Black Female Therapist Learns Black People Don't Like Accountability
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Whenever people use the words "whiteness/blackness" I immediately roll my eyes and the person loses me.
I grew up in a pretty affluent neighborhood, and the black friends I had all went to good schools with us. And any outsider friends we saw who were black would bully the neighborhood kids for “not being black enough”. And it made me mad. They worked hard in school and achieved academic excellence, attending great colleges later on with merit scholarships. Glad they didn’t drink the racist koolaid. And we didn’t care what skin color you were-you were one of us so long as your GPA was high enough. And they were.
She talked about emotional vocabulary while her vocabulary was elementary at best. Oh the irony.
Yeah there is that.
She sounds like she is incapable of introspection. If she questioned her own self and her own takes more often she wouldn't be so abrasive and would be more respectful.
We can all imagine what sh!tstorm would ensue if the roles were reversed. Nobody would live it through, it would be biblical-scorched-earth proportions of CANCELLED!
FOH, lady: You're displaying the waterworks special effects on demand but they don't mean anything. We see the deceit in your petty "pseudo-victim" tactics....
I reckon she's talking down to the lowest common denominator.
@@benpearson49 But she said she thought men were her equals.
@@JohnJ469 I saw better emotional (or otherwise) vocabulary in channels of black shut in weeabos about manga.
And these people wonder why andrew tate is popular....
I don't call my wife "bitch." That's one element of communication that helps ...
Listening to this "therapist" lecture on vocabulary while using vulgar terms to describe women would be funny if it wasn't so damn sad.
Ikr?? I'm not a man, but I honestly think its offensive the way she talked as if any black men would use those words, that vocabulary. Like, Stereotyping much?
Her tone and language is highly unprofessional. I’d understand if she was putting on a personal rant without telling us her name and her profession. But she did, and that makes it a bad representation on her employer. It’s like wearing a company uniform when you go to a bar and proceeding to get shit-faced. Not cool.
Black girl: "Yall need therapy."
Black people: "No You."
Black girl: Great, I got fired and my former boss left me a note saying "You need therapy."
Why is she, as a woman, calling other black women "bitches?" How friggin' degrading is that?
Exactly!!!
most likely because that is the way to refer to women most commonly used by black men, so she thought she would get through to them better by using it. also, because she was being vulgar in general.
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Sometimes you just gotta call it out just as it is
Some women are just bitches
Some men are just assholes
It happens
@@bayfundy48 its also commonly used by black women so thats most likely just default vocabulary.
She's a licensed therapist? From a university? Wow, our education system deserves to be ridiculed by the rest of the world. I'm in the healthcare industry and I'm ashamed of us.
Hey, how dare you! You don't have to be able to read, write or even understand human nature anymore to Graduate. What kind of "normal thinking" person are you anyway?
idk if she really is. she sounds like the typical psych major. She also seems manipulative with teh crocodile tears. 🤷♂
Edit : omg she really is, I hadn't finished the vid. lmao.
Actually, the field of psychology is mostly a scam around the globe.
The one good idea of freud they threw away, which was not manipulating your client but helping your client explore their problems.
@@IAteYourSandwich psych major with a heavy dose of gender studies. does CRT have it's own class these days?
@@markdsm-5157 Yes. Typically at law school but CRT theory has permeated the social sciences.
She is not crying for the men or the dismantle of any families. She is crying because she is afraid for her job.
A real professional shouldn’t use “b...h” or “m...r” she should expand her vocabulary and her wardrobe and self awareness.
Therapist says more people need therapy, I am Shocked, Shocked I say.
LOL
she needs therapy
Get the bag queen lol 😂
She has already made the assessment of us. Think about how much healing we will do? hahahaha
It's like mechanics telling you , you need mre oil changes
It’s a bit hard to picture a man calling me “b**ch” being part of a loving, emotionally mature relationship. Trying to embrace that kind of demeaning language sounds more like a sign of self esteem and intimacy issues stemming from no father figure, which is the exact problem she claims to be wanting to fight.
Yeah that part I kept groaning at. Like can we not keep re-enforcing that bitch and female is acceptable terms for a woman especially one that you supposed to love.
She forgets that black women raised these men and she wonders why they are like they are.
@@marigold3687 lol black men also abandoned them. Lol they are the ones who glorified the hood culture. Blk women just had to cope
@@ottopotatum5775 Black women do the same.
If a no good, drug dealing low life down the block has 6 kids through 5 different women ... whose takes most of the blame? Him or the women opening their legs for him?
Also, most of the big name Black Women in music glorify the same over sexualized, classless hood shit that the dudes do.
@@ottopotatum5775 🧢 some of yall black females just love trusting the government it was actually cia and fbi back in the 70s 80s putting cocaine in black neighborhoods and poor ones and arresting black men on weed and Marijuana crimes that were legalized them illegal even though cigarettes are 30x worse then weed and Marijuana even though its a plant then black women got used to living and trusting off the government that means experiments and testing like crack coaine epidemic and welfare/farewell dads and child support to make the man submit to the woman or force him and suppress him to give money to her
Her professionalism was almost overwhelming 😳. I did have a hard time focusing on her message, because the delivery was so mean spirited. Her booty slap at the end was the icing on the cake
A therapist who used Tik Tok as her own therapist. What could go wrong?
I wanted to be in the psychology field, but didn't have the money to go through the years of schooling... She got her credentials and THIS is what she chose to do with it? I hear her to some degree, from my experience men need someone to listen to them and feel heard. Chastising, cursing, shaming is a sure way to shut a man down... What a waste of a degree.
Most men are like that. We have always rarely talked about certain feelings and never will. Just the way most men are naturally.
@@EMan-cu5zo You're right, and maybe this clinician's tirade was too close to home, but it's obvious she's not the right race and gender to work with men. Maybe her existing patients contacted her place of practice and her unprofessional attitude is why they fired her. Maybe they'll hire a black man to replace her...I'm betting any male clinician, black or white, would be more effective than that toxic woman.
