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Thank you for the video it made me realize that i relate to being aroace.

I've come to the realization that i am a aro ace person and i've been having trouble being fine with it with the fear of not following a life that would be acceptable to other people and so your video was a very cool and refreshing approach to that matter. So yeah, thank you.

This video is so great. And i relate to you so much. I'm in the jouney of really thinking to myself about being aroace bacause it's been a real pain to understand my relationships with people, how i feel about them truly, what i want with my life and what society wants me to persue. Honestly it kind of sucks that i now see how i neglected my feelings this whole time and have been felling so wrong and weird. But at least i feel like im getting somewhere now.

Idk if it's against my religion or not im Muslim, hi! So, i am aroace. No question in that but i don't know it's against my beliefs or not im to scared to come out because im so scared its against my beliefs so if it is i would try to "come out of it" or something or just not get married but not define as an aroace.

I used to be so confused about my sexuality. I was like am I straight and I realized I wanted nothing to do with romance with a female. Then I was like ok so I must be gay. Nope I found out I wasn’t when I didn’t want that either. Then I realized what asexual was and stopped being confused.

Hai I'm aroace and while watching this video i related a lot lol... Especially for the friends crush thing of when I'm interested in someone but not in a romantic way (i also cringe a lot while thinking of being in a relationship) I also wanted to say that im pretty young and people tell me that it's normal because I'm too young, and even tho ik that's kinda wrong i am confused, maybe one day I'll really develop a romantic or sexual attraction?

I only recently, at 58, figured out I an aroace. It’s an interesting thing about me, but knowing it doesn’t change anything for me (just a fact, like how I have no sense of direction). It’s how I’ve always been, and now I have a word for it. I have been lucky to be in a family that never pressured me into any sort of mold. I have three sisters (no brothers), two of whom had bad marriages. The other has chosen not to marry her BF of 30+ years. I have one niece and one nephew and love them very much, but didn’t babysit until they were older and more fun to be around. They are now adults and have chosen to be childfree. I’ve always been childfree by choice. I don’t really get lonely. Sometimes I will enjoy watching a relationship in a movie or on TV and think that might be nice, but then I remember how they would annoy me 99% of the time. I’ve had a couple of roommates and they got on my nerves. I’m happy on my own in my peaceful apartment that stays clean and no one eats my snacks.

Thank you for this! I’m a 58 year old woman and only recently started suspecting that I’m aromantic and asexual. Pretty sure now. I dated a bit when I was younger because I thought that was what I was supposed to do. None of my relationships lasted long because I’m just not affectionate in that way. I get annoyed and start actually disliking them. My first boyfriend was in high school. He was bi and really sweet. I didn’t like kissing because he didn’t brush his teeth and it was gross, lol. It lasted a while after graduation because he moved away for work so it was long distance. The long lovey-dovey letters he wrote made me uncomfortable and I had trouble writing back. I thought there was something wrong with me because I just didn’t feel anything like that for him. Also, I was cursed with the body of Dolly Parton and the attention from that made me deeply uncomfortable. I dated a couple more guys, who were like octopuses pawing at me, then had a breast reduction and haven’t dated anyone in almost 30 years. I’m so happy alone! I have friends and family and that’s all I want. I also used the “mom grounded me because of my grades” thing to limit our dates in high school. He was smothering me. They all smothered me. There is no one on this earth I want to spend 24 hours a day with. I’m also an introvert / loner.

This is basically the same story for me but I’m aromantic

I figured out I was asexual two years ago and thanks to the show sex education, I know what the term asexual is.

Almost every date I've been on in my lifetime I felt like I was going through the motions and not feeling much interest at all. Sometimes I'd feel trapped or stifled.

