from trying something new, the key is baby steps."
She is brilliant her techniques help me to go on stage for the very first time to do a stand-up comedy routine this is life-changing!!
Iam happy 4 u. GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
Thank you for the 5 second countdown. Great reminder and a brilliant flashback. For many (most, or all) of us, counting down was programmed in childhood so this is easily relatable and retrievable from memory. Counting down to dive into a swimming pool, counting down to launch a rocket ship, counting down to get back into your seat (in classroom), counting down to start a race, etc. Counting down was a "call to action" from childhood and I am so grateful for the reminder!
I was wondering why a person with anxiety like myself does downhill biking and it doesn't scare me...I built confidence...I pushed through my fears and the self-doubt started to dissapear. So glad I discovered a passion of moving meditation. Biking is amazing to help alleviate anxiety! When there are obstacles and rough terrain and you crush it...oh wow...what a high!
The best ever......watch, listen and change your life...Thank you Mel
If you have a problem that can be solved with action, you actually don’t have a problem. With competency, confidence appears. It also appears when we take action. Self- doubt, procrastination, these are only habits. By counting 5-4-3-2-1 you activate the pre- frontal cortex, and you go into action. Here's the definition of self- doubt. Its the decision not to. Confidence is the decision to try. You cant control how you feel all the time but you can always choose to take action. 4 traps of self- doubt. 1) Hesitating 2)/Hiding 3) Hyper- critical and 4) Help- lessness. Hesitating. When you are not sure. Uncertainty. It starts with the willingness to try. 2) Hiding is spurred by fear. Procrastinating. Expect it to always feel like a big deal. But what can you do next day that would force you not to hide. You read a book, talk to people, you figure it out. 3) Hyper- critical. Just make a choice to push yourself every day. 4) Helplessness. Triggered by insecurity and low self- worth. You.need to talk specific. Specifically, what does it look like in the next chapter?
Truly inspirational, Mel! Wishing you continued success in all you do! Plurking (play + work = plurk) the connections and communication, spreading joy, co-creating and imbuing inspiration!
Wow. That’s the most amazing speech I’ve ever heard I really look up to you and I’m only 11 ❤️❤️👍👍
I LOVE that you watched this and your only 11🤓💪🤗
What a sweetie you are! (I'm an expert-- ;-) being a teacher, and grandmother to 6!
I love your age, that's the level I like to teach. When my two big grandsons were 11, we invited them to your yearly overseas trip--exchanging houses. It was such fun. Now that they are big--one just finished the army here in Israel, the other is serving--in a parashooter's course now--I know I feel especially close to them because of the trips.
You English is good! I was in India 1/2 year ago and loved it--Karala. Regards from Israel.
i am 5
I can’t count how many times I have counted 5 4 3 2 1 watching this video. I wanted to get up and do something but Instead I watched the video. 45 min well spent, now .... 5 4 3 2 1 .. get going and realise the dream. Great video! Thank you 🙏🏾!!!
This lady is so right on. So Real.
I watched this video less than 24 hours ago, and it has already been a major positive help!
i love the the signs! I'm addicted to synchronicity💗 You have helped me become a better person🤗 Thank You!
Am in total awe of Mel. Thank you so much.
This rules kicks ass Mel! I talk about it all the time in presentations ( with attribution of course)
She surely one of the best speakers in the world
I️ love this woman with all my heart
I discovered this myself. when you daydream, or goto a room and forget why you went there, I count to 10 and keep moving. I've been wasting 5 seconds each time, I only needed 5 seconds
I love the fact that you always have practical solution for problems
Mel you are helping me help myself. So thank you for educating me in a new way of thinking ❤️x . This is my very first discovery of experiencing you . Thanks for being here x
Mel hi I'm Joana. I would like to thank you for sharing your thoughts. I've been feeling pretty weird lately and this is the first time I had some kind of light that I think it will brighten.☀️. Cheers Joana Karasek.
I got chills when the girl said she wanted to give a voice to sexually abused children. She's amazing.
I find Mel Robbins a good example for the fact that often by instinct you choose a career that has something to do with what your gut tells you you should be doing, even if it's not the right thing. Meaning: Practicing law was not right for her, but looking back, it makes total sense because she is not trying to help people in another way, and she can now use many of the people skills she learned over the years.