@@BWolf00 most definitely.
@@EMan-cu5zo It's because nothing disgusts a woman more than a man showing emotion. If you EVER try to talk about your feelings with your girlfriend, she'll start shopping for a new boyfriend that very same day.
@@SergeantExtreme you are right. As a man you have to sit and listen to all their complaints constantly. Most women want nothing to do with your problems. If a man is upset or shows to much emotion then he is showing weakness.
Its interesting how she says "black men need to change because you're hurting black woman! You're hurting me!" All of a sudden "I care about black men" doesn't mean so much anymore.
Man dead in war, hillary clinton most affected
Ya...she doesn't see the fact that she's part of the problem that's hurting the black man. Both by her actions as a single mother with multiple baby daddies, and by blaming "the system" for these issues.
First off, where the hell does she get this idea that black men cannot express their emotions? I know damn well they do and are quite capable. She was spewing feminist drivel. Men; of all races, ethnicities, and nationalities, do express their emotions. The problem is simply that society doesn't care to listen. And the next problem here is she calls herself a therapist, but a psychotherapist is tasked with asking questions and listening, not telling potential patients what to do. If she lost her job, I cannot feel sympathy for her as she violated the ethical standards of psychotherapy.
I feel for her. I don't know who lied to her and told her she's intelligent, but they did her so wrong.
As a therapist, Could you imagine saying that you exclusively specialize in white people.
No problem. Just say you're a Racism Therapist.
You'd be fired
I honestly feel bad for alot of black people that they really think like that. The culture has soo many fucking flaws and is doing more harm than good.
As a guy that has been in therapy before, if my therapist talked like this I wouldn't have gone back after the first session. There is a reason men clam up, and it's how we are treated when we open up. You want men to seek help? You don't treat us like we did something wrong. You don't scold us for even thinking about it. People laugh about "safe space" but that is the reality of what it is. You want people, men and women, to open up? They have to feel safe. She, as a therapist, should be ashamed of herself.
where theres a difference between therapy and those weird safe spaces in colleges with juice boxes and shit for adults...
no shame in therapy, but there is shame if you visit a "safe space" room like those often lol
I agree. This would give me anxiety on top of my anxiety.
@@ninvusoogoar6098 she is the classic case of someone that got into mental health in order to fix herself. It didn't work and now she projects onto others.
So u should’ve asked for a man therapist. 🤷🏽♀️
@@LeekedBeats I don't understand your point
She's used to not being held accountable because generally they are not, so she was shocked.
She's a woman...when was the last time any woman was held accountable for their actions? Not only that, but she's trying to push excuses for black folks in general to not be held accountable for their actions.
Wow.. I am so sorry. As a black man i had no idea how much this woman means to me. She truly is the embodiment of Christ.
"When a group had special treatment for a long time, equal treatment fells like discrimination".
-Thomas Sowell.
I mean, when there is a WORLDWIDE movement telling you that you are perfect and ANY failure you could have is because discrimination and they silence ANY criticism that means possible common sense...well...this is what you have.
Exactly! 💯
You mad??
@@yearbyguy4470 He sounds very calm and rational. Your projection is showing, mate! : )
@@FrankLoon so you’re mad??
Lol leftist nah, right wing left wing both the same. I vote neither because neither has done anything for my kind so try again white guy or immigrant
Regardless of whether or not this lady has a point.. I would never go to a therapist who calls women "bitches". My own personal preference, though.
Right? My mouth was hanging open. If I saw my therapist calling women bitches I am out.
Therapist are people.. Only you first world citizens think of them as some kinda gods
If a male therapist was calling women "bitches" he would of been fired. Looks like she got a taste of equality.
@@m.w.6604 good point.
No one wants to go to someone for help if they get called a h o e by that person.
I think her strategy was try to imitate the way she imagines black men talk to each other, try to create a bond with the cursing, referring to women as bit**es, etc. Didn't work. See how how HER own vocabulary changed from the first to the secos video. The fact she feels she needs to worsen her vocabulary and her behavior to be considered "more bkack" is just pathetic.
She didn't seem to realize that the last thing men (black or otherwise) would do is yell at their friends about their "emotional intelligence".
I like how her apology went from "i speak from my own darkness and such from my life to
to race....like "Black everything matters"
She chose specifically to focus her practice on black men. In this case, why would she talk about a different group of patients? This is her passion and focus and she is credentialed now. And it is important for men to know, we love you but you are hot mess and you need to face it and you need help fixing it. The population she chose is an underserved segment who views professional counseling negatively and will not seek it. Clinicians like her are trained healthcare professionals and most pick specialties and sub-specialties - like a surgeon decides she wants to specialize in cardiac surgeries and not orthopedic ones. She clearly understands that - I’m retired from 31 years in healthcare, and she is doing what all of us did young - pick a specialty you have a passion for.
She don't see a man in need. She sees black. Actually when I listen to this a 2nd time, everything is about HER!
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@@annabodot962 and the worst way to get any group of people with even remotely negative views on something like therapy is to attack them the way she did it causes them to become more defensive and be even less likely to seek mental health treatment and even become combative wich they did i dont agree with the doxxing and people demanding she be fired but with the way it was blowing up online her job would have seen it and it would have probably still ended in her loss of her job
The arguments and the way she makes them make her sound like she’s not actually very good as a therapist.
Really, wow. You know I missed that entirely. Thanks so much. LOL
Yeah. She makes me feel like she would promptly start to gaslight me if I told her the words she's using to describe the way I'm feeling are inaccurate.
If you’re a therapist that creates more therapy down the track, that’s infinite money
@@kattmazi1934 I think you're on to something there.