Thanks for the video! :) I consider myself arofluid (since it's kind of an evolving thing for me), but I don't know if I'm ace--I could be though. I guess in a technical sense, I'm attracted to men (demi/aegosexual, if anything), but mostly complete strangers, celebrities, etc. I've had crushes, which in retrospect were probably squishes. I thoroughly enjoy romantic fantasies and am happy when other people fall in love, but I never really wanted it for myself you know? I didn't even know I was this way until I was 40! After doing research on my feelings and experiences I discovered aromanticism and boy was I relieved to know that there are so many others like me! One day I hope to write a book about my experiences, and help represent the aro/ace community.

This just all feels soo like me haha🧡💛🤍🩵💙

Well I didn't get a bingo. But then again, I'm asexual AND straight. I think boys are cute. Just don't want to do anything about it. (And aro too.)

Only 2 minutes in and i relate to everything. Aro/ace and childfree here. Gave you a follow on ig as well. 🙏🏾❤️

Currently on the process of accepting it, your channel is super helpful ❤🙏🏾😊

Wow thank you..I relate as I'm having the same exact conflict/dialogue since childhood...it's definitely a spectrum. At least I can gain some clarity here 😊 subbed

The internet is good. I had no idea what to call this when I was young. They can't call me a robot though because I have very deep friendships. My friends are the best.

Valintimes day < besto frendo day

being bi isn't exclusive of trans and nonbonary people. many bi people are attracted to all genders. hi.

AHH ACE CONTENT YAY‼️‼️

Somehow I don't have a bingo despite being aroace and marking 13/25

im kinda freaking out bc im in a new relationship and i dont want to tell my bf that i might be ace.

You’re hilarious aso I lost ĄǍAÃAAĂ

I love your editing, it’s really funny

I think that 10/10 fisting joke is what put you in my algorithm 😂

IM STRAIGHT AAAAHHH

I am confident Issac explaining how he felt in the book shop after the kiss with james is the only reason I realized I was aroace. He will always be my favorite character 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

I've never been told these personally but I have seen a lot and been through comments online that have said that stuff 😅

Did you get a bingo ????

Hi again! :)

I'm straight again😭😭 can you make a gay bingo pls maybe I'm just afraid to be gay?! I mean I laughed hard at the fisting joke Love your videos💜💚

i genuinely laughed with you when you made that " try something new" joke lol

I occasionally wish I were alloromantic ace, when I see my partner or any of my friends experiencing really intense romantic attraction and I wish that I could relate. But at the same time, being part of the aromantic community has been so valuable to me. I've learned how important and undervalued friendship and community are, and I think my life might've been really sad if I hadn't learned those lessons I wish for it sometimes, but if actually somehow given the chance to be alloromantic, I'm not sure if I'd take it

one of the queer clubs at my college hosted a queer prom and it was the best thing in the world. it had everything that a prom should have but there was no strict dress code, no partners required, you don't have to dance, and every single person there was queer. two years ago i would've thought this was a dream. there should be more queer proms‼

💜🖤🩶🤍💚

For the part at 6:36 where you're talking about how you're not that great or attractive, so you didn't understand his attraction to you, I've found in the past that sometimes the nonchalant indifference of aroace people can itself be an attractive quality Romantic attraction can often make people nervous and awkward, especially when they're teens. Meanwhile, most people are attracted to confidence. Since (full) aroaces never feel sexual or romantic attraction, we can sometimes appear like we're really confident and have all our shit together. This, ironically for us, can bring in a lot of pursuers lol

Hi,your video help me to realize that im aroace and that I always push myself to be a person that im not.

I'm 26, and I get the comment that I will find someone, I am ace and I am replused I don't like dating, for a while I tried to date men but it felt like a chore like an obligation, almost transactional. Like I owed the men I went out with. I don't feel as stressed being single an alone around others I have to mask and put on a performance. I never tell people in real life what I am, as its always met with confusion or that I am naive like a child. That I don't know any better, which is low-key patronizing.