This is one of the best speech. Appreciate for uploading this
You are a wonderful woman & God will continued in his power to be with you & your family both home & abroad. My new chapter is can you do me a favor to help me financially with $20k - $50k to start a small home based business. Thanks for your help & your understanding
Remained bless
I needed you very much today; in the best (not to say worst) way. God Bless this message and the messenger 💝
"You can be a negative, frustrated, depressed, anxiety-ridden son of a gun and you can still take action..."
Gosh, that was harsh to hear, personally...
She described my mother.
GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
The trick there is, to take a HELPFUL action!
Cotton cady
I just want you to know that this video has helped me a lot today! I’m going to stop hiding and being hypercritical. Thank you love you Mel
Iam happy 4 u. GOD bless u & yr loved with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
Thank you TEDx for organising such lovely a programme.
LOVE THIS! I've been doing it for the past couple months, life changing!!
Thank you for this it couldn't come at a better time. I've gone through all of these and was in helplessness and playing the victim when I want to move forward in my business This is great! and has helped me move into action!! THANK YOU
GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
A 46-minute talk about a 5-second technique! LOL Actually I think it's great! I love her no-nonsense attitude.
Exactly what I thought. I was thinking it will take 5 seconds😁😂
She was funny 2.
Yep, awesome!
Yes, people need everything broken down to the least common denominator to reach their soul. We were blessed with 46 min of power-packed wisdom and encouragement.
5 second technique is my portion from now on!!!
You're worthy -
You're good -
You're supposed to succeed, again - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1
Go create your Successes -
"Success is a Journey,
Not a Destination"
-author unknown
But wise -
PS - To the Speaker - CONGRATULATIONS! 🏆
Beth Bartlett how do you feel worthy and like you matter?
Charlie Grei
Are you asking in general or how I do it?
Understand that every person on this planet has a soul, we are soul energies having a Human Experience.
Energy is eternal (Physics)
Thus we have a purpose for this life journey - (worthy)
To understand healthy and balanced "self-love", I look at myself in 2 ways - 1) the child I was at about 4 or 5 - I feel love and compassion for that child
2) my work, efforts, giving, caring for others, friends/family, my accomplishments, my spiritual side/my soul, all of these comprise my adult life journey -
The pain, and the gain -
I respect my fortitude, ethics, and integrity - I look at the challenges and my response to those - I understand my poor decisions - and I applaud my good decisions, I look towards resolving those that need work and I keep in mind I am in a human dimension, with human ego - but I know I must work toward "a Greater Version of me" - I love my value and values.
I keep Wisdom and Mature Minded a conscious point of what is right - (as opposed to Adolescent Ego Minded DRAMA)
I make an effort to realize we are not all on the same page or chapter, and I attempt to be patient with those whom are - yet to get the mature or life purpose, and I make an effort not to judge -
For this, I respect myself and have self worth and self love.
Hope this was what you were asking -
Thanks -
@@bethbartlett5692 thanks for sharing the details with us. That's beautiful ❤️😍 here I found wisdom and grace.
Yes it's simple; 5,4,3,2,1, but it works. It's a matter of forced refocusing of your mind. She's a great speaker and always worth listening to.
I clicked on this cause of the title not knowing it was Mel... Happiness!!!!
LOL same.
There is also a good book by Dr Susan Jeffers: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.
It's said to be one of the few self-help books that actually work. I've read it a few times - messages like that don't get absorbed in one reading. I come from a negative family. If I listed to my dad, I'd never leave the house. Basically, feel nervous, but do it anyway.
I've been teaching for a couple of decades. It doesn't stop me feeling nervous as hell before the start of a new course. But I admit that to my students and they are surprised, but then they perk up because they are nervous, too. So we laugh together and then everyone relaxes.
Everyone that went on stage did very very wonderful that takes a tremendous amount of courage, the biggest lesson is even though you are afraid do it anyway ,courage is not the absence of fear ,if you weren’t afraid it wouldn’t be courage
I needed this today!!!
Thank you... This is so motivating and I needed to hear it.
Iam glad u found the video. GOD bless u with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it ♡.