@@SaltpeterTaffy It's not gaslighting your clients, it's "planting a seed", lol!
Just that raised more red flags than I can count.
Imagine you agree to go to therapy with the intentions to actually work on yourself…
….And you get THIS lady as your therapist/counselor 🥴🤦🏽♂️
I would just walk out the room.
"This is a waste of our time. I'm getting a different therapist."
@@carlosperalta1714 "Women are HURTING! We NEED you to heal! The greatest trauma I've experienced is from men like YOU" - Your therapist
I sincerely hope she is not counseling anyone until she gets help for herself.
I have a feeling if someone spoke down to her and cussed her out in the same way she wouldn't "just listen to the message." Why does respect only matter when it's going towards people like her but "shouldn't matter" when it's time for her to show others the same respect? Such hypocrisy.
Exactly
Everybody here is simping for this b%tch like she DIDN'T dig her own grave with loud, disrespectful misandrist BS online.
She's supposed to be HELPING men, but this is how she talks to them? This is how she thinks of them?
Then she had a nerve to blame WHITE PEOPLE bruh. Like come ON, ho, take ACCOUNTABILITY for your WORDS.
Women deserve respect because they are women. - Said all women everywhere in every age. Yea, they are not about to show YOU any respect because you don't deserve any.
Her attitude is 🤢🤮
I have had spicy counselors and friends. I had to become mature to differentiate tone, harsh or sometimes mocking, from weighty message.
This is not an endorsement.
EVERY culture and ethnicity has experienced "generational trauma", IF such a thing even exists. Every society has been enslaved at some point, abused.
I just learned this year what it meant to become an English galley slave in the hull of an Arab ship.
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I DONT GO TO HOOD DR OF ANY TYPE. THERE ARE BLACK "PROFESSIONALS TO CHOOSE" AND SHE IS NOT ONE OF THEM
Amen to that
An extra 50$ for a happy ending.
@@worstcaseofcrabsever5510 Your name checks out.
@@darksu6947 funny
Who knew that acting like a racial stereotype would backfire! It sounds like she needs to throw out a few more ‘y’all’s’ tho. Not quirky enough
Her delivery was terrible, plus she had the attitude that blk women are better than blk men. That "you need to get on our level" line was picked up on. So her tears all falling on deaf ears
I didn't realize therapists didn't like to wear bras and liked to cuss out, belittle and insult people because she feels superior cuz she got that associate degree.
She works on other people's vocabulary and hasn't taken hers out of the gutter yet. Sounds fantastic.
By "working" she means teaching them to speak in ebonics.
@@nunceccemortiferiscultu7826 the worst crime she could commit in her field.
and those lip smacks... this is a vile woman
11:27 "...people are calling my employment..."
The word she is looking for is "employer." I am not a college graduate. I find it offensive when people who have graduated college sound more ignorant than me.
@@theunkownbanana1823 and pretty soon they will have a lot if not all of the debt forgiven. I am not against it necessary but i busted my ass and lived with almost nothing for ten years to pay my debt off. If I was still in debt I have to want the debt canceled. Not setting a good example for the future of people. This lady is a nut. Black this and black that. It’s annoying when the color of some people skin is apparently how they define themselves.
Cussing and looking down, being arrogant: smiles and laughter
Crying and being sorrowful of the situation because she’s losing her job
She never really cared about Mental Health in the first place then. She got real apologetic when money got involved. We all know she over-reached and is paying for it.
Now if only more women were able to take accountability and own up to their own mistakes, we wouldn't be here waiting on her admitting she messed up....
Don't hold your breath, people: I know I am not waiting for her to own up but I fully expect she'll double down and make it her whole struggle.
I just hope we didn't create an eternal victim golem that feeds on self-pity and UberEats. They hurt my braincells the most! : )
The thing is in the initial video she came across like she was blaming men and accusing them of not improving their "emotional vocabulary". And she was framing it in a way of how it effects herself and women rather than how it effects men, like the only reason she wanted men to get therapy was for women's benefit.
She talks about how it started with an article about how men are lonelier than ever but instead of approaching it with empathy she approached it in a way to entirely blame men for it. She doesn't even acknowledge how women might play a role, about how the internet and dating apps have skewed the playing field in such a way that most men are pretty much ignored in the dating game. If an article was written about how women are lonelier than ever she would probably say it's because of sexism and that men need to improve to help women. So no matter what it's men's responsibility.
Also much of the reason men don't open up is because they get made fun of or seen as weak if they express any emotions to women or to other men for that matter. Emotional men are seen as a joke. The expectation is for men to be badass and emotionally stoic yet she blames men for that expectation that society places on them. She would probably laugh in his face if her boyfriend cried. So she shouldn't blame men for being afraid to emotionally open up to her. Part of therapy is mutual respect so even opening up to a therapist can be scary because they want the therapist to take them seriously and men don't think they'll be taken seriously if they cry or get emotional in any way other than anger.
This fear of men showing strong VULNERABLE emotion is, I believe, rooted in being protective figures in so much of human history, not so much about the 'PaTrIaRCHy' oppressing women. But with men being hard enough to keep fighting prey during hunter gatherer times without stooping to emotional breakdown, being determined in fighting neighboring peoples growing in power during the rise of civilizations, it's biological in men to have certain physical strengths that can give them somewhat pretty rigid role of 'protectors' in many societies, which can ultimately lead to this mentality to not cry so as to not 'loose strength'
No one that arrogant and condescending is struggling nor feeling oppressed or unsafe.
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> Be a black person
> God smiled upon you and changed your past
> Your ancestor have not been enslaved
> And had not been delivered to America
> You're 4
> You have no clothes because it's expensive and not that necessary
> You cover yourself in dirt and dust
> So that flies won't bite you
> You're 8
> You have 5 younger siblings
> 3 of them died
> Water is a commodity
> You don't go to school
> You help around the house and herd your only cow
> You're 12
> Armed people arrive to your village on a pickup truck
> You're taken from your family "to fight for your people"
This
vs
Whatever you're whining about
Girl, no one is taking that BS apology seriously. You're out there faking tears because you don't know how to be professional. Everything has to be a "call out" or an "expose" or a "hot take". This is what happens when you grow up on social media and don't know what being on a real job entails.
