I’m Happy To Be Aromantic Asexual
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- čas přidán 15. 04. 2023
- I talk about my experience being aroace (Aromantic Asexual) and how I came to accept it. I am happy to be aroace and I will share how I became at peace with my queerness.
My instagram is: bmud.angel
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personally, I didn’t even realize I was aroace because I’ve always been a hopeless romantic and liked the genre in general growing up, so I would try and force myself to have crushes on people, and when that didn’t work, I’d just chalk it up to "I’m probably just not old enough for that yet, but it’ll happen one day pretty sure!" so I was always kind of waiting for it to happen, but then my classmates all started talking about dating and stuff, and I was like, "😨wait- we’re supposed to do that NOW?-" and after some more attempts at trying to have a real crush, I finally accepted that I was aroace!
Being aromantic and asexual : It’s something that you feel naturally 🤍🤍
When I see a person, I have no desire or romantic or sexual attraction or feelings to that person. And I feel it directly . . .
fellow aroace person here! my journey can be split into two halves: being aromantic made me feel, like you said, like i'd forever be alone because of how society puts romance on a pedestal and i constantly stressed about how all my friends would eventually get into relationships and leave me behind. my struggle with coming to terms with being ace came more from how s3x is seen as a symbol of maturity and i'd already been socially stunted enough throughout my childhood
luckily i finally realized that my desire for romance was made up in my head (when i actually stop to think about it the idea of kissing, cuddling, etc doesn't actually vibe with me and its just something society says is supposed to be appealing) and i learned that it's perfectly okay for me to be s3x-repulsed and i'm not in any way broken for feeling that way
I relate so much to what you said. One of the reasons I’ve become a little social insecure is cuz I feel left behind when friends get in relationships and I suddenly become tossed aside. Or people questioning my maturity because I’ve never rlly been in a actual relationship or been intimate.
Aroace person here! I kinda stumbled into this identity last year as I was educating myself on LGBTQ. I saw Asexual and was like wait, thats me?? I genuinely have never had a desire for a boyfriend ever to an extent that my dad and his wife called it abnormal. I said I didnt want marriage or to be the woman of anybodies home serve a man or any of that bs (theyre Christian). I remember having like 2 crushes in elementary I found them cool and aesthetically attractive tried to get close to one of them but I realized I didnt really wanna do anything with them 😂 I just wanna semi stalk u. In middle school these girls insisted I liked this guy I used to tease. He tried to approach me at a dance once and said I was looked nice I just said "I know" so he'd not ask me to dance 😭 another guy cornered me after class to say he had a question to ask me very flirty like. I decided to skip school for a week 💀 Not interested in kissing ever or sex or putting my face anywhere near some dudes junk couldnt be me. I've since embraced my label of genderqueer/nonbinary aroace and have so much custom jewelry with my flag colors including a pussy pendant with the ace colors cause I find the idea funny, I got tittie earrings with my flags on them and I wear them proudly. I honestly wanted to be part of the LGBTQ community so it wasnt a hardship for me plus I'm already black so I'm used to being marginalized so 🤷🏾♀️ Love your video and thank you for sharing your experiences. Might send this to my dad see what he say now.
I’m aroace too and I love it! Sometimes I really wish I wasn’t aromantic but at the end of the day I love who I am :) awesome video!!
Um, my aroace journey started right at the end of last year where I started questioning alot of things about myself. I kinda had all this LGBTQIA+ business going on in the background, I sat as a firm ally to all of them till I found out about the whole aroace thing, that got me thinking, turns out, apparently, the way I see love isn't the same way others saw love??? Like I grew up watching all these Nickelodeon, Disney channel shows and movies where love and crushes were all just a guarantee so I just went along with it, never questioned anything, found out I liked a couple of people during my childhood and would you believe it when I tell you those crushes weren't the same as everyone else coz *apparently* people imagine their lives with their crushes, people imagine holding hands with their crushes, imagine kissing their crushes, imagine confessing to their crushes (oh the horror) and all I was really doing was watching them and being content watching them. All the "crushes" I've ever had was me just thinking they were attractive and the most I'd ever wanted was for them to be friends with me, so imagine my surprise when that is in fact not what people want out of their crushes!