This really helped me so much Ima start using the 5 second rule more often
I LOVE her voice,And her teaching style ,she is being extremely humble because it’s not stupid, I use it !!And I teach it to others.That 5 second rule,Is what gave me the courage the first time I did a comedy routine on stage, I said instead of being in the audience ,I’m going to be on the DAMN STAGE!!
Bravo!
She did excellent on stage she’s beautiful too ,she will make it , congratulations on helping kids have a voice
Great talk and very relatable and practical. Love it!!
Mel Robbins is awesome, and so is Success Magazine.
LOVE YOU MEL. 5 Second Rule WORKS. THANK YOU
extremely inspiration for me thanks so much
Stunning Confidence!
Thank you!
Congratulations!
Wow! This is really inspiring and is in line with my current situation I wish I discovered this years ago, but now is the time. I have been contemplating on resigning from my very good job as I call it the golden handcuffs. I have been hesitating for years due to fear and the what if's of life. Thank you Mel for opening my eyes to the possibilities to move forward and following my true passion in life, and how I can give back. I have the key to these handcuffs and it's time to unlock them and get out of the trap that I have been in for years. I already feel liberated just saying these words!
Hi, i hope, you get out of the trap. How are you today about all this? (from a random stanger who just read comments, three years later...)
a great talk as usual Mel Robbins. You are a master explainer :)
That was so chock full of wisdom
I needed this. Thank you.
Love this! Thanks!
feeling like "SH*t today myself & I am a very motivated person. Confidence is what I am looking for right now!
Real message here. Thank you Mel...
This is exactly what I needed to hear!! Perfect timing.
Thank you Mel Robbins for the opportunity to go up on stage with you. You gave me the courage to change my life that day. I hope to be back on stage some day sharing with you my dream that I turned into reality. 54321.....GO!
Oh wow is that you on that stage with her ! I have seen the real passion in you that you wanna make your company bigger nationwide ! 54321 just do it
Congratulations!!!! I was wondering if we'd hear from some of the awesome individuals who went on stage. Thanks for sharing your success story!
Good job Kelliejoe!!!!!
+Lynell Holmes Good job Julie!!!
Bravo 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Outstanding session. Thank you.
Awesome insights...especially for my situation. Excellent work Mel. thank you. You're REAL👍🙋🏻♀️
This is great thanks
OMG, im here for the first time listening to her getting inspired all and just realised today is October 6th. Happy Birthday Mel Robbins :)
Mel, I relate to what you said about the many jobs not knowing.....I am in the process of exploring the next chapter....what I know for sure is I want to be "in the arena" to help lift the emotions of others....
Meeeellllll!!!!!!! Oh my Gooooooood!!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ You are incredible!!
I loved Mels, stories and I loved how t h ey moved the mountains... It gives hope for when you doubt...Thanks!
Mel, my take away from your talk is "The One Thing." You used "The One Thing" on every member of the audience you invited up. This is so simple and yet so profound advise. It made me realize I have to many things going on and overwhelm stops me from doing what needs to be done to move forward. I will prioritize my work and 5,4,3,2,1 take action on that one highest priority activity.
Question: What is the ONE thing you can do, that by doing it, makes everything else easy or unnecessary?
Great talk! Thanks for posting.
Mel YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!
Mel..you really inspire me...I thank God for you.I hope one day I'll be able to attend one of your conferences.
GOD bless u & yr loved 1s with great health wealth happiness wisdom & love. Then share it♡.
"take at least one action a day" toward your goal.
Thanks Barbara
if you have a problem that can solve with action you dont have a problem
What I have noticed is that you all deal with people who are young and who have many more years of life ahead of them. It's as if the senior citizens have no right to a better existence. Why should it be so? We feel pained too,and feel desperate and depressed, helpless and hopelessabout our chsllenges. And matters seem worse because there are not that many years ahead either. Couldn't someone, anyone, reach out to us? Vijaya Singh, India
There are so many things that need to be done.. The assignments I get assigned at work, cleaning my room, learning new skills for my job (can't do well without them), managing my expenses. Basically everything.. From buying new clothes to getting new shoes... Everything.. And just thinking about all of this is so. Overwhelming!
I literally don't want to do anything.. I've become apathetic
Mel is so great, I like her. She's so smart and funny.