It's not an apology. "I apologise to individuals if YOU FELT THAT my language was colourful". She's not saying sorry for her language or how she made anyone feel . She's saying sorry because someone else felt a certain way, therefore putting it on them. My therapist told me this. You take accountability for your actions, not blaming someone else packaged as an apology. She went to class in the back of the school, because as a therapist, she should be enforcing that.
and she uses the victim card multiple times and trys to link whats happening with her to blm and trying to make it out like all of society looks at black people as not human she is very much projecting alot of her personal crap i mean dont get me wrong i respect that she wants to help people but you dont do that by talking down to people
I am pleading for her to get help. I need her to heal. I am pleading because I care.
Her rant sounded more like an emotional response to her man not communicating with her, rather than her being a professional clinician wanting to help people.
She was rude and extremely unprofessional. Even if you take her job out of it, she has no business talking to people like that. Those men could have been her future clients; who wants a therapist that belittles you for having issues? You can be direct and watch your mouth. No one wants to be helped by someone that talks to them like they're small. Forget her
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she is unprofessionnal here I agree. Yet I find the hate being unjustified. That woman is sincere and doing her best , that is more than most. And she's right, the delivery might not be perfect, but she's right. I don't like seing well meaning , caring and sincere people being piled on. I'm sorry for her.
@@backintimealwyn5736 You feel bad for someone that thinks that the best way to encourage men to get help is to make fun of them for unaliving themselves for not not going to therapy, call their partner bitches, call the men themselves bitches, and smack her ass on camera? You think she's the most deserving of simpathy and not the clients and future clients she mad fun of for not getting help? That's the kind of therapist you want?
@@wut.3907 Yes I do . She did not invalidate them. This cancelation is as stupid and unfair as all the other cancelations. She was right, she did not make fun of them, you can argue about the delivery, but she's one of the few that is actually sincere even if she was clumsy. She told the truth , I stand by people who tell the truth. It's really sad. Yes these young boys, black or white ( I work mostly with white boys) have huge difficulties opening up and naming their emotions, yes they compensate with agression towards others and themeselves, yes they need to help themeselves , yes , they are dying, yes they do need to solve their trauma and they need to be able to name what happened. And yes I feel bad for any well meaning personn who gets doxed, piled on , fired , by these freaking mobs.
@@backintimealwyn5736 oh so you talk exactly like she does? Ok ok ok. I never want help from someone like you. You're probably just as rude in your sessions and that big black clown
Take a shot every time she smacks her lips
And every time she says "bitch" and "shit".
LeBroniqua is so professional
I couldn't even make it through the whole video when she was doing that. Whenever you hear a black woman smack her lips it's a warning sign to how big her ego is going to be.
take a shot everytime you see those croc tears
Take a shot everytl time she tries to use her cleavage and bralessness to make her point.
She's a therapist talking about emotional abuse while being abusive?
I was called toxic by my ex, but I didn't team up with my mother to cause my father to kill himself. Regardless, I have learned that someone who calls someone toxic is actually the toxic one. Men, this woman is NOT on your side.
Girl… sounds like you need therapy ☕️👀
For a therapist trying to teach people about communication, she really doesn't pay attention to her own tone
Nah nah hun, regardless of "how you said it", what you said very clearly broke every code of ethics out there. That's why you got fired.
"this bitch", and "ruh ruh" is the most unprofessional thing i've ever heard from a 'therapist'...
They always act like they were emancipated yesterday 😂😂😂😂
They all act like slaves, but the government and every corporation props them up like kings and queens.
Victim mentality at it's finest.
TLDR: Person with a personality disorder is stereotypically attracted to psychology as an occupation, then attempts to use that to control people. Then said person gets called out and responds with disingenuous feaux-pology and tears. When that doesn't stop the wheels from turning, it is back to insults and lashing out. At least there was a visual distraction in the first video. The rest of her was insufferable.
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Her fake hair draped over her arm?
If she had been dressed as a professional and had talked like a professional, and had been non aggressive, she might have convinced a few men to seek out therapy. But I personally would not want to be in the same room as that woman. There was no since of compassion in her message.
My therapist is on Instagram for her business. Yes here and there she posts something I don’t 100% agree with, but it’s never been anything crazy or out of line or unprofessional that would make me lose respect for her or not want to work with her
"People have called into question my blackness." Wtf does that even mean? It's crazy how suddenly your race, a characteristic you cannot control, becomes something about which you and others can debate as soon as you have an opinion that another black person doesn't like.
How is this even possible? This is a concept that I can't get my head around, unless this is just more of the same racist crap black people say to each other all the time.
Listen, even her BS explanation is awash with her “Blackness”. Why is she doing all of that lip smacking? My entire Black family hates that. They call it “attitude”. It’s something you do when you ain’t tryna hear what people are saying to you and that’s how you end up with yo Black granny whooping your ass and on punishment. In all fairness, her being let go was punishment, which is in-line with “Blackness”. I can hear every matriarch in my family saying, “Oh, you want to act out? You’re staying home. Everybody else is going out to have fun.” Employment is a privilege. She spit on it.
Also, how the heck did she get to Black men dying from her inability to be professional about Black men being supposedly lonely? And, I like how she admits she MAY have been projecting while coming at men sideways for lashing out… like she was doing in those first few vids. She doesn’t want them to be seen or heard. SHE wants to be seen and heard as she shits on them. No part of anything she was saying in those initial videos seemed encouraging or empowering. It was gaslighting at its finest.
you had me dying laughing at “i can hear every matriarch in my family…”
The lip smackin was so annoying. Grew up in the PJs in NY. That shit was a call back to a time when I was trying to get out the hood.