Anyways I fall under the umbrella of people labeling me as being influenced by the internet in terms of my identity but an early indication of me being aroace was when I was beginning a new Nickelodeon show and just absolutely *dreading* the introduction of romance and guess what, there was none, I was so so so so relieved you can't even imagine. That was the condensed version of my journey, thank you for all these videos, I feel very alone sometimes so thank you, genuinely from the bottom of my heart.
Bro I relate to what u said. Except in my case, as a kid seeing romance (especially reading it when I used to read books) I didn’t realize it was real? Lol. Like people talking about how it feels n stuff cuz I never felt what they felt before so I didn’t know it was an actual feeling to feel. Romance wasn’t rlly plots I cared about until I became older with a more understanding of romantic plots.
Anyways, thanks for the appreciation for my videos. I’m glad u enjoy it
@@bmudangel For me it was more like romance was pushed on me so hard from an early age that I just accepted it, doesn't mean I understood it, just never questioned it. Anyways kinda off topic but if you haven't seen this show yet I highly recommend it, it's prime aroace representation, it's called Koisenu Futari.
I haven’t heard of it but I’ll definitely check it out
Before I discovered that I'm asexual I thought people start feeling sexual attraction when they fall in love with someone💀
I've come to the realization that i am a aro ace person and i've been having trouble being fine with it with the fear of not following a life that would be acceptable to other people and so your video was a very cool and refreshing approach to that matter. So yeah, thank you.
When I was in grade 3 I thought I was bi bc I noticed that aside from having crushes on girls in my school (more on that later tho💀) I also found guys attractive. But then in grade 6 I came across the term aromantic, idek how but I remember this one specific yt Short that gave signs that you might be aromantic, and the last one was that you just connect with the term and I was like _yes that’s me!!_ especially after reflecting and realising that my “crushes” (all three of them to be exact😭) were just platonic and aesthetic.
Then I entered high school and very quickly realised I was acespec bc of how much my unhorniness contrasted the horniness of people in my school. And eventually I concluded that I was grey-ace!
The full label I go by when I’m feeling bougee (however tf you spell that) is bi-oriented arospec grey-asexual but I usually just say aroace for short.
There are days when my friends tell me about their crushes or partners and I feel like I’m missing out, but I know that one day I can be in a QPR if I want to, and until then I can interact with the honestly phenomenal online aroace community💚💜😆
It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who still has those feelings of “I’m gonna die alone” sometimes. They come and go.
Im finally realizing I'm aroace after thinking I was bi. I think that was because I was super confused about who I liked sure I had some crushes but looking back they were all superficial. We are shoved romance in our faces from the moment we turn 15 even younger than that.
Oh my god I feel the same way except I created this fake version of me at first I thought I was bi but then for over a year I thought I was a lesbian because any guy even celebrities repulse me but now that I going through some realization. I asked myself the same question over and over, "If you had a girlfriend how would you act?" And my brain was like... Uh.. we could idk watch a movie but not do anything romantic or intimate just simply watch a movie and I kept thinking that if I ever gotten a girlfriend or partner I would treat it like a friendship. I simply can't imagine myself in a relationship that way with anybody and if I have I feel weird and just gross. And I love romance but I could never be romantic towards anyone. I accepted the ace part of me very easily and I'm still having adjustment of being aro as well but I know I'm both and I'm just gonna have to get used to it eventually plus you know it makes me upset knowing that people think having a relationship is more important than a friendship...like to me that's super weird. But yeah :)
@@venus05139 yeah I almost thought I was lesbian for a second but of course I was completely wrong
@@LukeSilver-fe7iv so real😂
I also thought I was a lesbian because I experience aesthetic and platonic attraction towards women but not men. I do think I might experience alterous attraction towards women too which is confusing, especially because it's not consistent
@@alottoftea yeah I hear yah I think Im.probably still bi cause of asthetic attraction. Asthetic atta tion is annoying
AROACES RISE UP
*YES* ‼️‼️
I'm leaving a comment below because you told me I should.
