Trying To Date An Aromantic Person? Let’s See If You Should
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- čas přidán 3. 03. 2024
- Trying to date an aromantic person? Watch this first because you probably need to learn some stuff about aromantics when it comes to dating. And some signs that you should stop pursuing certain kinds of aromantic people (since aromanticism is a spectrum )
-i accidentally said aromantic asexual in the beginning so ignore that. I Meant only aromantic lol -
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Something to add -- you don't have to be demironantic or greyromantic to be interested in partnerships
Allos usually need two things for a romantictic relationship -- attraction and compatibility. But what do you do if you never feel attraction, but still want the benefits of a long-term partnership?
Green-stripe aros (a.k.a. aros that never feel romantic attraction) can still pursue relationships, and just make their decisions based on compatibility rather than attraction. Some like to call themselves cupioromantic
It's a frustration of mine when people say things like "oh yeah some aros can date, like demis and greyros." Demis and greyros are valid of course, but statements like these imply that you still need some level of romantic attraction to date, which is simply untrue. Attraction =/= action
I have a suspicion that there are a lot more romance-favourable aros out there than we realize, but they think that they can't be aro because they want a partner. Or they think that simply wanting a partner makes them demi or greyro. It's a really harmful misconception, and it disappoints me how often I see other aros perpetuating it
This is a really good point!
@@bmudangel Aw thank you
Honestly this isn't just great advice for trying to date an aromatic person, it's great advice if you want to date anyone.
i'm asexual and i just wanted to watch this video to see what's it's like on the "opposite"/"inverse" side of the spectrum. this was a cool video! and pretty funny :) thanks for uploading it
Appreciate you broadening your horizons and THANKS SM
I've been in a queerplatonic marriage for almost 7 years. I'm aro, they're ace. We're constantly chasing each other's tails.
In all seriousness, though, I'm more romance-neutral and they're sex-neutral or sex-repulsed depending on how they feel. I do romantic things (when I remember that people have romantic needs), but mostly I show my love with cooking. We meet each other's needs really well, and I think the main reason we can make it work is with clear communication of our needs. Concise. Never forcing the other person to "read between the lines".
This video was really fun and funny. I love your sense of humor! Good work with the sound and picture quality, too!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us! Hopefully it will inspire those who want to be in a qpr and know it can be done ❤️
And thanks sm :)
i'm aroace and my first ever partner is SO so understanding of it. honestly, feels like i met the one! they are so kind and patient, i can't believe they're real
I love consuming aro content. I'm kind of in a weird place where I like some romantic things but not others. But also "romantic" gestures/actions don't compute as romantic to me. So my dating problems stem from the fact that my partner would feel romantic feelings towards me but I could never reciprocate and I felt guilty about it.
However, I enjoy physical affection and adult activities, which kinda makes it hard to relate to a lot of aro content since aro and ace get lumped together so often, and I don't identify a whole lot with the ace experience. But I love seeing aro focused content!
I’ll try to make more aro focused content !
That's so comforting seeing another aro person on the internet, I live in Ukraine and there are really low chances to meet someone like me, I'm really glad that I found such a cool creator!!
THANKS and Yeah meeting another aro in the wild is like meeting a unicorn lol.
Be safe ❤
@@ijustneedmyself Thank you! 💝
as an aroace i love this viodeo sm lmaoooo i love ur humor
THANKS SM ❤️ and yeah same. Especially if your an aro who love language is physical affection, a qpr would be nice
I feel this, I want this but it's too hard to explain or ask, ☹️
I feel almost the same way! I label myself as cupioromantic, because I like to be able to name and label my feelings :)
have you looked into being lithromantic? I think it would fit the description of your feelings really well!
BRO SAME
I think it's also important to remember; that just because someone is aro, doesn't mean they're not ace.
I only say this cuz I'm sure plenty of people have been like: Oh, no romance? But what if ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°).
And it's like... I mean I guess. But like, idk maybe, ask, them first? 😑 If they don't wanna answer, leave em alone with the intimate questions.
There's not some "hidden meaning", or "secret way", to suddenly unlock their affection. Like bro(gender neutral), quit it with shit. Respect people's boundaries. ✌️
I understand *romance-positive* as someone who doesn't feel comfortable doing romantic things but still likes romantic things in the media, while *romance-favorable* is someone who doesn't mind and like doing romantic things feeling romantic attraction or no attraction at all.
So, I'm aegoromantic, I'm romance-positive but romance-repulsed, I love romantic interpretations in the media, but in practice and real life it's a terrible situation.
*THEN:*
*Behavior: (romance-Repulsive < romance-Indifferent > romance-Favorable)*
*Personal taste: (romance-negative < romance-neutral > romance-positive)*
These nomenclatures can be very confusing for some people in the community if don't include just one meaning, they can't be the same things, it's confusing to add many words to just one meaning.
In the same way that there are asexual people who like porn, who into bdsm and have fetishes, but do not like/hate sex, only have sex to make their partner satisfied because they themselves are indifferent or are not sexually attracted to the people who are performing the act (generally attracted to the object or other stimulus), It makes you realize how complex people are.
I love the complexity of humans
I don't have a horror story nor success story, but i wanted to say that i love your vids and humor, i'm always watching them with a smile on my face. 💜🖤💚
Thanks so much! 🥹❤️
ive never met someone whos aro, but i was still curious so i decided to give this a watch, and as someone desperate for a relationship it was cool to see the other side of things.
I recently came out as Demi-Romantic a few months ago 😊. Love your content 🫶🏾
Thank you!! 😊
And if the possible refuses to talk of the topic and is in denial/fear of anything other than allo ... don't force it. Friend it is until/if they're ready
Watching your videos makes me feel a lot better about being aromantic after a loooooonnggg struggle with accepting my aromantism so thank you 💜🖤 💚
Thank you ! I’m glad I could help
Got any aromantic dating success or horror stories lol ?
Not really a dating story but when I was in first grade I thought I had a crush on this guy, but I didn't want him to like me back. I thought it was because my parents wouldn't like me dating in first grade. Now when I think about it, I didn't have a crush on him we were just really similar.
Yk I had to check myself multiple times in school when I thought the same thing. Thinking I liked someone but rlly it was just platonic or I just thought they were cool and I wanted to be their friend
not exactly a horror or dating but i when i was younger ppl (esp adults) would asssume weirdly romantic things abput me when i would hang out with boys as friends "omg you two are so gf and bf !!" "awww so cute kiss her on the cheek" "theyre gonna get married" like it made me genuinly so uncomfortable and i just wanted to have a close friend, a girl or boy or neither. i just hate heteronormativity lmaooo
i feel like because of these experiences, to this day, i feel less uncomfy being close friends with non men then men, i just dont want ppl to assume things 😔
Yeah that’s the worst man. I have no idea why adults do that cuz I’m an adult now but i remember that pure embarrassment of people assuming relationships. Even more embarrassing as an aro kid who just wants to have friends.
Multiple horror stories. So many unrequited feelings. Something about people who do not like me at all is very attractive to me. Im always respectful, but damn is it hard on my mental wellbeing.
Meanwhile my cupioro ass trying to figure out how to get into an alterous relationship