I actually like the first style. Some people don’t need “encouraging and empowering.” They need someone to chip at their stone skin and find the weak spot to get a message through. Based on the comments, it seems like I’m the minority.
You don't understand, her job is to "plant seeds" in the hearts of black men who should be her slaves and "water" the indoctrination until it blossoms into a beautiful mental slavery flower.
lol!
And she's not the only therapist who thinks their job is to mentally enslave their clients.
Psychology schools teach darvo, love bombing, negging as therapy tools.
@@redking36 that’s “tough love” you’re talking about. I don’t think you’re in the minority with that. I can get behind that. However, there’s a difference between chipping at someone and demolishing them. You’re talking hand chisel and hammer. She jumped in a piece of heavy machinery after throwing a stick of dynamite. That’s why there were so many men in hysterics. Her job is meant to remodel a room at a time. That’s kind of a therapy plan-if you get rid of too many supports at once, everything will just crash in on itself. But she came in like a wrecking ball and left them on that metaphorical curb without suitable shelter. That’s a blatant disregard for well-being.
Gee, isn’t she the spitting image of professionalism? No wonder people find much better outlets for dealing with problems than talking to weirdos like this.
I though professionalism was white supremacy or some such nonsense. I do think her message would likely have gone over better with less cursing, even if it was equally informal or simply AAVE.
I prefer my alcohol addiction as my solution.
@@dragonhitman1071 Swallow the pain and let it fester as a mental illness that will eventually manifest as cancer.
Honestly I think she was trying to speak how the men she is trying to reach speak. She was trying to get their attention. Mission accomplished I guess. She just wasn’t ready to handle the fall out. Did she go about it right is wrong? I don’t know.
By the way, I doubt she speaks like this in a professional setting. If she did she would have been let go a long before this.
Can she please wear a damn bra, a full shirt and some decent pants? All that flopping about is distracting and ain't no one whether gay, straight, bisexual, male or female hearing a word she is saying with all of that going on whether they are aroused, uncomfortable or just disgusted by what they see.
The confidence they have lecturing people on problems they don’t experience is crazy
She expands their emotional vocabulary by telling them that 'bitches can pay for their own stuff' and 'If a Bitch is telling you...' ? Yeah I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship with any guy who had therapy with her... Also, can we stop saying cussing = passion? I don't mind if people use curse words, but cussing does not always mean someone's speech is edgy or passionate etc. sometimes it can make the speech feel unintelligent or tacky.
A lot of crying but zero tears. They always say "we need to have this conversation". It seems like that is the only conversation they ever have. They literally cannot speak about anything without bringing race into every conversation and idea. Sad.
It's always "we need to have this conversation" but it's always about treating the symptoms of a problem and never about the root cause. Also, calling for "conversation" and then shutting down any and all conflicting opinion isn't "conversation"
Censorship is not a fucking conversation, calling the black people who speak up about their problems slurs and race traitors isn't a conversation, and claiming opposing opinions as racism isn't conversation either. When these jackasses are mature enough to drop these childish name calling antics then maybe we can have it, but until then I'm ignoring them and slapping them with names myself.
So much fake crying thinking it was going to save her job. She's a psychopath.
@@dylancross1039 it's also always about themselves as well.
Yeah I can’t stand people that can’t speak without talking about race. It’s annoying 🤡🤣
Is in a job that needs a non-judgemental approach to create an emotionally safe environment.
Judges men.
New vid, fake cries for 10 mins with half assed backpedaling.
Give up on that and proceeds to fully attack men.
Honestly, makes me wonder if women should be dealing with men's mental health.
They shouldn't.
Women honestly don't understand us, but pretend they do. It's pure female arrogance.
They don't know the half of the problems we face on a regular basis.
I don't have to wonder. What I wonder about is anyone who would have to wonder about this. LOL
Some of us understand men, we just don’t make clout social media videos bragging about it lol. Makes me want to go into this field, but I fear I am too empathetic and would just end up crying with my clients :(
@@dustenekoes28 I want to reply and explain my whole story, but don't want to rant. My thought though, is that whatever is right or wrong, I think we're still in the stone ages when it comes to mental health.
And I'm sorry, I know a lot of people say that older generations weren't tougher, but mental health just manifested differently years ago, but I genuinely think that we're missing components from a couple of generations ago.
Maybe it was something blatant, like the introduction of television during our development, or maybe it was something more subtle, but I genuinely believe that in our pursuit of one specific academic practice for understanding mental health, we've lost other things on the way.
And you may understand men, but what about the clockwork mechanisms that run our minds. Do you really, really understand men, when so many men don't understand men? I'm a man and I don't have a clue. The more I think and feel about, trying to make sense of my own mind, the worse I've gotten over the years. In a world where everyone constantly tells you how to think and feel, I'm only left more confused than before.
Aaand, I ranted... Sorry.
@@reelement8032 nah, it’s all good bro. I’ve lived in a house of boys my whole life, and while I cannot attest to the inner thought processes of anyone, as I believe since we all are unique we all have different ways of viewing and experiencing the world, I do feel as though I understand how men think and emotionally deal with things in general.
There’s no one correct way for anybody to process or feel things, there’s just better ways that have a positive outcome as opposed to some ways that lead to destruction. For men, the positive ways might be different compared than for women, but they’re just as important in my opinion :)
That first video reeked of toxic feminism trying to pass itself as a mental therapist. Nothing works better then cussing, condescension, and arrogance to get people to open themselves to you. The doxxing part is never cool, but I can't blame the people questioning her knowledge and professionalism when it comes to a topic as serious as this. I'm not saying she has to be in a full suit, but some modest workplace appropriate clothing would've gone a long way as well as maintaining a chill vibe instead of letting your "passion" run wild. I wasn't sure if I was supposed to seek therapy or a dommy camgirl to humiliate me while teasing me with her body, especially with that random booty slap at the end.