Thank you lol
"You don't wanna get around it, you wanna go through it." True
Same I'm fine with being aroace now came out at the start of the year as my new year revolution I was questioning it since October and now I'm fully comfortable with saying out loud romance makes me cringe and the thought of sex/kissing makes me super uncomfortable
Good on you for being comfortable to come out. That sense of comfort with self is rlly amazing
i love being aroace too! :D
i see a lotta people who say they are sad being aroace, and like.... i understand it's hard being different from others but. i just wish more people talked about being happily aroace more often ^^
also omg i agree so much with the ace part. i do identify as completely ace right now, but i'm aware that it could change (even tho i'm a bit repulsed by the idea xD). i just know i'll always be on the acespectrum.
i'm also fully aromantic ^^
"Ew, sexuality? Thats embarassing" I'm 💀,,, kinda a mood tho
I'm aroace, it's so nice to see some positivity!
I was obsessed with trying to find the right label but I now know it doesn't really matter. My love must come from me I found. I'm arospike/asexual
Edit!: I found Im still questioning myself
I’ve never heard of arospike before! I learned smth new today
I AM ALSO AROACE:,)
love :D
Thank you for the video it made me realize that i relate to being aroace.
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Currently on the process of accepting it, your channel is super helpful ❤🙏🏾😊
i think i am aroace too...
bmud angel: aroace
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Rlly?! lol that’s funny
"Love" and also I'd love it if you made a video about how to tell if you are aromantic or acesexual.
Okay I’ll keep that in mind ! :)
I'm ace and heteroromantic so I'm doomed for life 😢 it's lonely out here, I feel so invisible cuz I pass as straight but I'm not fully straight 😩
I’ll hold hope that you find a person who syncs with you. It will be hard but whether you’re queer or not, finding the right person is always tough. Life can get lonely sometimes or a lot of the time, but if you put in the healthy amount of effort, have patience, and not lower your true to self standards and boundaries , you will find someone just right for you. It may not find the right person in this month or even next year- so first focus on living and loving life while you’re also on the passive journey to finding the right love for you.
💚🖤💜aroace💜🖤💚
im rly glad u came up on my recommends! it's so good to hear ppl from the aro/ace spectrums. ^^ im somewhere there as well but im very good at gaslighting myself to believe otherwise :p
Thanks for this!
Omg I relate to that so much! Third wheeling for live
"oh no!" I got this reaction today 😂 (Im "only" aro)
it´s cool that you changed to better 😁
Tbh i was really chill with it and loved that about me from the start bcuz sex and romance ew so yaya you cant hate yourself if you are born so slay
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i have never related to a living breathing human being more in my entire life omg
I'm aroace as well, this makes me feel valid! Tysm
i really wish i had a friend like you!!
Aw thank you !
Love ❤😁
I’m questioning asexuality and it’s really difficult to know for sure :/ (I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS I just found them while I was washing dishes and wanted to listen to a rant )
Thanks Sm :))) Glad you like them!
As uou should queen
Yeah I am greyro ace
I'm not aro-ace but i'm definitely on the ace spetrum (graysexual or demisexual) and I happen to be queer and a person of faith. Thank you for sharing your experiences and you hit the nail on the head in many areas. Particularly the parts when you mentioned other forms of relationships can exist outside of romantic or sexual. Its hard explaining that to people but you explained it beautifully.
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I've recently discovered that I'm asexual and panromantic and I still have trouble fully accepting it, mostly because I'm afraid of the stigma around asexuality I think. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and advice, I found it very encouraging 🤍
I’m glad I was able to help. It can be hard so I wish you luck on accepting yourself