Great talk! Thanks for sharing!
True confidence comes from being present living in the moment practicing meditation can help to understand ourselves to break old thought patterns
So true! Silencing the external world and make the internal world louder :)
In a good way though
Great advice! Thanks for sharing!
She is amazing, very clear the best video l have ever watched.
Wish you all the best Mrs.Robbins
confidence is not in the doing its in the being
I have a list of successes..like Mel says to think about wins ..no matter how small... I call it accomplishments list..it helps.. Remind me that I have skill and get tasks completed
I am unsure, outside of being a parent, what I am doing. Unemployed now due to covid. College again at middle age. I understand her hole she was in. I understand the no confidence and full of doubt. I will try this 5 second rule.
This is so good!!
Wow! I really like her! Very realistic and practical advice.
This really really works! As long as you make a move on 1,seriously WORKS! Thanks Mel Robbins!!! You ROCK, WOMAN❤😅
I've been doing this for years now and I'm 67 years old.
I so believe this. I’ve been trying all this motivational stuff.....and on most days, I still felt worse deep down.
How are you feeling now?
5 second rule - tell on yourself - all brilliant and it resonates so loudly!
Awesome. Thank you!
Notes from “How to Beat Self-Doubt in 5 Seconds”
I recommend watching the video in its entirety, but here are some notes I took.
If you want to change your life, count down 5 4 3 2 1, then do what you know you should be doing
Your Doubts Create Mountains
Your Actions Move Them
What’s your next chapter in life?
Myths About Confidence
1. Confidence is a personality trait
2. Confidence is fixed
3. Confidence starts with belief
- This is not true. The positive thoughts can sure help, but taking action is the key.
The Truth About Confidence:
- Confidence is a skill, not a trait
- Confidence is situational
- Confidence begins with action
If you have a problem.. that can be solved with action.. you don’t have a problem
The Confidence Competency Loop
Try => Succeed
Or
Survive
The more that you do something, the more that you build skill and competency. That’s where confidence comes from.
When you have a fear of failure, you start to overwatch think. This leads to you doubting yourself, and it’s a loop.
- the same is true when you’re feeling unsure, nervous, feeling like a facade, overwhelmed, fearing rejection
- These feelings are normal, but acting nervous is a choice
- You’re not a doubter, you have a habit of doubting yourself
There is only one way to break a habit loop. You have to insert a different behavior.
This is where 5 4 3 2 1 comes into play
- it activates the prefrontal cortex
In 5 seconds you can change anything, that changes everything.
New Definition of Confidence:
- Confidence: is the decision to try.
You can’t control how you feel at times, but you can always control how you act.
New Definition of Self-Doubt:
- Self-Doubt: is the decision not to.
The 4 Traps of Self-Doubt:
(make sure to check 28:00, was an amazing thing to watch)
1. Hesitating
- Triggered by uncertainty
- Waiting
- Overthinking
- Wanting your work to be perfect
The Progress Principle
Research conducted by the Harvard Business School
It set out to find what makes people feel like they had a productive day when they get home.
The answer was super simple.
Did they make progress on one thing that mattered to them?
Every morning, leverage the progress principle by writing one thing that you can do, no matter how small it is, to make progress on something that is important to. Use 5 4 3 2 1, carve out five minutes to roll that ball forward.
2. Hiding
- Avoiding people, being silent at meetings and around people you want to talk to
- Procrastinating
The key is taking baby steps towards your dream that aren’t as daunting
3. Hypercritical
- Arguing against yourself, usually caused by past failures
- “I’m never dating again, not starting up a business after a failure, etc.”
Make a decision and stick to it. You know what you should be doing. Don’t allow yourself to continue to be paralyzed.
4. Helplessness
- “Nothing ever goes my way”
- “I can’t do anything about my situation”
You need to get more specific. Be specific about your goals and how you see them playing out in the future.
Details, details, details
For a business, think employees, location, wages, etc.
You have to take your dream and form it into a plan.
BallinRich thank You ❤️❤️
Wow thank you for the notes!
Thanks for the note. 🙏👍💪
Amazing! You can beat self-doubt in 5 seconds... i just wish she could explain it in less than 5 minutes.
Congratulations Mel!