This girl is a walking embodiment of bitterness, trauma and manipulation all rolled into one!
You see her, run the other way!
She's a villain and victim ...the type of modern woman you can't win! The type that calls aggression "passion", the moment you call them out.
AVOID THESE TYPE OF WOMEN!
She doesn’t sound very intelligent, that’s just me. “You have to understand my message is clear” evidently not sis. And how does 4% of clinicians being AA affect us negatively exactly? 🤦🏿♀️ she’s off her rocker.
I suppose she's operating under the assumption that psychiatric or psychological counsel can only be provided in a race-segregated environment, thereby discounting the value of perspectives from outside of the subcultures in which people exist throughout their lives...
Aside from her "passionate" unprofessional "delivery", she says she's filling a "need" because since 13% of the US population is AA and AA clinicians only represent 4% of all clinicians...implying non-AA clinicians are unable to treat AA mental health patients. It's this quota perspective that demands race be represented "equally" in all aspects and every facet of life. Maybe there is a need for more AA clinicians, but based on her words and opinion, aren't AA professional athletes over represented...so should this be addressed? People call for criminal justice and prison reform based on this principle, so shouldn't the positive over-representations be addressed "equally"? I find this perspective a "little" racist.
I think it was very clear. Men can benefit from therapy. Also (whether you agree or not) a lot of black people feel they relate better to a black practitioner which is why black therapists usually have black clientele
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Nothing wrong with Black people wanting a Black therapist.
However if A White person said what she said it would be considered Racist.
If it weren't for double standards the Woke Cultists would've have Any Standards AT all!!
Lady, no one cost you your job... YOU cost you your job. How you act outside of work is as important as how you act at work. Go act like a fool at the unemployment office.
You tell men how to act, while acting abrasive yourself. "Therapist", heal thyself.
Men generally don't show emotion to women because of two things... #1 - An emotional man is a turn off to most women and #2 - A man who tells a woman his feelings and fears is a fool. A woman will squirrel that info away and use it against him in a future argument. Show a woman a sore spot and she will touch it whenever she starts losing a debate.
Well f***’n said!
Filthy frank: out of touch moment
The way she said it is literally the reason we don’t show our emotion.
Slow clap and standing.
Damn right, her victim mentality crap didn't help her
Oh please. Every time we do open up, manipulative women weaponize our emotions and feelings against us if they aren't invalidated by the same.
9:40 "...the generational trauma that has been inflicted on you since we our arrival in this country." What a complete crock. This woman would have her clients believe they are still enslaved and only she, who tells us many times, to the point of nausea, that she has dedicated 'her life! (sniff, sniff), can help them.
When did it become common place to refer to women as BITCHES.......? How utterly disrespectful ...
Well, rap often likes to do that.
A little respect and dignity (for yourself and others) goes a long way in feeling positive and improving mental health.
This shit really irks me.
Men don't always have misunderstood emotions nor are we always toxic. We, in general, have different emotions and a more stoic outlook. And there's NOTHING wrong with that.
The fact that women make up 75% of all graduating psychology degrees means the field is quickly skewing its bias towards validating women's emotions as the norm while demonizing male's emotions as an aberration. This doesn't mean that they can't be neutral, simply that the probability increases since humans are fallible and prone to in-group preferences.
So why would I go to a therapist when they could very likely give me the modern gender-swapped version of a hysteria diagnosis?
I'll just stick with what works for me: keeping to myself.
So say we all.
you could just go to a male therapist?
Talk that talk, for years an ex of mine had me thinking I was an emotionless robot for years I felt terrible tht I wasn't like her only when I left her did I realize there's nothing wrong with me I can express myself I can communicate I just don't do it in the way she does
Men already getting treated like we have hysteria when we realize therapy is a fucking scam. Men don't need that shit, men going back down to boys need not to be abused for emotionally expressing themselves. FULL STOP. No gaslightning, to backhands, to having weapons pulled on them.
Same
Also, why isn’t he in the millions.
He is a fantastic CZcamsr.
And his wisdom is spot on.
My last therapist was Very Abrasive, and I Hated it! But you know what ~ her abrasive words and style still make me think when my mind is getting dark...It is her voice saying the words that I very much at the time disliked that have stopped my mind from getting even darker and going places that I MySelf cannot stop... She didn't use this kind of language, but maybe there are some that need to hear this woman's style. Now my fairly new therapist is the exact opposite ~ she's pretty calm and I believe really sensitive and her style makes me think because I feel bad and guilty for "wanting" to go to certain places...I cannot handle the thoughts that I could possibly damage her somehow, and possibly deeply. So like the saying goes " Different Strokes, For Different Folks".
Clinicians are supposed to be professional. Her actions were those of someone trying to drum up an entirely different clientele. I've never seen a mental health professional, medical professional or anyone else in that general field trying to make a point with their body flopping about while wearing maybe three pieces of loose, short clothing and slapping herself on the ass. She may have a passion for her work but taking her seriously is difficult. Then she shows here true nature in her last tirade.
Actions have consequences and now she's unemployed.
There is a 100% chance that, she thinks professionalism is part of white oppression.
You are soooo right 👍
Imagine if a male psychologist talked about women like that. I do agree that more men need to work on their mental health (especially when working with it has been seen as feminine for so long), but talking down to them is NOT the way to get them into therapy. If she wasn't a psychologist I'd even find this amusing, but given her position, it's just sad.