Estoy investigando del tema porque realmente creo que ser bisexual fue una etapa pero todo para encontrar el sentido de que en realidad siempre he sido aroace. Aun no estoy segura pero creo que es lo mas probable, y cada cosa que aprendo y descubro sobre el tema me hace sentir un poco menos perdida en el mundo. He podido encontrar sentido a pensamientos que poca gente de mi entorno tiene

I'm🖤🤍Ace🤍💜

Aroace power!! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

Something to add -- you don't have to be demironantic or greyromantic to be interested in partnerships Allos usually need two things for a romantictic relationship -- attraction and compatibility. But what do you do if you never feel attraction, but still want the benefits of a long-term partnership? Green-stripe aros (a.k.a. aros that never feel romantic attraction) can still pursue relationships, and just make their decisions based on compatibility rather than attraction. Some like to call themselves cupioromantic It's a frustration of mine when people say things like "oh yeah some aros can date, like demis and greyros." Demis and greyros are valid of course, but statements like these imply that you still need some level of romantic attraction to date, which is simply untrue. Attraction =/= action I have a suspicion that there are a lot more romance-favourable aros out there than we realize, but they think that they can't be aro because they want a partner. Or they think that simply wanting a partner makes them demi or greyro. It's a really harmful misconception, and it disappoints me how often I see other aros perpetuating it

And if the possible refuses to talk of the topic and is in denial/fear of anything other than allo ... don't force it. Friend it is until/if they're ready

I also didn't got to prom (skipped out on junior and senior) apparently the junior was a bust from what I heard but as a graduation gift my parents got me and a friend tickets to see POTO and eat out in the city. I still think back fondly on that night (since it's my favorite musical and I've seen it 4 times).

I was homeschooled so I didn’t get a chance to go to prom either 🤝

I went to 2 proms. 10th grade a guy I didn't really know in my PE class asked me to his senior prom. I was an underclassman so I didn't know anyone but I had a great time. He was a total gentleman and not in the "treating me like a useless damsel" way but actually respecting my wants. We ended up dating and he was honestly a perfect boyfriend. I broke up with him 2 years later because I'm gay. So I went to my senior prom with 2 of my friends. We went "as friends" but we had multiple sapphic threesomes before and after prom, so uh we didn't really go as friends lol. The last slow dance I had with one of my dates who I was pretty one-sided in love with and it was sort of torture. Like that whole situation. She was a fuckin mess and a bad person. Ironically I was more relaxed and had more fun at the prom I went to with my first boyfriend who I didn't even know at the time than the one I went to with a girl I had feelings for. 16 years later married with a kid I found out I'm aromantic so that tracks I guess lol. Prom with a good human and no chance of romance= good time! Prom with sticky, complicated attractions and feels?= blegh.

Such a good topic. I avoided my own school dances for a lot of these reasons. Also, could you do a video on how you got to a place of chill and acceptance regarding your aro identity? I know that myself as an aro ace and many other aros struggle with feeling bad, questioning our identities, hoping we're late bloomers when it comes to romantic and sexual attraction. Do you have any tips on how you remain proud and content in your identity instead of the comparing/feeling like we're missing out on those types of deep connections (beyond platonic) some of us might feel? What's been helping me feel better recently is changing up my fanfic reading routine somewhat to make sure i'm also reading plenty of works with aro main characters. My usual diet of romance heavy fanfic is enjoyable but demoralizing sometimes too when i think about how i can't have what i'm always reading about. Edit: other things that have been helping me include making sure my YT feed is filled with other aros, so i support and subscribe. I spend time on aro/ace subreddits and forums (aven/arocalypse) too. I'm sure another part of the problem too is that there's such little representation in media AND it can be hard to know/meet aro/ace folks in real life. So the invisibility of these identities makes it so that i forget i'm aro ace most of the time and panic and question my identity once i remember again every year or two.

Please excuse my ignorance but I often wonder how Aroaces can be Bi or Pan? Is it who you're mostly attracted to with the Aspec attractions? Platonic, emotional etc? Any help would be greatly apprecialted. Thanks. If that's the case, call me a gay Aroace 😊🏳️‍🌈

Share with us your prom experience or if you’re excited for it . Especially if you relate to this video in any way ! Also let me know any other topics you want me to talk about!!!!!