Here I am a straight woman...I think? And I had trouble listening to her, waiting for that outfit to fall off.....what did she say? 😂
Her apology either dismissed her behavior as spicy or ‘blackness’ not to be called into question. We really need to move away from this ‘blackness’ and ‘whiteness’ dookie. Lacking the ability to regulate emotions and speak kindly about emotional intelligence/trauma as a therapist or adult is about human development not race.
I feel like people need to just stay off of social media. Social media is the downfall of MANY peoples.
Stop blaming social media, you sound like a boomer blaming video games for violence.
True
There's good out of it an then theirs lots of bad out of it. We just keep making things that can just backfire worse an worse
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If my therapist had been like that, I wouldn't have booked a second session.
Wow.
"I'm pleading for you to seek help because women are hurting. We need you to do better."
And with that, she has just shown that she has the worst possible motivation. Essentially, she wants to control others because it's inconveniencing her and people in her group and it certainly must be a problem solved by blaming others, especially viewed as group identity.
You could not get a better picture of narcissism masquerading as care.
Despicable.
She didn't sound sincere in the first video, sounded less sincere in the second video and then her true colors shone through.
If you point out strangers’ problems in such an arrogant, shit talking manner as if they’re your bro when they’re not, WITAF did you expect the result to be? That talk wasn’t “spicy” it was stanky 🤭
P.S. The irony is, if she had made that follow up appeal FIRST, her attempt would’ve landed a whole lot more of the RIGHT attention, and possibly might’ve kept her job,too. That very facade she’s criticizing black men having out of concern for what others think, it was revealed she had her own. Her 2nd approach (where she clearly spoke from her heart) should’ve been her 1st, she’s apparently got her own mask, maybe she oughtta work on her own before calling others’ out?
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I agree, but as toxic as people are today you have to by ready for it.
I don't think the second was her speaking from her heart . That was her damage control voice. I think that first and last part is who she really is. And her not being in a field of improving mental health? Can only be a good thing for people. She seems like a person who would only do more damage, not less.
It’s tiktok that’s how shit gets traction, she really had good intentions but paved her own personal hell road.
@@halo2d "she really had good intentions"
Good intentions of what? Being an ass? Inflating her own ego by pretending shes "mAKinG a DiFfErEnCe"? Because that's all she accomplished.
@@la_eight3439 Oh please, it is though, they were more than "just words". You can't disparage your patients/clients and talk about them publicly while acting like you're helping. Thats a big ethical red flag as a shrink and not to mention the worst approach to make anybody change lmao. Not to mention therapists are supposed to lead to your OWN CONCLUSIONS, not tell you what to do or think. Therapists, doctors, and any person in any profession have been losing their jobs over stuff like this (doing something that reflects poorly on your workplace) for forever its just that social media makes people do the most and then you try to become a social media figure but involve your actual profession into it. Which can be done but you have to really be careful about your social media presence because you represent whatever place employs you and if it involves something like medicine/mental health then you have to be squeaky clean. The world isn't your little social media bubble where you can say and do whatever you want. Thats not how it works. And shouldn't. BUT everybody is entitled to their opinion so peace and love to all!!!! ! ! deuces.
Glad you have on the pink hat!! Love your take on everything!!
She went from apology to crusade then straight into lecture mode to advocacy to victim mode, I didn't even feel her shifting gears, so smooth, then when the tears don't work, out came the threats...girl got all the skills needed here in 2022, if it was the 80's she'd have been a televangelist, sheesh!
Vulgar and condescending is no way to get your message out. I'll never support doxxing of any kind, and messaging someone's workplace to try to get them fired is just trashy. However, I also think anyone employing a corporate therapist or counselor deserves to know about and consider how the attitude displayed in the first clip influences her usefulness on the job, especially when the employer is not legally allowed observation of her job performance. The second clip is transparent, inauthentic groveling of course, as demonstrated by the third clip.
Not that I agree with her point on the whole anyway. There are some men who do have stuff they need therapy for, and there is a minority of men for whom the feminine strategies of dealing with emotions (the only strategies many modern therapists are taught) will work. But that's not most men, and the problem is not a lack of men going to therapy.
The main problem is people like her either pretending the masculine strategies don't exist, or denigrating and shaming them. The problem is labeling everything good and useful about men "toxic masculinity", treating feminine parenting and care as superior, demanding men adopt feminine patterns of behavior, and then being shocked when men become dysfunctional. The problem is a lack of fathers and male role models (in large part through concerted efforts to diminish or disappear them in the public mind) leaving boys to develop stunted and dysfunctional versions of those masculine strategies.
She got thru to you & many others.
To me, that is the definition of success.
Our society is not working w men acting like they’re only macho; boys cry too. Quit acting stupid & nobody will gossip about you for stunting it’s a simple bloody concept be goddam genuine
Of course doxxing is shitty. But if someone uses their job to get famous on social media, their employer might be interested in their approach.
If you're a cook, talking about spitting in the food of customers, it's okay to ask your employer about it, as it might have a direct influence at the workplace.
@@rebel4466 Exactly. Don't dox her to the world or demand the employer fire her, but just making the employer aware and letting them make their own decision without pressure is entirely appropriate. In fact, as you note, there is a moral obligation to do so in some cases (I would say this is one).
@@2okaycola how is this successful?
Her acting = Black Amber Heard
I'm really glad you are out there!
If this lady can't even keep her own house in order, how is she supposed to help people get their lives together?
I always thought the "No Snitching" being an unwritten rule is so bizarre, specifically within my neighborhood. A while ago a serial killer (a Black Man) was killing Black women, everyone saw and heard what was happening but they never told the police . The American Black Culture is effed up.
Yeah that sh%t never made sense to me.
Blk people would rather continue to be victimized than "snitch" as long as the perp is blk (oh believe me, they'll call the cops IMMEDIATELY on a white) than call the cops, like its some holy code of honor.
It's the "us vs them" mentality they have with race. They'd rather let scumbags walk all over them than call the cops because the cops MIGHY not look exactly like them, but the perp does, so he's preferable.
Wtf kinda sense does THAT make?
I never understood that as well. A gang member will kill somebody in front of twenty people yet nobody saw anything? I don’t want people who fail to do their ethical duties and complain that the police don’t investigate. The person could be locked up almost always immediately but nobody wants to tell. You can’t let a bunch of idiot criminals run your town. There are way more good than bad people out there and we have the numbers to take back our neighborhood, cities and state.
That's why when something happens in the hood I don't worry about it nor care since they never wanna make a difference and solve the actual problem.
I feel for you 😞
Shit that was like one of the neighborhoods I used to live in when I was a kid. But it was a mixed neighborhood anyways there was this house behind ours (we literally had no backyard) who had a couple where the guy was a woman beater (another problem with the neighborhood was majority of the houses were girlfriend/woman beaters where only like one or few houses had boyfriend/husband) anyways the women who was being beaten by her I think husband or boyfriend convinced us (me. my two big half-brothers, mom and dad) to call the police which we did like idiots in hindsight. The thing that made us stopped caring if her ass got beaten was that all the times we called the police, she ended up fixing herself and lying about how there was nothing going on which makes it worse because we've been getting dirty looks because we called the police. So, whenever the lying bitch wanted us to call the police we ended up turning off everything in our house and pretend we're not home.
she might have some valid points but who's going to go to a therapist who can't control her own emotions?
that's unprofessional
Amen
If I wanted to live with a woman, I would. I LIKE that men don't talk about how they "feel" every minute of the day. I talk for an hour, crying, and he says, "Tell her to f off." The end. LOVE it!
A place to start: be respectful. She didn't start there. Had that been her starting point, she may have had a different outcome.
Who is this "they" that she's speaking about? Listening to her, I would want to believe that she's actually talking about herself and her disdain for us as black men.
When a man talks harsh to a woman, the man is vilified for not speaking kinder.
When a woman talks harsh to a man, if the man complains, the woman will shame the man for being a "kitty".
Rules for thee, but not for me.
Dude I love how up front you are. Do your thing, I will continue to watch you.
I think she needs therapy. Her colorful language is who she really is. Fake apology.
If she can't "articulate" her "passionate emotions" then she shouldn't have said anything until she could.
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"emotional vocabulary"
I still can't get over how nauseatingly quickly women churn out platitudes like that.
And those same types of folk don't even practice what they preach
HEY HEY HEY!!!…. Men do that too specifically feminist men
I agree with you and I am a woman. Also beta boys talk like that as well.
Anyone who reeks of soy does that
@@yoruemiya9196 those arent men, those are gumps
You are the fricken best Leon!! Love and respect from Texas!!
People have no life tracking her down to get her fired.
I agree. Though she is problematic. She's a bit unhinged and obsessed with race so much it's hard to take her serious as a pro. But that's up to her clients to deal with. Not randos online. Unless maybe she was breaking the law. Then I don't think that's an issue or wrong. But I don't see that here.
You play dumb games-you win dumb prizes. She is a therapist and a professional. There is a right way and a wrong way to do everything. She chose the "wrong way" and chose it multiple times!
Honestly as butthurt as she was with the amount of ranting she did I wonder if eshe eve was one. I know therapists are only human but damn I just wanted to say shut up and stop ranting, her point was made
Is that the goal? Make your point and lose your job, your credibility, and possibly her future to ever work as a "therapist" again?! Just to make a point that not everyone necessarily agrees with?! Again-no problem in making your point-but use some common sense in how you make your point! THAT is the lesson! The right way as opposed to the wrong way!
Professional?
I am trying to be nice, Bruh! LOL
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Seriously, I'm getting really tired of hearing black women say we need healing. If anything, we need discipline.
Amen! Say that part louder for the people in the cheap seats!!!
and if anything sisters need that therapy... this is why i date white women, no cap at all...
Who would have thought that the Hood Therapist would get fired.
Once you start to tie your personhood and your life choices to your race, you’ve already regressed.
Wtf, that’s some real privileged bullshit. First off, a good therapist is at least $160/hour. Secondly, psychotherapy is and always has been geared towards how females process emotions.
I’ve worked in the mental health field for 20 years and there has been exactly ZERO progress in terms of acknowledging the unique ways that men suffer or any attempts to cater mental health therapy to how males experience and process emotions. In fact, in the 20 years I’ve been in the field, it has only become more hostile and less accessible to men (esp if you are straight/white).
Makes sense that an entitled woman would claim that women have worked so hard to develop emotional intelligence. Fact is that women always tend to have better emotional intelligence than men and are more comfortable expressing and experiencing emotions. In fact, people who transition from male to female w the help of hormone therapy report that they became more able to express emotions and started to enjoy them, whereas females transitioning to male and taking testosterone report the opposite.
Holy crap, who knew, some of these things are biologically mediated. It’s like telling women to hurry and catch up with men in terms of upper body strength and stoicism. Like wth, females? I’m tired of opening these pickle jars. And I want an emotionally stable woman who can be “my rock” when my emotions gets too crazy. Catch up women, jeeze. It’s easy. Y’all just ain’t trying hard enough.
Brilliant comment.
Because they're never held accountable and always get told what a good job they did just for throwing away the trash. It's fucking pathetic how easy they have it.
Couldn’t be said better
lolol. "I'm tired if opening these pickle jars".
Brilliant! very well said.
Damn if that wasn't poetic. Well said, well said indeed.
She's likely an "aide" who assists an actual clinician.
She's to powerful for her own good, she needs to chill out and study more how to control her passion 🙂
Sadly, these days she could easily have a leftist doctorate.
@@glendabreece9767 Not sure whether it's passion or poison.
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She really needs a reality check and counseling herself. As pointed out by other sources, there was a larger percentage of two parent Black families before the civil rights movement in the 1960s.